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The Brave Woman’s Guide To Sliding Into DMs

August 25th, 2016 - By Patia Braithwaite
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As an elderly millennial, I’ve picked up the art of traditional flirting. I’m not saying I’m good at it, but I can force myself to touch a man’s shoulder or laugh at his stupid jokes if I have to. That said, we’ve approached a new age: the age of the direct message, otherwise known as the DM. If you’re on Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter or Instagram, you are familiar with the private message — a place to send notes and pictures that the public can’t see.

I’ve heard that things go down in the DM, but up until recently, I had no firsthand knowledge of such happenings. Sadly, I haven’t mastered the art of sliding into anyone’s social media inbox, but after brunch one weekend (all bad ideas stem from bottomless mimosas),  I decided to direct message an old thot flame on Facebook. (Is it even called DMs on Facebook? I don’t know.)
“I’m sliding into your DMs,” I proclaimed triumphantly.
“Oh,” he responded. “Okay…”
There was silence before he added, “Snapchat me that pu**y if it’s….cool.”
I, too lame to realize he was quoting a song, was astounded by his forwardness. “Who does he think I am? Do people really Snapchat their vaginas if its…cool?” I thought to myself. “Is there an appropriate filter for these pictures?” Mortified and caught without a witty rebuttal, I closed my chat inbox and swore to never contact him again.  He already had my phone number though, and he text me a few days later.
Everything sort of worked out from there, I guess.
While I initially thought I’d bury this humiliating ordeal in the recesses of my mind, it occurred to me that my experience might help other women. Thus, I’ve asked a few of my favorite men for some tips on how to artfully slide into someone’s inbox. I now humbly share the process with you:
Step 1: Establish Rapport
As it turns out, sliding into one’s DMs works greatly when there is forward momentum. Whatever the social media platform, start off by liking a few posts/pictures. As most of you know, every time you like a picture, the person gets a notification. If you do this for a few days or so, you’re suddenly on the person’s radar.  Pro tip: spread your “likes” over a few days. It’s creepy to log into your account and see someone has liked 40 of your pictures in 12 minutes.
Step 2: Up the Ante
Once you’ve started liking pictures, you can up the ante by adding a comment. One of the guys I talked to suggested compliments that pertain to a particular picture. If your person has a gym picture (a.k.a., a thirst trap), you can compliment his body. If you’re feeling a little less aggressive, you can compliment something less eh…explicit. Maybe he posted a dope sunset or a clever meme. You can shower praise on it, and hopefully your would-be boo will say “thanks.”
Step 3: Slide in the DMs (With a Question)
So the guy has already noticed you in his mentions. He’s probably responded to your comments under his pictures. Now, you just slide into his inbox with a question relevant to his feed. If he has a million pictures from his trip to Philly, you can ask him how the cheese steaks were. The key is to start a private conversation, and BOOM! You just slid into the DMs like a ninja. Pro tip: Steer clear of yes or no questions. Open-ended questions give you more to work with.
Once you’ve started the conversation, the rest is familiar territory. However, if you’re still worried, take comfort in this: My awkward stumble into the DMs did yield a date. The sheer ridiculousness of my experience hints at something ALL of the men I talked to said explicitly: If a person finds you even remotely attractive, it doesn’t really matter how artfully you slide in.  Take your chance, kick down the door of the DMs, and give it your best shot.
The odds are in your favor.
(Special thanks to the gentlemen who contributed to this piece, especially @torres1pr. Ladies, if you want to practice your slide, I’m sure he would be down.)
Patia Braithwaite is a New York City-based writer. You can find her at www.menmyselfandgod.com, or sliding into some DMs on Instagram & Twitter @pdotbrathw8.

Leslie Jones Creates #LOVE4GABBYUSA To Combat All The Hate

August 16th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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Earlier this week, we wrote about all the backlash Gabby Douglas has been receiving during this round of the Olympics. And we wrote about her tearful response to it all and even her mother saying she was heartbroken by the comments she witnessed on social media.

But if there is a bright side to all the hate she received, it’s the fact that a fellow Black woman, one who had been similarly bullied on social media, came to her defense. Over the weekend, I kept coming across the hashtag #LOVE4GABBYUSA but I didn’t know where it came from. Turns out, comedienne Leslie Jones was the one with the lightbulb above her head.

It wasn’t long before #LOVE4GABBYUSA was trending. And a host of celebs, including some of our faves, tweeted their support to the young Olympian.

And thankfully, Gabby saw the tweets.

History-Making Olympian Simone Biles Gets Sweet Tweets From Mom

August 9th, 2016 - By Danielle Elaine
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In the age of what seems to be a second dawning of a Civil Rights movement, Black excellence is soaring in spite of social and political atrocities. Black entrepreneurs, and most recently Olympians at the 2016 Rio Olympics have been making history, and headlines with groundbreaking performances.

In the likeness of Gabby Douglas, Simone Biles has made history-breaking records with innovative moves, that could only be named after her. At a total of 14 medals, of which 10 are gold, Simone Biles holds the record for most gold medals won by a female gymnast in the history of the World Championships.

To date, Simone is the most decorated American female gymnast in World Championships history.

As Simone prepares to continue her ground breaking Olympic gymnastics legacy in Rio, she does so with much support from family, friends and the whole United States.

One of Simone’s biggest fans has gained much attention with her heartwarming tweets to the Olympian: her mom Nellie Biles. Simone’s mom has continuously shown her daughter unwavering support and love, with the sweetest tweets ever! Nellie has stood by her daughter near and far with notes of love for Simone like, “long term goal is here/embrace the experience and have fun. I love you-mom.”

In a series of tweets over the course of her daughters Olympic ambitions and career, Nellie has openly shown her affections for her daughter, and Simone has always jumped (pun intended) at the chance to return the favor.

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It goes without saying how impactful a mother’s love and support are when setting out to achieve a dream, short or long-term goal.

How many times have you left a goal or dream by the wayside, due to lack of support?

How often have you reached a personal milestone and felt a loss as to whom you could celebrate with?

Mom Nellie is a great example of what undying and unrelenting support looks like. Her genuine love and support for her daughter are the prototype of the foundation of supportive relationships. 

It’s no surprise Nellie, and many other of Simone’s family are very proud of all her accomplishments. Nellie and Simone’s relationship is one to be admired. Whatever your familial situation may be, find and keep supportive people in your circle. Be a supportive person to those you care about, with words of encouragement. Hugs and words of support go a long way, but so do likes, shares, comments and tweets.

Sometimes being present in any form makes just the right impact.

Still Mad: Tamar Braxton Wishes Co-hosts Of “The Real” Would Keep Her Name Out Their Mouths

August 8th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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Just when you thought things were starting to simmer down, that Tamar and the other hosts of “The Real” had moved past her firing, there’s more to be said. While the hosts who are still employed with the show would like you to believe that they’re all still friends, Tamar took to Twitter to let everyone know that that is not the case.

Recently, Loni Love spoke on the Tom Joyner Morning Show about Tamar’s dismissal and asked that people stop calling her names on social media because it wasn’t her fault. Then in a Periscope video, when asked if she and Tamar was still cool, Tamera said, “Absolutely! We’re very, very happy for Tamar and I can’t wait to support her on the sidelines. She’s a very, very talented human being.”

But Tamar didn’t share the same sentiment and while she was in Louisiana supporting Toya during the funeral for her two brothers, she took to Twitter to explain.

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You may have heard reports that Tamar and Tamera ran into each other on a flight to New Orleans for Essence Festival. Well, apparently that was true. But Tamar let folks know it wasn’t a happy reunion. Instead, it was more of a photo op.

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Then someone asked about the fact that many of the women from the show, with the exception of Loni, were seen at her son’s birthday party. She had a response for that too.

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Oh, Tamar.

15 Times #WeWearWhatWeWant Gave Us Life

August 2nd, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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My body. My wardrobe. My choice. Dress: @rebdolls #WeWearWhatWeWant

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Have you ever been told to “dress for your size?” When that happened to 23-year-old plus-size model model and blogger Simone Mariposa, she refused to take the criticism lying down. Instead, she created the hashtag #WeWearWhatWeWant to show plus-size women wearing “socially ‘unacceptable’ outfits.” And since then, thousands of women have turned body shaming into body confidence by showcasing just how good they look in anything they want to wear.

Mariposa says it’s the hashtag we all need. Because while the world is getting better at accepting all kinds of beauty, “there’s still a limit.”

“They still want to see women who are on the smaller spectrum of plus size, the size 12s and 14s,” Mariposa told The Independent. “When visibly plus women are making statements about being body positive, they’re deemed ‘too big’ and they’re promoting obesity.”

So Mariposa encouraged women of all sizes to celebrate their bodies on Instagram using the hashtag, and we can’t stop scrolling through.

The Funniest (And Most Questionable) Arthur Memes On The Internet

August 2nd, 2016 - By Lauren R.D. Fox
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Growing up, many of us watched the hit show Arthur which first premiered on PBS in 1996. Because of the sweater-wearing aardvark, countless millennials learned how to navigate bullying, manage their school work and fight fair (or not) with their siblings. Unfortunately, since the creators of Arthur missed the memo that 20-somethings still need lessons from the cartoon show, social media users decided to create memes using images from the cartoon to illustrate their adult journey. From dating woes to paying bills, here are the funniest (and even questionable) Arthur memes floating around the internets.

‘Cause We Slay: The Best Tweets From #BlackWomenDidThat

July 29th, 2016 - By Niki McGloster
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Friday just became extremely lit thanks to Black Twitter.

This morning (July 29), trending topic #BlackWomenDidThat took off as women began celebrating the accomplishments of literary giants, vocalists, dancers, politicians, athletes and more. Every Black queen you can think of from Beyoncé and Oprah to Shirley Chisholm and Lena Horne are getting some well-deserved recognition.

Black women and men are even shouting out their mothers, sisters and wives, saluting everyday #BlackGirlMagic achievements. And seriously, what’s Twitter without a shady yet hilarious mention of Blac Chyna infiltrating a family famous for stealing Black women’s features? From the petty to the powerful, it’s all there.

Dive into some of the best tweets rolling down timelines right now and be proud that #BlackWomenDidThat.

Loan Officer Fired After Racist Tweet About The First Lady

July 29th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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Michelle Obama shook things up with her impassioned speech at the Democratic National Convention earlier this week. And while most people applauded her for encouraging decency, for speaking about the power and evolution of this nation, there were a few people who didn’t appreciate the message…or the messenger.

Particularly Lisa Greenwood, a woman in Anne Arbor, Michigan, who took to Twitter not to criticize the speech, but the First Lady’s appearance.

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I don’t know why people believe their social media actions and opinions exist in a bubble. They do not. And since Lisa used her government name on her Twitter account, it wasn’t long before other Twitter users were able to find her Facebook page and the name of the company she worked for Home Point Loans.

From there it was all downhill for Greenwood. Twitter users began tweeting the loan company asking them if this employee’s thoughts represented their company’s values.

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Thankfully, the company saw the tweets and moved quickly. Greenwood was fired and Home Point Loans issued this statement.

The individual who made reprehensible comments regarding last night’s speech by the First Lady is no longer employed with Home Point Financial. Home Point Financial does not agree with nor condone such comments, which were made on the individual’s Twitter account. We hold true to our We Care philosophy-our responsibilities extend beyond the workplace and into our communities.

Good for them with the red tape and discrimination that already exists in the banking and loan industries, there is absolutely no room for someone with beliefs like the ones Greenwood holds.

Wondering when people will learn that broadcasting their racism on social media just doesn’t pay off.

Twitter Permanently Suspends Milo Yiannopoulos’ Account After He Targeted Leslie Jones

July 21st, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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Earlier this week we reported about Leslie Jones enduring some pretty intense, racially motivated hate on Twitter. When we reported the story, Twitter had yet to take action, linking Leslie and others to their rules page. Which was, as you might imagine, not helpful.

But after more people spoke up about the issue and in defense of Leslie, they decided to take action.

One of the people who was tweeting hateful things about Jones was Milo Yiannopoulos. Yiannopoulos, in addition to being a troll, is also the editor of the right-winged website Breitbart. Yesterday, Twitter permanently suspended his account and issued this statement in response.

People should be able to express diverse opinions and beliefs on Twitter. But no one deserves to be subjected to targeted abuse online, and our rules prohibit inciting or engaging in the targeted abuse or harassment of others. Over the past 48 hours in particular, we’ve seen an uptick in the number of accounts violating these policies and have taken enforcement actions against these accounts, ranging from warnings that also require the deletion of Tweets violating our policies to permanent suspension.

We know many people believe we have not done enough to curb this type of behavior on Twitter. We agree. We are continuing to invest heavily in improving our tools and enforcement systems to better allow us to identify and take faster action on abuse as it’s happening and prevent repeat offenders. We have been in the process of reviewing our hateful conduct policy to prohibit additional types of abusive behavior and allow more types of reporting, with the goal of reducing the burden on the person being targeted. We’ll provide more details on those changes in the coming weeks.”

Twitter said more than the language used, it was Yiannopoulos’ targeted abuse of a specific user that caused him to lose his privileges.

Naturally, Yiannopoulos issued a statement. Among other things, he said: “With the cowardly suspension of my account, Twitter has confirmed itself as a safe space for Muslim terrorists and Black Lives Matter extremists, but a no-go zone for conservatives.”

And then: “This is the end for Twitter. Anyone who cares about free speech has been sent a clear message: you’re not welcome on Twitter.”

It always amazes me the way people hide behind free speech. Yes, we all have free speech and can say whatever we want in this country. But that does not absolve any of us from the consequences of our speech. And I’m glad this is a lesson Yiannopoulos is learning.

“I Didn’t Do Anything To Deserve This” Leslie Jones Responds To Racist, Hate Speech On Twitter

July 19th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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As long as it took Leslie Jones to break into the mainstream consciousness, it’s sad that so much ugliness comes with it. First Leslie wrote about the fact that designers didn’t want to dress her. And now that Ghostbusters has been released into theaters, Twitter users have flooded her mentions with racist- fueled hate speech.

In an effort to expose these users and their hate speech, Leslie shared some of these tweets.

She couldn’t understand where all the hate came from. 

Considering that these tweets were racist, hate speech, many users were asking Twitter to suspend these accounts for violating the site’s user terms. They issued this response. 

“While we don’t comment on individual accounts, here’s an explainer on our content boundaries  here…” and they linked to their rules page.

Leslie wrote this statement in a series of tweets. 

It’s so sad. Most of these comments sound like they are from ignorant children. ‘I’m the source of AIDS?!’ WTF!! These people hate themselves. You have to hate yourself to put out that type of hate. I mean, on my worst day I can’t think of this type of hate to put out. I don’t know how to feel. I’m numb. Actually numb. I see the words and pics and videos. Videos, y’all. Meaning people took time to spew hate. … Like no shame or compassion for human life. It scares the fuck out of me!

I used to wonder why some celebs don’t have Twitter accts. Now I know. You can’t be nice and communicate with fans ‘cause people crazy. As much as I love live-tweeting, posting the pics of awesome things that happen in this life I’ve been blessed with, I don’t know anymore.

As much as you want to think actors ain’t human, I want to give you something to think about. I work off pure passion for this game. I’m more human and real than you fucking think. I work my ass off. I’m not different than any of you who has a dream to do what they love. I’ve never claimed to be better or special. I just try to do my job as best as I can. Isn’t that any of us, y’all? So yeah, this hurts me! It’s like when you think, OK, I’ve proven I’m worthy, then you get hit with a shovel of hated. I’m numb.

I mean, I know there is racism. But [am] I that naive to think that some things was changing? Yes, I was. We still live in a world where we have to say ‘black lives matter.’ I’m so tired of it. Why is this still a fight? I want to hate so bad, but I can’t because I know it doesn’t fix anything and just makes me sad. I’m not stupid to not know racism exists. And I know it will probably live on way after me. But we have to make people take responsibility, responsibility for the hate they spew. We have to stand up to it. Block [motherfuckers] but let them know they are racist and spewing hate. Stop saying, ‘Ignore them,’ or, ‘That’s just the way it is,’ ‘cause that’s bullshit. Everybody knows an asshole. Check them for their hate. Stop letting people get away with being ignorant. … Say something. Stop letting the ignorant people be the loud ones. … Be louder. I’m tired of everybody not believing they can change something. We are the people. We can change anything if we want.

I just am saddened today. Twitter, I understand you got free speech. I get it. But there has to be some guidelines when you let [hate] spread like that. You can see on the profiles that some of these people are crazy sick. It’s not enough to freeze [an] acct. They should be reported.

And for all the ‘don’t stoop to their level’ people, it’s way past that. So please have a seat. Don’t tell me how to react. ‘Cause I have every right to be offended and pissed.

… I feel like I’m in a personal hell. I didn’t do anything to deserve this. It’s just too much. It shouldn’t be like this. So hurt right now.

Later, Twitter issued a more in depth statement. 

“This type of abusive behavior is not permitted on Twitter, and we’ve taken action on many of the accounts reported to us by both Leslie and others. We rely on people to report this type of behavior to us but we are continuing to invest heavily in improving our tools and enforcement systems to prevent this kind of abuse. We realize we still have a lot of work in front of us before Twitter is where it should be on how we handle these issues.” 

In response, #LoveForLeslieJ was started by MarissaRei1, also known as T’Challa Black Girl.

From there, director of Ghostbusters, Paul Feig picked it up. Celebrities like Anna Kendrick (Pitch Perfect), Loni Love, Kristin Davis (“Sex and the City”), Margaret Cho and Courtney B. Vance and Angela Bassett tweeted in support of her.

I’ve written about this before but it seems that when it comes to Black people, the hate speech and racism directed against us isn’t taken as seriously. It’s so commonplace, so excepted people lump it in with “free speech.” I literally saw a girl on Facebook argue that it was freedom of speech that kept the Klan from being classified as a terrorist group. But the Black Panthers with their message of Black unity and economic empowerment was targeted by the FBI. It’s the reason why George Zimmerman was able to tweet a picture of the dead body of Trayvon Martin but when he uploaded images of his naked ex girlfriend, along with her phone number and e-mail address, that’s when they decided to take action. 

Thankfully, enough people spoke up today to catch the social media site’s attention. But what about those Black women who don’t have the same following as Leslie Jones?