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When a famous grandmother makes the celebrity pregnancy rumors list, things have officially gotten out of hand. For everyone else on this list, revealing that they weren’t pregnant was just pretty awkward.
When one isn’t pregnant, there can’t be anything more annoying than to have people constantly ask if you are, inquire about why you aren’t, and ask why you look like it. Just ask Tia Mowry-Hardrict.
Yes, Tia stated earlier this year that she was in a sort of competition with her sister, Tamera, to see who could get pregnant first. And yes, Tamera did get pregnant and give birth since then. But it seems like ever since the actress opened her mouth about babies, her fans and followers have been wondering about when she’ll pop out a second one. And she’s sick and tired of it.
She took to Instagram late last week to let people know that their inquiries were no longer harmless, but rather, a form of body shaming.
“Please please please STOP! It’s starting to become rude and a form of body shaming!!! I am NOT pregnant!!! Stop with the nonsense! If you don’t hear it from me it’s not true!! Again one last time! I AM NOT PREGNANT!!”
You might think Mowry-Hardrict is overreacting, but this is the third time she’s had to address questions about what is and isn’t happening inside of her body this year alone.
Back in February she told Hip Hollywood, “I feel like everybody wants me to be pregnant. I’m like, guys, I’m not pregnant. So we can get myself off of that.”
And in June, she admitted that she had gained a few pounds preparing delicious meals for her cooking show Tia Mowry At Home. Writing this caption under a picture of a pregnancy test that read, “Just fat”:
“FYI. For all the people that think I’m pregnant. I’m NOT just enjoying life and eating and cooking some great food! Thanks again I repeat I AM NOT PREGNANT!”
And now, as we enter the tail end of the year, she’s shutting down pregnancy rumors yet again after fans commented under some of her recent pictures with “Is it me or is she pregnant?” and “Are you prego tia?”
That would make anyone lose their patience with folks.
But what do you think? Is this a form of body shaming?
Growing up, dancehall music taught my friends and I that a tighter pum-pum (vagina) meant you’d have a better life. Essentially, your man would remain faithful, no other woman could ever compare to you, and you would be highly respected, if not worshiped. Unfortunately, Vybz Kartel’s lyrical fantasies do not hold weight in real life. Despite this, women across the globe invest in various products to help tighten their vaginal muscles on a daily basis. The financial benefits of this industry are so lucrative, France administers vaginal physical therapy to women who’ve had natural births. Luckily, if you don’t plan on moving to France anytime soon, there is a new product on the market to help with such needs: The Elvie.
The tiny gadget is an egg-shaped insertable device that has a long tail to wrap around your vulva in order to stay in place. Internally, the Elvie is embedded with a Bluetooth that connects with your phone to help record your exercise sessions. Users of the Elvie also have to download its app to follow exercise instructions. Before you begin, the Elvie reveals a breakdown of the training sessions into three sections: Training, Beginner, Intermediate and Advanced.
Starting as a Beginner, Reporter Elissa Strauss of Elle Magazine said she was instructed to move the Elvie to various locations in her nether region using only the muscles of her vaginal wall. After the exercise was completed, the Elvie gave her a score which Strauss said was low. However, she wasn’t surprised because she recently gave birth to a nine-pound baby and didn’t perform kegels regularly.
The Elvie instructed her to do these three exercises as follows: “[first] you lift, hold, and drop the “ball,” another requires you to pulse, and the third commands you to squeeze as hard as you can.” After regularly working out with her Elvie, Strauss claimed that it was easier for her to urinate and she felt more confident during sex, especially since she gave birth to her child. She explained that childbirth places a lot of stress on a woman’s pelvic floor. Because of this, a woman can experience leaking, uterine prolapse or incontinence. When vaginal muscles are stressed because of the birthing process, they either contract weakly, or not at all, during an orgasm. When this happens, a woman may not feel sexually satisfied after giving birth.
The Huffington Post also noted that stronger pelvic floor muscles help increase a woman’s libido. “When pelvic floor strengthening exercises are used, it creates a stronger genital mind connection, promoting more blood flow to the area. A stronger awareness can more easily put you in the mood when you otherwise might not be.”
Although vaginal strengthening is viewed in pop culture as a way for women to please men, it also helps women who have weak bladders or whose uterine walls are on the verge of collapsing. These health risks can cause discomfort and a woman’s uterus can even fall out of her vagina. Knowing this information, would you purchase the Elvie for $199 to for a stronger vagina?
Being in love is an enthralling experience, so much so that people often forget one day that vow to love one another in sickness and in health may be challenged and saying “I do” in that moment won’t be as easy as it was on your wedding day.
One woman recently wrote to Slate’s Dear Prudence column asking if she was wrong for divorcing her husband who’s slowly dying from brain cancer because she’s found herself in another relationship.
The woman revealed, “Four years ago, my sweet and loving husband, the awesome father of our three children, was struck down by brain cancer and suffered brain trauma following emergency surgery. I’ve cared for him at home, dealing with the hassles of hospitals, insurance, family drama (his parents blame me for his health issues). He will never recover and he is declining. It is like being married to a 41-year-old Alzheimer’s patient. He does not remember me, our long marriage, or our kids. I’m trying to place him in a nursing home, but there are waiting lists.”
As the wife’s relationship with her husband continued to dissolve because of his health issues, she met a man a year ago whom she fell in love with. At first, the two were friends and the man would help her with errands, household chores, rearing her children, and even caring for her husband. As they spent more time together, the woman and man became exclusive and she decided to divorce her ailing husband. As these plans unfolded, life threw a miraculous curveball. “ My boyfriend and I recently found out that, despite using protection, I’m pregnant. We are excited, as once I am legally able, we want to marry. My family is not happy, as in their eyes this is not appropriate, and they have been icing me out.”
Slate’s Prudence assertively responded congratulating the woman for her pregnancy and finding a supportive man. She also told the woman to have a conversation with her family members about their behavior to help bridge the gap that is widening between them. “As for your family, they deserve nothing but scorn for their attitude, and for apparently not being there to help you provide care for your husband and your suffering children, but I understand you don’t want to create a breach that would be even worse for the kids. I suggest you try to arrange for them to visit the grandparents. Your children need their extended family, and they also need a break from their dying father. Maybe that visit will provide a bridge to better communication.”
Interestingly, Prudence didn’t say much about the woman’s new relationship except for her to be prepared to raise children with a man she’s not married to. Marriage aside, I don’t think the woman’s budding relationship is necessarily wrong, though it raises an interesting question: If your spouse is physically bedridden and their health is declining, do you get a pass to cheat on them?
I’m sure the woman had no ill intent towards her husband as she pursued her new relationship. I can understand how frustrated she must’ve felt watching him succumb to the disease while raising their children alone with no familial help. In my opinion, her boyfriend is a supportive godsend. Though their relationship didn’t begin at an ideal time, I don’t believe in prolonging your happiness when it comes to getting the love you think you deserve, no matter how it looks to outsiders.
Should the woman have waited until her husband died to start a new life?
You thought you were being careful, but there’s no denying it. You’re late. From the moment you do the math to the moment you finally get to say, “Oh thank goodness, it’s here!” these are the wild thoughts that run through your head during a pregnancy scare.
Thirteen years ago, Ed Houben (pronounced who-been) decided to become a sperm donor because he doubted he would ever have a family of his own. As he became more comfortable with his side-occupation, Houben created a schedule where he visited the donation clinic twice a month. However, the Netherland’s citizen began to feel the process lacked intimacy. So, after donating in the icy atmosphere for the umpteenth time, Houben decided to create his own site offering artificial insemination services via house calls.
During his house calls, Houben would get to know his client/s and would then produce a sample of his sperm in their bathroom. The client/s would then insert his sperm into the syringe in order to get pregnant. However, during one visit, Houben’s procedure changed; instead of producing his sperm in a cup, the couple asked Houben to donate his sperm, the old-fashion way. Houben told GQ Magazine, the wife wanted to have sexual intercourse with him in order to expand her family because she felt artificial insemination was an impersonal process.
Interestingly enough, the woman’s husband joined her and Houben in bed, so he could be present when his child was conceived. “We were three persons in the bed, and I was so surprised that I didn’t know what to say. I had this combat inside—my head full of non-stimulating thoughts—but he never even accidentally touched me,” Houben reminisced to GQ. “He wanted to be present when his child was created.” Ever since that experience, Houben has been paid not only for his sperm donation but to travel across the world to help couples and single women create the miracle of life. Although Houben describes himself as “the truly ugly guy with glasses” and has not had a romantic relationship of his own in years, he has fathered over 106 children—something he thought he would never be able to do prior to becoming a sperm donor.
The BBC has hailed him as the “most virile man in Europe” and many in his local community call him the “Babymaker,” though many believe Houben is dismissing his morals and crossing boundaries between married couples. Houben explained his relationships with the women are just quasi-friendships and noted about 20 percent of the husbands are present while their wives and he engaged in sexual intercourse. Other husbands tend to wait outside the room or in the car. Houben also said many of these couples tried every reproductive procedure possible to get pregnant. So, after spending large amounts of money to help with their fertility issues, the option of having sex with another person to conceive a baby doesn’t seem that out of the question or ludicrous.
While I read about how Houben donates sperm, I found it interesting people judged him and the couples who use his services. Cultures and societies, alike, believe producing children is the greatest accomplishment for individuals to achieve. Though when couples are not able to attain that particular goal, they are shamed and ridiculed. By couples taking a more modern approach with how they define marriage and achieve parenthood, they can be more comfortable with their unconventional choices. It also doesn’t allow them to succumb to society’s trick of wanting people to have it all but objects to the options they need to gain what they desire.
Would you have sexual intercourse with a sperm donor in order to get pregnant?
There must be love in the air in Hollywood these days because so many celebrities are announcing that they’re knocked up. We thought babies weren’t coming until after cuffing season! Did you know all of these stars (and public figures) were expecting?
If you’re looking for your morning cry, I have just what you need, straight from Virginia couple Dana Griffin-Graves and her husband Arkell Graves.
The couple have been trying to get pregnant for the past 17 years with no luck. The Graves told WRIC, an ABC affiliate, that Dana had four miscarriages and suffered a stillbirth when the fetus was six months old. After so much devastation, the couple had given up their dream of getting pregnant.
But recently, Dana surprised her husband with some amazing news.
She prepared dinner and when Arkell walked in the kitchen to eat, she told him that there was some more stuff in the oven.
He opened it to find buns as well as pictures from her ultrasound.
I don’t want to ruin any more of the surprise. Check out the amazing moment and Arkell’s heartwarming reaction in the video she secretly recorded below.
Dana only suspected something was up when, after walking with her friends, she wasn’t losing weight like they were. When she went to the doctor, she learned not only was she pregnant, she was five months along. She immediately began scheming of a way to tell her husband. Since she was five months, she was able to tell him the sex of the child. Their baby boy is due on February 16.
She uploaded the video to YouTube with the caption:
Have your tissues ready! After 4 miscarriages and 1 stillborn birth, we had given up on the idea of having babies of our own, especially at our age…But God!
The video has since gone viral with over a 1.5 million views. Griffin-Graves said she is shocked by the way the video is being shared especially since she only sent the YouTube link to eight people.
“I thought that this was going to be for family only.”
Nope, we’re all sharing in this joy.
Arkell and Dana said these days strangers walk up to the couple already knowing a bit of their story.
Arkell recalled one incident in particular.
“A lady just came up to me and said you’re the big guy who was on there crying. Everything is going to be ok. I’m praying for you. You know in these times we need prayer. So I will take all the prayers I don’t care how they come.”
Dana told WRIC, she’s hoping her story can be a source of encouragement for others.
“It shows that God is able to do any and all things and so I’m grateful and I said if it can help someone else and give them hope that it can happen, then you know that’s what it’s about,”
If you’re like me and just can’t get enough of this sweetness, you can watch their WRIC interview here.
Congratulations to Arkell and Dana! We’re praying for them too.
Women and what we do with our bodies is always up for debate and discussion. Politicians have made it a point to want to tell women what they can/cannot do with their bodies. There have been plenty of discussions about abortion and whether or not the procedure should remain legal. As the Presidential campaign trail heats up, it is almost a guarantee that candidates will lean on this topic for support.
Social media brings a lot of issues to the forefront. With that being said, the #ShoutYourAbortion hashtag is currently trending and gaining steam. With Planned Parenthood and its services being challenged, more and more women are standing up to defend their legal right to choose.
The abortion debate has always been a hot topic. The #ShoutYourAbortion hashtag is drawing public discussion about women’s right to choose and why some women chose to abort. While many think that the main reason for terminating a pregnancy is “rape,” it isn’t. The majority of abortions are focused around finances, career, unstable relationships, lack of responsibility, and age. There are a myriad of reasons why women abort. Whether it’s about her career, bad timing, or the solution to an unplanned pregnancy, abortion is a legal choice that have gotten women out of some pretty sticky situations.
Please don’t get it twisted, abortion is not a method of birth control. Being responsible is taking the necessary precautions to prevent the pregnancy from happening in the first place. Those methods do fail hence putting a woman in the position to have to make such a decision. Not using birth control and turning to abortion to fix things is something the woman has to deal with. Whether it’s the pill or the surgical procedure to terminate the pregnancy, having multiple abortions is a bit much and definitely an abuse of the right to choose.
And what about the men? They are just as responsible in all of this. While their feelings should be considered when making a decision to terminate, a lot of they time they aren’t. Women will abort and not even mention it to their partner, if she knows he will not support her decision. The flip side to that is men aren’t carrying the baby. Men don’t have the same responsibilities so they can walk away at any time.
In the middle of all these arguments and debates is the fetus. There are some people who believe that an unborn fetus is a person and that its rights should be protected. Some women feel that if they abort early enough, in their mind, it’s not considered “killing a child.” Other people feel that life begins at conception. Others feel life begins once outside the womb. People have been charged with double murders when on trial for killing a pregnant woman. While the Unborn Victims of Violence Act of 2004 deems a ‘child in utero’ as a human being, there is no right answer for this. It all boils down to what a person believes.
This #ShoutYourAbortion hashtag is giving women the gusto to want to share their abortion story. Personally, I don’t think women need to explain nor share their decision. Since abortions are legal options for women, there shouldn’t be a need to judge a woman by her actions. The guilt of having had an abortion is a heavy burden to bear. While the choice is not an easy one to make, it makes life easier for some.
Are you ready to share your abortion story and #ShoutYourAbortion?
So mythical stories may not be your thing, but that doesn’t mean that some gender pregnancy practices don’t work at all. Some women chose to wait to know the sex until birth or until their baby showers but for others, finding out the sex of the baby is such a huge deal. Knowing the sex also allows you to plan a little when it comes to room decorating and knowing what to buy as far as the baby’s needs. But how can you find out the sex before your scheduled doctors visit two months from now? Well, many women have turned to the Chinese gender chart to help them find out the sex of their baby. The chart, according to its legend was an original manuscript that was buried in a royal tomb in China. This manuscript that was buried well over 700 years ago can now be found on display at the Beijing institute of Science and it is supposedly 93 percent accurate each time.
How To Use The Table
It’s really easy to use the table. You have to cross-reference your age (at conception) with your month of conception and the chart will tell you if you’re expecting a boy or a girl. So pick the month of conception on the left and use your finger to follow it along to your age and you will see a pink symbol or a blue symbol. You can google to find a chart or you can use WhatwillIhave.com because it combines the entertaining predictive features of many different baby calculators into one site. It’s a Chinese baby gender predictor, due date calculator, lunar age calculator and zodiac machine for moms-to-be.
The History Behind It
The Chinese Baby Gender Pregnancy Calendar Prediction Chart was published in Taiwanese newspapers in 1972. Since then, the Chinese Farmer’s Almanac publishes the Baby Gender Pregnancy Calendar Chart every year. It is said that the documents for the Ching () Dynasty’s Baby Gender Calendar Chart disappeared at the Emperor’s Summer Resort after the Ching Dynasty lost the battle with the Eight-Nation Alliance in 1900. The documents were then sent to Britain. After translating, since the original documents were written in the Manchu language, the King of Britain kept them as treasures. Later on, the documents appeared in Austria and a Chinese scholar saw them. He copied the contents, brought it back to China, and published them in the newspaper.
There are different stories circulating on the Internet about the Chinese Gender Pregnancy Chart. Some rumors say the chart was found in a tomb of loyal family of Ching Dynasty and was estimated around 700 hundred years old. Other rumors say the chart was found in the underground storage room of the Forbidden City of the Ching Dynasty. The chart was deduced from the theory of Yin Yang, Five Elements (Metal, Water, Wood, Fire and Earth) and Pa Kua (Eight Trigrams). Rumors also say that the Baby Gender Prediction Chart had been studied by the Chinese Academy of Sciences Research Center.
Let us know…have you tried it and did it work for you?