From HelloBeautiful.com

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I just read an article and you answered a question if you wanted to know if your male mate was gay. I liked how you answered the lady with the famous athlete question. I would like to know if you can answer mines.

Ok, my son’s father makes me think he has some tendencies of being gay or bi- curious. I was wondering if he is just lost in his sexuality of knowing what he wants. He has dated many women in his life and always maintains or keeps one. But, he cheats with many women and that’s why I’m not with him now.

But, the reason for me thinking of him being gay is because he likes looking at naked men private parts, but tries to be funny about it. He loves for a woman to play around his anal area during sexual intercourse. He wanted to take my dildo toy home after we had sex. He also makes funny statements sometimes as in, “I love Jay-Z and I will give him 0-ral sex.”

I was just wondering if his dating so many women and always cheating on them is a cover-up to him hiding his homosexuality? I am wondering and wanted to know so I can help him so he won’t keep hurting women, especially if that’s not where his heart truly is. Thank you for your time, but I truly do need your help. – I Think My Son’s Father Is Gay

Check out whether Terrence Dean, a.k.a. the gay best friend, confirmed this woman’s suspicions on HelloBeautiful.com.

More on Madame Noire!

• Bet You Didn’t Know: Secrets Behind The Making of School Daze
• They’ve Got a Story To Tell: Celebs Who Went From Top Ramen to Top Dollar
• If I Wanted to Deal With Kids, I’d Have My Own: A Letter to Parents Who Think Everyone Loves Their Kid as Much as They Do
• Let’s Talk, Ladies: Are You Afraid Of The “S” Word?
• My Story: For Colored Girls Who’ve Considered Suicide When the Law Couldn’t Protect Them From Incest
• Evening Eye Candy: NFL Baller Ray Edwards
• HALF ON A BABY: The Top 7 Ways You’ll Know He’s Ready For Kids

From HelloBeautiful.com

Dear Gay Best Friend,

Eight months ago I began dating the boy, because he is far from a man, that I absolutely loved in high school. His friends were my friends and they decided to hook us up. We never went on an official date, never had the honeymoon phase of the “relationship,” and I never understood that those were stages that most people had when beginning a relationship because I’d never had a “real” one without cheating.

Time rolls by, he would call every Saturday, and I liked that. We both worked throughout the week, so I didn’t mind him not calling or text throughout. When we hit the “relationship” stage I had to ask if we were a couple. When Friday night came around I would have to ask did he want to do anything with me.

Now, let me describe him for you. He was thirty years old. He lived at home with his mama. I could understand that because I live at home too because of student loans. But, he lived at home because his ex put him out. I didn’t know the story at the time and continued to TRY to see the good in him when I found out.

He did not have a car!!! I thought it was because of his wreck he had, which turned out to be a DUI and he had a suspended license. I still stayed.

He was a horrible boyfriend! We never went out period, unless drinking was involved. I would text him, no reply. Then I would stop texting he would say, “What’s wrong with you, haven’t heard from you in a while.” I got to the point where I started cheating, I didn’t sleep with any of them, and doing things alone or with other people, then he would call and text a billion times “What you doing?” I would tell him the truth, because I would ask him first to do the things with me.

I stopped cheating on him and about the fourth month we began to have sex. Can you say, WTH!!!! I thought it was my fault that the sex was bad, but um…no! I still stayed because when we did see each other, (sometimes once a week even a month and we stayed five minutes away from each other) we would be great. He started off saying he loved me and I was a deer in head lights. I would say it back but not mean it in that type of way. My family was going through deaths and sickness, and you would think you could call and rely on your man. Child please!!!. He would be fishing and playing basketball with his friends.

To sum all this nonsense up: He was broke. Never spent time with me unless we were drinking, always with his friends, and when I say always I mean 6 days out the week, you knew it rained the seventh day because he would be at home. He drunk too much, lied about what days he worked and didn’t work.

I finally woke up the eighth month and give him a list of choices, and when I say list I mean typed and copied and handed it to him. Choice one: Break up. Choice two: Get serious about us. Choice three: Stay the way we are and I will cheat and you don’t get that privilege because you are happy being unhappy. He decided to stop speaking to me. Meaning he cussed and fussed to his friends and completely avoided me. My friend said I had the right to do it but I need to sit down and talk with him to see if we could work it out. I think she’s dumb because she’s taking care of a sorry nergo and always crying.

My question to you, am I wrong for caring about myself and giving him ultimatums or was I wrong and seemed selfish and not caring about the “relationship” and his nonexistent feelings. -Ms. I Come First

Check out what Terrence Dean, a.k.a., the gay best friend has to say about her decision at HelloBeautiful.com.

More on Madame Noire!

• What Happened? 7 Popular Artists Who Went MIA At The Peak of Their Fame
• The Unnecessary Attack on Alicia Keys’ Body: When Bragging On Your Wife Goes Wrong
• Build-Up Ain’t Cute: 5 Things You Should Know About Dandruff
• Evening Eye Candy: Delicious Model BJ Williams
• Where You Been Kim Coles?
• Jealous? Why You Should Be At Peace With Yourself Before Entering A Relationship
• Where Are They Now? Kids From a Few of Our Favorite Black TV Shows

From Hello Beautiful.com.

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I don’t know where to begin, but I need your advice on where to go from here. So here’s the story.

I have been in a relationship with this man for four years. Two years into the relationship, he proposed marriage which I proudly accepted. However, throughout our relationship I NEVER met anyone face to face, nor via phone from his family — no kids, no friends, no church family. NO ONE! I constantly questioned this, but was always told that since these loved ones lived in another state it was difficult to get them all together. So, I let it go.

Anyway, the wedding planning was taking place quite smoothly, yet there were times when I constantly had to nag him for his list of guests and their addresses. Needless to say that he NEVER came through with a complete list for me. Yet, he told me that all of his guests knew all the pertinent wedding information.

Now, on to the good part. Two days before the wedding, he tells me that his mom (who lives in another state) became very ill and was hospitalized in intensive care. Therefore, he told me that some family members would not be attending the wedding. The very next day, he claimed that there was NO change in his mother’s condition and that more of his family members would not be attending and he was thinking of going to see his mom also. So, I responded with, “I understand your feelings for your mom, but how do we handle all the other guests and family that have traveled for this big day?” Well, the next day comes around, (which is the wedding day), and I get two calls that morning. First, he called and said that his mom took a turn for the worse. Then the second call, (an hour later from the first), he called and said that his mom had die. So, I immediately jumped into action by going to him to console him for his loss and to try to arrange for him to leave at some point that day to meet other family members to handle arrangements for his mom. While all of this is going on, I called around to tell all the other guests the news and that we would be delaying the ceremony for an hour so that the groom could get himself together, and he would be leaving right after the ceremony.

While guests are arriving to the church they find the church locked and no one inside. Out from nowhere the groundskeeper appears and asked why the guests are there? They responded they were there for a wedding. The groundskeeper informs them no wedding was set to take place. After many phone calls back and forth between my guests, the groundskeeper, and my potential groom it was discovered that the groom NEVER asked his pastor to officiate our wedding, nor did he book the church for the wedding. By that time it seemed to me, and others, that he simply DID NOT want to get married, aside from the grief he was suffering from losing his mother, which looked suspect after finding out the truth about the “locked” church. So, it was confirmed two days later that the groom lied about his mother’s death because he wanted to cover up the fact of NOT completing his wedding task as he should have. He claims he failed to do his part of the planning and came up with all these lies because he was scared and afraid that I would leave him for being lazy and procrastinating. I was devastated and humiliated beyond belief that I could have been left at the altar like that. To this day, this man constantly calls and asks for forgiveness and another chance at love with me. But, why would I even want to give him an ounce of my time? Am I being too harsh to someone that I undoubtedly truly did love? Or, should I just admit that I deserve better and let him and his deceitfulness go elsewhere? – The Jilted Bride

Find out what the gay best friend, Terrence Dean, has to say about this at HelloBeautiful.com.

More on Madame Noire!

• Ask a Very Smart Brotha Live: Dealing With His Crazy Baby Mother & Can You Get Over Wack Sex?
• The Thrill is Gone: 7 TV Shows That Need To Call It Quits…Like Yesterday
• Giving You The Best That I Got: 7 Signs You Might Be Giving Too Much In Your Relationship
• Where You Been Cherie Johnson?
• Grieving Over a Girlfriend: 7 Ways to Move on After a Break-up…Between Friends
• Why I Think Natural Hair is Indeed a Political Statement
• Well, Hiya To You! Shouting Out Some Of Our Favorite Black Imports From Britain

Source: HelloBeautiful.com

From HelloBeautiful.com

Dear Gay Best Friend,

I’ve been in a relationship with a man for the past 7 years and we have a son together. His family has never been supportive of our relationship and they don’t like me. Though we’ve been together for so long, and I don’t like some of his ways, he has made some changes and has enrolled in college and stopped hanging out every night. But, there are things that haven’t changed like him wanting to play around online and texting other females behind my back, and making a fool out of me.

I’ve dealt with lies, dishonesty, and just straight games with this man. Every time I think our relationship has reached another level and think that things between us has gotten better, I will find out that he is online talking to other women, and finding numbers and text messages from random women in his phone. I have been more than a good woman to him. I have showed him nothing but compassion, love, honesty, faithfulness, and loyalty. What have I received in a return is a bunch of lies and games and I’m so done.

I forgive him time and time again, and thought he changed. He says he is in love with me and only wants to be with me and he says he wants to get married. But, I feel that its all about actions and his actions shows otherwise. – Tired Of Waiting

Find out what the gay best friend, Terrence Dean, has to say about this situation at HelloBeautiful.com. 

More on Madame Noire!

• Don’t Lie, You Were Jamming Too: 7 Singers & Groups We Used to Get Made Fun Of For Listening To
• Bump a Book of Rules: Love Is Not That Complicated
• Ask a Very Smart Brotha Live: Lying on the Equipment & Being Friend Zoned
• Same Ish, Different Year: Do We Still Need the BET Awards?
• No Need To Call Tyrone: 7 Ways To Bow Out Of A Relationship Gracefully
• Madame On the Street: How Long Should You Wait to Have Sex?
• Dayummm…They Look Good For Their Age: Celebs Who Prove That Black Don’t Crack

You’re loving your man, he’s loving you. Things couldn’t be any better, except… for that treacherous ex of his. Now that he’s gone she realizes how she messed up and is trying tirelessly to get him back in her life, all while ignoring the fact that he’s in a committed relationship with you.

This is the case for one of the readers over at Hello Beautiful.com.

Find out what the “Gay Best Friend” aka Terrence Dean had to say about her dilemma and how she should move forward, here.

More on Madame Noire!

• Seriously, What’s With All the Overly Aggressive Men in the Club Nowadays?
• Evening Eye Candy: Actor Jason Momoa
• Sexual Health Myths Even Adults Believes
• Say Cheese! Unfortunate Yet Unforgettable Celebrity Mug Shots
• 8 Signs The Guy You’re Messing With Is NOT a Grown A** Man
• Close Call! Actors Who ALMOST Played A Few Surprising Roles…
• Want Kids? See What Mother’s Wish They Knew Before Starting A Family…
• Somebody Come Get This Fool: Bow Wow Reveals Celeb Chicks He Slept With