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Coach Kicks Seven Girls Off Basketball Team After They Claim He Was Too “Touchy-Feely”

November 19th, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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I know the story of the inappropriate coach or gym teacher a little too well. Our high school had a couple of men who were consistently inappropriate with the teenage girls who were entrusted to them during school or after school hours.

There was a track coach, in his early thirties who was always flirting with the teenage girls on the team. He watched them stretch before practice and loudly and openly made comments about their bodies. He stopped my sister in the hallway, looking her up and down saying she had the body for track. And by the time I was a senior one of the girls in my graduating class was openly telling people they were in some type of twisted relationship. Not only was she underage, he also had a wife.

The last I heard of him, he was divorced.

So when I heard the story of the seven young women who were kicked off their high school’s basketball team in New Orleans after claiming their coach was “too touchy-feely,” I was disgusted but not surprised.

According to the New Orleans Advocate, a day after seven girls refused to play for their new coach, Panos Bountovinas, he kicked them off the team. Bountovinas broke the news to them in a meeting the day after their protest. When the girls asked the school’s principal, Brennan McCurley, why they weren’t allowed to play anymore, he told them they also weren’t allowed to ask questions.

Kayla Sibley, a senior on the team, said that she didn’t feel comfortable around Bountovinas because he would often touch her.

“I felt uncomfortable around him on and off the court because he was very feely. Hand on the shoulders and other places and stuff,” Sibley said. “It made me feel uncomfortable. I never had a touchy-feely coach before. I felt uncomfortable.”

The day before they were dismissed, the seven young ladies boycotted their away game and instead attended a boys basketball game on their home court.

Only five players dressed for the girl’s away game and Salmen lost 47-45.

Myles Cooper, a parent of the one of the girls dismissed from the team said, “They didn’t play because we wanted to get the principal and the coach to the table to talk about the issues we have. This is not a witch hunt against the coach. We want the best for our kids, and we want our kids safe.”

Coach Bountovinas is just in his first season at Salmen. He spent two seasons at Mount Carmel, where he led the team to the 5A state championship. But resigned last season, citing personal reasons.

Cooper said immediately after Bountovinas was hired, parents had a meeting with the school’s superintendent to question the school’s process.

“After that meeting we were assured everything was going to be OK and we should move on as one unit.”

But according to the team members, Bountovinas’ actions didn’t leave the students or their parents feeling confident.

Sibley said, “There were two games this season when (female assistant coach Wendy Stampley) told him to get out of the locker room while we were dressing. He hesitated. Coach Anderson, (the girls’ previous coach) last year never had that problem. Coach Bountovinas was just standing there. It took him a while to get out. This has happened more than once.”

The mere fact that the principal told the girls they couldn’t ask questions when they were the ones who felt like they had been violated speaks volumes. They should at least have the opportunity to express their grievances in allegations as serious as these.

“I Wish That I Could Tell My Sister That She’s Not Dirty” Viola Davis Shares Sister’s Sexual Assault Story

November 19th, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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Viola Davis Shares Sister's Sexual Assault Story

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Viola Davis has spoken openly about growing up in abject poverty, going to school hungry as a child. Now, she’s lending her voice to another, very necessary and important cause, raising awareness for sexual assault victims and partnering with The Stuart House, a nonprofit organization that works with The Rape Foundation to support child victims of sex abuse.

In doing so, she shared her sister’s story of sexual assault and how it impacted the rest of her life. She did so to paint a clear picture of what type of damage childhood sexual trauma can do to a person if it goes untreated.

You can read a transcript of her speech below.

I have a sister who, when she was 8-years-old, put on some roller-skates with her friend, went down to the corner store at one-o-clock in the afternoon, went into the store and was sexually assaulted in the store. She came home and she told my mom. My mom ran down to the store, started screaming at the store owners. And they said, ‘Leave that man alone. He does that to all of the little girls.’ 

And then my mom proceeded to flag down a police officer, they found the man, they put him in the car. I saw my little sister crying, my mom was crying too. And that was it. 

And then, from there a precocious, very intelligent, very creative child grew up to be frail, angry, a drug addict by the time she was twenty. Six children all of which have been taken by social services. A prostitute. An IV drug user. 

You know memories demand attention because memories have teeth. 

And in my vision and in my dreams, when I pray for my sister… you know you pray in general terms. You pray that she finds peace and love and happiness. She gets off drugs. And then of course, you open your eyes and she’s still on the streets. 

But you know, it struck me that God answered my prayers with the Stuart House. You know it’s a bigger answer to my prayers than the one I was dreaming. I kind of really low-balled it. 

But if I had a fantasy and I mean a fantasy, I would give her permission to speak and I would want her in an environment where people heard her. And I would want her to be angry. Because I feel that it’s not the abuser’s angry that he’s afraid of. It’s the victim’s anger that he’s afraid of. And I want her to get angry because I wish she had the Stuart House to throw her a rope because her whole life could have been different. And now her whole life is what at 39?

There are a lot of beautiful stories out there that are going to come out of the Stuart House. Really. I mean there’s a lot of people who gave to this beautiful facility and they gave until it hurt because there’s going to be so many testimonies of winning, heroic young people who literally open their mouths and dare to speak about their abuse, dare to call out their abusers.  

And I guess if I were to speak about anything today, I’m going to speak about my sisters of the world. The people who fell through the cracks. WHo didn’t have a Stuart House. Because when I see that building there, the other thing that I see is the stories of the victims who didn’t get out. And the reason why that image needs to be placed in each and every one of our hearts is to show the deep importance of healing from childhood sexual trauma. 

This is the day that the Lord has made and I’m going to rejoice and be glad in it. Because I wish that I could tell my sister that she’s not dirty. And that she should not feel any shame of something that she literally was not responsible for. I wish I could save her life…And I thank God for answering my prayers. 

And I hope that–with each and every one of you, when you leave this facility. I’m praying the deepest prayer that you continue the fight in your heart. We take pictures, we drink some coffee, we eat some great, great great little snacks and we feel good really. And then we go about our lives. But I want you to feel the passion of all the people who work at the Stuart House. And with that we could wipe it out man. 

Thank you. 

You can watch the full video of Viola’s speech here.

The Twerk Assault And The Need To Take Street Harassment Seriously

November 12th, 2015 - By Charing Ball
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Admittedly, I was a bit skeptical of the story concerning the man who called the police on the women who twerked on him in a gas station in Washington D.C.

For one, the charge of third-degree sex abuse, which carries a possible prison bid of up to 10 years, seems a little excessive for what I witnessed in the video. This is especially true when compared with the sentence of the serial groper who attacked six women, including a police officer. He was only given six months in prison. And those consequences also seem a little excessive when compared to the time I’d reported a creep who damn near stuck his penis in my driver’s side window, and yet, I couldn’t even get a police report.

The whole sensationalist framing around this case just had me feeling some type of way. But after watching the victim in question tell his own side of the story, I can definitely understand more about his victimization.

According to the Fox affiliate in D.C., the victim, who wished to remain anonymous out of fear of further backlash, said that he was talking to a friend on the telephone when he was accosted and molested by two women at a Northeast D.C. gas station. As he described the assault to the news station, the women were “grabbing all over my body parts nonstop, asking me to go with them as if they were prostituting themselves. Asking for money. I assumed they were trying to get to my wallet – I don’t know what they were trying to do. But they first touched my private part in the front, then private part in the back. Then rubbing all over my chest and grabbing me. If I had done that, I would have probably been arrested, thrown to the ground. Twenty years in prison. No out. These being women, I’m thinking they are not women. I am thinking they are men dressed as women because they had strength like men. They didn’t have strength like average women. So it is a double standard.”

The victim also alleges that in addition to the molestation, the women followed him outside of the store and flashed him as he pumped gas, which should have cleared up any confusion he had about their gender.

One of the perpetrators has been arrested; the other is still on the run. While the victim isn’t sure why he was targeted, he assumes that the women were part of a setup orchestrated by two men who had been standing outside of the gas station and who he assumed were their pimps. He also told reporters that he asked the station attendant for help to which the attendant allegedly responded, “What do you want me to do?”

Feeling threatened by the women who continued to follow him around, the victim said that he was left with no choice but to ask his friend on the phone to call the police for him.

And you know what? I don’t blame him.

Although I do wonder if much of the fear he felt was based on his original thought that these women were trans women. And I also wonder about the other two men he mentioned as accomplices to these women, in particular, why they are not also not being pursued by police.

But I do feel that he had every right to call the police, especially if he felt threatened.

While society tends not to see men as victims at the hands of women (and even mocks such occurrences), it does happen. For instance, in 2013, a Philadelphia man was killed and dismembered by two sex workers and a pimp after a botched robbery attempt. So I can certainly see how he could feel that these women were trying to set him up.

And I don’t begrudge him for calling the police and reporting the incident. This is important to note because whenever the topic of street harassment comes up, there are folks who denounce the entire conversation because of concerns they have about over-policing in Black communities and mass incarceration.

And while the over-policing in Black communities and mass incarceration are both legitimate and urgent issues, our politics should never get in the way of our personal safety.

That goes for both men and women.

Moreover, while the victim may feel that the reaction his assault has received nationally is reflective of a double standard, he and others like him should know that women are rarely believed too.

A day after this story broke, I watched a video on Facebook of a woman being filmed and harassed by an unknown man in a corner store. To get away from his unwanted gaze, which included derogatory references to her body, the scared woman walked out of the store and then darted across the street to safety.

The videographer, also known as the assailant, made light of her panic by suggesting “Damn, it ain’t that serious.”

Also suggesting that the incident was not that serious was the video’s caption itself, which read, “When you’re scared you might get raped.” Three laughing-to-tears emoticons followed it.

In general, when we fail to take sexual assault and harassment that happens to women seriously, we can’t be too surprised when men are not given the benefit of the doubt as well.

Man Twerked On At Gas Station Says He Feared For His Safety, Has Faced Backlash

November 11th, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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In an interview with a Fox affiliate in D.C., the man who was twerked on and groped while paying for gas at a Shell station spoke out for the first time. But he is keeping his identity a secret because not only is he a teacher but also because he said he has received backlash for calling the police on the two women.

In case you missed the story yesterday, the man said he was getting gas when he was approached and sexually assaulted by two women in heels and tight dresses. One woman can be seen backing up to twerk on him as he waits in line while another reaches for his lower half, gunning for his penis (or his wallet). The man said that during the attack he asked the cashier at the station to do or say something, but all the man could say was “What do you want me to do?” The victim told his friend whom he was talking to on the phone during the attack to call the police since the attendant didn’t try to.

“You don’t know who these people are. I was afraid of my safety. Like I said, I thought they were either transvestites, or women, or men dressed like women.”

He was also afraid because there were men outside whom the victim believed told the women to go after him. The ladies asked for him to go with them to an unidentified place.

“I thought they would have a pimp who was pushing them to be prostitutes who could have been outside with one of the gentlemen that were out there watching and witnessing, could have been with guns to come and shoot me. I did not want to be shot that day.”

When the victim was able to get away from all the groping of his chest, crotch, and butt, he said that the women flashed him as he pumped his gas and continued to follow him to his car as police were called.

The victim said that he was upset by the criticism he received online for calling the police and said that had the tables been turned and he treated a woman in the same manner, he would be in someone’s jail cell right now.

“If I had done that I would have been arrested and thrown to the ground. Probably 20 years in prison. No out. Women, these being women, I’m thinking they were not women. I’m thinking they were men dressed as women because they had strength like men. They didn’t have strength like the average woman. It is a double standard.”

As for those two women, one of them was apprehended yesterday. Las Vegas resident Ayanna Marie Knight, 22, has been charged with third-degree sex abuse. Her partner in twerking crime has not been caught as of yet.


Inventors Believe This Tiny Device Can Prevent Sexual Assault

November 4th, 2015 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Inventors Believe This Tiny Device Can Prevent Sexual Assault


1 in 6 women have been victims of sexual assault, but there’s a new device on the market that aims to put a dent in this alarming statistic.

ROAR for Good—a company devoted to women’s safety—recently introduced their first product, Athena, which is a safety device that aims to prevent sexual assault.

The tiny device, which works in conjunction with a mobile app, is approximately the size of a half-dollar and weighs about an ounce. With the swift press of a button, Athena will let off an alarm while notifying your emergency contacts that you’re in distress via text message.

“Over the last 16 months, we’ve performed exhaustive research and conducted numerous focus groups and user testing to ensure Athena will be easy to use in panic situations without being accidentally triggered,” developers explained on Athena’s Indiegogo page.

Athena can be worn as a necklace, or it can be clipped to your clothing or handbag. It operates in two modes: “alarm” and “silent.”


Athena cofounder Yasmine Mustafa was inspired to create the device during a backpacking trip in South America.

“As amazing as [the trip] was…literally everywhere I went I would hear of a time where a woman had been attacked,” Mustafa shared with Mashable.

When she returned home, she learned that a neighbor had been beaten and assaulted while outside reading her meter.

“When I read the news story the next day, that’s when the idea for ROAR was born,” she continued.

Athena can be purchased for $75.00 (plus shipping) on Indiegogo for the remainder of Roar’s crowdfunding campaign. The device will be available for sale internationally as early as May 2016, and will retail at $99. A portion of proceeds from each device sold will be donated to educational programs that have been shown to reduce violence.

Why Women Don’t Report: 19-Year-Old Said Sister’s Fiancé Raped Her, Police Arrest Her

September 28th, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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One of the most troubling aspects of Bill Cosby’s rape and sexual assault allegations coming to the forefront was the way people responded to it. I can’t tell you how many times I read “Why didn’t they report it? Why are they just coming forward now?”

The question may seem like an innocuous one at first glance. But in reality it’s one rooted in ignorance.

Rape and sexual assault cases are, by nature, difficult to prove. Lisa Avalos, a University of Arkansas law professor, told Buzz Feed, “One of the biggest problems in rape investigations is that police think women lie. When police think that, they typically fail to thoroughly investigate their rape complaints, thus doing a disservice to those victims as well as to the community as a whole, because a predator remains at large.”

In an investigative report, Buzz Feed found that his is exactly what happened to sisters Hera and Lara McLeod.

Lara was 19-years-old when her sister’s former fiancé, Joaquin Rams, raped her, two weeks after Hera had given birth to the couple’s first child together, Lara’s nephew, Prince.

Though Lara had never liked Joaquin, she agreed to accept his invitation to a Lil Wayne concert because the two were family now, united by the birth of his son and her nephew. At the concert, Joaquin told her he could get her backstage.

On the way to the show, Joaquin asked Lara if she was willing to do whatever it took to succeed in the music industry. She wasn’t sure what he meant…

Later on, Lara said, instead of taking her backstage, Joaquin brought her back home to explain: She could either have sex with him, right then and there, or he would take her to a party where she would be gang-raped by a group of men.

Lara later told the police that she tearfully argued with Joaquin into the early morning. When she protested that her sister had just given birth to Joaquin’s baby, he claimed he and Hera had agreed that Joaquin could sleep with Lara that night, the police report states. Lara even tried saying she had her period — that always discouraged pushy guys at college — but Joaquin was relentless. Earlier in the night, he had shown Lara the gun he had on him, she told police. Later, he put her phone in the trunk, and she didn’t know anyone in the area to ask for help, she said. As the night went on, Lara began to realize there was no escape. Joaquin led her into the basement.

The rape itself was an “out-of-body experience,” Lara said. Either her sister had put her in a position to be raped by Joaquin, Lara thought, or she had just destroyed Hera’s new family. Afterwards, Joaquin dropped her off at a subway station, gave her a hug, and told her not to fight him so hard next time, she says.

The next morning Lara told her parents and sister. Hera knew immediately that her sister was telling the truth. She had long since doubted and questioned Joaquin’s character but since she was having his child, she attempted to dismiss her concerns.

When her sister came home with that horrific story Hera told Buzz Feed, “I wanted so badly to believe that he was who he said he was. But then it was like someone finally threw a big bucket of water on me and I woke up screaming. I realized I didn’t know this person at all. I just saw a monster.”

Hera called the police to serve as an escort as she returned to their home to collect her son’s belongings.

When the officer entered the house, Joaquin started yelling that he never touched Lara. Later, he would tell authorities that he did so because he was “confused” as to why the officer was there.

It was then that the investigation turned into one for an alleged rape.

Detective Bradford Cavender called Lara to confirm the allegations and told her she needed to come down to the station for an interview.

Lara didn’t want to go. She described herself as groggy and shell-shocked but she had no way of knowing that “if you were innocent, someone might not believe you.”

Though Virginia law describes rape as “sexual intercourse that is accomplished against one’s will, not just by force but by “threat or intimidation,” Lara never described it as such. Instead, she used the phrase “unconsensual sex.”

Cavender repeatedly asked Lara why she didn’t try to escape. She told him she was afraid of his gun. When Cavender asked Lara why she didn’t try to keep her arms down when he tried to take her skirt off, she said she didn’t struggle because she was terrified. Lara described her mental state as catatonic.

Though Joaquin initially said that he didn’t touch Lara, he later said that their sex was consensual and he had secretly recorded a video to prove so. Hera had left the house with a camera a few hours before and police called her back asking her to bring it to the station. Though police couldn’t retrieve the video, Joaquin was able to find it. After watching it, police believed that because Lara didn’t cry or resist Joaquin, though the video didn’t show the hours that led up to that moment, she had not been raped.

After viewing the video police determined that Lara had lied. They charged her with making a false report to law enforcement and her sister Hera with obstruction of justice for deleting the video.

Lara never admitted guilt or entered a plea deal. But strangers and prosecutors said the complete opposite, painting her as a liar.

Later, the charges against Hera were dismissed but only after she spent $50,000 in legal fees.

In the most devastating aspects of this particular trial is that Joaquin used the false information about Hera to his advantage in a custody battle. He seemed to convince the court that Hera had been convicted of a crime and that he should therefore have more custody rights.

There was an insane amount of testimony against Joaquin. An officer testified that Joaquin was the suspect in the murder of his ex girlfriend. Another ex girlfriend said that he was abusive. A social worker said he had been charged with domestic abuse against his older son. Hera even testified that Joaquin had no music career. His only means of income was from his mother’s life insurance which he collected after her death, ruled a suicide, in 2008.

Hera also learned that he was the beneficiary on his ex girlfriend’s life insurance policy, giving him a possible motive.

A judge decided to give Hera sole custody but eventually allowed Joaquin the right to unsupervised visits even though Hera insisted he was a danger to the child.

On the fourth unsupervised visit, Hera received a call that her son Prince had been taken to the hospital, in a coma.

EMTs said when they arrived on the scene, where Prince was staying with Joaquin, he was cold, wet and had a bruise on his forehead and dried blood in his nose. An autopsy found that there was fluid in his sinuses, airways, lungs and intestines and small bruises and abrasions on his face, upper chest and back.

Prince died the next day. He was 15 months old.

Later, police and prosecutors charged Joaquin with capital murder. They alleged that Joaquin drowned his son to collect $500,000 from three life insurance policies. Joaquin said that he was trying to help his son who had been suffering from febrile seizures.

The McLeod sisters demanded that the Prince William County Police Department conduct an investigation into Lara’s rape case. In 2013, the police chief invited the family to discuss the results. Lara didn’t attend the meting but wrote a letter detailing what their actions had cost her.

She said that she spent her collegiate career having flashbacks, isolating herself away from people, crying in her room. She lost friends as a result of the lies spread about her and worst of all her nephew was gone forever.

She continued: “I’m not really sure how your police force can fix anything two years later,” she wrote. “I’m not looking for monetary compensation, and an apology just isn’t enough…you not only ruined my life, but you ruined my family’s life. It took me two years to finally get some of myself back, and I assure you that I will never be the self-confident, bright eyed girl I once was.”

The family requested that the officers be trained on how to properly respond to sexual assault allegations and to potential victims. They wanted the detectives who charged the sisters to be disciplined and they wanted a public statement issued so that someone who searches Lara McLeod won’t see that she “falsely accused someone of rape.”

While the police chief admitted that the decision to allow Joaquin access to the tapes was improper, violated their policies on handling evidence, and called the police report sloppy and shortcutted, he stressed that there are people who lie about being raped, though Virginia keeps no records to show how many or how often this actually happens.

In response to his officers needing more training in sexual assault cases, the chief said that it was already “cutting edge.”

Since Lara reported her rape, the detectives that handled her case were promoted. Hera sends them a card ever year with a picture of her son Prince reminding them of his would be age and that their actions can greatly impact lives.

Reflecting back on the whole ordeal Lara said, “My rape was awful. But the way the police handled it was even worse.”

You can read Buzz Feed’s full investigative report, here.

What I Learned From My Near Rape

August 20th, 2015 - By Madame Noire
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By Kasey Woods

One day, not too long ago, at the same time as the rays of the morning sun began to creep over the jagged sidewalks of Brooklyn, I was being sexually assaulted in a building hallway.

What started off as a ride home from a friend’s friend, after a night out, ended with me involved in an aggressive, hostile and combative situation where I narrowly escaped being raped. My aggressor wanted me to just accept what was happening. “Come on baby. Just chill” he uttered to me as if it were my fault my attack wasn’t going smoothly. He wanted me to stop fighting back. He wanted me to stop repeatedly saying no. He wanted me to stop yelling at him to leave. He wanted me to just shut up and accept his fingers being jammed into my vagina. He wanted me to not be horrified when I realized he was attempting to enter me with his penis. He wanted me to meekly allow him to shove my head into the wall and use his weight to suppress my power. He wanted me to be an easy conquest, but I wasn’t. I fought back, and I fought hard.

The guilt lingers in a way that you never completely shake off. I spent most of the immediate hours after my attack rewinding every intricate, minute detail of the evening to see where I could have gone wrong. What could I have done differently? I mean, he was nice. Annoying, but nice. Damn, did I let that goodbye hug at the end of the night linger too long? What about when he grabbed my butt by his car? I just told him to stop and keep his hands to himself – maybe I should have become more irate. Why did I accept his offer to take me home instead of just calling an Uber? Maybe I could have avoided this. Maybe I share the blame. These thoughts and others seeped in and out of my mind for hours as a cried on my friend’s couch until my eyes were dry and pained.

After urgings from my network and support system, I went to the hospital to be examined. What resulted was me being treated by a staff of doctors and nurses who were not only completely untrained in interacting with women who have been violated in such a manner, but were also quite literally ill-equipped to handle sexual assault cases. Aspects of my exam had to be postponed because the hospital did not possess the items necessary to do them. My doctor, a third-year resident, admitted sheepishly that I was only the second sexual assault case he had ever directly handled. Though he was nice, and his demeanor helped provide a light during a very dark situation, watching him bumble through the numerous steps of my rape kit was unsettling, at times, to say the least. The seven hours I sat in that hospital combined with the intrusive and invasive nature of my exam opened my eyes to why so many rapes and sexual assaults go unreported. Who wants to feel violated again? At one point, I almost stood up and left after yet another hour had passed. But I understood why I needed to stay there and complete the process and not give up.

Even while at the hospital, as I waited for hours, my thoughts continued to churn obsessively in my head. Did I even deserve to be there? There are women and men who have been brutally raped and abused, does what happened to me even count? Did I get all the details right? Am I willing to press charges and possibly ruin someone’s life? I mean it’s not like I was raped…

So many women go through this type of violation and would rather blame themselves instead of the person who assaulted them. This becomes even more convoluted when the person that breaches various levels of trust is someone you know. But honestly, who do we really know anymore? Instagram posts and Facebook pages provide a false sense of security and familiarity that the people we allow in our lives often haven’t earned.

Though I was able to halt my attack before I was raped, before getting the results of my rape kit, I was unable to confirm with absolute certainty that the numerous penetrations that occurred as I was shoved on that wall in that pitch dark hallway in Brooklyn, were solely his fingers and not his penis as well. But it doesn’t matter. I was sexually assaulted. I was violated. And for the two minutes (that felt like 20) that I fought with a guy who three hours earlier seemed like a perfectly fine individual, my body felt like it was no longer mine.

If I had any doubt about the nature of my encounter, I don’t anymore. Nothing says I was sexually assaulted like filling a prescription for your preventative HIV/AIDS medications.

But this article is bigger than my story, and I don’t want sympathy. I wouldn’t know what to do with it if it were bestowed on me anyway. What I want is to offer empathy to others who have endured any type of sexual assault. Please know that there are various levels of violation that constitute sexual assault so don’t believe that your experience doesn’t count. If an individual has any type of sexual contact with you and you 1.) Did not give your consent or 2.) Explicitly said no, then you have been sexually assaulted. Simple. No long definition and thesis needed to explain that one. Our bodies are ours, and every one of us deserves to be safe and protected from harm.

Let’s face it, completely eradicating sexual violence on women (and men – 9 percent of sexual assault cases are men) is sadly impossible. But hopefully by continuing to discuss these issues aloud, demanding justice and providing support, resources and adequate assistance to those who have been violated, will enable more sexual assault victims to come forward with their stories.

Camille Cosby Believes Women Accusing Bill Cosby of Assault Actually Gave Consent

July 12th, 2015 - By Toya Sharee
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Camille Cosby says women gave consent

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Besides a statement late last year in which she says , “He is the man you thought you knew.” , Camille Cosby has been mostly mum about allegations that her husband Bill Cosby sexually assaulted women after drugging them over a period of 5 decades, but sources tell the New York Post that the 71-year-old is standing by her man and doesn’t believe the whole story is being told.

“They are making him out to be such a bad guy, a monster,” a source tells the Post Camille said at a crisis meeting attended by advisers, lawyers and PR specialists at the couple’s home in Shelburne, Mass., on Tuesday night.

Camille has remarked in the past that she’s fully aware of Cosby’s adulterous ways and admits that he’s an unfaithful husband, but not a rapist:

“I created him, I knew what I was getting and we’ll fix this.”

Close confidantes of the couple revealed to The Post that Camille believes the women coming forward about being sexually assaulted by Cosby consented to the drugs and sex. A source said to be employed by the Cosby’s reveals:

“Camille still doesn’t believe that Bill provided drugs and had sex with women without their consent.”

“She’s well aware of his cheating, but she doesn’t believe that her husband is a rapist.”

The source says that Camille expressed that she “stopped being embarrassed long ago” about her husband’s extra-marital affairs, but does believe the media has repeatedly invaded their privacy which she cannot tolerate:

“You have to allow for space to let your partner do what he wants. I have done that and [Bill] has done that and there’s no jealously, no friction.”

The source reports that Camille even talked to Oprah Winfrey in the past about how she would regularly go through an “evaluation period” questioning whether or not the marriage should continue, but would inevitably end up back with Bill.

Sources also say that Camille referred to a few celebs in particular such as Jill Scott “jumping ship” with the latest reports that have Cosby on record admitting to drugging women.

A longtime spiritual adviser for the couple, Rev. Carl Dianda, told The Post his “heart breaks” for her, “She made so many sacrifices for him to have a career.”

Is Camille Cosby doing what any wife would do or is she blinded by love? I mean marriage is supposed to be for better or worse and she is being honest about the fact that Bill hasn’t been the best husband. We will say Camille is a strong woman for dealing with all of the challenges this marriage has brought her way over the years.

Daycare Worker Accused Of Sexually Assaulting A 5-Year Old

June 20th, 2015 - By Courtney Whitaker
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31-year-old, Ian Moore has been accused of sexually assaulting a 5-year-old girl at a day care center in Seattle.

According to Fox,

Moore was arrested at the day care last Friday, after the father of a little girl told police he walked in on the abuse in the day care.

Detectives say when a father came to pick up his daughter, Moore and the child were “crouched behind a bookshelf.” Moore told the father they were having a “tickle fight.”

Police say later  the 5-year-old told her father the employee touched her private parts.

When questioned, police said, Moore admitted to touching the child but told detectives it was an accident.

In court documents released Wednesday, a police detective said Moore said “when he slipped on a toy as he was tickling” the girl, his fall “caused his hand to slide into her panties and penetrate” one private area while touching another.

“Even after I tried to explain to Ian that his version of events was virtually impossible, he continued to claim that was how it had happened,” the detective wrote.

Moore is currently being held and his bond is set at $200,000. The administrators at the day case, claim employees undergo extensive background checks. Unfortunately, nothing came up in Moore’s background check.

The Problem With JoeySalads’ Anti-Date Rape Drug Prank Video

June 8th, 2015 - By Charing Ball
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A bit of slut-shaming disguised as an anti-rape public service announcement made its way around the Internet this past weekend.

Several popular gossip and news sites have been giving high praise to this alleged anti-rape video, which was done by a YouTube prankster who calls himself JoeySalads.

According to Salads, he conducted these social experiments on unsuspecting real people as a way to raise awareness of how easy it is to slip women date rape drugs. Because who else is better equipped to give life lessons about rape prevention than a douche bag in a smedium Ed Hardy-esque T-shirt who is named after roughage?

Anyway, armed with a pocket full of real roofies, a chest full of male entitlement and hidden cameras, Joey Potato Salad sets his target on the lunch crowd at an unidentified lounge, possibly in upstate New York.  In one scenario, a woman walks away from the bar, leaving her drink under the unwatchful eye of a male companion. While her companion turns his head to talk to someone else, Joey Ceasar Salad slips a roofie into her beverage. When she returns to the bar to finish minding her business, he instructs her to not drink that and confesses that he dropped a roofie into her beverage. The shocked woman and her companion are all like, “What? Why the hell would you do that?” And Joey Bean Salad is like, never mind why I would put something illegal into your drink. The real question here is, why didn’t you know that I was a douche bag? Couldn’t you tell by my boy band hair that I was a douche bag? Tsk, tsk. Then he gives her, and not her inattentive companion who she entrusted to have her back, a lecture about date rape drugs and how fortunate she was that Joey Fruit Salad didn’t decide to rape her that afternoon. Message.

In another scenario, Joey Coleslaw walks up to an unsuspecting couple seated by themselves, again minding their own business, at the pier. While they are looking out at the ocean, likely thinking about how much they hate salads, Joey Cheese Slaw decides to slip a pill into the woman’s drink. When they turn around to discover the Jersey Shore reject hovering over them, he says again, dont drink that because I put something in it. And the couple is like, “What? Who is this guido? Security…” That’s when Joey Ambrosia gets on his bottle of Newman’s Own Creamy Balsamic Dressing and flies away before the partner of this woman could get the idea in his mind to rightfully beat the crap out of him.

Joey Crab Louie runs his little scheme on a couple of other victims before closing out the video with a request to “please spread this message to protect young women.” So in an effort to do my civic duty and help get the word out, I’m telling young women that JoeySalads is a got-damn d**khead.

Seriously, what’s next? Is JoeySalads going to snatch a couple of purses to show how we should always be prepared with track shoes just in case we have to chase down a perp? Or is JoeySalads going to walk up and stab people to show us why we should be wearing body armor while walking around the streets? Or is JoeySalads going to rob a bank to let you know how easy it is to pull an Oceans 11? What I’m trying to ask is how does a person’s ability to commit a crime prove that the victims of said crime are at fault?

And how come the targets are only women? Men too can be slipped a Mickey and men too are victims of sexual assault. Yet this garbage-a** warning about the dangers of date rape drugs is only directed at women. It’s harassment, plain and simple. And it is done to women as a way to shame them for no other reason than the fact that they are women. If this were a real anti-rape public service announcement, Joey Panzanella would be pulling instructional pranks on douche bag rapists who think it is okay to encroach on someone’s space and not the victims.

For some reason, society has it in its mind that the only way to ensure the safety of women is if we womenfolk walk around feeling paranoid all of the time about being raped and abused. And yet, with all of these rules and so-called protections, a person finds themselves a victim of sexual assault ever 107 seconds here in America alone. The victims are as young as babies and as old as great-grandmothers. Very few of these stories involve how a woman, or child, is dressed or whether or not she left her drink unattended. So if we are truly interested in helping women, perhaps it is time we change the narrative?

After all, If a woman did an anti-nut kicking video by walking around in steel-toe boots and kicking men in the testicles and then saying, “See, I did that to prove a point that you shouldn’t be walking around with your nuts exposed,” that wouldn’t make a bit of sense, now would it?

On second thought, kicking dudes in the nuts might make for a great campaign…