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Gentlemen Uncensored: Sex And Patriarchy, Part 2
If you caught the last episode of Gentlemen Uncensored, you’d know there was a bit of unfinished business. The fellas jumped into a discussion on sex and what you should do if your sex drive isn’t matching your partner’s, but somewhere along the way the convo got a bit sidetracked by bigger overarching issues like traditionalism and patriarchy. Check out the next part, as TMor gets the guys back on track and tries to offer up real solutions to this very real issue.
GENTLEMEN UNCENSORED
- Sneak Peek: Gentlemen Uncensored
- Episode 1: Why Get Married?
- Episode 2: Why Get Married? Part 2
- Episode 3: Sex And Patriarchy, Part 1
- Episode 4: Sex And Patriarchy, Part 2
- Episode 5: What Is Good Sex?
MEET THE CAST
Straight From His Mouth: 11 Things Men Love About Women (Beyond Sex)
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With all the focus on bedroom skills, sometimes it seems like men forget the fact that the majority of the time they spend with a woman will occur outside of the bedroom. As the saying goes, “It’s not about who you want to spend your Friday night with but who you want to spend all day Saturday with.” That subtle difference is what separates the women you like from the woman you’ll love. For this reason, I want to highlight 11 things men love about women that have nothing to do with sex.
11. Memory – I don’t know how or why, but women remember everything. It’s like an entire region of their brain is dedicated to remembering trivial facts. This same region of a man’s brain is dedicated to remembering sports facts and is generally useless when it comes to things like holidays, anniversaries, birthdays, and pretty much any and all relationship milestones.
10. Non-Linear Thinking – As a continuation of point #1, women can tie issues together that a man would never think to tie together if he was left alone in a room for a million years. As you may have observed over the years, men tend to argue in the confines of the here and now. Women tend to argue within the confines of the here and whenever they feel like. Women aren’t going to let a minor thing like making sense stop them from connecting the current issue to an issue that occurred in the past (that you forgot about) and an issue that might occur in the future (that you haven’t done, yet).
9. Multitasking – If men have a list of 10 things to do, they tackle the first thing, then the second, and so on and so forth. Men aren’t about that doing two things at once life. If women have a list of 10 things to do, they tackle all 10 things at once. This would make the average man’s head explode. Women know this (see point #2), which is why they win 95% of arguments with men simply by confusing us by bringing up more than one issue at a time – even if the issue she brings up has nothing to do with the current argument. In other words, women are mental ninjas.
8. Strength – Most men are physically stronger than the woman they date but women possess a different type of strength. The ability to have kids is the most obvious, but men also tend to give up fairly easily if they don’t feel like fully investing themselves, even if it’ll hurt them in the long run. For example, a former cell phone company (who shall remain nameless) used to screw up my bill pretty much every billing cycle. I charged this to the game as a part of doing business. One month, my girlfriend at the time found out about this and she took it as a personal affront. Next thing I know, she goes all Rambo III on them. By the time she got done with her bill-collector cursing out vendetta they ended up paying ME money just to get her to stop calling. Basically, a woman’s strength is magnified by the fact that everyone is scared of an angry woman.
Gentlemen Uncensored: Sex And Patriarchy, Part 1
In episode 1 of Gentlemen Uncensored, it seemed marriage may not be in the cards for all of the fellas, but one thing they are all down for is sex. The question is what are their expectations of women — and themselves — in the bedroom, and how much of what they claim they need is based on true desires or simply what they’ve been taught to want. Check out part 1 of the discussion.
GENTLEMEN UNCENSORED
- Sneak Peek: Gentlemen Uncensored
- Episode 1: Why Get Married?
- Episode 2: Why Get Married? Part 2
- Episode 3: Episode 3: Sex And Patriarchy, Part 1
- Episode 4: Sex And Patriarchy, Part 2
- Episode 5: What Is Good Sex?
MEET THE CAST
The Hot Mess Of The Week: Troubled Actress Amanda Bynes Asks Drake If He Could “Murder” Her Vagina
Somebody come get your friend.
In Friday foolery news, just because we had to share, former Nickelodeon star Amanda Bynes is back to talking crazy on her Twitter. But after basically calling Jay-Z ugly, she wants another rapper to know that he could get it. And murder it…Sorry Drake.
Bynes took to her Twitter page last night to let out one of her gems of randomness, as Twitter has allowed her to fully express herself (but not in a good way…), and Tweeted the rapper to let him know that she would like to get to know him on a more sexual level.
And it seems she was dead serious. The actress, who has been making herself over with cheek piercings, wigs and a whole lot of makeup (she recently looked suspiciously close to Tyga’s girlfriend Blac Chyna), has publicly stated on her Twitter that she thought Drake was a “hot fellow,” but how she went from saying he was attractive to high-key propositioning him, we’re not so sure. Also, this isn’t the first rapper Bynes has been with or wanted to be romantic with. Years ago she was getting really close with G.O.O.D. Music rapper and actor (and cutie) Kid Cudi. Allegedly, her penchant for being too open on Twitter made them fall out, especially when some postings like the following were supposed to be about him:
“It’s amazing how good it feels when someone knows how to love your body! I am having withdrawals from a certain guy lol
“So turns out i prefer chocolate over vanilla. interesting.”
“The guy I love is the most talented person ever!” He inspires me to be better! *heart* awww we should get married.”
Yeah, she’s been doing the most for a while now, but her statement to Drake was a whooooole lot. Murder? Really? Maybe she thought because he loves to “date” Hollywood beauties, strippers and video vixens, he might be down, and who is to say that he would turn the girl down? But I’d suggest Drizzy run in the opposite direction. I could go on, but I’ll let you add your two cents on the ratchet-ness of all of this below…
Be Honest: Are You Selfish In Bed?
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By Melissa Fritchle
Do you and your significant other enjoy different things when it comes to sex? Do you focus too much on your own pleasure? Are you wondering if you’re getting too controlling in the bedroom? If so, help is on the way.
In this video, sex therapist and YourTango Expert Melissa Fritchle explains that you can still satisfy your sexual needs without coming off as too controlling to your partner. “It’s great that you found a way to efficiently and you know how to feel satisfied,” she says, “but sometimes, when we focus on , it causes us to miss out on other elements that make sex fun.”
Read Melissa Fritchle’s advice for becoming a more selfless partner on YourTango.com.
True Life: When I Think About Sex In My 60′s & Beyond I Imagine It Will Be ________
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As much as some of us don’t want to face it, we’re getting older and older as the days go by. And that means a lot of emotional, psychological and, most noticeably, physical changes. So that means sex will be…different. We asked you, our Facebook and Twitter followers, how you think sex will be in your 50s and 60s and beyond. See what your fellow readers had to say.
Trina: Yuck
Shae: Bangin! Im having sex until the Lord takes me away….or as long as I can remember too! Lol. : )
Michelle: In my 50′s and AWESOME!!!! no monthly worries just good fun! for all you youngsters posting “yuck” what are you going to a convent when you’re older? puhleeze! LOL!!
Sharon: Good if it still have the desire to do it
Sh’Anea: Amazing! Omg, no worries of pregnancy… No worries f menstration. Sex whenever and wherever! Sheitttttttt, I’m imagining it now.
La Rhonda: MAKE THE BEST OF IT WHILE I CAN STILL GET IT!!!
Curtisha: Lol don’t nothing stop I’m 30 by then they’ll have invented all kinds of ish. Getting it in until the casket drops!
Jasmin: get me some titanium hips and I’m good lol
Tracey: I’ll be 50 in June; I imagine it will be as good as it is right nah! Lol!
Rosie: Eeekkk! A damn nightmare on my street that I want someone to wake me up from real quick! Lbvs!
Dirah: Amazing! After all the years of experience why wouldnt it be?
Phylicia: Dry
Chereese: To continue to be running like the Niagra Falls. lol
Crystal: Great! The hole out last the pole, just because I’m in my 50′s, 60′s or 70′s doesnean my partner will be.
Latisha: Horrific
Leeyeicia: Off the chain!
Carline: I don’t think I want any part of it at the age of 70…
Onlyone Vette: I”m 42 and It’s great!! years ago I worried that it wouldn’t be with hormonal and physical changes but I’m secure in my sexuality and my husband and I have almost the same stamina that we had in our twenties.
Vee Tina : Not as great as it is now, but one can dream
Shana: Painful
Jean: Sound like a winner to me, if you still have it use it.
Jerisa: I don’t wanna think about that *shudders*
Natasha: Fun….. I’m a virgin and 21 now though lol . So, I will hopefully be married then
Valencia: Non existent
Gracey: Amazing! Lots of lube.
Mississippi: Well before HIV was the scare for young women and now its becoming the scare for women over 50. I would LIKE my sex life between 50-60 to be filled with young viral men, I figure if Im torturing my self now to stay Hot it should pay off during my AARP years. After 60-70 I expect nothing..It be great if I could be a Blanche Deveraux till death but oh well…
Lori: …trying not to hurt myself (or kill him).
Bubbles: Missionary. The only possible position
Janelle: Slow and Disgusting
April: Fast and over wit real soon? No more making my azz clap & doing da most! At them ages who cares as long as he get in and get the job done!! In my Sweet Brown voice (I ain’t got time for all dat)!!
Constance: Like the reserves…one weekend a month and 2 weeks out of the year lol
Meet Gentlemen Uncensored DJ CEO: ‘As A Man, It Is My Duty To Comfort My Woman’
Jarell Greene/DJ CEO (@djceo) has become synonymous with style and grace fostering a unique and unforgettable musical experience second to none on the New York party scene. His other interests include anything sports related and collecting gaming systems. The thing that attracted him to his girlfriend was her intelligence, sense of humor, fashion sense and her love of music.
Just like any other man I have many flaws. What I find interesting about flaws though is, depending on the context, they aren’t considered flaws. For instance, common sense isn’t normally a flaw, but when it comes to love it can be. Nothing about love is ordinary. In fact all of it is extraordinary. There lies my flaw. I apply common sense to everything and that depicts me as a cold emotionless man, which in all honesty isn’t true.
Maybe it’s because I’m an Aquarius or maybe it’s something learned from my dad who raised me. I’m a problem solver. If I’m not happy or something isn’t right I don’t cry about it, I figure out a way to fix it. The initial response for most women is an emotional one. They cry or yell and then want what has gotten them to this state of disarray fixed. Who’s right? Who’s wrong? Both. But as a man, it is my duty to comfort my woman to let her know it’s going to work out and we are in this together and sometimes that means I have to be emotional.
Both men and women should know one important thing. Just because someone is a good man/woman, it doesn’t mean they are good for you. I think woman, far more than men, are quick to settle with a good man than a man is to settle with a good woman. I know I’m picky for a few reasons: 1) I have far more options to choose from. 2) I’m not easy to be with. 3) At my age, marriage is always in the question and forever is a mighty long time. Like that new Volkswagon commercial says “Choose Your Passengers Wisely”. In my experience, women have been far more focused on the idea of a relationship/marriage than picking the right traveling partner for them. That turns me off because then I don’t feel like it’s about me or us, it’s about the sentence.
Allow me to venture into a field of study I didn’t do to well in at school, math. When you create a mathematical sentence, for example 7 + x = 10, only one number — x– can give you that desired result. But if your mathematical sentence looks like this. n + x = 17.5, your variable can be anything to get to that result. Most folks would like to believe they follow the first example but I would stand to say most people, including myself, follow the latter, especially women.
I’m a man who was raised by a man and woman together but learned how to be a man from a man. I know what my role and responsibilities are, but this isn’t the ’60s; it’s 2013. I want to be able to take care of my woman; however, I don’t want to have to take care of her due to her own comfort in being taken care of. I need a woman that can take care of herself and us if need be. If I get extremely ill, I need to know my woman can hold us down financially, spiritually, and emotionally. However, the best case scenario would be she’ll never have to take care of us because I will be doing it, not because I have to, but because I want to. I’m a man and I want to be a man to my woman — a protector, provider, and lover. The only time I want to be a super hero is when you need saving, not want saving. We’re partners, let’s fly together!
–CEO
GENTLEMEN UNCENSORED
- Episode 1: Why Get Married?
- Sneak Peek: Gentlemen Uncensored
MEET THE CAST
- Meet Chris Kazi Rolle
- Meet Anthony ‘Tmor’ Morris
- Meet Ainsley Burrows
- Meet Carlos Walton
- Meet DJ CEO
- Meet Harold Church
Religion Is Ruining My Sex Life
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From Essence
I never thought that sex would come between my husband and I. I was raised a devout Pentecostal Christian and have only been with one other man in my lifetime – a mistake before I got married. The only thing I learned about sex growing up is that it was bad, dirty and for reproduction only. I am no longer with that particular church but am still a very Godly woman.
When we got married a year ago, my husband used to lovingly call me a prude. He would tease me about being uptight but never with any malice, although he tried to “get it” every night. I would say yes around once or twice a week. Since then, it has become once or twice a month.
Last night, he accused me of not loving him anymore. Of course I love him and the sex is okay, but sex is just not a priority for me. At the end of the day I am exhausted. I’m 32 and he’s 35, so we’re not kids anymore. I know it sounds crazy but I still have my upbringing in my head; sex is for procreation. When he touches me, I don’t really feel aroused and because of it sex feels like a performance. One day he asked me to just touch myself so he could watch and I looked at him like he was crazy. (I’ve never even done that alone.) Since then, it’s been different between us. He called me “icy, frigid and uncaring.”
I want to turn him on again but where do I begin? I feel awkward. I don’t want to be a prude anymore but now I feel like his eyes are starting to wander. Is it too late?
Living Coach Abiola Abrams has for this woman on Essence.com.
Meet Ainsley Burrows: ‘I Don’t Think I Can Be Monogamous With One Woman, But I Also Expect She Can’t Either’
She Wants It Too
-Ainsley
GENTLEMEN UNCENSORED
- Sneak Peek: Gentlemen Uncensored
- Episode 1: Why Get Married?
- Episode 2: Why Get Married? Part 2
- Episode 3: Sex And Patriarchy, Part 1
- Episode 4: Sex And Patriarchy, Part 2
- Episode 5: What Is Good Sex?
MEET THE CAST
- Meet Chris Kazi Rolle
- Meet Anthony ‘Tmor’ Morris
- Meet Ainsley Burrows
- Meet Carlos Walton
- Meet DJ CEO
- Meet Harold Church
And Now…A Word From Chris Brown: “Fellas, Tell Your Girl ‘I Own Your P****!’”
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I mean, if you like things rough, this actually might be right up your alley.
Christopher Maurice Brown (I’m so sick of him, I’m just going to start calling him by his full government name) was having a grand ol’ time at the Emerson Theater in Hollywood Thursday morning when he felt the urge to give the men in the crowd some advice. According to TMZ, he took the mic from the house dj and offered the following (in a melodic tune):
“Don’t make me have to tell you again. That’s my p**** baby…It’s mine, baby, babe, mine. Don’t make me have to tell you again/It’s my p****, baby/It’s mine girl, it’s mine, it’s mine girl/So you better not give it away
So every person in this motherf****ng building,if you got a bad B***h, you better say that to her cuz she might f**k another [n-word].”
Granted, singer Miguel has a song on his album of a very similar nature but…well, Miguel doesn’t come across an uncontrollable person so its allowed. Chris, on the other hand, often lets loose in drunken stupors and will never catch a break when he’s filmed saying something like this.
Perhaps his boo thang Rihanna likes talk like that (in the heat of the moment, other women might too) so he felt it only right to share what works in his relationship.
Oh Christopher…
