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When rapper Cam’ron posted pictures of his fiancee having an…let’s just say reaching her sexual peak in a tub, it was then that I realized how exhausted I am with being into invited the bedrooms of complete strangers.  If it’s not Rihanna and Chris subtweeting, talking about he “lays the pipe” and Instagramming pics of them sharing the same sheets, it’s DJ Envy publicly apologizing to his wife for his infidelity while he’s on the air.  I don’t know about you guys, but I am so sick of being invited into celebrities’ bedrooms and personal lives. If I’m more familiar with your favorite position than your latest song lyrics, that’s a problem.

Okay, you’re boning, we get it, but what else do you have going on?  Kim Kardashian didn’t exactly invent the sex tape, but as far as I know, she takes credit for single-handedly building a career on making her private parts public knowledge. Now it seems certain celebrities have followed suit and tried to build, revive, or extend careers solely on their sex lives.  I don’t know whether I’m insulted more by the idea that they believe the public can be entertained by so little or by the fact that some us actually are.  I mean just look at the facts.  When is the last time Cam’ron had a hit single?  But I bet you his Instagram was flooded with comments after posting pictures of him and his fiancee getting freaky in the tub.  Somewhere between trolling Twitter and Instagram accounts, we stopped holding celebrities accountable for not being talented because we were so entertained by who they’re pregnant by, getting it popping with or punching in the mouth.

The worst part about it is when the legitimately positive moves that celebrities make get overshadowed by the foolishness.  I gave up on Love and Hip Hop a long time ago, and yet when I scroll through my Twitter timeline all I see are blogs posting about Yandy Smith’s pregnancy, engagement, and her man Mendecees’ legal troubles.  Little did I know Yandy Smith has a net worth of $15 million dollars (according to Celebrity NetWorth) and her career credits include Executive Assistant at Violator Management, Talent Agent at Monami Entertainment and President and Manager of Everything Girls Love.com, a lifestyle brand.  But since I don’t watch the show (and I’m sure these are facts even fans may not be aware of), all I ever knew about the girl was that she worked with Jim Jones and her baby daddy was accused of being a sexual predator.

In the lives of celebrities, any publicity is good publicity, and drama equals dollar signs so I can understand why everyone and their grandma (literally) is coming out with a reality show or selling some story to the blogs, but the more important question is why do we care? I think it’s easier to focus on the faults of the rich and famous than to actually get up and do something about the drama in our own lives. When we see our favorite celebrities having baby daddy troubles, balling completely out of their budget or in unhealthy relationships, it reassures us that money doesn’t buy happiness and it makes us feel like on some level they are just like the rest of us.  In addition to our obsession with everything celebrity, Facebook and Twitter allows your friends to post pics and details of their most intimate moments as well.  Either way, I feel like I know way too much about people’s personal lives these days. And as much as I’d like to say just “unfriend or unfollow,” even I at times find myself reloading my Facebook page or visiting Bossip a few times throughout a boring day just to be entertained by who is making a fool of themselves.

A little foolishness is fine for entertainment, but I think something us regular folks and celebrities alike need to understand is part of the fine art of discretion.  If you notice, some of the couples’ whose relationships have lasted the longest are the ones who aren’t giving us the play-by-play on every major relationship milestone they have.  When you open up your bedroom to the world, your relationship becomes fodder for the insecure and envious.  You can’t post pictures for the world to witness your love then catch an attitude when you don’t get the response you were hoping for.  People will find and pick apart every major flaw and inconsistency like they are getting paid for it, and if your relationship is already fragile it probably won’t withstand the backlash.  Lastly, in a relationship some moments are just meant to be intimate and inviting everyone to witness them instantly turns it from private to p*rno.

Trust and believe, celebs with actual talent will have success that stands the test of time.  It’s why someone like Justin Timberlake can virtually fall off the face of the Earth for years with only a little inkling revealed about his wedding over the years and still only have people caring about The 20/20 Experience.  In the meantime, I urge myself and everyone else to question what we’re entertained by.  As for me, I’m going to start being more about my business and less into everyone else’s.

Do you think celebs share too much information about their personal lives?

Toya Sharee is a community health   educator and parenting education coordinator who has a  passion for helping  young women build their self-esteem and make well-informed choices about their sexual health.  She also advocates for women’s reproductive rights and blogs about  everything from beauty to love and relationships. Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee or visit her blog, Bullets and Blessings.

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Hot couples are one thing, but hot celebrity couples? They take the cake. Most of them are nearly, if not already, perfect looking and they come together to make an absolutely picture perfect scene. And sometimes that scene is way to literal when it takes the form of a clip from a nartsy home video in their bedrooms.

Whatever happened to watching an x-rated flick here or there to steam things up in the bedroom, or simply making a 5-minute video of your own and keeping it hidden?! These celebs know nothing about that life because they but their sex lives all the way on blast and got a career boost to boot.

The only thing juicier than getting the leaked details of a celeb rendezvous is hearing the tale straight from the horse’s mouth. Women have always caught a bad rap for being blabber mouths, but these celeb men aren’t so good at keep their mouths shut either. Kissing and telling is downright tacky and extremely messy, yet, somehow it makes for great entertainment. Proceed to see which messy men made the list.

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Tyrese needs more people. One minute this man loves women, the next he’s telling them everything that’s wrong with them. Today he’s doing the latter.

During an appearance on V-103 radio, Tyrese was asked his thoughts on how women can keep a man (why do people keep asking him these questions?) and, unsurprisingly, he said it all comes down to what’s between our legs.

“A lot of women are very unrealistic. To have a man that’s attractive and successful, you have to be in the position to hold him down mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically, and sexually. Some of ya’ll have wack sex. Some of ya’ll are so consumed in your swexy that your sex is horrible. Your swexy attracts the man, but after you attract the man you’re not able to keep him.”

Women may have been able to roll with him on the importance of satisfying your man’s physical needs had he not dropped this “gem” on double standards.

“If women have sex with too many dudes, dudes call you [hoes] and all your own home-girls will call you out. When men have sex with a bunch of girls, we get props. So men are not as ready to settle down. We may be ready in our minds because we feel like you’re so beautiful, special, and consistent. But we still want to get some other [girls]. We want to spread our love just a little while longer while at the same time not losing you.”

Seems to me that proves it doesn’t matter how good you are in bed, if the man still wants to “spread his love just a little while longer” he’s going to do it regardless. Also, the idea that women can’t sleep around but are expected to kill it in the bedroom is comical to say the least. One redeeming point of Tyrese’s interview is that he did promise we’ll never come across an Internet sex tape featuring his “African Warrior.”

“I don’t ever film myself. My African Warrior is not exposed on camera, its not gonna happen. Its no way that those photos or videos wouldn’t leak at some point. I don’t ever do that, I keep it safe.”

At least he got one thing right. You can check out his five-part interview here. What do you think about Tyrese’s wack sex claim?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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Every long-term relationship reaches a point where real life starts to take over, and soon the only thing getting hot and heavy in the bedroom may be your Yorkie Poo and panda PillowPet.  When you’re no longer locked into passionate lust and infatuation, sex may become scheduled and lack luster and you can find yourself writhing and moaning  “ooohs” “aaahs” and “don’t stop’s” before suddenly realizing that you’re not really enjoying what’s happening, but simply going to through the motions.

The great thing about sex is that it doesn’t take much to turn up the temperature and the following tips should have you and your partner working up a sweat in no time: