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Besides a statement late last year in which she says , “He is the man you thought you knew.” , Camille Cosby has been mostly mum about allegations that her husband Bill Cosby sexually assaulted women after drugging them over a period of 5 decades, but sources tell the New York Post that the 71-year-old is standing by her man and doesn’t believe the whole story is being told.
“They are making him out to be such a bad guy, a monster,” a source tells the Post Camille said at a crisis meeting attended by advisers, lawyers and PR specialists at the couple’s home in Shelburne, Mass., on Tuesday night.
Camille has remarked in the past that she’s fully aware of Cosby’s adulterous ways and admits that he’s an unfaithful husband, but not a rapist:
“I created him, I knew what I was getting and we’ll fix this.”
Close confidantes of the couple revealed to The Post that Camille believes the women coming forward about being sexually assaulted by Cosby consented to the drugs and sex. A source said to be employed by the Cosby’s reveals:
“Camille still doesn’t believe that Bill provided drugs and had sex with women without their consent.”
“She’s well aware of his cheating, but she doesn’t believe that her husband is a rapist.”
The source says that Camille expressed that she “stopped being embarrassed long ago” about her husband’s extra-marital affairs, but does believe the media has repeatedly invaded their privacy which she cannot tolerate:
“You have to allow for space to let your partner do what he wants. I have done that and [Bill] has done that and there’s no jealously, no friction.”
The source reports that Camille even talked to Oprah Winfrey in the past about how she would regularly go through an “evaluation period” questioning whether or not the marriage should continue, but would inevitably end up back with Bill.
Sources also say that Camille referred to a few celebs in particular such as Jill Scott “jumping ship” with the latest reports that have Cosby on record admitting to drugging women.
A longtime spiritual adviser for the couple, Rev. Carl Dianda, told The Post his “heart breaks” for her, “She made so many sacrifices for him to have a career.”
Is Camille Cosby doing what any wife would do or is she blinded by love? I mean marriage is supposed to be for better or worse and she is being honest about the fact that Bill hasn’t been the best husband. We will say Camille is a strong woman for dealing with all of the challenges this marriage has brought her way over the years.
31-year-old, Ian Moore has been accused of sexually assaulting a 5-year-old girl at a day care center in Seattle.
According to Fox,
Moore was arrested at the day care last Friday, after the father of a little girl told police he walked in on the abuse in the day care.
Detectives say when a father came to pick up his daughter, Moore and the child were “crouched behind a bookshelf.” Moore told the father they were having a “tickle fight.”
Police say later the 5-year-old told her father the employee touched her private parts.
When questioned, police said, Moore admitted to touching the child but told detectives it was an accident.
In court documents released Wednesday, a police detective said Moore said “when he slipped on a toy as he was tickling” the girl, his fall “caused his hand to slide into her panties and penetrate” one private area while touching another.
“Even after I tried to explain to Ian that his version of events was virtually impossible, he continued to claim that was how it had happened,” the detective wrote.
Moore is currently being held and his bond is set at $200,000. The administrators at the day case, claim employees undergo extensive background checks. Unfortunately, nothing came up in Moore’s background check.
A bit of slut-shaming disguised as an anti-rape public service announcement made its way around the Internet this past weekend.
Several popular gossip and news sites have been giving high praise to this alleged anti-rape video, which was done by a YouTube prankster who calls himself JoeySalads.
According to Salads, he conducted these social experiments on unsuspecting real people as a way to raise awareness of how easy it is to slip women date rape drugs. Because who else is better equipped to give life lessons about rape prevention than a douche bag in a smedium Ed Hardy-esque T-shirt who is named after roughage?
Anyway, armed with a pocket full of real roofies, a chest full of male entitlement and hidden cameras, Joey Potato Salad sets his target on the lunch crowd at an unidentified lounge, possibly in upstate New York. In one scenario, a woman walks away from the bar, leaving her drink under the unwatchful eye of a male companion. While her companion turns his head to talk to someone else, Joey Ceasar Salad slips a roofie into her beverage. When she returns to the bar to finish minding her business, he instructs her to not drink that and confesses that he dropped a roofie into her beverage. The shocked woman and her companion are all like, “What? Why the hell would you do that?” And Joey Bean Salad is like, never mind why I would put something illegal into your drink. The real question here is, why didn’t you know that I was a douche bag? Couldn’t you tell by my boy band hair that I was a douche bag? Tsk, tsk. Then he gives her, and not her inattentive companion who she entrusted to have her back, a lecture about date rape drugs and how fortunate she was that Joey Fruit Salad didn’t decide to rape her that afternoon. Message.
In another scenario, Joey Coleslaw walks up to an unsuspecting couple seated by themselves, again minding their own business, at the pier. While they are looking out at the ocean, likely thinking about how much they hate salads, Joey Cheese Slaw decides to slip a pill into the woman’s drink. When they turn around to discover the Jersey Shore reject hovering over them, he says again, dont drink that because I put something in it. And the couple is like, “What? Who is this guido? Security…” That’s when Joey Ambrosia gets on his bottle of Newman’s Own Creamy Balsamic Dressing and flies away before the partner of this woman could get the idea in his mind to rightfully beat the crap out of him.
Joey Crab Louie runs his little scheme on a couple of other victims before closing out the video with a request to “please spread this message to protect young women.” So in an effort to do my civic duty and help get the word out, I’m telling young women that JoeySalads is a got-damn d**khead.
Seriously, what’s next? Is JoeySalads going to snatch a couple of purses to show how we should always be prepared with track shoes just in case we have to chase down a perp? Or is JoeySalads going to walk up and stab people to show us why we should be wearing body armor while walking around the streets? Or is JoeySalads going to rob a bank to let you know how easy it is to pull an Oceans 11? What I’m trying to ask is how does a person’s ability to commit a crime prove that the victims of said crime are at fault?
And how come the targets are only women? Men too can be slipped a Mickey and men too are victims of sexual assault. Yet this garbage-a** warning about the dangers of date rape drugs is only directed at women. It’s harassment, plain and simple. And it is done to women as a way to shame them for no other reason than the fact that they are women. If this were a real anti-rape public service announcement, Joey Panzanella would be pulling instructional pranks on douche bag rapists who think it is okay to encroach on someone’s space and not the victims.
For some reason, society has it in its mind that the only way to ensure the safety of women is if we womenfolk walk around feeling paranoid all of the time about being raped and abused. And yet, with all of these rules and so-called protections, a person finds themselves a victim of sexual assault ever 107 seconds here in America alone. The victims are as young as babies and as old as great-grandmothers. Very few of these stories involve how a woman, or child, is dressed or whether or not she left her drink unattended. So if we are truly interested in helping women, perhaps it is time we change the narrative?
After all, If a woman did an anti-nut kicking video by walking around in steel-toe boots and kicking men in the testicles and then saying, “See, I did that to prove a point that you shouldn’t be walking around with your nuts exposed,” that wouldn’t make a bit of sense, now would it?
On second thought, kicking dudes in the nuts might make for a great campaign…
We were all deeply disturbed and troubled to hear that Josh Duggar, now 27, had molested five young girls, including four of his sisters when he was 14-years-old. There were police reports to corroborate the story and later we learned that TLC, the network who aired “19 Kids and Counting,” for nine seasons, knew of Josh’s past issues with molestation.
When news hit, in addition to calls that asked for the show to be canceled, there was the news that the Duggar family was going to be sitting down with Megyn Kelly for an interview with Fox News. In this 30 minute interview, both Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar revealed that Josh initially touched his sisters over their clothes while they were sleep. He was the one who told his parents what he had done the first time.
It wasn’t until the third time, when Josh admitted again that he had touched one of the couple’s younger daughters, while she was awake, that they decided it was time to take action. They spoke to friends and sent him to an unlicensed, Christian training center. When asked by Fox’s Megyn Kelly why they didn’t seek treatment for Josh after the first incident they said that “as parents you’re not mandatory reporters.” They almost mentioned that they thought, initially, that most of this was about a young man’s curiosity. But they did feel that at this Christian counseling center, the man had really touched their son’s heart.
There was also an interview with two of Josh’s victims, his sisters Jill and Jessa Duggar. They said that they didn’t remember the assault because they were both asleep. Both Jill and Jessa said that they had forgiven their brother and felt violated by the media for bringing their childhood molestation into the forefront.
Sheryl Underwood of CBS’ “The Talk,” felt like the parents had made excuses for Josh and his behavior, twelve years ago, and had actually re-victimized their children by not doing enough to protect their daughters from their son. She had a particular interest in this story because she had endured this type of abuse in her own life.
Here’s what she had to say.
“Let me just say this. I’m probably the only person at this table that went through that. And I went through that, 3,4,5 years old. You know something is wrong. And if nobody listens to you, and nobody is going to stop it, whether I’m sleep or not–I learned how to stay up as long as I could. I may sleep at school because nobody’s going to protect me.
Aisha you said that it didn’t help them to do this interview. What it really did was it helped us, the world to see what happens to people when they’re in some type of family structure, when the people you’re supposed to trust to protect you seem to be the coconspirators in your violation. Seem to rationalize sexual assault and molestation.
And the thing about this that hurts so much is you feel that you have no help. You feel that nobody is listening or you’re being blamed or this is something that kids do. And I thank God for my older brothers who took an action on my behalf, let me just say that.
It took me years to have to learn to love myself because I felt that I was worthless. I felt that I was less than. I felt that I deserved this or brought it on myself because of what was coming toward me from my parents. These parents are wrong.
And for the years that I couldn’t accept love and I couldn’t accept what I was made to have: the beauty of a great relationship with someone who loved me back because I didn’t love myself. Families gotta protect families and don’t rationalize violation.”
Later, Underwood spoke to “Entertainment Tonight,” saying that perhaps the girls really do remember more than they’ve told their parents because she still struggles with it today as an adult.
First, I was kind of mad at myself because I couldn’t control it. But then I was like ‘Maybe it’s not for you to control. Maybe this family, maybe they need to see what this is still doing to me. So you think your children don’t know and you think your children don’t remember but maybe they haven’t. Because I can’t control it when it’s not even about me.
Something was screaming in me, Help somebody else. Don’t let somebody else go through what you went through alone.
I think [them defending their brother] is a defense mechanism. You need to put it square where it was. Your brother did something wrong, to you. And, the way I’m looking at this, your family, let you down.
— Mother Jones (@MotherJones) May 20, 2015
Last year, we wrote about Emma Sulkowicz and her brave and artistic protest against her alleged rapist, Jean-Paul Nungesser and the school they both attended, Columbia University.
In case you missed the story, Sulkowicz told Columbia that Nungesser raped her and they failed to do anything about it. She then filed a police report. She told authorities that she and Nungesser had a consensual, sex on two occasions. But later, when the two reunited to have consensual sex again, things turned violent. According to Sulkowicz, Nungesser hit her across her face, choked her and pushed her knees to her chest, leaning on them to keep them in place. He then held her wrists and penetrated her anally.
Unfortunately, Sulkowicz wasn’t the only woman who alleged Nungesser had assaulted them as well. The university told her they were not responsible. And when she went to the police they didn’t take her seriously either, going so far as to tell her that 90 percent of rape cases were “bullshit.”
So in response to the unfair treatment she received from both the University and the police department, she turned her horrific experiences with not only the rape but the university and the authorities into an art piece called “Carry That Weight.” For the piece Sulkowicz carried her mattress around with her, every day on campus for as long as she attended the same school as her rapist.
Naturally, a girl carrying around a dorm mattress caused quite a bit of attention for Sulkowicz and the University.
Eventually, Columbia investigated the matter and found there wasn’t enough evidence to punish Nungesser.
According to the Wall Street Journal, Sulkowicz carried the mattress for nine months. In the meantime, Nungesser, who was the first to reveal his identity after Sulkowicz started receiving nation-wide attention, filed a lawsuit against Columbia for allowing what he says was sustained harassment against him. He wanted the lawsuit to ban Sulkowicz from carrying the mattress.
Though the school sent out graduation guidelines barring students from bring “large objects which could interfere with the proceedings or create discomfort to others,” Sulkowicz, like she had been doing for almost a year, brought her mattress.
She graduated from Columbia, along with Nungesser, magna cum laude on Tuesday. She, along with four other graduates helped her carry the mattress as she walked across the stage. Other students wore red tape in solidarity, referencing No Red Tape, Columbia’s anti-sexual assault activist group. Many are reporting that when Sulkowicz crossed the stage, she refused to shake the University President’s hand.
Check out the video of Sulkowicz and the other ladies helping her carry that mattress.
Actor and comedian Bill Cosby, in the midst of allegations from more than 30 women who say he drugged or raped them, partnered to help improve the underfunded school system in Alabama. While he was there for philanthropic reasons, his interview with “Good Morning America,” took a turn toward the scandalous when reporter Linsey Davis asked Cosby about the rape allegations.
Davis asked, “Are you prepared for the backlash if a young person comes up to you and says, ‘My mom says you’ve done some bad things.’ How will you answer them if they are pressing you, ‘Are you guilty, did you do it, are the allegations true?'”
“I’m not sure that they will come like that. I think that many of them say well, ‘You’re a hypocrite. You say one thing, you say the other.’ My point is, ok, listen to me carefully: I’m telling you where the road is out. Now, you want to go here or you want to be concerned about who’s giving you the message?”
Davis: Are you concerned that the allegations will overshadow your message?
“I have been in this business 52 years and I’ve never seen anything like this. And reality is, the situation. And I, I can’t speak.”
Then Davis told Mr. Cosby that many, even his fans, are concerned about his legacy and she wanted to know if he, himself is concerned. He shook his head before saying:
“I really know about what I’m going to do tomorrow. I have a ton of ideas to put on television about people and their love for each other.”
Yes, you read those quotes correctly. And yes, they are a little sparse on actual answers to the questions posed. But if you want to see Cosby answer these questions for himself, you can watch the video below.
What do you think about Bill Cosby finally addressing the allegations? Do you think Alabama schools made a good decision in partnering with him?
Reporter Barbara Goldberg of Reuters penned a new article about the rise of female sexual predators, namely those who are in the education field. The article, which details how male students are in fact victims and not boys entering manhood through sexual relations with their teacher, comes of the heels of Barbara Walters’ 20/20 interview with Mary Kay Letourneau-Faulaau and her husband, Vili Fualaau. Letourneau-Faulaau had an affair with her now-husband when he was her middle school student. Now she is requesting that her name be taken off the sex offenders list since she is married to Fualaau, lives with their two daughters and has not had another affair with a minor.
Recently, there have been more headlines about female teachers who have had affairs with their male students. Goldberg notes in her article: “In U.S. schools last year, almost 800 school employees were prosecuted for sexual assault, nearly a third of them women. The proportion of women facing charges seems to be higher than in years past, when female teachers often got a pass, said Terry Abbott, a former chief of staff at the U.S. Department of Education, who tracked the cases.”
Although many male students who become sexual assault victims internalize the crime as something to gloat about, Slate says society should know female sexual predators work just like their male counterparts. They flatter their younger victims by allowing them to “feel more grown-up than they are.”
The public will see more female predators go to prison because of the increase in high-ranking women in the law enforcement field. David Finkelhor, the director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center, told Goldberg, “Law enforcement is increasingly feminized, and women are much less prone to the old attitude: ‘Oh, this is just some kid who got lucky.’ They recognize the issues involved and they go after women who violate the statutes.”
Abbott also says social media enables sexual behavior because the professional barrier becomes erased. Particularly if a female educator is close in age to her male students, the students then try to justify their relationship with their teacher.
In the research conducted by Abbott, male law enforcement officials may give female predators a reduced sentence because of the belief that women cannot be as harmful as their actions indicate. Women in law enforcement try to ensure female predators are sentenced appropriately because they’re more likely to refer to the letter of the law. For female law enforcement officers, female predators and their behavior will not be excused.
With law enforcement killing innocent or unarmed Black people with alarming frequency, many of us can’t imagine willingly turning our relatives in to the police.
But that’s exactly what one Chicago-area woman did. According to NBC Chicago, after seeing surveillance photographs of her 15-year-old son on the news, she turned him in to the Maywood Police station.
The boy, who’s name has been released to the media despite his status as a minor, allegedly took $2,000 from his victim and used it to pay for his graduation fees, friends, junk food and Air Jordan track suits, last Monday, April 20.
But it wasn’t just robbery.
Prosecutors said the middle school student dragged his victim, a 41-year-old woman by her hair, punching her repeatedly before sitting on her head. When she was lying on the ground of the train, in the fetal position, he thrust himself against her and placed his hands inside of her pants, sexually assaulting her. He also groped her on the outside of her clothes and slapped her buttocks.
No one was on the train at the time, so he dragged her to another enclosed area where he pushed her face down and allegedly kept punching, kicking and stomping all over her body demanding cash.
He eventually took the money from her purse and picked up her iPhone from off the ground. He told the woman not to move until he left. When the doors closed and the train started to move again, she pulled the emergency button and was assisted by a Chicago Transit Authority employee.
The woman, who said she planned to wire the cash to relatives, suffered concussions and cuts all over her body. And days after the attack, was still vomiting as a result of her injuries.
Once his mother turned him in, the boy told authorities that he got onto another train traveling in the opposite direction. He threw the woman’s phone in a puddle.
He allegedly wrote a handwritten confession and gave Chicago police a recorded statement of his criminal actions. He told police where he threw the phone and it was recovered along with the jacket he wore on the day of the assault and the clothes he later purchased with the woman’s money.
Though the boy’s mother, whose name has not been reported, was the one to turn him in, she was still visibly upset when the State Attorney spoke to the media after the boy’s bond hearing.
According to the Chicago Tribune, she screamed, “Don’t talk that (expletive) about my child. Quit talking all of that (expletive) on the (expletive) news.” A sheriff’s deputy eventually asked her to leave.
As if this story weren’t tragic enough, the boy who had also been found delinquent as a juvenile back in November, was charged as an adult. Since the city decided to pursue adult charges, both his name and picture have been released in first the local, and now national media.
While this young man’s actions were particularly heinous and worthy of legal punishment, certainly time in jail or a juvenile detention center; I wonder if there is any opportunity for rehabilitation? In my mind, that’s always a possibility, but I wonder if law enforcement shares that sentiment when they look at this clearly disturbed child.
Frankly, I commend this boy’s mother for turning her child in to law enforcement. His victim suffered, and is likely still suffering tremendously because of his actions. And she likely saved some other people, particularly women, from undergoing a similar scenario. With the ability to protect her son completely stripped away from her, a lot of women would not have been so brave.
Still, I wonder if she could have made some type of arrangement or deal to ensure that in addition to whatever punishment he receives that he’s also required to undergo therapy and treatment.
This is devastating; still, with the right type of reformation, it doesn’t seem too late for a better ending than beginning.
Ladies, particularly the mothers out there, what would you do in this situation? Do you think this boy should have been charged as an adult, with his name and picture released to the media? Would you turn your son in to the police?
It’s so easy for us to demonize the homeless. We assume that they are lazy, dirty, addicted to some type of substance, or just ultimately responsible for landing in their current situation. Rarely, do we consider the fact that sometimes life is just hard. And homeless doesn’t necessarily equate to a deficiency in character.
Example: Ketrell Ferguson, a recently homeless man in Washington, D.C. The local NBC affiliate reports that around 3:30 a.m. Ferguson was looking for a place to sleep when he heard screams and noticed a struggle between a man and woman, behind a bus stop. Initially, he thought it was a robbery, but when he continued looking he realized the man on top of this woman was trying to rape her.
Acting quickly, Ferguson grabbed a stick that was laying nearby and a half of a brick. Ferguson, who said he’s had family members who’ve been raped, said he had to do something.
“As soon as he lifted his head up, I smacked him with the stick, hard as I could in his head. And he fell off the lady, stumbled, stumbled and I smacked him again. And I just kept smacking him with the stick, I mean, as hard as I could.”
Then he went to a nearby building and told them to call the police, that there had just been a rape.
Ferguson’s actions helped police find 23-year-old Alemen Gonzalo about an hour later. He was bleeding from the head.
Police say that Gonzalo tried to pay the woman for sex and she refused.
He was charged with assault with the intent to commit first-degree sexual abuse.
Ferguson said, “Even though I’m going through hard times, God put me in a place where I could help. I was at the right place at the right time.”
I’ve been gravely disappointed during this ongoing Cosby scandal. Partially because the Bill Cosby I’d watched and admired was now marred by this scandal but mostly because of the people in my circles who tried to demonize the women who spoke out against him. After all, I never knew Bill Cosby. I do, however, know the family members, friends, distant associates and others who asked questions like “why are these women just now coming forward?”
This type of thought pattern just showed that there is a gross ignorance among people about sexual assault and what happens, emotionally and psychologically, to the women who have endured it.
And while I’ve tried to fight the good fight on my Facebook page and in conversations where it happened to come up, explaining that there is no set way to process trauma; now there is empirical, anecdotal evidence to support what I had been saying all along, especially as it pertains to Black women.
A New York based human right’s organization, called Black Women’s Blueprint, is conducting an ongoing study which found that nearly 60 percent of Black women have been involved in a coercive sexual assault by the time they are 18-years-old.
And in relaying her own story, one of these women explained in an article with Raw Story why it’s so hard for Black women to report their sexual assaults to the authorities.
If we report our assaults to police, we risk being retraumatized not only by the inhumane process of reliving a violent experience through sharing its gory details – but also by the violence of the criminal justice system itself , which treats rape victims like suspects . Worse yet, the police themselves commit assault with impunity ; often, they target black women in particular , knowing our existence at the intersections of racism and misogyny make crimes against us far less likely to be investigated .
To be a “ good rape victim ” is to immediately report your assault to the police (even knowing you will likely never see “justice” ), but to be a good black person is to avoid the police entirely because your life quite literally depends on it . The tightrope walk is impossible.
These words sound alarmingly like the ones Beverly Johnson wrote when she detailed her sexual assault with Cosby. You might recall that she hesitated coming forward because, with all the racial tension in the country these days, she didn’t want to be the Black woman attempting to drag a Black man down.
She knew before the essay was even published that she would be in for a world of scrutiny and judgement.
And she was right. My heart broke as I watched people, some of them MN readers (women), call Johnson everything but a child of God for daring to step forward with this story.
If Johnson, with her illustrious career and the respect she’s earned in the industry, was torn down in this way, imagine what happens to the “unknown” women who tell their doubting family members and law enforcement officers about their own sexual assaults? The outcome is not likely to provide any closure. In fact, the experience of being doubted, questioned or further victimized might just result in even more trauma.
To paraphrase one of my Facebook and real life friends: ladies and gentlemen, the women in your life, who’ve been quietly living with the secrets and burdens of their own sexual assaults, are watching you and your reaction to this whole Bill Cosby situation, wondering if they should continue to remain silent and whether or not you’ll doubt them too.