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There are literally dozens of ways to tell something to someone, without looking them in the face, or even letting them hear your voice. And that’s made some of us lax. In case you’re the type to text before you think, let this list of things that should never be texted serve as a stern warning.
As the saying goes, men are from Mars and women are from Venus, and it couldn’t be more true when it comes to regrets both genders have about their sex lives.
In a recent study conducted by the University of Texas and University of California-Los Angeles, researchers set out to prove that regret is part of the evolutionary process when it comes hooking up, and its findings were pretty interesting.
While men most often think they should’ve slept with more people or been more sexually adventurous, women most often regrettedhaving sex with the wrong partner.
The main regrets for women also included losing their virginity to the wrong partner, cheating and moving too fast.
“The consequences of casual sex were so much higher for women than for men, and this is likely to have shaped emotional reactions to sexual liaisons even today,” said Martie Haselton, a UCLA social psychology professor who worked on the project.
We polled women of all ages to find out their biggest I-really-wish-I-hadn’t moments when it comes to their sex life, past and present.
“Having sex with my boss. I had to work with him for six months after, co-workers gossiped and it was just awkward.” -Elizabeth, 24
“My biggest sexual regret was falling for a gigolo. He was a personal trainer and would date older women who bought him things. He didn’t consider it cheating.” - Sam, 36
“I regret having a boyfriend the first two years of college because clearly it didn’t work out, and I could’ve been having more fun those years.”- Monica, 23
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Chicago Bulls cheerleader Ariana Rosado received the shock of her life during Thursday night’s Bulls-Heat game when the Luvabulls squad’s third-quarter routine didn’t go quite as planned. And luckily for us, it was all caught on tape! At the beginning of the video, Ariana’s boyfriend, Shane Zackery appears backstage explaining that he plans to propose to her.
“As you can see, I’m currently sitting backstage. Tonight, I’m going to surprise my girlfriend, Ariana, who is a Luvabull, and I’m actually going to propose to her. We’re going to do this in the third quarter during one of their performances. So if you can, please stay in your seat and let’s make this a memorable night,” Shane says.
The video then cuts to the dance performance. Not even a full minute into the routine, Ariana’s dance team take an unexpected choreographical turn and leave her confused, standing alone in the middle of the basketball court as Bruno Mars’ “Marry You” begins playing. Bulls mascot Benny the Bull the makes his way onto the court, pulling up a chair for Ariana to sit down in. A clearly confused Ariana is then rejoined on the the court by her fellow dancers and two other inflatable Bulls mascots. Out of one of the costumes comes Shane. You can probably guess what happens next.
Check out footage of the adorable proposal on the next page.
“Divorce Court” is a great place to go to learn what not to do in a relationship. Here are 15 things we learned from the last season.
Don’t Bring Your Ex On TV
…Especially if you’ve been doing dirt.
Mr. Fenn said his wife was an “insecure old broad” who’s suspicions were driving him away — even though he never cheated.
But Mrs. Wilkins put that lie to bed when she brought a surprise witness: the woman he cheated with. She said that not only did Mr. Fenn cheat with her, but he told her his wife was dying to win her sympathy.
Inside Eva Marcille & Kevin McCall’s Adorable Baby Shower: Find Out What They’re Naming Their Daughter
Back in August we told you that “America’s Next Top Model” winner Eva Marcille is expecting her first child with her musically inclined boo Kevin McCall.
“It was a surprise to us,” the 29-year-old mom-to-be expressed before revealing why they decided to hide the pregnancy for so long.
“You keep it under wraps because you just don’t know whatever’s going to happen, you know what I mean? I think I’ve been keeping it under wraps for so long that when it hit the fan it was like, ‘AHHH!’ Everybody [was shocked]. I mean, all of my friends. I haven’t told anyone, so everyone sort of found out altogether.”
The time for Eva to give birth is drawing near and the model-turned-actress celebrated the birth of new bundle with family and friends at what appeared to be a fairly intimate baby shower. During the shower, she and Kevin also revealed that they’re going to name their little girl, Marley. The proud parents-to-be shared photos from the adorable event via their Instagram pages. They both seem super excited!
Turn the page for more photos from the shower.
In part 1 last week, Dr. J tackled this topic from a general point of view; this week, Real Goes Right addresses a specific situation concerning friendships and how they affect relationships.
“A guy friend got really bent out of shape when he met the friends of a girl he had been dating for a months and they made comments like ‘ooh, we heard so much about you.’ The guy told his guy friend that was a big turn off because he didn’t think they were serious enough for her to be talking about him to her friends. As a result, he’s already started dating somebody else.”
If I took the words of the above paragraph at face value, I can’t understand what happened. Meaning, there really isn’t a whole lot of meaning or context I can provide for the actions of the guy in question. I understand that his feathers might’ve been ruffled a bit if he felt like it was too soon for the woman he was dating to be announcing their situation, but I think the way he responded was a bit extreme. How this situation was set up makes a difference too. If homie unsuspectingly walked into a room full of women and her friends got to being extra nosey, that’s definitely a turn off. If he felt like information between him and his lady friend was shared amongst the rest of her friends, then a red light would have undoubtedly gone up. In any event, being that today’s topic is about friends and the roles they should play in a relationship, the answer to that question is “minimal to no role at all.”
A relationship between two people has its own challenges. In addition to considering one’s own feelings, both people also (theoretically) need to be concerned with the feelings of the person they are with. Since we’re all adults here, we’ve all lived long enough to know the amount of failed relationships is an uncountable number. Long headaches and heartburns are likely the outcome of anybody bothering to sit down and think about the amount of failed relationships they’ve either personally been involved in or know about. If having a relationship between two people (no disrespect to the poly folks out there) is understood to be hard work, it stands to reason there’s no additional benefit in adding additional roles to people who aren’t actually part of the relationship.
In my opinion, outside of some form of abuse, friends should have very little, if any, role in a relationship. Unless that person plans on putting food on the table, money in the pocket, and something on this light bill, I’m not willing to grant them a “seat at the table,” so to speak. I don’t even like my woman discussing our relationship with her friends outside of the typical exchanged pleasantries. The reasons for this are twofold. One, I don’t like people in my business. Two, I don’t invite extra people in my relationship to give their thoughts and opinions on how I handle anything to do with my woman. I like for my girlfriend to carry it the same way. It’s hard to judge the motives of people these days and I don’t trust strangers farther than I can throw them. And while I respect all of the friends my girlfriend has, that’s exactly how I look at them. Strangers. I don’t know them. I don’t know their motives. I don’t know their history. I don’t know if they’re sane, crazy, trustworthy, hate men, or anything. As such, I don’t feel comfortable letting people I don’t know dictate anything in my life. That’s not the way it works.
Hence, I don’t believe friends should have a role in a relationship. I don’t believe in giving people outside the relationship power to affect the two people in the relationship. It just doesn’t make a lot of sense to me.
After evading questions about his relationship status and whether or not his rumored girlfriend, Naiyana Garth, is pregnant with his baby, “Mandela: Long Walk To Freedom” actor Idris Elba has finally confirmed what most of us had already assumed to be true: he’s about to be a father again. The revelation came during Elba’s Sunday night appearance on Oprah’s Next Chapter.
Idris said that he is, in fact, expecting a child with Naiyana, who is a London-based makeup artist.
“My girlfriend’s having a baby, yes,” he confessed.
Speculation about Idris and Naiyana’s relationship and pregnancy began swirling last month after the two made an appearance together at the Harper’s Bazaar Women of the Year awards last month. Sadly, Idris also revealed that he found out he was going to be a father again shortly after he lost his father, Winston Elba, to lung cancer; a diagnosis which he says shocked his West African family.
“Africans don’t think cancer is something that happens to us,” he said.
This will be Idris’ second child. He also has an 11-year-old daughter named Isan. The sex of the baby has yet to be revealed. We imagine that this has to be a fairly bittersweet moment for the actor, who admits that he hasn’t really given himself time to mourn his father’s passing.
We send our prayers to Idris and his family.
Jazmine Denise is an entertainment and celebrity news blogger. Follow her on Twitter @jazminedenise.
Even if you don’t want to face it, even if you’ve already decided that your partner is perfect for X, Y and Z reasons, your body will not let you deny the truth: some matches aren’t meant to be. When you’re with the wrong person, the strain that takes on you emotionally will start to rear its head physically. Here are 14 ways your body is telling you you’re with the wrong partner.
It’s happened to you: you’re looking at your partner thinking how attractive he is, how much you love him, and how great the sex is but…you’re still just not in the mood right now. But you want to be! Because, well, he’s a great guy and he deserves to get laid tonight! Here are 14 foolproof ways to always get in the mood.
From Single Black Male
My friend and I were discussing what’s always on everyone’s mind these days: love and relationships. We were updating each other on our potential plus ones when I asked, “Why do I have to be in love with the person I marry? Why can’t I marry a man because I believe he’ll be a good father and/or a good provider?” My friend perished the thought and expressed that marrying for reasons, not including love, would be settling. I disagreed. Days later, I stumbled upon an article that eloquently echoed my sentiments in a beautifully written piece entitled, Three Reasons You Should Never Marry For Love:
1. Love is a changeable emotion. As quickly as you fall in love, you can fall out of love. Then what? Either the relationship ends or it becomes toxic. If love is your primary connection, the glue is gone. This is true for passionate, physical love as well as “soul-mate” love.
2. Love does not make for a strong enough foundation. Yes, love is strong but, due to the fact that it can evaporate, it is not something that can stand alone as the basis for a long-term relationship (especially when kids are involved). Anything built on a foundation of love is subject to crumbling.
3. Love is far from “all you need.” You need mutual respect, shared goals and compatibility way more than you need love to have a sustainable, lasting relationship. People “fall in love with love” just as Kim Kardashian showed us, because they think it will carry them the distance. We all want to be wanted and we love to love yet, if you had a recipe for a strong, healthy relationship, it might look like this: 3 Cups respect; 2 Cups shared goals; 2 Cups compatibility, 1 Tablespoon love, 1 teaspoon attraction (optional!). (Of course a relationship has many more ingredients than this but you get the idea).
Read more at SingleBlackMale.org