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Give Her Half or Go Half on a Baby? – Questions Of Being a Father vs. Being a Husband
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Most people associate a biological drive to have children with women. After all, we are the creators of life and natural-born nurturers, so it goes without saying that most women are designed to want kids, right? While this instinct isn’t present in ALL women, it can be argued that because of gender roles, most women feel the need to have a child simply because society says that’s what they’re supposed to do.
But men also have an internal, subconscious drive to procreate. However, while most women want to have children with a man who can provide for her and their family, a lot of men nowadays don’t feel they have to be part of a unit in order to make a baby. Not many women are programmed to WANT to be single mothers, yet the desire to be a father can be strong enough to override any sense of logic or commitment. Simply put, most men can see themselves as fathers, but not as husbands. While having a child with someone would seem to be a WAY bigger commitment than marriage is, some men feel they can be great fathers, but would make terrible husbands. Does this sound like broken logic, immaturity or honest truth? Look at these reasons a man may want to be a dad without being a husband…and YOU decide.
About Those Surrogacy Rumors…Beyonce and Tina Knowles Speak On It
Source: Theboxhouston.com
PEOPLE may not have gotten the first pics of Blue Ivy, but they’re definitely getting all the dirt on Beyonce’s pregnancy. While Bey hasn’t talked to anyone about her famous “folding dress” debacle or talk that she had a surrogate, she did finally address those rumors in her recent spread with the magazine, after being named the “World’s Most Beautiful Woman 2012,” and she even had mama Tina along to back her up.
We all remember how Solange went off on Twitter about all the negativity surrounding Blue Ivy’s birth but Bey says she wasn’t nearly as upset as her little sister.
“That was crazy. It wasn’t hurtful, it was just crazy,” she told PEOPLE in its latest issue. “[I thought] ‘Where did they come up with this?’”
Mama Knowles was more in the Solange camp, telling the magazine:
“I thought it was very unfair and very cruel that someone would think that someone would be that diabolical to keep up a charade like that for nine months. As a mother it was painful for me to hear the crazy rumors. And I even had people ask me, which was so ridiculous.”
The clothing designer also spoke on all the fake baby bump rumors that arose after Beyonce’s famous Australian interview when her stomach appeared to fold flat as a pancake when she sat down.
“It was a fabric that folded — does fabric not fold?” Tina said, seemingly irritated. “Oh my gosh, so stupid.”
Beyonce, who’s obviously more adept at dealing with people throwing shade at everything she does, also said the reports that her and Jay-Z’s security demands upset the hospital where Blue Ivy was born are also “so crazy” and “ridiculous.” And while the rest of the world was going through fake baby bump/surrogacy rumor mania, Beyonce wasn’t paying much of it any mind.
“There was so much love and well wishes from all over the world — it made it easier to deal with the stupid rumors,” she said.
Well, there we have it, straight from the singer’s mouth. Are you finally convinced Beyonce birthed Blue Ivy?
Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.
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Woman Says She Can’t Stop Getting Pregnant
Condoms, birth control pills, the coil, progesterone injections, and even implants can stop Gemma Potter from getting pregnant. The 23-year-old has conceived six times in five years, and is currently a mother of three with one on the way.
Although it only takes “one time” to get pregnant, Potter says she and her husband, Glenn, only had sex three times since September for fear that she would end up pregnant, and it still happened. She’s accused doctors of not taking her pregnancy woes seriously, considering the contraception journey she’s been on.
Potter was on the pill when she met her husband in May 2006, but she ended up pregnant three months later. She went back on the pill in May 2007, but by August she was pregnant again with her second child. Four weeks after her daughter was born, doctors told her to try the coil, saying it is the most effective form of contraception. She had it fitted in June 2008, but became pregnant again by November 2008. This time she miscarried at six weeks.
Switching to a contraceptive injection that was administered every 12 weeks didn’t help either. Potter had her second daughter after getting married in 2009. Next, she tried an implant which is said to be 99% effective, yet she still wound up pregnant and miscarried at 11 weeks. Now, back on the pill, Potter is 10 weeks pregnant again.
“I love my children but I don’t want any more. Unfortunately, termination just isn’t an option for us as it is not something I agree with,” she says.
“I can’t go out with my friends or have a drink because I am constantly pregnant. I have also completely missed out on having a job or any kind of career on my own.”
The financial burden of the children could also prove difficult down the line, she says.
“Thinking of other people that can’t have children makes me feel awful. Some people can try for years and years and it’s just not meant to be whereas I can’t stop getting pregnant.
“If I keep having children and it gets to the stage that I can’t afford them any more I would consider surrogacy.”
Maybe Potter needs to go back to the basics with the rhythm method or double up with perhaps a condom and another form of birth control. At this point, even a vasectomy or tubal ligation should be in order.
Have you ever heard of anything like this?
Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.
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