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When you’re dating, you never know what type of mess you’re going to find yourself in.Wouldn’t it be great if we could see the type of baggage potential partners are carrying before we get involved? Yeah, it would certainly help. But unfortunately the cookie doesn’t crumble that way. Instead, we have to go through it. We asked our Facebook followers, which things they wish they knew about their romantic partners before they ever got caught up. There are some outrageous stories. Check them out.
Diandra: He liked guys too.
Vanessa: That’s he’s full of shyt!! EVERYTHING that came out his mouth was a lie.
People love to tell you that women cannot stop running their mouths. And I’m not really here to argue that women don’t generally talk more than men. What I am arguing though, is that every once in a while, you’ll stumble across a man who does a whole lot of chatting, often to his own detriment. I ran into someone like this, this past week when I went to get my hair done. My hairdresser just so happened to be a male this time and homeboy said more than he should have. Without any prompting from me, this 45 year old man started talking about his career goals. His long term goals were to be an architect; but in the interim, he was going to stack money by doing hair at the shop and in his house… well, not exactly his house, it was his friend’s. He made sure that I knew it was a female friend. (As if that made the situation any better.) This friend of his not only opened up her home to him as a residence, she told him that he could make a little money on the side by doing hair there. She even offered to install a washing bowl in her home. He declined. That was a bit much. Well, that seemed like a lot of support to me. So I said, “That was nice of your friend.” That’s when he told the truth about his “friendship.”
“Well, if she were here, I’d have to call her my girlfriend.”
“So is she your girlfriend or not?”
“Well, you know…we…you know we…yeah she’s my girlfriend.”
At this point, I had officially written him off as a shady character; but just because I was done with him, didn’t mean he was done talking. A few minutes later, he was telling me about a woman he knew who recently published a book. After promoting her book, he said, “I could call her my girlfriend too. We…you know, we…”
Ugh. So done with you sir. At this point I was silently praying that all shady, no good, low down dirty vibes would not be transmitted into my hair.
Not only was he talking too much in general, the gall of him to be speaking about his triflin’ ways in front of another woman was… not very smart. It wasn’t smart for him speaking like that in front of me and it wasn’t smart discussing the intimate details of his personal life with a client. Here is this woman going out of her way to support his dreams and he couldn’t be honest about how he saw her in their relationship. Do you think if she knew homeboy was calling her a friend in the street, she’d even think about offering to install a whole sink in her home, let alone allow him to stay in her house? Probably not. I’d bet she’s thinking she is doing all of this for her man, not her friend. Just be honest. But then he might run the risk of being homeless out here…and it’s wintertime.
For me, it just served as another warning that these men out here, even if they’re in their 40’s, can be scandalous. I suggest you heed the warning as well. You can’t always know how your man is describing your relationship when you’re not around; liars will be liars. But until you’re absolutely sure that you both agree on the nature of your relationship, don’t inconvenience yourself or allow yourself to be used by a man who’s just a friend.
In the history of relationships, men and women have told their fair share of bold-faced lies. But since this is a women’s site and women are much more willing to share, we asked our Facebook followers to tell us the worst, whether morally, emotionally or just plain ridiculous, lie they’ve ever heard from a man. See what they had to say and once you’re done reading, feel free to share the worst lie you’ve ever heard in the comments section.
Jerisa: That he was paying our rent and in actuality he was saving his money to move without telling me, while I was pregnant with his child
Toy Toy: That’s my ex wife but we live together!
Martha: I was giving her a ride to school, ROTFL!!
Tori: His parent Died.
Takiyah: I have roommates & the house is a mess… That’s why you can’t come in…
Valencia: He wasn’t married and only had 2 kids. Negro had 5 by 4 different women Lmao! Guess his a&$ couldn’t count lmao
Alexandra: I aint gay! I was choking and he was giving me the Heimlich”
Betty: my doctor says I can’t have sex because I have a heart problem
La’Donna: The child he seemed to be babysitting frequently was a friends, when it was actually his baby: by his niece…….
Bear: I slept with all these women to make sure, you were what I really wanted. And it took all that for me know I love you.
Mississippi: “The barber shop was crowded that’s what took so long”…I guess he forgot he went to the barbershop the day before..
Tiffy: That he used to be a dancer with Ginuwine in the clubs of Atlanta O_o.
La-Quita: Baby I know we’re supposed to get together today but my mama at the nail shop & she asked me to bring her a soda, she thirsty.
KO: omission..umm when I married you..you knew of 1 kid..but in reality I have one older & younger than him
Pamela: I am gonna rock ya world..don’t let this age fool ya…#epicfail
Vanessa: “I have stage two stomach cancer.” He isn’t going to chemo though, he claims he’s tired of going… Yeah OK!
Zuhra: I got a STD because my “THANG” touched the inside of the toilet bowel. FA REAL??!!!
Senita: I graduated from a private school in a rich white neighborhood” …actually, he was a high school drop out who lived in the hood all his life. When I was just casually talking to his mom – I brought it up -and she stopped. stared at me for a sec… fell out laughing. still not sure why he thought that was impressive-guess he took me for that type.
Joan: His daughter was sick and he had to drive from New Orleans to Shreveport to be with her. I ran into him into 2 hours after I talked to him.
Tynia: “My baby’s mama killed our son by throwing him over the project fence.” (The child was 8 years old…and very much alive.) The father proved to be mentally ill.
Carolyn: That he had a yeast infection and not a STD dumbest thing I ever heard.
Latosha: I only want to put the head in…
Swarms of black people, dressed to impress and ready to groove, piled into a room barely large enough to hold them all. They were there for an SWV concert. I too was in the crowd. At 5’1.5 it’s extremely difficult to find good real estate in a standing room only concert. But I managed to find a spot where I was able to peer over shoulders and in between bodies to make out disconnected portions of the stage. As I maneuvered, I overheard a woman’s conversation. In a venue where women dominated she took time not to bash the black men in the room but to compliment them.
“It’s so nice to see real, grown men. Dressed up, shirts tucked in.”
How refreshing. I can’t say I noticed anyone in particular but it was nice that she took notice of the grown and sexay fellas.
But with every group of decent people, there’s always a fool who’s bound to show his true colors. Not even two minutes after the sista made her observation, I overheard another, very different conversation between a man and his friend. Both of the men were exactly the type of men the woman had described just seconds ago. Dressed nicely, shirts tucked in. One of them, a bit incensed, was expressing his frustrations about the women he was seeing…yes plural. I can’t remember his exact words but basically he was irritated because one of the women wanted more time and attention from him. He went on to proclaim how babygirl needed to chill out because he wasn’t tied down to either one of them, that he was going to be “out here” doing his thing. At this proclamation, his partner shook up with him, letting him know he cosigned the mindset.
Now, I can’t judge this man too harshly. I don’t know his life, the arrangement he has with those women or what he meant by being “out here.” All of that being said, his comments still made me skeptical because we’ve all had friends who’ve dated men (and/or we ourselves have dated men) that left us with the impression that we were on some exclusive ish, but the whole time he was “out here.”
Overhearing those two comments made me think. I had a revelation. And when I have a revelation and there’s no one around to share it with, I take to Twitter. So I tweeted, “Just cuz these dudes are dressed nice, with their shirts tucked in, doesn’t mean they’re on some grown man ish. Just boys playing dress up.”
I’m brilliant, I know.
But on the real, we need to remember this message because some of us fall for the suit and tie, loafer-wearing brothas with a quickness simply because we think his manish attire is indicative of a mature, honest and respectable character. But darlings, this is not always the case. A man can have a taste for more refined clothing and still have every intention of unbuttoning and throwing his designer shirts on a different woman’s floor every night. Conversely, a man who still “collects” Jordans isn’t necessarily destined to a career behind the cash register at McDonalds. Clothes, like money, and the car he drives are not tell-tale signs of a man’s true character. Just because his shirt is tucked in doesn’t mean his mindset isn’t a hot mess.
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If you’ve ever spent time on our Facebook page, you know we have some of the livest, most entertaining Facebook friends this side of the digital divide. So we knew if we wanted to get some juicy and authentic stories, they’d be the best people to ask. See what our Facebook friends had to say when we asked them to finish this sentence: “I knew he wasn’t into me when…”
…he was more interested in knowing how one of my female friends were doing…Example: How is so and so? When was the last time you talked to her? or Tell her to message or call me…smh. Man you trippin…
Your boyfriend, boo thang or husband has been known to work your nerves on occasion. But he’s human. You probably irritate him a little bit too. Despite his flaws and quirks, hopefully he’s still a good dude. If he’s really been testing you as of late, compare him to some of these fictional fellas who had no type of act right whatsoever. If you finish this list and realize your man is just like one of more of these men, it’s time to get your life together with a quickness.
If you’ve ever cried over a man, perhaps your moms came alongside you and offered some words of encouragement. Something to the tune of “he’ll be back.” While you might have thought it was the end of the world and you would never see your boo boo again, you eventually realized that your mom knew what time it was. If you’ve ever tried to figure out why he reappeared, check out these potential reasons why.