It’s natural and quite common to be in competition with your brothers and sisters when you’re growing up. But when does that competition become unhealthy? And does this healthy or not unhealthy rivalry ever stop? We asked our Facebook and Twitter followers whether or not they have a little (or big) rivalry going on with their siblings. See what they had to say. 

Zara: I have 2 younger siblings but, disowned them a few years back.

Jacquelyn: Healthy. I was raised in a family of 7 children and our parents. My parents and 3 siblings have died so I cherish anytime I can spend with my brother and sisters.

Diane: it was healthy when we were young but unhealthy now. I love him from a distance.

Tiffany: Jealousy is one of the most ugliest traits to have. My sister despises the fact that I have a coke bottle shape #WeDontTalk

The six daughters of Malcolm X and Dr. Betty Shabazz are fighting over Dr. Shabazz’ $1.4 million estate. Part of that estate includes unpublished writing from Malcolm X such as the journals the slain civil rights leader kept while he was in Africa and the Middle East.

In order for anything to be sold or published, all of the women must sign off on it and that is where the trouble lies. Accusations of financial mismanagement, sabotage and even mental incapacity have kept the estate stuck in the court system.

The Shabazz sisters have been through a lot in their lives. Some of them witnessed the assassination of their father in 1965 and in 1997 their mother Dr. Betty Shabazz died three weeks after suffering major burns from a house fire set by her grandson.  Unfortunately, their in-fighting has impeded their ability to share more of their parents’ legacy. An attorney for one of the sisters claims that the taxes due on the estate now exceed the value of the estate.

Have you ever endured intense family fighting? How did you resolve it? Should you always forgive family or are their instances when you have to just cut off a relative?