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It takes two to tango in the bedroom. We often read about the mistakes that men or women make when it comes to sex, but in the end, a sexual relationship involves two people. When a relationship starts to slip or when things just don’t seem to be as exciting and fun as they once were, often times the problems lie between the sheets. Many relationships start off with an amazing and anxiety-filled bedroom life, and overtime things become dull and almost expected. Here are 14 most common bedroom mistakes that couples make.

Lisa: Why is it when a man has a good woman he still lives at home, won’t help her and doesn’t act like he cares but is always saying “it’s gonna get better, I love u and will do what is needed, in time???

DY: The good woman hasn’t given him any reason to do better. Why go fishing if fresh fish is delivered to your freezer every day?

When California pastor Matthias Anderson went to the home of a 14-year-old girl early Tuesday morning he didn’t get the reception he expected. Police were waiting at the house and promptly arrested the founder of New Wine Ministries on charges of allegedly having sex with the teen.

According to Fox5SanDiego.com, detectives say Anderson had a sexual relationship with the girl for two years after meeting her when she and her mother were staying at the church’s women’s shelter. The girl’s mother told police in October 2010 that she suspected Anderson and her daughter were having a sexual relationship, but the girl wouldn’t cooperate with the investigation at that time.

After Anderson told the mother she and her daughter had to leave his Oceanside congregation in April 2011, the family moved to Murrieta. Although Anderson didn’t give a reason as to why they had to leave, his wife told the mother it was because of something that happened between the woman’s daughter and her husband.

Even after leaving the congregation, the mother found email messages between Anderson and her daughter and several calls in the log on her daughter’s cell phone. The daughter finally admitted to having a sexual relationship with the minister—although reluctantly.

Anderson is now being held on $1 million bail.

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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