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Telling Your Exes You Have An STD — Here’s What To Expect

September 6th, 2016 - By Julia Austin
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If you’ve ever had the miserable experience of being diagnosed with an STD, then you’ve probably also had your doctor suggest that you call all of your past sexual partners and tell them. It’s the right thing to do, of course, but it’s also a very uncomfortable thing to do. When have you just felt like calling everybody you’ve slept with? There is usually a reason you stopped sleeping with them, and that reason can range from the fact that they were clingy, they were married and they were mean to petty things like they were bad in bed, or they were players. Regardless of the reason, most exes you call up won’t be happy to hear from you, and that’s before they even know the reason you’re calling. So brace yourself; here’s what to expect when telling your exes you have an STD.

Fewer Partners Means More Divorce? Interesting Things To Know About Your Number

June 22nd, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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Serious question: how do you feel about your number? Do you keep the real digit to yourself or does your BFF know too? Have you told your significant other the real truth or the number you arrive at when you divide by two? And how do you feel about someone after they’ve told you theirs?

Well, whether you think your number is big or small, share it or take it to your grave, you’re not alone. We’ve researched everything there is to know about your number and found out what most of us already guessed: some of us lie about it, some of us are proud of it, and other people judge you for it.

We also found out some things we never would have guessed. Like how your number affects your marriage prospects, and how it isn’t the only thing that can put your sexual health at risk!

Going Raw: Things You Should Consider Before Contemplating Sex Without Protection

May 5th, 2016 - By Deja Jones
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At some point in adulthood, you may find yourself playing with fire often, and in ways you don’t think are so bad. For instance, maybe you have been dating someone exclusively for almost a year, and after finding yourself unprepared in a hot and heavy situation, you contemplate going au naturel. Or, in other words, raw. But before you assume that everyone is doing the pullout method and go forward to take that plunge (pun intended), here are some things to take into consideration.

Is It Safe?

According to statistics, each year, there are almost three million new cases of chlamydia, many of which are found in adolescents and young adults. It is estimated that as many as one in five Americans have genital herpes, a lifelong (but manageable) infection, yet up to 90 percent of those with herpes are unaware they have it. In a national survey of U.S. physicians, fewer than one-third routinely screened patients for STDs/STIs. So the question is, when’s the last time you’ve been tested? When’s the last time your partner was tested? Where’s the proof? I mean, in the heat of passion you might not be thinking about all of that, but contracting an STD/STI isn’t like catching a common cold. You can’t just go to the drugstore or pharmacy and grab something over the counter to make it go away. So think wisely before you decide to have unprotected sex. If you’re in a long-term relationship, the best thing to do is get tested — together — so that the both of you are on the same page.

What’s The Status Of Your Relationship?

I think it’s important to know where you both stand before letting him dip and dive. Are you an exclusive couple? Was that something left unsaid? Sure, you might be loyal to him, but he might still be dating around. Are you both free to date and sleep with whomever (see the stats above if this is you) in this relationship or situationship?

Is His Pullout Game Strong Or Are You Willing To Have Him Around For 18 years?

When you have unprotected sex, you have to know that there’s a 50-50 chance that pregnancy can occur just as there’s a 50-50 chance that disease and infection can as well if you don’t know your partner’s status. Unless you’re on birth control, which still isn’t 100 percent reliable, ask yourself, are you ready to be a parent? If so, can you put up with that person for the duration of your child’s youth? Does he know how to time his pullout properly? If it’s a no to all of these questions, you should probably reconsider unprotected sex because you might not be responsible enough just yet to deal with the consequences should you run into an issue.
I’m sure many of us have encountered or fallen victim to the “Let me just put the tip in” dude and before you know it, the tip turns into something a lot longer. And the “I’ll pull out” guy? Good luck with that. Pregnancy scares aren’t fun, and neither is the week or two wait after getting tested to know your status or the stressful interim between that withdrawal method moment and when you think your period is scheduled to come. So before you decide to go raw, no matter how good you think it feels, please consider these things.

You Can Still Get These Common STDs From Oral Sex

April 4th, 2016 - By Julia Austin
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Oral sex has been the go-to for those worried about becoming pregnant, for virgins who want to remain virgins but still want to, well, you know, and for people who do not believe in most forms of birth control. And oral sex can feel a lot safer than intercourse because your ever-so-sensitive genitals aren’t involved. Well, at least not directly with your partner’s. But it is still quite possible to transmit and contract STDs through oral sex, so it shouldn’t be something you feel completely safe doing with new partner’s, whose sexual history you just don’t know. Here are five STDs commonly transmitted through oral sex.

How To Have Extra Safe Sex When You Meet A New Man

April 1st, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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If you’re a millennial, keeping safe is top priority when you’re sexually active. But waiting to ask every new man for an STD test before you have a little fun isn’t always practical. But that doesn’t mean that you have to play Russian Roulette with your lady parts.

There are ways to make sex even safer than just latex condoms alone. And whether you’re exploring your sexual freedom on the regular, or dipping your toe into the Tinder game for the first time in years, you shouldn’t have to sweat bullets about staying safe.

From new condom technology to better ways to protect against STDs, adding these extra precautions to your sex life will give you peace of mind without getting in the way of your fun. So throw caution to the wind by wrapping it up in new ways that will put the worries to the back of your mind and make room for better things.

10 Things You Should Never Do Before Sex

March 30th, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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Ever get in bed to do the do and think, “something just isn’t right?” Things are drier or moister or… smellier than they usually are? Don’t panic. You may have just accidentally done one of the things you should never do before sex. And you’re not alone.

Most of us are so focused on what we should be doing in the sack that we never take a moment to think about what we should be doing before we get there. But it pays to be in the know. Doing some of these things before sex can make you more prone to STDs, infections or burning sensations. And we haven’t even gotten to the uncontrollable gas yet.

Before you hop in to bed the next time, just take a look at this list and see if there’s anything you need to prune from your pre-sex routine.

5 STDs You Can Contract While Using A Condom

March 29th, 2016 - By Julia Austin
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Condoms can be expensive, they can smell funny, and they can make sex less enjoyable. So don’t you think the reward we should receive for using them is the blissful peace of mind that they will keep us totally STD-free? That would be wonderful, but it’s not reality.

There are still plenty of STDs that you can contract even if you use a condom. Yes, even if you layer condoms (which is not smart). That’s why, if you don’t know your partners well, you should always ask about their history with STDs. If you want to be fully certain, you can ask for a print out of their most recent test results. If they won’t provide them or are indignant that you would even ask, then they probably don’t deserve to sleep with you now do they? Here are five STDs you can contract even if you use a condom.

Safe Not Sorry: The Smell, The Shape And Other Surprising Things To Watch Out For On A Man’s Junk

January 26th, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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If we’re honest, it can be awkward to stare “it” in the face when you first meet. But it’s best to get a really good look at what a man is working with before you get too close and engage in anything with a guy. We know you’re just thinking about size (hey #EggplantFriday) but sometimes there’s far more going on down there than meets the natural, distanced eye, especially if you see or smell the following things…

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There’s Something Funky

If it smells “off,” he could have an infection that’s really easy to share. Don’t just assume it’s just a case of sweaty balls, though it certainly wouldn’t hurt if your boo hopped in the shower before you got intimate. If an odor remains even after a good lather, do not pass go or collect anything he might be carrying. It’s time for a conversation and a trip to the doctor.

I Tested Positive For Chlamydia But My Husband Tested Negative

December 23rd, 2015 - By Lauren R.D. Fox
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Today, a pregnant woman wrote to Cosmopolitan’s relationship adviser Logan Hill, seeking advice about a pressing dilemma.

She was recently diagnosed with Chlamydia after a routine check-up. To make matters worse, her husband’s results came back negative —three times. “He got tested three times and each time the test came back negative. I have always been faithful to my husband,” she told Hill. “But now everyone is accusing me of cheating even though he and I are together at least 90 percent of the time – and when we aren’t, he normally knows exactly where I am, or I’m texting him or sending picture messages to him.”

The woman researched her current predicament with her husband and found similar accounts from other couples. However, heath specialists told the husband infidelity is the only reason that would cause them to have different test results. Although the woman claims she’s never been unfaithful in her marriage, it appears her husband doesn’t know whether or not to believe her. Desperately, the woman told Hill:

“How can I convince him I haven’t cheated and obviously got this from the person I was with before him? This is putting a lot of stress on our relationship and on me, which doesn’t help my growing baby.”

Hill responded to the woman, teaching her about asymptomatic STDs that remain dormant for years. These type of STDs never show up when tested, preventing people from being diagnosed. He also suggested the couple stop Googling their condition because “each search result will bring back a different answer, a different suspicion, a different anxiety.” Hill also advised the couple to focus on their pregnancy instead of the mounting paranoia between them.

Do you agree with Hill or would you resolve this issue differently?


STD Rates Hit “Alarming” Record High

November 18th, 2015 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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STD Rates Hit "Alarming" Record High


Earlier this week, we discussed the new STI that surfaced in Britain. Now, this.

The Centers for Disease Control witnessed an “alarming” increase in STD cases in 2014. According to a new report released Tuesday, 1.4 million new chlamydia cases were reported in 2014, making it the highest “number of annual cases of any condition ever reported to the CDC.”

Data showed an increase in gonorrhea and syphilis cases as well. Syphilis, in particular, showed a “troubling” trend among men.

“While rates have increased among both men and women, men account for more than 90 percent of all primary and secondary syphilis cases,” the report explained.

Even worse, there was a 15.1% increase of those diagnosed during the disease’s most infectious stage. What’s even more disturbing is that this is only the tip of the iceberg.

“Many cases of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis continue to go undiagnosed and unreported, and data on several additional STDs — such as human papillomavirus, herpes simplex virus, and trichomoniasis — are not routinely reported to CDC,” the report warns. “As a result, the annual surveillance report captures only a fraction of the true burden of STDs in America.”

Young women and gay and bisexual men are most at risk, according to the report. Half of the 20 million new STD infections that occur each year are among people ages 15 to 24.

“America’s worsening STD epidemic is a clear call for better diagnosis, treatment, and prevention,” explained Jonathan Mermin, M.D., director of CDC’s National Center for HIV/AIDS, Viral Hepatitis, STD, and Tuberculosis Prevention. “STDs affect people in all walks of life, particularly young women and men, but these data suggest an increasing burden among gay and bisexual men.”

Be safe folks, wrap it up.