As you read this you will probably think of at least one girlfriend or relative who fits the description:  She’s been in a long-term “relationship” with a guy who has mastered the art of being selfish, is pathologically unfaithful and lies to her as if he’s getting reward points for it.  Yet, she continuously clings to the faith that he really is a good person deep down because she’s seen occasional evidence of the stand-up guy he really can be, like that one time he brought her flowers or canceled his plans so that he could babysit…his own kids.

Why do women do this to themselves?  Why do we invest so much time and emotion into men who obviously have no sincere intention in doing the same?  It’s because many of us are convinced that all our tears, pain and struggle through the dark times will eventually lead us to a proverbial light at the end of a tunnel.  We believe that we have the power of epiphany to make a jerk realize that what he’s been waiting for has been standing in front of him all along and thus he will act accordingly to keep it from slipping away.  The fault in this logic is that you have to make sure he’s actually waiting for anything he wants to keep in the first place.

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