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Think Like A Man, as in the book, has made Steve Harvey something of a relationship expert (whether we like it or not). It sold so many copies that movies were spawned from it and on his talk show now, he has segments where he tries to fix the personal lives of guests of all backgrounds. With the success of all that, Harvey has now decided to take his relationship advice to the next level, and has started a dating site for called “Delightful.” He launched Delightful.com last week, which, according to The Root, is an “offshoot of the company that owns Match.com, OkCupid and Tinder.” According to Forbes, the site will not only match folks, but in addition, offer articles and videos that will help women “find love and keep it.” According to his chat with Forbes, Harvey’s site will cater primarily to women, but also to men who are looking to settle down. Advice for the ladies will include “how to become more dateable.” For men, there will be advice and instructions on treating a woman right.
Harvey thinks he has it all figured out:
“Women are wired differently. The one thing I know about women is women don’t really want to just date. They want to date with the hope that it leads to a relationship.”
I’ll let you marinate on that one. He continues:
“A man doesn’t have any problem at all dating several or a wide variety of people until he finds the right one. A lot of women have that biological clock that ticks in them.”
One big reason women are missing out, according to Harvey, is that even though we might want love, women can be too picky in the way we choose mates (“Your soulmate, the man of your dreams, may not live an hour away”).
And some men, as he says, need to learn how to be more chivalrous.
“It’s sad to say, but the divorce rate in this country is so high, there are a lot of young men out there, quality men, who’ve never been told, ‘Hey man, this is the proper way to treat a lady.”
And Harvey knows that you’re wondering what exactly makes him qualified to speak on anything about love. We’re all aware that his first marriage imploded and he still is at odds with his ex wife all these years later (he has custody of their son). But he says that it’s those experiences that drive him to want to help others “find love and keep it” (if you haven’t noticed, that’s the tagline for the site). When speaking on his wisdom, Harvey says, “The majority of mine came from failure, to be honest with you.” He continues. “I’ve come to learn in my life that failure’s a wonderful teacher. I’ve scooped a lot of the dog poop off the sidewalk so you wouldn’t have to step in it.”
So with all that being said, if you’re a fan of online dating, would you be interested in Delightful.com?
“You Have A Whole Lot Of Skeletons Up In Your Closet, Sir”: Mimi Faust On Steve Harvey’s Criticism Of Her Sex Tape, And Stevie J’s Threats
Mimi Faust has had a rocky past month or two. That sex tape got out and the criticism poured in from everyday folks, Steve Harey of all people, and many of her co-stars. She’s been followed my TMZ photogs. She just lost her father. And if that wasn’t enough, she was threatened by Love and Hip Hop Atlanta co-star, Stevie J. Talk about a rocky start to 2014.
We caught up with Faust this morning to talk about moving on from her grief after losing her father whom she had been close with since meeting him when she was 16 (“We were just frick and frack [laughs]”). We also talked about those ugly statements from Stevie J after her dad’s passing (Bang Bang!! Your dad ain’t gonna be the only one. Karma is a b***h!), that sex tape, if Nikko is a user, why she’s not really feeling Love and Hip Hop Atlanta anymore, and how she deals with the heavy criticism from people, including Steve Harvey.
Stevie J’s Comments After The Death Of Her Father:
“You know, he never ceases to amaze me with the stuff that he does. The day before I was on the radio, V-103 here in Atlanta, and they asked me about him taking care of his kids. I told the truth, and I think he got mad. So the day of my father’s passing, he sent me that text message. To this day he hasn’t apologized. He has not said ‘I’m sorry for your loss,’ he hasn’t said anything. I don’t even know who he is anymore. I have no idea who that person is. I really don’t. It blows my mind.”
Why She Hasn’t Been Watching This Season Of LHHATL:
“I’m a little indifferent. When you film, you think it’s one way, once it gets edited and you see it, it’s something completely different from what you thought. Honestly, I think we’re going on episode four–I haven’t really watched. It will just make me mad. It’s been that way since the beginning so I’m used to that. They keep you kind of in this box where they want you to be. It takes all different types of characters and people to run the machine of Love and Hip Hop. You have to have a villain, you have to have the stupid girl, you have to have the naive one, you have to have the bad girl. I get it, but am I doing cartwheels about it? No [laughs]. I mean, at this point, it’s a job and I look at it as such. So if the rest of the world wants to watch five or six minutes and judge my whole life and me as a person on five or six minutes that they see on a television show, then that’s there ignorance and there’s NOTHING I can do about that. I’m going to keep doing what I do, they can keep doing what they do, and it’s not going to make a damn bit of difference.
K. Michelle, Stevie J. And Joseline’s Response To Her Sex Tape
“First things first: K. Michelle and I are not friends. K. Michelle is a very messy girl and she likes the attention to be on her so whatever opportunity K. Michelle gets to have the attention on her, she takes it, grabs it and runs with it. K Michelle does not pay my bills. K. Michelle has no idea what really happened, so for her to comment on something she knows nothing about, again, is ignorant. If K. Michelle would like to sit down and ask me so she can be clear, she’s welcome to do that and she has my number and she hasn’t done it yet. So that’s her running her mouth, so I really don’t give a damn about what K. Michelle has to say about anything I do.
I want to be clear on Stevie J: He left his family for a known prostitute and stripper and “wifed her up,” so anything I do in my relationship with the person I’m with now, after you left me, should be none of your business. Don’t worry about anything I’m doing in my life. You’re not with me, I’m not with you. You’re “married.” Worry about your wife.
And Joseline Hernandez has no right to open her mouth and say anything about me. I’m trying to figure out why she’s upset or mad. I’m not with her man, I’m with my man. So why are you commenting on anything I’m doing with a completely different person. You took my man and this and that, and everything she kept saying last season. She has the big house and husband, why do you care about what I’m doing? The only thing I could figure out is that she puts her private parts on WorldStar for free. Maybe she’s mad about that. I’m not putting anything out there for free. Once I realized that my tape was out there and those people, Vivid, contacted me, I sat down and I did business. That tape was going to run around the world for free, and I would be damned if it did that and I didn’t profit off of it. I was smart about mine. Don’t get me wrong, if I was your average person and was not on television, I probably, 9 times out 10, would not have made a deal with Vivid. But because I’m on reality TV and I am a public personality, do you know how far that tape would have been on every website? It would have been everywhere, like hers was. But I said no, if this is going to be out there, I might as well get something from it. That’s what we did. Period.”
About The Tape:
“This tape was leaked out. This was something we did in the privacy of our own home and that’s what we like to do. I didn’t make a mistake. I’m not making excuses for anything I did. I made love to my man. We filmed it. It got out. The only thing I did was I decided once it got out to make a business decision. I’m going to be taking care of my daughter, so I don’t know what anybody is talking about saying I made a mistake.”
Steve Harvey’s Criticism Of Her Decision:
“First and foremost, Steve Harvey is doing his job. If he didn’t sit and talk about the hottest thing that was going on, he wouldn’t be doing his job. So I’m going to commend Steve Harvey for even sitting down and taking the time to discuss little ol’ me all over his nationally syndicated TV and radio. Thank you, Steve!
Steve Harvey has no idea what happened, and why I made the decision I made. I didn’t make the decision just for me. I think I would be a fool if this tape was coming out and my daughter was seeing it and I couldn’t do anything with it and it’s just all over everywhere for free. At least I will be able to take care of my child, in some form or fashion, and pay my bills. Stevie J does not help me with Eva, at all. Once again, I did not make a mistake, I did not make a foolish decision. This wasn’t something that I said, ‘Okay, let’s just do this.’ I had to think about this long and hard, trust and believe, before I decided to do what I did, as far as doing business with Vivid. Steve Harvey can not throw stones, because you’re not a perfect man. We’re not going to go there. You have a whole lot of skeletons up in your closet, sir. Please….”
Explaining Her Sex Tape To Eva When She Gets Older:
“I will explain everything to her. I will explain to her how it happened. I will explain to her why I made the decision to do what I did when she comes to me. I will sit her down and let her know, just like I’ll have to sit her down and explain why she has to go to high school and there are kids stabbing up kids and shooting kids in class. There are a whole lot of worse things in this world that I will have to explain to my daughter than mommy and her boyfriend making love.”
People Saying Nikko Is A User:
“They don’t know Nikko. Love and Hip Hop will only show Nikko for two minutes. So you’re getting two, three minutes of a 24-hour day of a two-hour taping that they edit, and everybody is making judgment upon that. If I felt that Nikko was a user, I wouldn’t be with Nikko. We’re still together to this day.”
If They Plan To Marry Soon:
“I’ve never been the ‘Oh my God, I’ve got to get married, I’m 35 I have to get married’ type of girl. If the time is right and that’s what we want to do, that’s what we’re going to do. But that’s not where I’m at right now, and neither is he.”
Secret To The Shower Rod:
“[Laughs] The secret is that your partner has to be able to support your weight. I wasn’t just holding on to that bar, swinging from the shower rod by myself, he was holding me up. So ladies, please don’t go and hold on to that rod by yourself and start swinging because you’re going to fall, you’re going to break your neck, you’re going to hurt your back, it’s not going to be a good situation [laughs]. Your man has to be able to support your weight and hold you up. Nikko works out three times a day. Very, very strong. So that’s the secret.”
Dealing With The Negativity:
“I know who I am. What someone else has to say about me who has no idea about who I am, I have to laugh at it. It’s assinine. It’s ludicrous.
In the beginning, I was criticized for being so stupid. ‘You’re so stupid.’ ‘You’re a doormat.’ ‘You’re an idiot.’ ‘You’re a fool.’ That to me was bizarre as well. These people are acting like I’m the only person, man or woman, in the world, who has ever been cheated on. And I’m like, are you kidding me? ‘How could you let Stevie J cheat on you?’ I let him cheat on me? I know who I am and that’s the bottom line.
I would post things about my father, and I have people commenting on my father with the most horrible things you can imagine. I have people calling my daughter, my 4-year-old, a slut. It really shows me how much of the world is really screwed up. When I see people in the street, I’ve never had one person, not one, even to date, come up to me and say something negative to my face. If I’m out in public, I bet you they’ll ask me for a picture talking about ‘I love you Mimi! I love you, girl.’ And I kind of laugh at that too. I bet you won’t say it to my face, and they don’t.”
When I first heard that Steve Harvey’s relationship book was going to be turned into a romantic comedy, I have to admit I was a little skeptical. After all, the book didn’t have a narrative arc and a lot of people, specifically women on internet forums seemed to have real issues with some of the advice Harvey was doling out. But when I saw the trailer, and I found myself laughing within the first thirty seconds, I knew that it could work. But what I saw on screen surprisingly far exceeded my expectations. The movie was hilarious and I hope the sequel can live up to the hype. But until we know for sure, get into the behind the scenes secrets of the movie Think Like A Man.
Get ready to laugh. Hysterically.
When He Had to Stop And Pray On It
Because it’s hard to understand some families.
“You Can’t Have A Child And Make Decisions Based On Just You”: Steve Harvey Sends Message To Mimi Faust
While Mimi Faust might be making big money for Vivid Entertainment with her sex tape, she’s also found herself with a lot of critics. Some think she’s too old to be doing such a thing, while others think that as a mother of a young child, turning to pornography is a bad idea and desperate move. However, Faust responded to all her critics by reminding them that since they don’t pay her bills, their opinion doesn’t matter. But one person who isn’t trying to hear all that is Steve Harvey. The Think Like A Man writer spoke on his radio show recently about Faust’s decision to do an adult film, and of course, he doesn’t think it’s cute. He had this message to send to Faust and single mothers in general:
“You can’t have a child and make decisions based on just you and every mother understands that. There’s not a single mother out here that don’t understand the sacrifices that have to be made as a single mother and the things you got to give up of yourself to provide for your children. So when you’re making these decisions out here, that you’re going to make a sex tape or you gon’ get involved in the sex industry, stop thinking about right now, whatever little momentary five minutes of fame and little piece of little change they going to put in your pocket. Because whatever money they put in your pocket, it ain’t going to be worth the hell that comes with it. It’s not going to be worth your reputation. It ain’t going to be worth your image. It ain’t gonna be worth nothing as it lives in cyberspace forever. Yeah, ya’ll got something else to worry about now that we didn’t have to worry about then. It’s called the Internet. The Internet has become a playground for evildoers…
Please young women out there, think of yourself and your brand and your image. Think of what people will say about you when you’re not around. Think about stuff people will say behind your back, what they’ll say in your face, what you’ll have to deal with the rest of your life. Do not make these decisions. Stay out of the sex trade. You ain’t here for sex, you’re here for life. God didn’t create you for sex, he created you for life. He got things to do for you, with you, He has things he requires of you. You putting your most precious gift out on display. See everything God made, He buried deep. He made it hard to get to. A pearl, you gotta dive to the bottom of the ocean. All his precious minerals are buried. Gold, you got to dig in the side of a mountain, and way down into the ground. Diamonds, you got to bore deep. Ain’t no diamonds laying on the top of the ground. They don’t grow like corn. You want oil, you got to barrel miles into the ground to get the precious minerals of God, and they put them in hard to reach places. This thing that y’all sitting on, this thing that every man got to have, your body, that precious jewel that’s in the most hidden place on your body. Think about that. See, God is smart. That’s why He put it where He put it cause it’s hard to get to. We can’t get to it unless you show it to us or give it to us. Think about that for a minute. Don’t pass it around like it ain’t nothing to it, because you’re actually sitting on a gold mine. Please act like it, ladies. Act like you’re sitting on a gold mine, because it’s what every man is after, and we will pay dearly for it. Think about that, okay?”
I can get with his point about not making such reckless decisions as a mother of a young child who will have to grow up and deal with the consequences of your foolishness, but as for not doing things because of what people will think about you or say behind your back, honestly, is that really as important? If we all made every decision based on who would look at us crazy or try to shame us, we wouldn’t do a lot of things for ourselves. Not to say that doing the adult film is a good look (definitely not a move I would make), but folks can’t live for outside people. But then again, I get what he’s trying to say, because based on his book and the advice he often gives in general, Harvey is all about women keeping their wholesomeness…while men get to do whatever they please. He definitely made some interesting points though.
What do you think about what he had to say? Share your thoughts below.
BET’s Celebration of Gospel is getting a breath of fresh air. Comedian/actor Steve Harvey has hosted the show for 13 years, but Taraji P. Henson will replace him for the first time this year. She may be the star who can attract a more diverse audience than ever before. Spokespersons for the network credited Taraji’s charm and quick wit for winning her the position.
If you tuned in for the 2010 Soul Train Awards that Henson hosted with “Hustle and Flow” co-star Terrence Howard, you know that she can carry an awards show mixing both class and comedy. In an interview with HelloBeautiful’s Danielle Young, the starlet revealed why this opportunity means so much to her and how much faith has made a difference in her life:
HelloBeautiful: What made you want to host the gospel celebration?
Taraji P. Henson: You don’t say no to God, girl [laughs]. It’s a well-established celebration for 14 years. Steve Harvey turned it up. It already has a following. I was honored and blessed and surprised. Not surprised that they picked me, well, kinda. If you follow me on Twitter and if you know me, you know that I love the Lord, so that’s no secret. So, when I met with the producers, it just felt like the perfect marriage. It just felt like God said, “Here.”
HB: What was a time you remember when you’re faith was tested and how did you get through that?
TPH: My faith is tested everyday in small ways. It doesn’t have to be in big ways. My faith is tested everyday and that’s when I go into, ‘God is.’ I went all day yesterday thinking I was having a great day, but then that Devil likes to rear his head when you get comfortable, don’t he? I let him know, I see you and I say, ‘God is.’
You can read the rest of the interview at HelloBeautiful. We know Taraji is going to bring a whole lot of fun with her faith to tonight’s show. BET’s Celebration of Gospel: Forward in Faith air’s tonight at 8P/7C.
“Don’t Say A Damn Thing” Curly Nikki & Steve Harvey Offer Advice To Husband Who Hates Wife’s Natural Hair
This is certainly a topic we’ve discussed before: women deciding to go natural, only to find that their husbands find the look less than appealing. It’s a sad topic and hot button issue but one Steve Harvey wasn’t scared to tackle on his talk show. He interviewed newlyweds, McClea and Love. Love said that once she decided to get rid of her long, silky weave her husband didn’t find her natural hair attractive. McClea agreed that his wife is a beautiful woman but that didn’t stop his extreme reaction.
Love on her husband’s initial reaction to her natural hair
“We’ve been together nine years. About two, three years ago I decided to go natural. Not on purpose but I had this weave in my hair and the weave went bad. After I cut it all off I had not choice but to wear this. The first time he saw it, he ran out the house and then he came back in and asked if it was a wig, and if so to take it off. He wasn’t very supportive of it actually.”
McClea defends himself.
“My wife’s a very beautiful woman as you can see, but when I first met her she had the Brazilian weave down her booty and that’s all she ever wore. When she first took it out it was just shocking to me. I was surprised she looked like a different person…
Well I’m over the shock. I understand that natural hair takes time. It takes time to grow out. And like I said, it’s not something that I’m used to, but I just wish there was more styles she could do with it so it could be more appealing. Something different because there’s not many styles she can with her hair like this so I just tell her that.”
Then Steve finally decided to step in.
“Let me move this stuff out the way. You’re about to get your skull opened up. McClea, what’s wrong with this whole thing is you can’t be any more wrong with your approach. You cannot at no point, in the relationship with a woman, say or make them feel unattractive. You’ve got to find another way to express yourself because the idea behind staying happy, the big thing behind it, a lot of times is support. You’ve got to find another way to say what you’re saying. You can’t run out the house. You can’t sit on the edge of the bed and look at her like she stay down the street somewhere. You can’t have that much gap between y’all on the couch. You’ve got to be a little bit more understanding that this is who you married and at the bottom line, they have a choice. It’s theirs. It ain’t your damn head. All you did is put a ring on that finger. This ain’t yours. You don’t get her head. And plus I want you to be able to get out of here safely. Because right now, the way they’re (the audience) looking at you, I’m assuming there are at least 4-5 attempts on your life.”
Check out the video to see what advice Curly Nikki had to offer and the style options she presented to Love and McClea.
What do you think about Steve and Nikki’s advice to McClea?
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. The well-known women on this list took to social media, to the media, and sometimes even to the work email of their spouses to let the world know that their man was a cheater, and they were done with them. Sometimes they even called out the mistress involved too. In some cases, the scorned wife or girlfriend was able to be friendly with their ex after a lot of time had passed, but for others, the love was lost. Here are 10 ladies who put their cheating spouses on blast for their behavior.
Mashonda and Swizz Beatz have come a long way. While the two can go on vacations together–and with his wife Alicia Keys–for the sake of their children, a few years ago, Mashonda put her ex-husband and Alicia Keys in particular on blast. She claimed that she had asked Keys to stop having involvement with the producer while they were trying to work things out in their marriage, but that didn’t happen, so she put out a scathing open letter.
“My concern with AK is no longer the fact that she assisted in destroying a family but that she has the audacity to make these selfish comments about love and wanting to be with someone, even after knowing their situation. How is this the same Superwoman that I sang out loud with in my truck? I ask myself sometimes. If you are reading this Alicia, let me start by saying, you know what you did. You know the role you played and you know how you contributed to the ending of my marriage. You know that I asked you to step back and let me handle my family issues. Issues that you helped to create.”
I’m sure that you’ve been making mental summer plans during this past brutal winter, which is good because the warm weather is on its way. One of the best things about summer is sitting on the beach or by the side of a pool with a good book. This year there is an armful of literary words to engage and entertain your brain.
From Black Voices
New York Times Best-Selling author-media personality Steve Harvey addresses the pressures of offering relationship advice to couples.
Read his interview at BlackVoices.com