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‘My Eggs Are Like The Thing Indiana Jones Finds In The Temple Of Doom:’ Gabrielle Union Talks Reproductive Concerns
Being Mary Jane actress Gabrielle Union has made it clear that she wants children. On several occasions, the 41-year-old beauty has expressed her desire to be mother; however, the timeline regarding when she plans to make it up seems to switch up every so often. As of this past July, Gabby says she’ll be ready to be a mom in a couple of years.
“I always knew I was going to wait really long, and I followed the Halle Berry example, and I think in the next couple of years, if I’m lucky, I will make that a reality, hopefully. I think with the career, the industry that we’re in, it’s not taboo to be an older mom. You’re not alone. There’s such a huge support to start a family a little bit older and it’s okay! My friends from home, they all started in their 20s and that’s awesome, too. There’s give and takes. I knew, for me, I wasn’t going to be the kind of parent I would want to be. I would be way too selfish and resent having to miss out on things. Now, I’m in a place where I’m happy and still wanting adventure, but I want part of that adventure to include a child.”
Unfortunately, the reality is that women are not physically capable of having children forever. Gabby addressed those concerns during a Google Hangout session with ESSENCE.
“I don’t know if by now its [having kids] a matter of ‘want,’”Gabby said.
She went on to say that at this point, she’ll be content with having one child, as she’s unsure if her body is capable of having more than one.
“My eggs are like the thing Indiana Jones finds in the Temple of Doom so I don’t know how many my body can physically have. I’d be happy with one if that’s what God blesses me with it,” she continued.
We can totally dig her positive outlook.
Though Tamar Braxton appears to be basking in the joys of motherhood now that her son Logan has arrived, the new mom is not ashamed to admit that pregnancy was not a pleasant experience for her. She recently shared with FLAUNT Magazine that the experience was so unpleasant that she doesn’t plan on having anymore children. Check out a few of her interview highlight below.
On expanding her family:
“Well, I’m not having any kids in the future.”
On being miserable during her pregnancy:
“God no [I'm not having more kids]. I hated being pregnant. I felt like Invasion of the Body Snatchers. It’s beautiful and it’s great just like everyone says, but there’s another side to it. My back. My feet. My skin went absolutely nuts. I had the itchies the whole day. Imagine scratching all day and you can never get to the itch.”
On the side of pregnancy that isn’t openly discussed:
“Yes. People lie to you. I was one hundred percent open and honest on Tamar and Vince because I was upset. I didn’t instantly connect with my baby, and no one told me this was common. I was jealous because Vince and the baby connected instantly. It’s not that I didn’t love him; it’s not that I didn’t want to connect with him. I was upset because I didn’t instantly connect with him. I didn’t cry when I first saw him. I was confused. I was like, ‘What do I do now?’”
On love vs. passion:
“Passion is a lot like lust, except it’s real. Passion is real because the other person feels the same way about you. It’s not one-sided. When you argue, it’s passionate, because you want to get your point across but you also want the other person to understand you, so you can get back to the love. Nobody told me about that either. I had to learn that for myself.”
Turn the page for more photos from Tamar’s super cute photo shoot.
Is Ciara trying to hide another part of her “future?” Was that really corny? Okay, then let’s just get to the good stuff.
There’s a good chance that singer Ciara and hr fianceé, Future, are expecting a baby. Now, Ciara hasn’t done an interview in a while so no one has had the chance to ask her, but Future recently did an interview and when asked he said, “A rumor is just a rumor.” That vague of an answer definitely fueled the rumor mill even more.
The singer performed in Abu Dhabi on Friday and based on the pictures, she’s definitely looking a bit more “full” in her midsection. Her pharaoh head top was a great choice for a cover-up, but the way it tugged around her stomach has many wondering what’s going on. We’re used to Cici showing off that rocking body, wearing as little on top as possible so we can see her abs. Now, we know that sometimes, when you go out of the country, there are often certain rules that need to be respected and followed, so maybe it was inappropriate to dress like that for her performance.
But a couple of weeks ago, while performing in New York, Ciara wore another outfit that immediately set off alerts. She wore all black, but because her top was leather, it seemed to stick to her a little more…and outlined her stomach. She looked very round and according to people at the show, she kept touching her “belly.” There allegedly wasn’t much dropping it like it’s hot and a Ciara performance is not a Ciara performance without popping and dropping.
Of course, it could be a little love weight (some of us get real comfortable when we’re not out in those dating streets anymore). She’s very taken by Future and they might be ready to add another child into the mix (he already has two children with two other women, including a 10 month old). Either way, love – and maybe pregnancy – has given Ciara quite a glow we haven’t seen in a while from her.
We’ll see how long she makes us keep her on pregnancy watch. What do you think? Is there a baby on board?
By now we’re all aware that the Mowry sisters are totally obsessed with being moms. Both of the actresses and first-time moms have expressed a desire to get pregnant again.
“I am planning on having a second baby. My doula says the 10-month spot is the sweet spot because I’m having so much fun with my son. He sleeps through the night; he’s mobile, but not to the point where he’s breaking my back. That’s usually the time that people are like, ‘Okay, I’m ready for No. 2.’ That’s where I am right now,” Tamar said during an interview last month.
Tia also revealed just a few months after seeing Tamera with baby Aden, that she, too, wants to get pregnant again.
“It reminds me of all the cool things and amazing things that goes on in your mind when you’re pregnant. I would love to go through that again. I didn’t have such an amazing pregnancy experience as my sister did. I had a lot of nausea, but it’s an amazing feeling being pregnant. I would love to have another baby very soon, sooner than later,” the Instant Mom actress said.
Since both actresses seem to be striving towards a common goal, it’s only natural that a little sisterly rivalry would eventually creep in. Tia recently told People Magazine that she and Tamera are in a little bit of a competition to see who will get pregnant first.
“There’s always this inner competition with my sister and I: who’s going to have the second child first. It would be interesting if we end up getting pregnant together,” she joked.
It looks like Tamera may beat her sister to the finish line though, as Tia says that she definitely wants a second child, but not right now.
“I do want another child—and sooner than later—but just not right now,” she added.
I guess we’ll have to keep watching to see who wins this race.
I don’t recall a time when I ever got dressed or undressed under the covers. Maybe I got dressed in the dark, stumbling around searching for matching socks or something, but there was never any hiding. And, now, as a pregnant woman, I am proud to say this has not changed.
These days you’d be hard-pressed to find someone who isn’t self-conscious about some part of their body. And when you’re starting a new relationship and getting to know your partner, especially in the bedroom, it can be incredibly intimidating to expose your flaws. Whether it’s morning breath or cellulite, we’re all a little self-conscious in the beginning about something. But I look at it like this: my hips don’t lie. You see me, and when you do, you can make a pretty good guess as to what I got going on under my clothes. If you still want to lay down with me after that, then what am I hiding for?
Nowadays, you can ask a woman what she’d like to change about her body and she will give you a list – Botox this, collagen here, lipo there, tighten this, lift that. But as a woman who is very comfortable in her own skin, I want to give my body the respect it deserves and stop judging it so harshly – and I want all women to do the same thing. I define my body by my standards, not by what society says is okay. I love my body for what it is, rather than hate it for what it isn’t or never will be.
Don’t get me wrong, I believe in being healthy and strong. I think we should take better care of ourselves, and I could always do better. But at six months pregnant, there is only so much I can do without straining myself, but I also find that I’m enjoying the new and amazing things that my body is doing now. I’m creating life while growing stronger every day. My body is my temple,and because I view it that way, it can be His temple too.
What I have found out over the years is that men tend to see in you what they love most. If you have a big backside – and he’s an “a$$ man” – chances are he’s not obsessing over the dimple you have there. Those heavy breasts you want lifted may make his mouth water if tig ole bitties are what he favors. In your eyes, he will detect the spirit you have chosen. Your smile and frown both speak volumes. He will see you how you see you; and if you have an issue with your body, so will he.
If I’m too busy worried about what he thinks of my body, how can we both enjoy it? You see me, it’s too late now. Clothes are off. We’re here! Turn on the lights and take a good look. My body is a playground – swing on my swing! While most women are especially self-conscious while pregnant, I feel the most beautiful. I’m not embarrassed by what anyone might see. I don’t cringe at the sight of my unclothed body. Oddly enough, I don’t like looking at myself in pictures, with clothes on.
But my brown, soft skin? I love it! My hands? I love getting manicures to show off my long, pretty fingers. My teeth are white and straight. I love the way my bubbly breasts bounce when I have on a good bra that shows off my ample cleavage. I’ve even grown to accept my curly eyebrows. Yes, I said curly eyebrows! Looking in the mirror, I see that it’s quite possible to love everything in its reflection. I look at myself directly, and rather than risk the pain of experiencing everything I am not, I savor the sweetness of who I am and how my body is changing.
The woman I saw in the mirror this morning was glowing! She was more than the sum of the color of her skin, the texture of her hair, and the shade of her knees and elbows. What I saw went deeper than a surface appreciation of beauty, a superficial measurement of self. What I saw was empowering. I didn’t just consider my exterior, but also my heart. I danced around to music playing in the background, with my swollen belly whirling around, joyous and happy. I sang to my voluptuous curves and they gave a standing ovation. There was no shame or negative inner visions. I was beautiful and whole and free. And this is how every woman should feel about herself.
Earlier this week we told you that Reverend Run’s daughter and former Run’s House star, Vanessa Simmons, announced that she is expecting her first child with on-again, off-again boyfriend, Michael Wayans. In an interview with ESSENCE, the 30-year-old actress confessed that she was a bit nervous to reveal to her reverend father that she would be having a child out of wedlock.
“There’s this whole idea of first comes the marriage then the baby carriage so I was so nervous,” she revealed.
Though he would’ve preferred that she be married first, Vanessa says that her dad embraced the fact that he would be welcoming his first grandchild pretty soon.
“But my dad was actually really excited because this is the first grandchild for my family. I think somewhere deep inside he was kinda like, ‘When am I going to experience that part of life?’ Of course he wants us to get married, but for now he was like, ‘We’re gonna figure this out. Just be happy and have a healthy pregnancy. I’m behind you a hundred percent.’”
The Pastrys visionary admits that her father’s acceptance “meant the world” to her, and went on to suggest that she and Mike will more than likely tie the knot after their baby girl is born.
“Of course we talk about that [marriage] and it’s looking good. But I don’t want to be a pregnant bride. I wanna have a beautiful wedding, hopefully a destination wedding where I can show off my figure in a beautiful long flowing dress.”
She also opened up about experiencing severe morning sickness and intense food cravings, that are often triggered by food blogs.
“Anything I see I want. Every time my mom calls me she asks, ‘Where’s Mike?’ and I’m like, ‘He’s at 7-Eleven.’ The cherry-flavored Slurpee is my weakness. So is the Jamba Juice Mango-a-go-go smoothie.”
As for baby names, she reveals that she is “stumped,” since she and Mike spent months selecting boy names only to find out that they’re expecting a “little princess.”
“Now I’m stumped thinking of little girl names. But I’m excited because little girl clothes are amazing and I’m the girliest girl ever!”
Q: My husband and I dated for three years before we got married and while we were dating I got pregnant. I was nervous, excited and scared all at the same time. Around that time, we didn’t have a car, I didn’t have a steady job and I had just started college. My husband and I decided we couldn’t provide for the baby. I was scared because I knew my husband was right. I had an abortion.
Every year since then we always argue about it, but we never sit down and talk about how what happened changed our lives or how it changed my life. I think about my decision every day. I cry each time I think about it. I can’t talk to anyone about this and I feel lost. I’m a good person and I have a good heart. I know I would have made a great mother. We’ve been married for almost a year now, and I’m scared that I’m not going be able to have any more children. I love my husband very much and he’s great with kids, but I just want us to talk about what happened. What can I do to help him talk to me? I’m lost! – Anonymous
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Last year, Texas woman, Mia Washington didn’t plan on giving birth to twins but when she did she ended up getting even more than she bargained for — her fraternal sons have two different fathers. You are probably wondering, how did this happen so allow us to explain.
As you know, every month a woman releases one egg from her ovaries that can be fertilized by sp*rm. As for Washington, she released a pair of eggs. According to Dr. Hilda Hutcherson of Columbia University who reported to TODAY News:
“sp*rm can remain alive and well and viable for up to five days in the reproductive tract. Thus, a woman can have sex with different men within those five days and the sp*rm just kind of hang out there waiting for the egg to be released.”
Washington, who is 20 years old, had sex with another man a few days after she slept with her 44-year-old boyfriend, James Harrison — hence her double conception. James investigated the issue when he noticed the twins, Justin and Jordan, who were born seven minutes,apart looked very different, even for fraternal twins. He requested a paternity test and discovered Justin was not his child. When Harrison found out the news he was devastated:
“I was hurt, torn apart — didn’t know what the next move was gonna be.”
Although he was hurt, Harrison continued to raise Justin as his own. And despite the odds of a situation like this, this is not the first time twins have been born to different fathers. Studies have revealed 1 to 2 percent of fraternal twin births have different fathers, but this often goes unnoticed. The terminology used to identify this type of birth is called: “heteropaternal superfecundation”. It was reported on first by John Archer who was the first doctor to receive a medical degree in the United States in 1810. Archer dubbed the term when a white woman had sex with two men, black and white and later gave birth to twin boys. One son was white whereas the other was of mixed race.
As for Mia Washington and James Harrison, they plan on marrying each other in the future. And in the mean time, they will prepare for their new family addition- a baby girl. She will add some sweet and spice to their clan of three boys (Washington has a 4-year old from a previous relationship).
Watch Mia Washington’s interview with TODAY News below.
Well, it looks like there’s another celebrity on baby bump watch. Over the summer we were all shocked to learn that our favorite gladiator, Kerry Washington, jumped the broom with her secret NFL beau, Nnamdi Asomugha. Now, after seeing her at last night’s Emmy Awards, many suspect that the Scandal actress is harboring another big secret!
For the awards, Kerry showed up dressed in a beautiful Marchesa gown, and while the dress was absolutely gorgeous, fans were more concerned with what Kerry may or may not have been using the flowy ensemble to conceal. Yeah, that’s right. The pregnancy rumors have officially begun. It all started earlier this month during New York Fashion Week when fans began noticing that the newly married actress was showing up to multiple events with more loose fitting dresses and with what some claims to be a much fuller face. Now in Kerry’s defense, she has worn loose dresses in the past, but other signs also seem to implicate that the beautiful Bronx native is expecting. Natasha over at The YBF notes that the actress did not stick around long for red carpet photos last night, which is quite odd behavior for the showstopper.
Now, of course, this is all pure speculation at this point. Only time will tell what’s really going on. We’ll continue to keep you posted as this story develops.
Turn the page for photos of Kerry at the Emmys and other recent events. Does she appear preggers to you?
Pregnancy and career still clash, despite the advances women have made in the workplace. Women continue to hide pregnancies for fear of career backlash and have to go to great lengths to manage this news once it has been announced.
Even celebrities can feel the pressure. Actress Tia Mowry recently said that pregnancy rumors were not only insulting but career damaging, reports EURWeb.
“People can talk and people can blog and all of that. I just don’t like when it affects what I do for a living,” she said. To prove she was not pregnant, Mowry even stepped up her workouts and posted pictures of her flat tummy on social media sites.
“I can’t have that mistake happen again. I can’t risk walking into a meeting and having executives think I’m pregnant,” she said.
“We can admit that pregnant workers may be less profitable employees than nonpregnant workers in the short term, yet choose to value aspects of life beyond economic productivity…Women shouldn’t feel that they have to betray their own ethics and pretend — sometimes for months — that they aren’t pregnant when they are,” reports the Times.
Federal and state laws ban discrimination against pregnant women in the workplace, but it still takes place. Some women are either put on unpaid leave, others are fired. There were amendments to the Americans With Disabilities Act that require employers to provide reasonable accommodations to disabled employees (including most employees with medical complications arising from pregnancies). But pregnancy is not considered a disability, so employers are not obligated to accommodate most pregnant workers in any way. This is one reason many are pushing for new laws.
In New York, State Senator Liz Krueger, a Democrat from Manhattan, and Assemblywoman Aileen Gunther, a Democrat from Sullivan County, introduced legislation that would require employers to provide reasonable accommodations for pregnant women whose health care providers say they need them, unless doing so would be an undue hardship for the employer, reports the newspaper.
Among the “accommodations”: a seat for employees who spend long periods standing, more frequent restroom breaks, limiting heavy lifting or transferring an employee to a less strenuous or hazardous position. New York isn’t the only one who has considered or has passed such laws. Since 2010, seven states, passed laws requiring private employers to provide at least some of these accommodations.