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When I first heard about StayGo, an app that helps you decide whether or not you should stay with your partner, I was single. Like, painfully single. I was too busy using Tinder to think about using StayGo, so I thought of a few friends who might benefit from trying the app. One of them was going through a divorce and the other was happily married. I thought it would be both cruel and entertaining to see what kind of feedback they got from the app. But, as always happens when I’m being a little petty, an ex-boyfriend came back into my life and turned it upside down. Suddenly, I needed to use the app.
At a different time in my life, I thought he was my soul mate. Sometimes, when it was really quiet and we were lying in bed together, I could hear his thoughts before he spoke them (they were often about food cravings). We were on and off from ages 16 to 27, and last week he popped back into my 32-year-old life as if he’d never left. I found myself on a park bench one afternoon, holding his hand and laying my head on his shoulder as if it we were still two high school kids with no place to go.
It’s sort of amazing how the body remembers. It’s shocking that, with all the time that passes, the heart can still quicken when the love of your
life teens and 20s touches your hand. Still, things have changed between us. He’s in a committed relationship, and I’ve raised my standards. But as we sat together, I couldn’t help but wonder if there was an opportunity for us in the present.
So, I decided to use the StayGo app on myself.
Now I’d like to point out that, no matter what the app would tell me, I’m not a homewrecker. I’m not in the business of dating men in committed relationships, and I don’t intend to start now. That said, I decided to use myself because the heart distorts memory and makes everything appear softer. In the cloud of nostalgia, I wondered if perhaps we could have a different life together. In the cloud of nostalgia, my good sense was being silenced. Mostly, in this cloud of nostalgia, I was heartbroken all over again. I felt I’d lost something I know deep down I’m not supposed to have.
Most of us, when faced with these relationship questions, ask our friends. If our friends are honest, they tell us to get a grip. If our friends are as flawed as we are, they might give us less objective advice. StayGo is supposed to circumvent bad advice because it’s an app developed by behavioral psychologists. You fill in your information, (including your relationship status, which can range from married to “hooking up”), then, the app prompts you to answer a series of questions about almost every aspect of your relationship (from communication to sexual activity). It asks you to imagine what your friends might think of your relationship and forces you to consider your own values (where do you see yourself in five years and what aspects of relationships are most important to you?). The entire questionnaire takes about 15 minutes to work through, and in the end, you’re given an SG Score with a bit of advice.
My score was a 49 out of 100, and, quite accurately said, “There are lots of red flags, but you already know that. If you want to make this relationship work it will take lots of effort on both parties.” Then, a little further down it said, “…you should ask yourself why you expect so little from this relationship.”
And right there, in black and white, I had the answer I already knew existed. If I wanted more from a relationship, as I claimed, I couldn’t go back. This person is not (nor has he ever been) for me.
Overall, I thought the app was cool because it forced me to ponder tough questions. Before the app calculated my score, the questions I was being prompted to answer already let me know that a relationship with this person wasn’t what I wanted again. I was forced to admit that sometimes the sex was not fulfilling and that I never felt fully supported emotionally. I was forced to quantify my satisfaction, and before I got the score, I knew I was coming up short.
It made the truth stronger than the nostalgia.
For those of you in committed relationships, StayGo has a tracker that allows you to chart your satisfaction over time. There are even graphs that I guess tell you when you’re happy (I don’t really know). You can also do the questionnaire as many times as you’d like for different folks, so if you’re choosing between two people, it could be helpful. Mostly though, I think we all have the right answers in our own hearts. StayGo, and other technologies, might just make it clearer for us to access what we already know.
Patia Braithwaite is a relationship writer from New York City. You can find out more about her @ www.menmyselfandgod.com. She also tweets occasionally @pdotbrathw8.
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Initially when I heard about the newest emoji app, EmojiMom the only reaction I could summon was an eye roll and sarcastic laugh. All I could think was, “Is this really necessary? Honestly. Truly.” As a mom to a 30-something-spirited toddler, and friend to moms of children whom also seem to have walked the earth before, I feel so far removed from the initial luster, and allure of the adventures of motherhood. Don’t get me wrong, I love my daughter, and if I could do things over, I’d still be writing this with the same sentiments. Being a mom is great, but when you’re three years in, that sparkly-eyed, gushy feeling of a first time mom has faded.
Creators of EmojiMom, Sarah Robinson, Natalie Ralston and Hannah Hudson set out to create a funny and entertaining way for parents to communicate their daily ups and downs of raising their family. From a thread of group texts, the new moms haphazardly birthed the idea of mom centered emjoi’s. Through growing children, and full-time jobs, eventually these women had a working model for what initially seemed like a good idea only in theory.
In an interview with Babble Robinson said, “Suddenly, it dawned on us, why are there no emojis to describe what we’re going through and what it feels like? Like millions of other people, we loved unicode emoji, and used them constantly, but the yellow crying face just was not up to the task of conveying the feeling of spilling oh-so-painstakingly pumped milk, nor was the smiley face really expressing what it felt like when your baby smiled for the first time.” With 250 emjoi’s under their belt, EmojiMom has come to life.
It wasn’t until I saw these mom-centered emoji’s that I realized how much of a necessity they truly are. With painstakingly realistic depictions, Hannah, Natalie, and Sarah have created emoji’s like a peeing toddler for those potty training woes, celebratory “slept all night” medallions, and a very pregnant woman counting down the hours, and minutes to tee time.
For me, EmojiMom brings back nearly forgotten joys and frustrations of the journey to parenthood. After all it was only a year ago, that I sat at my computer, pumping breastmilk while my daughter napped. It wasn’t much further off that I had wrapped my baby shower, and got my daughter’s crib set up, well before my due date. The month to follow was torture, as I felt I was growing bigger by the minute. Not to mention, seeing all of my daughter’s clothes and toys all set up, made me anxious to finally have her in my arms.
These social pioneers took a silly idea, and turned it into something to help all moms get through bleeding nipples, sleepless nights, and diaper bombs with some humor. In addition to bringing a laugh to a tough day, the founders of EmojiMom also want to incite unity, and a sense of understanding for mom experiencing things less talked about after childbirth. In her interview with Babble Sarah went on to say, “There is a lot about motherhood that is not talked about, particularly around what some women go through during pregnancy, labor, and postpartum, by putting those things out there in a funny way, we hope that we can help women feel like someone gets what they’re going through.”
In time, creators hope to expand their market to more dad-centered emojis, as well as emojis for parents with older children. Have you struggled to accurately express your facial expression through text, when you baby missed their diaper and got your shirt? Maybe you can’t accurately explain the defeat in spilling even the slightest drop of breastmilk. Head to the Apple App store now to download your EmojiMom keyboard for $1.99.
Comment below and let us know which emoji best describes your #momlife.
New moms find themselves trying to keep up with the demands of their newborn and other day-to-day operations…on little to no sleep. It’s challenging but not impossible. One way to keep up your energy — and receive much needed endorphins to relax you — is with a good workout. Here are some fitness gadgets and accessories to consider.
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This past weekend, I realized that I am at a place of burnout. I’ve been unmotivated to do any work, and no matter how much sleep I get the night before, I still feel exhausted. I haven’t been able to finish the book I’ve been reading, no matter how good and suspenseful it is. My attire has been reduced to a combination of T-shirts with jeans, T-shirts with sweatpants, or T-shirts with leggings. My eating habits have included handfuls of pretzels, chips, candy, cakes and cookies that have created a bit of fluff in my midsection. Basically, I’m a mess right now.
When I stopped to reflect on what was causing this, I realized that technology played a huge part in my rut. There’s this need to feel connected, and there’s nothing like mobile technology to create an exhausting sense of urgency in one’s life. Allow me to explain.
Each morning, when I wake up, there’s a short moment of peace. It’s immediately interrupted by a great flow of Slack alerts, responses, and work conversations. There’s a massive load of emails, mostly junk, and the more I delete, the more they seem to appear. There’s the daily aggravation of balancing life and work, and most days, I just want to pack up and leave it all behind. Phone, laptop, everything. But I recently came to the conclusion that I needed a break one morning after realizing that I didn’t charge my phone the previous night. By morning, it was already on 10 percent. Because my work days are so hectic, only having 10 percent of battery life usually would’ve driven me up the wall, and I would have made a mad dash for my charger. But this time, it died…and I had no desire to charge it.
I left my phone off for a day because I needed peace and rest. I needed to separate myself from the very thing that consumed most of my time. With freelancing, I spend most of my day surfing the web for trending topics, breaking news, or ideas that would be ideal for the platforms I write for. I then have to pitch those ideas to groups via my mobile phone and await feedback. Imagine me and about 30 other people in a single network doing the same thing. It’s notification overload from sun up to sun down. Buzzing, vibrating, pinging all day and night. I try to focus on one thing, but I’m getting alerts for another thing. And then once a piece is published, I have to log into my social media accounts for self-promotion, and then the notifications letting me know people are reading and commenting on my work is all day and at random. So I decided that I had to shut my phone off.
I didn’t Google search articles and tips on how to motivate myself or how to get out of the rut that I was in. I just finally let myself sit in it for a day and promised myself that I wouldn’t let my next day be the same. So during that time without my phone disturbing and interrupting my peace, I slept, got over some work humps, watched TV, slept some more, went for a walk, listened to music in the dark and read a book. I made the day about myself and not what I had to do for others. I just needed a mental escape because I was utterly drained. So, for once, I hit the reset button, and I think I want to start implementing this into my self-care days once a week. In that one day, I realized how much technology consumes me and how I need to be more conscious of the way I manage it so that I can slow down, relax the immediate sense of urgency placed on everything, and recalibrate–for the sake of my own mental health.
Ever had one of those moments when you realize exactly how much you don’t know about a topic? This happened to me the other day when a friend shared a post she’d written entitled ‘What 29,000 Girls Taught Me About Tech.’ I was shocked by the high number of girls involved in technology; and to be more honest, surprised that girls are learning tech. Not because they’re girls, but because I associated it with something that people learn in college. Perhaps it’s a world that I’m not privy to because my daughters are just four and six-years-old, but reading this article definitely opened my eyes and got me wondering at what age I should consider getting them involved? In this ever-changing society we live in no one wants to be the last one on the boat.
So to bring me up to speed, I decide to call Keesa Schreane, tech speaker, blogger, analytic marketer, friend and author of the above-mentioned article. Here’s what she shared. Consider it a mom’s guide to girls in tech or “Girls in Tech for Mummies.”
Mommynoire: What’s your experience with girls in the tech world?
Keesa Schreane: My primary volunteer work is with Black Girls Code and the Girl Scouts who are focused on Science Technology Engineering in Math (STEM) in their day-to-day curriculum in school. I feel like children should have strategies to understand the different careers, so I’m helping these girls to understand the options that are out there. I’ve been doing it for 5 years.
What should a mom know about STEM?
I would recommend doing your research in a particular city. Kimberly Bryant is the founder of Black Girls Code and she started this organization to make the world a better place for her daughter who was interested in the STEM area. There are also other organizations like Girls Who Code, Coder Dojo, which I’m learning more about, and the Girl Scouts.
What are the girls learning?
At one of the Girls Who Code events I went to over the summer the girls were learning how to build a video game. It was a full day event. We had the right materials, the right teachers with coding backgrounds, as well as volunteers who didn’t code, but are there for moral support. The girls may not build the biggest, best game in one day, but they have the foundation of how to build and even better than that they have exposure. They also learn teamwork.
What else can they learn?
There are different coding classes that are taught in high school and college. For example, Python coding, you can even learn online. What we do is help girls understand what a career looks like in a STEM field. Here’s a woman who has a PhD who chose the scientific field for her career, what is her day-to-day like at a company or as an entrepreneur? Learning coding is great, but the true value is exposing them to women who have chosen careers so they can determine if they like it for themselves.
At what age should we start exposing our kids to the tech field?
Children like playing with iphones, naturally, so they kind of expose themselves. If they’re playing with your phone, play some games. See what they find interesting.
Some moms are anti-game because of the addiction factor. How do we know which games are good for our kids?
I’d reach out to organizations like the Girl Scouts or Black Girls Code to see what steps they’d recommend you take given your child’s age. They’re experts in the field.
Life can get quite hectic. Many of us are juggling full-time jobs, graduate school, side hustles, social lives and of course, dating. Unfortunately, schedules that packed rarely afford you the time to keep your BFFs completely up to date regarding the details of your love life, which makes it difficult for them to give helpful input when you call on them for advice. Deciphering that text message for you or helping you determine whether or not you’re wasting your time with this new guy or girl will be challenging because they don’t really know the back story.
Thankfully, technology has provided a solution to this problem. There’s a new app on the market called WhoNow, which basically allows you to keep your inner circle in the loop regarding the latest happenings of your love life. The app allows you to post updates about your relationships, situationships and hookups that are only visible to your approved friends. You can also share photos and details about that new guy or girl you may be dating, and of course, inform your circle when things don’t work out with a particular person.
Oh, and if you’re looking for advice, WhoNow also has a commenting feature called “Anonymous Hotline,” which allows you to anonymously solicit advice for some of your burning relationship questions. You are also able to adjust the feature’s settings depending on whether or not you’d like your question to be visible to just your friends or any WhoNow user. Either way, all of your hotline posts will be anonymous.
According to WhoNow developers, the purpose of the app is not to have everyone all up in your business, but to make girls like you and I better daters.
“Dating is very hard these days and people are dating for different reasons. By asking for feedback and advice on your dating life, not only on the person that you’re dating, but on what you’re doing, you can have more successful relationships,” WhoNow CEO Austin Cohen told Glamour in a statement.
WhoNow is available for download for both iPhones and Androids. Do this sound like an app you’d be interested in checking out?
As a busy media professional and mom to a super adventurous 5 year-old, I have to be mindful about all of my tech tools and gadgets. To a prying eye – there are so many things to discover within all of my devices. The checklist: In my personal and professional arsenal I have a desktop computer, a year-old laptop, a tablet, a super chic smartphone, plus a mobile Wi-Fi on deck. With so much information on the line, it is important that I keep my devices and information, which includes, but is not limited to – passwords and pictures totally protected at all times.
Digital fraud is so big now. Because of that, I realize that I have to be more careful about hackers and spammers who can invade my digital life. A week ago, I was at techie friends home having lunch. While talking about internet safety she introduced me to her Bitdefender BOX. I was totally clueless about the product. Cute packaging for sure – but what did that little white BOX do? She noted that the device operated like an antivirus for home networks. Think of it like this – you hear about terms such as data theft, phising, fraud and other online threats that could really bring chaos to your life – well this really cute BOX, solves those issues from an app. Please fall in the love with the word: Protection.
All you have to do is connect the small Bitdefender BOX to your home Wi-Fi router and within minutes all of your gadgets are protected. Please note that the BOX protects anything connected to the internet or with an IP address. So how do you operate the device, which is considered a leader in data and device security? Simply through your your iOS or Android Apps store. If you are as connected as I am, I truly recommend being protected while on the internet.
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It has been described by The Wall Street Journal as a “breakthrough idea” and by FOX News as “the best way to prevent future digital break-ins.” Bitdefender BOX is a sleek, small and mighty piece of hardware that protects all devices in the home such as PCs, Macs, Android and iOS tablets and phones alike. Once connected to the Internet, every device, even Smart TVs, smart appliances like fridges, thermostats or gaming consoles are vulnerable to malware that silently does its work. It offers the convenient ability to manage the device remotely via smartphone, and it provides the added benefit of digital protection for a number of connected devices that currently do not feature their own protection.
Bitdefender BOX uses Bitdefender technology to keep everything safe, even from threats that come via USB sticks or portable storage devices. All devices connected to your home network are instantly protected. BOX monitors traffic performed on connected devices and blocks different categories of online attacks before they reach the device. With this extra layer of protection you are safe from both online and offline threats.
Bitdefender BOX is available for purchase at $199, including both the hardware device and one- year service. Yearly subscription, regardless of number of connected devices, is priced at $99. Ordering is now available on bitdefender.com/box. Currently available only in U.S.
1 in 6 women have been victims of sexual assault, but there’s a new device on the market that aims to put a dent in this alarming statistic.
ROAR for Good—a company devoted to women’s safety—recently introduced their first product, Athena, which is a safety device that aims to prevent sexual assault.
The tiny device, which works in conjunction with a mobile app, is approximately the size of a half-dollar and weighs about an ounce. With the swift press of a button, Athena will let off an alarm while notifying your emergency contacts that you’re in distress via text message.
“Over the last 16 months, we’ve performed exhaustive research and conducted numerous focus groups and user testing to ensure Athena will be easy to use in panic situations without being accidentally triggered,” developers explained on Athena’s Indiegogo page.
Athena can be worn as a necklace, or it can be clipped to your clothing or handbag. It operates in two modes: “alarm” and “silent.”
Athena cofounder Yasmine Mustafa was inspired to create the device during a backpacking trip in South America.
“As amazing as [the trip] was…literally everywhere I went I would hear of a time where a woman had been attacked,” Mustafa shared with Mashable.
When she returned home, she learned that a neighbor had been beaten and assaulted while outside reading her meter.
“When I read the news story the next day, that’s when the idea for ROAR was born,” she continued.
Athena can be purchased for $75.00 (plus shipping) on Indiegogo for the remainder of Roar’s crowdfunding campaign. The device will be available for sale internationally as early as May 2016, and will retail at $99. A portion of proceeds from each device sold will be donated to educational programs that have been shown to reduce violence.
Inviting a third party into the bedroom just got a lot easier for couples who are into that sort of thing. 3nder—the threesome app that launched last year—recently received $500,000 in seed capital from unidentified investors.
According to the New York Post, nearly 1 million users have downloaded the iOS app since it was launched by a London-based startup company.
Currently, California is the 3nder’s biggest market in the United States. New York comes in at number two. The app charges approximately $13 per month for membership and provides a platform for singles looking to hook up with couples and vice versa.
“Nowadays more people are looking for relationships that are designed with more freedom in mind,” said 3nder’s 25-year-old founder Dimo Trifonov, according to Tech City News. “Consensual non-monogamy for singles and couples is becoming more prevalent, especially among young people. We are building the first safe environment for open minded people where they can meet likeminded partners, and the response has been fantastic. We are also gender-blind and orientation-blind, so everyone is welcome.”
To verify identities, the app requires users to log in through Facebook, which has more seasoned swingers concerned.
“People were saying, ‘I can’t log in with Facebook — I’m gonna lose my job,’” according to Trifonov. “But people between 18 and 34 are not so affected by imaginary moral values.”
Would you be open to trying 3nder?