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I feel like my husband is not sexually attracted to me and I know it’s not because he’s cheating. I am a newlywed but it feel like we have been married for years, even though it’s only been seven months.
We have both been stressed about financial issues. It really bothers him that he can’t give me the world and that we didn’t get a honeymoon, but I have told him I’m okay as long as we work through this together.
As the financial issues bother him more and more, the sex fades. He can go weeks and sometimes months without touching me. I’m constantly asking for sex. I feel as if I’m putting too much pressure on him, so I have stopped asking, but I’m not happy.
I love my husband and I know he is stressed about not being able to provide for the family but how do I get him interested? I’m tired of feeling unwanted.
See what Abiola Abrams has to say about this situation on Essence.com.
Work is chaotic. There is one fire after another to put out. You find yourself getting more and more stressed. Well, de-stress—right now!
According to psychologists it is possible to wind down in three simple steps that were “developed by psychologists specifically for people with dementia,” reports Inc.
The three magical steps?
1) Awareness. Keep a so-called “anxiety journal,” whether real or virtual. Take note and become aware of when you feel anxious and what are the physical signs of anxiety. This way you can prepare yourself for these situations — or avoid them, all together.
2) Breathing. Take long, deep breaths to relax. “You can count slowly while breathing in and out and try putting your hand on your stomach and feeling the breath moving in and out,” explains the magazine. Those of you who take Pilates might recognize this move.
3) Calming thoughts. Of course it is hard to think of calming thoughts in the midst of a disaster, so get your calming thoughts ready in advance. “They could be as simple as ‘Calm down!’ but they need to be things that you personally believe in for them to be most effective,” notes Inc.
If these three steps don’t work, try chewing gum, a self-massage (on your neck and shoulders), a cup of chamomile tea, or even close your office door and meditate for five minutes.
How do you de-stress at work?
The weekend is here! So it’s time to catch up on some zzzs.
You might not realize it, but getting enough sleep can impact many areas in your life, from how you make every day decisions to your financial stability. If you are too tired to do even the tasks on a daily basis, or more high-level ones like completing a project, you are probably too tired to make wise decisions physically, mentally and financially. Ultimately, your sleep habits and practices could end up making you sluggish, burnt out… or even poor. Don’t believe it? Click through.
“Willow was supposed to be doing ‘Annie.’ We got Jay-Z to do the movie, got the studio to come in, and Willow had such a difficult time on tour with ‘Whip My Hair’ and she said, ‘You know Daddy, I don’t think so,’” he recalled. “And I said, ‘Baby, hold up!’ I said, ‘No, no, no, listen, you’ll be in New York with all of your friends and Beyonce will be there. You will be singing and dancing.’ And she looked at me and said, ‘Daddy, I have a better idea. How about I just be 12?’”
- Have you become cynical or critical at work?
- Do you drag yourself to work and have trouble getting started once you arrive?
- Have you become irritable or impatient with co-workers, customers or clients?
- Do you lack the energy to be consistently productive?
- Do you lack satisfaction from your achievements?
- Do you feel disillusioned about your job?
- Are you using food, drugs or alcohol to feel better or to simply not feel?
- Have your sleep habits or appetite changed?
- Are you troubled by unexplained headaches, backaches or other physical complaints?
Do you feel the wheels are turning round and round in your head without any results? As far as work goes, it’s never a walk in the park (or at least all the time). There are things that make us feel overwhelmed, under-appreciated and like we rarely accomplish anything on that neverending list of to-dos. Things like this happen all the time and unfortunately, can be a part of life.
One thing however that shouldn’t be a part of your everyday routine is feeling burned out. If you find yourself constantly stressed and experiencing a feeling of suffocation on the job, it’s important to you, your health, and sanity that you take the necessary precautions to make sure this doesn’t happen. Though we are unable to control the cards we are dealt with, we can control our reaction.
Here are ways to help prevent on the job burnout.
If you are stressed out at work, skip the coffee or the walk around the block to calm your nerves. Instead, just stay at your desk where there are some high-tech ways to monitor and control your stress levels. Two such devices are Tinké by Zensorium and Inner Balance by HeartMath.
The palm-size Tinké, which will run you $100, monitors your cardiorespiratory health by using an iPhone or iPad. After downloading the mobile app, just put your thumb on the sensor, and the app will display your heart rate, blood oxygen level, respiration rate, and heart rate. The app then compiles the data into a shareable fitness score called a Vita Index.
Inner Balance is a $99 kit that includes an app for the iPad, iPhone, or iPod Touch and a sensor that you attach to your earlobe. With this you have to perform a guided breathing exercises while thinking about a positive moment. It will then give you a score that measures your heart rate stability.
According to Inc.’s John Brandon, who tested out the devices, said they both helped him. By monitoring his stress levels he found ways to lower them. “But both products helped me control my stress levels without doing much more than breathing… I still spend most of the day at my desk, but now I’m much more relaxed,” he wrote.
But if you don’t want t buy a separate device, there are apps you can download that will also help you distress at the desk. The Breath2Relax app is free and features a video on relaxing breathing techniques. Another, Breathe and Relax, which coast 99 cents, offers a series of breathing exercised. According to USA Today, “The app can set reminders to cue you to keep mindful throughout the day (Are you breathing? Are you holding your breath? Take a deep breath, and so on).”
Work deadlines, overdue bills, and aging parents can have your blood pressure through the roof. Stress can keep you wide-eyed and staring at the ceiling at night and pounding your head on the desk in the morning at work because of the overwhelming sense of helplessness. We’ve all had our moments where we feel paralyzed by tense experiences in life and surefire coping strategies are needed to put your mind at ease. Learn to smack stress away like Dikembe Mutombo’s blocks with these easy-to-enforce tips.
Don’t Hesitate To Meditate
Tina Turner found peace through meditation, so can you. Chant positive phrases that reinforce healthy affirmations. It allows you to live in the moment and ignore things that may stress you.
Are you stressed out at work? It might not be that project you’re working on, or even your co-workers. You might be creating the stress.
It is common for to get stressed out at work. In fact, as many as three in four U.S. employees report that work is a somewhat or very significant cause of stress in their lives, according to the American Psychological Association (APA) (via The Huffington Post), second only to money. Stress can cause lots of problems in the workplace, including absenteeism, tardiness, and employees who intend to quit, according to the CDC.
Because of these negative outcomes, it is important to pinpoint the source of your stress at work. Could you be it?
Here are the top five ways stress is created in the workplace.
1. Do you take on too much responsibility? If you are overloaded, don’t agree to another project. Delegate if you can, or put something on the back burner.
2. Does all the decision making fall on your shoulders? If you are the boss or manger, trust your employees to handle certain responsibilities— including making some basic decisions. This will also help build teamwork. According to the website, “Employees who have a say about what they do at work and how they do it report greater job satisfaction.”
3. Do you fail to give feedback? If you don’t let your employees know how they are doing, then they might not perform the task as you’d like, causing you to handle it yourself or making your employees stressed because they failed. Give feedback and guidance.
4. Do you leave out the details when giving instructions? If you don’t tell employees exactly whet you need done then they can’t deliver. “Confusion about work duties, company goals or priorities can add to an employee’s stress level,” notes HuffPo.
5. Do you ignore each worker’s skills and interests? Use your employees to the utmost. “Underutilizing talent by assigning tasks outside of a worker’s skill set or with little meaning can lead to frustration and stress on the job,” concludes the news site.
Be for real. Are you the cause of your own stress?