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In middle school and in my earlier years of high school, I played volleyball. And for volleyball we had summer training. And since I hadn’t gotten my license yet, my friend’s older brother would pick us up from our house and take us to volleyball practice at my high school, which, in hindsight, was completely unnecessary since we literally lived across the street from my high school.
But, truth be told, both of us had a thing for each other, so it worked. Every time he’d pick me and my sister up, he’d be bumping something. I remember I was in his car this first time I heard 702’s “I Still Love You.” Usually, he played some jams on our two minute ride from my driveway to the gym. But one day, we got in the car and as soon as he pulled out of my housing edition, he started blasting Three 6 Mafia’s “A$$ and Titties.”
For those who are unfamiliar, the lyrics are far worse than the title. It goes, “A$$ and titties, A$$ and titties, A$$ and titties and big booty b*tches.” Later, one of the group’s members talks about how he’s just got to get his dick sucked. Real classy stuff.
It was pretty awkward. Not only was he the only boy in the car, his sister was riding shotgun. That was a song for a solo ride or for him and his boys riding around. But y’all know high school boys can be a little oblivious. So it was his sister who had to tell him to turn that off. Suddenly, it was as if the words and their meaning started seeping into his head. “Oh! Yeah.” And he switched to something else.
I would end up in his car as I got older and that never happened again. But that moment stayed with me.
I was reminded of it again when I listened to Toya Wright’s interview on The Breakfast Club. Toya told the crew that she’s all about respect. And she doesn’t allow the men she’s dating or the boys her daughter is dating to play derogatory music around them. Charlemagne was quick to remind her that Lil Wayne was her ex husband and father to her child. But she said, it doesn’t matter. And Wayne knows better than to bring that around her.
It was pretty interesting. I guess because the assumption is that if you get with a rapper, you automatically approve of his content. But for Toya, not only is that not the case, she doesn’t even want to hear it being played around her. Interesting indeed.
Her interview made me wonder what our readers thought about this topic. There’s no shortage of music that degrades and derides women. It’s everywhere, especially in Hip Hop. And seeing that Hip Hop is a Black art form, it’s supported heavily by Black people, men and women alike. We’re not going to even pretend that many of us haven’t, at one point or another, listened and enjoyed songs that didn’t exactly uplift us. “Loyal” was a huge hit. Still, some of us have made a conscious decision not to engage in that type of listening. But if our dates, boyfriends, or husbands haven’t, how do you want him to juggle his musical tastes with your need to be respected?
We told you last week that Toya Wright was out here giving estranged husband Mickey “Memphitz” Wright eight days out of the year where he could go and do just about anything, and anybody. And despite knowing that such scandalous information was going to be shared on national television via Bravo’s new series Untying the Knot, the heat must have grown a little too hot in the kitchen, because Toya went on the radio to explain herself.
When the news of her controversial episode hit the Internet, Toya was pretty defiant against criticism, basically saying that people don’t really know her life–and that many put up with far worse for far less. But after the episode aired on Sunday, Toya claimed that producers cut her full response to Memphitz’s revelation about his eight hall passes. And she took to Twitter to let folks know that she wasn’t happy about it.
Feeling some type of way about the editing (per her words: “when they edit out what you really said”), Wright visited the Rickey Smiley Morning Show to set the record straight. So what’s up with their relationship and the hall passes?
Well, Toya and Memphitz are in the process of getting a divorce. They’ve been separated for almost nine months, and, unfortunately, “we’re moving in two different directions.”
They’ve been moving in those opposing directions for quite some time. Hence the reason for the hall passes–according to Toya:
“As far as the hall pass thing goes, I felt like I was already at the friend zone with Mickey. We were moving in two totally different directions, so go ‘head! Do what you do. That’s what you wanna do. Because guess what? My focus is on my businesses, and my No. 1 priority is my daughter. You can’t get it together and it’s so much going on, I’m not about to be bothered with that. And let me set the record straight: That stuff never came about when things was all good.”
To sum things up, Toya made it clear, in the third person, that “She’s not trying to keep no man that don’t want to be with her.”
As for one of the things that left their relationship in such a strain, Toya reiterated that Memphitz was pressed for years about the fact that he didn’t get to “defend himself” against abuse allegations coming from K. Michelle on Love and Hip Hop Atlanta.
“I really didn’t think it was a good look…I felt like that would be going backwards to go on the show and go back and forth with your ex. He has been holding that over my head. He blames me for it.”
As for that ex, K. Michelle has been sitting in the audience, like the rest of us, watching Memphitz’s shenanigans play out in front of and behind the camera. Clearly, she finds it comical because she posted this on Twitter on Sunday.
And she followed it up on Instagram with this message to the ladies, telling them to know their worth as she shared her testimony.
I don’t really have a response to all this because I don’t want to kick Toya while she’s down, nor do I want to talk crazy about K. Michelle (as the adage goes, if you don’t have anything nice to say, you have to shut that mouth…). But what do you make of all this?
I almost set this post up as a serious question, would you give your man a hall pass to cheat?, but I figured that answer would be met with a resounding “hell no!” so I thought it best to just tell you about a woman who would. Her name is Toya Wright and she’s married to Mickey Wright, aka Memphitz, and they’re currently having relationship issues because… hall pass.
The deal is Toya gives her husband of four years eight days per year to do whatever he wants, no questions asked. We actually have about 27 questions to ask about this whole set up, like why 8? why him? where they do that at? and girl what?! But we guess we’ll have to wait until the debut episode of Untying The Knot which airs this Sunday at 10 pm on Bravo to get to the bottom of their mess.
One thing we know for sure is whatever infidelity Toya appeared to be trying to avoid with the the eight-day hall pass doesn’t appear to be working, as she came across some very suspicious photos of half-dressed women on a $10,000 camera she bought her husband when he claimed he wanted to get into photography. Thus far, all he’s gotten into is bed with other women for a photo shoot he describes as some sort of creepy Peeping Tom fantasy which I must admit doesn’t really help his case.
Watch the episode preview below and try to figure out for yourselves why Toya, seemingly a smart girl, would fall for this okie doke. I believe my coworker said it best when she declared this is what happens when you try to be your man’s friend. I concur.
Oh and one more fun fact: she’s not allowed to step out at all.
When Toya Wright and Memphitz wed back in 2011 and shared their picture perfect wedding ceremony with the world, we all just knew they’d be together forever–the chemistry between the two read lifetime lovers.
However, in nearly four years their enviable relationship turned from sugar to sh*t as the martial bliss they once shared ultimately became marital woes, resulting in the two separating. Just earlier this year in February, Wright sat with Necole Bitchie for an exclusive interview that not only confirmed but also explained the reason behind their parting. Surprisingly, the accusations of abuse towards ex-girlfriend K. Michelle took a toll on both Memphitz career and marriage to Toya, which she had denied bothered her in the past.
Since the announcement of their separation the two have not be in contact, as far as we know. However, earlier this week, the two were spotted together. They were at popular Los Angeles restaurant Crustaceans having what looked like a couples dinner with another estranged couple, former Basketball Wives L.A. cast member Brittish Williams and her ex-fiancè, European basketball star, Lorenzo Gordon.
Toya nor Memphitz have spoken further about the status of their relationship, but from the looks of it they might possibly be trying to patch things ups.
It looks like Toya might have been telling the truth when she said that her husband Memphitz Wright was having some mental challenges.
According to the Atlanta Journal Constitution, police are searching for Mickey “Memphitz” Wright and have issued warrants for his arrest. On Friday evening, the former music executive and reality tv star, was accused of pulling a gun on car wash employee who he accused of stealing his weed.
The accusations become a little more believable considering there is surveillance video documenting most of the tense and threatening interaction.
Memphitz had his jeep cleaned Thursday afternoon and according to Harold Huntley, the car wash employee, when he took Memphitz’ car, he smelled marijuana. When he returned the car, Memphitz accused the employee of stealing his weed.
He told reporters, “He comes back and is like, ‘You stole my weed, you stole my weed.’ I was like, ‘Nah, man,’ and then he pulled a gun out on me and was like, ‘It’s gonna be your life or it’s gonna be my weed,’”
Huntley called the police and that’s when Memphitz snatched his phone and ran off.
“He was like, ‘Man give me the phone, give me the phone. What’s it gonna be? Your lit or your phone? Is it really that important?”
Felony arrest warrants have been issued for armed robbery and aggravated assault for Wright.
Police later found the jeep, the handgun and the stolen phone a few miles from the car wash. But Wright was no longer with the items.
They believe he called someone to pick him up.
You can watch the exchange in the video below.
And though he’s a wanted man, Fameolous_ discovered that Memphitz is still very much connected and in the know. He was caught liking a couple photos on the gram over the weekend.
After all those people were riding for Memphitz, swearing he would never, I know K. Michelle is somewhere shaking her head.
Ooo wee. If we thought Toya was going to take the high road during this separation between she and her husband Memphitz, we might have been mistaken. In promotion for Reginae’s episode of “Super Sweet Sixteen,” she stopped by the “Wendy Williams Show.” And since her personal life is really juicy these days, she also talked about her marriage and how she’s handling things.
And child, she kept her cool for most of it but there was some drama. Check out the highlights from the interview below.
Do you think the party was too extravagant?
Reginae is a great child and it’s her sixteenth birthday. Everybody do it big for their kids’ sixteenth birthday party…if they can. If you can go all out, go all out.
What do you think about Wayne and Christina Milian?
I don’t think about that.
Then Wendy got right into the state of her relationship with Memphitz.
Why are you separated?
My husband started to feel like he was living in my shadow. When I met him he was a big music executive. He discovered talent like T Pain, K Michelle, all different types of artists. And to go from begin a music executive to being known as Lil Wayne’s ex wife’s husband…it just started to take a toll on him.
What happened to his career?
He started mixing business with pleasure. He got into a relationship with his artist, K Michelle and it was a lot of allegations that he beat her and stuff like that. The person that you see right now, that’s a person who’s dealing with a lot of hurt and pain and that’s just how he’s choosing to deal with it.
Have her allegations affected your marriage?
I wouldn’t say she affected my marriage. This is how I feel about the whole situation, there’s three sides to every story: her side, his side and the truth. And to be honest with you, no one knows the truth only the people in that room. And you know, we’re all going off the information that we believe to be the truth. So we all are entitled to our own opinion.
How is he mentally right now?
You see he’s acting out on Instagram. How he chooses to deal with his stuff is how he chooses to. How I choose to deal with mine is different. I’m hurt too. I decided to write a book called “How To Lose A Husband.”
Would you like to reconcile?
I would love to work things out with my husband because here’s the thing Wendy, a lot of people get married and when things go wrong they give up on their marriage. You make a vow, it’s for better or for worse.
Did his appearing on Tiny and Toya affect his position at Sony?
Absolutely. I just feel like they didn’t accept him in a tv world. They were looking at him like, you’re more of a behind the scenes type of guy now you’re “mister tv man.” In that world, the tv industry, reality that is, is not really respected.
Memphitz asking Toya to join “Love and Hip Hop Atlanta”
Mona Scott Young asked Memphitz and I to join the show. And to me, that’s not something that I want to be a part of. And I didn’t feel that was the right thing to do for my marriage. We were newlyweds. To go on a show to go back and forth with your ex…I was like ‘No. You go on the show. I’m not going on the show.’
After Wendy and Toya had time to talk all of their grown women talk, she called Reginae out to chat about her recent birthday party, the drama between Birdman and Wayne and her future plans.
The best part was getting my car because I love driving. My security…he’s been teaching me how to drive since I was 14 years old.
I home-school now. This is my first year of homeschooling, so up to ninth grade.
Wayne and Birdman
With me, I love them both and that’s business. My loyalty belongs to my father, anything that he goes through. I love my father and I love my godfather. When my father was in jail, my godfather, he took care of me. So I love them both and I’m praying that they get through whatever they have…
Why Memphitz wasn’t in the show
Toya: He was at her Super Sweet Sixteen. They cut him out of the special, I guess because of what is going on. But he plays a very important role in her life.
Are you going to college or are you going into the industry?
I’m going to, of course, go to college still. But I am going to sing and rap. But right now, with the label goring through what they’re going through I’m on hold as well as my father.
Why did you leave the OMGirlz?
It was business . With the different labels and who to sign with…it was just a business thing.
In regard to Mickey “MempHitz” Wright and Toya Wright’s marital issues, the cat is out of the bag and chilling on Front Street. Both parties have been more than willing to share their side of the story. In case you’re in need of a quick refresher, Toya credits her husband’s alleged mental and emotional breakdown for their separation, while Mickey blames his wife for his failing career.
While promoting her daughter Reginae’s “Super Sweet Sixteen” special on MTV, Wright continued to discuss her faltering marriage and she insisted that her husband’s troubled past has everything to do with his professional failures, not her or their relationship.
“I just feel like I’m not the blame for that. Those things were happening before he met me,” she told The YBF. “Yes, he did lose his job. But I don’t feel like it’s my fault. Things happen. Maybe you made a few bad decisions in the past but I’m not the fault for it.”
Although she continued to express that she believes his frustrations are misguided, she said that she will continue to support him through this difficult time.
“I took a vow for better or worse and a lot of people don’t understand that who aren’t married,” Wright explained. “Maybe your husband feels like you’re the reason that this [situation] happened. Maybe he’s going through something. All you can continue to do is be a good person and pray for him and help him get through it or whatever.”
And while she did admit that she feels her husband turned his back on their marriage, she said that she will not be doing the same.
“I’m not gonna give up on the situation. I’m here for him and I’ll continue to be a supportive wife,” she continued, “I feel like he thinks he’s in my shadow and he’s gotta get his life back. You gotta do what you gotta do.”
As for Memph’s ex, K. Michelle, who remains at the center of his legal problems, Toya had this to say:
“I have nothing against K Michelle. I’m happy for her and all her success. And when I speak on the situation, it’s from the character I know of my husband. And people don’t know him. They only know her side of the story because she has a larger platform. What people don’t realize is that there’s always three sides to a story.”
Toya also made it clear that neither abuse nor infidelity ever occurred in their relationship. While we would honestly suggest that these two express their grievances with one another to a marriage counselor as opposed to the general public, perhaps the simple act of getting things out in the open will help in some way—even if that means letting the world in on all of your business. It certainly seemed to help her friend Tiny when she and her husband, T.I., were going through their stuff last summer.
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“I Was Just Trying To Keep it Real”: K Michelle Says She Tried To Warn Toya Wright That Memphitz Was A “Grown A** Boy”
As Toya Wright continues to try and make sense of everything going on in her strained marriage, K Michelle has started her “My Twisted Mind Tour,” and is celebrating all the success she has been having in her career. During a show in Baltimore yesterday, the singer took a second to warn her fans about “grown a** boys” posing as grown a** men–and that includes Memphitz. K used this time to remind everyone that the same guy she that she claimed had mistreated and even abused her, is the same one that Toya Wright is going through hell and high water with right now. And by telling her story about all that she went through with Memphitz years ago, K was, in essence, trying to “keep it real” and warn other women about him–including Toya. Check out what she had to say to the packed house:
“Every day he’s a different, crazy a** dude. These are the signs of a grown a** boy. Better run for the hills! Toya I was just trying to muthf**kin’ keep it real!”
Back in 2012, when we first met K Michelle and heard her allegations against Memphitz (she never said his name on TV, but people eventually connected him to K and called him out as her alleged abuser), Toya Wright was not here for anything she had to say.
“I love my husband. It does not matter what you say, I’m not leaving him. Show me the proof. That’s what I wanna see. If you can show me where he beat you. If you can show me the police reports. If you can show me the emails, the messages. If you can show me where he stole your money. You have all these false allegations, but no proof. Show everybody.”
Who knew that almost three year later, things would have turned out like this…?
Memphitz On His Issues With Toya Wright: I Love My Wife, But “I’m Starting To Love Myself A Little Bit More”
Since Toya Wright decided to speak to Necole Bitchie about everything going on with her marriage, I’m sure you saw a response from Memphitz coming, right? Not only did he post a very interesting photo on Instagram, but he sat down to talk to Sister 2 Sister about what he claims are the real reasons they grew apart. He cites career sacrifices (he was V.P. of A&R at Jive Records), outside criticism about him not being on the same level as her ex-husband, and of course, the K. Michelle situation, as some of the bigger issues that caused their separation.
Where They Currently Stand
I’m definitely separated from my wife. Now, I love my wife, don’t get me wrong. Nothing has changed as far as the love. It’s just the fact that I’m starting to love myself a little bit more. And when I say that, I mean it as I don’t think a lot of people know that I gave up a lot for my wife, a lot of my life for my wife.
On Not Wanting To Be Married In The First Place
When I met my wife, of course, we fell in love and we were friends first. But at the same time, when it started to get a little more serious, and we were talking about getting married, I had already told her that I would never get married. I had seen people married, and I just didn’t like what I was seeing. I came up with both of my parents and my parents were having a rough time. And I would just see what type of things were going on. I had always been scarred from marriage from that, and from friends of mine that got married young. I told her that I would never do that, and she said, “okay.” But then all of a sudden my feelings started to change. When you love someone and you see they kind of doing their own thing, it’s like, you know what? I think I need to take this another level to keep her around and for her to solely belong to me and be mine.
When Things Changed
I asked her to marry me. I’m still happy about that choice. But I think the fact that we got married on television, I think that’s when everything kind of like…I wasn’t expecting what came with that. And even though I knew what came with marrying my wife — just the fact with her history and who she was already married, people told me, “It’s a million girls out here, you got all these girls, why would you want to marry that one?” I was like, because that’s the one I love. But when we got married a lot of stuff came with that. The public hate that I was receiving, which I’m cool with because I don’t care about what people say too much. Like, “Oh, he’s not Wayne…he doesn’t make money like Wayne, why would you f**k with him?” Even my kids’ moms, they used to live in Atlanta, and all of a sudden they just broke off and left when I got married. It was like everybody was trying to make it hard for me. Even with the K.Michelle thing…
On Being Given An Ultimatum By His Wife After Trying To Defend Himself From K. Michelle’s Allegations
Over time, when I was offered to go on the show [“Love and Hip Hop Atlanta”] to defend myself, Mona called me and was like, “You should come on the show and defend yourself.” And even though I had warned Mona already that this stuff never happened…they did it anyway, they let her do it. And even though [K.Michelle] didn’t say my name, she led people to me by the description. So Mona called me, and she said, “You should come on the show and defend yourself.” I was like, “Okay, I’m on my way, I’m coming.” So I tell my wife that. We were in Vegas and I’m telling my wife, “I just got a call from Mona…” And she’s like, “You not ’bout to go on that show and defend yourself. You about to go on that show and be arguing back and forth with your ex-girlfriend over some petty sh*t like that? That’s disrespecting me. I was like, “Disrespecting you?”
She was adamant about no, I’m not going on that show. So I kind of got an ultimatum after a couple days of Mona waiting on my answer. My wife was kind of like, “If you go on that show we might as well call this over with because I’m not dealing with that kind of disrespect. I took a few days and thought about it. I just left the room, I slammed the door, I just left. I’m like, ‘How she want me to just walk away from this?’ She was like, “You just need to do the right thing and sue.”
How He Feels His Personal Life Hurt His Career
So that’s what I did. I called some attorneys and I sued. I sued everybody, but at the time, I didn’t realize what I had just done. I had just sued my career.
I was in full bed with BET, MTV, VH1, all things under Viacom, and they supported anything I had done up to that point. But the fact that I’m with the my wife and I get put between my wife and my career…a part of me was like, at first, looking at my wife like, ‘F**k what you’re talking about, that’s my career. I have a career, I have to go defend myself.’ And soon as we got married I get fired. Jive Records/Sony fired me. Soon as I got married and I was on my wife’s show, they was like, “Oh you’re Mr. TV man now, you don’t be at work and this and this and that. And I was like, I’m getting caught up in a world that’s affecting my career. So at the point where I got that ultimatum and it was like, my wife was like, “What are you going to choose?” So I’m looking at her like, my wife or my career? So I close my eyes and said, “I love my wife” so I chose my wife…
You can check out the first part of Memphitz’s interview in full below. What do you think about his statements?
K. Michelle Says “Karma” Is Behind Memphitz And Toya Wright’s Marital Issues As He Puts Both Women On Blast On IG
We told you earlier this week that Toya Wright decided to speak out about everything going on in her marriage with Mickey “Memphitz” Wright. She told NecoleBitchie that part of the reason why he’s so stressed (and having a nervous breakdown in her mind) is because of the whole K. Michelle situation. Although K didn’t put his name out there, once it came out that he was the ex who allegedly abused her, Toya said that it was hard for Memphitz to clear his name and make money. That made her the breadwinner, which caused animosity:
“I mean, what is going on with my husband, like I said when I spoke on it, is bigger than me. Micky[sic] has been going through something for the last few years since the whole lawsuit thing against his ex [K. Michelle] and Viacom and it really took a toll on him and it caused him to be a different person. So I think that, going through all of those things, and having all of that stress and the world looking at you one way as a “woman beater” and person that steals someone’s money. It’s hard for you to get back into your industry when you had a career and not a [just] job and somebody defames your character. I mean, it’s a lot to deal with day to day.”
And while that’s obviously not the only big thing behind their marital strife, the abuse claims from the singer definitely didn’t help. But K says that when you don’t do right, you can’t expect things to go right in your life. She posted this on Instagram yesterday:
As for Memphitz, he’s still displaying odd behavior on social media, and just a few hours ago, he posted this image of his estranged wife, his ex, with himself in the middle holding up an x with his fingers. Guess that means he wants ‘no parts’ of either of the women (we know the feeling is mutual in terms of K).
And as for Toya, well, she’s just trying to stay positive by leaning on her faith.
This thing just keeps getting messier and messier…