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I question my sanity almost every day. I also question the sanity of the rest of the world…every. single. day. Why? Because I am constantly bombarded by imagery that I cannot fathom for the life of me. My friend sent me this video of an infant girl listening and mimicking Young Thug. I didn’t even need to see it to know that I was going to ruin an otherwise great day!
So, I waited until 11:30 pm to look at the video, 13 hours after he sent it over. It was as ratchet as advertised. He said, “Cute but parents are teaching children to be ratchet for a laugh. And that’s a shame.”
Honestly, I don’t even think it’s that cute. Check it out.
We do it to ourselves, people.
I love the #BlackLivesMatter movement, but we are going to have to come from a more honest, inward place as if that is to truly became reality. Perhaps, I came here on a spaceship. Perhaps, I’m buggin’ out. Last time I checked, kids were supposed to be protected from adult content. This allows them to remain kids until they are old enough to process, right? Wrong.
I did a little social media analysis on the video and conclude that I indeed may be from another planet. The video had over 54,000 views with 1,102 likes at the time of this writing. Only 18 people gave it a “thumbs” down on YouTube. And then when you look at the comments you get things like, “Awwww I saw this on my moms Facebook …. Lol.” That’s a real comment from a female. Most of the comments included the word “cute,” but there were some that considered it a representation of America’s doomed future.
Another “viral video” going around is too disturbing to comment on. People really think this is funny. (Warning: language)
So, is the girl automatically going to be ______ by age 10? Not necessarily, but I don’t get a great feeling from the video when your supposed mother is guffawing in the drivers seat. Shoot, Young Thug’s own daughter was the subject of much controversy when she was cursing like a sailor on Instagram by the child’s mother. Sheesh.
What does it say about young mothers and fathers that they are proud to display their children doused in ignorance? I don’t know the answer. I’m from other universe, remember?
I suppose all is not lost.
This other little kid was posted by one Kimberly Harris and I realized the future is as bright as it dark. It all depends on what side your life happens to fall.
Oh, Serena eventually gave them tickets to the U.S. Open, to the family’s delight. That’s a blessing.
There’s this new meme floating around social media of a woman, in a thin fuchsia robe standing in front of a bountiful, breakfast spread.
As always, it’s not usually the picture that’s off with these memes, it’s the caption.
And this one asks whether or not women even do this anymore.
I don’t know if y’all have noticed but a lot of these memes seem to put a hell of a lot of blame on women–Black women particularly.
And I know that while you might think it’s ridiculous to get upset over a meme, I’m just tired of the most hurtful shots, the deepest wounds coming from Black men. And as much as people want to claim that it’s all jokes, just humor we know that jokes are only funny if they’re rooted in some sense of truth.
According to these memes I see, the truth is Black men keep dispensing this notion that there are no more good, Black women around. And that’s just not true.
I had several reactions to this meme when I first saw it.
– Here we go again!
– Of course there are still women who cook.
– Even the most unskilled chef can scramble an egg and fry some meat.
– If your only requirements for a woman be that she know how to cook and be in a “come get it” robe all the time, you’ll be deeply unfulfilled.
Then a friend from college posted the same meme, a woman this time and she asked the same question I had. Why do men always blame women for their poor decision making? If you choose to date a girl who can’t cook breakfast then whose fault is that? Far too often, men pick women who meet very few of their so-called standards–beyond attractiveness–and then they’re shocked and appalled when she doesn’t get down like you’d want wifey to. Don’t blame her. That’s your fault!
But today, as I was eating lunch with my coworkers, I thought of yet another issue with this damn meme.
Men are so quick to list their requirements, their must haves but are often very slow to explain what they’ll be able to offer you. And hell, when they do list those things, much of it is thinly masked patriarchy, i.e. control. I appreciate that you’ll support and provide for me financially. I’ll take that–along with what I bring to the table– but will you support and encourage me to be a better person? Will you not only be concerned about my emotional well being but strive not to intentionally hurt my feelings or at least apologize sincerely when you do so?
Until a man can prove he can do and be these things, women shouldn’t be scrambling any eggs, toasting any bread or frying any meat. Until women have seen those things, why should she be in the kitchen on wifey mode, cooking food for you?
And that’s the thing. Perhaps men are having a hard time finding women who cook because they haven’t proven that they really deserve it.
So yeah, it’s cereal for you bruh.
What I really want to know is, why aren’t men discussing what they can bring to the table? Where are those memes? Perhaps memes holding men accountable for their decisions or asking them to step up take too much thought and effort. Maybe they aren’t as funny as attempting to shame women again.
We all use social media to connect with family and friends, keep up with current events, and even promote our own businesses. But did you know you could save a few bucks via social media? You just have to know where to look.
With a little time and research you can find bargain deals, coupons, freebies. Here are six easy ways to leverage social media to save money on almost anything!
Follow Brands You Love
By following the brands you adore on social media you can get real time information about upcoming sales, coupons or giveaways that may or may not be listed
Follow Daily Deals Sites
Daily deals sites offer some incredible ‘limited time only’ discounts on select items and experiences. Connect with daily deal sites such as Woot, Groupon, and Living Social on Twitter and Facebook or via their apps. rather than signing up for email which can clutter your inbox. There are also apps on iOS and Android like Beep’nGo and Retail Me Not which notify you of deals in your proximity.
Hashtags are not just for #ThrowbackThursday or #WashWednesday, they can also be use to find deals and coupons. Although, Twitter and Instagram are the best platform to search for savings by hashtag, you may find success on Facebook as well. Use the search button and insert keywords like, #Coupon #Deals #Sale #Clearance and you will yield hundreds of items to choose from. To narrow down your search for a specific item such as boots, you would type in #Boots #Sale into the search box. Additionally using seasonal hashtags like #LaborDay #ColumbusDay #BlackFriday #CyberMonday will retrieve posts from retailers who are having sales during the holidays.
Just like daily deal sites, there are plenty of freebie sites with an active social media presence. To get started, check out these four @GimmieFreebies @Freebies4Mom @heyitsfree @icravefreebies to see what great freebies you can receive.
Connect with Community Managers
A majority of major brands have community managers whose job it is to ensure that their customers on social media are happy. Use these digital customer service agents to your advantage by starting a conversation with them on Facebook or Twitter about your pleasure or displeasure about a product or service. Don’t forget to ask them about current or future promotions or sales.
Let Others Do the Work for You
If you are short on time, seek out social profiles that curate and aggregate deals.
Follow Twitter accounts such as @RetailMeNot, @Coupons, @KrazyCouponLady and @MoneySavingMom. You can check into these feeds daily to learn about coupons, freebies, and samples you can redeem online or in-store.
Lastly, while you can save money while using social media, it can also leave you vulnerable to identity theft and fraud. Before you buy or sign up for programs, do your research on the service provider or retailer. Check their reviews on websites like Yelp, Angie’s List and the Better Business Bureau.
If you see negative ratings or no data on the company be wary of purchasing from them. Keep in mind, when using social platforms, make sure your privacy settings assure that you control who sees your personal information. Also check the settings on your tablet and smartphones to ensure your physical location is only revealed when you want it to be.
When most of us think about our proposals, we envision a man in our face, on bended knee. But we’re living in the digital age and it seems that almost everything is done so it can be seen by others. We love The Shade Room over here and this morning we were surprised to see the man who tried to propose…or rekindle his relationship with his lady love through the gossip site’s Instagram page.
Don’t believe me? Just watch.
#TSRProposals : So one of our #roommates reached out to us, hoping that we could aid him in helping his girl see that not only does he want her back, but he wants to make her his wife. His girl is a daily reader of TSR and he wanted to surprise her with this post. You know we LOVE, LOVE. So here is his story: _______________________________________I met my best friend 3yrs ago.. She was working at a hospital in Memphis TN as a nurse. Shortly after meeting her she started changed her career to become a traveling nurse.. and wanted me to be as supportive of her career as she was of mine. So I agreed to it. After a month or so I started to get Lonely. So I started flying out to Boise Idaho where she was working at least once every 2 months. Through it all I never cheated not once. Then once her Boise assignment was over she wanted to try Cali so I flew out and we drove to Cali.. She loves it in Cali and has been there almost a year.. For me to explain why I'm asking for her back I gotta explain how I lost her: Communication with long distance. So I moved to Cali with her for about 6months from the beginning of the year to now. Things were really going good until I couldn't find steady work and take care of her the way she deserved. So now I'm in a position where I'm getting stable and don't wanna lose the 1 that has my heart.. She's the world to me and I don't wanna lose her. I know true love only comes once and I refuse to let it slip away from me that easily! I'm just willing to fight for the one I love! The woman I met 3and a half yrs ago and still today is worth it! I just want to make her my wife!" #TSRBreakUps
It seems sweet enough. Sadly, this story doesn’t have a happy ending. If Bud had done this in the privacy of his own home, or at least off of Instagram no one would have known about it. Sadly, it’s all on the internets.
And so was her rejection.
Naturally, since their business is all aired out, people in the comment section are discussing the “proposal” and whether or not she should give this brother another chance. They referenced Michelle taking a chance on Barack when he was her intern, riding around with a hole in his car. They said that sometimes you have to build with a man.
There’s nothing wrong with building with a man but the operative word in that sentence is “with.” From the story, it’s clear that career is important to this woman. She was willing to travel all over in order to pursue her dreams. And while it’s lovely that Bud was willing to follow and support her, he didn’t have the financial stability to go along with it. And not only that, she waited three years for him to get it together. And he has yet to do so. If that’s not showing a desire to build with a man, I don’t know what is. Three years is a long time to be unstable. People love to reference Barack and Michelle when Barack had already graduated from an Ivy League university and was on his way to the top with the internship. He was already walking in his potential. So she had plenty of signs to know that he could be something great.
Furthermore, I never hear this talk of men building with women. Ladies, have you noticed that if a man doesn’t like something, that’s it? Men generally don’t compromise on their relationships preferences. But women are always expected to bend, even when we know we won’t be happy doing so. Time out for that.
Bottom line is, you have to know your partner. If financial stability is important to her, as it is with many people, then why are you offering a marriage proposal when you haven’t met her requirements?
From her words and even that last hashtag it seems that she’s still holding out hope for their relationship. I am too. They would have an amazing story to tell if it did work out. But if Joe Budden and Tahiry taught us anything, it’s that a marriage proposal is not enough when you haven’t addressed the core issues in your relationship.
What do you think about this woman and Bud? Should she give their relationship a chance or does Bud need to show and prove?
New social media platforms are popping up almost daily. Whether someone just shot a picture of their favorite meal on Instagram or uploaded their kids at dance rehearsal on YouTube, social media is making it easier and easier to connect and share with people all over the globe.
But as a parent should you ‘friend’ your teen on social media?
According to a study at Brigham Young University the answer is yes. Professors Sarah Coyne and Laura Padilla found that teens who connect with their parents on social media platforms, feel closer in real life. In addition to it helping the parent-child relationship, they also found that it helps influence generous and kind behavior in the teens. Overall the study suggest that parents need to be media savvy and be ahead of the curve in order to know where their children are, the type of crowd they hang with, and what they are into.
Here is a Q&A about their findings…
How does social media help families feel more connected?
You can do a lot on social networking sites. Your kid might post a picture, and you might show support by liking it or making a nice comment, or a status update that does the same kind of thing. It gives more opportunities to give positive feedback or show affection. Social networks give an intimate look at your teenager’s life. It lets parents know what their kids are going through, what their friends think is cool or fun, and helps them feel more connected to their child. It gives a nice little window into what is going on.
What’s the typical level of family engagement on social media?
Our study asked how often they interacted on social media. Half of the teens in our study reported being on social network sites with their parents and 16 percent interacted with parents every day through social media.
Were more frequent interactions linked to more family closeness?
Yes, the more frequently parents used social media to interact with teens, the stronger the connection.
Parents could take this too far presumably. Did you see any of that in your study?
It is the kind of thing that you can take too far. Parents need to be smart about how they use it. I think it is a really great tool to connect with your kids. But just like everything else, it’s got to be used in moderation. You don’t want to be the parent who posts embarrassing pictures of your kid all the time or makes snarky comments. You have to keep it at the level that’s appropriate and respectful of what the teen wants as well.
So what you see here is just one manifestation of an overall healthy parenting style?
Exactly. You don’t want these results to get overblown to say, “If you friend your kid on Facebook, you’re suddenly going to have a great relationship.” It’s just one tool in an arsenal that parents have to connect with their teens. This is what teens are doing – they are on social media already, so it’s a nice tool to use.
Liars. They’re everywhere. On social media, in the entertainment industry, in your circle of friends and even in your own family. People lie for all types of reasons. But sometimes the lie seems so unnecessary that you just have to ask, “Why are you lying?” The experience is so common and so universal that a video of Nicholas Fraser dancing and singing a song, set to the beat of NEXT’s “Too Close,” has gone viral several times over. And once something goes viral, it inspires all types of remixes. Some of them have been quite entertaining. Check out some of our favorites.
I was one of the last people in my group of friends to get on Facebook. I just didn’t see what all the hype was about and I wasn’t all that interested in sharing bits of my personal life online. Finally, after much convincing, I started an account and slowly began to add friends. And I do mean slowly because it’s 2015 and I still only have about 350 Facebook friends, compared to the 1,000+ friends that most people I know have.
I was once a Twitter hater as well, but now it’s one of my favorite social media platforms. Needless to say a lot has changed over the years. Some of it has been a genuine interest in using these platforms to stay connected with family and friends, while a lot of it has been an appreciation for the benefits that come with using social media to grow your business. No entrepreneur can deny that.
So with all of the amazing opportunities social media offers, I think we all know that all good things can come with an ugly side. Haven’t you ever seen something on Facebook, Instragram or Twitter and wondered why the hell someone would post it. I know I have. Actually, it happens every single day.
And while I am the first person to now admit that social media is incredible, I am also the first person to wonder why people share so much, not just about themselves but about their kids. Despite my desire to not share too much about my children, I have acknowledged that I chose to launch a business where I am the brand and building trust with my audience requires me to share some of who I am. And honestly, despite my paranoia about the world we live in, I like letting people into my life a little bit.
But I also think that as parents, we might want to consider sharing a little bit less about our children. Although doing so may be all in love and good fun, there can definitely be harmful consequences when we don’t think twice.
Here are 5 reasons you should share less about your kids on social media.
Your kids may not want it public. Sure, it might seem cute to share Jared’s first time on the potty but you really have no idea where this picture might end up or what type of embarrassment it may cause your kid when he gets older. It’s one thing to have family members flipping through albums and seeing those pics, but it’s an entirely different story when anyone can see them.
Some details can put them at risk. We often over share without even realizing it. Posting a picture where people can see the name of the street you live on or the sign for the school your kid attends can be dangerous. You also may want to limit sharing your child’s name, birthday and other details. It gives too many people access to details that they can use to cause harm.
Digital kidnapping is real. You’ve heard the stories before, but I am sure you think it won’t happen to you. I’m here to tell you that it CAN happen to you. People do steal images of children from Facebook pages or Instagram and they can use your child’s image for a number of things without your permission.
Online predators. I know none of us want to think about this, but online predators are out there. So before you post that cute naked picture of your little one in the bath, consider the fact that the image may end up in the wrong hands. Some pictures of our kids belong in a photo album or protected on our hard drives.
You don’t know what their future holds. You really have no idea what your kid plans to do when they become adults, so why take away their power to choose. They may end up in a profession where all those pictures may hurt, or your kids may end up being a lot more private than you are and have no interested in having their images plastered online.
Sharing too much about your kids doesn’t make you a bad parent. Most of the sharing comes from a place of pride and love. It’s totally understandable. But as parents, even the very best intentions can land us in a jam. Think twice before you share more than you really need to. Our job is to protect our kids as much as we can until they are old enough to figure it out on their own.
Martine Foreman is a life + relationship coach, freelance writer, lifestyle blogger, and speaker. To learn more about her work and get great tips on how to create a life you love, check her out at CandidBelle.
Mike Epps isn’t the only one who has been caught with his hand in the direct message cookie jar. These celebrities have also been caught using social media to try and hook up with people. Have you ever received a celebrity DM?
Wow, Tina looks good in that bikini! you think, strolling through your Facebook feed. She just had the baby last month. How did she do it?
And there’s Nessa and her man in Dubai. The last time you and the hubby had a vaca Bush was President. Wonder who watches the kids?
Ah, look at Lisa’s spa day with the girls. You couldn’t get a sitter…
Switches to Instagram.
Damnit! Why didn’t anyone tell you that Stevie Wonder was playing a concert in Central Park?! Don’t they know how you feel about Stevie? There was that one time you and your mom risked getting cancer staying at the dankest, darkest, mildewy-est hotel room in New Orleans (you booked late) for Essence Fest, just to see him? But, man, it was worth it. You’d fly to the moon to see Stevie. To think that all you had to do was jump on the freakin’ subway train is maddening! And just look at everyone smiling like this could be his last concert on earth. Damn your life and everyone on social media!
It’s like you never get to do anything fun. Most days feel like a constant grind between work and the kids. And it’s not like you don’t enjoy spending time with them, it’s just that you want to be able to do some of the things you used to, like pick up and go!
Yet moms on social media are everywhere doing everything and sometimes you feel like that old newspaper sitting in the corner turning yellow.
It makes your relationship with social media dysfunctional at best. You love it, you hate it but you keep coming back. It’s because of work, you tell yourself, but a part of you knows better. Social media is your lifeline and without it you’d lose sight of everything.
So how do you deal with these feelings of straight-up envy whenever you get on social media?
You’d call your mom for advice, but she’s only on Facebook for Candy Crush. Last checked, she had no friends. Calling your friends is out because they’re the reason your life sucks. Who else could you call…? said while scrolling through your Facebook feed.
Wait, there’s Harriette Cole. The other day you saw a promo for her column, Ask Harriette, and were happy to see her still doing it. Why not ask her? She’s a mom on social media and since she was your boss back in the day, maybe she’ll take your call…
“First of all, stop taking in so much social media!” Hariette scolds. “And also be aware of the triggers that bring you down. Usually, it’s the images.”
She got that right. But it’s impossible to avoid the images.
“Well, if it happens that you see people from your circle at a party that you weren’t invited to, instead of getting down and grudgeful, congratulate them. Tell them that the event looked like a lot of fun and you’d love to be invited the next time. It happens so much with moms because we’re always taking care of our children. People forget. So remind them.”
She’s right. Between the kids, work and the hubby, your time is limited. Invites from even your closest friends get turned down, especially if they aren’t kid friendly.
“But you also have the power to decide what you want,” she adds. When you’re balanced enough to look outside of your nuclear family and work, use social media to start engaging. If it’s motivation to work out that you want, ask some friends on Facebook to join you on a run. If it’s inspiration and inclusion you need, create your own sisterhood.”
It makes so much sense. But when did you become so envious in the first place?
Maybe when you developed mom bod or perhaps when you started wearing the same three pieces from your wardrobe everyday, or maybe just maybe when you stopped remembering the last time you hung out with friends. Your lifestyle and priorities are so different. You ain’t the girl you used to be. And maybe that’s fine because the old you didn’t have kids and all she thought about was herself … and imagine if you couldn’t make the switch? You’re not supposed to be her. Running the streets all day and night. The vision of perfection. Who’s with your kids?
Harriette shared one last tidbit that was helpful. She said that her mom would tell her to count her blessings whenever she was feeling less than. “What are the little things you can be grateful for?” she’d say. “And she’d literally have me count them.”
You’re grateful for this conversation.
Erickka Sy Savané is a freelance writer and creator of THE BREW blog. Before that she was a model/actress/MTV VJ. She lives in Jersey City with her husband and two kids. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram.