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If you watched last night’s episode of “RHOA,” I’m sure you were just as frustrated with the ladies as I was. I was irritated not only by how thirsty folks were to put Phaedra on blast in front of everyone about cheating rumors, but also by the fact that all of a sudden, everyone is out here trying to make Kandi seem like a manipulative frenemy.
If you’ll recall, early in the episode, Kandi visited Phaedra after admitting that she hadn’t seen her in a while. Phaedra seemed happy about the visit, but during her confessional, she kept bringing up the fact that Kandi really hadn’t been there for her and that she learned who her real friends are during Apollo’s legal drama.
As the episode went on, we saw Phaedra almost throw her purse at Kenya’s head over allegations that Phae Phae had been cheating on Apollo. People, including Porsha, questioned why Kandi didn’t try and defend Phaedra from the inappropriate inquiries about whether or not she was cheating, and why she didn’t sit on the same side of the table as her friend (instead, she sat next to Claudia, Cynthia and Kenya). As previews for next week’s episode show, Kandi will continue to be questioned about her loyalty to Phaedra.
After last night’s episode, Kandi proved be pretty peeved with all the people coming for her, including both her cast mates and individuals on Twitter who said things like this:
So she decided to respond. She explained her side and also let it be known that she has no issues with Phaedra and NeNe getting close. However, considering the questionable things that NeNe has said and done in the past, she’s not sold on Mrs. Leakes…
While I’m sure that Phaedra could have used all the support she could get from Kandi and the ladies in general, Kandi has had issues with her play, her mom (as usual) and her own marriage, so she has to take care of home first…
Do you feel like Kandi is wrong for not being as supportive as Phaedra had hoped she would be? Do you think she should have stepped up in some way during the dinner confrontation? Speak on it.
RHOA Episode 15: Phaedra Tries To Go Oops Upside Kenya’s Head After She Accuses Her Of Being A Cheater
RHOA is back! And the drama continues…
In this week’s episode (RHOA Episode 15), we saw Phaedra move on with life as Apollo turned himself into prison. We saw the allegations about her cheating with an African man named Chocolate spread. And we also saw Phaedra try and hit Kenya with a purse for yapping off at the mouth. It was a crazy episode as usual. Let’s talk about it!
Apollo Leaves Home As Phaedra Returns
As the episode begins, we see that Phaedra is adjusting to life without Apollo with the help of her assistant Kalisha. The ladies move out of their hotel and back into the home she shared with Apollo now that he has turned himself in to begin his sentence. According to Phaedra, since Apollo went in, their son Ayden has been going through mood swings and asking “Why didn’t we save my dad?” With that in mind, Phaedra considers the possibility of putting Ayden in therapy in the hopes that they can move forward as a family, and be happy, without Apollo.
We’ve already talked about the communication problems Kandi and Todd are having, all being played out on “The Real Housewives of Atlanta.” In addition to dealing with distance and the failing of their musical, “A Mother’s Love,” the two are only having sex once a week.
And Kandi is in her feelings about it. So she suggests that they attend marriage counseling. Todd doesn’t really think it’s that deep and feels that if they make some compromises, they should be good. But apparently, “they” is just Kandi.
He did have a suggestion about how they could fix their bedroom issues.
“Let’s be real. I’m not Tyson Beckford and you’re not Rihanna. When’s the last time you didn’t have the bonnet on and you put some heels on?”
Then Kandi said: “I had the bonnet on my hair before we got married and it was not a problem.”
Todd: If I say the bonnet doesn’t turn me on, you gotta be like ‘You know what well maybe I don’t need the bonnet on. Like, you have to compromise.
And then in his confessional:
“Man have you seen a lady at night with a bonnet on? The most thirstiest dude wouldn’t get it up!”
The words sound harsher typed out than they actually were, which is why I included the video at the top. So you can get a true sense. The way they discussed this situation, with jokes, laughter and even some touchy-feely throughout, I think Todd and Kandi will be just fine.
But this bonnet discussion has always been so fascinating to me. I mean, Black women have been wearing bonnets for at least a century at this point. But all of a sudden Black men are coming out of the woodworks talking about how they don’t find them sexy.
Before Todd, there was Shawn Bullard from “Match Made In Heaven” and one of our male writers made a similar comment about bonnets killing the mood in a random g-chat conversation.
I mean, I get that they’re not exactly the sexiest things around but since when did a bonnet stop someone from getting it in? As a man, you can make a production out of ripping the bonnet off before you get started or gauge your skills in the amount of time it takes for you to work it off during the deed itself.
I’m with Kandi, Todd knew about her bonnet before they got married. Just like a whole lot of other Black men. Someone suggested that Black men started dating White women and now they want to act brand new. Who knows? But the brothas gotta be more sympathetic to our hair struggle. Matter of fact, if they think back to the days when they were wearing braids and waves, they know that they used to have to sleep with a scarf on as well.
Black hair requires care.
And we’re not our hair but our hair is a part of our lives. And just like other elements of life, when it comes to sex, you just have to work around it.
During this past episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” Kandi and Todd have been on two different pages. There were several communication issues that seemed to trip them up. Kandi’s play was canceled and in response Todd asked her if she “did her research.” And though he might have been trying to provide a solution or rationalize the cancelation, it came off as dismissive and insulting. Of course she did her research! Kandi is a businesswoman. But I digress.
Then when the two were in LA filming, Todd decided that he was going to hang back for a few days afterward and kick it with his boys.
This compounded by the fact that they’d only had sex once that week, led Kandi to believe that he might be stepping out on her. And Kandi told her friend Carmen that she suspected Todd of cheating. Sadly, all of this took place on camera.
If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times; when it comes to relationships, sometimes it’s just better to keep your drama and messiness behind closed doors. And as a newlywed, Kandi is also learning that lesson.
As soon as Todd and I got married he had to leave for LA to start production on his show. We went from being together every day to going weeks without seeing each other. It took some time to adjust. Things were tense for a short period of time, but we’re great now. I do regret talking about it on TV. I’m a very open person, but I’m learning that it’s not always a great idea to be an open book when it comes to your marriage.
Let the church say Amen!
We could go on and on about the couples whose marriages have failed with the help of reality tv. Though most of us don’t have cameras in our homes, the same concept applies when you consider telling your friends about every argument and issue that arises in your relationship. Sometimes…no, most times, it’s better to work it out amongst yourselves, or with a neutral third party, and keep it moving.
Basically, when you tell your friends and family about the drama in your relationship, they’re listening as people who are loyal to you…not your man or partner. They’ll be looking at him crazy from now until eternity if you ever mention anything he might have done wrong. Even after you’ve moved past the argument and the dust has settled, your people will still be holding a grudge. Not to mention, you conveniently forgot to tell them how you were acting a fool. They weren’t there for his apology and the resolution and you didn’t update them on how his behavior has changed for the better. One, because those make up stories aren’t as juicy and two, because they’re not in the relationship and have little incentive to forgive his offenses.
That’s just what happens when you invite outside opinions into your relationship.
And that’s what Kandi is doing by discussing her relationship with Todd, not only with her friend, but with millions of viewers around the country and world. Inviting them to cast judgment without knowing even half of the story. As one of my coworkers mentioned, it also adds fuel to that very messy fire Mama Joyce started. God knows the world doesn’t want her to be right about Todd. But I’m sure listening to Kandi discuss what seem like normal communication issues is making her feel really validated right now.
But it’s hard not to discuss your relationship when you roll deep with your man and cameras are following you around all the time. As we were discussing this at work, someone suggested that it might be time for Kandi and Todd to step away from RHOA in an attempt to preserve their marriage. I’ll be honest, my first reaction was “Nooooo.” I don’t even watch RHOA anymore but when I did, I always appreciated Kandi’s levelheadedness and her ability to avoid the cattiness that has been associated with the show. If she leaves, doesn’t it seem like all hell will break loose? Who is going to bring the ackright?
And while the show might take yet another dip in classiness, it just might help to keep Kandi and Todd together.
There’s only one word to describe everything we witnessed during this week’s episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta”: crazy. From Claudia going to Rickey Smiley about her issues with Porsha, to Kenya trying to have D. Woods of Danity Kane play her OLDER sister in her new show, and Apollo’s outburst at his home with Phaedra, crazy is the name of the game. Let’s chat about all that went down in those 60 minutes.
Claudia Is Mad Stressed…Over Porsha?
Kenya and Cynthia stop by Claudia’s new and improved pad to see how she’s living after a few months in the ATL. And while the apartment is in good shape, Claudia? Not so much. She tells Cynthia and Kenya about falling out with Porsha at the Dish Nation party, and eventually starts crying. She claims that Porsha’s treatment of her is similar to how she was treated in high school by her classmates because she is biracial: “I don’t deserve this. ” But ironically, Claudia doesn’t plan on taking back what she had to say about Porsha in front of everyone about her alleged married sugar daddy. And yet, she doesn’t understand why Porsha doesn’t want anything to do with her…
You know what’s wrong with all the relationship advice, it doesn’t take into account that everyone is not the same. You can’t paint everyone with the same tired brush. We could all save ourselves a lot of time, energy and heartache if we followed our intuition and didn’t do or agree to do things that made us uncomfortable, we’d be in pretty good shape.
While it might not be in some of our nature to hop into bed with a man on the first date, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship is doomed. Just ask Cynthia Bailey and Peter Thomas.
The couple appeared on a Valentine’s Day episode of “The Real” where they discussed who fell in love on first sight and their pet names for each other.
Take a look at the videos below.
And since we’re on the topic of #RHOA couples, Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker recently appeared on “The Steve Harvey Show” advising women on how to keep things spicy in the bedroom. The segment was cool and Steve had a good joke in there but I just really like watching Kandi and Todd together. They’re too cute.
Check them out in the video below.
“A Mother’s Love” Tanks, Claudia And Porsha Do Battle And Apollo Threatens Phaedra: RHOA Ep. 13 Recap
We weren’t able to chat with you last night or share this with you earlier because our attention was solely on the Grammys yesterday. But if you are looking to chat about what went down on last night’s episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” let’s get to it!
“Life Twirls On” As Kenya Moore Tries To Get Her Own TV Show
As the episode begins, Kenya Moore meets up with Demetria McKinney’s man, Roger Bobb, to pitch him a new show loosely based on her life. It’s called “Life Twirls On,” and the main character is a retired supermodel married to a white man. Yeah, “loosely based” might be an understatement.
In the story, Moore also tries to throw shade at her foes. There is a character named “NoNo,” who is a 50-year-old cross-gendered pole dancer trying to make the main character’s life a living hell (based off of NeNe of course). Then there are two other characters clearly based off on Phaedra and Porsha. On top of that, she wants Meagan Good, Christina Milian and even Eddie Murphy to have a part on her show.
While Moore is tickled by her ideas, Roger Bobb doesn’t sound too crazy about them. He tells her that he would be able to help her out in some way, but he probably wouldn’t be able to work on the show since he has other programs to worry about in LA. Try again, boo.
“Here’s To The Next Mrs. Stewart!” Burnt Friend Contracts, Apollo’s Apology And Claudia And Kordell’s Connection: RHOA Ep. 12
What did we learn from Sunday night’s episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta”? Well, loose ‘drawls’ and limited alcohol intake are good for making babies, friend contracts burn easily, and you can’t take Kenya Moore anywhere without homegirl acting all the way up. Let’s chat about all that went down on RHOA ep. 12.
NeNe Recounts Her Puerto Rican Vacay, Which Was A Low-Key Trip From Hell
After all the drama in Puerto Rico, NeNe is back home and is picked up by her husband (aka, her personal slave if you ask Claudia), Gregg. She tells him that the ladies, with their “negative energy,” tried to come for her, even though it was honestly the other way around. She shares with Gregg how a joke about Claudia drinking from Kenya’s glass went left, and how she ended up telling Claudia that her cl*t had left her body. Despite being surprised that NeNe brought ‘NayNay’ to Puerto Rico, Gregg is proud of his boo for apologizing and trying to be the bigger person. You know there’s nothing NeNe could do to disappoint her man, even when it’s messy/questionable to everyone else.
There used to be a time that after all of my hard work throughout the day I could come home (or to my dorm), kick my feet up, and veg out to some reality television. Yes, some of the people involved were incredibly petty, and didn’t seem to have a full grasp on reality, but it was entertaining.
But now… I don’t know. Maybe I’ve gotten too old to enjoy it? They say that most things in life will have a season, and maybe my enjoyment of reality television is coming to an end?
However, until I stop tuning in every Sunday, Monday and Tuesday nights, can I just say that I’m getting a little annoyed with this reality season’s shenanigans? The year, literally, just started and my eyes are already exhausted from eye rolling. Let’s go through the list, and feel free to add your own. Let’s commiserate together!
Kenya’s Moore’s messy track record is no secret. She can be quite petty. But if this latest stunt is indeed hers, homegirl might have sunken to a new low.
So here’s what happened.
Earlier this week readers of RealityTea started sending the site the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” flyers they had seen around Atlanta. But these flyers were different. Turning a phrase from the police brutality protests, the posters said “Black Wives Matter.”
Clearly, spinning a phrase from a cause and an issue that has literally cost people their lives, is very tasteless.
And the viewers wanted answers. Who did this?
Well, RealityTea reached out to Bravo and the network responded:
“These posters were not created by or in any way affiliated with Bravo.”
Shortly after that, a company reached out to RealityTea kinda sorta taking responsibility for printing and posting the flyers. But what’s interesting about this ‘apology’ is that they implicated Kenya Moore in the whole idea.
“To whom it may concern,
We would like to start by apologizing for our involvement in the Black Wives Matter Bravo TV Real Housewives of Atlanta posters. This was never supposed to happen the way it did. We are part of a design team from Chicago that also works out of New York City. We were hired by who we believe was a representative of Ms. Kenya Moore in early December to design and print these posters.
We are deeply sorry for propagating social injustice and pain in America. We are coming out about this because it has conflicted with our morals as a multi-racial design team. Major corporations and celebrities continue to exploit our culture for economic gain and as designers need to begin to stand our ground.
Unfortunately through the Atlanta team’s manipulation techniques they are attempting to gain recognition through controversy and we feel this is immoral. This must stop NOW. Bravo and their affiliates must be held accountable because they continue to promote bad role models and distract our culture of the critical issues facing our country.
To prove it was us we attached the original .PSD file with all the separate image layers. The posters were sent early Jan to a PO box in Atlanta. We do not know who put them up or where but we sent 50 total. We are trying to stop the rest from being put up. We are deeply sorry to anyone this hurt or angered. Again, we cannot apologize enough for allowing this period of cultural havoc to break down our already fragile society.”
Umm…Kenya is not my favorite person on television, but this scatterbrained idea plus this ‘throw you under the bus’ statement is just ridiculous.
First, if Kenya was the one who asked the company to print the flyers, their antennae should have gone up they read the words “Black Wives Matter.” Now, a printing company doesn’t have to protect their clients against any backlash but I do think it’s odd that they were so willing to name Kenya when they merely think it was a representative for her.
Considering that they provided the original file, they should have also provided the receipts showing that they believed it was Kenya’s rep behind this. Thirdly, it just seems odd that Kenya would be promoting the show in this way. RHOA is not struggling for ratings and if she wanted people to watch, posting flyers on the side of random buildings just seems outdated and unlikely. She has plenty of social media clout. And ultimately, it’s Bravo’s job to promote their programing, typically on the medium in which it will be consumed: television and the internet.
The whole thing is just off. And in the messy world that is reality television and particularly RHOA, I wouldn’t be surprised if someone were trying to set Kenya up.
What do you think about all of this?