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Is This A Flash Drive Or A Vibrator?

May 24th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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In honor of National Masturbation Month, we will be highlighting unique and interesting sex toys every weekday in the month of May.

If you’re a woman who prefers the finer things in life, allow us to introduce you to the Duet Lux Vibrator by Love Crave. This 24k-gold-plated vibe is crafted to meet the unique needs of every woman with “four vibration modes and four power levels.” . It also has built-in data storage, which “allows you to keep your most private content off of your computer.”

Unlike other vibrators, the Duet Lux does not require a charger, simply slip off the cap and plug it into your computer or another USB-compatible charging port. It can also be charged in your vehicle. According to developers, in comparison to other vibrators, the Duet Luxe is significantly quieter.

Oh yeah, it’s also waterproof.

You can purchase the Duet Lux from Babeland. Prices range from $219 to $349.

What To Do? Your Kid Walks In On You Having Sex

May 24th, 2016 - By Erickka Sy Savane
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“K walked in on me and Nate having sex,” says your best friend, face so flushed you can feel the heat burning through the phone.

Your first reaction is Eww, but since she probably feels bad enough already, you settle on “Whoa.”

“It was in the middle of the night and we look up and she’s standing there, rubbing her eyes, talking about how she wants some water. So Nate said, ‘Mommy and daddy were just wrestling. Go to your room.’”

“Did she believe it?”

“Girl, she’s five going on 50. I went to her room right after and she starts asking me all these questions: ‘Were ya’ll really wrestling? Was daddy throwing you in the air? Did I hear you crying?’ It was horrible.”

“Whoa.”

“Yea, I know. I just hope we didn’t scar her for life.”

“Awe, maybe it wasn’t as bad as you think. I’m sure she’ll be alright.”

You feel for your friend because you know first hand how challenging it can be to monitor everything your five-year-old sees. Between ISIS and promos for the latest R-rated movie, watching the morning news is an exercise in how fast you can turn the channel. The last thing you want is expose her to images that could steal her innocence and get her thinking about things that she’s too young to understand. And though you can’t control what she’ll be exposed to outside, inside is your domain. To have your kid walk in on you having sex is like having all your efforts blow up in smoke in one single swoop. Boom!

But at the same time, ish happens and it shouldn’t be the end of the world. You were speaking to another friend who says he walked in on his parents doing the do when he was about six years old and he thought they were just playing around or wrestling. It wasn’t until he was older that he realized what he saw.

You decided to reach out to Dr. Kristin Carothers, Psychologist at the Child Mind Institute, to see what advice she would give parents should something like this happen. “First,” she says, “Parents are more embarrassed than the kid so try to be as normal about it as possible.” And while she understands that your friend’s husband was thinking fast on his feet, so to speak, she feels that it’s tricky to use wrestling as an explanation because it’s too closely associated with aggression. You don’t want to send that type of message. She suggests saying, ‘Mommy and daddy love each other very much and sometimes they have special times called ‘intimacy’ when they show each other that love.’ Also let her know that mommy and daddy were both safe.”

As far as ‘scarring the child for life,’ a valid concern, Dr. Carothers says, “Don’t worry, the child will be fine.” She does, however, suggest locking the door to prevent something like this from happening in the future. “Let your child know that sometimes parents need privacy, but she’s welcome to knock on the door at any time.”

Something tells you this will not be happening again.

Erickka Sy Savané is a freelance writer and creator of THE BREW, a social commentary blog. Before that she was a model/actress/MTV VJ. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram.

Does Your Man Underestimate Your Sex Drive? Why This Could Help Your Relationship

May 23rd, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Let the old school sitcoms tell it, husbands want sex morning, noon and night, but their wives would prefer to knit or read. Of course, these depictions of men and women in long-term relationships are entirely inaccurate because sex drive varies from person to person – regardless of their gender. However, according to Cosmo, a new study suggests that your man underestimating your sex drive could be a good thing.

The study, which was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found that men in long-term relationships tend to under-perceive their partner’s sexual desires. But what was interesting about this finding is that women who are in long-term relationships with partners who under-perceived their desires appeared to be happier in their relationships and more committed to their mates.

According to researchers, a possible explanation for this correlation is that when men assume that their partners aren’t up for sex, they are likely to put forth a little more effort to get them in the mood.

“There’s still some more work to be done to figure out exactly what’s going on there. But one possibility is that perhaps when men are under-perceiving, they’re much more motivated to do things to entice their partner, make their partner feel good, and express their love and commitment to the relationship. And women are feeling more satisfied and committed as a result,” Dr. Amy Muise, an author of the study, said.

“If a person over-perceives how interested their partner is in having sex, they might feel as though they don’t have to do anything to set the mood or attract their partner’s interest,” Dr. Muise went on. “But, if a person sees their partner as having less desire than they actually report, the person might put forth a little extra effort to ignite their sexual interest.”

She continued:

“For example, taking it outside of sexual desire, if I overestimate how much my partner loves me, I might just think that I can sit back and I that I don’t have to put in a lot of effort into the relationship because they’re already so much in love with me that it doesn’t really matter what I do,” Dr. Muise continued. “But if I were to under-perceive that slightly then maybe that can keep me a little bit more motivated to keep my partner’s interest.”

Muise also theorized that men might assume that their partners don’t want sex because they’re trying to avoid sexual rejection, which Muise says “tends to be associated with negative consequences for relationships.”

She Tried It! The We-Vibe 4 Plus

May 20th, 2016 - By madamenoire
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My first experience using a couples vibrator was with the We-Vibe 4 Plus—an adorable, G-spot-stimulating vibe small enough to fit into the palm of your hand.

When I received my We-Vibe, I’ll admit that I wasn’t entirely sure of how to use it. Its unique shape tends to leave you wondering about what should go where. However, the developers were sure to provide thorough instructions on how it should be used.

One part of the vibe is inserted into the vagina while the other part rests outside near the vaginal lips and clitoris. During intercourse, your partner should insert his penis beneath the vibe, and you can proceed to have sex as you normally would only with extra stimulation. Both ends of the toy vibrate, simultaneously providing clitoral and G-spot stimulation. The vibrator can be controlled by its remote control or compatible cell phone application. Your We-Vibe can be synced with your mobile phone as well as your partner’s, and the application can control the vibe even when you’re apart, which is awesome if you’re in a long-term relationship.

I made the mistake of trying to use it one night when my partner and I were dead tired, so I’ll say that until you become familiar with the We-Vibe 4 Plus or any other generation We-Vibe, you should probably make sure that you’re fully rested and prepared to be creative. My experience with the We-Vibe 4 Plus was a pleasant one; it certainly provided some extra added fun to the bedroom. Things got slightly awkward at times because it seemed that certain positions were not conducive to the vibe staying in place. However, everything was awesome once we finally found our groove and I think that when it comes to this toy, practice makes perfect. Lots and lots of practice.

I haven’t quite mastered use yet, but I am looking forward to exploring new ways to use the We-Vibe.

You can purchase the We-Vibe 4 Plus from Babeland for $179.00.

The Luvit By Vibratex Comes With A “Tickler”

May 19th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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In honor of National Masturbation Month, we will be highlighting unique and interesting sex toys every weekday in the month of May.

Today, we’re highlighting the Luvit, which is another brainchild of the brilliant folks behind the super popular Rabbit. The Luvit is a G-spot stimulating vibrator, which is programmed with both vibration and gyration patterns. It also comes equipped with a “tickler,” for clitoral stimulation.

The Luvit is made of body-safe silicone and it can be used in the shower.

You can purchase the Luvit from Adam & Eve for $120.00

Serious Question: Would You Be Offended If He Turned You Down For Sex?

May 18th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Would You Be Offended If He Turned You Down For Sex?

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The average woman has probably been declining sexual advances since high school. At this point, it’s just a part of life. However, being turned down for sex is probably something that many of us are not used to.

During a recent taping of “The Real,” the ladies discussed instances where the tables are turned, and the guys are the ones saying “Thanks, but no thanks.” Specifically, they explored a viral screenshot of text messages exchanged between a man and his date. Apparently, he decided that he did not want to have sex after one of their outings, and his female companion demanded to know why. From the sounds of it, she spent a healthy amount of time before their date preparing to get busy, and when he decided to pass on the horizontal mambo, she was left quite frustrated.

As the conversation progressed, Tamera Mowry-Housley asked her co-host, Adrienne Bailon, whether or not she would be offended if a man turned her down for sex. Adrienne confessed that if she happened to be dating a man for an extended period of time and he turned her down, her “ego would be a little bruised.”

“Absolutely! I would be a little offended like, ‘Is something wrong? Does my breath stink? What’s happening here?’ I absolutely would want to know. ‘Are you just not into me like that? Do you just like hanging out with me? Are you not sexually attracted to me?'”

She went on to explain that she has experienced this before; however, she later learned that the guy she was seeing desired to establish a meaningful, substantial, relationship before hitting the sack.

“He actually ended up telling me that he was hoping we could build a respectful relationship based on other things other than being intimate. I actually stood back like, ‘Oh dang; I feel really stupid and I kind of sound like I’m trying to move things kind of fast.’ So yeah, pretty much he wanted to be respectful and wanted to take his time. He was like, ‘I don’t want it to be about that.'”

While Tamara and Jeannie Mai found his gesture to be sweet, Tamar and Loni Love thought it to be a little suspect. Tamar, specifically, felt that a man turning down sex either means that he is gay or not that into you.

And this leads us to our Serious Question of the day: Would you be offended if your guy turned you down for sex?

The Rabbit Habit Original Deluxe Is Full Of Tricks

May 17th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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In honor of National Masturbation Month, we will be highlighting unique and interesting sex toys every weekday in the month of May.

Of course, we can’t discuss sex toys without discussing the über popular Rabbit Habit Original Deluxe by Vibratex, which is a multi-pleasure vibrator capable of stimulating the clitoris, the G-spot, and the vaginal opening simultaneously. While the head of the vibrator rotates for optimized g-spot stimulation, the pearl-filled neck of the shaft also rotates, offering pleasure to the vaginal opening, and the rabbit ears vibrate while stimulating the clitoris.

You may recognize the Rabbit Habit as it was featured on that episode of “Sex and the City” when the ladies had to stage an intervention because Charlotte became wayyyy too attached to it. The Rabbit Habit Deluxe has since been redesigned for women who prefer quieter, more discreet fun.

The Rabbit Habit Deluxe can be purchased from Babeland for $90.00.

Are You Guilty Of Making This Mistake During Sex?

May 17th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Smartphones are infamous for robbing us of precious moments—and according to one survey, we’re guilty of allowing them to steal intimate moments from us as well. According to the study, which was conducted by the University of Virginia on college students, 1 in 10 sexually active people are guilty of checking their phones during sex.

The survey also revealed that on average, people spend about two hours per day on their smartphones and unsurprisingly, about 95 percent of participants said that they checked their phones during social gatherings and celebrations. Even less surprising, 70 percent of the study’s subjects confessed to using their phones at work.

Interestingly, researchers found that when the phones belonging to the study’s participants were placed on vibrate or silent, they began displaying behavior related to ADHD.

“We found the first experimental evidence that smartphone interruptions can cause greater inattention and hyperactivity—symptoms of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder—even in people drawn from a nonclinical population,” explained Kostadin Kushlev, the study’s lead author.

Are you guilty of checking your phone during sex or other inappropriate moments? Have your relationships suffered because of this?

H/t Glamour

Apparently, Middle-Aged Couples Are More Adventurous In Bed Than Folks In Their 20s

May 16th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Apparently, Middle-Aged Couples Are More Adventurous In Bed Than Folks In Their 20s

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If you think that you’re having the best sex of life in your 20s or 30s, you’re sadly mistake. At least, according to a recent study conducted by researchers at the University of Guelph and the Sex Information and Education Council of Canada (SIECCAN), your are.

The survey was completed by 2,400 people in Canada whose ages ranged between 40 and 59. Results revealed that middle-aged couples are very sexually active and that they’re more willing to try new things in the bedroom than they were during previous decades.

63 percent of those surveyed expressed that they were “more interested in trying new things to enhance pleasure” than they were ten years ago.

Researcher Alex McKay, who is executive director of the SIECCAM, explained that the team assigned to this project specifically looked at the 40-59 age group because they were the first to group to grow up during the sexual revolution.

“That was where we saw society take a more liberal turn to sexuality and people grew up with the idea that sexuality was something to be enjoyed,” he said in an interview with Global News Canada.

So yeah, it’s likely that your parents are still having sex; however, the silver lining is that you have plenty of years of great sex to look forward to.

H/t Cosmopolitan

So Vibrating Panties Are A Thing

May 13th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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In honor of National Masturbation Month, we will be highlighting unique and interesting sex toys every weekday in the month of May.

People are always coming up with new and fascinating ways to get off—and also, to get you off. The item we’d like to feature today is a toy of sorts that will add some spice and amusement to your sex life: vibrating panties

Vibrating panties are generally equipped with a built-in bullet that is supposed to fit comfortably inside of the panty and a remote control, which means that you or your partner have the option of getting a little frisky in public—if that’s your thing.

The Little Black Thong, for example, which is sold by Adam & Eve, comes with a 2 1/2″ bullet, ten vibration functions, adjustable satin ties, and the bullet is completely waterproof.

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The Little Black Thong can be purchased for $59.95.