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“I’ll Just Put It On After He’s Asleep”: Kandi Says She And Todd Came To A Compromise About Her Bonnets
Last week we showed you a preview clip of “Real Housewives of Atlanta.” In it, Kandi and Todd were conversing about the lack of sex they’ve been having lately. If you’ve been keeping up with this season, you already know that Kandi said they were only doing it once a week, which isn’t good considering that they’re supposed to be in the process of trying to have a child. But as their correspondence went on that lack of sex, Todd blamed the fact that Kandi stays with a bonnet on her head as the reason why he can’t get in the mood.
Todd: “Let’s be real. I’m not Tyson Beckford and you’re not Rihanna. When’s the last time you didn’t have the bonnet on and you put some heels on?”
Kandi: “I had the bonnet on my hair before we got married and it was not a problem.”
Todd: “If I say the bonnet doesn’t turn me on, you gotta be like ‘You know what well maybe I don’t need the bonnet on.’ Like, you have to compromise.”
We all know that this scene was filmed last year, so at this point, they should have been able to figure out this whole bonnet-rocking situation. In her weekly Bravo blog, Kandi says they are trying to come to some sort of resolution that works for them both. When asked if she was shocked by Todd putting her beloved bonnet on blast, the star responded by saying that he’s been talking crazy about her bonnet for some time now.
“No, I wasn’t surprised. He’s always talking crap about my bonnet. That’s nothing new. We’re coming to a compromise about the bonnet. I’ll just put it on after he’s asleep.”
Kandi was also asked about the growing rift in her friendship with Phaedra, which has grown because she wasn’t there for her friend during Apollo’s legal and emotional troubles. It became obvious that things weren’t in a good place not only when Kandi went to Phaedra’s house, but also when the group dinner went left:
“Honestly I was just over it. Every time we all get together there has to be some lame ass ‘tea’ spilled, and I’m just tired of it. Seeing Phaedra jump up was shocking, but clearly she wasn’t really going to hit Kenya and Kenya definitely wasn’t going to do anything.
What tripped me out was hearing Porsha and Phaedra make me out to be the enemy because I left the table two seconds later than they did. That just felt like they said, ‘Hey, we’re going to put Kandi in the middle of this drama in some way.’ Well if Phaedra is really going to play into this whole “Kandi’s not my friend because she didn’t jump into my argument and run out the room faster than me,’ then OK… So be it.”
She also admitted that she’s not crazy about Phaedra’s growing relationship with NeNe, but she’s willing to be understanding and supportive.
“Of course I’m skeptical. NeNe has been nice these last few months, but that does not make me forget the years of drama and insults that have come from her in the past. Yes, I get that people change, but it’s OK for me to proceed with caution as I would’ve thought Phaedra would. Well, hopefully things will continue to be great with them and NeNe can continue to be Phaedra’s rock.”
As for what Phaedra thinks, in her own Bravo blog she stated that NeNe only has good intentions. In fact, she says that NeNe called her daily when she was going through a lot with Apollo while folks like Kandi didn’t.
“I consider NeNe a good friend. We have not always been on the same page, however we have found a common ground of being like-minded, successful entrepreneurs and mothers of sons. When I needed a friend the most, she was there and I will always remember that. It is easy to find friends when life is going well, but it is the ones who are willing to support you during the storms that matter. During the months when my life was spinning out of control, NeNe called me every single day to see how I was doing despite her busy schedule. She sent encouraging text messages when she could not reach me. I was grateful that I had her and Porsha in my corner because they helped me through some of my most difficult days.”
While there’s nothing wrong with NeNe and Phaedra growing closer, I just hope that her friendship with Kandi doesn’t fall apart in the process. They’ve been down for too long for all that.
We’ve already talked about the communication problems Kandi and Todd are having, all being played out on “The Real Housewives of Atlanta.” In addition to dealing with distance and the failing of their musical, “A Mother’s Love,” the two are only having sex once a week.
And Kandi is in her feelings about it. So she suggests that they attend marriage counseling. Todd doesn’t really think it’s that deep and feels that if they make some compromises, they should be good. But apparently, “they” is just Kandi.
He did have a suggestion about how they could fix their bedroom issues.
“Let’s be real. I’m not Tyson Beckford and you’re not Rihanna. When’s the last time you didn’t have the bonnet on and you put some heels on?”
Then Kandi said: “I had the bonnet on my hair before we got married and it was not a problem.”
Todd: If I say the bonnet doesn’t turn me on, you gotta be like ‘You know what well maybe I don’t need the bonnet on. Like, you have to compromise.
And then in his confessional:
“Man have you seen a lady at night with a bonnet on? The most thirstiest dude wouldn’t get it up!”
The words sound harsher typed out than they actually were, which is why I included the video at the top. So you can get a true sense. The way they discussed this situation, with jokes, laughter and even some touchy-feely throughout, I think Todd and Kandi will be just fine.
But this bonnet discussion has always been so fascinating to me. I mean, Black women have been wearing bonnets for at least a century at this point. But all of a sudden Black men are coming out of the woodworks talking about how they don’t find them sexy.
Before Todd, there was Shawn Bullard from “Match Made In Heaven” and one of our male writers made a similar comment about bonnets killing the mood in a random g-chat conversation.
I mean, I get that they’re not exactly the sexiest things around but since when did a bonnet stop someone from getting it in? As a man, you can make a production out of ripping the bonnet off before you get started or gauge your skills in the amount of time it takes for you to work it off during the deed itself.
I’m with Kandi, Todd knew about her bonnet before they got married. Just like a whole lot of other Black men. Someone suggested that Black men started dating White women and now they want to act brand new. Who knows? But the brothas gotta be more sympathetic to our hair struggle. Matter of fact, if they think back to the days when they were wearing braids and waves, they know that they used to have to sleep with a scarf on as well.
Black hair requires care.
And we’re not our hair but our hair is a part of our lives. And just like other elements of life, when it comes to sex, you just have to work around it.
During this past episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” Kandi and Todd have been on two different pages. There were several communication issues that seemed to trip them up. Kandi’s play was canceled and in response Todd asked her if she “did her research.” And though he might have been trying to provide a solution or rationalize the cancelation, it came off as dismissive and insulting. Of course she did her research! Kandi is a businesswoman. But I digress.
Then when the two were in LA filming, Todd decided that he was going to hang back for a few days afterward and kick it with his boys.
This compounded by the fact that they’d only had sex once that week, led Kandi to believe that he might be stepping out on her. And Kandi told her friend Carmen that she suspected Todd of cheating. Sadly, all of this took place on camera.
If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times; when it comes to relationships, sometimes it’s just better to keep your drama and messiness behind closed doors. And as a newlywed, Kandi is also learning that lesson.
As soon as Todd and I got married he had to leave for LA to start production on his show. We went from being together every day to going weeks without seeing each other. It took some time to adjust. Things were tense for a short period of time, but we’re great now. I do regret talking about it on TV. I’m a very open person, but I’m learning that it’s not always a great idea to be an open book when it comes to your marriage.
Let the church say Amen!
We could go on and on about the couples whose marriages have failed with the help of reality tv. Though most of us don’t have cameras in our homes, the same concept applies when you consider telling your friends about every argument and issue that arises in your relationship. Sometimes…no, most times, it’s better to work it out amongst yourselves, or with a neutral third party, and keep it moving.
Basically, when you tell your friends and family about the drama in your relationship, they’re listening as people who are loyal to you…not your man or partner. They’ll be looking at him crazy from now until eternity if you ever mention anything he might have done wrong. Even after you’ve moved past the argument and the dust has settled, your people will still be holding a grudge. Not to mention, you conveniently forgot to tell them how you were acting a fool. They weren’t there for his apology and the resolution and you didn’t update them on how his behavior has changed for the better. One, because those make up stories aren’t as juicy and two, because they’re not in the relationship and have little incentive to forgive his offenses.
That’s just what happens when you invite outside opinions into your relationship.
And that’s what Kandi is doing by discussing her relationship with Todd, not only with her friend, but with millions of viewers around the country and world. Inviting them to cast judgment without knowing even half of the story. As one of my coworkers mentioned, it also adds fuel to that very messy fire Mama Joyce started. God knows the world doesn’t want her to be right about Todd. But I’m sure listening to Kandi discuss what seem like normal communication issues is making her feel really validated right now.
But it’s hard not to discuss your relationship when you roll deep with your man and cameras are following you around all the time. As we were discussing this at work, someone suggested that it might be time for Kandi and Todd to step away from RHOA in an attempt to preserve their marriage. I’ll be honest, my first reaction was “Nooooo.” I don’t even watch RHOA anymore but when I did, I always appreciated Kandi’s levelheadedness and her ability to avoid the cattiness that has been associated with the show. If she leaves, doesn’t it seem like all hell will break loose? Who is going to bring the ackright?
And while the show might take yet another dip in classiness, it just might help to keep Kandi and Todd together.
You know what’s wrong with all the relationship advice, it doesn’t take into account that everyone is not the same. You can’t paint everyone with the same tired brush. We could all save ourselves a lot of time, energy and heartache if we followed our intuition and didn’t do or agree to do things that made us uncomfortable, we’d be in pretty good shape.
While it might not be in some of our nature to hop into bed with a man on the first date, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship is doomed. Just ask Cynthia Bailey and Peter Thomas.
The couple appeared on a Valentine’s Day episode of “The Real” where they discussed who fell in love on first sight and their pet names for each other.
Take a look at the videos below.
And since we’re on the topic of #RHOA couples, Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker recently appeared on “The Steve Harvey Show” advising women on how to keep things spicy in the bedroom. The segment was cool and Steve had a good joke in there but I just really like watching Kandi and Todd together. They’re too cute.
Check them out in the video below.
It appears that Mama Joyce has somewhat let down her guard down with her son-in-law, Todd Tucker. In a recent interview, the reality TV mom spoke about Todd’s current projects and how hard he’s been working lately.
“Todd is doing well now,” she told Radar Online. “He has a show and I hope they stay together and be happy. I have accepted that they are together and she loves him.”
Although she made it clear in the past that she did not want her daughter to marry the reality television producer, Joyce says that she has come to accept her daughter’s decision.
“I made up my mind that if that’s who she chose then I am happy for her. I am not going to stress about it and I’m just going to accept it.”
As for why she was so against their marriage, Joyce claimed that she was simply trying to protect her daughter.
“I want my child to be happy and I didn’t want her to be taken advantage of. I wanted Kandi to marry somebody that had as much as she did.”
Of course, some felt that she only wanted to protect Kandi’s finances for her own personal gain, but Joyce says that it wasn’t about her and that she has never taken advantage of her daughter.
“I didn’t take from Kandi, I didn’t use her ever,” she explained. “Kandi respects me and Kandi knows I raised her by myself and I sacrificed for her and I never spent her money. I was the one that helped her accumulate what she has.”
Though she seems to be making peace with her daughter’s marriage, it doesn’t appear that she’s looking to tame that mouth of hers.
“I think I am just straight up,” she continued. “People that know me love me to death. But I’m real. I say what other people are thinking because I don’t think there is anything to hide.”
Mama Joyce will always be Mama Joyce, but at least it appears that she’s at least thinking about butting out of Todd and Kandi’s business.
Losing a parent is never easy. Dealing with that loss right before the holidays is an even more brutal experience. The holidays are meant for family and friends to catch up, show love, cultivate and build on relationships. But sometimes, they are filled with grief and heartache.
Earlier this month, two celebrities laid their mothers to rest and said goodbye for the last time. Singer Kelly Rowland’s mother, Mrs. Doris Flora Rowland Garrison, died after a lengthy, unknown illness. Kandi Burruss’ husband, Todd Tucker, lost his mother, Sharon Tucker, to a fatal stroke. Sharon passed one day before Rowland’s mother.
When the news of Sharon Tucker’s passing hit the net, I was a bit taken aback. His statement on Instagram made me break down and cry because I knew that particular pain all too well. Part of his statement read, “Today I lost my partner, my ride or die, my best friend! I don’t know what to do? I’m lost! My heart hurts so much!” I can also relate to Rowland losing her mom and having to move through life knowing that her baby boy won’t know his maternal grandmother. My baby girl will only get to know my mom through photos and stories.
I lost both of my parents at different times, but both of their deaths came right before a major holiday.
Like many little girls, my father was my absolute first love. I worshipped the ground he walked on. Wherever he was, I wanted to be. His day job was as an inspector for CSX (the transport company), but his passions included music, philosophy and writing. We connected over our love of words mostly, his need to teach and my need to absorb knowledge. To this day, I haven’t met a man that can compete with his conversation and listening skills. Our relationship was a bit tumultuous as I became an adult, but the love was always there. We made peace with each other right before his passing. He died two years ago, right before Thanksgiving, and while I’d like to say that it gets easier (it does in some ways), that hole where his laugh used to be is still there. He was sick for a while so I had time to process it all a little better and say my goodbyes.
But as for my mom, she passed in her sleep. It was sudden and it was absolutely crushing. I had just graduated from college and was entering womanhood, and all of a sudden I had to do it alone. It was like walking a busy highway with a blindfold on. While my father was “my everything,” my mom was simply ‘mommy.’ Her unending love, wisdom, independent spirit and witty sense of humor are the things I miss the most.
After her passing in 2001, the holidays would sadden me. As they approached, a black cloud would seemingly appear over my head. Sure, I put on a brave face so that I wouldn’t ruin the holiday for others, but on the inside, I was filled with sadness. I participated in the festivities, but for a long time, I wasn’t fully present.
As the years went on, I realized that I was doing my parents a great disservice by letting their absence and the pain of it hold me back during the holidays. I also discovered that the most important thing I could do was keep them alive by talking about them to family and friends; cherish their memory and honor their time here. I’ve found it means a lot to all of the other people that loved them dearly as well.
If this is something you are dealing with during this holiday season, just know that it gets better. Time can sometimes be a healer of old wounds, and it can help you see things in a different light. The most important thing that you can do is surround yourself with positive and caring loved ones. I’ve found that my two sisters, my nieces and my nephew are my saving grace during this time, but your comforters can also come in the form of friends and/or acquaintances. Just being around positive people can help in your healing. Don’t sit home and have that pity party that’s waiting in the reserved section of your emotions. If someone invites you out, go – even if you don’t feel up for it. In other words, go wherever the love is. Follow the love during this holiday season.
Mama Joyce Regrets Bad Blood With Todd’s Mom; Apologizes For “Prostitute” Comments But Won’t Attend Funeral
If you’ll recall from the last season of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” Mama Joyce was never a big fan of Todd Tucker. She felt that he was going to use Kandi Burruss for her money, and inevitably leave Joyce out to dry when it comes to getting a piece of Burruss’ monetary pie. Because of that, she went out of her way to let him know that he was not welcome, including scowling or saying very little in his presence, and allegedly working to try and have someone follow Todd around to take pictures of him being shady so that the couple would split.
Her issues with Tucker eventually spilled over and became issues with his mother, Sharon Tucker (don’t mess with a woman’s son now…), and got worse after she said on television that Tucker was raised by a “pimp and a prostitute.” Things got so bad between the women that they ended up having a light scuffle on “Kandi’s Wedding,” and by the time “RHOA” started taping, things hadn’t improved between them.
According to TMZ, Joyce is deeply sorry for gossiping about Sharon and calling her a prostitute (which wasn’t true). She wishes they could have buried the hatchet, though Joyce struggled to apologize for her past harsh words. Despite all that though, Joyce says that she does hope to improve her relationship with Todd. That might be tough to do though, because in previews for this new season of “RHOA,” Todd still seemed hurt at the fact that Joyce wouldn’t apologize for talking crazy about his parents, telling Kandi, “Your mom can’t be grown up enough to apologize for something that she lied about!”
We’re hoping this sad situation will finally bring everyone closer and end a lot of the pettiness.
When asked by TMZ if she will attend Sharon’s funeral, Joyce said that out of respect, she wouldn’t. She’s well aware that her presence probably wouldn’t be welcomed by Sharon’s family and friends, but she does intend to send flowers and her condolences.
Last night we reported the sad news that “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star Todd Tucker lost his mother, Miss Sharon, yesterday after she suffered a fatal stroke. At the time, neither Todd nor his wife Kandi had put out a statement on Miss Sharon’s passing, but last night, in the midst of their grief, the newlywed couple took to Instagram to remember Miss Sharon and express their sadness over their loss.
Todd posted a picture with his mother, writing:
Today I lost my partner, my ride or die my best friend! I don’t know what to do? I’m lost! My heart hurts so much! She was a fighter, a warrior for her son! It was me and her against the world! She’s in a better place!! Mom I love you to death! Rest in peace!
Kandi also took to IG, posting the picture above with this caption:
Today has been a tough day. Our family has suffered a terrible loss. Sharon was the best mother in-law! She was fun, energetic, loving, & caring. I loved how she liked to get up & go all the time. She would get you in check one minute & give you a hug the next minute. She still had a young spirit. It’s unbelievable that she’s gone. I’m so sad for@todd167 because they were so close… He talked to her every morning & all thru out the day, every day. It’s hard losing people that you love but when it’s out of the blue with no warning it just makes it that much harder…. I’m still in shock.
Porsha Williams instagramed a message of support to Kandi and Todd as well, saying “My prayers are with The Tucker family tonight! Todd your Mother Miss Sharon was a beautiful soul & so loving she will be missed. Love you guys.”
We’re sending our prayers to Kandi and Todd as well.
Newlyweds Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker have been dealt a hard blow today, as the Daily Mail report’s Todd’s mother, Miss Sharon, has died from a stroke.
Miss Sharon fell ill in New York yesterday and was discovered by a friend of Todd’s before being rushed to the hospital. Todd was in Atlanta at the time and, according to the Daily Mail, when he arrived in New York his mother was unconscious. A source told the site Miss Sharon slipped into a coma overnight and passed away this morning. Kandi was reportedly in Los Angeles at the time.
We’d first gotten to know Miss Sharon on “Real Housewives of Atlanta” a couple of seasons ago when Kandi started dating Todd, and she also made an appearance on the couple’s wedding spinoff. So far, neither Kandi nor Todd has commented on Miss Sharon’s passing. Our thoughts are with them both at this time.
“Save That For Ur Husband!” Kandi Burruss Criticized Online For Racy Pic, She Responds: “Ya’ll Kill Me Sometimes”
As much skin as entertainers show off these days, who knew a little thigh action could get so much criticism?
Kandi Burruss posted a very alluring image on her social media page this week, and she captioned it, “For Bae” @todd167. Of course, the Instagram handle she tagged is that of husband Todd Tucker.
In the photo, Burruss dons a white lace bodysuit, a strapless bra…and that’s about it. She strikes a seductive pose, and if you ask me, she looks great!
But alas, haters flock to the smallest things these days. While a good number of people loved the pic, there were also quite a few who told her to keep such pics to herself for the sake of her husband:
“Save that for ur husband not for fb!!”
“If it for your bae, why you showing everybody?”
“Y for bae…but for everyone Kandi? What does Todd have to himself??”
“Why put it on FB??? send it to his phone at least. What are you trying to prove here?”
“If it’s for Todd, then why is it on Social Media. #Thirsty4Attention”
The use of multiple question marks and exclamation points is killing me.
But what these people didn’t know is that Burruss has a new single coming out called “For Bae.” Turns out, she stopped for a pic on the set of a shoot for the single and decided to tag Tucker (he IS her “bae”). With that in mind, Burruss decided to respond to her critics:
“Oh quit ya’ll just having some fun!! Ya’ll kill me sometimes. love/hate me I guess”
“Stawwwp taking everything so serious peoples!!! Rolling my eyes lol”
“SO WHAT IF MY NEXT SINGLE IS TITLED “For Bae”…??? Ya’ll act like you don’t know I own #KKN AND Bedroom Kandi. #trippin.
And when a writer for Straight From The A asked if the pics were a “Facebook Fail,” Burruss had words for her too.
“I just saw @iamatlien’s post about the online debate about my post earlier when I said “For Bae”. To be clear the pic wasnt “For Bae”, what was in the pic is “For Bae”. Meaning me. Not that I should have to explain that but…. How about yall just focus on the pic & not try to debate every damn thing people say on their post. SMH…. #CarryOn #ILoveYallAnyway #WatchSomebodyTalkSh*tAboutThisPostToo Lol!”
Whatever all that means…
Do you see anything wrong with the picture?