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On the Bravo blog this week, Kenya Moore went in depth about her nonexistent relationship with her biological mother, which she talked about during this week’s episode. While sharing her thoughts on Momma Joyce’s ridiculous behavior at Kandi’s wedding dress fitting, Moore talked about preferring a crazy mother as opposed to one who isn’t involved in her life at all. Unfortunately, the latter is the state of her relationship with her mom now, and she says that it has had a negative impact on her relationships with men, as well as the men she chooses to have in her life:
Ironically, I would rather have a mother that acts inappropriately to protect me than not have a mother at all. My Aunt Lori is my mother’s sister and has always been a mother figure to me. She is smart, driven, successful, and kind. Since birth, my mother made the decision at age 16 to pretend she never had me. She has never spoken to me. Even if present in the same room with other people and family, she pretends that I simply don’t exist. She pretends I’m invisible.
I fully understand that there has been a void in my life because of this, which relates to my romantic relationships. I have never had any issues with falling in love, dating, sustaining long-term relationships, or attracting great men in my life, who have loved me unconditionally. Although I have had now seven proposals of marriage, I have never accepted one.
As my Aunt pointed out, I choose “unavailable men.” I’ve never wanted a married man or one that is in a relationship. I acknowledge I have a pattern of falling for men who are emotionally unavailable, physically unavailable in terms of distance, or categorically unavailable with respect to time or where they are in life. For instance, some men know they are not ready for marriage. Perhaps my pattern is that I unconsciously seek rejection or failure with these men, which sadly mimics my mother’s relationship.
Although I have suffered a great deal of pain from my mother, my understanding of my own pathology is a step toward healing. Everyone has a story. Everyone has suffered loss, pain, or rejection on some level. My story of my mother has been written and published for 42 years. My story of having a family of my own is still being written. I have had a series of unfortunate setbacks, but I have faith in knowing that God has a plan for me. My Aunt believes that if a baby is what I want now, then I should focus on that. For me, I will explore all my options as I have someone special in my life. I have learned my lesson about pressuring a man for marriage. With that said, I will continue to work on myself so that I can be the best woman, friend, companion, and mother to my future children… God’s speed.
Can you relate to Moore’s story? Do you think that her issues with her mother play a big part in the relationship drama she finds herself in?
“Let’s Ask Wendy About Her Relationship”: Kandi And Fantasia Say Wendy Williams Needs To Mind Her Own Biz
It’s nothing new to hear of Wendy Williams being in hot water with celebrities, but it’s rare that entertainers publicly address the notorious gossip queen. Such is not the case with Kandi Burruss and Fantasia.
Last night, while appearing on “Watch What Happens: Live” with Andy Cohen, Kandi and Fantasia plainly stated Wendy needs to mind her own business. If you’ve been keeping tabs on Real Housewives Of Atlanta (RHOA), you know Burruss’ mother, Mama Joyce, does not approve of her relationship with producer Todd Tucker and, of course, Wendy has thrown in her two cents on the matter. Kandi told Andy Cohen her comments have only made her situation worse, saying:
“Every week Wendy was coming on, you know, saying negative things about my relationship with Todd and then my mom would come [saying], ‘You know Wendy said … even Wendy said …’ Every week. I was like, I don’t care what Wendy said. Let’s ask Wendy about her relationship.”
To back her up, Fantasia jumped in and said:
“Seriously, at the end of the day, I feel like everybody has something that they went through and they have a past. Nobody’s asking her about hers. It’s not her business.”
Though both women were passionate about their angst against Williams, they ended their thoughts on good notes, saying they love Wendy but she needs to lay off on her negative commentary. Fantasia even added when Wendy speaks about you: “It’s good promotions.”
Check out Kandi and Fantasia’s take on Wendy Williams in the “Watch What Happens: Live” clip below. What do you think?
If you’re even a little bit caught up in the drama that was going on (and in some ways, continues) between Porsha Williams and her ex-husband, Kordell Stewart, you may have been asking yourself how the hell she’s been getting away with speaking so ill of him on The Real Housewives of Atlanta.
Well, the official reason is not, “Well, it must be true if he isn’t stopping her from saying it.” Well apparently, Kordell did try to make Porsha keep quiet about all of their issues, but she wasn’t having it. TMZ obtained some legal papers that Kordell filed right after he filed divorce in which he asked her to sign a confidentiality agreement. But Porsha was having none of that and as we can see, she never signed said papers.
Still, one would think that Kordell would have tried another move because Porsha has been taking him to task in almost every episode. Sure, it is giving her more face time on the show and off the show, but it isn’t doing anything for his reputation.
We’re only at the halfway point of The Real Housewives of Atlanta season and we’re pretty sure that Porsha has more to say since most of this season deals with her going through the divorce.
Do you think Porsha should have just done Kordell “a solid” and kept some of her thoughts as well as some of the things she said went on in their marriage quiet?
It is hard not to sympathize with Kandi Burruss’ split loyalties during last Sunday’s episode of the Real Housewives of Atlanta.
First there is her fiance, a poor gentile soul named Todd, who is sick and tired of being painted as a villain by Kandi’s mother Joyce. Fiance Todd puts pressure on Kandi to intervene and basically check her mother to which Kandi is reluctant to do because, after all, it is mom…However, being in love and all, Kandi agrees to arrange a meeting by way of dinner alone for the three, hoping that a face-to-face talk about what plagues them both (and by both, I mean Mama Joyce) would help to chill things the hell out. It was certainly the mature, more amicable thing for Kandi to do. However Mama Joyce wasn’t here for compromise – or pasta.
Keeping it all the way live, Mama Joyce told them both that Todd was nothing but a low-down opportunistic thrifty piss-poor provider, who should not be trusted around her money nor her best friend and Kandi was stupid for bringing him into the house without a prenup. Looking Todd square in his eyeballs, Mama Joyce fearlessly told Todd that the engagement ring Kandi was rocking, was complete garbage and Kandi, “she stepped herself down for you.” That’s when she really channelled her inner Buggin’ Out and asked why ain’t there no pictures of the brothers and sisters on the wall, Sal…
Poor gentile soul Todd does his best to muster up his adult assertive voice to tell Mama Joyce that not only does he provide emotionally for Riley, his soon-to-be- step daughter with love, and Kandi’s needs but he also contributes financially to the comfortable lifestyle he shares with Kandi. Although Todd said he was uncertain about signing a prenup, he also told Mama Joyce that the opulence lifestyle, which likely Kandi’s dollars are mostly fronting, that “this all doesn’t impress me.” Now unless he is talking about the god-awful décor, which is reminiscent of the set furniture in every direct-to-DVD Nollywood film produced over the last several years, then sure. But nobody believed that Todd. And his feeble attempt to fake ambivalence became the equivalent of popping a bear with a stick, with Mama Joyce asserting:
“Don’t let me catch you. Let me tell ya’ something, ain’t no river high enough, ain’t no ocean deep enough; ain’t no desert hot enough to keep me off your ass baby…”
I think I have found my new email signature.
In all pseudo-seriousiness, I really do feel bad for Kandi in this situation, who normally has this great relationship with her mother and very much respects both her eternal authority and her opinions. After all Mama Joyce was on point with her previous disapproval of Kandi’s other fiance, which we all know ended tragically. And she is definitely right about the prenup. Just like STIs, divorce is a very real and threatening possibility. And it’s just not wise for a person of that tax bracket to not take the necessary financial precautions in a relationship. Plus it is mom, who else has both experience and your best interest at heart than mom dukes? Not to mention, if you can take it from a dude with a porn mustache and in a candy colored suit with 52 buttons on the inside sleeve alone, why not listen to Mom? But there are times when what can be good advice just crosses the line into interference. And I honestly believe that in spite of her good intentions, Mama Joyce had crossed that line many unsolicited advisements ago.
It’s obvious that in addition to her own daughter’s own happiness, Mama Joyce is also motivated by her own self-preservation, particularly how she keeps talking about “our money” and the lifestyle that “we are accustomed to” on the show. There were times during the family sit-down scenes where it was hard to discern, which of the two motivations was taking precedence. Likewise, there was lots of fear expressed in her words including a fear of losing her daughter. That was illustrated by the rant about the lack of pictures she saw of the Burruss side of the family around the house. It could be very well possible that what Mama Joyce is responding to the very real possibility that she might be losing the reins of control of her daughter to hands of another master.
And this is the reason why Burruss will ultimately have to channel her inner K-Solo and tell her mom to mind her business. Mama Joyce might be right about Todd; ( it is still early in the season so who knows?), however Mama Joyce should also have enough confidence in her parenting skills to know that she didn’t raise a fool. And as such Kandi is capable of being the master of her own destiny and that includes choosing and being accountable for her own mate. And to deny her the opportunity of her agenda and agency, is really kind of selfish? Besides even if she is right about Todd, trying to force them apart will do nothing more than to draw them together again. Something about magnets and science…
The best she could do is offer support – and maybe an “I told you so” when and if it is discovered that she was right all along. But what do I know? Should Kandi tell her mom to butt out or should she take heed of her warnings about Todd?
Last night’s episode of RHOA was a juicy one! Phaedra isn’t speaking to Apollo, we got to meet Noelle’s boyfriend, and of course, Mama Joyce and Todd went head-to-head. Let’s get to the drama that had everybody talking last night:
Phaedra Is NOT On Speaking Terms With Apollo As She Leaves For Alabama
After last week’s ridiculous argument during dinner where Apollo pretended he did nothing wrong in his “textual” relationship with Kenya, Phaedra decided to do what any pissed off Southern Belle (“and like a true Scorpio”) would do–give homeboy the silent treatment. Phaedra decides to get away from all that drama, and Apollo for a few days, to go down to Alabama so she can focus on studying for her mortician’s exam. Baby Dylan and Phaedra’s nanny and assistant come along for the ride.
It seems that even the most popular reality shows have an expiration date and judging by some recent tweets sent out by NeNe Leakes, Real Housewives of Atlanta may be taking the Basketball Wives route. During last night’s episode, the 45-year-old Glee star agreed with fans who complained over how “boring” the episode was and even hinted that a spin-off show is in the works.
NeNe’s desire for a spin-off isn’t all that surprising, just last year she told the New York Post that she would eventually depart from the Bravo franchise.
“At some point I do [plan to leave RHOA]. I love the acting world. So at some point…I can’t continue to be a Housewife. At some point, I have to back out,” she said.
She also expressed a desire to host her on talk show.
“I would keep it real for the whole hour! Whatever the topic is, I feel I could talk about anything. Politics, men, money, shoes . . . anything. I wouldn’t want to do a ‘Maury Povich’ show. Baby daddy! Who’s your daddy? Who’s your mama? I wouldn’t want to do that kind of show.”
“It’s just a matter of time. I am here now, because I am supposed to be here. And I guess when it is my time to cross over there, I will be over there. I am not religious, but I am spiritual, honey. My day is coming!”
It looks like that day may be coming sooner than later. It’s pretty difficult to imagine RHOA without NeNe Leakes.
Do you think the show could survive without her?
Jazmine Denise is an entertainment and celebrity news blogger. Follow her on Twitter @jazminedenise.
If Apollo Nida and Phaedra Parks don’t fully nip this texting situation in the bud, their impending divorce might be featured on the next season of Real Housewives of Atlanta.
Since this issue of the text messages between Apollo and Kenya Moore just won’t go away, Apollo decided to talk to TMZ about it a little more. He told the gossip site that he was only texting Kenya about the possibility of her collaborating with he and Phaedra on the dvd projects they were both working on, nothing more and nothing less.
He said the collaboration never took flight because once Phaedra got wind of it, she nipped it in the bud before hearing his proposal.
Okay…see. Listen, either they’re milking this for everything they can (and the cow is about dry at this point) or Apollo really is a fool. Almost everything he says about this situation sounds like a lie. On last week’s episode, the way he denied any wrongdoing made it look like he was being less than truthful and now, his deeper explanation – one that he didn’t offer on the show – makes it sound even worse.
Perhaps Apollo and Phaedra have nothing else to add to the show so they keep pushing this one thing, but as we hear more and more about it, this sounds like something that needs to be handled off the show and out of the media. The couple needs to work on their relationship and try to get it back in tact if they can.
By the way, I’m sure Kenya will want to respond to Apollo’s comments in due time.
Probably the most interesting part of Sunday’s episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta happened in the last nine minutes of the show when everybody’s favorite Southern fried attorney and funeral parlor owner, Phaedra Parks, decided to confront her boy toy…er…I mean husband, Apollo Nida, over allegations of inappropriate relations and texts with fellow cast mate Kenya Moore.
Sitting across from each other over plates of seafood, Parks, who had been stewing since last season over Moore and Nida’s budding “friendship,” once again brings up the text messages that the two had been exchanging as well as a supposed chance meeting at a luxury Los Angeles hotel. In previous conversations held off-screen, but retold on camera for our (the viewers) benefit, Moore allegedly offered Apollo oral copulation according to him, an allegation that Moore has denied. IN fact, in a previous scene, Moore showed cast member and Parks’ gal pal Kandi Burruss proof that the texts were not initiated by her and that there wasn’t anything wildly inappropriate about their exchange. Kandi did think calling him “babe” was inappropriate, but one could argue that such a term could be interpreted as a harmless and non-romantic term of endearment used by black folks who are trying to be bougie. Nida confirmed, again, that nothing happened during their meeting at the hotel (even though he let Parks know that he was certain he could “smash” if he wanted to), however, he did claim once again that Moore came on to him. Not fully believing Nida’s version of events, Parks prodded him for more details of this alleged meeting in which Moore supposedly propositioned Nida, to which Nida clarified what he meant by saying:
“Women don’t proposition, they just don’t come at me and be like, ‘hey Apollo, let’s f**k.’ You dated men before, you know when a man is pushing up on you or you know when the female is basically open.”
If you ask me, it’s hard to say either way if the attacks on Moore are warranted. As a cast member, she has been over the top. However, I don’t buy for one second that Moore was telepathically sending messages to Nida that she wanted to slob his knob during their meeting in the hotel. As much as Moore has become everyone’s favorite whipping girl, I don’t think you can lay the burdens of Nida’s subconscious desire at her feet. If I were a betting woman, I would say that more than likely, Apollo was responding to his own guilty conscience, which made him want to switch hotels in order to avoid the temptress with the sixth sense.
But in spite of all the evidence that this alleged inappropriate behavior was probably a figment, or even wishful thinking, of Nida’s active mind, somehow Moore is still implicated as a co-conspirator; not just by Parks, but by most of the other cast members and women in America. Why?
Perhaps there is some off-air gossip we have not been privy to. Or perhaps it is just a matter of good ol’ fashion competitiveness. Women take lots of crap in life, with few exceptions. For instance, you can step on a woman’s shoes; you can pay her less than men for the same work; you can even deny her choice over her reproductive organs, but whatever you do, don’t you dare mess with another woman’s man. Not only will owner of said man likely try to snatch you up, but so will much of the female populous, who have a particular disdain for suspected husband-snatchers. Heck, you don’t even have to be after anyone’s man. In some instances, the implication of being single, attractive and in the vicinity of a taken man is enough justification to warrant isolation and aggression from other women, concerned that you might “steal” their man (cue Parks’ last season borderline desperate attempt at bringing out the big guns…excuse me, “buns” in a fishnet thong swimsuit).
I know that is a huge generalization, but according to this article in the New York Times, there may even be scientific proof. More specifically, a study by McMaster University, which tested female reaction to anticipated female competition by putting women test subjects in a room with a hot blonde woman (unbeknownst to them, she was a lab assistant) and filming their reaction when she left the room. According to the Times article, it was discovered that the hot blonde received little attention from the other women when dressed in conservative clothing, however, when the same girl reappeared, this time dressed in a short skirt or tight jeans and low-cut top, which all accented her “low waist-to-hip ratio, clear skin, large breasts,” that’s when all the judgement and hostility started.
From the article:
The results of the experiment jibe with evidence that this “mean girl” form of indirect aggression is used more by adolescents and young women than by older women, who have less incentive to handicap rivals once they marry. Other studies have shown that the more attractive an adolescent girl or woman is, the more likely she is to become a target for indirect aggression from her female peers.
“Women are indeed very capable of aggressing against others, especially women they perceive as rivals,” said Dr. Vaillancourt, now a psychologist at the University of Ottawa. “The research also shows that suppression of female sexuality is by women, not necessarily by men.”
Stigmatizing female promiscuity — a.k.a. Slore-shaming — has often been blamed on men, who have a Darwinian incentive to discourage their spouses from straying. But they also have a Darwinian incentive to encourage other women to be promiscuous. Dr. Vaillancourt said the experiment and other research suggest the stigma is enforced mainly by women.
Are we naturally programmed to see single, attractive women as predatory or competitors? It’s an interesting theory and one that might be supported based upon how easily it is to shame the other woman for an affair – or an imagined affair – even as the owner of said cheater continues to handcuff and defend the male culprit. Maybe more will be revealed in the season to confirm Parks’ sneaking suspicions about Moore, but for now, and based on what the texts revealed and what Nida said out of his own mouth, it does appear that Moore is just being punished for being single and for Nida’s inappropriate behavior.
The ladies of Real Housewives have riled up their cast member, Kenya Moore. If you watched Sunday’s episode, I’m sure you noticed all the shade that was thrown her way by both NeNe, and of course Phaedra, whose good graces Kenya fell out of after texting Apollo. When speaking on why Apollo didn’t want somebody like Kenya, Phaedra made the comment that he didn’t want an “old beauty queen with scrambled eggs,” which was a dig at Kenya’s age (obviously) and alleged infertility issues. And as for NeNe, she insinuated more than once that Kenya couldn’t afford a nice penthouse in Atlanta, hence the reason she was staying in a hotel in “the ghetto.” Kenya didn’t appreciate all the jabs she witnessed during the episode, and took to her Bravo blog to set both of the women straight…or something like that:
On Phaedra and Apollo:
I didn’t initiate the texts. Kandi confirmed this when she read them for herself. When I called Apollo out for initiating texts with me from the reunion, everyone, including him, took it to mean they were sexual in nature. From that, he lashed out with an outrageous fable of me stalking him in LA and him changing hotels…
It’s obvious something happened in LA, but I was not there. Did Phaedra learn of another woman or why he was at a different hotel than he claimed to be? Clearly their marriage is in trouble, but I’m not the issue. I was the convenient fall guy for texting Apollo back. With that said, Phaedra continues to malign and attack me on every level including my fertility and age, yet, Phaedra is older than I am. Attacking her looks would be too easy for me, so I won’t stoop to her level. Why is my age or looks an issue for her? Further, what kind of woman who claims to be a Christian uses a woman’s fertility as an attack against another by referring to “scrambled eggs.” No Christian is cruel. These comments are an all-time low, consistent with a devil, not any Christian.
The real issue is Phaedra’s troubled marriage and what is Apollo really doing with other women and why he can’t keep his eyes ON her. I’m not the issue. If she really wants the truth from Apollo she should threaten to cut him from her payroll, I’m sure he’ll sing like a bird.
I can call foul and say NeNe was throwing shade in her interviews about my living arrangements. The truth is I was at the Georgian Terrace, which is a 4 star hotel with valet parking in a 2 BR 2 BA suite while the other side of hotel was being renovated. It may have looked like an apartment of some kind, but I can assure you it was not. The juxtaposition of the two places was funny, and I’ll take this one to the chin. But no one should try to count my money, especially when one has never owned a home of their own.
Things are starting to get ugly this season! And while Phaedra’s comments were a bit mean, Kenya doesn’t really get to talk because she was low-down for inappropriately communicating with Apollo via text when Phaedra didn’t know about it. As for NeNe, well, Kenya should have just known better…
What do you think of what the ladies said about Kenya and her response?
“I’m A Grown Man”: Phaedra Checks Apollo About Texting Kenya And He Checks Her Right Back On Last Night’s RHOA
Ooooh child, what was going on last night on Real Housewives of Atlanta!? Folks were living in “the ghetto,” Porsha was saying she married Kordell because he reminded her of her daddy, and Phaedra threatened to cut Apollo after he got defiant about texting Kenya: “I’m a grown man, I don’t have to repeat myself.” Check out all the drama you might have missed last night and share your opinion on last night’s episode of RHOA below!
Kenya Fights Stress By Being Gone With The Wind Fabulous
After having the police called on her while trying to move out of her home after that messy eviction case, Kenya decided to relieve stress the only way she knows how–by being gone with the wind fabulous. Homegirl tried out aerial yoga and had her butt all in the TV screen, but as Kenya let the world know, it’s nothing new to her: “I’m no stranger to having my legs up in the air…but I digress.” Please do.