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On Sunday night’s episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta, the ladies (minus NeNe) took a long arse flight to the Philippines to kick back, relax, and finally handle their issues. By the end of the episode, Porsha was bickering with Claudia again, Cynthia was seeking to make amends with Phaedra, and the Southern belle and Kenya finally decided to sit down and work on their problems. Are pigs flying or nah?
Let’s chat about all that went down on RHOA ep. 19.
The Women Prepare To Hit The Unfriendly Skies
As the episode begins, the ladies pull up at the airport, faces beat to perfection, trying their best to get along since they’ll have to travel for more than 20 hours together. Oooh child! My knees hurt at the thought.
After therapy with Dr. Jeff, the ladies seem to be friendly enough with one another as they arrive–the only exception being Ms. Phaedra Parks. As she pulls up curbside, she tells Porsha that she would like to stay in her car until time for check-in because she doesn’t want to be anywhere near Cynthia after the Mr. Chocolate shenanigans. Porsha encourages her to actually try and mix and mingle with the ladies, which Phaedra reluctantly ends up doing.
— B. Scott (@lovebscott) March 27, 2015
We were pretty surprised to learn that Porsha wasn’t coming back as an official peach-holding cast member of “Real Housewives of Atlanta.” Instead, she was being replaced by two new women. Claudia Jordan and Demetria McKinney.
Well, it turns out there was actually more to the story. Now that season 7 is wrapping and the reunion is being taped tomorrow, some of the cast members can finally spill the tea.
According to B Scott, after months of negotiations, Claudia Jordan is finally signing her RHOA contract. So now, she’ll be paid for her appearance on the reality show.
This puts a bit more context to Porsha’s response to one of Claudia’s tweets saying Porsha should be fired for not having her contract signed.
Porsha had it right. Claudia didn’t have her contract signed. But with the three women vying for that number one spot, it looks like Porsha won’t be signing a contract any time in the near future. Claudia has proved to be the most turnt of all those three women and the on most likely to give NeNe Leakes a run for her money.
Claudia released this statement about the contract signing:
“Because I already have a great job–I could afford to be patient and waited until the contract was exactly what I wanted and it paid off. I’m very happy with my deal!”
What do think about Claudia being added officially to the RHOA roster?
After watching Phaedra Parks’ journey throughout this season of RHOA, I felt that things had really come full circle for her on Sunday night’s episode. She sat down with T.D. Jakes’ daughter, Sarah Jakes to let it all out about her marriage to Apollo Nida, and to find healing. The thing that really got me was when both women expressed a loss of agency when explaining how they felt like they weren’t allowed to be vulnerable in their relationships. Both women felt that they were under a greater level of scrutiny for their decisions because their former relationships played out in a public manner, and because they are both preacher’s kids.
Even though their situations did play out in a manner in which many of us can’t relate to, I still feel that this issue is something that most women can relate to: the loss of vulnerability.
Many people criticized Parks as they watched her marriage implode. They felt that the self-proclaimed Southern belle didn’t act as if she cared too much about what was going on with Nida. But to me, she seemed to be putting on a brave face because she didn’t want people to see her sweat. I hope that Sunday’s episode allowed people to see just how taxing the situation was on her, and I also hope it shed light on the reality of losing your vulnerability in a tough relationship.
As women, we get a lot of flack for being too emotional, and then we’re judged unfairly if we don’t show enough emotion in certain situations. When a man is emotional, he’s seen as “passionate,” whereas women have insults thrown at us to explain our “behavior.” For reasons such as this, when times get tough a little too often, some women will display a stiff upper lip because people are watching in order to see us crack and fall.
As women, we might be more sensitive to other people’s views of us. We’re very aware that we’re being watched by others, and that has the ability put a damper on how we approach tough situations. However, I don’t think that it’s fair for us to have to taper our emotions based on what other people might think.
The tragically beautiful thing about life is that our emotions allow us to express how we truly feel, so it’s not fair to be robbed of that. That puts us in a position where other people control our reactions to things, as opposed to listening to our own hurt and finding a way to heal in a way that’s best for us.
I feel as though allowing ourselves to lose our vulnerability just exacerbates our problems. Instead of dealing with our emotions, we’re too busy trying to suppress them, which eventually makes us weaker.
I’m not saying that you need to cry for everyone to see it, but you’re doing a disservice to yourself by holding in your emotions. If you’re sad, feel it. If you’re happy, feel that too.
Let’s be honest here: Displaying your emotions won’t make your problems go away, but neither does acting as if you’re devoid of feelings. At the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you, and if you feel like walking around with a frown on because you don’t want to fake it for others, then do that. There’s power in being vulnerable and honest with yourself about how you’re feeling. In that power you’re expressing that you’re not ashamed of feeling hurt or sad, and you shouldn’t be.
Gain your power back, and feel free to express your true emotions when you deem it necessary. As Jakes and Parks both shared with viewers, being robbed of your vulnerability is akin to being imprisoned, and no one wants to spend unnecessary time being punished for something so natural.
“You Can Spend Your Whole Life Looking For Prince Charming When A King Arrives”: Kenya Moore Still Dating “Millionaire Matchmaker” Boo
If you watched Bravo’s Millionaire Matchmaker on Sunday night, then you know that Kenya Moore made an appearance on the show in attempt to find her ultimate match. The reality star and former Miss USA shared that even though she’d been proposed to seven times in the past, she was never able to settle down with any of the men because of her abandonment issues. She’s struggled with this since she was young because her mother has never really been a part of her life.
After doing some counseling with Patti Stanger and Cynthia Bailey and meeting some eligible bachelors, Moore went on a date with a handsome fella named James. The two had an immediate connection while learning the tango, and during their dinner date they even shared a kiss (two kisses actually).
But that was on TV. A lot of the time, stars who appear on the show connect with the individuals they’re matched with, but once the cameras stop rolling, things don’t work out. So where do things stand with Kenya and James now? According to Moore, he’s stolen her heart.
While she didn’t reveal all his business on the ‘gram, based on the episode, we know that James is from Washington, D.C. and has been living in Los Angeles for five years now. He’s a former model who wants kids just as much as Kenya does (within a year of dating allegedly), and a divorcee who was married for less than three years. He’s a good catch, and Moore is geeked to have caught him! As she said during her date, “What else could a woman look for? If he’s not it, I give up.”
RHOA Ep. 18: NeNe Vs. Dr. Jeff, And Phaedra Finally Explains Why She Married A Man Who Went To Prison For 5 Years
Okay, so RHOA Ep. 18 was a little boring this time around. It’s okay. It happens. But despite the snooze-worthy moments, there’s always something to talk about when it comes to these ladies. So let’s chat about all that went down from Sunday night’s episode.
NeNe Tells Dr. Jeff, “IDFWU”
Picking up where we left off from last week’s episode, NeNe is storming out of her therapy session with Dr. Jeff Gardere and the rest of the ladies. She feels attacked by the women, who all point her out as the nucleus of the nonsense that holds them back. But NeNe has never been one to easily own up to her stuff, and she isn’t about to start today. So Dr. Jeff tries to bring her back, telling her that she can’t run away while they’re making progress. “We can’t work it out without you.” But NeNe calmly checks Dr. Jeff and says that he picked sides against her: “You need to be worried about your license while you’re up here doing this bullsh*t.” She continued on in her confessional saying, “A good counselor would not allow everyone to just drop their garbage on one person.”
Her car pulls up, and after telling Dr. Jeff to keep his hands off of her, she jumps in and says that if the ladies think she’s a problem, she’ll gladly leave their presence.
As someone who has been watching “The Real Housewives of Atlanta” since season 1, I’ve followed Nene’s portrayal faithfully. There were times where I rooted for her, times when her behavior made me roll my eyes, but all-in-all I’ve only wanted to see the best in her.
On the previous episode of RHOA I was in awe of her growth as she sat down with Dr. Jeff and expressed how she wanted to do a group therapy session and wanted to be held to the same standards that the other girls were. I was like: “Yes, Nene! Yes!”
But then, on the Ides of March, I felt like I’d been betrayed. I had this grandiose article planned on singing her praises, but when the episode of the actual therapy session aired I felt like I set myself up for failure. Why, Kendra?!
But then I realized that in the end all wasn’t lost. Why? Because Nene has indeed grown.
Here’s the thing about humans, we’re not perfect. We’re going to set standards for others, and want grace for ourselves. We’re going to have laser focus on where others have missed the mark and have very convenient amnesia when we do as well.
But the thing that I feel is very true about Nene’s portrayal is that she has shown the propensity for growth.
Now, I know what some of you might be thinking, but just follow me with this.
Granted, Nene missed the mark in that therapy session, but she was the one who brought it up. She set it up, and I feel as though her intentions might have been noble in doing so.
There are a lot of time when we might mess up, and even fewer times when we might try to openly fix it. Even if Nene allowed herself to become too defensive, and miss an opportunity for improvement, I can’t knock her for opening the door to that opportunity.
Something that has stuck with me from a psychology course in college is that a person’s personality is usually set by the age of four. Not meaning that they’ll always act like a four year old, but if you are consistently selfish at four, then you’ll probably stay that way for the rest of your life. If you’re consistently giving by the age of four, you’ll stay that way. So I’ve always kept that in the back of my mind when interacting with other people, and with raising my own daughter.
But seeing this emergence of Nene was proof to me that no matter how old a person is, they still have the potential to move beyond their initial state.
Age is a funny thing because sometimes it can make us feel as though time is running out. However, I feel that if you can look back on your life, see things that you want to change, and then attempt it, that’s admirable.
Nene started off on the series as a wife (though she was auditioning for acting roles, we didn’t see that on the series). Then she was advocating for women’s health and offering a hand to domestic abuse victims. We then saw her get her first mainstream acting role, then hosting gigs, and then star on Broadway.
Even though Nene hasn’t always been a beacon of maturity, she has been a light to those who might be afraid to change their lives. Though her behavior has been disappointing at times, she has still made the effort to attempt a change. For me, the important thing is that even if you do fail, it’s important to at least try. Take it from Nene, it’s never too late to make an effort.
What can we all learn from RHOA Ep. 17? Well, for one, therapy with your coworkers is a terrible idea. NeNe learned that the hard way, as the woman who tried to bring her fellow cast members together to make peace couldn’t take all the heat blazing in the kitchen. So let’s talk about that, as well as Phaedra and Kandi finally hashing out their issues, and Claudia’s attempts at a part-time career in stand-up comedy…
So what did you guys think of the “Southern Discomfort” episode of RHOA this weekend? In it, the ladies deal with the aftermath of the dinner and the allegations made about Phaedra, her character and her love life. We also see Todd and Kandi finally getting the help they need with their relationship, NeNe trying to encourage the women to seek counseling to get their ish together, and Phaedra and Cynthia going head-to-head in these ATL streets. Who’s ready to chat?
“I’ll Just Put It On After He’s Asleep”: Kandi Says She And Todd Came To A Compromise About Her Bonnets
Last week we showed you a preview clip of “Real Housewives of Atlanta.” In it, Kandi and Todd were conversing about the lack of sex they’ve been having lately. If you’ve been keeping up with this season, you already know that Kandi said they were only doing it once a week, which isn’t good considering that they’re supposed to be in the process of trying to have a child. But as their correspondence went on that lack of sex, Todd blamed the fact that Kandi stays with a bonnet on her head as the reason why he can’t get in the mood.
Todd: “Let’s be real. I’m not Tyson Beckford and you’re not Rihanna. When’s the last time you didn’t have the bonnet on and you put some heels on?”
Kandi: “I had the bonnet on my hair before we got married and it was not a problem.”
Todd: “If I say the bonnet doesn’t turn me on, you gotta be like ‘You know what well maybe I don’t need the bonnet on.’ Like, you have to compromise.”
We all know that this scene was filmed last year, so at this point, they should have been able to figure out this whole bonnet-rocking situation. In her weekly Bravo blog, Kandi says they are trying to come to some sort of resolution that works for them both. When asked if she was shocked by Todd putting her beloved bonnet on blast, the star responded by saying that he’s been talking crazy about her bonnet for some time now.
“No, I wasn’t surprised. He’s always talking crap about my bonnet. That’s nothing new. We’re coming to a compromise about the bonnet. I’ll just put it on after he’s asleep.”
Kandi was also asked about the growing rift in her friendship with Phaedra, which has grown because she wasn’t there for her friend during Apollo’s legal and emotional troubles. It became obvious that things weren’t in a good place not only when Kandi went to Phaedra’s house, but also when the group dinner went left:
“Honestly I was just over it. Every time we all get together there has to be some lame ass ‘tea’ spilled, and I’m just tired of it. Seeing Phaedra jump up was shocking, but clearly she wasn’t really going to hit Kenya and Kenya definitely wasn’t going to do anything.
What tripped me out was hearing Porsha and Phaedra make me out to be the enemy because I left the table two seconds later than they did. That just felt like they said, ‘Hey, we’re going to put Kandi in the middle of this drama in some way.’ Well if Phaedra is really going to play into this whole “Kandi’s not my friend because she didn’t jump into my argument and run out the room faster than me,’ then OK… So be it.”
She also admitted that she’s not crazy about Phaedra’s growing relationship with NeNe, but she’s willing to be understanding and supportive.
“Of course I’m skeptical. NeNe has been nice these last few months, but that does not make me forget the years of drama and insults that have come from her in the past. Yes, I get that people change, but it’s OK for me to proceed with caution as I would’ve thought Phaedra would. Well, hopefully things will continue to be great with them and NeNe can continue to be Phaedra’s rock.”
As for what Phaedra thinks, in her own Bravo blog she stated that NeNe only has good intentions. In fact, she says that NeNe called her daily when she was going through a lot with Apollo while folks like Kandi didn’t.
“I consider NeNe a good friend. We have not always been on the same page, however we have found a common ground of being like-minded, successful entrepreneurs and mothers of sons. When I needed a friend the most, she was there and I will always remember that. It is easy to find friends when life is going well, but it is the ones who are willing to support you during the storms that matter. During the months when my life was spinning out of control, NeNe called me every single day to see how I was doing despite her busy schedule. She sent encouraging text messages when she could not reach me. I was grateful that I had her and Porsha in my corner because they helped me through some of my most difficult days.”
While there’s nothing wrong with NeNe and Phaedra growing closer, I just hope that her friendship with Kandi doesn’t fall apart in the process. They’ve been down for too long for all that.
If you watched last night’s episode of “RHOA,” I’m sure you were just as frustrated with the ladies as I was. I was irritated not only by how thirsty folks were to put Phaedra on blast in front of everyone about cheating rumors, but also by the fact that all of a sudden, everyone is out here trying to make Kandi seem like a manipulative frenemy.
If you’ll recall, early in the episode, Kandi visited Phaedra after admitting that she hadn’t seen her in a while. Phaedra seemed happy about the visit, but during her confessional, she kept bringing up the fact that Kandi really hadn’t been there for her and that she learned who her real friends are during Apollo’s legal drama.
As the episode went on, we saw Phaedra almost throw her purse at Kenya’s head over allegations that Phae Phae had been cheating on Apollo. People, including Porsha, questioned why Kandi didn’t try and defend Phaedra from the inappropriate inquiries about whether or not she was cheating, and why she didn’t sit on the same side of the table as her friend (instead, she sat next to Claudia, Cynthia and Kenya). As previews for next week’s episode show, Kandi will continue to be questioned about her loyalty to Phaedra.
After last night’s episode, Kandi proved be pretty peeved with all the people coming for her, including both her cast mates and individuals on Twitter who said things like this:
So she decided to respond. She explained her side and also let it be known that she has no issues with Phaedra and NeNe getting close. However, considering the questionable things that NeNe has said and done in the past, she’s not sold on Mrs. Leakes…
While I’m sure that Phaedra could have used all the support she could get from Kandi and the ladies in general, Kandi has had issues with her play, her mom (as usual) and her own marriage, so she has to take care of home first…
Do you feel like Kandi is wrong for not being as supportive as Phaedra had hoped she would be? Do you think she should have stepped up in some way during the dinner confrontation? Speak on it.