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Dear Single Sistas,
I’m writing this letter to my Single Sistas who are searching for soul mates, in search of marriage, and those who are settling for a common law commitment. I’m writing to all of my Single Sistas searching for someone to settle down with to encourage you to cease your search for a man/husband because as a single woman it is not your job to seek and search for a mate, but it is your job to be sought. Now I know many of you may be thinking, why is it not my job to search for my husband…doesn’t the saying go, “Seek and you will find…”? Yes that is what this saying says, but it is also said that when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing, and what that means is 1. It is a man’s job to search for a life mate, 2. When a man does find his wife it is a good thing for his life. So Sistas, there is no need to stress out about finding a husband because your husband is in search of you…but are you a woman who is ready to be found by your husband, or by a boyfriend?
Single Sistas who are searching , I urge and encourage you to cease your search for your soul mate, and search within to see if you are marriage material, and deeply ponder and examine your motives for marriage. I urge you to look within the book of life to see what it means to be an unmarried woman serving her purpose first, and then search for what it means to be a wife.
So many times we get caught up in wanting companionship…you know, someone to come home to, someone to cuddle up with, someone to talk to and share with, someone to build with, someone to go to couples retreats with, so forth and so on and all of these feelings are normal and natural. But I urge and encourage you to see if you have the characteristics of a wife as an individual first before you say you want to be married, because the reality of it is, is that most women simply want a wedding, and don’t completely understand the commitment, selflessness, and sacrificial love of being married.
We may not be buying into Alicia Keys and Swizz Beatz marriage made in heaven but that hasn’t stopped them from trying to sell it to us. In the upcoming issue of Vibe magazine, Alicia Keys does her “first real interview” and she brought along her husband to talk about the moment they knew each other was the one. Setting up the story, the writer starts with:
“It’s probably not a coincidence that Alicia Keys and her husband, Kasseem ‘Swizz Beatz’ Dean, are wearing matching pants. His: expertly tailored and trim, skimming his sneakers just so. Hers: a Hot waxed denim that hugs her in all the right places. Both are the color of a well-made cappuccino. They’ve agreed to be interviewed together over dinner, a double date of sorts. It’s one of those novel ideas cooked up by magazine editors, but Keys, who seems more open now than she’s ever been, was keen to participate. And what better way to convey closeness than with his-and-her trousers.”
Matching pants seems to be a theme in the couple’s relationship. Alicia finally decided to give Swizz a chance after her credit card somehow wound up in his pants years ago.
“It was the craziest thing,” says Dean, leaning forward in his chair. “We had a work lunch with some people, and I get home and look in the back pocket—”
“My credit card was in his pocket,” Keys ﬁnishes the story, eyes wide. “Why was my credit card in his pocket?”
“One explanation might be that he’d grabbed it by accident when they split the check, but that would be too prosaic,” the author wrote. “They saw the credit card debacle as a sign, the ﬁrst of many. Well, second, if you count the time, 14 years ago, when they ﬁrst met and Dean tried unsuccessfully to get her number from his friend. ‘It wasn’t our time yet,’ he says with a smile.”
I can already hear the sucking of teeth, and questions asking how it was their time to start hooking up when he was still married to Mashonda a few years back but since Vibe has only teased this small excerpt of the story, we’ll have to wait until the issue drops to see if the writer presses these two on that statement.
Alicia Keys also mentioned she’s working on her sixth studio album, and she says this is the first time in her life that she feels comfortable enough to take risks musically.
“Let’s just say I’ve been very uncomfortable. I’ve been brave enough to be uncomfortable.”
How do you think fans will react to new music from Alicia?
Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.
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