In 2006, Carl Stevens came home from work and told his wife of nearly a decade, Kenya, that he’d fallen in love with a co-worker. Although he hadn’t had sex with her, he couldn’t deny his feelings. After a serious discussion about the state of their relationship, Carl suggested that the two consider an open marriage.

Initially Kenya was not  on board with the idea, but after years of consideration, she was actually the first one to have sex outside of their marriage. The couple said the nature of their relationship now has helped them be more open and honest with each other. There is integrity within in their relationship.

Recently they answered the questions many have about their union with Black Voices, including how their parents feel about their lifestyle and what they tell their three children. You can check out their answers here.

What do you think about open marriage? Can it strengthen a bond between couples?

Every year on December 26th, the first day of Kwanzaa begins. Did you know that? Do you care?  Do you celebrate Kwanzaa?

Kwanzaa is perhaps one of the most misunderstood/controversial celebrations of the holiday season. Some dismiss it as not being a “real religion” (ummm, it was never presented as a religion) and some think it is only for crazy militant types (no blood shed required in the seven principles).

So what is Kwanzaa? It must be something other than the basis for countless plays and presentations in inner-city schools, right?

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