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— [ Police News ] (@InsidePolice) September 28, 2015
One of the most troubling aspects of Bill Cosby’s rape and sexual assault allegations coming to the forefront was the way people responded to it. I can’t tell you how many times I read “Why didn’t they report it? Why are they just coming forward now?”
The question may seem like an innocuous one at first glance. But in reality it’s one rooted in ignorance.
Rape and sexual assault cases are, by nature, difficult to prove. Lisa Avalos, a University of Arkansas law professor, told Buzz Feed, “One of the biggest problems in rape investigations is that police think women lie. When police think that, they typically fail to thoroughly investigate their rape complaints, thus doing a disservice to those victims as well as to the community as a whole, because a predator remains at large.”
In an investigative report, Buzz Feed found that his is exactly what happened to sisters Hera and Lara McLeod.
Lara was 19-years-old when her sister’s former fiancé, Joaquin Rams, raped her, two weeks after Hera had given birth to the couple’s first child together, Lara’s nephew, Prince.
Though Lara had never liked Joaquin, she agreed to accept his invitation to a Lil Wayne concert because the two were family now, united by the birth of his son and her nephew. At the concert, Joaquin told her he could get her backstage.
On the way to the show, Joaquin asked Lara if she was willing to do whatever it took to succeed in the music industry. She wasn’t sure what he meant…
Later on, Lara said, instead of taking her backstage, Joaquin brought her back home to explain: She could either have sex with him, right then and there, or he would take her to a party where she would be gang-raped by a group of men.
Lara later told the police that she tearfully argued with Joaquin into the early morning. When she protested that her sister had just given birth to Joaquin’s baby, he claimed he and Hera had agreed that Joaquin could sleep with Lara that night, the police report states. Lara even tried saying she had her period — that always discouraged pushy guys at college — but Joaquin was relentless. Earlier in the night, he had shown Lara the gun he had on him, she told police. Later, he put her phone in the trunk, and she didn’t know anyone in the area to ask for help, she said. As the night went on, Lara began to realize there was no escape. Joaquin led her into the basement.
The rape itself was an “out-of-body experience,” Lara said. Either her sister had put her in a position to be raped by Joaquin, Lara thought, or she had just destroyed Hera’s new family. Afterwards, Joaquin dropped her off at a subway station, gave her a hug, and told her not to fight him so hard next time, she says.
The next morning Lara told her parents and sister. Hera knew immediately that her sister was telling the truth. She had long since doubted and questioned Joaquin’s character but since she was having his child, she attempted to dismiss her concerns.
When her sister came home with that horrific story Hera told Buzz Feed, “I wanted so badly to believe that he was who he said he was. But then it was like someone finally threw a big bucket of water on me and I woke up screaming. I realized I didn’t know this person at all. I just saw a monster.”
Hera called the police to serve as an escort as she returned to their home to collect her son’s belongings.
When the officer entered the house, Joaquin started yelling that he never touched Lara. Later, he would tell authorities that he did so because he was “confused” as to why the officer was there.
It was then that the investigation turned into one for an alleged rape.
Detective Bradford Cavender called Lara to confirm the allegations and told her she needed to come down to the station for an interview.
Lara didn’t want to go. She described herself as groggy and shell-shocked but she had no way of knowing that “if you were innocent, someone might not believe you.”
Though Virginia law describes rape as “sexual intercourse that is accomplished against one’s will, not just by force but by “threat or intimidation,” Lara never described it as such. Instead, she used the phrase “unconsensual sex.”
Cavender repeatedly asked Lara why she didn’t try to escape. She told him she was afraid of his gun. When Cavender asked Lara why she didn’t try to keep her arms down when he tried to take her skirt off, she said she didn’t struggle because she was terrified. Lara described her mental state as catatonic.
Though Joaquin initially said that he didn’t touch Lara, he later said that their sex was consensual and he had secretly recorded a video to prove so. Hera had left the house with a camera a few hours before and police called her back asking her to bring it to the station. Though police couldn’t retrieve the video, Joaquin was able to find it. After watching it, police believed that because Lara didn’t cry or resist Joaquin, though the video didn’t show the hours that led up to that moment, she had not been raped.
— [ Police News ] (@InsidePolice) September 28, 2015
After viewing the video police determined that Lara had lied. They charged her with making a false report to law enforcement and her sister Hera with obstruction of justice for deleting the video.
Lara never admitted guilt or entered a plea deal. But strangers and prosecutors said the complete opposite, painting her as a liar.
Later, the charges against Hera were dismissed but only after she spent $50,000 in legal fees.
In the most devastating aspects of this particular trial is that Joaquin used the false information about Hera to his advantage in a custody battle. He seemed to convince the court that Hera had been convicted of a crime and that he should therefore have more custody rights.
There was an insane amount of testimony against Joaquin. An officer testified that Joaquin was the suspect in the murder of his ex girlfriend. Another ex girlfriend said that he was abusive. A social worker said he had been charged with domestic abuse against his older son. Hera even testified that Joaquin had no music career. His only means of income was from his mother’s life insurance which he collected after her death, ruled a suicide, in 2008.
Hera also learned that he was the beneficiary on his ex girlfriend’s life insurance policy, giving him a possible motive.
A judge decided to give Hera sole custody but eventually allowed Joaquin the right to unsupervised visits even though Hera insisted he was a danger to the child.
On the fourth unsupervised visit, Hera received a call that her son Prince had been taken to the hospital, in a coma.
EMTs said when they arrived on the scene, where Prince was staying with Joaquin, he was cold, wet and had a bruise on his forehead and dried blood in his nose. An autopsy found that there was fluid in his sinuses, airways, lungs and intestines and small bruises and abrasions on his face, upper chest and back.
Prince died the next day. He was 15 months old.
Later, police and prosecutors charged Joaquin with capital murder. They alleged that Joaquin drowned his son to collect $500,000 from three life insurance policies. Joaquin said that he was trying to help his son who had been suffering from febrile seizures.
The McLeod sisters demanded that the Prince William County Police Department conduct an investigation into Lara’s rape case. In 2013, the police chief invited the family to discuss the results. Lara didn’t attend the meting but wrote a letter detailing what their actions had cost her.
She said that she spent her collegiate career having flashbacks, isolating herself away from people, crying in her room. She lost friends as a result of the lies spread about her and worst of all her nephew was gone forever.
She continued: “I’m not really sure how your police force can fix anything two years later,” she wrote. “I’m not looking for monetary compensation, and an apology just isn’t enough…you not only ruined my life, but you ruined my family’s life. It took me two years to finally get some of myself back, and I assure you that I will never be the self-confident, bright eyed girl I once was.”
The family requested that the officers be trained on how to properly respond to sexual assault allegations and to potential victims. They wanted the detectives who charged the sisters to be disciplined and they wanted a public statement issued so that someone who searches Lara McLeod won’t see that she “falsely accused someone of rape.”
While the police chief admitted that the decision to allow Joaquin access to the tapes was improper, violated their policies on handling evidence, and called the police report sloppy and shortcutted, he stressed that there are people who lie about being raped, though Virginia keeps no records to show how many or how often this actually happens.
In response to his officers needing more training in sexual assault cases, the chief said that it was already “cutting edge.”
Since Lara reported her rape, the detectives that handled her case were promoted. Hera sends them a card ever year with a picture of her son Prince reminding them of his would be age and that their actions can greatly impact lives.
Reflecting back on the whole ordeal Lara said, “My rape was awful. But the way the police handled it was even worse.”
You can read Buzz Feed’s full investigative report, here.
By Kasey Woods
One day, not too long ago, at the same time as the rays of the morning sun began to creep over the jagged sidewalks of Brooklyn, I was being sexually assaulted in a building hallway.
What started off as a ride home from a friend’s friend, after a night out, ended with me involved in an aggressive, hostile and combative situation where I narrowly escaped being raped. My aggressor wanted me to just accept what was happening. “Come on baby. Just chill” he uttered to me as if it were my fault my attack wasn’t going smoothly. He wanted me to stop fighting back. He wanted me to stop repeatedly saying no. He wanted me to stop yelling at him to leave. He wanted me to just shut up and accept his fingers being jammed into my vagina. He wanted me to not be horrified when I realized he was attempting to enter me with his penis. He wanted me to meekly allow him to shove my head into the wall and use his weight to suppress my power. He wanted me to be an easy conquest, but I wasn’t. I fought back, and I fought hard.
The guilt lingers in a way that you never completely shake off. I spent most of the immediate hours after my attack rewinding every intricate, minute detail of the evening to see where I could have gone wrong. What could I have done differently? I mean, he was nice. Annoying, but nice. Damn, did I let that goodbye hug at the end of the night linger too long? What about when he grabbed my butt by his car? I just told him to stop and keep his hands to himself – maybe I should have become more irate. Why did I accept his offer to take me home instead of just calling an Uber? Maybe I could have avoided this. Maybe I share the blame. These thoughts and others seeped in and out of my mind for hours as a cried on my friend’s couch until my eyes were dry and pained.
After urgings from my network and support system, I went to the hospital to be examined. What resulted was me being treated by a staff of doctors and nurses who were not only completely untrained in interacting with women who have been violated in such a manner, but were also quite literally ill-equipped to handle sexual assault cases. Aspects of my exam had to be postponed because the hospital did not possess the items necessary to do them. My doctor, a third-year resident, admitted sheepishly that I was only the second sexual assault case he had ever directly handled. Though he was nice, and his demeanor helped provide a light during a very dark situation, watching him bumble through the numerous steps of my rape kit was unsettling, at times, to say the least. The seven hours I sat in that hospital combined with the intrusive and invasive nature of my exam opened my eyes to why so many rapes and sexual assaults go unreported. Who wants to feel violated again? At one point, I almost stood up and left after yet another hour had passed. But I understood why I needed to stay there and complete the process and not give up.
Even while at the hospital, as I waited for hours, my thoughts continued to churn obsessively in my head. Did I even deserve to be there? There are women and men who have been brutally raped and abused, does what happened to me even count? Did I get all the details right? Am I willing to press charges and possibly ruin someone’s life? I mean it’s not like I was raped…
So many women go through this type of violation and would rather blame themselves instead of the person who assaulted them. This becomes even more convoluted when the person that breaches various levels of trust is someone you know. But honestly, who do we really know anymore? Instagram posts and Facebook pages provide a false sense of security and familiarity that the people we allow in our lives often haven’t earned.
Though I was able to halt my attack before I was raped, before getting the results of my rape kit, I was unable to confirm with absolute certainty that the numerous penetrations that occurred as I was shoved on that wall in that pitch dark hallway in Brooklyn, were solely his fingers and not his penis as well. But it doesn’t matter. I was sexually assaulted. I was violated. And for the two minutes (that felt like 20) that I fought with a guy who three hours earlier seemed like a perfectly fine individual, my body felt like it was no longer mine.
If I had any doubt about the nature of my encounter, I don’t anymore. Nothing says I was sexually assaulted like filling a prescription for your preventative HIV/AIDS medications.
But this article is bigger than my story, and I don’t want sympathy. I wouldn’t know what to do with it if it were bestowed on me anyway. What I want is to offer empathy to others who have endured any type of sexual assault. Please know that there are various levels of violation that constitute sexual assault so don’t believe that your experience doesn’t count. If an individual has any type of sexual contact with you and you 1.) Did not give your consent or 2.) Explicitly said no, then you have been sexually assaulted. Simple. No long definition and thesis needed to explain that one. Our bodies are ours, and every one of us deserves to be safe and protected from harm.
Let’s face it, completely eradicating sexual violence on women (and men – 9 percent of sexual assault cases are men) is sadly impossible. But hopefully by continuing to discuss these issues aloud, demanding justice and providing support, resources and adequate assistance to those who have been violated, will enable more sexual assault victims to come forward with their stories.
Besides a statement late last year in which she says , “He is the man you thought you knew.” , Camille Cosby has been mostly mum about allegations that her husband Bill Cosby sexually assaulted women after drugging them over a period of 5 decades, but sources tell the New York Post that the 71-year-old is standing by her man and doesn’t believe the whole story is being told.
“They are making him out to be such a bad guy, a monster,” a source tells the Post Camille said at a crisis meeting attended by advisers, lawyers and PR specialists at the couple’s home in Shelburne, Mass., on Tuesday night.
Camille has remarked in the past that she’s fully aware of Cosby’s adulterous ways and admits that he’s an unfaithful husband, but not a rapist:
“I created him, I knew what I was getting and we’ll fix this.”
Close confidantes of the couple revealed to The Post that Camille believes the women coming forward about being sexually assaulted by Cosby consented to the drugs and sex. A source said to be employed by the Cosby’s reveals:
“Camille still doesn’t believe that Bill provided drugs and had sex with women without their consent.”
“She’s well aware of his cheating, but she doesn’t believe that her husband is a rapist.”
The source says that Camille expressed that she “stopped being embarrassed long ago” about her husband’s extra-marital affairs, but does believe the media has repeatedly invaded their privacy which she cannot tolerate:
“You have to allow for space to let your partner do what he wants. I have done that and [Bill] has done that and there’s no jealously, no friction.”
The source reports that Camille even talked to Oprah Winfrey in the past about how she would regularly go through an “evaluation period” questioning whether or not the marriage should continue, but would inevitably end up back with Bill.
Sources also say that Camille referred to a few celebs in particular such as Jill Scott “jumping ship” with the latest reports that have Cosby on record admitting to drugging women.
A longtime spiritual adviser for the couple, Rev. Carl Dianda, told The Post his “heart breaks” for her, “She made so many sacrifices for him to have a career.”
Is Camille Cosby doing what any wife would do or is she blinded by love? I mean marriage is supposed to be for better or worse and she is being honest about the fact that Bill hasn’t been the best husband. We will say Camille is a strong woman for dealing with all of the challenges this marriage has brought her way over the years.
31-year-old, Ian Moore has been accused of sexually assaulting a 5-year-old girl at a day care center in Seattle.
According to Fox,
Moore was arrested at the day care last Friday, after the father of a little girl told police he walked in on the abuse in the day care.
Detectives say when a father came to pick up his daughter, Moore and the child were “crouched behind a bookshelf.” Moore told the father they were having a “tickle fight.”
Police say later the 5-year-old told her father the employee touched her private parts.
When questioned, police said, Moore admitted to touching the child but told detectives it was an accident.
In court documents released Wednesday, a police detective said Moore said “when he slipped on a toy as he was tickling” the girl, his fall “caused his hand to slide into her panties and penetrate” one private area while touching another.
“Even after I tried to explain to Ian that his version of events was virtually impossible, he continued to claim that was how it had happened,” the detective wrote.
Moore is currently being held and his bond is set at $200,000. The administrators at the day case, claim employees undergo extensive background checks. Unfortunately, nothing came up in Moore’s background check.
A bit of slut-shaming disguised as an anti-rape public service announcement made its way around the Internet this past weekend.
Several popular gossip and news sites have been giving high praise to this alleged anti-rape video, which was done by a YouTube prankster who calls himself JoeySalads.
According to Salads, he conducted these social experiments on unsuspecting real people as a way to raise awareness of how easy it is to slip women date rape drugs. Because who else is better equipped to give life lessons about rape prevention than a douche bag in a smedium Ed Hardy-esque T-shirt who is named after roughage?
Anyway, armed with a pocket full of real roofies, a chest full of male entitlement and hidden cameras, Joey Potato Salad sets his target on the lunch crowd at an unidentified lounge, possibly in upstate New York. In one scenario, a woman walks away from the bar, leaving her drink under the unwatchful eye of a male companion. While her companion turns his head to talk to someone else, Joey Ceasar Salad slips a roofie into her beverage. When she returns to the bar to finish minding her business, he instructs her to not drink that and confesses that he dropped a roofie into her beverage. The shocked woman and her companion are all like, “What? Why the hell would you do that?” And Joey Bean Salad is like, never mind why I would put something illegal into your drink. The real question here is, why didn’t you know that I was a douche bag? Couldn’t you tell by my boy band hair that I was a douche bag? Tsk, tsk. Then he gives her, and not her inattentive companion who she entrusted to have her back, a lecture about date rape drugs and how fortunate she was that Joey Fruit Salad didn’t decide to rape her that afternoon. Message.
In another scenario, Joey Coleslaw walks up to an unsuspecting couple seated by themselves, again minding their own business, at the pier. While they are looking out at the ocean, likely thinking about how much they hate salads, Joey Cheese Slaw decides to slip a pill into the woman’s drink. When they turn around to discover the Jersey Shore reject hovering over them, he says again, dont drink that because I put something in it. And the couple is like, “What? Who is this guido? Security…” That’s when Joey Ambrosia gets on his bottle of Newman’s Own Creamy Balsamic Dressing and flies away before the partner of this woman could get the idea in his mind to rightfully beat the crap out of him.
Joey Crab Louie runs his little scheme on a couple of other victims before closing out the video with a request to “please spread this message to protect young women.” So in an effort to do my civic duty and help get the word out, I’m telling young women that JoeySalads is a got-damn d**khead.
Seriously, what’s next? Is JoeySalads going to snatch a couple of purses to show how we should always be prepared with track shoes just in case we have to chase down a perp? Or is JoeySalads going to walk up and stab people to show us why we should be wearing body armor while walking around the streets? Or is JoeySalads going to rob a bank to let you know how easy it is to pull an Oceans 11? What I’m trying to ask is how does a person’s ability to commit a crime prove that the victims of said crime are at fault?
And how come the targets are only women? Men too can be slipped a Mickey and men too are victims of sexual assault. Yet this garbage-a** warning about the dangers of date rape drugs is only directed at women. It’s harassment, plain and simple. And it is done to women as a way to shame them for no other reason than the fact that they are women. If this were a real anti-rape public service announcement, Joey Panzanella would be pulling instructional pranks on douche bag rapists who think it is okay to encroach on someone’s space and not the victims.
For some reason, society has it in its mind that the only way to ensure the safety of women is if we womenfolk walk around feeling paranoid all of the time about being raped and abused. And yet, with all of these rules and so-called protections, a person finds themselves a victim of sexual assault ever 107 seconds here in America alone. The victims are as young as babies and as old as great-grandmothers. Very few of these stories involve how a woman, or child, is dressed or whether or not she left her drink unattended. So if we are truly interested in helping women, perhaps it is time we change the narrative?
After all, If a woman did an anti-nut kicking video by walking around in steel-toe boots and kicking men in the testicles and then saying, “See, I did that to prove a point that you shouldn’t be walking around with your nuts exposed,” that wouldn’t make a bit of sense, now would it?
On second thought, kicking dudes in the nuts might make for a great campaign…
We were all deeply disturbed and troubled to hear that Josh Duggar, now 27, had molested five young girls, including four of his sisters when he was 14-years-old. There were police reports to corroborate the story and later we learned that TLC, the network who aired “19 Kids and Counting,” for nine seasons, knew of Josh’s past issues with molestation.
When news hit, in addition to calls that asked for the show to be canceled, there was the news that the Duggar family was going to be sitting down with Megyn Kelly for an interview with Fox News. In this 30 minute interview, both Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar revealed that Josh initially touched his sisters over their clothes while they were sleep. He was the one who told his parents what he had done the first time.
It wasn’t until the third time, when Josh admitted again that he had touched one of the couple’s younger daughters, while she was awake, that they decided it was time to take action. They spoke to friends and sent him to an unlicensed, Christian training center. When asked by Fox’s Megyn Kelly why they didn’t seek treatment for Josh after the first incident they said that “as parents you’re not mandatory reporters.” They almost mentioned that they thought, initially, that most of this was about a young man’s curiosity. But they did feel that at this Christian counseling center, the man had really touched their son’s heart.
There was also an interview with two of Josh’s victims, his sisters Jill and Jessa Duggar. They said that they didn’t remember the assault because they were both asleep. Both Jill and Jessa said that they had forgiven their brother and felt violated by the media for bringing their childhood molestation into the forefront.
Sheryl Underwood of CBS’ “The Talk,” felt like the parents had made excuses for Josh and his behavior, twelve years ago, and had actually re-victimized their children by not doing enough to protect their daughters from their son. She had a particular interest in this story because she had endured this type of abuse in her own life.
Here’s what she had to say.
“Let me just say this. I’m probably the only person at this table that went through that. And I went through that, 3,4,5 years old. You know something is wrong. And if nobody listens to you, and nobody is going to stop it, whether I’m sleep or not–I learned how to stay up as long as I could. I may sleep at school because nobody’s going to protect me.
Aisha you said that it didn’t help them to do this interview. What it really did was it helped us, the world to see what happens to people when they’re in some type of family structure, when the people you’re supposed to trust to protect you seem to be the coconspirators in your violation. Seem to rationalize sexual assault and molestation.
And the thing about this that hurts so much is you feel that you have no help. You feel that nobody is listening or you’re being blamed or this is something that kids do. And I thank God for my older brothers who took an action on my behalf, let me just say that.
It took me years to have to learn to love myself because I felt that I was worthless. I felt that I was less than. I felt that I deserved this or brought it on myself because of what was coming toward me from my parents. These parents are wrong.
And for the years that I couldn’t accept love and I couldn’t accept what I was made to have: the beauty of a great relationship with someone who loved me back because I didn’t love myself. Families gotta protect families and don’t rationalize violation.”
Later, Underwood spoke to “Entertainment Tonight,” saying that perhaps the girls really do remember more than they’ve told their parents because she still struggles with it today as an adult.
First, I was kind of mad at myself because I couldn’t control it. But then I was like ‘Maybe it’s not for you to control. Maybe this family, maybe they need to see what this is still doing to me. So you think your children don’t know and you think your children don’t remember but maybe they haven’t. Because I can’t control it when it’s not even about me.
Something was screaming in me, Help somebody else. Don’t let somebody else go through what you went through alone.
I think [them defending their brother] is a defense mechanism. You need to put it square where it was. Your brother did something wrong, to you. And, the way I’m looking at this, your family, let you down.
— Mother Jones (@MotherJones) May 20, 2015
Last year, we wrote about Emma Sulkowicz and her brave and artistic protest against her alleged rapist, Jean-Paul Nungesser and the school they both attended, Columbia University.
In case you missed the story, Sulkowicz told Columbia that Nungesser raped her and they failed to do anything about it. She then filed a police report. She told authorities that she and Nungesser had a consensual, sex on two occasions. But later, when the two reunited to have consensual sex again, things turned violent. According to Sulkowicz, Nungesser hit her across her face, choked her and pushed her knees to her chest, leaning on them to keep them in place. He then held her wrists and penetrated her anally.
Unfortunately, Sulkowicz wasn’t the only woman who alleged Nungesser had assaulted them as well. The university told her they were not responsible. And when she went to the police they didn’t take her seriously either, going so far as to tell her that 90 percent of rape cases were “bullshit.”
So in response to the unfair treatment she received from both the University and the police department, she turned her horrific experiences with not only the rape but the university and the authorities into an art piece called “Carry That Weight.” For the piece Sulkowicz carried her mattress around with her, every day on campus for as long as she attended the same school as her rapist.
Naturally, a girl carrying around a dorm mattress caused quite a bit of attention for Sulkowicz and the University.
Eventually, Columbia investigated the matter and found there wasn’t enough evidence to punish Nungesser.
According to the Wall Street Journal, Sulkowicz carried the mattress for nine months. In the meantime, Nungesser, who was the first to reveal his identity after Sulkowicz started receiving nation-wide attention, filed a lawsuit against Columbia for allowing what he says was sustained harassment against him. He wanted the lawsuit to ban Sulkowicz from carrying the mattress.
Though the school sent out graduation guidelines barring students from bring “large objects which could interfere with the proceedings or create discomfort to others,” Sulkowicz, like she had been doing for almost a year, brought her mattress.
She graduated from Columbia, along with Nungesser, magna cum laude on Tuesday. She, along with four other graduates helped her carry the mattress as she walked across the stage. Other students wore red tape in solidarity, referencing No Red Tape, Columbia’s anti-sexual assault activist group. Many are reporting that when Sulkowicz crossed the stage, she refused to shake the University President’s hand.
Check out the video of Sulkowicz and the other ladies helping her carry that mattress.
Actor and comedian Bill Cosby, in the midst of allegations from more than 30 women who say he drugged or raped them, partnered to help improve the underfunded school system in Alabama. While he was there for philanthropic reasons, his interview with “Good Morning America,” took a turn toward the scandalous when reporter Linsey Davis asked Cosby about the rape allegations.
Davis asked, “Are you prepared for the backlash if a young person comes up to you and says, ‘My mom says you’ve done some bad things.’ How will you answer them if they are pressing you, ‘Are you guilty, did you do it, are the allegations true?'”
“I’m not sure that they will come like that. I think that many of them say well, ‘You’re a hypocrite. You say one thing, you say the other.’ My point is, ok, listen to me carefully: I’m telling you where the road is out. Now, you want to go here or you want to be concerned about who’s giving you the message?”
Davis: Are you concerned that the allegations will overshadow your message?
“I have been in this business 52 years and I’ve never seen anything like this. And reality is, the situation. And I, I can’t speak.”
Then Davis told Mr. Cosby that many, even his fans, are concerned about his legacy and she wanted to know if he, himself is concerned. He shook his head before saying:
“I really know about what I’m going to do tomorrow. I have a ton of ideas to put on television about people and their love for each other.”
Yes, you read those quotes correctly. And yes, they are a little sparse on actual answers to the questions posed. But if you want to see Cosby answer these questions for himself, you can watch the video below.
What do you think about Bill Cosby finally addressing the allegations? Do you think Alabama schools made a good decision in partnering with him?
One misconception about me, is that I have been somehow complicit in rappers acting dumb or worse, actually being dumb.
Nothing could be farther from the truth. In fact, I sat on Fox News a few years ago and told then-host John Gibson that I am one of Hip-Hop’s fiercest critics. Why? I know the potential of the most influential genre since the 1960’s and I am convinced that it has been co-opted to mentally direct listeners away from the most powerful weapon young people ever created. So, if you truly follow what I am about then you already know that I have been outspoken for a very long time.
So, now it is Rich Homie Quan’s turn. In a recent song, the Southern rapper spewed some of the most ignorant lyricism seen since…well Rick Ross rapped about date raping somebody. Here is what Quan stated on “I Made It Questionable.”
“I don’t want your ho, just want that cookie from her – she tried to resist so I took it from her. How you gonna tell me no/ you must not know who I am/Even if I’m on the road I see whats goin’ on cause you know I got cameras/ I don’t know no questions but I know the answers/I throw these black fists just like a panther.”
He’s rapping about rape, uh yeah, well past questionable. And, Rich Homie is very clear on what he intends to do should a woman say no.
Another misconception about me: That I don’t prepare my daughter for those people with these thoughts. See, I am not so concerned with the raps, because we can discuss rhymes and imagery. I am more concerned with that kid next door that grew up with both parents, seemingly “normal,” but having these deep, dark, disgusting thoughts. I mean, you have to be sick to even put this sort of material on a song, even if it is technically unreleased.
On top of it all, Quan then proceeds to talk about physically assaulting the woman with the beloved Black Panthers in his mouth. It is no longer my place to try understanding these people, because it requires too much energy. We are living in real time, where there is little room for such catastrophic mistakes. It is my place to protect my daughter and for her to know the character of the people she’s around. However, if you have read my material, you already know this. (READ: Point Blank: I Am My Child’s Bodyguard)
I recently interviewed Rich Homie and we spoke about his son and how he manages his rap star life as a father. He seemed responsible. He seemed like a good dad for where he is at this point in his life. If he’s creating kids that feel like he feels about women, then I have to reconsider. Like most of these rappers and singers, he’s not easy to get at, but I can’t take chances. As far as I am concerned, “a rich homie” could be in any school, next door, in the club, a registered sex offender…WHATEVER.
I bar none.
If you are about raping women, we cannot be cool. Furthermore, you need to be re-educated about what it is to be a man. You need to be re-educated about what it is to be with a woman. You need to be re-educated about what it is to be a human being.
Far too many people are out here lost, like this is what’s good. I would be lying if I told you I knew where such notions originated in this day and age of #BlackLivesMatter. I’d also be lying if I told you such notions haven’t been mentioned before in Hip-Hop. A couple years ago, UpRoxx published 32 lyrics in rap that condoned rape. Unacceptable.
I have always maintained that rap music is a microcosm of that which is going on in the real world. So be it. We know the world is sick.
As a parent, you just have to be ready and get your child ready. Point blank. Hopefully, Rich Homie’s dad pulls him aside and give the 23-year-old a long, serious talk.
Reporter Barbara Goldberg of Reuters penned a new article about the rise of female sexual predators, namely those who are in the education field. The article, which details how male students are in fact victims and not boys entering manhood through sexual relations with their teacher, comes of the heels of Barbara Walters’ 20/20 interview with Mary Kay Letourneau-Faulaau and her husband, Vili Fualaau. Letourneau-Faulaau had an affair with her now-husband when he was her middle school student. Now she is requesting that her name be taken off the sex offenders list since she is married to Fualaau, lives with their two daughters and has not had another affair with a minor.
Recently, there have been more headlines about female teachers who have had affairs with their male students. Goldberg notes in her article: “In U.S. schools last year, almost 800 school employees were prosecuted for sexual assault, nearly a third of them women. The proportion of women facing charges seems to be higher than in years past, when female teachers often got a pass, said Terry Abbott, a former chief of staff at the U.S. Department of Education, who tracked the cases.”
Although many male students who become sexual assault victims internalize the crime as something to gloat about, Slate says society should know female sexual predators work just like their male counterparts. They flatter their younger victims by allowing them to “feel more grown-up than they are.”
The public will see more female predators go to prison because of the increase in high-ranking women in the law enforcement field. David Finkelhor, the director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center, told Goldberg, “Law enforcement is increasingly feminized, and women are much less prone to the old attitude: ‘Oh, this is just some kid who got lucky.’ They recognize the issues involved and they go after women who violate the statutes.”
Abbott also says social media enables sexual behavior because the professional barrier becomes erased. Particularly if a female educator is close in age to her male students, the students then try to justify their relationship with their teacher.
In the research conducted by Abbott, male law enforcement officials may give female predators a reduced sentence because of the belief that women cannot be as harmful as their actions indicate. Women in law enforcement try to ensure female predators are sentenced appropriately because they’re more likely to refer to the letter of the law. For female law enforcement officers, female predators and their behavior will not be excused.