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A bit of slut-shaming disguised as an anti-rape public service announcement made its way around the Internet this past weekend.
Several popular gossip and news sites have been giving high praise to this alleged anti-rape video, which was done by a YouTube prankster who calls himself JoeySalads.
According to Salads, he conducted these social experiments on unsuspecting real people as a way to raise awareness of how easy it is to slip women date rape drugs. Because who else is better equipped to give life lessons about rape prevention than a douche bag in a smedium Ed Hardy-esque T-shirt who is named after roughage?
Anyway, armed with a pocket full of real roofies, a chest full of male entitlement and hidden cameras, Joey Potato Salad sets his target on the lunch crowd at an unidentified lounge, possibly in upstate New York. In one scenario, a woman walks away from the bar, leaving her drink under the unwatchful eye of a male companion. While her companion turns his head to talk to someone else, Joey Ceasar Salad slips a roofie into her beverage. When she returns to the bar to finish minding her business, he instructs her to not drink that and confesses that he dropped a roofie into her beverage. The shocked woman and her companion are all like, “What? Why the hell would you do that?” And Joey Bean Salad is like, never mind why I would put something illegal into your drink. The real question here is, why didn’t you know that I was a douche bag? Couldn’t you tell by my boy band hair that I was a douche bag? Tsk, tsk. Then he gives her, and not her inattentive companion who she entrusted to have her back, a lecture about date rape drugs and how fortunate she was that Joey Fruit Salad didn’t decide to rape her that afternoon. Message.
In another scenario, Joey Coleslaw walks up to an unsuspecting couple seated by themselves, again minding their own business, at the pier. While they are looking out at the ocean, likely thinking about how much they hate salads, Joey Cheese Slaw decides to slip a pill into the woman’s drink. When they turn around to discover the Jersey Shore reject hovering over them, he says again, dont drink that because I put something in it. And the couple is like, “What? Who is this guido? Security…” That’s when Joey Ambrosia gets on his bottle of Newman’s Own Creamy Balsamic Dressing and flies away before the partner of this woman could get the idea in his mind to rightfully beat the crap out of him.
Joey Crab Louie runs his little scheme on a couple of other victims before closing out the video with a request to “please spread this message to protect young women.” So in an effort to do my civic duty and help get the word out, I’m telling young women that JoeySalads is a got-damn d**khead.
Seriously, what’s next? Is JoeySalads going to snatch a couple of purses to show how we should always be prepared with track shoes just in case we have to chase down a perp? Or is JoeySalads going to walk up and stab people to show us why we should be wearing body armor while walking around the streets? Or is JoeySalads going to rob a bank to let you know how easy it is to pull an Oceans 11? What I’m trying to ask is how does a person’s ability to commit a crime prove that the victims of said crime are at fault?
And how come the targets are only women? Men too can be slipped a Mickey and men too are victims of sexual assault. Yet this garbage-a** warning about the dangers of date rape drugs is only directed at women. It’s harassment, plain and simple. And it is done to women as a way to shame them for no other reason than the fact that they are women. If this were a real anti-rape public service announcement, Joey Panzanella would be pulling instructional pranks on douche bag rapists who think it is okay to encroach on someone’s space and not the victims.
For some reason, society has it in its mind that the only way to ensure the safety of women is if we womenfolk walk around feeling paranoid all of the time about being raped and abused. And yet, with all of these rules and so-called protections, a person finds themselves a victim of sexual assault ever 107 seconds here in America alone. The victims are as young as babies and as old as great-grandmothers. Very few of these stories involve how a woman, or child, is dressed or whether or not she left her drink unattended. So if we are truly interested in helping women, perhaps it is time we change the narrative?
After all, If a woman did an anti-nut kicking video by walking around in steel-toe boots and kicking men in the testicles and then saying, “See, I did that to prove a point that you shouldn’t be walking around with your nuts exposed,” that wouldn’t make a bit of sense, now would it?
On second thought, kicking dudes in the nuts might make for a great campaign…
Wisconsin lawmakers from the Grand Ol’ Party are demanding an apology from Democratic state Sen. Lena Taylor, a rape survivor, who used the word “rape” to describe the poor treatment of schools by the state.
Here is the contentious statement, according to Raw Story:
“For years, individuals who sit on this committee and in this building have known that they have been raping the children of MPS,” Taylor had said during a Joint Finance Committee meeting on Tuesday.
The Democratic senator added that she understands how caustic the word “rape” sounds, “but when you consider the fact that 15 out of 100 kids can read on grade level while $89 million have been skimmed from the education of kids…who are you fooling?”
GOP-ers immediately demanded an apology from Taylor.
“Shameful,” Republican state Rep. John Jagler complained on Twitter.
State Rep. Jim Steineke (R) said that the analogy was “unconscionable.” He noted that if one of the Republican lawmakers made the same remark, the backlash would have been severe.
“They would be all over us, asking for that person’s head,” he noted. “Yet, when one of their own says something like this – it’s crickets.”
But Taylor said that she, as a sexual assault victim, chose her words with care.
“As a survivor, I understand the cumulative effect of their policies. Our children deserve the very best,” Taylor explained. “It was painful for me, yesterday. It was painful. It was painful for me. I understand that pain. That pain equates for me,” she told WKOW 27.
In response to the Republican criticism, Taylor says she has come to grips with the fact that “everyone can’t understand the pathway, the valley that gets me to the seat that I sit in.”
But Steineke won’t back off Taylor without pulling a “sorry” out of her:
“Sen Taylor doubles down on rape comparison. Being victimized yourself should make you more sensitive, not less #wiright #WomenDeserveBetter,” he tweeted.
What do you think? Did Taylor take it too far in using “rape” as a comparison to poor school funding?
— Mother Jones (@MotherJones) May 20, 2015
Last year, we wrote about Emma Sulkowicz and her brave and artistic protest against her alleged rapist, Jean-Paul Nungesser and the school they both attended, Columbia University.
In case you missed the story, Sulkowicz told Columbia that Nungesser raped her and they failed to do anything about it. She then filed a police report. She told authorities that she and Nungesser had a consensual, sex on two occasions. But later, when the two reunited to have consensual sex again, things turned violent. According to Sulkowicz, Nungesser hit her across her face, choked her and pushed her knees to her chest, leaning on them to keep them in place. He then held her wrists and penetrated her anally.
Unfortunately, Sulkowicz wasn’t the only woman who alleged Nungesser had assaulted them as well. The university told her they were not responsible. And when she went to the police they didn’t take her seriously either, going so far as to tell her that 90 percent of rape cases were “bullshit.”
So in response to the unfair treatment she received from both the University and the police department, she turned her horrific experiences with not only the rape but the university and the authorities into an art piece called “Carry That Weight.” For the piece Sulkowicz carried her mattress around with her, every day on campus for as long as she attended the same school as her rapist.
Naturally, a girl carrying around a dorm mattress caused quite a bit of attention for Sulkowicz and the University.
Eventually, Columbia investigated the matter and found there wasn’t enough evidence to punish Nungesser.
According to the Wall Street Journal, Sulkowicz carried the mattress for nine months. In the meantime, Nungesser, who was the first to reveal his identity after Sulkowicz started receiving nation-wide attention, filed a lawsuit against Columbia for allowing what he says was sustained harassment against him. He wanted the lawsuit to ban Sulkowicz from carrying the mattress.
Though the school sent out graduation guidelines barring students from bring “large objects which could interfere with the proceedings or create discomfort to others,” Sulkowicz, like she had been doing for almost a year, brought her mattress.
She graduated from Columbia, along with Nungesser, magna cum laude on Tuesday. She, along with four other graduates helped her carry the mattress as she walked across the stage. Other students wore red tape in solidarity, referencing No Red Tape, Columbia’s anti-sexual assault activist group. Many are reporting that when Sulkowicz crossed the stage, she refused to shake the University President’s hand.
Check out the video of Sulkowicz and the other ladies helping her carry that mattress.
It’s so easy for us to demonize the homeless. We assume that they are lazy, dirty, addicted to some type of substance, or just ultimately responsible for landing in their current situation. Rarely, do we consider the fact that sometimes life is just hard. And homeless doesn’t necessarily equate to a deficiency in character.
Example: Ketrell Ferguson, a recently homeless man in Washington, D.C. The local NBC affiliate reports that around 3:30 a.m. Ferguson was looking for a place to sleep when he heard screams and noticed a struggle between a man and woman, behind a bus stop. Initially, he thought it was a robbery, but when he continued looking he realized the man on top of this woman was trying to rape her.
Acting quickly, Ferguson grabbed a stick that was laying nearby and a half of a brick. Ferguson, who said he’s had family members who’ve been raped, said he had to do something.
“As soon as he lifted his head up, I smacked him with the stick, hard as I could in his head. And he fell off the lady, stumbled, stumbled and I smacked him again. And I just kept smacking him with the stick, I mean, as hard as I could.”
Then he went to a nearby building and told them to call the police, that there had just been a rape.
Ferguson’s actions helped police find 23-year-old Alemen Gonzalo about an hour later. He was bleeding from the head.
Police say that Gonzalo tried to pay the woman for sex and she refused.
He was charged with assault with the intent to commit first-degree sexual abuse.
Ferguson said, “Even though I’m going through hard times, God put me in a place where I could help. I was at the right place at the right time.”
I’ve been gravely disappointed during this ongoing Cosby scandal. Partially because the Bill Cosby I’d watched and admired was now marred by this scandal but mostly because of the people in my circles who tried to demonize the women who spoke out against him. After all, I never knew Bill Cosby. I do, however, know the family members, friends, distant associates and others who asked questions like “why are these women just now coming forward?”
This type of thought pattern just showed that there is a gross ignorance among people about sexual assault and what happens, emotionally and psychologically, to the women who have endured it.
And while I’ve tried to fight the good fight on my Facebook page and in conversations where it happened to come up, explaining that there is no set way to process trauma; now there is empirical, anecdotal evidence to support what I had been saying all along, especially as it pertains to Black women.
A New York based human right’s organization, called Black Women’s Blueprint, is conducting an ongoing study which found that nearly 60 percent of Black women have been involved in a coercive sexual assault by the time they are 18-years-old.
And in relaying her own story, one of these women explained in an article with Raw Story why it’s so hard for Black women to report their sexual assaults to the authorities.
If we report our assaults to police, we risk being retraumatized not only by the inhumane process of reliving a violent experience through sharing its gory details – but also by the violence of the criminal justice system itself , which treats rape victims like suspects . Worse yet, the police themselves commit assault with impunity ; often, they target black women in particular , knowing our existence at the intersections of racism and misogyny make crimes against us far less likely to be investigated .
To be a “ good rape victim ” is to immediately report your assault to the police (even knowing you will likely never see “justice” ), but to be a good black person is to avoid the police entirely because your life quite literally depends on it . The tightrope walk is impossible.
These words sound alarmingly like the ones Beverly Johnson wrote when she detailed her sexual assault with Cosby. You might recall that she hesitated coming forward because, with all the racial tension in the country these days, she didn’t want to be the Black woman attempting to drag a Black man down.
She knew before the essay was even published that she would be in for a world of scrutiny and judgement.
And she was right. My heart broke as I watched people, some of them MN readers (women), call Johnson everything but a child of God for daring to step forward with this story.
If Johnson, with her illustrious career and the respect she’s earned in the industry, was torn down in this way, imagine what happens to the “unknown” women who tell their doubting family members and law enforcement officers about their own sexual assaults? The outcome is not likely to provide any closure. In fact, the experience of being doubted, questioned or further victimized might just result in even more trauma.
To paraphrase one of my Facebook and real life friends: ladies and gentlemen, the women in your life, who’ve been quietly living with the secrets and burdens of their own sexual assaults, are watching you and your reaction to this whole Bill Cosby situation, wondering if they should continue to remain silent and whether or not you’ll doubt them too.
Houston held more than 6,600 untested rape kits — some dating back almost 30 years. Last year, the city finally stepped in with a $6 million initiative to clear the backlog of potential DNA evidence. According to the Associated Press, 850 samples matched DNA profiles found on the FBI’s forensic criminal database.
Efforts to test the backlogged rape kits were launched in 2013 and so far, charges have been filed against 29 people — six of whom have convicted. The defendants, according to the AP, received sentences ranging from two to 45 years. One case was thrown out, though, after a victim decided not to press charges.
“Now that the testing of these kits is complete, we know that it’s up to us to finish the job and to seek justice for these victims. The ball is in our court and we will do our best to put the people who are responsible for these heinous crimes behind bars for as long as possible,” Houston Mayor Annise Parker said of the $5.9 million initiative.
Law enforcement officials are continuing the review the DNA matches to pursue other suspects.
So why did it take so long for Houston to test these rape kits? Analyzing these samples are costly; the AP notes that testing can run from $500 to $1,000 per kit. But “advocates argue that the lack of testing signals that sex crimes haven’t always been law enforcement priorities,” the media outlet said.
Parker added that Houston isn’t the only city with backlogged rape kits. Memphis, Detroit, and Cleveland all have 12,000, 11,000, and 4,700 backlogged rape kits, respectively.
“This is not a Houston problem. It’s not a Texas problem. It’s a nationwide issue that built up over years and years,” Parker said.
Testing these rape kits not only helps victims of sexual assault, but assists in putting suspects behind bars by matching their DNA with other crimes they may have committed.
Rape kits feature biological and physical evidence gathered from rape victims that are later analyzed to see if they match a suspect’s DNA. The results are uploaded to the FBI’s Combined DNA Index System (CODIS).
Stacey Dash Apologizes For Implying ‘Naughty’ Rape Victims Are To Blame For Assaults, Calls It “Failed Attempt At Humor”
We told you over the weekend that Stacey Dash put her foot in her mouth for the umpeenth time recently with comments she made about rape victims. This time though, it seems that she finally realized she went a little too far.
In case you missed her comments on Fox News’ “Outnumbered,” Dash pulled out the whole, “don’t put yourself in a compromising situation” argument, as opposed to the “don’t rape folks” argument. It all started because the panelists were speaking on the University of Virginia’s decision to ban sorority members from fraternity parties this past weekend during their “big recruitment drive.” They tried to create these new rules as they reinstated fraternities on campus. Fraternities on UVA’s campus were suspended last November, after allegations of rape, including a story of a gang rape that was published in Rolling Stone (but was found to have some major discrepancies), surfaced. Here are Dash’s thoughts on the ban, as well as Dartmouth’s choice to ban hard alcohol for on-campus parties in the hopes of warding off “extreme behaviors”:
“Ridiculous. And I think the girls, I think it’s a good thing, for the good girls, to you know…
Women, sorry, not to be told, ‘stay home, be safe.’ The other bad girls–bad women–are the ones who like to be naughty, might go out and play and get hurt and then, you know…But the other thing about this is that it then blames the alcohol instead of the person who over-drinks. So it’s like, the same thing with guns. Guns don’t kill people; people kill people. Alcohol doesn’t get you drunk; you get yourself drunk.”
“After a failed attempt at humor about ‘good girls’ and ‘naughty girls,’ during my recent appearance on Outnumbered, I transitioned to the very serious issue of men blaming alcohol for their vile behavior. LET ME BE CLEAR: I am a victim of physical and sexual abuse. My point was that there IS NO EXCUSE for a man taking advantage of women under any circumstances. I believe that these universities focusing on alcohol consumption as a means to stop evil behavior takes the focus off the real issue of the objectification of women and how that can be prevented. I apologize to anyone who believed I was blaming the victims of these horrible acts.”
Nice apology, but the comments Dash made on “Outnumbered” definitely don’t sound like she was saying that there is no excuse for a man to take advantage of a woman. More like, ladies, don’t go out and be naughty, fellas, don’t get drunk and take advantage of people. But you can check out her statements for yourself below and make up your mind on what Dash was really trying to say:
The Wayne County Prosecutor’s Office in Detroit discovered 11,000 untested rape kits in the Detriot police storage unit five years ago. Yesterday, the Prosecutor’s Office announced they, alongside two nonprofits, will raise $10 million in order for these kits to be investigated and prosecute the attackers. In order to raise the funds and justice for victims, the Prosecutor’s office and nonprofits are depending on individuals and businesses to donate financially, therefore, creating a “solving rape case charity.”
Since the untested kits have been found, 2,000 kits have been tested and 670 of them have found a DNA match in order to identify the attacker. The Detroit Free Press says 188 serial rapists have been identified in these cases, including 15 who have been convicted of their crimes. Among these 15 attackers, Shelly Andre Brooks, who raped and murdered several women, is now serving a life sentence.
It’s possible some of his crimes could have been prevented if previous rape kits were tested. Wayne County’s Prosecutor Kym Worthy, a sexual assault victim herself, has made it her mission to end these injustices against victims. Her office has earned money to test the remainder of rape kits with the help of 29-year-old nonprofit Michigan Women’s Foundation.
“We’re trying to change the way sexual assault (investigations are) handled in this county,” Worthy said. She was raped in law school but failed to report her attack because she feared it would derail her law career.
The fundraising campaign to test the rape kits is called Enough SAID (Sexual Assault In Detroit) and has acquired $750,000. The state of Michigan has set aside $4 million to test the kits in Detroit and all the kits are expected to be tested with results by the end of May. Despite the silver lining in this cloud, money would also be needed for investigations and prosecutions. The Michigan Attorney General says it will set aside $3 million to prosecute cases for the next three years. More will be needed to solve the thousands of leftover cases. Authorities noted rapists will rape (on average) 11 times and usually commit other crimes.
Untested rape kits are not unique to Detroit. The Detroit Free Press breaks down how many untested rape kits there are in other cities:
Memphis: more than 12,000.
Cleveland: nearly 4,000
Tulsa, Okla.: more than 3,700
Las Vegas, more than 4,000
Dallas, 4,144 (testing is in progress)
Toledo: 2,300 (testing in progress)
To help with this cause and end the streak of untested rape kits in the nation, donate to Enough SAID.
While most stars connected with “The Cosby Show” — Debbie Allen, Raven-Symone, Keshia Knight Pulliam — have remained neutral in speaking on the resurgence of rape allegations against Bill Cosby, opting simply to express their love for the comedian and clarify that they’ve never been victimized by him, Phylicia Rashad has taken a much stronger approach.
The actress who played the beloved Claire Huxtable on one of America’s favorite sitcoms reportedly spoke with Showbiz 411 reporter Roger Friedman at a luncheon for “Selma” yesterday. And though she told Friedman “I don’t want to become part of the public debate” as he broached the subject of Cosby, Rashad undoubtedly will for her next remarks regarding her former co-star’s current scandal.
“I love him,” Rashad said of Cosby.“Forget these women. What you’re seeing is the destruction of a legacy. And I think it’s orchestrated. I don’t know why or who’s doing it, but it’s the legacy. And it’s a legacy that is so important to the culture.”
“Someone is determined to keep Bill Cosby off TV and it’s worked. All his contracts have been cancelled. This show represented America to the outside world. This was the American family. And now you’re seeing it being destroyed. Why?”
If you doubt the statements from the 20-something women who have come forward claiming to have either been drugged or raped by Cosby, including supermodels Janice Dickinson and Beverly Johnson, you’re likely asking the same question. You’re probably also questioning Cosby’s wife of 50 years, Camille, wondering how she could stand by her husband against allegations such as these. Rashad has a response for those critics as well. Saying there’s no question that Camille hasn’t looked the other way when it comes to these claims of transgression, Rashad added, “This is a tough woman, a smart woman; she’s no pushover.” As for why Bill has chosen not to deny these allegations outright, Rashad says he probably has too much pride, adding that at this point it also probably would do no good.
Some of us understand the prevalence of rape. Some of us even know how such heinous, inhumane acts affect the psyche. And even though some of us have grasped these concepts, we were still astounded to learn of Jada. The Houston teenager was not only drugged and raped by two different men, images of her naked body sprawled across the floor were posted all over social media. They even created a hashtag, #jadapose. And as if this weren’t enough, people were using Twitter and other social media websites to shame Jada, blaming her for her own rape.
This story could have ended tragically. But luckily, instead of keeping it to herself or being to ashamed to speak up, Jada fought for herself. And thousands across the country, including celebrities, fought with her, creating the #IAmJada hashtag.
Thankfully, today, five months after the incident occurred, MSNBC reported that two people have been arrested in Jada’s rape. One of them a grown man and another, a minor.
This is what Jada had to say about the arrests, support from her followers and what a family spokesperson had to say about legislation and cyberbullying.
“It’s wonderful about the arrests. But I’m just grateful and thankful for everyone who followed and supported me.”
“I would like to see justice. Justice in full effect and that’s it.”
Quanell X, a local leader of the New Black Panther Party and the family’s spokesperson said that he was surprised it took authorities so long to make an arrest when both accused rapists confessed and were even bragging about the incident on social media. There was also evidence that showed Jada wasn’t the only girl they did this to. But at one point another investigator took over the case.The adult man was charged with two counts of child sex assault.
Jezebel exposed Quanell X’s interesting backstory. In 2011, 13 African American men were accused of gang raping an 11-year-old Hispanic girl. X held a rally that seemed to play on the tension between the Black and Latino community, asking the group where was the girl’s mother, father and even asking why an 11-year-old child, who had been assaulted by these two men before on a separate occasion, didn’t report her rape to the police. Quite sick and in direct contention with the story he’s supporting today.
Commenters on Jezebel have argued that Quanell follows the cameras. But perhaps there’s more to it. Maybe X felt justified in blaming a Hispanic girl if it would protect the images of these Black men, though some of them admitted their guilt as well. The point is a child should never be blamed for something like this–nor should she be further shamed with questions about why she didn’t report it.
Perhaps he’s had a change of heart on rape victims and his former rape apologists views. But either way, severe side eye to Quanell…
As far as this case goes though, X hopes the social media attention Jada’s story has raised will help legislatures make some type of move against cyberbullying.
“I believe that we’re attempting to work with state legislatures right here in Texas to make cyber bullying a crime. Because you have so many people out there who are victims of sexual assault but they don’t want to be bullied through social media, so they tend to keep their stories to themselves and never come forth. We don’t want to allow social media, which has been a gift and a curse in many cases, to stop victims from speaking up about being a victim of a sexual assault or a crime.”
Jada says her life is not the same anymore but it’s also not the worst. She also said that while she hasn’t gotten much support from the teenagers in her community, the adults and people she doesn’t know have been very supportive.
Ronan Farrow asked Jada before she left what advice she would give to others who find themselves in a similar situation.
My advice to you guys is just to pray and speak out and just tell nothing but the truth.
Is she glad she spoke out?
Yes, I am glad because I needed my story to be heard.
What have you learned from all of this?
“I learned that some people have hearts and some people just go off of what they hear.”
What do you want to do in the future?
“I would like to keep working on this with others, other people who are going through this in the near future. But I would like to go to college and then become a pharmacist.”
Again, we commend and even thank Jada for stepping forward after an unimaginable ordeal and using her trauma to help others. We wish her nothing but the best.