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The first few days (or weeks) after a breakup you’re certain that the split was nothing but a bad thing. All you can focus on is what you lost. But, eventually, you start to remember the little things that make being single not so bad. In fact, there are things you missed while in a relationship!
First, let’s point out how we’re in the middle of winter and battling freezing temperatures and constant snow in many states, but Michael B. Jordan and his lady friend are kicking it in Miami shirtless and in a bikini, respectively, down in Florida.
But I digress.
The Fruitvale Station and That Awkward Moment star was spotted this weekend in Miami with a young lady very close by the entire time. The two hit the beach for some sun and jet skiing.
Now ladies, I know that some of you have already claimed Michael as “yours” and he’s been saying that he’s single so don’t let these pictures deter you. Yes, she looks like she’s cute and she appears to have a great body and this is the first woman he’s been spotted with since he and his ex-girlfriend broke up, but what does that mean? I’ll tell you: not a thing! As far as we’re concerned, he’s still up for grabs.
Anyway, check out a couple more pictures of Michael and his “friend” as they enjoy that beautiful Miami weather and water.
Come New Years Eve at midnight, there is a big magical moment and you’re either inside of it or you feel very, very outside of it. And where do you go when you feel left out? In your head, of course. Here are 14 crazy thoughts you’re likely to have if you’re single New Year’s Eve.
With the holiday season in full swing now, it’s not uncommon to see couples out shopping, ice skating, and sitting in front of a fireplace being all romantic and such. As a single woman you may find that you’re not completely able to truly enjoy the holidays because you don’t have a man. While you may not believe it, you don’t have to be in a relationship to enjoy the season and have fun during these times. In fact, there are some true perks. Here are 14 benefits of being single during the holidays.
I am a 34-year-old female and I’ve been working at a firm for 13 years and I’m not even making $30, 000 a year. I have two children and I can hardly pay for their tuition and my others bills every month. I have bad credit and I am drowning in debt. I feel that no matter how I try I can’t see my way out of all this debt. I live in a studio apartment that I rent from my parents (when I can afford to pay them) and neither of my kids have their own room or space. What hurts even more is that when my parents need my help financially I can barely help myself much less to help them.
I feel like such a disappointment to my kids, my parents and myself. I have been feeling so bad for the past five months that I am wondering if
I am falling into depression. I feel that I am not worthy of happiness or anything good. Do you know how it feels for your kids to want to do the simplest of things on the weekends and you can’t afford it? How can I get my life back? Where do I go from here? Honestly, if I continue on this pathway of life I really don’t know where I am going to end up emotionally.
Read Dr. Sherry’s response at Essence.com
From Single Black Male
Unfortunately, if you’ve played the dating game long enough you’ve probably (accidentally?) dated a married person or suspected you dated a committed/married person. You might not have any concrete evidence that they’re lying, but their actions don’t match their words. Maybe you can relate to this story.
Boy meets girl. Everything is going great. They claim to be single. They’re wonderful to hang out with – usually in awkward hours. They meet all of your needs and the rest of those superficial qualities you want in a mate. But, something just isn’t right about them. They have great text-based conversations between the hours of 8:01am – 4:59pm, THEN THEY FALL OF THE FACE OF THE EARTH!
A quick story from my own personal well of experiences…
Young WIM – literally young, I was probably 23 or so and equally as dumb in the ways of the world. I met this woman off of BlackPlanet.com (strike one) and she tells me she’s “separated” (strike two). I wasn’t even familiar with the term. I just saw a pair of 28-year-old yams that I thought needed further investigation. Anywho, flash-forward to the first night we finally have a chance to meet due to her ever-changing, frequently erratic schedule (strike three).
Why did she have Young WIM ducking behind club pillars because her husband showed up? They were indeed legally “separated” but she left out the “he’s crazy, big and liable to kill you and everyone in this club” part.
*sigh* Women, be women-ing.
Because I feel like we’re family here, I can’t lie to y’all and say #SheWasTooFine.
But I can say #SheWasThick.
Read more at SingleBlackMale.org
Desperately seeking Prince Superman:
Requirements:Tall. Dashing. Handsome. Strong. Romantic. Thoughtful. Hot. Humble. Philanthropist.Rich. Loves his mother. Great in bed. Loves to give massages. Volunteers at the local shelter. Reads to the blind. Rocket Scientist. Six foot two. Perfect teeth. Always in a great mood. Loves cellulite. Buys flowers every Wednesday. Always has good breath. Has own private jet. Does the dishes. Exactly like my father. Exactly NOT like my father. Makes the bed. Has NO FLAWS WHATSOEVER.
The list goes on and on and on.
Unfortunately, I’m not making any of these up. These are examples of things I’ve heard from my women clients regarding what they want in a man. Of course, there are things on that list (and every girl’s list) that are perfectly appropriate and reasonable depending on unique, individual needs…but would you really rather be single and alone just because he forgot you prefer Oriental Lily’s and brought you Daisies instead?
Here’s the problem that I see time and time again…unrealistic expectations. It’s probably one of the top reasons many people have such a hard time finding the right person for them…because what Ms. Single and Looking defines as “Right” is actually completely “Wrong”!
So let’s look at this phenomenon a little more closely. Why do we have such unrealistic expectations to begin with? Where do these ideas come from? Who taught us that if it’s not“Happily Ever After” then it must not be “True Love”? Aside from the obvious cartoons we all watched with princesses, dwarves, and fairy tale creatures…we get our lessons in love from what we witness growing up. Of course there’s a bajillion and one messages people get from their families depending on the dynamics, parental relationship (or lack thereof), and ways we each interpret those messages as kids.
For example, if your mom constantly put your dad down and criticized him all the time, you might learn that women should emasculate men and men should be doormats. If your mom did everything for everyone else and always played the martyr (i.e.: never taking care of herself…whoasme), then you might learn that your own needs are not as important as everyone else (and you might end up with a man who needs a mommy for a partner). If your dad was always betraying your mom and she looked the other way and always tried to make it work, you might learn that women should put up with anything and let any and all indiscretions be OK.
Read more at YourTango.com