All Articles Tagged "relationships"

15 Rules Of Friends With Benefits

September 18th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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Who says you can’t make friends with benefits work? Navigating the thin line between sex and love is easy — as long as you follow the rules.

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Choose A Man With A Deal Breaker

Broke with no ambition, lives with his mom, missing a tooth — whatever’s on your no-date list. Consider it your safeguard against catching feelings because, let’s face it, sex and emotions are closely related. And if you get confused, these no-go’s will help you come back to your senses.

The Perfect Celebrity Answers For “Why Aren’t You Married Already?”

September 17th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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The next time someone gives you grief about tying the knot, answer “why aren’t you married already?” with this list of celebrity women. They’re not only single and loving it but doing it at the top of their games — with zero regrets.

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Diane Keaton

Who says that you have to marry Mr. Right?

Diane Keaton has been linked to Woody Allen, Al Pacino and some of the greatest names in the business. But she didn’t take a ring from any of them. Diane says, “I don’t think that because I’m not married it’s made my life any less. That old maid myth is garbage.”

Would You Relocate To Another State For Your Boyfriend?

September 12th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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From Single Black Male

The older we get the more dimensions are entered into dating. It seems as if when you have all the answers the dating Gods change the questions. I’m a resident of Brooklyn, NY. One of if not the most expensive city to live in, in the United States. New York City is one of the most expensive places to live period. With this fact, many people are known to relocate. This most certainly can throw a monkey wrench in a current relationship or a prospective one.

For me, I know that I have no anxiety about being outside of New York. I’ve been fortunate enough to have traveled domestically a lot in my life. I’ve been up north a bit, I’ve done the west coast. I’ve spent countless times down south as well. I have always enjoyed New York above  all of these places. The issue is that the cost of living is so damn high here. Many people that are still here are mentally just as good as gone.

So I pose a few questions to you all today. Is someone who isn’t willing to relocate a deal breaker for you? Under what circumstances would you stay put for a person? Under what circumstance should a compromise be made? Some thought goes into each of these. I don’t think I would fully shut down relocating with someone. I certainly would have to be i some serious love to entertain the idea though. I love everything else my city offers me in terms of lifestyle and diversity. It’s an addictive feeling once you realize other states don’t possess that same vibe. Someone who would stay where they’re living for a partner I guess has been sold that it’s a good idea. Maybe they’re compromising for their loved one simply out of love. Of course there is a scenario when you should compromise.

Read more about dating long distance at SingleBlackMale.org

15 Terrible Reasons To Break Up

September 9th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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Wondering if you should stay or if you should go? Well if these are your problems, you’re doing just fine. Bail for these reasons and prepare to be salty when the next chick realizes they’re really no big deal.

 Reasons To Break Up

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He’s A Bad Kisser

Too much saliva? Open mouth kisses that reach your nose? OK. Bad kisses can be pretty bad. Luckily, kissing is a teachable skill. If you love everything else about him, sit him down for a little kissing school with a lot of positive reinforcement. Not only will your relationship heat up, but you’ll be dating your own custom-made kisser.

The 15 Stages Of Getting Ready For A First Date

September 5th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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You met a guy, exchanged phone numbers, and so far he seems perfect. Now it’s time for he first date: it’s the best of times, it’s the most nerve-wracking of times, but it’s one of the most exciting parts of meeting Mr. Right (or Mr. Right Now). Here are the stages of getting ready for a first date that we all go through.

Getting Ready For A First Date

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Getting the Call Back

You met him, he  actually called you back. Now it’s time to call your girl to discuss what the restaurant he chose, the time of date he called and the tone of voice he used means about how he feels about you.

15 Relationship Struggles We Can All Understand

September 4th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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Relationship struggles got you down? Don’t worry. Instagram can relate. From waiting on bae to text back to getting your ex to finally leave you alone, we’ve all been there before.

Waiting on Bae to Text You Back

It feels like that’s how long it’s going to take too.

“I’ll Call You”: 15 Things Guys Say That They Rarely Ever Mean

September 3rd, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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“It’s not you it’s me,” “we should just be friends,” “I did not have sexual intercourse with that woman”: some of the things guys say just can’t be believed. It doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re bad people: just that there are some things that you shouldn’t take at face value.

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I’ll Call You

Of course men really do call back. But if you hear these three little words as he’s gathering his clothes and hurrying out the door, you probably shouldn’t hold your breath.

15 Great Things That Happen After A Breakup

September 2nd, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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Breakups are always terrible. But after the storm, some of those clouds have silver linings.

15 Great Things That Happen After A Breakup

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You Reconnect with Your Friends

They say that for every serious relationship you have, you lose two friends. But that doesn’t have to be permanent. Now that you’re not occupied with a significant other you can reconnect with the friends that got left behind.

How Women Make Themselves Unhappy In Relationships

August 29th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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From Single Black Male 

Once a relationship begins, her apartment has never seen day without the Swiffer, and she is the only woman who not only is aware of “Steak and BJ” day, but celebrates it with the enthusiasm as a child on Christmas morning. On top of that, she is oh so easy doing. She has noticed that you never opened the car door for her and occasionally break plans–maybe after football/basketball/baseball/foosball season is over, she tells herself, you will become more attentive.

After a few trysts together, you wake up to see half her makeup smeared in the pillow, and a clip in weave track stuck to the sheets. You drag yourself into the kitchen with sleep in your eye hoping she can still at least appeal to your stomach, but she never actually learned how to use that waffle iron proudly displayed on the counter top. You really don’t mean to, but you furl your eyebrows and mumble something when you see half the woman he met standing in front of you, the other half of her face and hair still in bed, and first time, don’t smell bacon frying. Now, the rest of this scene plays out according to what type of woman you are dealing with: she may say “sorry” and in turn make you feel like a slave driver, or she may just begin making hot grits with an ominous grin.

Nothing remains constant, no one is who they say they are or who want to be at every given moment, any snide comment in that situation can read as judgment. However, please keep in mind that you are a complete a**hole–you may be victim of bamboozlement.

It would be irresponsible to make that statement without quickly touching upon the fact that women and girls are victims too. We have been taught by society and Mattel what it means to be the perfect woman. Even in this progressive era, many women still internalize varying ideologies of what we think men want. “The ideal woman…is perhaps so far above the reality of women’s lives that women themselves will continue to struggle and struggle but never attain it” concludes Jennifer Holt, author of “The Ideal Woman”. Consequently, before you have to opportunity tell her she’s desirable without having to be a Barbie/Nicki Minaj hybrid, she already is afraid you’ll find out she’s not.

Read more about relationship issues at SingleBlackMale.org 

8 Reasons You Might Have To Break Up Even If You’re Still In Love

August 22nd, 2014 - By Julia Austin
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Some believe the hardest types of breakups are the ones filled with hatred and yelling, but imagine having to leave someone you still felt immensely happy with, close to and in love with? It may happen one day and here are a few reasons you might have to break up even if you’re still in love.