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She’s your girl. The one you call when you have that devastating breakup. She’s also the one you call when you just want to laugh about said breakup that you thought would completely destroy you. She’s always had your back, prayed for you, and been your biggest cheerleader. The two of you do everything together.
But then, out of the blue, you have to deal with your best friend’s new friend, and for some reason, you see green.
If you watch The Real Housewives of Atlanta, you know that Kandi and Phaedra appear to share a genuine and nurturing friendship, on and off the screen. Their relationship was recently tested when Phaedra’s husband Apollo went to jail. Instead of leaning on Kandi for support as many would have assumed, Phaedra found herself leaning on NeNe. While NeNe and Phaedra’s friendship blossomed, Kandi was left in the cold, wondering what happened to their sisterhood.
To make matters worse, Phaedra was telling anyone who would listen that Kandi hadn’t been there for her while she was going through her ordeal. Kandi defended herself and even claimed that Phaedra didn’t call her as she was going through her personal trials, but instead of just confronting Phaedra, she attacked NeNe more than once. She argued that she didn’t understand how Phaedra could trust NeNe when the RHOA veteran had betrayed the trust of nearly everyone on the show at one time or another. (Who could forget when NeNe called Phaedra the “head doctor”?)
This public criticism was unnecessary, and it made it seem as though Kandi was jealous of the pair’s new friendship. However, that bond wasn’t created to spite Kandi. According to Phaedra, they only grew close because NeNe could relate to everything she was going through with Apollo.
During the show’s recent reunion, Kandi and Phaedra got into a heated discussion about the breakdown of their friendship. There was a lot of back-and-forth and Kandi continued to question NeNe’s loyalty while forgetting that it was her loyalty to Phaedra that was being critiqued.
In this case, there were real issues that brought Phaedra and NeNe together, but what happens when your BFF gets close to someone new, and you’re left with feelings of jealousy?
The first thing you need to realize is that just because your BFF is hanging with someone else, it doesn’t mean that she won’t make time for you. You can always schedule lunch, a shopping date, or an evening out on the town to catch up with one another if you feel as though things aren’t in the best place.
The next thing you should remember is that you should keep your emotions in check. You do not own your BFF, and her decision to create new friendships shouldn’t be something that you take personally. Friends branch out from each other all of the time, but if you all are real comrades, staying close, or even reconnecting, won’t be an issue at all.
It’s also not a bad idea to reevaluate your social patterns. Is she the only one you can call when you want to go have a drink or shop for the latest shoes? It can’t hurt to be sure that you don’t solely rely on one person.
On the flip side, if you’re feeling threatened by your best friend’s new friend, don’t hesitate to ask your BFF if everything is ok between the two of you. Whatever issues you may have with your friend don’t have anything to do with her new companion, so there’s no reason to treat said companion in a discourteous manner. And honestly, your BFF may be scared to tell you she’s having issues with you. Everyone is not the best communicator, and just like Phaedra was going around telling everyone but Kandi her grievances, your best bud could be trying to avoid a confrontation with you. Communication is key to any relationship, and if you want to improve your friendship, speak up. Preferably to the person who owes you an explanation.
But if there’s a chance that you may just be suspicious for no reason, you should probably check yourself. Be secure in the friendship that you have with your BFF, and if you know you’ve been slacking, step it up. You can’t blame anyone outside of your friendship for problems within it.
If you caught Sunday night’s installment of the Real Housewives of Atlanta reunion, you probably peeped Cynthia Bailey confront Porsha Williams for accusing Bailey’s husband of cheating. In her blog for Bravo, Bailey further addressed the allegations and she doesn’t seem too concerned about her husband’s fidelity.
“Peter is the most accessible husband on the show,” she explained. “Tons of women walk through the doors of Bar One and Sports One every day. If he is too nice, he is flirting. If he is too standoffish, he is an a—hole.”
She went on to say that while some women do visit her husband’s establishments with inappropriate intentions, she is confident that he is not sleeping around because she hasn’t heard anything.
“If Peter was cheating on me, I would know about it. Any woman that has been with my husband knowing he is a married man is not going to keep it a secret. They are going to tell someone. Women with no self-value or integrity will always go out of their way to make sure the wife finds out. In their small minds, it’s a victory.”
I’m not sure if relying on side chicks with blabber mouths is a feasible way to defend your man’s fidelity, but I can respect where Cynthia is coming from. It was totally out of line of Porsha to even mention something like that in the first place.
— B. Scott (@lovebscott) March 27, 2015
We were pretty surprised to learn that Porsha wasn’t coming back as an official peach-holding cast member of “Real Housewives of Atlanta.” Instead, she was being replaced by two new women. Claudia Jordan and Demetria McKinney.
Well, it turns out there was actually more to the story. Now that season 7 is wrapping and the reunion is being taped tomorrow, some of the cast members can finally spill the tea.
According to B Scott, after months of negotiations, Claudia Jordan is finally signing her RHOA contract. So now, she’ll be paid for her appearance on the reality show.
This puts a bit more context to Porsha’s response to one of Claudia’s tweets saying Porsha should be fired for not having her contract signed.
Porsha had it right. Claudia didn’t have her contract signed. But with the three women vying for that number one spot, it looks like Porsha won’t be signing a contract any time in the near future. Claudia has proved to be the most turnt of all those three women and the on most likely to give NeNe Leakes a run for her money.
Claudia released this statement about the contract signing:
“Because I already have a great job–I could afford to be patient and waited until the contract was exactly what I wanted and it paid off. I’m very happy with my deal!”
What do think about Claudia being added officially to the RHOA roster?
After watching Phaedra Parks’ journey throughout this season of RHOA, I felt that things had really come full circle for her on Sunday night’s episode. She sat down with T.D. Jakes’ daughter, Sarah Jakes to let it all out about her marriage to Apollo Nida, and to find healing. The thing that really got me was when both women expressed a loss of agency when explaining how they felt like they weren’t allowed to be vulnerable in their relationships. Both women felt that they were under a greater level of scrutiny for their decisions because their former relationships played out in a public manner, and because they are both preacher’s kids.
Even though their situations did play out in a manner in which many of us can’t relate to, I still feel that this issue is something that most women can relate to: the loss of vulnerability.
Many people criticized Parks as they watched her marriage implode. They felt that the self-proclaimed Southern belle didn’t act as if she cared too much about what was going on with Nida. But to me, she seemed to be putting on a brave face because she didn’t want people to see her sweat. I hope that Sunday’s episode allowed people to see just how taxing the situation was on her, and I also hope it shed light on the reality of losing your vulnerability in a tough relationship.
As women, we get a lot of flack for being too emotional, and then we’re judged unfairly if we don’t show enough emotion in certain situations. When a man is emotional, he’s seen as “passionate,” whereas women have insults thrown at us to explain our “behavior.” For reasons such as this, when times get tough a little too often, some women will display a stiff upper lip because people are watching in order to see us crack and fall.
As women, we might be more sensitive to other people’s views of us. We’re very aware that we’re being watched by others, and that has the ability put a damper on how we approach tough situations. However, I don’t think that it’s fair for us to have to taper our emotions based on what other people might think.
The tragically beautiful thing about life is that our emotions allow us to express how we truly feel, so it’s not fair to be robbed of that. That puts us in a position where other people control our reactions to things, as opposed to listening to our own hurt and finding a way to heal in a way that’s best for us.
I feel as though allowing ourselves to lose our vulnerability just exacerbates our problems. Instead of dealing with our emotions, we’re too busy trying to suppress them, which eventually makes us weaker.
I’m not saying that you need to cry for everyone to see it, but you’re doing a disservice to yourself by holding in your emotions. If you’re sad, feel it. If you’re happy, feel that too.
Let’s be honest here: Displaying your emotions won’t make your problems go away, but neither does acting as if you’re devoid of feelings. At the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you, and if you feel like walking around with a frown on because you don’t want to fake it for others, then do that. There’s power in being vulnerable and honest with yourself about how you’re feeling. In that power you’re expressing that you’re not ashamed of feeling hurt or sad, and you shouldn’t be.
Gain your power back, and feel free to express your true emotions when you deem it necessary. As Jakes and Parks both shared with viewers, being robbed of your vulnerability is akin to being imprisoned, and no one wants to spend unnecessary time being punished for something so natural.
There is something inherently humbling about apologizing. It’s the action of admitting that “I am wrong, and you were right.” Maybe that’s why it’s so hard to do for some people.
However, after watching this year’s batch of reality television so far, I saw a few instances where people should have apologized, but they didn’t.
So let’s break down these times, and share any that you felt I missed.
As someone who has been watching “The Real Housewives of Atlanta” since season 1, I’ve followed Nene’s portrayal faithfully. There were times where I rooted for her, times when her behavior made me roll my eyes, but all-in-all I’ve only wanted to see the best in her.
On the previous episode of RHOA I was in awe of her growth as she sat down with Dr. Jeff and expressed how she wanted to do a group therapy session and wanted to be held to the same standards that the other girls were. I was like: “Yes, Nene! Yes!”
But then, on the Ides of March, I felt like I’d been betrayed. I had this grandiose article planned on singing her praises, but when the episode of the actual therapy session aired I felt like I set myself up for failure. Why, Kendra?!
But then I realized that in the end all wasn’t lost. Why? Because Nene has indeed grown.
Here’s the thing about humans, we’re not perfect. We’re going to set standards for others, and want grace for ourselves. We’re going to have laser focus on where others have missed the mark and have very convenient amnesia when we do as well.
But the thing that I feel is very true about Nene’s portrayal is that she has shown the propensity for growth.
Now, I know what some of you might be thinking, but just follow me with this.
Granted, Nene missed the mark in that therapy session, but she was the one who brought it up. She set it up, and I feel as though her intentions might have been noble in doing so.
There are a lot of time when we might mess up, and even fewer times when we might try to openly fix it. Even if Nene allowed herself to become too defensive, and miss an opportunity for improvement, I can’t knock her for opening the door to that opportunity.
Something that has stuck with me from a psychology course in college is that a person’s personality is usually set by the age of four. Not meaning that they’ll always act like a four year old, but if you are consistently selfish at four, then you’ll probably stay that way for the rest of your life. If you’re consistently giving by the age of four, you’ll stay that way. So I’ve always kept that in the back of my mind when interacting with other people, and with raising my own daughter.
But seeing this emergence of Nene was proof to me that no matter how old a person is, they still have the potential to move beyond their initial state.
Age is a funny thing because sometimes it can make us feel as though time is running out. However, I feel that if you can look back on your life, see things that you want to change, and then attempt it, that’s admirable.
Nene started off on the series as a wife (though she was auditioning for acting roles, we didn’t see that on the series). Then she was advocating for women’s health and offering a hand to domestic abuse victims. We then saw her get her first mainstream acting role, then hosting gigs, and then star on Broadway.
Even though Nene hasn’t always been a beacon of maturity, she has been a light to those who might be afraid to change their lives. Though her behavior has been disappointing at times, she has still made the effort to attempt a change. For me, the important thing is that even if you do fail, it’s important to at least try. Take it from Nene, it’s never too late to make an effort.
RHOA Episode 15: Phaedra Tries To Go Oops Upside Kenya’s Head After She Accuses Her Of Being A Cheater
RHOA is back! And the drama continues…
In this week’s episode (RHOA Episode 15), we saw Phaedra move on with life as Apollo turned himself into prison. We saw the allegations about her cheating with an African man named Chocolate spread. And we also saw Phaedra try and hit Kenya with a purse for yapping off at the mouth. It was a crazy episode as usual. Let’s talk about it!
Apollo Leaves Home As Phaedra Returns
As the episode begins, we see that Phaedra is adjusting to life without Apollo with the help of her assistant Kalisha. The ladies move out of their hotel and back into the home she shared with Apollo now that he has turned himself in to begin his sentence. According to Phaedra, since Apollo went in, their son Ayden has been going through mood swings and asking “Why didn’t we save my dad?” With that in mind, Phaedra considers the possibility of putting Ayden in therapy in the hopes that they can move forward as a family, and be happy, without Apollo.
There’s only one word to describe everything we witnessed during this week’s episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta”: crazy. From Claudia going to Rickey Smiley about her issues with Porsha, to Kenya trying to have D. Woods of Danity Kane play her OLDER sister in her new show, and Apollo’s outburst at his home with Phaedra, crazy is the name of the game. Let’s chat about all that went down in those 60 minutes.
Claudia Is Mad Stressed…Over Porsha?
Kenya and Cynthia stop by Claudia’s new and improved pad to see how she’s living after a few months in the ATL. And while the apartment is in good shape, Claudia? Not so much. She tells Cynthia and Kenya about falling out with Porsha at the Dish Nation party, and eventually starts crying. She claims that Porsha’s treatment of her is similar to how she was treated in high school by her classmates because she is biracial: “I don’t deserve this. ” But ironically, Claudia doesn’t plan on taking back what she had to say about Porsha in front of everyone about her alleged married sugar daddy. And yet, she doesn’t understand why Porsha doesn’t want anything to do with her…
“A Mother’s Love” Tanks, Claudia And Porsha Do Battle And Apollo Threatens Phaedra: RHOA Ep. 13 Recap
We weren’t able to chat with you last night or share this with you earlier because our attention was solely on the Grammys yesterday. But if you are looking to chat about what went down on last night’s episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” let’s get to it!
“Life Twirls On” As Kenya Moore Tries To Get Her Own TV Show
As the episode begins, Kenya Moore meets up with Demetria McKinney’s man, Roger Bobb, to pitch him a new show loosely based on her life. It’s called “Life Twirls On,” and the main character is a retired supermodel married to a white man. Yeah, “loosely based” might be an understatement.
In the story, Moore also tries to throw shade at her foes. There is a character named “NoNo,” who is a 50-year-old cross-gendered pole dancer trying to make the main character’s life a living hell (based off of NeNe of course). Then there are two other characters clearly based off on Phaedra and Porsha. On top of that, she wants Meagan Good, Christina Milian and even Eddie Murphy to have a part on her show.
While Moore is tickled by her ideas, Roger Bobb doesn’t sound too crazy about them. He tells her that he would be able to help her out in some way, but he probably wouldn’t be able to work on the show since he has other programs to worry about in LA. Try again, boo.
Last fall, Porsha Williams expressed that she was blindsided by Bravo’s decision to demote her from a full-time cast member to a friend of the cast.
“After a long season of filming, and giving my all, I was blindsided by the announcement from the network that I was demoted from ‘Housewife Status,’ but would remain on the show in a ‘Friend’ capacity.”
Many wondered what this would mean for Williams’ future with “Real Housewives of Atlanta” after this season. However, now that we’re more than halfway through the current season, the 33-year-old reality star is confident that Bravo will offer to restore her to full-time Housewife status.
“It would surprise me if it wasn’t offered just because of the response that I get through all of my social media,” she recently told Radar Online. “Even though I wasn’t a full-time housewife, I was very much very vocal this season. I was around and I was a part of every single storyline as you can see.”
The Go Naked Hair founder went on to say that she believes fans are interested in seeing more of her.
“I see a lot of people who are very vocal about [the fact that] they want to see more of myself, more of my story, where’s my life now, what I am doing with my businesses,” she shared.
“They’re very interested and I think that’s a great thing.”
As for whether or not she’d be down for becoming a full-time cast member again, it seems that she would be…once she gets over being demoted in the first place.
“I signed up for reality television three years ago, so why not follow it through?” she explains. “I’ve been going back and forth in my mind with that.”
“I really had to do some soul searching and see if it was the right thing for me and I feel like I’m in a good place right now,” she added.
Were you disappointed by Porsha’s demotion? Are you ready to see her return as a full-time cast member?
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