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Women have a reputation for being quick thinkers. By the time he gets out his first “What had happened was,” we’ve got his and our stories straight.
Men are rather famous when it comes to fibbing about where they were and who they are with. But just what else are men likely to lie about?
We’ve polled friends, family, neighbors, play cousins, and checked out actual scientific studies. As it turns out, what you will find on this list are the biggest lies that men tell. Did we miss anything on your list? Or do you see something here that doesn’t belong?
If you’ve ever looked at an online profile and said, “He’s 28? I don’t know about that,” chances are, you were right to be skeptical. Age is one of the profile portions that men are most likely to lie about.
It happens all the time: you meet a guy and right away you’re kind of sure he’s something special. You think about him at work, after work, on the ride home — pretty much all the time. But you haven’t actually spent any time with him.
And that’s not always a good thing. Before you let a guy monopolize your thoughts, it’s better to make sure he’s worth it first.
When you build a guy up in your mind, it can stop you from seeing the real him. Sometimes it’s better to put a new guy on the back burner until his actions prove that he’s worthy. A little skepticism can go a long way toward protecting your heart before you’re too invested (or texting him back to back).
Sound easier said than actually done? Here’s how not to obsess over a new guy until he proves he’s worth it.
Men and women are pretty different. And that’s never more obvious than when it’s that time of the month. Some men really are at a loss when it comes to the mysteries of the female body — especially when that female body is toying around with our emotions and getting on our very last nerve. But there’s no reason to have a misunderstanding every time Aunt Flo comes knocking. Helping your partner understand your cycle, your emotions during that time, and how they can refrain from annoying you during it, could make everyone happier.
These are the things we wish every man in our lives knew about PMS. So forward this to your boyfriend, husband, or homieloverfriend well before your jeans start to feel tight and your skin starts to break out. And if there’s anything we missed on this list, leave it in the comments. We’ll be sure to share it with the fellas we know.
“Crazy” is a label that gets tossed at women an unfair amount. We’ve heard about “crazy ex-girlfriends,” “irrational women,” and we’ve all been accused of having “PMS” and the “crazy eye” when that isn’t the case at all. The label gets thrown around so much that sometimes we wonder if it’s true — but you shouldn’t believe the hype.
Is it just us, or have you noticed that men throw around “crazy” just around the time that they do something out of line and when they can’t handle your reaction? You’re “clingy” when you call him three times in a row, but what is he when he bails on plans without calling to cancel or picking up the phone to tell you why?
I think that “crazy” is a label we should stop buying into or accepting because many men are just using it to cover their bad behavior. Do you agree?
If you live anything but a dull existence, there will always be a meddler around to get in your business. It’s just how they roll. Some do it because they have your best interest at heart and don’t want to see you get hurt. Some do it because gossip is life, or being bossy is life, and they don’t know any other way. And chances are, if you have a meddler on your hands — especially if they’re an adult meddler — there’s nothing you can do to change them.
But you can change the way you react to these nosy nuisances without having to give them the boot. We can’t always cut all of the messy people out of our life. For some of us, that would mean there would be very few people left in it. Instead, change how you deal with their shenanigans, and with time, it won’t interfere with your day.
Being in a relationship is cool when you’ve found the right person, but sometimes the person you thought was right for you turns out to be anything but months later. Things were moving too fast too soon, and because of that, the things that you should have paid attention to became a blur.
There are several reasons why couples end up moving too fast in the hopes of creating a lasting connection. Maybe you were blinded by the excitement of someone new or perhaps it was the clock ticking loudly in your ear, telling you to hurry up and get your life together so that you could settle down. You find yourself enveloped in infatuation with the idea of a person, but when you truly get to know them and spend a large chunk of your time together, you begin to wonder if you can slow things down without ruining the good that still exists. This is my current dilemma, and if you’ve also found yourself in a similar predicament, know that it doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship. There are ways to pump the brakes, slow it down, and put things in reverse.
For starters, pull up your big girl panties and make it known to your partner that you would like to slow things down and maybe redefine the terms of your relationship. Consider how long you’ve been dating and the problems that have presented themselves thus far and discuss them. Maybe you got into something you weren’t expecting. Maybe your partner isn’t holding themselves to what they said they could do and handle, or maybe there’s a thick layer of complacency and comfort brewing between the two of you that needs to be cut. The best way to handle this situation is to first address it. Because if you’re feeling this way, you can’t just assume that your partner is going to be able to tell what’s going on in your head.
The second thing to do is fill idle time with productive things you enjoy, such as work or a hobby. Give each other a break. When I didn’t have anything to do and when I had a lot of free time, I often filled it by being with my partner. It’s important to give each other space to do the things that you enjoy doing as individuals. When you’re smothering each other and feel attached at the hip, things can change really quickly and get obnoxious. Rather than letting the relationship unfold in due time, you’re finding out all there is to know about each other up front, which leaves nothing intriguing or cute left to be discovered. Reiterate the importance of having a separate life and balancing the amount of alone time with quality time together. Picking up a hobby and creating space isn’t about avoiding your significant other. It’s about pacing the amount of intense, on-top-of-each-other-but-not-in-the-way-you’d-like time spent together.
And most importantly, try and keep your relationship between the two of you. Don’t be too hasty to meet the important people in their lives just yet or have them meet your side. If you’ve only been dating for less than six months, you probably shouldn’t be meeting the parents or the grandparents. Meeting some of each other’s friends is one thing, but reconsider scheduling that brunch with the parents. Meeting the parents and other family members is a surefire way to hit the accelerator on things. If you’ve already taken that step, express to your partner how you feel about the pace of things, and agree that for the time being, you’ll stop making appearances at all of the family gatherings.
There are some cases where slowing down means coming to a complete halt, but it doesn’t always have to be that way. Just make sure you take your time getting to know one another so the fire doesn’t burn out too fast and keep the lines of communication open between the two of you so that you both know what you want, and how soon.
Your mother may always ask you when you’re going to start spending time with someone new. However, being single shouldn’t be all about waiting for your next relationship to roll around. it’s a time where you should enjoy your own company, and most importantly, learn more about who you are and what you want. Life has lots of lessons to teach you about every aspect of it — and being single can help you better understand those lessons.
From how to be the one you’re looking for, to how to find out what you really want in life, we can find out the most about ourselves when we’re not involved with anyone else. So, until Mr. Right comes around (or if you even decide that you don’t care if he ever does), the following pages will show you the important lessons being single teaches you.
What important lessons have you learned while taking a break from dating?
When you get to the “How Will I Know” moment in your relationship where you’re hoping to figure out if you both are moving in the right direction, the big answers often come up first: if he puts a ring on it; if he asks you to move in; if he gives you access to his Netflix password. But you don’t always have to wait for a sign that shakes things up like in the movies to figure out whether or not he’s getting serious about you.
Sometimes, when it comes to love, it’s the little everyday things that show you how he really feels. From the way he acts when his phone is in reach to what he does at dinnertime, there are some surprising things a man only does when he’s serious about the relationship.
Read on to learn more about the little things that most of us overlook, and then tell us about your relationship. What little things let you know that your partner was something special?
In an ideal world, when you break up with someone, they simply disappear from your life never to worry you again. They aren’t around, neither a physical nor virtual presence, to drive you up the wall like they used to. However, the reality is that just as you’re moving on with your life, they’re moving on with theirs. Now, this is usually a fact of life that is relatively easy to accept — except when they move on with their lives a little bit faster than you do.
When your ex starts dating someone new, things can get uncomfortable pretty quickly. Even when you think you’re completely over your feelings, you’re not always ready to see them happily having feelings for someone new. And that can make us all act just a little bit kooky — at least for a little while. Ideally, until we meet someone wonderful we can plaster all over social media, too.
(As relayed by Lauren R.D. Fox based on a culmination of experiences)
I met Johan three weeks ago on Match. Although he seems like a great guy, I feel like my new boo has become extremely comfortable with me, a little too fast.
In less than a month I’ve alread met Johan’s mother, sister and slew of best friends. To be clear, there’s nothing wrong with meeting a potential love interest’s family or friends, but Johan’s nice actions and behavior seemed a bit forced.
Yesterday, he asked me when my birthday is and whether I had plans. Unfortunately, I didn’t make any. Despite wanting to take a trip outside of the country, I offered to be in two weddings this Spring and my funds were quite low. After hearing this, Johan offered to pay for us to go to Antigua, Guatemala as a birthday surprise.
I’ve wanted to visit the city known for romantic getaways, amazing cuisine, and historic volcanoes for some time, but my mother doesn’t like the idea of Johan paying for the trip — mostly because he pays for everything. He won’t even allow me to get him a cup of coffee.
Aside from appearing financially controlling, my sister pointed out that I don’t know Johan well enough to travel with and I somewhat agree. But my birthday is still two months away so if he doesn’t exhibit any questionable qualities before that time, I actually think I’m up for the trip. Is it too soon?