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You know, all of your followers ain’t your friends. That is particularly true when you’re a celebrity. In fact, many people follow celebrities they “don’t like” just so they can look at their pictures and tell them how much they don’t like them.
Something like this happened to Monica recently. Except the follower was telling Monica just how much she didn’t like the braids she was wearing during her vacation in Antigua with husband Shannon Brown.
And instead of keeping that thought inside her head, the woman decided to share it when Monica posted this picture.
Loved it here!!! #Antigua thank u for your kindness… Everything was beautiful!!! #AllSmiles off to My Babies #LaiyahRomeloRocko
The follower responded:
Monica didn’t take that sitting down. Here’s what she had to say:
People love to say “My opinion” as if that negates any rudeness in their comment. Of course it’s your opinion but every thought doesn’t need to be communicated. And if you do choose to share, be prepared for the clapback.
In the words of Kenya Moore, don’t come for me unless I send for you.
Many of you may know that Whitney Houston’s birthday was this past Saturday and in celebration of the day and of her life, Yaya Dacosta, the former Top Model whose been cast to play her in the Lifetime biopic, shared a series of photos of the late singer on her Instagram page.
And apparently, there was continued backlash.
I’m sure there were several tweets but on Instagram one user, who clearly follows Yaya, took the time out to express his discontent about her upcoming portrayal of Houston.
@theyayadacosta u do not deserve to play Whitney at all u look nothing like her at all and your career does not any major credits or acting credits to play a woman of such standards as Whitney u and the only major acting role since Take The Lead and I watched it once and it wasn’t all that and @angelabassett needs to learn how to cast the right people and Whitney’s mother should have been there to see who best fits to play her daughter and that is not you
So yesterday she posted a picture of a cave with the following message:
Although I’m a private person by nature, I reluctantly heeded the advice of seemingly knowledgeable socialistas who insist that these outlets- Instagram, Twitter etc.- are the new way. “Connect with your fans”, they say. So I swam out of my cozy cave a little, shared a little, held hands a little- only to have those hands of strangers squeeze and pull and punch. They steal your photos, miss the message, and point to delusion. I’m simply an actor for hire- like Whitney would say, just a human being. Until the consumers we pour our hearts out to on stage or on a movie screen learn that “artist” is not a synonym for “punching back”, I’m going back in. Back to basics. Back to instincts. Protecting my family. Projecting only what the public can handle. When we meet in person, love, humanity, and shared light, are real. But as long as ugly, unhappy people sit their happy meal asses on fat couches and spit venom to make themselves feel better, I swim. Thanking God for my beautiful, beautiful family.
It’s a shame people haven’t gotten over it yet. Thing is, Yaya has been casted, played the role and the movie is “in the can” as they say. It’s over. Your opinions about whether or not she’s the right choice to play Whitney are completely irrelevant now. Furthermore, I’d bet nearly any amount of money that the people who are doing the loudest complaining about the casting of this biopic will be the main ones tuned in.
Trolls like trouble. Trolls can post lies and accusations about you online, which could cost you job opportunities let alone your reputation.
“Trolls are people who mock and show disrespect to a person or company. Sometimes the person is jealous or feels wronged by whoever they’re trolling, but more often than not, there’s no motive other than a person wants to voice a contrary opinion for attention. The fact that they can do it behind an anonymous screen name gives them the power to say whatever they want with no repercussions,” technology and new media entrepreneur Sloane Berry of BPM Group tells MadameNoire.
And one troll made the life of Surya Panditi, Cisco’s senior vice president and general manager of Service Provider Networking Group, a living hell. He has been trying in vain for two years to have a website hosted on WordPress taken down. The website accused of him of being incompetent, of being corrupt, and said he had an affair. With no other recourse, Panditi he has hired lawyer.
“At first, I thought, it would go away. Who really cares about my personal life?” Panditi tells Business Insider. “But it lingered and I needed to get someone like Hank to help me. It was hurting me in terms of personal life and professional life, these false accusations.”
Beware. Not only corporate executives are victims of this type of cyber bullying. Everyday folks are as well. “If you produce anything of note, you’re going to have trolls. Every public figure is bound to have someone they rub the wrong way who is willing to bash them. The Internet is a mass media platform and not everyone will like what you put out there,” says Berry.
And if you are a small business owner, a troll could cause you major problems. “Social media gives power to the people and some trolling Yelp ads or rankings on places like Angie’s List could affect your company’s bottom line,” notes Berry. “If you have consistently bad ratings from someone who is bitter for you or giving bad ratings for the sake of it, you should report it. If a troll takes your identity and fills the Internet with negative comments so that when you search for your name, you should hire a SEO firm to remarket your image as a professional.”
If you are being trolled file a report. “First be sure to report them for misconduct on whatever platform they interact with you, whether it’s email, Facebook, Twitter, or wherever,” advises Berry. Block them, if possible. “There’s no point in getting too concerned about their business, because they have made up their mind and are passionate enough to send you hate,” she adds.
Berry does advise not dealing with a troll publicly. “Don’t stoop to the troll’s level. If it’s in a public forum, it makes you look bad in the long run. You’re better off not even acknowledging someone who is racist or sexist or disrespectful. Every business and public figure who goes on the Internet is bound to run into a troll, and it’s a waste of time and resources to try to please everyone,” she points out.
You don’t have to follow Fantasia on social media for long before you realize that she does not play with her children, yet, somehow, “fans” insist on making disparaging comments about them. Back in May we told you how the 29-year-old North Carolina native kindly addressed an Instagram follower who said some nasty things about her daughter, Zion. Now it seems that another female “fan” is trying her luck, but this time, Tasia wasn’t too nice in her approach. This time a follower decided to attack Fantasia’s adorable niece, whom she appears to have acquired custody of recently. It’s currently unclear what the woman said about her preteen niece, but it appears that it had something to do with her clothing. Whatever she said set the “Lose to Win” singer off.
Tasia initially responded to the woman beneath the photo, scolding her for stooping so low.
She went on to address the woman directly, promising to put her on compete blast.
As if that weren’t enough, Fanny took a photo from the woman’s Instagram page and shared it with a caption that read:
The woman has since deleted her Instagram page. Thoughts?
While most of the ladies who appeared on R&B Divas: LA this season did so in an attempt to reignite their music careers, it appears that the plan may have backfired for famed soul songstress Kelly Price. In no time, the 40-year-old New York native became the show’s number one villain and the least favorite among many fans. As Charing Ball stated earlier this week, it seems that Kelly may actually walk away from the show with less fans than she started with. Why Kelly has been demonized in the court of public opinion is debatable. While some argue that it’s because of the show’s shifty editing, others, like her co-star Lil’ Mo, claim that what you see is exactly what you get and that in real life, Kelly is exactly how she appears on the show. Nicci Gilbert, who has also claimed to be a victim of the show’s crafty editing in the past, recently took to Instagram to defend Kelly and scold “Internet bullies” for slamming Kelly through social media.
“If you are building a brand off of other people’s pain… you’re building a PAINFUL brand and at some point you will FEEL ALL OF IT #thatisall,” Nicci wrote.
“It’s hard to watch people say such horrible things about such a talented woman and friend…BUT TIME HEALS & TELLS ALL @KellyPRice4Real…”
“I see CLEARLY how based on what you see ‘CLEARLY’ you think you KNOW so based on that I understand the REACTIONS AND I TRUST GOD’s PLAN… KEEP WATCHING…”
She went on to say that the negative backlash is impacting Kelly tremendously.
“Instead of people all this energy into destroying someone pray for them you have no idea how this is affecting this woman. It’s not good.”
“The sad thing is how quickly ‘we as a people’ allow them to use ‘we the people’ as tools to destroy our ‘own people’ #IAintIntoThat”
Nicci finished up by adding that she will probably be slammed for speaking out, but she’s not concerned about it.
“I suspect that as a result of me speaking the truth you will see a few more fraudulent blogs, articles, etc., about me soon LOL…#touche.”
“#TheButler made me realize the fight is not over, this time instead of billy clubs and hoses its social media and online bullies #FB #Stick2Gether”
“I woukd rather be broke and jobless than sit back like these women & pretend I dont see this happening. Ive been there so I KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE”
What do you think of Nicci’s claims? Would you say fans have been too harsh in their criticism of Kelly?
Follow Jazmine on Twitter @jazminedenise.
Remember in elementary school when a handful of students acted a fool, the whole class was punished as a consequence? I can’t even count the amount of recess time I lost because someone else was misbehaving. Well, this piece is written in that same spirit. For the most part, you, our beloved readers, are polite, thoughtful or hilarious in your responses and respectful of the work we do for you each day. We can’t adequately express what it means to know that thousands of you choose Madame Noire, over every other site on the internet to learn about the latest news, discuss lifestyle topics, or enjoy a hilarious article about or concerning black women. We sincerely appreciate you.
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This piece is for those who may need just a friendly reminder about who we, Madame Noire, are, what we’d like for you to know about the work we do and what we expect from you, our readers.
Things We’d Like For You To Know
Those Annoying Slideshows
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Caps Lock is offensive
Some of you may have missed this internet etiquette lesson; but as a rule of thumb, typing in Caps Lock is the equivalent of shouting in person. It’s offensive and a bit uncalled for if you don’t have a personal vendetta against us. Not only that, it’s incredibly hard to read and if you type that way on our Facebook page, Facebook will assume it’s spam and will hide the comment from view.
It was Erykah Badu who spoke some of the realest words when it comes to us creative types, “Keep in mind, that I’m an artist and I’m sensitive about my shyt.” I don’t know if the screaming fans, waiting for her to perform what we now know as “Call Tyrone,” truly understood what it means to showcase your work for public consumption and criticism. It is simultaneously gratifying and nerve-racking. And the stakes are heightened when your work is published on the internet. Why? Because the internet is the land of trolls. Nasty, attention seeking people who get off on spewing absolutely vile words, all behind the guise of an avatar and the protection of a computer screen. You can type virtually anything without consequence.
Even the non-trollish become hostile and emboldened by the lack of person to person interaction. While it would probably be best to ignore the naysayers, meanies and especially the trolls; it’s hard to do so when you put your time, energy and effort into creating an environment where black women reside and reign. One of our editors expressed this sentiment best, “Even if I didn’t agree with a presentation or something one of our Facebook followers created for work, I wouldn’t go up to her job and call it garbage. That’s just rude.” Real.Talk.
All of that being said, or communicated, this article is a rare and honest look into the minds of the artists behind this site, the content we create and why we do what we do, the way we do it. If you read and remember these rules, we guarantee your Madame Noire experience, as well as ours, will be much more enjoyable…