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If we’re honest, it can be awkward to stare “it” in the face when you first meet. But it’s best to get a really good look at what a man is working with before you get too close and engage in anything with a guy. We know you’re just thinking about size (hey #EggplantFriday) but sometimes there’s far more going on down there than meets the natural, distanced eye, especially if you see or smell the following things…
There’s Something Funky
If it smells “off,” he could have an infection that’s really easy to share. Don’t just assume it’s just a case of sweaty balls, though it certainly wouldn’t hurt if your boo hopped in the shower before you got intimate. If an odor remains even after a good lather, do not pass go or collect anything he might be carrying. It’s time for a conversation and a trip to the doctor.
Today, a pregnant woman wrote to Cosmopolitan’s relationship adviser Logan Hill, seeking advice about a pressing dilemma.
She was recently diagnosed with Chlamydia after a routine check-up. To make matters worse, her husband’s results came back negative —three times. “He got tested three times and each time the test came back negative. I have always been faithful to my husband,” she told Hill. “But now everyone is accusing me of cheating even though he and I are together at least 90 percent of the time – and when we aren’t, he normally knows exactly where I am, or I’m texting him or sending picture messages to him.”
The woman researched her current predicament with her husband and found similar accounts from other couples. However, heath specialists told the husband infidelity is the only reason that would cause them to have different test results. Although the woman claims she’s never been unfaithful in her marriage, it appears her husband doesn’t know whether or not to believe her. Desperately, the woman told Hill:
“How can I convince him I haven’t cheated and obviously got this from the person I was with before him? This is putting a lot of stress on our relationship and on me, which doesn’t help my growing baby.”
Hill responded to the woman, teaching her about asymptomatic STDs that remain dormant for years. These type of STDs never show up when tested, preventing people from being diagnosed. He also suggested the couple stop Googling their condition because “each search result will bring back a different answer, a different suspicion, a different anxiety.” Hill also advised the couple to focus on their pregnancy instead of the mounting paranoia between them.
Do you agree with Hill or would you resolve this issue differently?
Earlier this week, we discussed the new STI that surfaced in Britain. Now, this.
The Centers for Disease Control witnessed an “alarming” increase in STD cases in 2014. According to a new report released Tuesday, 1.4 million new chlamydia cases were reported in 2014, making it the highest “number of annual cases of any condition ever reported to the CDC.”
Data showed an increase in gonorrhea and syphilis cases as well. Syphilis, in particular, showed a “troubling” trend among men.
“While rates have increased among both men and women, men account for more than 90 percent of all primary and secondary syphilis cases,” the report explained.
Even worse, there was a 15.1% increase of those diagnosed during the disease’s most infectious stage. What’s even more disturbing is that this is only the tip of the iceberg.
“Many cases of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis continue to go undiagnosed and unreported, and data on several additional STDs — such as human papillomavirus, herpes simplex virus, and trichomoniasis — are not routinely reported to CDC,” the report warns. “As a result, the annual surveillance report captures only a fraction of the true burden of STDs in America.”
Young women and gay and bisexual men are most at risk, according to the report. Half of the 20 million new STD infections that occur each year are among people ages 15 to 24.
“America’s worsening STD epidemic is a clear call for better diagnosis, treatment, and prevention,” explained Jonathan Mermin, M.D., director of CDC’s National Center for HIV/AIDS, Viral Hepatitis, STD, and Tuberculosis Prevention. “STDs affect people in all walks of life, particularly young women and men, but these data suggest an increasing burden among gay and bisexual men.”
Be safe folks, wrap it up.
Earlier today, TMZ reported that Charlie Sheen will be revealing that he is HIV-positive on tomorrow’s episode of NBC’s “Today”. According to reports, Sheen has known of his status for “a few years.”
People magazine later came forward with reports that Hollywood publicist and crisis manager Howard Bragman was approached by Sheen’s camp six months ago to handle news of his diagnosis.
“The interview could open up a lot of sympathy for him, but he has to be concerned about a fear of litigation from former sexual partners. You don’t take that lightly,” said Bragman.
He went on to say that the actor “is getting treatment, and a lot of people in his life know about it.”
“It’s been going on for quite awhile. He’s not necessarily comfortable talking about it. It was very hard to get up the courage for him to talk about it,” he continued. “I’ve known about this a long time; it’s not a surprise to me. I feel very sorry for his pain. And I hope it’s used as a teachable moment for the world. This is a disease that can affect anyone.”
It’s not entirely clear why Sheen has decided to come forward now. While it hasn’t been confirmed, TMZ is reporting that he decided to make the announcement after he was threatened with multiple lawsuits by former sex partners.
We will continue to keep you posted as new details emerge.
At this point in the game, you would think that we would all know that a major component of practicing safe sex is being tested regularly for sexually transmitted diseases and infections. However, you may be surprised to learn that there is an enormous chunk of the population that still neglect their reproductive health. A recent survey conducted by fertility awareness app Kindara revealed that nearly half of men have never been tested for STDs.
The study was conducted on 500 men ages 18 – 65+ in the United States from varying racial and socioeconomic groups. 43.8% of the participants reported that they had never been tested for sexually transmitted infections. 16.7% indicated that they have only been tested once, and 23.2% said that they got tested periodically.
When it came to new partners, only 8.9% said that they get tested before engaging with a new partner and 7.2% reported that they get tested after having sex with a new partner. A sister survey revealed some interesting information about the STI testing habits of women as well.
34% of women said that they get tested periodically.
29.8% of women reported that have never been tested.
23% of women reported only being tested once.
6.4% reported getting tested before having sex with a new partner.
Getting tested and practicing safe sex is a matter of life or death. We all have to do better.
According to the World Health Organization, you probably have herpes.
In their first estimate of the global prevalence of the disease, the organization explained that more than 3.7 billion adults under the age of 50 suffer from HSV-1, or the herpes simplex virus type 1, usually after catching it in childhood.
While HSV-1 is the strain primarily known for causing cold sores, it can also cause sores on the genitals, the WHO reports.
“The global burden of HSV-1 infection is huge,” the research team wrote. “An estimated 140 million people aged 15-49 years were calculated to have prevalent genital HSV-1 infection globally in 2012.”
Typically, HSV-2 causes genital herpes, but the organization says that HSV-1 is also a culprit in many cases of the sexually transmitted infection.
“The new estimates highlight the crucial need for countries to improve data collection for both HSV types and sexually transmitted infections, in general,” said Dr. Marleen Temmerman, Director of WHO’s Department of Reproductive Health and Research.
As for the Americas, the organization estimates that 49 percent of women and 39 percent of men are carrying HSV-1. In Africa, 87 percent of people have HSV-1 and approximately 60 percent of people in Asia are infected.
When you have an STD, you know to be careful, and even abstain from sex. But what about other conditions like UTIs and yeast infections? If they only happen to women, are men at risk when they have sex with us? Here’s how common female health conditions affect your sex life.
By the time most couples get to the point where they’re engaged, one would think that it’s safe to assume that they know most of the important things about one another. You know the big stuff like the debt situation, whether there are any children from previous relationships running around and of course, preexisting health conditions. Unfortunately, one bride-to-be learned that her fiancé has been harboring a major secret that could potentially change her life forever.
In a post shared to Reddit, the 27-year-old woman who goes by the name ButHeTreatsMeWell explained how she discovered that her fiancé, who suffers from depression and anxiety, is being treated for the herpes virus. According to the post, she made the discovery when searched through his backpack one day.
I saw bottles of pills, one I knew to be his anxiety meds he told me he didn’t like, and two others with a name I didn’t recognize as his depression medication. A quick Google search gave me the answer. It was the treatment for the herpes virus. The dates on the pills were from last month and this month.
I felt my heart drop with what I found. Was this for cold sores and he’s making sure it doesn’t break out? Did he cheat and contract it and just found out? We no longer use protection other than my birth control so have I unknowingly contracted this? My mind whirled as I tried to justify his reasonings for not immediately telling me what was happening. It didn’t make sense to me.
When the woman’s 31-year-old fiancé–who she refers to as Steve–returned home, she confronted him. He confessed that he had been diagnosed with the virus four years ago. They’ve been together for three.
I sat there waiting for Steve to come back while fumbling with this new information. When he came back, I didn’t hesitate to ask what the pills in his backpack were for. At first, it was as I expected, he tried to tell me they were his anxiety medication. I asked about the other pills that weren’t labeled as such, and he couldn’t speak. He sat down and asked me if we could talk about this later. I continued to stare him down until I had to ask the question he didn’t seem to have the strength to say.
“Do you have herpes?”
Four years. We have known each other for close to three. He’s always had it and never told me.
When asked why he failed to tell her, Steve said that “he felt himself to be a monster and didn’t believe that anyone could truly love him if they knew the truth.”
The poster explains:
He contracted it from a childhood friend who he trusted and apparently she didn’t even know she had it when they had a one-night stand. All he wanted to feel was normal and in that mindset didn’t stop to think of the consequences of not telling me. To hide it he took the pills when I’m not around and if he had an outbreak (he said about 2-3x a year with the medication) he would just pretend he’s not in the mood to have sex, or it had happened at times when I was on my period, etc. He said he was very careful in not infecting me.
Ironically, the woman says that she would not have cared if her fiancé told her that he has herpes; however, the fact that he hid his diagnoses for so long is what has her distraught.
What hurts me the most is not that he has herpes because I wouldn’t have given a f*ck if he had something like that. That’s the world we live in. I get that. I, however, can’t wrap my head around the fact that he has been lying to me every day for this long. The pain of not being trusted combined with the lack of respect of my body and my decisions has completely damaged my outlook of Steve. He is thoughtful, caring, sweet and has always wanted to make me happy and treat me “like a princess”. But then this. His fear of rejection appeared to trump any risk of trusting me.
What also scares me the most is that he never had plans to tell me had I not confronted him. At this point, I have looked at it from his point of view, and I could see how it would be hard to tell someone such a secret, one that no one knew. We talked about couples counseling, building that trust again. I go back and forth with my feelings. So far, a lot of what I’m feeling is numb. I’m setting up a gynecologist appointment to do further testing as it seems a basic screening herpes is hard to diagnose. Not sure what to do past this point.
Just after having unprotected sex with somebody, a million thoughts run through your head. You assume the worst. You try to bargain with the devil. You tell yourself you’re being crazy. You tell yourself you were crazy to do that. Here are just some of the scary thoughts we all have after unprotected sex.
Even adults don’t know all the answers when it comes to how sexually transmitted diseases are spread. Unfortunately, a lot of people are just doing guesswork or trying to use “logic” when determining if it’s safe to do x, y, or z with somebody infected with an STD. But STD’s usually don’t care about your logic, so know the facts on how they’re spread.