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We Can’t Take A Joke Because This Is Our Life: Woman Goes All The Way In On Steve Harvey For Special Needs Joke
I might be one of the few Black women in my circle and among circles like mine that actually doesn’t have a huge problem with Steve Harvey. Sure, I find his relationship advice a bit trite and some of his observations dismissive and offensive; but I also think he’s funny most of the time. And having seen what he does with young men and the mentoring he does at Disney every year, I see the good in him as well.
So yeah, Steve Harvey is problematic for sure. But honestly, he reminds me of a lot of Black men in his age range.
But when someone’s egregiously wrong, you just can’t ride for that.
And that’s what happened last week when Harvey, playing on of his characters, Sister Odell, started telling a story about a 34-year-old woman with a mental disability, complete with offensive noises and more.
Well, one mother, whose daughter is on the Autism spectrum was not happy about it. At.all. And after she dropped her children off at school that morning, she recorded this impassioned video message for Mr. Harvey and comedians like him.
I’ll transcribe some excerpts, but it’s best to watch the full nearly five minute video to get the full perspective.
For those who can’t watch, here are some of the highlights:
This is now my fourth time recording this video because I’m trying to keep it clean. I’m so pissed, it’s been laced with profanities. I want this video to be shared so I’m trying to keep it as clean as possible.
She describes the offense:
This morning, Steve Harvey, as Sister Odell, made a “joke” about Easter Sunday and going to church and something to the affect of the sister next to me has a daughter who is slow and she’s always blowing bubbles in the service. And then Shirley and all his crew are laughing…And then he says, ‘Oh yeah, they dress her in little pink dresses, and little bobby socks and she 34-years-old but got the mind of a four year old.
Then her emotional reaction
The fact that he is making this joke on such a public program, that disturbed me… I don’t understand why comedians still use people with special needs as their go-to joke to get laughs. Damon Wayans did it with “In Living Color,” when I was 9-years-old watching that show, even then I was like ‘Damn, this is really messed up.’ And I didn’t even have anyone in my family who had special needs. I was always taught that you don’t make fun of people who cannot change that about them… And over the years, I have realized that every comedian does it or has done it. Rickey Smiley does it all the time. I am no longer a Rickey Smiley fan because of this.
I just want Steve Harvey and all comedians to know that this is not funny. This is our life! I have a child with autism, which is a developmental delay, that means that that child who I take to church, who may enjoy blowing bubbles or playing with a toy to keep her calm, so I can get get the world. That is what I’m going to do. That’s the child you’re making fun of.
Get some other material. Why are you constantly making fun? I’m sorry we have to deal with this ‘Oh my gosh, we have kids with special needs and we’re so sensitive and we can’t take a joke.’ No! We can’t take a joke because this is our life. Stop making fun of people with special needs. It’s not funny. It is never funny. There’s no joke about it.
You have a perfect life. You have your family, you have your millions, you have Marjorie and all your kids. And they come on your show and tell you what a great dad you are…why do you have to do this? You don’t have to do this. You hosted “Family Feud,” you hosted your talk show, you have your morning show. Anything you want to do, you can do. You do not need to make fun of people with special needs. So stop it please, damn! Like, do you need me to write your material for you? Goddamn I don’t understand why you’re still doing this, it’s not funny…
And then she gets cut off.
According to the description on the YouTube account where this was originally posted, this mother wrote:
PLEASE FEEL FREE TO SHARE THIS VIDEO!
Please LIKE, SHARE and COMMENT – I really want this to go as far as it can go!
Steve Harvey may not see it, nor even care to hear what I am saying, but there are TONS of people who need to hear this!
My phone stopped recording before I was done, but you get the point. (You didn’t miss anything in the end; just me crying before getting out of my car.)
Please help me spread the word to ALL comedians/comedienne’s that this practice is extremely hurtful to many members of the Special Needs community!
There has GOT to be other material out here!
I don’t even attend comedy shows anymore because I know that I’m going to hear foolishness like this from at least one comedian.
It has got to stop!
Thanks for listening.
#autismawareness #specialneeds #specialneedsawareness #steveharvey #thesteveharveymorningshow
It looks like Steve Harvey did get wind of the video…or perhaps the other comments expressing outrage.
He said the apology was sincere but I’m going to have to call b.s. Everyone knows a sincere apology doesn’t offer excuses or rationale for bad behavior. In fact, the best apologies take full responsibility and vow to do better. And Steve didn’t do any of that here. Saying that we all can be offended by comedy at times, suggests that he doesn’t understand the gravity of the situation. And I can only hope he sits with this for a little while longer.
But as for this crunk mother…I actually really like that she got so fired up at the very end. What she said, and the way she said it needed to be stated a long time ago. I’ve been watching “Comic View” since I was child and I can attest to the fact that far too often jokes about the special needs community come up. And it’s not only lazy, it’s incredibly hurtful for people who may know or are caring for someone else with special needs. What’s particularly damaging about all of this is the example it sets for the younger generation. As I said, I was a child watching “Comic View” and like this mother, I was taught that you don’t make fun of people, period, but especially people with special needs. Had I not been taught that and if I found humor in those jokes, I could have been like so many of my peers who took those jokes to school to use on children who did and didn’t live with special needs. The cycle perpetuates itself. As a parent of an able bodied and able-minded child, there are already worries and concerns about your child being accepted and respected by their peer group. I can’t imagine the worry, anxiety parents of children with special needs feel sending their children into school; but also, worrying that their children might face ostracism from adults who should know and do better.
Echoing his second best-selling book, Steve Harvey’s Act Like A Success, Think Like A Success Conference in Washington D.C., presented by Strayer University, gathered entrepreneurs and aspiring business owners looking to kick start their own personal and professional success. Author and television personality Steve Harvey, along with speakers like Paul C. Brunson, Lisa Nichols and more, joined together to discuss network building, building multiple streams of revenue and the tools to be a success in and out of the office. As the host of the conference, Harvey presented the keynote speech, in which he mentored and motivated hundreds of attendees with his own experiences of achieving success.
“The road to success is always under construction,” Harvey assured the crowd in attendance, describing his own experiences with failure and success, including how he lost it all in 2005 as his marriage and career fell apart, just to fully regain his life and bounce back with two lucrative best-selling books, a booming television career and the marriage he’s envisioned for years.
“I retired from stand-up [comedy] in August of 2012 to get to where I am today. You always have to give up something to get something,” he added.
Behind the scenes of the conference, MadameNoire and other press outlets sat down with Steve Harvey and got his personal, one-on-one advice on the importance of executing a plan for success, supporting your children to become successful, and how being transparent and authentic helped his success, and can move you towards yours.
On being transparent to inspire others:
This is what happened to me. My divorce is public knowledge, I’m a college dropout, I lived in my car, I was homeless, I made a mess of my life, and this is how I’m living now. I lost the guilt I feel about how I’m living now. I work very hard and go to work every day. I give honor to God for allowing me to come up and get over. If He can do that for me, why can you imagine it happening for you?
On being afraid of success:
I don’t know if they are afraid of success more than they are afraid of what it takes to be successful. It’s the same reason people don’t eat right, because something tastes so good, they are not going to give up that taste to sacrifice for just a few more years on the planet. How can you make people successful?
You can’t drive your car looking in the rear view mirror. That’s why the windshield of your car is bigger than your rear view mirror. Your rear view mirror is just so you can look and make sure you passed so you’re clear and can switch lanes. That’s all it’s for. You’re not supposed to stare at it and wish you were back there. You’re going to crash. If you keep looking in the rear view mirror, you’re going to crash your car.
On not creating and executing a plan after finding your gift:
I don’t see why after you’ve discovered and recognized your gift, [you wouldn’t]do anything with it. That’s an injustice to yourself. Why would you have this wonderful thing inside of you and never explore it? Why wouldn’t you take a chance and see where it takes you? Your gift is free. If you’re living your life and it’s not what you want and there was an opportunity for the application of your gift, for you to sit there and not doing something about it is such an injustice to yourself. I can’t even tell the joy I had when I was living in my car. I was doing the thing that I was born to do. I didn’t want to give it up just to get a job and get an apartment. I was cool living in my car and pursuing my dreams because I knew it wasn’t permanent. I kept grinding and hustling. I would rather live in my purpose and having the freedom in knowing that I’m doing what I was born to do.
On being authentic on stage:
All I can be is me. I know they have more education then me. I know they have more corporate value then me. I’m not that polished and I know that. But what has been the most effective part for me throughout my entire career and make my fan base gravitate towards me is my authenticity. I am just who I am. Whoever it is, corporate executives, presidents, CEOs, business owners, you’re in [the audience] because you want some more, so let me tell you what got me more.
On parenting your children for success:
One thing I tell parents is that you try to beat the education into your kids. That’s cool, but you can save yourself a lot of pain if every 45 days, you sit your child down and just talk to them about their dreams. It’s a conversation they’d rather have anyway. If you really get them to talk about their dreams, whether they want to be a pilot or own a gas station or be a doctor or a lawyer, their dreams will spur them to get an education. But we don’t talk to our kids about their dreams. Find out what your child wants to be. Talk to them about their dreams. You’d be surprised how many conversations you could stop having about school once they understand that to get to their dreams, here are the steps they have to take. All of a sudden, science might be a little more interesting to them.
On remaining positive to become and stay successful:
You got to understand something about your brain. It operates in two sections: good, evil; positive, negative; right or wrong; righteous or unjust. It’s always a ying and a yang in your brain. The brain is like a factory; it manufactures whatever you tell it to. When you wake up in the morning, you can instruct whichever foreman you want to to go back to the factory and tell the workers to manufacture. Since I’m the boss, I just wake up and since I’m the boss, I tell my foremen what to do no matter what happens, there can be a positive result. If a door closes, I am to assume that there’s a better door opening for me to go through. I only look for the positive. I don’t care what the negative is.
The worst thing you can do is tell your big dreams to a small-minded person. I stay only on the positive side, no matter what the analysis of the situation is.
Failure Is The Wonderful Teacher: Steve Harvey, Yolanda Adams, Mikki Taylor & More Share Words Of Inspiration
While the Disney Dreamers Academy exists solely to encourage and influence the high school students who participate in the program, every year members of the media and anyone else who hears the speakers, will leave inspired. Yesterday, Steve Harvey welcomed the students to the Disney Dreamer’s Academy. And immediately afterward, spoke to the media, along with gospel singer Yolanda Adams Essence’s Editor at Large, Mikki Taylor and a Dreamer’s Academy alum, 20-year-old Princeton Parker.
Check out the words of wisedom they shared with us yesterday and hopefully you’ll be encouraged as well.
Steve Harvey on preserving the dream
Everybody got a gift but that dream as we get older– and what we trying to here at Disney is make sure that dream stays lit as a fire. All of us had dreams. Some of us let them go along the way cause you get older, you have a baby, get a family, get into a bad relationship and all of a sudden you start parking it right there. You not supposed to do that. So we try to grab these kids at an early age. Before they know that they can’t do something.
I pulled my phone out to show Yolanda (Adams) my vision board. Yolanda looked at it and one of the numbers was $1 billion. And she looked at it for just four seconds she said ‘Steve change that to a three.’ I said, ‘Yo, that’s a $1 billion dollars. That ain’t no million girl.’ She said, ‘I know what a billion dollars is boy.’ You don’t think I went home and got my son–cuz I don’t know how to do it–I got my son and changed that number to a 3. Because she taught me something that night. Faith is the belief in things that you cannot see. God don’t give you what you want. You know how many times you said you wanted something and you ain’t never get it? That’s because he’s waiting on you to believe it. And ever since that day, I’ve made four business deals and I stopped making my business deals based on my current need today and I started making my business decisions based on the future. Not to make a few million right now. But how do I get to that big number. She changed the way that I thought. And that’s what we try to get these kids to understand. The only difference between rich people and poor people is how we think. Poor people think poor. If you’re poor it’s because you think poor.
Mikki Taylor on the importance of knowing yourself
It really comes down to knowing your value. I believe who God says I am and I give him the credit. And all I have to do is keep self out of the way so I can show up ready for what he’s called me to do. And when you beleive in that, that’s so much bigger and higher than you, that you even fail well because you understand what to do with adversity.
Ladies, I know there is a lot of internal and external pressure to be married and have kids, all before your 30th birthday. But that’s not everybody’s story. And frankly, there is plenty of life and love after 30 years old. If you don’t believe me, you need look no further than Shirley Strawberry.
Strawberry, the relationship expert and co-host on Steve Harvey’s popular morning show is well past 30, and married Ernesto Williams, 50, on Friday.
The couple got engaged last summer when Ernesto proposed to Shirley live on the radio.
In case you couldn’t really tell from the video, Ernesto is a very nice looking man. He and Shirley just so happened to get married on his birthday, January 10; and before they tied the knot, Shirley posted this picture in tribute to him, where we can fully see what he’s got going on.
Williams is an entrepreneur, whose businesses have been featured in The New York Times and other publications. Williams has been a barber for over 20 years and has managed to create some pretty lucrative business platforms as a result, including “The 24 Hour Barber Shop.”
Shirley did very well for herself.
So now that we know what Shirley’s working with, check out the pictures and videos from the wedding.
What are your plans for New Year’s Eve?
If you ask that question to Steve Harvey and his sartorially-gifted wife, Marjorie, the answer would be to live it up in Dubai with their family. And I thought my idea of playing Dominos with my parents and eating black eyed peas tonight was the definition of fun…
This isn’t the first big trip the Harvey family (including their adorable grandbaby Rose) has taken this holiday season. They spent Christmas in the Maldives on the private island of Velaa, chilling in massive wicker baskets and enjoying huge gingerbread houses-make that mansions. But they’ve taken their holiday celebration to the UAE to bring in the new year in style–and luxury. Check out some of the images of all the fun they’re having below:
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Think Like A Man, as in the book, has made Steve Harvey something of a relationship expert (whether we like it or not). It sold so many copies that movies were spawned from it and on his talk show now, he has segments where he tries to fix the personal lives of guests of all backgrounds. With the success of all that, Harvey has now decided to take his relationship advice to the next level, and has started a dating site for called “Delightful.” He launched Delightful.com last week, which, according to The Root, is an “offshoot of the company that owns Match.com, OkCupid and Tinder.” According to Forbes, the site will not only match folks, but in addition, offer articles and videos that will help women “find love and keep it.” According to his chat with Forbes, Harvey’s site will cater primarily to women, but also to men who are looking to settle down. Advice for the ladies will include “how to become more dateable.” For men, there will be advice and instructions on treating a woman right.
Harvey thinks he has it all figured out:
“Women are wired differently. The one thing I know about women is women don’t really want to just date. They want to date with the hope that it leads to a relationship.”
I’ll let you marinate on that one. He continues:
“A man doesn’t have any problem at all dating several or a wide variety of people until he finds the right one. A lot of women have that biological clock that ticks in them.”
One big reason women are missing out, according to Harvey, is that even though we might want love, women can be too picky in the way we choose mates (“Your soulmate, the man of your dreams, may not live an hour away”).
And some men, as he says, need to learn how to be more chivalrous.
“It’s sad to say, but the divorce rate in this country is so high, there are a lot of young men out there, quality men, who’ve never been told, ‘Hey man, this is the proper way to treat a lady.”
And Harvey knows that you’re wondering what exactly makes him qualified to speak on anything about love. We’re all aware that his first marriage imploded and he still is at odds with his ex wife all these years later (he has custody of their son). But he says that it’s those experiences that drive him to want to help others “find love and keep it” (if you haven’t noticed, that’s the tagline for the site). When speaking on his wisdom, Harvey says, “The majority of mine came from failure, to be honest with you.” He continues. “I’ve come to learn in my life that failure’s a wonderful teacher. I’ve scooped a lot of the dog poop off the sidewalk so you wouldn’t have to step in it.”
So with all that being said, if you’re a fan of online dating, would you be interested in Delightful.com?
“You Have A Whole Lot Of Skeletons Up In Your Closet, Sir”: Mimi Faust On Steve Harvey’s Criticism Of Her Sex Tape, And Stevie J’s Threats
Mimi Faust has had a rocky past month or two. That sex tape got out and the criticism poured in from everyday folks, Steve Harey of all people, and many of her co-stars. She’s been followed my TMZ photogs. She just lost her father. And if that wasn’t enough, she was threatened by Love and Hip Hop Atlanta co-star, Stevie J. Talk about a rocky start to 2014.
We caught up with Faust this morning to talk about moving on from her grief after losing her father whom she had been close with since meeting him when she was 16 (“We were just frick and frack [laughs]”). We also talked about those ugly statements from Stevie J after her dad’s passing (Bang Bang!! Your dad ain’t gonna be the only one. Karma is a b***h!), that sex tape, if Nikko is a user, why she’s not really feeling Love and Hip Hop Atlanta anymore, and how she deals with the heavy criticism from people, including Steve Harvey.
On Stevie J’s Comments After The Death Of Her Father:
“You know, he never ceases to amaze me with the stuff that he does. The day before I was on the radio, V-103 here in Atlanta, and they asked me about him taking care of his kids. I told the truth, and I think he got mad. So the day of my father’s passing, he sent me that text message. To this day he hasn’t apologized. He has not said ‘I’m sorry for your loss,’ he hasn’t said anything. I don’t even know who he is anymore. I have no idea who that person is. I really don’t. It blows my mind.”
Why She Hasn’t Been Watching This Season Of LHHATL:
“I’m a little indifferent. When you film, you think it’s one way, once it gets edited and you see it, it’s something completely different from what you thought. Honestly, I think we’re going on episode four–I haven’t really watched. It will just make me mad. It’s been that way since the beginning so I’m used to that. They keep you kind of in this box where they want you to be. It takes all different types of characters and people to run the machine of Love and Hip Hop. You have to have a villain, you have to have the stupid girl, you have to have the naive one, you have to have the bad girl. I get it, but am I doing cartwheels about it? No [laughs]. I mean, at this point, it’s a job and I look at it as such. So if the rest of the world wants to watch five or six minutes and judge my whole life and me as a person on five or six minutes that they see on a television show, then that’s there ignorance and there’s NOTHING I can do about that. I’m going to keep doing what I do, they can keep doing what they do, and it’s not going to make a damn bit of difference.
K. Michelle, Stevie J. And Joseline’s Response To Her Sex Tape
“First things first: K. Michelle and I are not friends. K. Michelle is a very messy girl and she likes the attention to be on her so whatever opportunity K. Michelle gets to have the attention on her, she takes it, grabs it and runs with it. K Michelle does not pay my bills. K. Michelle has no idea what really happened, so for her to comment on something she knows nothing about, again, is ignorant. If K. Michelle would like to sit down and ask me so she can be clear, she’s welcome to do that and she has my number and she hasn’t done it yet. So that’s her running her mouth, so I really don’t give a damn about what K. Michelle has to say about anything I do.
I want to be clear on Stevie J: He left his family for a known prostitute and stripper and “wifed her up,” so anything I do in my relationship with the person I’m with now, after you left me, should be none of your business. Don’t worry about anything I’m doing in my life. You’re not with me, I’m not with you. You’re “married.” Worry about your wife.
And Joseline Hernandez has no right to open her mouth and say anything about me. I’m trying to figure out why she’s upset or mad. I’m not with her man, I’m with my man. So why are you commenting on anything I’m doing with a completely different person. You took my man and this and that, and everything she kept saying last season. She has the big house and husband, why do you care about what I’m doing? The only thing I could figure out is that she puts her private parts on WorldStar for free. Maybe she’s mad about that. I’m not putting anything out there for free. Once I realized that my tape was out there and those people, Vivid, contacted me, I sat down and I did business. That tape was going to run around the world for free, and I would be damned if it did that and I didn’t profit off of it. I was smart about mine. Don’t get me wrong, if I was your average person and was not on television, I probably, 9 times out 10, would not have made a deal with Vivid. But because I’m on reality TV and I am a public personality, do you know how far that tape would have been on every website? It would have been everywhere, like hers was. But I said no, if this is going to be out there, I might as well get something from it. That’s what we did. Period.”
About The Tape:
“This tape was leaked out. This was something we did in the privacy of our own home and that’s what we like to do. I didn’t make a mistake. I’m not making excuses for anything I did. I made love to my man. We filmed it. It got out. The only thing I did was I decided once it got out to make a business decision. I’m going to be taking care of my daughter, so I don’t know what anybody is talking about saying I made a mistake.”
Steve Harvey’s Criticism Of Her Decision:
“First and foremost, Steve Harvey is doing his job. If he didn’t sit and talk about the hottest thing that was going on, he wouldn’t be doing his job. So I’m going to commend Steve Harvey for even sitting down and taking the time to discuss little ol’ me all over his nationally syndicated TV and radio. Thank you, Steve!
Steve Harvey has no idea what happened, and why I made the decision I made. I didn’t make the decision just for me. I think I would be a fool if this tape was coming out and my daughter was seeing it and I couldn’t do anything with it and it’s just all over everywhere for free. At least I will be able to take care of my child, in some form or fashion, and pay my bills. Stevie J does not help me with Eva, at all. Once again, I did not make a mistake, I did not make a foolish decision. This wasn’t something that I said, ‘Okay, let’s just do this.’ I had to think about this long and hard, trust and believe, before I decided to do what I did, as far as doing business with Vivid. Steve Harvey can not throw stones, because you’re not a perfect man. We’re not going to go there. You have a whole lot of skeletons up in your closet, sir. Please….”
Explaining Her Sex Tape To Eva When She Gets Older:
“I will explain everything to her. I will explain to her how it happened. I will explain to her why I made the decision to do what I did when she comes to me. I will sit her down and let her know, just like I’ll have to sit her down and explain why she has to go to high school and there are kids stabbing up kids and shooting kids in class. There are a whole lot of worse things in this world that I will have to explain to my daughter than mommy and her boyfriend making love.”
People Saying Nikko Is A User:
“They don’t know Nikko. Love and Hip Hop will only show Nikko for two minutes. So you’re getting two, three minutes of a 24-hour day of a two-hour taping that they edit, and everybody is making judgment upon that. If I felt that Nikko was a user, I wouldn’t be with Nikko. We’re still together to this day.”
If They Plan To Marry Soon:
“I’ve never been the ‘Oh my God, I’ve got to get married, I’m 35 I have to get married’ type of girl. If the time is right and that’s what we want to do, that’s what we’re going to do. But that’s not where I’m at right now, and neither is he.”
Secret To The Shower Rod:
“[Laughs] The secret is that your partner has to be able to support your weight. I wasn’t just holding on to that bar, swinging from the shower rod by myself, he was holding me up. So ladies, please don’t go and hold on to that rod by yourself and start swinging because you’re going to fall, you’re going to break your neck, you’re going to hurt your back, it’s not going to be a good situation [laughs]. Your man has to be able to support your weight and hold you up. Nikko works out three times a day. Very, very strong. So that’s the secret.”
Dealing With The Negativity:
“I know who I am. What someone else has to say about me who has no idea about who I am, I have to laugh at it. It’s assinine. It’s ludicrous.
In the beginning, I was criticized for being so stupid. ‘You’re so stupid.’ ‘You’re a doormat.’ ‘You’re an idiot.’ ‘You’re a fool.’ That to me was bizarre as well. These people are acting like I’m the only person, man or woman, in the world, who has ever been cheated on. And I’m like, are you kidding me? ‘How could you let Stevie J cheat on you?’ I let him cheat on me? I know who I am and that’s the bottom line.
I would post things about my father, and I have people commenting on my father with the most horrible things you can imagine. I have people calling my daughter, my 4-year-old, a slut. It really shows me how much of the world is really screwed up. When I see people in the street, I’ve never had one person, not one, even to date, come up to me and say something negative to my face. If I’m out in public, I bet you they’ll ask me for a picture talking about ‘I love you Mimi! I love you, girl.’ And I kind of laugh at that too. I bet you won’t say it to my face, and they don’t.”
When I first heard that Steve Harvey’s relationship book was going to be turned into a romantic comedy, I have to admit I was a little skeptical. After all, the book didn’t have a narrative arc and a lot of people, specifically women on internet forums seemed to have real issues with some of the advice Harvey was doling out. But when I saw the trailer, and I found myself laughing within the first thirty seconds, I knew that it could work. But what I saw on screen surprisingly far exceeded my expectations. The movie was hilarious and I hope the sequel can live up to the hype. But until we know for sure, get into the behind the scenes secrets of the movie Think Like A Man.
Get ready to laugh. Hysterically.
When He Had to Stop And Pray On It
Because it’s hard to understand some families.
“You Can’t Have A Child And Make Decisions Based On Just You”: Steve Harvey Sends Message To Mimi Faust
While Mimi Faust might be making big money for Vivid Entertainment with her sex tape, she’s also found herself with a lot of critics. Some think she’s too old to be doing such a thing, while others think that as a mother of a young child, turning to pornography is a bad idea and desperate move. However, Faust responded to all her critics by reminding them that since they don’t pay her bills, their opinion doesn’t matter. But one person who isn’t trying to hear all that is Steve Harvey. The Think Like A Man writer spoke on his radio show recently about Faust’s decision to do an adult film, and of course, he doesn’t think it’s cute. He had this message to send to Faust and single mothers in general:
“You can’t have a child and make decisions based on just you and every mother understands that. There’s not a single mother out here that don’t understand the sacrifices that have to be made as a single mother and the things you got to give up of yourself to provide for your children. So when you’re making these decisions out here, that you’re going to make a sex tape or you gon’ get involved in the sex industry, stop thinking about right now, whatever little momentary five minutes of fame and little piece of little change they going to put in your pocket. Because whatever money they put in your pocket, it ain’t going to be worth the hell that comes with it. It’s not going to be worth your reputation. It ain’t going to be worth your image. It ain’t gonna be worth nothing as it lives in cyberspace forever. Yeah, ya’ll got something else to worry about now that we didn’t have to worry about then. It’s called the Internet. The Internet has become a playground for evildoers…
Please young women out there, think of yourself and your brand and your image. Think of what people will say about you when you’re not around. Think about stuff people will say behind your back, what they’ll say in your face, what you’ll have to deal with the rest of your life. Do not make these decisions. Stay out of the sex trade. You ain’t here for sex, you’re here for life. God didn’t create you for sex, he created you for life. He got things to do for you, with you, He has things he requires of you. You putting your most precious gift out on display. See everything God made, He buried deep. He made it hard to get to. A pearl, you gotta dive to the bottom of the ocean. All his precious minerals are buried. Gold, you got to dig in the side of a mountain, and way down into the ground. Diamonds, you got to bore deep. Ain’t no diamonds laying on the top of the ground. They don’t grow like corn. You want oil, you got to barrel miles into the ground to get the precious minerals of God, and they put them in hard to reach places. This thing that y’all sitting on, this thing that every man got to have, your body, that precious jewel that’s in the most hidden place on your body. Think about that. See, God is smart. That’s why He put it where He put it cause it’s hard to get to. We can’t get to it unless you show it to us or give it to us. Think about that for a minute. Don’t pass it around like it ain’t nothing to it, because you’re actually sitting on a gold mine. Please act like it, ladies. Act like you’re sitting on a gold mine, because it’s what every man is after, and we will pay dearly for it. Think about that, okay?”
I can get with his point about not making such reckless decisions as a mother of a young child who will have to grow up and deal with the consequences of your foolishness, but as for not doing things because of what people will think about you or say behind your back, honestly, is that really as important? If we all made every decision based on who would look at us crazy or try to shame us, we wouldn’t do a lot of things for ourselves. Not to say that doing the adult film is a good look (definitely not a move I would make), but folks can’t live for outside people. But then again, I get what he’s trying to say, because based on his book and the advice he often gives in general, Harvey is all about women keeping their wholesomeness…while men get to do whatever they please. He definitely made some interesting points though.
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