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Life is too short to be with someone who doesn’t recognize how wonderful you are every day and show you that they recognize it every day. A guy isn’t necessarily a bad guy if he begins to take you for granted—unfortunately, you might have conditioned him to be that way, by being too available and easy-going. So, if it’s time to undo that conditioning, here’s what will have to be done.
You think you’ve got it figured out. You think you’re pretty good at detecting when a guy is into you, and you know you don’t act too clingy so you believe there should be no surprises in dating. But then one day you experience your first vanishing act—a guy who was committing more and more to you every day, but then one day disappeared, never to be heard of again. Confused? Here are a few reasons men disappear.
I was 16-years-old when I had my first abortion.
I remember nervously pacing down Park Avenue in New York city, barely able to function because I was suffering from severe morning sickness and dehydration (you’re not allowed to eat or drink after 12am the night before the procedure). Outside the hidden Manhattan doctor’s office were a group of hecklers, toting signs with bloody and dismembered fetuses on it. If I had eaten in the last few hours, I would have easily thrown up. I kept walking straight past the entrance, fearful they’d peg me as a patient and attack. I made it half way down the block where I found enough courage to turn back and face the angry lobbyist. They pushed pamphlets at me and yelled things I’ve buried so deep, I couldn’t repeat if I tried. Did you know your baby has a heartbeat at 22 days? I guess that’s if you classify the fetus as such. I didn’t. I just thought of it as a bundle of cells, an embryo. In my mind it wasn’t a baby just yet even though I was somewhere around 4 months along.
Abortion is not uncommon in the United States. 3 out of 10 women in the U.S. have an abortion by the time they are 45 years old. Depending on the length of the pregnancy, a woman can either have the pregnancy surgically removed in a clinic or opt for “medical abortion,” which is the term for taking the mifepristone pill (called RU-486 when it was being developed) up to 9 weeks into their pregnancy. An in-clinic abortion costs anywhere between $300–$950 in the first trimester (women can get abortions up to 24-weeks), while the pill can be taken up to 9 weeks into the pregnancy. Prices for the pill cost $300–$800.
I recently stumbled across a meme on Instagram that called women who’ve had multiple abortions serial killers. I’ve never been offended by a post on Instagram, but on that day, I took it to heart. I’ve had five abortions in total, three surgical and two non-surgical (the pill). I never thought I would have so many. When I was just 16, there was another girl my age in the doctor’s office who had six and I looked at her like she was crazy. I judged her…then turned into her.
Read more about this personal story at HelloBeautiful.com
‘What Are You Saying?’ Taraji P. Henson Offers Clarity On Comment About Being Done With American Men
“From The Rough” actress Taraji P. Henson recently appeared on “The Wendy Show,” where she opened up regarding her preference for men of other cultures.
“I’m dating. The thing is that I’m done — I can’t say that I’m totally done with American men, but I’m very excited about my finds over [Wendy: In Europe where the Counts are?].”
“You know what it is? I think there’s a cultural difference with men from other countries,” Henson explained. “They are not as bitter and jaded and closed up as a lot of the men here.”
Though she made it clear that her preference for men of other cultures in no way meant that she was not interested in American men, some believed that her comments were dismissive of Black men. The single mother recently took advantage of an opportunity to clarify her statement.
“I was misquoted. They [media] said I was done with Black men,” she told HipHollywood. “I have a Black son, what are you saying, what does that mean?”
“I said that I have started dating other cultures, so it was a celebration of other cultures and not a put down of my own,” she continued. “That’s stupid. Why would I say I’m done with Black men. That’s dumb.”
As for what advice she’d offer single women who are looking for love, Taraji says:
“Broaden your spectrum.”
Well, that’s that.
Watch a clip from interview below.
Happy relationships don’t get talked about enough, so let’s start. Say you’ve been dating a man for a few months now and though you feel it’s right, you’ve still got all sorts of questions running through your mind about whether or not this relationship is the one for you. We’re here to help. Here are 14 signs you’re in the right relationship.
Want to know what really terrifies men about relationships? It’s not always the stereotypical “having one sex partner for the rest of life” issue—even a man who is great at monogamy and ready to be emotionally open will still be afraid of these 7 things.
“He was mentally abusive, physically abusive,” the former Crime Mob rapper recently told The Breakfast Club. “We fought, like you ain’t beatin’ my a**. Yeah, he got some issues. Some demons, he needs some help.” “He has bad spending problems,” she continued. “I think you, you know, people go through phases. I think we’re better off as friends. I don’t want to try to continue to be in a relationship and we end up not liking each other; hating each other. I just want people to know we’re not together.”Unsurprisingly, Diamond admits that she bumped heads with the two women who probably play the biggest roles in Scrappy’s life: his mother and his daughter’s mother, Erica. While there are rumors that Erica and Diamond got into a physical altercation at one point, Diamond says they never actually hit one another.
As for Momma Dee, the “Sisterhood of Hip Hop” star blames her for ruining her credit.“Nah, we got into it before but we never fought.”
“I got his mother an apartment—that she trashed and messed up my credit at one point in time, terrorized. I co-signed for her a condo.”Considering all that she has been through with Scrappy, Erica and Momma Dee, her addition to the “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta” cast would’ve made for extremely interesting TV. However, Diamond says she could tell from the beginning that appearing on the show wouldn’t be a good look.
“They was using our names for ratings. I had a meeting. I wanted to see what it was about, you know as a businesswoman. It wasn’t really going with the whole plan of my music career. I don’t think it was a good look for me. I wanted to focus on what I had going on in my life currently, they wanted to focus on what happened in the past.”Contrary to popular belief, Diamond also revealed that she and Soulja Boy are no longer together.
“I’m single. We been broke up. Y’all need to catch up. Kimora Lee Simmons and Russell hang out together all the time. We do business together.”Watch her full interview on the next page. Do you think you’ll be checking out “Sisterhood of Hip Hop”?
Dating is one of those things that most people have a love/hate relationship with. While it can be fun to meet new people and go out on exciting dates with attractive men, dating isn’t all unicorns and sprinkles. Here are 14 dating truths that no one likes to talk about.