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Sometimes making time for each other is the hardest thing to do in a relationship when you have kids. It’s easy to let kids, chores, errands, work and everything else under the sun come before a partner. A healthy and successful relationship is the root of a happy family life. When those roots are suffering, the whole family suffers. Here are some simple ways to keep the marriage romance in your relationship.
Don’t forget to kiss
Don’t underestimate the small gestures of affection like a kiss when they get home from work or before bed. Kissing is one of the most intimate parts of a healthy sex life and marriage and sometimes it gets overlooked because there are too many other things to do.
Date night after the kids bedtime
If you don’t have a babysitter, don’t let that get in the way of date night. Cook a romantic dinner at least once a month for each other and a have a Friday night party.
Send your hubby sexy text messages about things you want to do in the bedroom or keep it simple with a, “Hey, sexy.” If you are comfortable enough then you could also send a sexy selfie pic along with the messages. The bottom line is, people want to feel needed and sexy in relationships and a sexy text from you could be just what’s needed to spice things up a little.
Compliment each other more
Tell your partner that they look nice before they go to work. Regardless of what they’ve achieved in their career or even if they are out of work, if you know that they are trying their hardest, let them know you are proud of them.
Commit to sexual intimacy
Sex is necessary for a healthy marriage because it’s a physical expression of emotional love and can help keep you connected. So make sure you are not treating it like a chore because your partner will be able to tell. Have your kids go with their grandparents for the weekend, buy new lingerie, candles and set the mood. And don’t forget to express your private desires as a couple. It’s so important to talk about your needs and fantasies.
Do nostalgic things
Obviously, your job as parents becomes the single most important thing to do and that’s natural and good, but you have to work hard to maintain your connection. Try and remember some of the things you did or places you went when you first started dating and do some of those things again. Or try things you have never done before, like dressing up to take a salsa class together, going zip lining, go-karting or roller skating.
Read erotic books
This may not be for every couple, but reading erotic books together can set the mood. You can actually start your own couples erotic book club where you decide to each read a chapter and then talk about it or text each other about your favorite parts.
Do you know any little girls that want to dress up like princesses? Whether it’s just to play dress up or for Halloween, little girls look at the cartoon movies and the images thrown at them about a fairytale love life and fall in love with the concept. And sometimes that concept sticks and as they grow up they think that’s how love is supposed to work or at least that’s how they want it to work. There is a cookie cutter image that is pushed from a young age about the magic of falling in love and meeting Mr. Right and living happily ever after. The problem with this cookie cutter image is if love doesn’t fall into place like a little girl has always dreamt, there can be disappointment and sadness of epic proportions.
So moms, how do we avoid princess syndrome? How do we promote a healthy and balanced image of relationships from a young age?
TV & Movies
If your daughter is going to watch fairytale movies about a princess being rescued by a prince, have a conversation about the movie afterwards. You don’t have to shatter her fairytale dreams but just find out what she liked about it. Tell her what you liked about it and try to find a fun and creative way to talk about the difference between real life and fun creative movies.
Conversations About Relationships
Obviously what you talk to your five-year-old and your ten-year old about will be two different topics but having conversations early about healthy relationships is important. Each new birthday you should talk to your daughter about relationships. When she is seven or eight the conversation can revolve around friendships with boys to find out are they nice/mean etc. And as she gets older you can talk to her about how her guy friends or boyfriends are supposed to treat her and offer suggestions on what she can do if she gets her heart-broken. You want her to feel like she can always talk to you about anything.
A Positive Image
Your daughter looks to you as an example of how relationships should be. Let her see that the man in your life treats you with respect even when the two of you aren’t getting along. If she does happen to see you get into arguments with your significant other, then talk to her later about it to see how it made her feel. Remember it takes a village so if you aren’t in a relationship then try to occasionally have her around a couple (old or young) that you think is a good example for her to see.
PROMOTE GOOD SELF-ESTEEM
Throughout her life, find little simple ways to show her that you feel she is beautiful inside and out. You can leave her little notes in her school lunch box that say: “Have a nice day, gorgeous.” You could also make a date night box where she puts all the fun things she wants to do in a box and the two of you reach in and randomly pick one for your monthly date night. The key here is for her to feel special on a consistent basis.
We’ve seen an increase in mobile dating apps such as Tinder, SoulSwipe and OkCupid. Even eHarmony and Match.com jumped on the mobile dating app bandwagon and adopted the swipe system. It allows you to swipe right for profiles that interest you and left for those that don’t without the guilt of hurting someone’s feelings. But for Brian Gerrard, he realized that he didn’t see a lot of people who looked like him on such popular dating apps. He believes that was a factor in the lack of matches he seemed to be getting on apps like Tinder.
Gerrard created the mobile dating app Bae (Before Anyone Else) as a way to enhance the Black dating experience. For Gerrard, he didn’t feel like apps like Tinder promoted long-term dating, and he wanted to establish something that allowed people of color to connect and stay connected.
Dating can be extremely time-consuming, especially when you have a million things going on as most of us millennials do. Gerrard realized that online dating helped break down dating barriers, but more so, he realized that mobile dating allowed users to make connections anywhere at any time right from their phone. For a lot of us, our phones never leave our hands, so a mobile dating app seemed like a brilliant way to deliver Bae to everyone.
Using Tinder, Gerrard noticed that his Black friends were only averaging about seven matches per week while his White friends were averaging at least 60. With a background in media analytics, he found that African Americans were 10 times less likely to get a match than a non-Black individuals. So he wanted to make navigating these dating apps and having success using them easier.
When Gerrard launched his app in April, he had no idea that it would take off as quickly as it has. Within the first two months he had approximately 50,000 downloads, and the users of Bae continue to increase daily. Gerrard began a tour targeting historically Black colleges and universities (HBCUs) and the amount of positive feedback, according to him, has been incredibly overwhelming. With the launch, Gerrard was able to curate all the matches, see how people were using the app and use that data to continue and enhance the app.
While the target audience is people of the diaspora (African American, Afro-Caribbeans, Afro-Latin Americans, etc.), which is basically anyone “who doesn’t sound corny using the word bae,” Gerrard assures that anyone can use Bae. So whether you’re Black or someone who loves Black men and women, feel free to download the free app available on iTunes and Google Play for Android.
So what’s next for Bae? Gerrard plans to launch tours to create more publicity for the app. This summer Bae is hosting a series of “BaeBQs” in NYC, as well as DC, and other hot spot cities frequented by young Black professionals. In the hopes of being more than just a dating app, but also a brand, Gerrard plans on hosting dating meetups and networking mixers as another way to create matches and make waves. This is just the beginning.
Have you tried Bae yet? If so, what do you think?
Romantic movies are great, but why are there so many rom com moments that never happen in real life? When it comes to these romantic movies, sometimes the movies leave us feeling let down.
It’s almost Valentine’s Day, which means it’s a time when we’re starting to feel extra sexy. The experts at Babeland showed us some of the best adult toys for couples who want to add a little somethin’ extra to the bedroom. Put the kids to bed early and do some toy shopping of your own.
Babeland’s Best Adult Toys For Couples
I must admit, as much as I love Valentine’s Day and all that romance stuff, doing the same thing year after year gets a little boring. Cards, flowers, chocolates and a nice dinner are all great but can we switch things up a bit? There has to be more to V-Day than just bling and edible delights – and please don’t think I am putting all of the creativity weight on men as us ladies can get to brainstorming as well. Thankfully, the more out-of-the-box your ideas are the more memorable they will be. Here are some unconventional ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day whether you are boo’ed up or flying solo.
Switch It Up, Boo: New Ways To Celebrate Valentine’s Day
The Real‘s Adrienne Bailon and Lenny Santiago aren’t the only one’s reminding us that February is all about love. Check out these romantic celebrity moments guaranteed to make you say “aww.”
The first date of Barack and Michelle Obama is reported to make its way in movie theaters, with actress Tika Sumpter (“The Haves and The Have Nots”, “Sparkle”) attached to portray FLOTUS, and a search for a fictionalized POTUS currently ongoing. With this in mind, we started to think about all of the other famous Black couples whose relationships we would love to see realized on the silver screen through a singular moment or from courtship onwards. We’re convinced these would win at the box office. Here are a handful of our top selections of which we can envision moviegoers and television bingers flocking towards.
Watching Jimmy Fallon lose it when he realized he missed his one-and-only chance with Nicole Kidman was one of the funniest moments on TV this week. But Jimmy’s not the only celebrity who lost his big chance. Check out our list of celebrities who regret the one who got away.
Does he think you’re the one? Or is he just waiting for the check? Learn these clues to what his first date body language is telling you and you’ll never have to wonder again.
You Locked Eyes
We’ll start with the good stuff: eye contact for more than three seconds? You’re officially looking deep into each other’s eyes. Time to break the gaze and smile or go ahead and lean in for a kiss.