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“God Corrected Me Through You All” Sheryl Underwood Talks The Infamous Conference Call And Backlash

December 10th, 2014 - By Veronica Wells
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We have never talked about Sheryl Underwood this much before. But ever since she revealed her secret on “The Talk” about fellow comediennes talking badly about her, everyone’s very interested. Months after her admission the streets are still whispering about it. So when Sheryl stopped by Power 105’s “The Breakfast Club” this morning, she spent a significant amount of time talking about the reason she shared the story in the first place, why she never addressed it with the women personally and the aftermath of it all.

On the initial call 

I did not know that people were not checking for me like that. I did not know that I was not on chandelier status. I did not know that. Am I mad? No I’m not because some of us get along and some of us don’t. But I’m not going to let nobody knock me out. I believe that the Lord was telling me ‘Get yourself right.’ Don’t look at nobody else. Look at you. You are the foundation of what’s happening to you.

Why she never addressed it with the ladies

I kind of thought maybe I wouldn’t be able to talk to them and as you can see, I may be right.

On Rickey Smiley saying Sheryl Underwood was not blameless

When you have comedians that say Sheryl Underwood is not pure, she would come in and change the lineup. That’s not what was happening. In my contract, it would say ‘Sheryl Underwood host.’ So I would enforce my agreement, like I saw the men enforcing their agreements. All I was doing was what I learned. I watched Bernie Mac when he was alive. I watched Stevie Harvey. I watched all the men walk in and say ‘That’s not going to happen.’ I’m a boss. I just happen to be a girl. But I’m a boss. I make my money for me. I don’t have people representing me and I’m not going to have no man that I’m sleeping with representing me. Now you make your bones off of me, now you’re mad at me now you take my money and give it to someone else. So how I get everything I got, it’s me.

Me being on CBS that was God opening a door, didn’t even know a job to be had. Now I’m on it. But it’s still me. It’s me orchestrating me.

On working with these women

If I had had an agent on that call and he would have dialed or she would have dialed in early, they may or may not have told me. But I’d still be, ‘La, la, la. I think we cool. Let’s make some movies together.’ I still believe even if you don’t like me, we can still make some movies together.

I thought that what I was doing was telling a greater story was how God corrected me through you all and the last thing I probably should have said was ‘And if I ever hurt you, I’m asking for forgiveness.’

I was being called a liar but you [The Breakfast Club] got the footage saying there was a call.

Has she spoken to them since then?

Not at all. I was not lying. There was a call and things were being said about me.

Why did you do it in front of them– White people. 

Why didn’t you keep it in the family. Because it wasn’t about that. It was about a secret that I had been harboring. God said to me, I can’t speak about what God says to other people. God to me, I put you here for a reason, you better do something good with it.

Will I spend my life trying to make amends? Yes, I will. But I think I’ll make amends by becoming a better person. I’ll make amends by not keeping up a comedy gang war.

Is the lawsuit real?

I can tell you this, if there’s an admission that there was a call, there were things said about me. If you still feel you must do this, use your resources in a better way.

The Impact

I also understand the power of my words. We started with a secret that’s now people use for their Bible study classes.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Sheryl probably shouldn’t have mentioned these ladies’ names. But I tend to agree with her, the greater moral behind her story is that the things people say to take you down, can be used to elevate you. And there is power in hearing your shortcomings if you know how to respond properly. And Sheryl did that.

You can watch the rest of the interview where she talks about her show “The Talk,” her take on the Bill Cosby allegations and what she thinks Black Greek Letter Organizations should be doing about the protesting of police brutality across the country. If you want to her speak specifically about all the comedienne drama, go to the 12 minute mark.

“If I Ever Hurt These Ladies Or Anybody Else, I’m Asking For Forgiveness”: Sheryl Underwood Speaks On Backlash From Her Conference Call Story

November 13th, 2014 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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Ever since comedienne and “The Talk” co-host Sheryl Underwood shared her conference call story with the world, she’s had to deal with Laura Hayes, Sommore and Adele Givens calling her story an exaggeration, or flat out “bullsh*t.” Just last week, Sommore said that the comedienne has ulterior motives and is a phony.  So recently, while on the red carpet at the Soul Train Awards, the Jasmine Brand talked to Sheryl Underwood about the drama, and she decided to clear some things up. I’m not going to pretend like everything she said made sense, but here you go:

Well you know what? I tell you what…God don’t make mistakes, so you just gotta get ready. When the Lord tells you what to do….One thing I should have said was, ‘If I ever hurt these ladies or anybody else, I’m asking for forgiveness. Now there’s been some dispute…I think everybody got a right to their recollection, and then what normally happens is, do you want to go tit for tat, or do you want to move on to where you supposed to be? At the end of the day, what I was really trying to show was first, that there was a powerful group of women who had a top tour like the “Kings of Comedy.” Second, that when you hear things being said, even if you hear them on a conference call, or you hear them anywhere, what you need to do is, take what the lesson is, and perfect yourself, so that’s what I did… If somebody says “Well maybe you need to accouterment yourself, maybe somebody put their foot in your face and beat it to death, and get snatched with some undergarments”– and everybody knows this is not my hair, but this is what we do. Don’t come out the house looking any kinda way. Well, when you hear anything being said about you in any way, first, listen to it. Then correct it, and then go where God wants you to go. I’d love to work with anybody, my job is to help put money in people’s pocket, and the Lord has blessed me with Sheryl Underwood radio,The Talk,” touring. How does somebody like me that asked the Lord to please stop making Vodka so delicious, end up with the Bishop TD Jakes on a comedy tour? That’s because God is moving me around, and Vodka is delicious, and so is Moscato.

Yeah, I told you it didn’t all make sense, but you get the point: What she remembers about their conversation pushed her to better herself and helped her to get where she is now. That’s all that matters, right? Check out her interview in full below.

Comedienne Sommore Says Sheryl Underwood Is Phony, And Speaks On What She Says Really Happened In That Conference Call

November 7th, 2014 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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In September, everyone was talking about Sheryl Underwood after she revealed on her talk show, “The Talk,” that comediennes Sommore, Adele Givens and Laura Hayes could be overheard talking very badly about her on a conference call for Queens of Comedy. She received not just sympathy, but cheers from a lot of people because of how she used what mean things she heard to get better as a comedienne and become the co-host of “The Talk.” However, Givens and Hayes called bull on the story, and now, so is Sommore.

In a chat with The Breakfast Club to promote her appearance at the New York Comedy Festival this weekend, Sommore cleared some things up about Underwood’s conference call story when she was asked what the deal was by Charlamagne.

“Sheryl Underwood, Jesus…The thing about it is, I’m a chandelier. I always call myself a chandelier. I don’t hate on nobody. I don’t compare myself to nobody. I don’t compete with nobody else. I just try to be the best me I can be. Miss Underwood was never considered to be a Queen of Comedy. Never. What she was talking about, was the project that we were discussing about going into prisons and doing comedy for inmates. And she overheard a conversation about us. You know, when you’re doing business, when it comes down to the details of things, sometimes you don’t really want to hear all that. Even when an agent is going in to talk about their client, they don’t bring their client with them because some things that are said might not sound good to them. So that’s what basically happened.”

Sommore says that it bothered her that Underwood felt the way she did and put her on blast on the show, but only because at an event right before the conference call story came out, Underwood was being phony towards her. But Sommore made it clear that she is not, and never has been friends with “The Talk” co-host.

“And the thing that bothered me about it was that I seen her about two weeks before she said this on television. And we were at Steve Harvey’s Hoodie Awards, and she did this skit where she called up all the comedians on stage and she was calling me. All the people that was there they can attest to this. She kept saying ‘Sommore come on up on stage’. And I didn’t go. Because first of all, I don’t rock with her like that. And one thing I’m not, I’m not phony. I don’t rock with her like that. And it was weird because people were like,’Where is she? I just seen her?’ I didn’t dip out, I just didn’t move.

It’s not that I don’t like her, I’m cordial to her. I just don’t rock with her like that. Meaning, I’m not getting ready to come up and be part of your skit–for what? You do you, do what you do. So what was crazy was, if you felt that way about me or that I wronged you, why would you invite me on stage? See, I don’t like people that have ulterior motives. I felt like, you’re on TV every single day and you obviously ran out of stuff to talk about. I didn’t even recall the conversation. We were talking about business, it wasn’t even funny. I can’t even imagine it being funny.”

Still don’t know who or what to believe in all of this, but check out Sommore’s convo with The Breakfast Club below. The chat about Underwood starts  around the 5:30 mark.

Adele Givens To Sue Sheryl Underwood + Walter Latham Says She Was Never Invited To Be A “Queen Of Comedy”

September 25th, 2014 - By Veronica Wells
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Last week, Sheryl Underwood shook up some things when she revealed that her fellow, Black comediennes, Sommore, Laura Hayes and Adele Givens talked about her like a dog during a conference call years ago when she was invited, by the tour’s creator, Walter Latham, to participate on The Queens of Comedy tour.

We also reported that when the ladies got wind of the news, they were not happy about it. And then Rickey Smiley came forward and said that Sheryl is not the angel she’s portraying herself to be in this whole scenario.

The plot thickens as the days go by.

Today, the Humor Mill is reporting that Givens is not only disputing Sheryl’s story, she plans to sue Underwood, “The Talk” and CBS.

Givens appeared on the Rickey Smiley Morning Show today and disputed Sheryl’s entire story. She said the tale is a “blatant lie” and “the conversation never happened because [they] were never on a conference call discussing Sheryl.”

Smiley also had a statement from Walter Latham, the tour’s creator, that said he never even invited Underwood to participate on the tour.

Givens also announced that she’s seeking legal representation and plans to sue all parties involved for defamation of character and “anything else her legal team would advise to her that would apply.”

Listen, this whole thing is just cray-zee. If you ask me, there’s probably a little bit of truth behind both stories. And I’m leaning more toward Sheryl’s side. Perhaps, Walter Latham didn’t extend a formal invitation but it’s even more unlikely that Underwood made up the conference call, the insults these ladies flung, unknowingly her way. It’s especially hard to believe that she would sit up on television and get emotional about a completely fabricated story. I just don’t think she has that type of a range as an actress.

It seems far more plausible that the Queens of Comedy would be trying to salvage their reputations and their careers by saying it never happened, especially since there’s no proof.

What do you think happened? Who do you think is lying about all of this?

#PettyCrocker: Why Sheryl Underwood’s “Secret” Wasn’t As Inspiring As It May Appear On The Surface

September 23rd, 2014 - By Charing Ball
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Am I the only one who felt that Sheryl Underwood’s big reveal during “Secrets Week” on “The Talk” (apparently a time when you are supposed to let the bones fall out of the closet for ranting…er…cleansing) was anything but inspiring?

In fact, a more appropriate description for the reveal is diabolical. I mean, don’t get it twisted: Coming from a place of constant rejection to a place of achievement is definitely worthy of praise. And I get it. There is no better revenge than being able to rub your success in the faces of those who tried to move you off of your path.

But in spite of being praised for her grace, integrity and rising above the fray of the other comediennes’ alleged hatred, Underwood’s scheme was a page ripped straight out of the burn book of her fellow mean girls.

In particular:

“I stayed on all of the call with my phone on mute, but I thought, ‘take notes’! Listen, because rarely would we hear someone talking about us and truly saying what they truly feel about us. After I listened to all of this – and I want every woman to hear this – I was bruised but I wasn’t broken. I listened to the entire call and I waited for everybody to click off and I called Latham and I said, ‘I don’t think this is going to be a great fit for me. But I hope that these women will go on and do great things.’ To this day they did not know that I was on this call. And it gets better. I have worked with Laura Hayes on Beauty Shop – after this call. I have worked with Adele Givens on “Herlarious” – after this call. I just saw Sommore at the neighborhood awards in Atlanta – after this call. Because I decided instead of being angry and vengeful I decided to take the truth of what they are saying – and they were right to have an opinion – and make myself an even better person. And I know you’re probably thinking, ‘Why are you saying this now?’ Because I’m right where I belong.”

Um, I hope part of “the truth of what they are saying” didn’t involve encouraging her to wear those god-awful wigs she has been rocking. Yeah, I know what you’re thinking. Why are you talking about that lady’s hair like that? Though I defended her when folks were calling her all sorts of ironic and counterproductive names in their defense of natural hair, I haven’t forgotten about her saying “nappy hair in particular is nasty.” And if something along the lines of, “Y’all know what would look cute on her? One of those same wigs Pam Oliver has” is what she heard on the other end of that conference call, she should have put down the Sharpie, interjected herself in the conversation and got them together rather quickly.

And that leads me to my real point: Why couldn’t Underwood have been bruised and not broken, but also taken that phone off mute and set those women straight right there on the spot? I mean, it would have been more honest and direct than to hold a grudge from well over 13 years ago. And yes, this was a grudge. She didn’t forget about it or let it go. She didn’t let bygones be bygones. She didn’t even take the high road. Taking the high road would have been confronting them and then giving them the opportunity to apologize and make things right. Taking the high road would have meant going on with her life, irrespective of how they felt about her.

Instead, she waited until the perfect moment presented itself to publicly air out a pretty private incident. That’s not inspirational–that’s just petty. It was a bit passive aggressive and a shade of opportunistic too. I mean, there’s no telling what kind of professional repercussions there will be for the three comediennes.

Seriously, not only did Underwood shame the hell out of these women in front of her worldwide viewing audience, but she called them out by name in front of an audience of mostly white women, who likely never heard of these comediennes beforehand. I bet many of them went home in their mom jeans, feeling sorry for the poor black lady in the funny wig and vowed to never support Sommore, Adele Givens and Laura Hayes ever, even though they were only privy to one side of the story. It’s actually a pretty ice cold thing to do to someone, even if it’s an enemy. In fact, I haven’t seen anything this cold since Daniel Plainview’s character in There Will Be Blood. Underwood literally sat on that stage, reached her straw all the way across the room and drank Sommore and ‘em’s milkshakes. And in many respects, Underwood is no better than the people who supposedly wronged her. Hell, she might be even worse when you stop to really think about it.

Interestingly enough, radio talk show host and fellow comedian Rickey Smiley shared his own secrets about how Underwood was allegedly pretty underhanded at one point in her career as well. More specifically, the website Funky Dineva reports Smiley sharing on his radio show that “Sheryl would show up at shows and try to rearrange the show order, play promoters and other comics against one another and undercut other comedians.” It’s pretty insightful stuff, which you can listen to here. At the very least, Underwood’s “secret” sounds like it’s going to ruffle some feathers in the black comic world, outside of the main participants.

But I don’t want to minimize Underwood’s hurt here. And truthfully, if those women were as nasty as she alleges, I’m not mad at her at all. But I highly doubt Underwood will be getting an invite to substitute for Oprah Winfrey’s “Lifeclass,” particularly around the shows on forgiveness. But then again, Oprah seems a little shady sometimes too, so who knows?

Adele Givens & Laura Hayes Respond to Sheryl Underwood & The “Conference Call” Story

September 20th, 2014 - By Courtney Whitaker
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For those of you who do not know, Sheryl Underwood dropped a bomb on “The Talk” this week. The comedian admitted that during a preliminary conference call for the Queens of Comedy tour, she overheard several women talking negatively about her. Now two of the three ladies involved have responded to the allegations.

Ms. Adele Givens tweeted,

Meanwhile Laura Hayes instagrammed a photo of her wig on the floor with the caption,

Now I have take time out of my artistic hustle to respond to this bulls**t COMING SOON #gotmypressureup #aintnobodygottimeforthis #gotpeoplelookingatmesideways #youknowyougotbettersecretsthanthat #interuptingmyediting

Oop! The ladies clearly did not confirm or deny what Sheryl said during her confession time.

Do you guys believe Sheryl is telling the complete truth? Would she really lie about something that happened so long ago?

She definitely turned the negative situation into something positive and did not defame the other ladies. Sound off in the comments section!

“I Was Bruised But I Wasn’t Broken” Sheryl Underwood Reveals How Fellow Black Comediennes Dogged Her Out

September 19th, 2014 - By Veronica Wells
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The women of “The Talk” are always blowing our minds with some type of secret tea. Remember last year when Julie Chen talked about the eye surgery she had done for the sake of her career? All types of succulent tea.

Well, they have more. This year Sheryl Underwood is the one who dropped a bomb.

During her confession time, she admitted that she turned down a part on the super successful Queens of Comedy tour, after Mo’Nique left, because when she participated in a preliminary conference call, with the rest of the women, she had herself on mute and heard what they had to say about her, when they thought she wasn’t listening. And they weren’t nice.

It could have been a very sad story. But Sheryl was able to use it constructively and further her career.

Check out a bit of what she had to say.

“There’s a conference call. And in my enthusiasm, I want to be punctual. So I dial into this conference call, thinking that I’m going to be on time. So I dial into this call and what I hear is Sommore, Adele Givens and Laura Hayes talking about me on this call. I hear discussions about my appearance. I hear discussions about my ability, ‘why is she going to be a part?’ ‘what do we need her for?’ This is my recollection of this call. And I was startled and hurt. I was so shocked and hurt that I could not unmute my phone to go ‘Aye bitch, I hear you!'” 

“But I thought take notes, listen because rarely would we hear someone talking about us and saying what they truly feel about us. And then after I listened to all this–and I want every woman to hear this–I was bruised but I wasn’t broken.” 

“I have worked with Laura Hayes on Beautyshop after this call, I worked with Adele Givens on “Herlarious” after this call. I just saw Sommore at the Neighborhood Awards in Atlanta, after this call because I decided instead of being angry and vengeful, I decided to take the truth of what they’re saying and their right to have an opinion and make myself an even better person. And I know you’re probably thinking, why are you saying it now? Because I’m right where I belong.” 

“I’m not mad at any of these women. I thank them for the blessing of telling me something that maybe I needed to hear because this is where I needed to get to and they helped me get there.”

Baaaayybeee, won’t God do it?! Some of y’all might want to check out here but Sheryl preached a sermon on “The Talk” that day. Church folks know the Lord will make your enemies your footstool. And that’s not to say that Sheryl is any better than these ladies. But in their cattiness, they certainly provided the stepping stools for her come up.

Gon’ head Sheryl!

You can watch her full, heartfelt speech in the video below.

Green Is The New Black: Sheryl Underwood Goes Vegan

February 2nd, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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From Essence

Apparently, veganism is becoming a thing in Hollywood.

Comedian Sheryl Underwood is the latest in a growing list of stars to adopt the radical lifestyle change.

She announced the news on The Talk and elaborated on the details with TV Guide.

“I’m not trying to be trendy and my goal is not to give up meat forever, but I want a lifestyle change,” said Underwood, an avid bacon lover. “I want to lower my blood pressure and jump-start my metabolism—and do it all naturally. People think I picked February to go vegan because it’s the shortest month. No! I’m doing it as a Valentine to me!”

She went on to say that her co-host Sarah Gilbert’s vegan book also inspired her new challenge. It doesn’t also hurt that Gilbert is a size three, she says. “When you’re a vegan, you lose weight, right?”

To read more about Underwood’s vegan lifestyle change visit

15 Famous Zetas You Should Know

January 16th, 2014 - By Meghan Reid
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Happy Founder’s Day to Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc! The ladies of blue and white were founded on January 16, 1920, at Howard University. The five founding members created a sisterhood that truly embraced scholarship, sisterly love, and a “noble concept of Finer Womanhood. Let’s check out some of the famous zetas who’ve been apart of this organization.

Autherine Lucy Foster



Autherine Lucy Foster

Autherine Lucy Foster was the first black student to attend the University of Alabama, which she did in 1956. She’s also a sister of Zeta Phi Beta sorority.

Can We Please Challenge Sheryl Underwood’s Afro-Hair Comment Without Calling Her Ugly?

September 5th, 2013 - By Charing Ball
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Even though she has apologized to the black community, and the natural hair community in particular, some folks are still pretty miffed with co-host of The View knockoff The Talk and one of the “Queens of Comedy,” Sheryl Underwood.

And why wouldn’t they be? What she said about afro hair was really, putting it nicely, unaware. So it is certainly understandable that folks might want to express just how disappointed they are. However, some of the reactions I’ve been seeing and hearing from folks, particularly via social networks, has been sort of, and putting it nicely again, also unaware. Like on Twitter, where the response to Underwood’s comments have been largely peppered with all types of reaction synonymous with “ugly.”

Here is a short list of some of the most “interesting” comments:

Sheryl Underwood is ugly anyway… #c*on


I don’t think Sheryl Underwood is ugly. She just bears an uncanny resemblance to Wesley Snipes, that’s all. And he was fine back in the day.


@sherylunderwood @LILKIM <== This is a BEAUTIFUL BLACK WOMAN & you are an UGLY BLACK GORILLA!!! With a donkey face!!


Sheryl Underwood doesn’t know any better. Anyone with gums that black is not responsible for what comes out of their mouth. It’s a defect.


@sherylunderwood like a silver back male gorilla wearing a wig.


@sherylunderwood you a dumb black ugly b**ch. You not smart & you not pretty #Killyoself Monkey


you ugly a** flying monkey from Agraba! you were NEVER attractive from jump, that’s why you hate ”natural” Black Beauty. @sherylunderwood


It seems like Underwood is not the only one here with some internalized hate. I wish I could say that these have been isolated comments, but these reactions have pretty much been noticeably consistent since the start of the controversy. And it’s not just Twitter. I have been reading some severe dirt-dragging based solely on Underwood’s looks throughout the blogosphere. It’s quite interesting that those, who in their defense of natural hair, are using such racially charged and inflammatory language as “monkey,” and “gorilla” or making fun of her black gums (which likely is caused from having excess melanin in the skin) and comparing her features to that of a man. Being a comedian, which is basically like a sad clown, Underwood has joked off much of the backlash, stating: “@MzPearlyP1nk: I’m glad ppl notice how ugly Sheryl underwood is!! I been sayin that for yrssss Lolz

But I don’t find it funny, nor productive in the least.

Somehow folks got the impression that Underwood’s ignorance justifies their own. In some respects I get it; you want to hurt someone as badly as they have cut you. However, the real deal is that acceptance does not happen overnight. If you spent a lifetime perming, stretching and otherwise denying your hair the ability to grow and shine in its natural state, you will have a hard time believing that there is anything “good” about your hair. That acceptance only comes with patience and education. Like literally, reading up on your hair, understanding its patterns and foreign (to you) ways and basically learning how to do your hair all over again. But more importantly, it takes lots of unpacking of internal negative feelings as well as erasing and flat out ignoring the messages we receive daily in public. You have to recondition yourself to not just think but believe that you are just as beautiful with that thick, nappy mane as you were when you were perming, weaving, and otherwise hiding the natural texture of your hair. You have to accept the fact that your curls are not necessarily going to be “defined” like Cree Summer on a Different World; that “shrinkage” is not something you have to get around or stop; that there is no such thing as being too nappy to go natural; that good hair doesn’t necessarily mean long or straight hair, but rather just clean and healthy, and more. Yes folks, unless you have been rocking the unaltered textured look for all your life, there is a very real and serious process many of us have to go through to come to the point of really loving our hair.

In fact, it is the judgments of others and the fear of losing the attention of the male gaze, which leads to lots of resentment and overall insecurity. Like your mom, grandma, your friends, and maybe even your pastor, who because the hate of our natural texture is generational, will wonder out loud why you are walking around looking unkempt. Or your employer and children’s school, who tell you that your hair is unacceptable because it’s not “presentable” or unprofessional. Or the boyfriend, husband, or significant other, who keeps hinting (if not blatantly) about how much better you looked with the lace front (oh yes, it does happen. And that is another post for another day). Or even that stranger, who just decided to accost you with his or her unsolicited opinion on your nappy hair (yup, that happened too). None of those situations were helpful in getting one’s self to the point of self-acceptance, and I doubt highly that placing Underwood’s looks under that same scrutiny will do the same.

If Underwood’s experience was like the experience of a few dark skinned girlfriends of mine as well as other women I have encountered throughout life, I can tell you that she is well aware of all the negative connotations around not just her hair but her entire African aesthetic. And if this is the case, I’m almost certain that her general feelings about natural black hair is based more out of a defense mechanism, spurred out of years of ridicule and abuse about the appearance of her own. Therefore, it is certainly counterproductive to think that calling her names such as “gorilla” or telling her that she looks like Wesley Snipes will make her any more accepting of her “natural” appearance.

What’s missing most in all this backlash to Underwood’s statement is a sense of empathy. There was a number of ways to correct this black woman’s impressions of natural African hair, including offering book suggestions; sharing positive affirmations; and giving words of understanding and camaraderie. Or, simply by showing her that you’ve been there and this his how you got through it. Heck, even getting mad and explaining why you were hurt would have been more helpful than the mockery and teasing. And it would be more believable as well. After all, if your first inclination upon hearing that Underwood, a dark-skinned woman, made some unflattering comments about the black image, is to attack her based upon her dark-skinned looks, well, you have to wonder how dedicated you are to the “self-love” cause to begin with.