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The 5 Social Media Posts Parents Should Avoid

October 7th, 2016 - By MommyNoire Editor
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In the age of social media posts, many of us are sharing the daily occurrences in our lives online in some capacity. Whether we are tweeting, facebooking or instagramming, these are all great ways to stay connected with family and friends. But if we’re not careful, we can venture into over-sharing and creating a digital footprint we’re none too proud of. While some people are very private and limit their social media activity to the occasional benign post, there are some who view social media as a personal diary where they go to document every thought and dramatic twist of their lives. Not only can over-sharing annoy our friends and followers, it can also embarrass our kids and jeopardize our livelihood. When it comes to social media habits, we should lead by example for our children. Here are 5 posts you may want to try and avoid when using social media.

5 Social Media Posts Parents Should Avoid

#YouGoodMan: Kid Cudi’s Depression Admission Encourages Black Men On Twitter To Discuss Their Mental Health

October 6th, 2016 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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We told you yesterday that rapper Kid Cudi revealed to his fans that he was entering treatment to take care of his mental health. As he put it in the letter he posted on Facebook, “Yesterday I checked myself into rehab for depression and suicidal urges. I am not at peace,” he said. “I haven’t been since you’ve known me. If I didn’t come here, I wouldve done something to myself. I simply am a damaged human swimming in a pool of emotions everyday of my life. Theres a ragin violent storm inside of my heart at all times. Idk what peace feels like.”

Cudi stated that he felt “ashamed” as a leader to share the emotional turmoil he’s been dealing with over the years, or the “lie” he was living. But what he didn’t realize was that by sharing his story, he actually opened the door for other men, Black men in particular, to share their own struggles with mental health. According to The Grio, Twitter users @DaynaLNuckolls and @TheCosby suggested the creation of a hashtag to give Black men the space to open up about emotions they often feel they can’t share. The result was #YouGoodMan. Just like that, many men of color started to speak about their mental health battles on Twitter:

The #YouGoodMan hashtag, which asks the question of whether or not Black men are actually keeping their head above water when their minds are wrought with depression and other forms of mental illness, does just what many of us had hoped Cudi’s letter would inspire — it creates a conversation. It allows people a safe space to say what’s really going on without having to worry about someone telling them to “man up” or sweeping their feelings under the rug as something to solely pray on and take a day off to deal with. These types of discussions are necessary, and by Cudi being vulnerable and honest with his listeners, he encouraged quite a few men who may not even been followers of his to also be honest. Let the healing begin.

What Happened When 7 Women Claimed The Same Man For #NationalBFDay

October 4th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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It seems like there’s a day designated for just about everything and everyone under the sun. I’m not complaining. I definitely plan on celebrating today, National Taco Day later on. Well, yesterday was National Boyfriend Day. So all over social media men and women were celebrating the men in their lives. In the midst of this celebration, seven women learned that they were all attached to the same boyfriend.


Oh Lord! Not only did the man, the object of each of these women’s affections see all seven of the tweets, he retweeted them to his own profile so the world could see that seven different women were claiming him as his man.

When the women started questioning it, Charles jumped in to defend himself.

One woman claimed she had a ring.

Several of the women tried to provide receipts, tweeting that they were trying to reach Charles on the phone. Charles jumped into the conversation once again to explain that he’s “a chief in his village” and is supposed to five wives. Later, he made light of the whole thing.

He may be a jerk and a half but that is funny!

You know the conversation went on all day. But we’ll just leave it at that.

I don’t know if these relationships are real or not. But the exchange certainly made me chuckle. Moral of the story, if you’re going to brag about your man on social media, make sure he’s yours and yours alone.


Veronica Wells is the culture editor at She is also the author of “Bettah Days.” You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter@VDubShrug.

Does This Picture Make You Feel A Way?

September 30th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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There’s a picture of a newly married Black couple circulating the internet that has garnered quite a bit of attention. It’s not your average wedding photo. In it, the groom is palming, grabbing, squeezing, groping the hell out of his new wife’s behind.

I mean, this dude is so deeply concentrated on her booty, that his eyes are virtually closed. And then there’s the very sweet and romantic caption that accompanies it.

“I had this crush on this girl that sat behind me in biology 6 years ago, today I married her.”

As you might imagine, the image hasn’t received more than 26 thousand retweets because their love story is one for the ages. It’s the booty grab that has people in their feelings.

Here’s what some people had to say.

Not when my mother is alive

This harlot word is the one I want to discuss a bit. It’s so interesting to me that people’s expectations of women are so narrow and limited. Society likes to put women in one of two boxes, wholesome or whorish. And the cognitive dissonance that occurs when a woman represents herself or allows herself to be represented as both simultaneously, almost causes people’s minds to explode. And I say it’s interesting because the assumption is that most married couples have sex. In fact, wedding guests can almost guarantee that the very couple who they’re watching smile for pictures, cut the cake and slow dance; will, in a matter of hours, be having sex. Whether people want to acknowledge these facts doesn’t make them any more or less true. Perhaps folks don’t like being confronted with images they don’t like to consider. There’s the argument that by taking this picture he turned his wife into a sex object. As if, without his hand on her behind, she never had the potential to be that and so much more.

There are those who will argue that since she is a sex object for her particular man, they shouldn’t send this image out on social media. That’s a valid opinion but social media is all about sharing thoughts, opinions, and images of ourselves. And if she wanted to share just a tidbit of her sexuality with the world, I really don’t see the problem. Then again, what constitutes an overshare to me and what is an overshare to you is a matter of preference. Apparently, to this bride, this picture was not.

There are those who thought the sweet caption and the sexual picture didn’t exactly mesh. That thought, the fact that sentimental and sex don’t go hand in hand reminded me of a conversation I had with my mother and aunt. We were talking about sex in the confines of a marriage. I don’t know how the conversation took this particular turn; but I think I mentioned something about whores or feeling like a whore in reference to sexuality, and either my aunt or my mother said, “And sometimes you have to be that for your husband too.” And the other one cosigned.


Here I was thinking that wife and whore were completely and utterly unrelated, opposites of one another. But these women, who I love and respect, who’d managed to make marriages work for decades, were telling me otherwise. I didn’t understand the full gravity of their words for years to come. But as I get older and older and realize the ways in which men/women/society tries to suppress women, the more I feel the truth in that statement. Women are “both and” not “either or.”

But more than a discussion on feminism or the sexualization of Black women, the smile on her face tells it all. There is no part of her expression or her body language that says she was uncomfortable with this, that she didn’t realize he was grabbing her booty. Nothing in her face says that by projecting herself or allowing herself to be projected as a sex object, she was somehow degrading herself or allowing her husband, with one gesture to remove her from the pedestaled position of wife. So regardless of what anyone else thinks about this, the fact that she was cool with it, should let us know we don’t have to be pressed either.

And to be clear, there were many more who were all for it.


Veronica Wells is the culture editor at She is also the author of “Bettah Days.” You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter @VDubShrug.

Don’t Ever Get Too Comfortable: “The Wire” Creator, David Simon, Tweets The N Word

September 20th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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"The Wire" Creator David Simon, Tweets The N Word

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If you’ve ever seen the underrated but incredibly genius HBO series, “The Wire,” you know how authentic and layered the characters in the predominately Black cast are. They are so three dimensional and so well done that I assumed the show must have been written by a Black person. I just didn’t expect White folk to know us like that. But I was wrong. When you google David Simon, the face that looks back at you belongs to a robust, balding White man with an intense stare.

And while I was surprised at his physicality, I reasoned that still he had—and perhaps still has— an understanding of Black people, that most White folks do not. Because, frankly in a world set up for their success, they just don’t have to.

But ummm, despite his incredible work that will go down in history as one of the best television shows every created, that just so happened to feature a predominately Black cast, Simon still put his foot in his mouth.

Donald Trump being so frighteningly close to the presidency has the whole nation in a bit of a tizzy. Including Simon, who responded to Trump’s selection of Fox News’ Sean Hannity to host a “town hall meeting on African American concerns.”

Simon, in an attempt to be clever, tweeted this.

When asked to apologize for this gross misstep, Simon defended his words.

Let me just be real for a second. This wasn’t as much about an attempt at sarcasm as much as it was a White man wanting, desiring, yearning to use the n-word. This is about David Simon feeling like he’s amassed enough “Black friends” to be given a proverbial pass. And that’s just not the case. He can pick up and throw down the n word whenever he wants to. But those of us walking around with Black skin don’t have the luxury of not being perceived as such when we leave the comfort of our own homes everyday.

Simon mentioned purpose and intent but that is also not a valid rationale for using the n word. Being around Black folk for so long, Simon should know that some Black folk, quite a few of them, will never be comfortable hearing the word from a White person, sarcasm or not. Taking that undeniable fact into consideration, his intent just doesn’t matter either way. The saying goes, “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” Simon knew his tweet was going to hurt people and he tweeted it anyway. At the end of the day, it’s impact and not intention that make the difference. And while Simon says he regrets any hurt his tweet may have caused, his intent to be funny or sarcastic meant more to him than the impact of his words. And that’s where he effed up.

I’ll forever and always be a fan of “The Wire.” But I will be removing David Simon from my list of White folks who really get it.

Veronica Wells is the culture editor for She is also the author of “Bettah Days.”

According To Leslie Jones’ Twitter Troll, He Was Doing God’s Work

September 3rd, 2016 - By Ashley Monaé
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In the weight of Twitter rants heard around the world, the trolling of Ghostbusters star Leslie Jones ranks quite high on the meter. Back in July, Jones was the victim of a vicious Twitter attack where individuals, in 140 characters or fewer, spewing negative and offensive comments about her looks and racial slurs.

Nevertheless, Jones fired back, exposing the hateful comments she received: “It’s not called a meltdown when [you’re] defining yourself. Pay attention. So sad, these people have mothers and sisters and aunts. So f–king sickening. You won’t believe the evil. It’s f–king scary.”

Milo Yiannopoulos, an associate editor of conservative news website Breitbar and infamous internet troll, was among of critics that went after the comedian and actress, which ultimately led to the suspension of his account. Although Yiannopoulos’ tweets are not available anymore, a transcript of the interaction surfaced immediately on the web where he compared her to an ape and expressed that if Ghostbusters was doing poorly at the box office because her work is terrible.

Now, after the recent hacking of Jones’ laptop,  Yiannopoulos appeared on ABC News’ Nightline, explaining that he had no regrets about attacking Jones online that prompted her to quit social media for a short stint.

“Trolling is very important,” he said in the taped interview. “I like to think of myself as a virtuous troll… I’m doing God’s work.”

Justified with his actions, Yiannopoulos also shared that the idea of celebrities playing the victim is wrong, only fueling his hatred for Jones when the social media network banned him for what he calls freedom of speech.

“This idea that celebrities are these fragile wallflowers, give me a break,” he continued. “That the stars of Hollywood blockbusters are sitting at home crying into their iPhones.”


#VeteransForKaepernick Is The Best Defense Against The Naysayers

September 1st, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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One of the strongest points of opposition against NFL quarterback Colin Kapernick’s protest, his refusal to stand during the national anthem is that by not honoring “The Star Spangled Banner,” he is dishonoring the veterans who have so sacrificially, and often thanklessly, served this country.

Interestingly enough, when these people express an unpopular opinion, they’ll note that we live in a “free country.” But when Colin wants to challenge the racist history and ongoing oppression in this nation, when his thoughts threaten the status quo, people want to strip him of the very same rights for which these servicemen and women fight.  (Though we could debate that the United States hasn’t had to fight a war to protect our civil liberties in a very long time.)

Often the very people who are presenting this argument, have never served a plate more or less this country.

Thankfully, some veterans took to Twitter to dismiss this ludicrous argument with the hashtag, #VeteransForKaepernik.

See what they had to say.

More Of This: #BlackMenSupportLeslie

August 29th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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The entire Lemonade film had us nodding and “umphing” in agreement and understanding. But one of the most poignant moments came when she included the quote from Malcolm X. “The most disrespected woman in America, is the black woman. The most un-protected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America, is the black woman.” Malcolm never lied. So often on this site, we’ve called for Black men to step up and defend Black women, to fight for us in the ways we’ve fought for them, to hear our cries for equality and not dismiss them. When we tell Black men that they’re oppressing us with sexual assault, street harassment or perpetuating rape culture, we want to be heard and not told that “now is not the time.”

With all of the conversation calling Black men to task, I have hope that some of them are hearing and internalizing these messages.

After Leslie Jones’ website fell victim to a hacker, several Black men on Twitter came to her defense with the hashtag #BlackMenSupportLeslie, started by @BlakeDontCrack.

He tweeted:

And thankfully, others followed suit.

Check out some of the tweets he got from Black men in response.

Thank God for these brothas and this hashtag. Hopefully, it’s a start to a general shift in philosophy when it comes to defending Black women, famous and non-famous alike.

The Brave Woman’s Guide To Sliding Into DMs

August 25th, 2016 - By Patia Braithwaite
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As an elderly millennial, I’ve picked up the art of traditional flirting. I’m not saying I’m good at it, but I can force myself to touch a man’s shoulder or laugh at his stupid jokes if I have to. That said, we’ve approached a new age: the age of the direct message, otherwise known as the DM. If you’re on Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter or Instagram, you are familiar with the private message — a place to send notes and pictures that the public can’t see.

I’ve heard that things go down in the DM, but up until recently, I had no firsthand knowledge of such happenings. Sadly, I haven’t mastered the art of sliding into anyone’s social media inbox, but after brunch one weekend (all bad ideas stem from bottomless mimosas),  I decided to direct message an old thot flame on Facebook. (Is it even called DMs on Facebook? I don’t know.)
“I’m sliding into your DMs,” I proclaimed triumphantly.
“Oh,” he responded. “Okay…”
There was silence before he added, “Snapchat me that pu**y if it’s….cool.”
I, too lame to realize he was quoting a song, was astounded by his forwardness. “Who does he think I am? Do people really Snapchat their vaginas if its…cool?” I thought to myself. “Is there an appropriate filter for these pictures?” Mortified and caught without a witty rebuttal, I closed my chat inbox and swore to never contact him again.  He already had my phone number though, and he text me a few days later.
Everything sort of worked out from there, I guess.
While I initially thought I’d bury this humiliating ordeal in the recesses of my mind, it occurred to me that my experience might help other women. Thus, I’ve asked a few of my favorite men for some tips on how to artfully slide into someone’s inbox. I now humbly share the process with you:
Step 1: Establish Rapport
As it turns out, sliding into one’s DMs works greatly when there is forward momentum. Whatever the social media platform, start off by liking a few posts/pictures. As most of you know, every time you like a picture, the person gets a notification. If you do this for a few days or so, you’re suddenly on the person’s radar.  Pro tip: spread your “likes” over a few days. It’s creepy to log into your account and see someone has liked 40 of your pictures in 12 minutes.
Step 2: Up the Ante
Once you’ve started liking pictures, you can up the ante by adding a comment. One of the guys I talked to suggested compliments that pertain to a particular picture. If your person has a gym picture (a.k.a., a thirst trap), you can compliment his body. If you’re feeling a little less aggressive, you can compliment something less eh…explicit. Maybe he posted a dope sunset or a clever meme. You can shower praise on it, and hopefully your would-be boo will say “thanks.”
Step 3: Slide in the DMs (With a Question)
So the guy has already noticed you in his mentions. He’s probably responded to your comments under his pictures. Now, you just slide into his inbox with a question relevant to his feed. If he has a million pictures from his trip to Philly, you can ask him how the cheese steaks were. The key is to start a private conversation, and BOOM! You just slid into the DMs like a ninja. Pro tip: Steer clear of yes or no questions. Open-ended questions give you more to work with.
Once you’ve started the conversation, the rest is familiar territory. However, if you’re still worried, take comfort in this: My awkward stumble into the DMs did yield a date. The sheer ridiculousness of my experience hints at something ALL of the men I talked to said explicitly: If a person finds you even remotely attractive, it doesn’t really matter how artfully you slide in.  Take your chance, kick down the door of the DMs, and give it your best shot.
The odds are in your favor.
(Special thanks to the gentlemen who contributed to this piece, especially @torres1pr. Ladies, if you want to practice your slide, I’m sure he would be down.)
Patia Braithwaite is a New York City-based writer. You can find her at, or sliding into some DMs on Instagram & Twitter @pdotbrathw8.

Leslie Jones Creates #LOVE4GABBYUSA To Combat All The Hate

August 16th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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Earlier this week, we wrote about all the backlash Gabby Douglas has been receiving during this round of the Olympics. And we wrote about her tearful response to it all and even her mother saying she was heartbroken by the comments she witnessed on social media.

But if there is a bright side to all the hate she received, it’s the fact that a fellow Black woman, one who had been similarly bullied on social media, came to her defense. Over the weekend, I kept coming across the hashtag #LOVE4GABBYUSA but I didn’t know where it came from. Turns out, comedienne Leslie Jones was the one with the lightbulb above her head.

It wasn’t long before #LOVE4GABBYUSA was trending. And a host of celebs, including some of our faves, tweeted their support to the young Olympian.

And thankfully, Gabby saw the tweets.