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At any point in your life, did you find yourself eating something that you knew you shouldn’t consume?
And I’m not talking about overindulging in your favorite foods. I’m talking about eating something not considered food. A product for matters outside of the body.
I will confess that as a young kid, for some reason, I used to take dollops of Blue Magic hair dress and eat it. It was a bit much, I know. But for some reason, I would do it. I can’t say that I was necessarily even hungry when I would eat some, but I guess I was bored and trying to be explorative.
Oh, and I also used to eat Lip Smacker lip balms. But, at least, those were made to smell and taste like food. (That’s my excuse, and I’m sticking to it.)
Yes, I was a weird kid. But it’s not uncommon for people to consume all kinds of products. Like the people who eat baby powder. Balloons. Chalk. Pencil erasers. Cornstarch. String. Dirt (you read that right). Sand. Even ice, which was a favorite thing for my mother to hammer into chips and eat back in the day. Anything that has zero nutritional value and is not considered food that someone regularly eats, for quite some time (and will go out and replenish to eat), is a sign of a little-known eating disorder called pica. I was made aware of it after watching a recent episode of MTV’s popular documentary series, True Life.
In True Life: I Have A Dangerous Eating Obsession, which aired earlier this year, we met a guy named Cory, who would eat multiple hot glue sticks a day. And then there was Francesca, who lived to chomp on some bar soap and had been doing so since she was 8 years old. She actually ate about two per day before seeking help on the show, picking at pieces to swallow or cutting it up and putting it in drinks and salads. (On a side note, she is not the first person to confess to eating soap on TV, as a Black woman was featured on TLC’s My Strange Addiction for eating laundry detergent and soap). When Francesca finally did some research on what could be behind her desire for soap, which everyone else in her life thought was disgusting, she was alerted that she has pica.
And while eating certain things that aren’t food can be done for medicinal purposes or to relieve stress, like people eating kaolinite to relieve diarrhea, consuming clay to curb morning sickness and chomping on non-food items to reduce anxiety, according to Psychology Today, the possible health consequences are serious. Like poisoning (depending on what you’re eating), obesity, nutritional deficiencies, obstruction of the bowels, and more. But despite all that, the number of people hospitalized for and defined as having pica is on the rise.
Psychology Today said in a piece from 2011, “new data reveal that, between 1999 and 2009, the number of hospital stays for patients with pica nearly doubled (from 964 to 1,862). Patients with pica and other eating disorders may also be hospitalized for other conditions such as depression, fluid and electrolyte disorders, schizophrenia, or alcohol-related disorders. Although 9 in 10 cases of eating disorders occur among women, those in men increased by 53 percent in the last decade.”
There are numerous possible causes of pica, including people seeking something that they’re deficient of. In other words, the object they eat contains the mineral they’re seeking. Some mental health conditions, including obsessive-compulsive disorder and schizophrenia, have also been linked to individuals who develop pica. Pregnancy, with the cravings that come with it could also be a cause. And it could also be a cultural thing, and for others, a way to deal with uncomfortable social situations or to even receive more social attention.
But if you think you may have pica (and not just a fascination with ingesting an odd product for a few weeks), experts say that you need to tell your doctor so that they can ensure that physically, you’re okay, and help you obtain the treatment that fits your situation. Both Cory and Francesca did.
When MTV News staff caught up with Francesca after her episode aired, she revealed that she was doing much better, and feeling much better, saying, “Honestly, I do feel better physically. My bladder feels better, and I can run for a long time without feeling like I’m going to pass out. I do think that’s because of me not eating soap. I feel happier.”
However, Francesca was only able to cut back on the soap. She says it’s something she doesn’t see herself giving up for good, despite the risks.
“I did try to stop completely for a while, but I came to the realization that soap is a part of me. I don’t really eat it anymore, but I take a few licks each day. I don’t swallow the soap, and I rinse my mouth out afterward. I also switched to eating organic soap. I even started looking into how to make my own soap but haven’t tried that yet.”
She continued, “I’m okay with it. It’s something that I don’t think I’ll ever be able to quit.”
Since its debut in 1998, MTV’s “True Life” has remained an award-winning success by unveiling the unconventional lives of young people across the United States. Still living up to the hype in its 2016 season, “True Life’s” latest episode: “I Had My Cousin’s Baby” will follow two women who decided to pursue romantic relationships and become pregnant by their cousins.
One of the women featured in the episode is Alexis (pictured above). She is six months pregnant with her cousin Andrew’s baby and while she prepares for motherhood, she is also trying to collect bail for him. As she petitions their family members to help with the fee, Alexis feels hopeless because they cannot ignore the nature of her relationship with Andrew.
While Alexis struggles for her family’s help and approval, another woman named Grace has decided to move across the country to Los Angeles with her husband/cousin Dylan and their two children. Since their marriage has severely fractured their other family relations, the two hope their marriage and family will receive acceptance in the West.
But will it?
Below is the sneak peek of the episode. Be sure to tune in on MTV on December 31, 2015, to catch the full episode.
True Life has finally answered the question on couples’ minds around America: What would happen if I had a threesome? Lucky for us, this Dallas couple found out for us — you won’t be able to guess what happens next.
Money is sensitive subject. And we all know how love makes us act. So what happens when you blend the two. We asked our readers at what point in a relationship would they consider loaning your partner money. We got some really interesting responses. See what they had to say.
Silky: I’m too compassionate so I can’t really say…smh
Bianca: After the wedding
Samantha: …When all the money is shared.
Erica: After marriage and that would be because we will keep our finances separate. And yes, a promissory note must be signed and notarized.
Ameenya: I’m married and we don’t loan each other money because the money is both ours it doesn’t matter who’s pocket it’s coming out of.
Yolanda: Never. I have a real complex about loaning people money, especially if they don’t use it for what they asked for it for; doesn’t matter if they’re blood or if we’re in a relationship…it would have to be an EXTREME situation.
Sabrina: Maybe after he loaned me some of his money! Lol
Kimmy: Heed the warning, never loan a dude money. Swipe his metro card for the train tho.
She’Ron: Y’all putting all these standards on whether y’all would, should, or could loan the money…but if these are the standards y’all use to determine this…isn’t that the standard you should use to determine whether they are “relationship worthy” and if not, why be in a relationship with them?
Camille: Never he’s a man and needs to figure it out! Women do it everyday…
Yomaira: Lol what? After marriage?! Yall all sounding single as heck. What kind of relationships ya’ll in that you don’t trust your partner to loan them money?!
Ella: When I realize he’s good with money and will not make it a habit. I don’t deal with humans who borrow.
Sandra: Gotta be able judge their character. For example, do they pay their bills on time, have a savings account, etc.
Sincerely: grrr… even in marriage I want to keep my finances separate.. it’ll be an ours, then a his and mines thing. LBKS (Laughing but kinda serious?) I think if your partner is good/responsible enough to mate with and is a mate of their word in other parts of life, it’s no problem loaning money.
Tea: My bf lent me money after 3 months for a family emergency and I was able to pay him back after a month. We are very close and have each others back. So I say only lend money if its important.
Nicole: Never. I’d give it before I loan it.
Vicki: Never…I can give you $20 though…lol
Shelly: After he dead in a coffin or crypt or urn.
Latia: Um . . .what part of the game is that? When you are in a serious relationship no money needs to be borrowed because you have each other’s backs.
Kenya: In the month of Neveruary!
Sonia: I would loan the love of my life money if I had it and he needed it. It’s about the type of person they are. If they are untrustworthy, unreliable, irresponsible then no, but if they are responsible are in need then yes. The time frame depends on how long it takes to prove they are those things.
It’s a classic debate. Grab the bull by the horns and go for what you want or let a man be a man and wait for him to show his interest and ask you to go out on a date. It’s a tricky one. We asked our readers if they’d ever asked a man out. And for most of the respondents it turned out pretty well…like marriage and babies well. See what they had to say in the stories below.
Gabrettee: Yep. Turned down once. Still good friends with the other.
Latoya: I have. He was cool with it cause he was like I never had a woman take me out on a date. Told him u been messing with the wrong woman. Lol I like to make him feel appreciated
Things are different these days when it comes to dating. We asked our readers if they’ve ever been out with a man who asked them to pay for the date. See what our Facebook friends had to say.
Roz: Left him there with the entire bill
Pretty: No man has ever “asked”. Some have assumed I knew d be paying for my portion. I don’t mind paying for my own, but of you asked me tp go out with you, you better have enough to cover us both or we won’t go out again.
Audie: No, I can’t imagine being bothered with any man that cheap.
Erica: I paid MY share & let him know that there was no need to ask for a second “date”. If you’re attempting to court me, then you need to pay for the date. I “hang out” with my friends, not suitors.
Ncognito: I was tricked into buying dinner. He ask me out, we met up, and so happens he left his wallet. Yeah right, that was the first n last time I seen him n paid for a meal.
Natasha: A man has never asked me to pay but I have paid especially if I really like the guy because I think its a nice gesture!
Vesta: Yes. We are now divorced.
Faren: When I’m in a relationship I don’t mind paying for a date but if we’re just dating I’m not paying.
Elaura: Nope never had that problem when on a date the person who asked should pay. Now if I ask for you to go out with me I wouldn’t mind but most of the time he pays.
Atisha: First dates should be coffee type date. A way to get to know the person without distractions, i.e., movies.
If he can’t pay that then boy did I choose wrong!!
Ella: It happened once in 2002, but its because his card was declined. I paid for dinner and the movie. lol No I did not see him again.
Karema: He didn’t ask. We went to the movies and he reached in his pockets and said I don’t have enough then looked at me with a stupid look on his face. That was the first and LAST date we went on…. Also ( and this is gross) he popped a pimple on his face and reached into my bag of popcorn that I bought and started stuffing his face. I just gave him the bag, I was too disgusted.
William: If you really vibe with someone it should never be an issue. You both mutually invest in one another and treat each other from time to time. I wouldn’t trip about him not having enough to cover, I would examine why he didn’t feel comfortable enough to tell you the truth before you were out in public.
Ashley: I was told that I had to pay before we even went out… He didn’t have a car and had to take the bus.. So I agreed to meet him but stood him up
Gloria: Sure. Once I grew into maturity I absolutely loved going ‘dutch’ or paying for the whole date (especially if it was my idea). I believe in equality between the sexes – socially, politically, and economically.
Moneka: I had a guy ask me out to dinner,and once we got to the restaurant he told me that he didn’t have any money. Welp I ate he didn’t. And that was the end of that.
Nia: When we first went out, yes, I paid for my portion of our date. I was raised to do that by my parents. My dad would say that way your date won’t expect you to do anything after the date! Lol! That was 20 years ago. My then date is now my husband of 17 years. He said that it impressed him that I paid for my portion and in future dates had no problems paying for his sometimes.
Fifth: I was asked to dinner by a man….this was date number 3 actually. The check came & he asked if I could pay for my portion. Instead, I paid for us both. I really did not make a big deal of it because times get tough for us all occasionally. He never called me again even after I sent him a couple of “hello” texts. I do feel that the person who asks the other out should pay out of courtesy but chilvary should not be totally dismissed either.
North: Depends on the true nature of the relationship. I have exes that are like fam. I also have exes that ain’t. It all depends.
Karma: It is if you have something going on behind your new s/o’s back.
Sometimes in relationships, it’s just better to trust your own instincts and judgement because even though they may mean well, family and friends can often be way off base when it comes to matters of the heart. We asked our Facebook friends and Twitter followers what is the worst relationship advice they’ve ever received from friends and family. You won’t believe some of the outrageous things people had to say, trying to lend a listening ear and helping hand.
#iamtrayvon: My aunt told me if I walk in on my husband in bed with a woman I should lay down in the bed in the same position as her so I don’t lose him
Ơ̴̴͡.̮Ơ̴̴̴͡ ™: “Off with his head if he lay his hands on you” #TrueLife (my dad quote)
This was a tough one. Typically, our True Life questions get tons of responses; but today, crickets. Apparently didn’t want to incriminate themselves on Facebook, so the answers were a bit sparse. But sparse doesn’t mean wack. Check out some of the stories below.
Most of us would agree that being in love is a beautiful, wonderful magical thing. It’s lovely. But when you take the plunge, make a commitment and decide to share your life with someone else, that comes with some adjustments. Though, most of our readers would never want to go back, they also had to admit that there are some things about their old single lives that they miss. See what they had to say.
Denise: Hanging out all night long#TrueLife
Valencia: Space! It’s like I love my guy! But damn smothering much! Back up! Give 2 weeks to myself lol