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Penny For Your Thoughts: On Tina Campbell, Dirty Laundry And Why You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed Of Your Testimony
“Tell some, save some, girl!”
Those were the words Erica Campbell had for her sister Tina during one of Erica’s confessional interviews on the last episode of Mary Mary. Erica shared that sisterly advice after listening to a radio interview where Tina was talking about her marital troubles last year.
Now, if you watch Mary Mary, then you know how Tina can go in with her whole “He cheated, and I forgave him” story. She’s almost defiantly unashamed about going through the whole experience. For her, it’s a “testimony.”
When she shares her testimony, there’s fire in her voice. Her cadence speeds up. She sounds as if there’s a “f**k all y’all!” in her chest clamoring for release (which she would probably let loose if it weren’t for the whole “Christian gospel singer” thing).
When she shares her testimony, she’s talking about the past, but she uses the present tense. She says stuff like, “I’m gonna kill somebody,” though she doesn’t really mean that she feels this way now. She’s talking, of course, about a past bitterness that nearly drove her over the edge. Still, the rage in her voice that comes through just in the retelling of her story makes you think, This ain’t the kind of woman who should ever own a gun…
Thing is, Tina may or may not care what you think. One can never tell with people who practice such explosive candor. We assume that those tell-it-like-it-is folks don’t give a flip about what people think, but that’s not necessarily true. Sometimes the more candid people are, the more sensitive they are to criticism and other people’s opinions. Tina puts her story out there without flinching, and she appears to take great pride in doing so. But we don’t know if she’s really as resistant to doubt and regret as she seems.
Regardless of whether or not Tina has regrets about her no-holds-barred testimonial, she still continues to share it–and every time, she tells the hell out of her story.
By “tells the hell out of her story,” I mean she puts it all out there. And that all is what her sister Erica was referring to when she said, “Tell some, save some, girl!”
Some. Not all.
Most of us (especially the black and brown “us”) don’t typically like for people to know our all. We’ve got a thing about telling everything.
You know where I’m going here, right? You know what every mother and every grandmother’s favorite saying was, right?
“Don’t put your business in the streets.”
Well, in the name of Tina Campbell and all things brazenly honest, I hereby declare that cautionary rhetoric as played out.
“Don’t put your business in the streets” is one sermon that you’ll never hear me preach to my children. Although the adage has been passed down in my family, it will officially end with me.
My inner mogul knows that one mark of a successful business is when it goes from private to public, meaning there’s an initial public offering of its shares on the stock market. (Think of the first season of Empire and all the hype around the fictional company’s IPO.) So this teaches me the following: What’s private becoming public is a good thing.
So although I kinda cringe every time Tina starts telling her “testimony,” I still nod along saying, “I know that’s right!” Listening to her recount her experience in such an unsparing way feels like witnessing the best kind of protest. To me, Tina is standing up to how overly neat and overly cautious (“tell some, save some, girl!”) we typically are about sharing our personal stories.
Not to mention that when I listen to Tina, I hear myself.
I am someone who puts her business in the streets. What’s more, I am someone who, like Tina, puts her business in the streets as a part of her job.
I write for a living. To me, the easiest stories to write are the ones I write about myself. Those are the stories that are least time-consuming and, therefore, more efficient.
Most of my writing portfolio, however, consists of reported stories. Reported stories have always felt like heavy lifting to me. Sure, it’s rewarding work and I will continue to do it. But personal essays, in my opinion, are the sweet spot as far as the time and effort ratio goes.
When I’m writing an essay, the only person I have to interview is me. The only research required is mining my own feelings, memories and experiences. I learned years ago that essays feel like easier writing assignments. I also learned that the kind of essays editors want to publish are truly honest accounts of personal experiences that other people would probably never discuss so candidly or so publicly. Of course, my translation of “truly honest” usually errs on the side of brutally honest. And being brutally honest is what usually lands folks smack dab in the middle of business-in-the-streets territory.
I’ve put my business in the streets a lot over the years. I’ve announced that I date in bed (which is to say I have sex very, very soon in relationships). I’ve admitted that I still get financial help from my parents in my late 30s. And, most recently, I exposed my 22-year battle with depression and experiencing daily thoughts of suicide.
Putting My Business in the Streets (or PMBS) has opened me up to scathing responses about my lifestyle choices (like one woman’s somewhat accurate prediction that my financial habits would lead to homelessness). But I continue to practice PMBS because confessional essays help pay my bills and I believe in the tell-the-truth-the-whole-truth-and-nothing-but-the-truth approach when it comes to sharing excerpts from my personal story.
That doesn’t mean I find joy in PMBS and making my private life public. It’s not gratifying to overshare. It’s not liberating to freely reveal. But I do consider what I call “radical transparency” to be a personal and professional calling of sorts.
I know that my mother and father wish I’d keep more of my dirty laundry in the hamper where it belongs. But for now, airing it out in public (and on the proverbial “street” that is the Internet) is part of who I am and what I do.
So if Erica was my sister, telling me to “Tell some, save some, girl!” I’d quip:
“Girl, you go ‘head and save some of yours–but I’m telling all of mine.”
So tell me: Where do you stand when it comes to putting your business in the streets?
During the last season of “Mary Mary,” most fans watched in horror as Tina Campbell dealt with the reality of her husband’s infidelity. Judging by this season’s trailer, it seems that the singer’s marriage is still suffering from Teddy’s decision, but she assures us that they have survived that storm. Now, both Tina and Erica are offering advice to women who may find themselves in a similar predicament. Peep their interview above.
Last year, when Erica and Tina Campbell came into our studio, Tina was very clear about the fact that she and her husband Teddy were working on rebuilding their marriage after infidelity. But she was also particularly honest and candid about the hurt and anger she felt and how it took her to an incredibly dark place. She mentioned that at one point, she incorrectly assumed seeking revenge would make her feel better. That day, she said she’d never tell us what she did.
And we probably shouldn’t ever know what really happened; but in a sneak peek from the new season of “Mary Mary,” we see how Tina went Jazmine Sullivan on Teddy’s car.
In this particular clip, Teddy explains what happened:
“So after I proposed to Tina, one would think that would fix everything but, in reality, it doesn’t. We had some days that were really bad. And the car is a clear indication of a very bad day. It was my car and she thought that I could have been riding around town with another woman in the car, which wasn’t the case but… My wife, in her pain, she wanted to hurt me.”
Teddy is watching as a tow truck man is removing the car from his driveway. Just as he’s doing so, Tina walks up, smiling. The couple embrace while the car is being carted away and Teddy says to Tina: “I want you to be happy. I don’t want you to have any bad memories. I want to create new ones.”
And then again, in the confessional: “So thank God we’re in a better place. Our good days definitely outweigh our bad ones by far. We’re still working hard. I want to Tina to know that I’m going to fight for her and my family.”
Listen, I would be lying if I said I didn’t chuckle watching this video, especially at the smile on Tina’s face. She was dead wrong for this…but that doesn’t make it any less comical. I’m not applauding her actions but she.went.in. It’s a wonder Teddy thought to try her.
But on a serious note, it’s good to see that he’s committed to making sure he’s doing everything in his power to help them both move forward.
If you thought the last season of “Mary Mary” was on ten and all of the kinks and wrinkles would have been ironed out by now, you might want to think again. In the season 4 trailer for the show, it seems that while Tina and Teddy are on the road to restoring their marriage, with a few bumps; it’s the relationship between Tina and Erica, and even Warryn, that might be taking a hit.
Evidently, Tina is still not over Erica leaving the group to pursue her solo career. And she’s let people know. Then, to add insult to injury, she’s taking meetings with their former manager Mitch.
Honestly, I don’t know if her partnering with Mitch again is real life or just for the cameras, specifically since Tina has always had the biggest problem with him. Either way, Lord knows he brought plenty of drama and that makes for great tv.
Anyway, check out the trailer for season 4 and let us know what you think. Will you be watching?
“I Prayed And I Asked God, ‘God, Don’t Let This Be My Life'”: Tina Campbell Talks Fighting To Save Her Marriage After Infidelity
Another great night on our Honeymoon/Anniversary/Vacation trip! #Hawaii #Maui #Love. #TeddyandTina
While checking out the Circle of Sisters event in NYC this past weekend, I had the chance to see the ladies of Mary Mary do their thing on stage (and boy did they take me to church!). While there, Tina Campbell spoke honestly on-stage and off about dealing with a lot of pain when she found out about her husband Teddy’s infidelity, which was featured on “Mary Mary.” But she says that they have pinpointed and continue to work on their issues.
“My husband had issues, but I had those same issues. You want to focus on your strengths and mask all of your weaknesses. And then you think your weaknesses are not creating a fire in your life that is going to brew and build one day. I was broken, I was insecure, I didn’t know how to communicate…the same thing I was, I attracted.”
In a recent chat with EnStars, Campbell also spoke in-depth about moving forward and fixing her marriage to Teddy. She says that the steps they took to resolve major issues will be shared on the newest season of the WEtv hit, “Mary Mary.”
“I prayed and I asked God, ‘God, don’t let this be my life. Does this really have to be my story? Is this how I’m going out? This is terrible. Why do I have to be the gospel chick who goes out with the horrible life and it just stays devastated?’ And I was praying like, ‘God, if you get me out of this rut that I’m in, I’ll tell the world.’ So of course I’m going to show the world how we are now. And no we don’t have a perfect relationship, but we work hard every day. We work hard to enjoy each other. All of the stuff you do while you’re dating, we just do that now. Because what happens is you practice being in love. You practice being s*xy. You practice understanding–‘oh baby, that’s okay.’ You do all of that stuff and then you stop practicing that. He practiced opening the door–‘Whatever you want, babe. I got you boo.’ And then he just stopped practicing that. And that’s how your relationship goes crazy, because everyone stops practicing being in love. We just practice being in love every day. We practice being better to each other, being friends, being understanding and being considerate. Are we perfect at it all the time? No. But we’re much better at it than we used to be because it’s our practice now. And the fool I used to be and that he used to be? We don’t practice that no more. So we’re going to show the world.”
Campbell said that during the time that she started working through her pain and on her relationship, she finished a book and completed a solo album that was completely unexpected. The feelings just came out on wax. It seems that the pain helped her in the creative process.
“If we had not have separated…I did have to through this devastation, but all this beautiful stuff was birthed out of it…I want them [the world] to see how I got through it because there are so many people who deal with what I deal with and don’t know, ‘How do I get from here to there?’ I didn’t know how to get from here to there until I started praying and trying and working. When I was so desperate to figure it out, I figured it out. So all the stuff before of ‘I just can’t figure it out, I’m trying but I never get there.’ Well, if you get broke down and devastated enough, you’ll find your way to a solution. Now that I’ve found it, I really want to share that with the world.”
“All My Trust Has Come Back”: Tina Campbell Says Despite His Cheating, She Loves Teddy, “More Than I Ever Did”
You read that title right.
In a new interview with the ladies over at Sister 2 Sister for their June/July issue, Tina Campbell opened up about the long process she went through to forgive her husband, Teddy, after he cheated on her with multiple women, including a family friend. In this most recent season of Mary Mary, we saw Campbell dealing with the pain of Teddy’s admissions, which he didn’t reveal all at once, but gave her more heartbreaking details over a short period of time. At one point she even said that she tried to stab him when speaking to EBONY about her pain:
“Once I became aware [of the affair], I initially wanted to kill my husband. I was considering adjusting the will, the living trust and all that kind of stuff. I did physically try to stab him. Several times…I never got to the point of physical harm, not really, but my words…My words hurt.”
But she tells Sister 2 Sister that she decided to move forward with the help of her faith and that she fully trusts him again. No snooping for her!
“You want to know the truth? [laughs] All of my trust has come back. I love my husband more than I ever did. I am deeply in love with him. I was just talking to my brother-in-law last night because a lot of my family is even amazed with it. I don’t check on my husband. I don’t check his e-mails. First of all, I’m not that chick. I think too much of myself to be a detective behind some man. And if I’m going to trust you and give you a chance, I’m going to give you a real chance and a real chance is not holding your hand and micromanaging.
Everything I ask my husband, everything I’ve required of my husband through this process, every single thing, he did it. Whatever I asked him, whatever I wanted, whatever I needed… I know every explicit detail of every single thing with every single affair. Every woman can’t handle that, but for me and the stage that I’m gonna be at in my life, I needed to know.
I was tortured. I was tortured dealing with that information, but guess what? I forgave every bit of it, and I love my husband immensely. I love him with all the passion that I have, and I trust him. I believe everything that he told me and I believe in him, and only God can do that.”
When I read this, I could only say “wow,” because the amount of sadness and hurt Tina displayed during this past season of the reality show, I just wouldn’t have expected her to open up and say that she loves him more now than she had before. But kudos to her for not letting her anger eat her up and doing the work with Teddy to salvage their relationship. It isn’t easy…
Check out her full interview with Sister 2 Sister in the new issue, which is on stands now.
“You Stole My Life Away From Me!” Tina Campbell Breaks Down When Speaking On Teddy’s “Countless” Affairs
If you’ve been watching this season of Mary Mary, you already know pretty well about the pain that Tina Campbell has been dealing with after finding out that her husband, Teddy Campbell, stepped out on her while she was touring. However, as the season has gone on, Teddy revealed to not only Tina, but Warren also, that he cheated on her with quite a few women, saying there were “countless affairs.”
In a clip from the upcoming episode, Tina emotionally cracks when speaking on the betrayal, and how it has been made worse by the fact that Teddy keeps withholding the full story about his infidelity and tells her a little bit here, a little bit there. She shared her feelings not with Teddy in the scene, but with Erica, telling her what she wants to tell Teddy:
“You stole my life away from me. I’m angry. Why you gotta do me like this?! I was good to you, man!”
In her anger, she says that she thinks she wants to move on from Teddy.
“I don’t want him. He don’t deserve me. I don’t want him.”
However, it’s the words of her sister that get her to calm down. Erica shares how she got through infidelity in her own relationship (yes, she states it clearly in the new episode):
“You said you’ve never been through this, I have…I’m a tell you how you get better.”
Check out the interesting tip she shared with her sister in the clip below and let us know what you think of the whole scene. It’s quite heartbreaking to watch.
Mary Mary On Dress Controversy: “This Body Blesses My Husband, Which Helps Us Produce Baby Christians”
If conservative Christians thought they were going to slow Mary Mary down after slamming Erica Campbell for the form-fitting white dress she wore in a photo shoot not too long ago they were wrong. Though the gospel singer has already responded to the backlash several times in separate interviews, she shared a few more thoughts with us when we got her and her sister in the office last week. And, of course, Tina had to come to her baby sister’s defense:
“Being confident and feminine is sexy. If we were R&B singers they would say ‘Oh they’re going in a more conservative, wholesome direction,’ but because you’re singing gospel and you’ve got a body it’s a problem. God gave us this body. This body is what blesses my husband, which is what helps us produce baby Christians. What is the problem?”
Well when you put it like that, what is the problem? Check out what else the sisters had to say about being confident, feminine, and sexy Christian women in the video above. What do you think?
“God, I’m Probably Going To Hell.” Tina Campbell Talks Being In A Dark Place & How Her Faith Brought Her Out
By now, you’ve probably heard that Tina Campbell and her husband Teddy are trying to recover from infidelity on his part. While Tina ultimately decided to allow the cameras into her life while they worked on their healing, she said she might have made a different decision if she had known what it was going to entail.
She didn’t realize how broken down she was going to be. In our exclusive interview she speaks about her dark thoughts.
“I think people need to see what real life looks like. It’s not all this ‘Heavenly Father, I’m in a bad way.’ Like I’m probably going to go to hell but before I leave I’m taking some people with me. Either you gon’ help me or this is the way it’s going to be. This is the way I was talking to God because I was in a bad way…it was that bad.”
Tina said initially she thought revenge was the answer. But quickly realized that avenging herself didn’t relieve any of the hurt. And it was then that she decided to get back to her foundation. During this time, where she was studying the Bible and speaking candidly with God that she learned her faith wasn’t as strong as it appeared to be on stage.
Erica also explained how she was there for her sister at this time and how the family came together to help her get through this.
Check out the very real and very moving interview in the video above.
Be sure to tune into WeTV tonight and every Thursday at 9/8c to find out how Tina gets through this situation and what else is going on with the Marys.
Last spring 1/2 of gospel singing duo Mary Mary, Tina Campbell, revealed that her husband, Teddy Campbell, had an extramarital affair.
“Once I became aware [of the affair], I initially wanted to kill my husband,” Tina admitted during an interview with Ebony magazine. “I was considering adjusting the will, the living trust and all that kind of stuff. I did physically try to stab him. Several times…I never got to the point of physical harm, not really, but my words…My words hurt.”
As fate would have it, news of Teddy’s infidelity was revealed around the same time that she and her sister, Erica Campbell, decided to work on solo projects and give Mary Mary a break for a while. This however, is a decision that Erica later admitted to second-guessing.
“I didn’t want to watch my sister go through that,” the “A Little More Jesus” singer told Sister 2 Sister. “Then realizing that it was happening at the same time that I was going solo, it was like, ‘Wow, God, shouldn’t this have happened another way?’”
Though the group’s hiatus and Tina’s relationship troubles seemed to have the absolute worst timing, Erica says she trusts that God is simply testing her sister to make her stronger.
“Sometimes He allows things and it feels like a test but it’s going to make you stronger.”
We can only imagine how hard this all had to be for Tina. Anyone who watches their show on WE tv knows that Tina loves pretty hard. But just like her sister Erica, we’re confident that she’ll pull through.
Catch Erica’s full interview in the March 2014 issue of Sister 2 Sister.