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You’ve finally hit that time in your life when you want to find Mr. Right, get married, live together, and maybe even  have children in the future. You’re done with flings and random hook-ups and instead you’re ready to find that one guy who you can happily settle down with. We’re not psychic, but we bet finding Mr. Right has proven to be a bit harder task than you ever expected. Confused as to why? Here are a few reasons why Mr. Right seems to be eluding you.

Picture this: He was kinda cute and came on strong. You weren’t feeling him at first, but with all the attention, phone calls and texts, flowers at work and pleading puppy eyes, you gave in. You were flattered that he made you feel like the only madame in the world–it gave your ego a boost of adrenaline and you got to thinking…”Mmmmm…I like the way his lips look when he sips his orange juice…”

Two, three months in, you’re hooked. You finally give him what he said he’s wanted all this time–your love, your devotion, your body–and the logical action is to step the relationship up a level, right? Nuh uh, because dude’s about to do an illegal U-turn. He stops calling as much.  It starts subtly, his calling three times a week instead of five, and then inexplicably, you become the pursuer, increasingly frantic and ashamed of yourself for acting stalkerish, but you’re completely befuddled about what happened. The reality may be that you actually did see his commitment-phobe ways coming, but you just didn’t think anything of it. It happens! Just don’t let it happen again. Here are a few signs that could have passed you by.