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The Haves and Have Nots star Tika Sumpter recently announced that she is more than seven months pregnant. While good wishes are normally in order, the talented actress received a great deal of criticism about her delayed news. In the midst of the judgment, Sumpter eloquently stated her reasoning for waiting so long to tell the world about her latest blessing.
“She’s my first child, and I wanted to experience every moment of this pregnancy for myself and enjoy it without everybody else being in it with me,” Sumpter told Fit Pregnancy and Baby. “I didn’t want to hear, ‘Who’s the dad? Are you with the dad?’”
I could appreciate the first-time mother, who is expecting a baby girl in October with Haves and Have Nots co-star Nick James according to Bossip.com, releasing a statement about her decision. Still, I was slightly annoyed that she even felt the need to.
Maybe people feel that since she’s in the public eye, they have a right to know every single detail of what’s going on with her, so they get upset when intimate aspects of her life aren’t shared. Or worse, they assume they know why she’s keeping certain things to herself and judge her for her presumed reasoning.
Unfortunately, pregnant celebrities aren’t the only people who fall victim to unsolicited criticism and judgment as soon as they share their pregnancy news. My friends and I have received the same kind of treatment, and it’s usually about when and how the announcement is made.
Regrettably, I was initially part of that group of judge and jurors about five years ago. A friend decided to share her pregnancy at 20 weeks. Now, I always knew that the normal time for women to spill the beans about their baby was the standard 12 weeks (the end of the first trimester and when the chances of a miscarriage drops to about five percent). Because of that, we didn’t understand why she kept her pregnancy private for so long (ironically, she handled her second pregnancy the same way). And even though we were confused by her actions, we didn’t dare question her about it, and she never explained why she did it — not that she had to.
It’s crazy how your perspective changes when you’re in the same situation in which you previously judged. When I became pregnant for the first time years later, I completely understood where my friend was coming from. Although I opted to give an official pregnancy announcement at 12 weeks, I quickly learned that it is at 20 weeks that the loss of a child is considered a stillbirth (whereas before 20 weeks it can still be a huge risk and is indeed considered a miscarriage). Were my friend’s two previous pregnancies considered high risk and is that why she waited five months to say anything? Or was she just a concerned mother? After finding myself in the protective mother role, I realized that she had every right to her privacy, and to go about sharing the news in whatever way she saw fit.
In her Fit Pregnancy and Baby interview, Sumpter stated that she is protective of her family, which contributed to her staying mum about her baby girl. As a mother, I can completely relate. A pregnant woman, especially if it’s their first child, has so many worries, fears and anxiety surrounding her pregnancy that the last thing she should deal with is criticism aimed at how she is handling it.
Regardless of the reasoning behind someone not sharing something as personal as welcoming a child into the world as soon as they know, people on the outside have no right to that knowledge — public figure or not. If you weren’t part of creating that child and won’t have any part in raising that child, then your expectations should be lowered. Your judgments should be kept to yourself, lest you find yourself in a similar situation and have to deal with the same negativity. Instead of dictating how someone else should handle their special moments, try celebrating with them. Or better yet, make an even greater effort to keep your commentary to yourself.
Human beings are nosy. That’s why when someone tells us something — anything — we instantly want to know more. You’re engaged — when’s the wedding? You’re moving — where to? You’re beefing with somebody — what’d they do? You’re pregnant — who’s the daddy? Whoops.
That last question there is why Tika Sumpter chose not to go public with her pregnancy until two months before her due date, but in giving us some tidbits about her relationship in Fit Pregnancy did she actually do more damage?
And what about Brandy and Monica? The decades-old bad blood between the two has risen to the surface again, but no one is talking about what really happened. Is the slight shade played?
Join in with the editors of MadameNoire as we discuss these topics and what we would do if we were in Solange’s shoes and a white person told us to sit down at a venue in this episode of Did Y’all See?
We shared with you the other day that Tika Sumpter told Fit Pregnancy and Baby the reason she waited quite some time to spill the beans on her pregnancy is because she wanted to enjoy it without having to deal with nosy people.
“She’s my first child, and I wanted to experience every moment of this pregnancy for myself and enjoy it without everybody else being in it with me,” Sumpter said. “I didn’t want to hear, ‘Who’s the dad? Are you with the dad?’ Social media can be harsh, and I’m a mama bear, protective of my family. So that’s why I waited to tell people, including some friends.”
Well, if she was hoping to keep some things private about her personal life, it’s not going to happen. People have already done their own investigation and say that Sumpter’s The Haves and the Have Nots co-star, Nick James, is her boyfriend and the father of her daughter. Bossip stated that sources who know both actors confirmed the news to them, and even called her child a “swirly seed.”
From there, the less than positive comments came flooding in, even on Sumpter’s social media. She responded by basically saying that she’s not seeking validation on how to live her life from strangers “who need a big hug.”
This is probably the sort of criticism she was hoping to avoid at the beginning of her pregnancy when she was looking to celebrate it and get her mind right. Really, can you blame her?
We told you back in July that actress Tika Sumpter surprised a lot of people when she stepped out for an AKA induction ceremony. And no, it wasn’t because she was becoming an honorary AKA, but rather, because she was very pregnant. She revealed the next month that she is indeed expecting her first child, and early next month, she is scheduled to give birth. The question some had was why she waited so long to say anything (“some” being people who don’t understand how the whole privacy thing works…), so she decided to be open about her hesitancy in an interview with Fit Pregnancy and Baby.
“She’s my first child, and I wanted to experience every moment of this pregnancy for myself and enjoy it without everybody else being in it with me,” Sumpter stated, before sharing that she didn’t want to deal with a long line of questions from the public. The “public” even included some of her friends.
“I didn’t want to hear, ‘Who’s the dad? Are you with the dad?'” the 36-year-old actress explained, as the Internet has already started claiming it’s her Haves and Have Nots co-star Nick James. “Social media can be harsh, and I’m a mama bear, protective of my family. So that’s why I waited to tell people, including some friends.”
Sumpter said that she found out she was pregnant around Valentine’s Day. After having a crazy craving for some McDonald’s during a surprise trip to San Diego with her beau, she caught the itis when she finished her meal and was out cold.
“Afterward, I immediately fell asleep,” the actress recounted. “When I woke up, my boyfriend was like, ‘Ha-ha! Are you pregnant?’ I said, ‘Maybe. Go get a test!’ He brought back a generic-brand test, and right away it said positive. I could not comprehend it. So I said, ‘Go get a name-brand test!’ He did, and that one said yes too.”
Sumpter still has the stick, which she had to show to her mother who didn’t believe the news initially.
“One of the first questions my mother asked when she found out I was pregnant was, ‘Are you going to get married?’ I’d love to, but maybe in a year or so. I’ve been with my boyfriend for more than a year and a half.”
Sumpter continued: “Our relationship is not dependent on a ring. I love him to death, and he loves me to death, and that’s all that matters to me.”
But she admitted that the opinion of her boss, Tyler Perry, also mattered to her, as she was scared to tell him she was expecting at one point.
“It’s hard to be pregnant, because you get scared about your job. I even felt worried about telling my agent and manager. Then when I was five months, Tyler Perry texted me, ‘Are you pregnant?’ Inside, I was thinking, ‘Oh, my god, how did he know?’ I wrote back, ‘What are you talking about? You’re crazy!’ But when I saw him that afternoon, I told him. He just said, ‘I knew it! Tika, this is going to be the best time of your life.’ I feel lucky that he’s been so supportive.”
Check out Sumpter’s full interview over at Fit Pregnancy and Baby, including how she’s handling cravings, rejecting guilt, being open to a natural birth, and how she dealt with a fibroid growing during her pregnancy.
Most of us are aware of the new romantic dramedy, Southside with You. It stars Tika Sumpter as a young Michelle Robinson and Parker Sawyers as Barack Obama. The film, written and directed by Richard Tanne, chronicles the couple’s first date. It’s an adorable movie that led me to think about five things we might be able to take away for ourselves when it comes to first dates, all from watching the very beginning of this iconic couple’s relationship.
1. Attraction can be subtle.
In the beginning of the movie, we watch a fictional Michelle get ready for her day with Barack. She lotions and powders and picks at her hair, all while claiming she isn’t interested in the man she’s about to meet up with. It so subtle, but these small gestures might indicate that there’s a bit more attraction there than we’d like to admit to ourselves. Pay attention.
2. First dates can be awkward.
What I loved about Southside with You was the way the couple spoke about things that were both deeply personal as well as cultural/societal. This felt so reminiscent of my own first dates. But those conversations also included the awkward moments, disagreements, and even silence that comes with learning about one another. That’s okay. If you let awkwardness be an acceptable feeling, it frees you up to discover other more interesting feelings (like chemistry). A little bit of awkwardness is a good sign.
3. First dates are great; sober dates are amazing.
It’s easy to meet up for drinks, have too many, and find the hours go by quickly. With every beverage, your lips might get looser, and your laugh might get a bit louder. Though drinking dates are super fun and can result in lifelong relationships, it’s far more telling when you lose track of time on a date while you’re completely sober. I’m not a mathematician, but I think a two-hour sober date is the equivalent of a four-hour date during happy hour, and you can remember everything that happened the next morning.
4. It’s okay to be unconvinced.
One of my favorite things about Southside with You is that fictional Michelle was pretty unimpressed with the future president throughout the movie. She even called him out when he seemed to be posturing and jockeying for her affections. So often, we’re told to bite our tongues, laugh when the joke isn’t funny, and tuck less agreeable parts of ourselves away to snag a man. I believe the right man reveals himself in time. You don’t have to be convinced of anything after the first date except for whether or not you’re looking for a second date, and you’re allowed to be honest about your reservations.
5. Shirk the rules if it feels right.
We have rules about kissing. We have rules about texting first, staying too long, and being too vulnerable. Those rules keep us safe, but sometimes they limit how open we might be to something real. If it feels right, lean in for the kiss. If you think it’s worth it, send the first text, or share the vulnerable story. In the case of Michelle and Barack, you never know where it could lead…
Patia Braithwaite is a freelance writer based in New York City. To hear more about her first dates: www.menmyselfandgod.com. She Tweets and ‘Grams occasionally @pdotbrathw8
When you think about it, there’s not much we know about Tika Sumpter’s personal life. The 36-year-old does her work and then lives her life outside of the limelight. And while we love to be in everybody’s business, we have to respect her right to privacy as well as her decision to keep her personal life personal.
But there are some things—or someONES you can’t hide forever. Over the weekend, Sumpter became an honorary AKA along with Judy Smith, the woman who the character Olivia Pope is based on, Breast Cancer advocate Karen Eubanks Johnson, Ambassador Susan Denise Page and U.S. Deputy Surgeon General Sylvia-Trent Adams.
Still, that’s not what people were talking about. It was Tika’s baby bump that was all the rage.
Her Real Talk came through with a pretty telling image.
I saw this image first and, while it certainly looks like she’s expecting, I figured it could have been an optical illusion. Perhaps she was standing an odd angle. The light caught her dress the wrong way. She was bloated. Anything.
Then I saw these pictures. And it became even harder to deny.
— Sherelle R. Pierre (@sherellerpierre) July 10, 2016
— Shelby (@Model_KonduKt) July 10, 2016
Congratulations are in order for this young lady! Hopefully she’ll be more willing to share images of what we’re sure will be a beautiful baby.
It’s been quite some time since we heard that Tika Sumpter and Parker Sawyers would take on the roles of Barack Obama and Michelle Robinson, before they were recognized as the powerful First Couple that we know and love today.
Finally, a first look of Southside With You has been released and it looks too good to miss! Written and directed by Richard Tanne, the film chronicles the early courtship of the dynamic duo before Sasha and Malia were a thought and American would welcome its first African American First Family.
In the teaser clip we see a young Barack working as a summer associate at a law firm on the South Side of Chicago muster up the confidence to ask then young attorney Michelle out on a date.
“I was only ever looking to tell the story of the first date. And I think that, in order to just capture that moment in time, it was important to take into account everything in their lives only up until that point. Because to consider the events that came after would almost be somehow winking or nodding at what was to come. And I just wanted to make this about that one moment in time,” Tanne told Yahoo Movies.
Southside with You premieres at Sundance Film Festival Sunday, Jan. 24.
With an average of 237,868 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year, according to the U.S. Department of Justice. National Crime Victimization Survey, Atlanta Mayor Kasim Reed wants change.
How does he plan to see that change come about? Reed is asking not just women but men to “Take a Stand,” and spread the word that sexual assault is not just a women’s issue. According to the city of Atlanta’s website, the “Take a Stand” campaign “offers resources to both women and men on how to guard their personal safety or get help quickly in the event of an emergency.”
Mayor Reed recently did an interview with The Huffington Post, explaining just how important it is that men play a part in the prevention of rape by simply spreading the word. “We can change the tone of the conversation by just emphasizing the fact among our friends that no actually means no. It doesn’t mean to try to persuade harder,” Reed said.
He also noted that his strong team keeps him up on women’s issues. “It really was listening to women leaders who said the traditional tactics aren’t moving us in the direction that we want to move in,” he explained.
Both Uber and Circle of 6 are official partners of the initiative and are offering their services as resources for assault prevention and safety.
Celebrities like Tika Sumpter and Gabrielle Union have also partnered with Reed and the city of Atlanta to spread the word about the “Take a Stand” campaign.
Watch Tika’s “Take a Stand” video above.
If you’ve read President Obama’s autobiography, or seen of he and Michelle’s television appearances, especially around the time of his reelection campaign, you know about the First Couple’s first kiss.
In case you’ve somehow missed the story, he told O Magazine in 2007:
“On our first date, I treated her to the finest ice cream Baskin-Robbins had to offer, our dinner table doubling as the curb. I kissed her, and it tasted like chocolate.”
Is it just me, or was there a little double entendre there?
Either way, the story has become so popular and so sentimental, that there was plaque placed at the spot where the two shared their first kiss.
And now, according to Variety, the couple’s first date will be turned into a romance drama. The film, called Southside with You, will star Parker Sawyers as a young Barack and Tika Sumpter as Michelle Obama, then Robinson.
Ice cream wasn’t the only part of their date, the soon-to-be couple also visited the Art Institute of Chicago, took a walk and then saw Spike Lee’s Do The Right Thing.
They made a whole day of it.
Sawyers recently completed a role in Snowden and is about to shoot The Autopsy of Jane Doe.
Richard Tanne will serve as screenwriter and director for the project. Glendon Palmer, who executive produced for Jumping The Broom, will also do so on this project with Tracey Bing, among others.
Shooting for the film is set to start in August.
You can watch Barack and Michelle Obama talk about their first date in this video below. It’s pretty adorable.
We’ve already told you all how excited we are about the new HBO biopic Bessie, starring Queen Latifah in the lead role as the famed Blues singer and entertainer. And as we near the May 16 air date, more and more information about the cast and film keep popping up. And while we thought it was going to be good with the little information we’d been given earlier; now, we’re almost certain that this tv movie will be one to remember.
Not only has HBO released the trailer for the film, they’ve also included character spots from the very talented actors who will take part in the project including Tika Sumpter, who plays one of Bessie’s love interests, Michael Kenneth Williams, her overbearing husband Jack Gee, Khandi Alexander, her embittered older sister Viola and Mo’Nique, her mentor (and perhaps lover) Ma Rainey.
Meet the characters and the director Dee Rees on the following pages. Then watch the teaser for the film at the end.