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I remember my first true encounter with the green-eyed monster known as jealousy. It was summer 2006 and I was one-year strong in my first “mature” relationship. The relationship had been going so well that I was sure I had been living out some Disney fairytale, until this one day, which seemed like any other. I had just gotten home from a job I’d snagged for the summer, I raced to my bedroom to call my Prince Charming whom I hadn’t heard from all day. “Hello,” I said eagerly as soon as I heard him pick up the phone; however, something wasn’t quite right. I heard a female’s laughter in the background. “Who’s that?” I asked twisting my face up, hoping he would say a cousin or relative. “Oh, that’s Shamika, the girl from across the street.” I sat on the other end of the phone silently. My heart sank. I felt like my face was going to crack and I was overcome with an intense feeling that I had a hard time identifying. I’d later come to know this intense and overwhelming feeling as jealousy. My logic told me that there was probably nothing up with this girl from across the street, but my imagination and emotions went running in a completely different direction.
Jealousy is one of those erratic and unreasonable emotions that can transform a fairly mild-mannered woman into a ranting, probing, lurking lunatic. A jealous woman can be like a terrorist to a man in a relationship. You know the deal: checking cell phones, cracking voicemail codes, Facebook passwords, Twitter passwords, cell phone company records, etc. You name it, I’ve done it. Little did I know, jealousy would be a frequent visitor in my relationships.
After my second or third encounter with this feeling, I began to realize that I had a problem. The crazy part is that I knew something about it was off and would’ve traded almost anything to get rid of those feelings. They were practically consuming me. It was as if a “Shamika” had been assigned to every last one of my relationships and just when I thought I had overcome it, the overbearing and suffocating feelings of jealousy would resurface. I would always try to work through it, convinced that this time I would beat this feeling. Each time I failed. I had no peace. After awhile I began to realize that these feelings were stemming from something internal, and if I were to ever truly overcome them, I would have to start addressing the issues that lie within. It was a quest that I would have to take on alone.
After canceling a comeback tour and going to rehab last year to get help for a substance abuse problem, it seems that singer El Debarge is still battling with drugs. The 51-year-old had done a two-year stint in prison for a previous drug possession arrest, and he was just arrested again on Monday, this time on suspicion of drug possession with intent to sell, in the Encino neighborhood. According to the Los Angeles Times, undercover narcotics officers conducting an investigation saw the singer and another man on the street acting “suspiciously.” I’m really tired of that word…
Anyway, after noticing them, the officers found drugs where the singer had been standing. The man with him was busted for attempted drug possession, while El was arrested for attempting to sell drugs. DeBarge posted a bail of $30,000. His attorney though, told the Los Angeles Times that he was skeptical about the charge, especially since he knows El’s past issues with drug abuse–not the sale of it. He issued the following statement:
“The DeBarge family is very close knit and have had their struggles with substance abuse. They will do what they always have done, which is to support their sibling through this.”
Man, their family is really going through it these days (James is actually in jail with Conrad Murray of all people). Let’s hope he’ll get through this and get help again.
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