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Have you ever outwardly forgiven a friend or family member for some horrible offense they’ve committed against you while you inwardly still held a grudge about it? I have and it isn’t a pretty sight. Claiming to have forgiven a person while you are inwardly harboring feelings of resentment is not something that is always done with malicious intents and motives. One of the more popular examples of this is currently the strange relationship that has been depicted between Jackie and Laura of “Basketball Wives: LA,” where Laura pretends to be okay with Jackie to her face although she doesn’t actually care for her. Many have accredited Laura’s actions to being insincere or phony; however, it seems that most of her actions are a result of “unforgiveness.” In some cases you may actually posses the will and desire to forgive a person, but your heart is still healing and you’re having trouble doing so. Unaddressed feelings of resentment and “unforgiveness” have a tendency to fester and materialize into thoughts of revenge, and we already know that our thoughts can quickly become our actions. Not sure you’ve fully forgiven that person who hurt you? That’s okay, feelings and emotions can be difficult to decode sometimes, but lucky for you we are here to help. Check out nine signs that you have not fully forgiven a person even though you think you may have.
Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.
Friendships are something that take time, especially when you’ve been friends with someone for a long time. When I moved from New York to Georgia a couple of years ago, I wanted to cherish the friends I still had back home but still create new relationships in my new one.
I met a lot of girls and created new friendships (I believed worth having). I didn’t realize that in creating those relationships, I inherited new ones with even more people (you know, that whole friend of a friend thing?). While my friends were all different from each other, they had one thing in common- they all had a situation where they just gave up on someone that they were very close to.
They would all say similar things: “We just grew apart,” “She’s/He’s too much drama,” or my favorite excuse, “I’ve outgrown them, we’re not kids anymore.” I wish we as people would understand that just because there are changes and an issue in a friendship, that doesn’t mean that you have to end it. It’s true that people change, you may not like the same things anymore or have values that align perfectly, but this is what makes us different. You don’t want to hang around someone is just like you, or an individual who is the same person they were when they were 17. So here are some tips on why you might not want to be so quick to hit the “eject” button when it comes to some of your friends.