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From Your Tango:
No matter how old you are, it hurts when a friend breaks off a relationship.
A group of my colleagues and friends were talking about losing good friends. One of my friends’ situations was a job promotion and a change of location. Her friend cut her off, didn’t want to be her friend anymore, and un-friended her on Facebook, leaving her feeling confused and mistrusting. Had this person been a friend at all?
Another friend told me how disturbing it was when his very best friend un-friended him on Facebook. He said, “It’s one thing if you don’t know the person very well, but if it’s one of your closest friends, it makes you feel angry and untrusting of the depth of the friendship.”
Another colleague told me he had no idea what he did wrong. His friend just cut him off. When friends cut you off and won’t talk about it, it leaves you with a sense of loss that you can never close. Losing a friend happens to everyone, but with social media it happens even more frequently, and the depth of hurt and loss is just as deep, perhaps deeper when you cannot talk face-to-face with the person about the unanswered whys.
Our talk led us to discussing rejection, loss, pain and the feeling of mistrust that you are left with after your friend cuts you off. It’s one thing if you know what upset them, you can talk to them about the situation. At that point, even if they resist your apology or feelings, you have a sense that they understand your side or reasoning. It’s tougher when you live far away from your friend, and they won’t communicate anything with you. That means you have to try and imagine why they are upset, and in your own mind work through the reasons why you may have upset them. Being upset is one thing, but when someone cuts off all communication, it usually involves conflicts within themselves that they aren’t ready to deal with.
Part of moving on after a friend breaks up with you is evaluating your feelings for this friend. Although you may feel anger and hurt with their actions, it’s important that you consider what sort of friend this really was. Asking yourself these four questions can help you feel more in control of the breakup…
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Social Media brings us closer every day. Unfortunately, that closeness includes exes and haters. On Facebook, these moves are fair game. But if this were real life we’d call the cops
The Passive-Aggressive Poster
Post a selfie, this person writes a status about being self-absorbed. Complain about work, they post a prayer about being grateful to have a job. It’s like having an obnoxious shadow that throws salt on everything you say.
With our sincerest apologies: pic.twitter.com/BOF43jScV0
— American Apparel (@americanapparel) July 3, 2014
Big brands have a love-hate relationship with social media. On one hand, they’re jumping aboard a great marketing opportunity — you’re directly targeting an audience while still keeping that “cool” factor with a few hashtags and Instagram memes. On the other hand, one wrong move will throw you into the receiving end of hate-tweets. “#BoycottingYou” and “#NeverBuyingYourStuff” is a company’s worst nightmare. So when a company representative says something controversial online, best believe that he or she will be fired faster than you can say “bad for business.” Unfortunately (and sometimes fortunately), a few high-profile reps got the boot for being a little too vocal on social media. Quick to cut ties with all the outrage, companies say, “It’s been real, but uh, you gotta go.” Let’s take a look at people who have gotten fired for stirring a little too much trouble on the internet.
We can all agree that selfies have gotten out of control. Though we’re all guilty of snapping a duck face or night-out selfie, it’s not harmless images that really get us in a tizzy. It’s the how-could-they-do-that, what-were-they-thinking photos that cause us to throw some flags all over this social media phenomenon. So because we just couldn’t help ourselves, here is a guide to the most inappropriate selfie locales.
Relationships and social media sometimes are a toxic mix. We’ve all seen the break ups, make ups and screw ups go down on Facebook, Twitter and more. We all use social media differently – for business or pleasure – but there are certain commandments to keep in mind. Comment below! Do you agree? Disagree? Or have a few of your own?
In the world of social media, celebrities have a tendency to post things, regret them, and subsequently delete them. We’ve seen it happen on Instagram and Facebook quite often, but no social media platform has seen more deleted content than Twitter has. And unfortunately for celebs, although tweets can be deleted, they can’t necessarily be forgotten.
Jaden Smith’s Anti-Education Tweet
We’re not quite sure who made a 15-year old boy the authority on education, but okay…
Whether you’re driving other women crazy, promoting stereotypes, scaring away men or even damaging someone’s self-esteem, ladies please stop posting these awful photos to social media.
Blame it on the Internet age, technology, or the self-indulgent selfie-driven culture, but habitual bridge-burning and talking out the side of our necks behind keyboards has become our forte. We’re all standing witnesses to walls tumbling down, friendships crumbling, social media attacks and jobs lost because of an ill-received tweet, text, wall post, or status. The facelessness of the Internet has turned many of us into keyboard gangsters.
I’m guilty of it. Moments of frustration have sent me to the computer where I’ve pounded out a premature “I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired. On to the next one, YOLO,” and later had to incur the wrath of my significant other at the time. I’ve posted photos to Instagram at Six Flags Great Adventure when I was pretending to be sick from work – knowing that my manager was following me on Instagram and Twitter. I’ve also gotten carried away on comment sections and had to regulate on some fools, after their ignorance got the better of me.
The Internet has sprouted backbones in cowards, and converted religious people to vocal sinners; though one can’t completely blame the world wide web and social media for web-induced rachetness that has led to missed opportunities and broken connections. While these things certainly haven’t helped, what’s at the root of this behavior is a failure to gain strong respect for authority figures; a lack of esteem for peers as well as a lack of maturity, and a thorough impatience with people we shouldn’t pay attention to anyway. All this leads to behavior that would have your grandmother doing 360s in her grave.
Snubbing my former manager at a dinner party and blasting her on Facebook because she didn’t write me a letter of recommendation wasn’t right. Neither was leaving my roommate’s cat outside and texting her to say that she would need to retrieve it, because said roommate didn’t replace the cereal of mine that she ate. On a personal and professional level, these sort of behaviors cause precarious interpersonal relationships. Instead of snubbing and exhibiting passive aggressiveness, I should simply ask my roommate to consider her portions when eating my food. I also should just charm my former manager with my winning personality and complementary smile instead of calling her everything but a child of God. But I won’t get to do those things because I have trouble extinguishing the bridges I’ve already burned. Just because I know better, doesn’t mean I get to do better, as relations with these people no longer exist. But, I aspire to be better, and other people certainly should too.
The benefits of mending relationships and soothing burnt bridges is that it can renew opportunities, restore relationships and present new prospects. Plus, it just feels good to be rid of drama. So consider forgiving the neighbor who trespassed against you, reach out to the employer you have wronged, and reunite with the friend who threw up in your bed on her birthday (speaking from personal experience again), because not only do bridge burners miss out, but bridge burners get no love. There are more losses than things gained when you end friendships and relationships with your bad behavior, and do so over trivial things.
From Email To Social Media, Here’s The Ultimate Digital Etiquette Guide For Effective Online Communication
The accessibility offered through digital communication is a luxury. However, with that luxury comes the responsibility to communicate appropriately and respectfully to maintain strong professional ties and build effective digital relationships.
While email is the tried and true form of professional digital communication, the rules are evolving and the lines are blurring across platforms. Social media is now the number one activity on the web, and approximately 87 percent of companies use social media for business, so it’s important to master the lingo and the rules when it comes to communicating on each of these platforms.
Here are a few digital etiquette tips for effective online communication.
Blame it on Beyoncé. Ever since “Single Ladies” dropped, women have been chanting “put a ring on it” like it’s a spiritual war cry. And it seems that these days it really is all about the ring. I know you’ve all seen the Facebook pages, Instagram profiles and Twitter feeds change with each friend that gets engaged. There’s the obligatory “look at my ring” picture. Which is fine, we all understand that. Let the world know, starting your life with someone you love, truly is a joyous occasion.
But just a few weeks ago, in one of our editorial meetings we, the ladies of MadameNoire, noted how the engagement ring and not the love story of you and your new fiancé, has become the focal point of the announcement of your upcoming nuptials. We’ve seen women add a whole new series of poses to their repertoire so that the coveted ring is always prominently featured. In one instance, a woman made her engagement ring her cover photo on Facebook. Something about that just seems a bit extra.
If that doesn’t give you pause, consider the latest trend of women getting plastic surgery to improve the overall look of their “engagement ring selfies.”
Indianapolis’ ABC affiliate is reporting that more and more women are so concerned about their hands looking bad or old in their engagement ring selfies that they are having doctors inject fillers into their hands so they have a more youthful appearance. Naturally, this is all so the ring has an appealing platform on their finger.
Doctors say they have seen a spike in women of all ages turning to the procedure.
Experts attribute the trend to social media. They say that posting on social media causes people to be more critical of their appearance and we know women don’t want to get publicly or privately clowned of having old looking fingers while they’re trying to showcase and show off her engagement ring.
That was sarcasm.
Anyone who’s paying attention to your wrinkly fingers instead of the fact that you’re presumably marrying the love of your life, is somebody who isn’t happy for you and someone you shouldn’t be trying to impress anyway.
What do you think about plastic surgery to showcase the ring? Have you noticed that the rings have taken precedent over everything else these days?