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If You Were Kandi, Would You Have Phaedra At The Hospital After You Gave Birth?

January 8th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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Earlier this week, we told you about the drama between Kandi, Phaedra and Todd. In case you missed it, basically both Todd and Kandi allege that Phaedra owes them money for a workout DVD Todd produced for her.

While many argued that Todd was only approaching her because he was short on cash and Phaedra was in a vulnerable position, with Apollo being incarcerated, Kandi took to her Instagram to announce that Todd had been trying to get that money since 2013.

Going on three years.

A mess.

Considering that Kandi made that last comment on Sunday of this week and we’re just a week and a day into 2016, it would seem that the issue has yet to be resolved.

So, I found it quite interesting that both Kandi and Phaedra posted a picture of them in the hospital together after the birth of her newborn son, Ace Wells Tucker.

If they’ve resolved the issue, that’s great.

But for the sake of argument for this article, let’s say they haven’t yet. And let’s also say that you’re Kandi. You just welcomed a new baby into the world. Knowing that you were once very close with Phaedra but your relationship has been strained as of late, would you still invite her to the hospital to welcome the arrival of your child.

And by strained, I mean not only does Phaedra owe you money your friend witnessed her publicly bashing your husband.

I don’t know about y’all, but I don’t think it could have been me. If Phaedra was a family member, I’d be able to excuse a few more things. But she’s not. She’s a friend. And I don’t know if I’d want someone who doesn’t respect my husband, his time or our money to be sitting up on my hospital bed (in her street clothes no less), posing and grinning for the cameras. Phaedra was sure to include the fact that she brought Kandi her famous chicken salad, along with some croissants.

Not saying that Phaedra is out to get Kandi or anything, but I wouldn’t have felt comfortable eating from her. But I’ve been known to be paranoid.

When I asked my coworkers this question, the answer was pretty split. Some of us wouldn’t have Phaedra in the room because she seems like a shady person and not too great of a friend.

The rest of my coworkers argued that when you have a new baby you’re probably so elated and happy that you’d welcome someone who you were once very close with to come share in that joy. Moments like births and deaths do have a way of making people think about the bigger picture.

If she did come through, armed with food and well wishes, she certainly could have stood by the side of the bed, instead of sitting all on my sheets.

What do you think? If you felt you had fallen out with your friend and felt she had disrespected your husband, would you welcome her or would you wait until you left the hospital to make things right?

Are You Afraid To Ask For Your Money?

January 4th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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If you watched the most recent episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” you saw Todd Tucker confront Phaedra Parks about some money she owed him for helping to produce her workout DVD. Y’all remember Donkey Booty. Anyway, Todd presented her with receipts showing that the checks she had sent to him were canceled.

I’m sure it was a little embarrassing for Phaedra.

Some viewers who tuned into the show, didn’t take too kindly to Todd approaching Phaedra. They felt that he was only doing so because he was pressed for money and waited to confront Phaedra about it once Apollo had been hauled off to prison.

And, while I don’t watch the show, I saw the reaction and thought what does it matter when he asked for his money, it’s his. The mere fact that he has to ask for it at all says more about Phaedra than it does about him.

Kandi saw the reaction; and in defense of her husband, she provided some receipts and a bit of backstory on her Instagram page.

In 2015 My husband @todd167 had 3 shows that he was executive producer on to air on 3 different networks. People lie but credits don't. Check the credits! We're trying to move past this petty bs about this workout DVD but it's always tough to watch the drama play out today over things we've supposedly worked out already. I just want to make things clear for people who are watching this episode of RHOA. My husband is great at what he does & he's been successful at it. People always talk shit on this show but I hate when they try to discredit him with lies. Let me just clear up something for y'all. Todd & Phaedra talked years ago when she was pregnant with Dylan about him helping her with production for her pregnancy DVD. He was doing it as a friend because he said they could do it way cheaper than the company she worked with on her 1st workout DVD. She approved the budget & she paid the first 2 payments but never paid the third for whatever reason. This was well before Apollo went to jail. Todd sent final invoice emails but there was just excuses & no payment. I told him not to worry about it & give her time. But now years have passed. You know how it is when you have a friend who owes you money but they come around with new shit all the time but never mentions your money… That's why he was irritated. So to everyone who is coming at us in the chat box saying my husband waited for her husband to go to jail to ask for his money as if he was scared to ask, that is absolutely not true. He's was asking long before. Just never got all his money. Simple…. And Todd was never being mean or disrespectful to her. He always remained cordial. The video was shot & finalized in 2013. She was suppose to give him the photo she wanted to put on the DVD menu & final payment back then…. It's 2016 people. I hope this gives y'all some clarity. #NoShade #AllFacts

A photo posted by Kandi Burruss (@kandiburruss) on

Well, well, well.

I’m a little biased toward Kandi. I’ve always liked her the most because she seemed to be the most honest and would own up to her mistakes if need be. That being said, it doesn’t seem like she’d lie about Phaedra not paying Todd from nearly three years ago. If she had, there would be no need to present receipts on cable television. But sometimes folks have to be embarrassed in order to do the right thing, especially people who are overly concerned with status and appearances.

But Phaedra, Kandi and Todd aside, money is a sensitive subject. And I wondered if some of you have ever had to return to a close friend or family member to ask for the money you lent them. If you’re anything like me, it’s generally not a pleasant experience. There’s something so frustrating about attempting to hold a grown person accountable. Trying to show someone how to be a man or woman of their word is something he or she should have learned during childhood. And the possibility of insinuating something about a person’s morals and values, in asking for your own money, could offend someone you care about. And you obviously care about them otherwise you wouldn’t have loaned them money.

I’ve noticed that men have an easier time asking for their money than women do. In this and many other societies, women are conditioned to please, while men are commended and rewarded for speaking plainly, no matter whose feelings get hurt in the process. I once watched a man I was dating ask his roommate for his half of the rent, in front of me. He wasn’t rude about it. But I was amazed at the fact he’d done it so casually, and in front of me no less.  Shouldn’t that conversation have happened in private? Apparently, that wasn’t necessary. And within minutes, he had his money.

The only example I have of a woman getting assertive when someone owed her money, was my grandmother. Apparently, she loaned my aunt some money and when she hadn’t paid it back, after being repeatedly asked for it, my grandmother took her to small claims court. Harsh, right? Well, she got her money. And though I’m sure their relationship might have been strained for a while after, they eventually came back together.

And I think that’s the point. If the relationship is strong enough, it’ll be able to withstand you asking for your own money back. Anybody who would look at you crazy for you trying to get what you’re owed, probably wasn’t down for you in the first place.

Serious Question: Do You Judge People Who Date Before The Divorce Is Final?

December 14th, 2015 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Phaedra Parks appeared on Sunday night’s episode of “Watch What Happens Live” alongside Patti LaBelle. During the show, a fan asked the soon-to-be divorced mother of two whether or not she plans to begin dating again in the near future. The “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star’s answer was simple: yes, but only after the divorce is final.

“Um, when I get divorced,” Parks, whose divorce is “in process,” said before flashing her wedding ring. “I’m still married.”

LaBelle and Parks’ mother, Pastor Regina Bell, who also appeared on the episode, applauded the reality star for that decision. The matriarchs in my family would certainly echo this sentiment if they were in on the conversation. They maintain a pretty solid stance when it comes dating married folk—even if those married folk are in the process of getting divorced.

“No matter how you slice it up, it’s adultery in the eyes of God,” is what they would say if they were a part of that discussion.

Being young and having zero relationship experience and minimal life experience of my own, I didn’t bother establishing my own opinions on the topic. I adopted the stance of my relatives, which seemingly stems from the Bible, without ever really putting much thought into it. But after spending a hot two minutes in the real world, my feelings began to sway, slightly. I got to know a beautiful couple; they’ve been in a loving and happy relationship for about ten years. Both are close to 50 years of age and the man is still married to a woman he tied the knot with in his 20s. His explanation for still being married: his estranged wife won’t grant him a divorce. She lives on the other side of the country, and they split long before he met his current partner, whom he wishes to marry but can’t until things are settled with his ex. I couldn’t imagine anyone looking down on them because of their situation. But perhaps it’s because I know and love them.

While I could certainly see how getting romantically involved with a person while you’re still technically married to someone else could get pretty messy, is it old-fashioned to expect people to wait until the state recognizes that their marriage is over before they try dating again?

Noirettes, please weigh in.

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Should You Take Children To See Their Parent In Prison?

June 22nd, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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Apollo Nida had a very lonely Father’s Day.

According to TMZ, Phaedra Parks did not bring the estranged couple’s two sons to see their father this past weekend.

Sources told TMZ that Parks is taking advice from psychologists who have said it wouldn’t be good for her four-year-old son Ayden or her one-year-old son Dylan to see their father locked up because they’re so young.

Though the boys couldn’t be there in person, they sent Apollo cards with pictures of what they’d been doing recently.

Phaedra also hasn’t visted Nida, though a source claims that she puts money on his books so he can makes purchases at commissary.

Nida is currently serving an eight-year prison sentence for stolen checks and money laundering.

This story breaks my heart. Of course it is Apollo’s consistently poor decisions that have separated him from his family; still, being kept away from his children just seems like adding insult to injury. While I understand that seeing a parent in jail might be a traumatic experience for a child, the alternative of not seeing your father during your crucial, developmental years, is also unhealthy.

I wonder how long does Phaedra plan to keep the three away from one another.

Though this is certainly not a position any wife and mother would ever want to find herself in, I think there are some advantages to Phaedra and Apollo’s sons being too young to fully comprehend what’s going on in their family. I’m sure traveling to prison can be a dark and depressing experience for someone who fully understands their loved one’s loss of freedom. But a four-year-old and certainly a one-year-old don’t have that same type of awareness. Perhaps they’ll just appreciate the chance to touch and see their father.

While I’m sure leaving is painful and unpleasant, having to tell Ayden over and over again that he can’t see his father and having Dylan know his father only through pictures around the house really isn’t much better.

This is no shade to Phaedra because I really can’t even imagine what this might feel like. Still, I’d like to think in a similar situation I wouldn’t deprive my children any more than they have to be in this unfortunate situation.

What do you think about Phaedra’s decision to keep her boys away from Apollo to prevent psychological damage? Is this the decision you would make if placed in a similar predicament?

Phaedra Parks Talks Apollo, RHOA, and Her Mortician Work

April 18th, 2015 - By Rich
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Phaedra Parks is known by many for her role on The Real House Wives of Atlanta but she was successful way before the show. Phaedra Parks is an entertainment attorney and television show producer. As the Managing Partner of The Parks Group, P.C., in Atlanta, Georgia, she practices law in the areas of Entertainment, Intellectual Property Rights, Civil and Criminal Litigation.

In addition to her passion for law and entertainment, she also loves giving back. Phaedra actively sits on the boards of the American Heart Association’s Go Red for Women, the University of Georgia’s Donald L. Hollowell Professorship Endorsement Committee, and the University of Georgia’s Law School Alumni Counsel. She is also a philanthropic partner with Cool Girls and Jane Fonda’s Georgia Campaign for Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention (G-CAPP).

She is also the wife to Apollo, also a character on RHOA, and mother to Ayden and Dylan. Phaedra Parks came on “The Steve Harvey Show” recently to talk about life after Apollo’s jailing, her mortician work and who supported her among her cast members.

Steve asks Phaedra if the other housewives have been supportive of her and she said:

“To answer that, they really haven’t been. Well, I can’t say all of them haven’t been,” she said. “Well, I can’t say all of them haven’t been. Porsha and NeNe have been very supportive, but they have been through similar situations. Not like mine, no prison or anything like that, but they’ve had situations in their marriages and relationships that were very difficult that played out in public.

“And so NeNe, you know, she has been the person who has called me every day, sent me texts just to make sure I was ok and just really been very supportive. You know, we’re not the best of friends, but she has been a wonderful friend throughout this ordeal.”

To see the full interview visit SteveHarvey.com

Phaedra Parks, Sarah Jakes And Gaining Your Vulnerability

March 27th, 2015 - By Kendra Koger
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After watching Phaedra Parks’ journey throughout this season of RHOA, I felt that things had really come full circle for her on Sunday night’s episode. She sat down with T.D. Jakes’ daughter, Sarah Jakes to let it all out about her marriage to Apollo Nida, and to find healing.  The thing that really got me was when both women expressed a loss of agency when explaining how they felt like they weren’t allowed to be vulnerable in their relationships. Both women felt that they were under a greater level of scrutiny for their decisions because their former relationships played out in a public manner, and because they are both preacher’s kids.

Even though their situations did play out in a manner in which many of us can’t relate to, I still feel that this issue is something that most women can relate to: the loss of vulnerability.

Many people criticized Parks as they watched her marriage implode. They felt that the self-proclaimed Southern belle didn’t act as if she cared too much about what was going on with Nida. But to me, she seemed to be putting on a brave face because she didn’t want people to see her sweat. I hope that Sunday’s episode allowed people to see just how taxing the situation was on her, and I also hope it shed light on the reality of losing your vulnerability in a tough relationship.

As women, we get a lot of flack for being too emotional, and then we’re judged unfairly if we don’t show enough emotion in certain situations.  When a man is emotional, he’s seen as “passionate,” whereas women have insults thrown at us to explain our “behavior.” For reasons such as this, when times get tough a little too often, some women will display a stiff upper lip because people are watching in order to see us crack and fall.

As women, we might be more sensitive to other people’s views of us.  We’re very aware that we’re being watched by others, and that has the ability put a damper on how we approach tough situations.  However, I don’t think that it’s fair for us to have to taper our emotions based on what other people might think.

The tragically beautiful thing about life is that our emotions allow us to express how we truly feel, so it’s not fair to be robbed of that.  That puts us in a position where other people control our reactions to things, as opposed to listening to our own hurt and finding a way to heal in a way that’s best for us.

I feel as though allowing ourselves to lose our vulnerability just exacerbates our problems. Instead of dealing with our emotions, we’re too busy trying to suppress them, which eventually makes us weaker.

I’m not saying that you need to cry for everyone to see it, but you’re doing a disservice to yourself by holding in your emotions.  If you’re sad, feel it.  If you’re happy, feel that too.

Let’s be honest here: Displaying your emotions won’t make your problems go away, but neither does acting as if you’re devoid of feelings.  At the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you, and if you feel like walking around with a frown on because you don’t want to fake it for others, then do that.  There’s power in being vulnerable and honest with yourself about how you’re feeling. In that power you’re expressing that you’re not ashamed of feeling hurt or sad, and you shouldn’t be.

Gain your power back, and feel free to express your true emotions when you deem it necessary.  As Jakes and Parks both shared with viewers, being robbed of your vulnerability is akin to being imprisoned, and no one wants to spend unnecessary time being punished for something so natural.

“I’ll Just Put It On After He’s Asleep”: Kandi Says She And Todd Came To A Compromise About Her Bonnets

March 4th, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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Last week we showed you a preview clip of “Real Housewives of Atlanta.” In it, Kandi and Todd were conversing about the lack of sex they’ve been having lately. If you’ve been keeping up with this season, you already know that Kandi said they were only doing it once a week, which isn’t good considering that they’re supposed to be in the process of trying to have a child. But as their correspondence went on that lack of sex, Todd blamed the fact that Kandi stays with a bonnet on her head as the reason why he can’t get in the mood.

Todd: “Let’s be real. I’m not Tyson Beckford and you’re not Rihanna. When’s the last time you didn’t have the bonnet on and you put some heels on?” 

Kandi: “I had the bonnet on my hair before we got married and it was not a problem.”

Todd: “If I say the bonnet doesn’t turn me on, you gotta be like ‘You know what well maybe I don’t need the bonnet on.’ Like, you have to compromise.”

We all know that this scene was filmed last year, so at this point, they should have been able to figure out this whole bonnet-rocking situation. In her weekly Bravo blog, Kandi says they are trying to come to some sort of resolution that works for them both. When asked if she was shocked by Todd putting her beloved bonnet on blast, the star responded by saying that he’s been talking crazy about her bonnet for some time now.

“No, I wasn’t surprised. He’s always talking crap about my bonnet. That’s nothing new. We’re coming to a compromise about the bonnet. I’ll just put it on after he’s asleep.”

Kandi was also asked about the growing rift in her friendship with Phaedra, which has grown because she wasn’t there for her friend during Apollo’s legal and emotional troubles. It became obvious that things weren’t in a good place not only when Kandi went to Phaedra’s house, but also when the group dinner went left:

“Honestly I was just over it. Every time we all get together there has to be some lame ass ‘tea’ spilled, and I’m just tired of it. Seeing Phaedra jump up was shocking, but clearly she wasn’t really going to hit Kenya and Kenya definitely wasn’t going to do anything.

What tripped me out was hearing Porsha and Phaedra make me out to be the enemy because I left the table two seconds later than they did. That just felt like they said, ‘Hey, we’re going to put Kandi in the middle of this drama in some way.’ Well if Phaedra is really going to play into this whole “Kandi’s not my friend because she didn’t jump into my argument and run out the room faster than me,’ then OK… So be it.”

She also admitted that she’s not crazy about Phaedra’s growing relationship with NeNe, but she’s willing to be understanding and supportive.

“Of course I’m skeptical. NeNe has been nice these last few months, but that does not make me forget the years of drama and insults that have come from her in the past. Yes, I get that people change, but it’s OK for me to proceed with caution as I would’ve thought Phaedra would. Well, hopefully things will continue to be great with them and NeNe can continue to be Phaedra’s rock.”

As for what Phaedra thinks, in her own Bravo blog she stated that NeNe only has good intentions. In fact, she says that NeNe called her daily when she was going through a lot with Apollo while folks like Kandi didn’t.

“I consider NeNe a good friend. We have not always been on the same page, however we have found a common ground of being like-minded, successful entrepreneurs and mothers of sons. When I needed a friend the most, she was there and I will always remember that. It is easy to find friends when life is going well, but it is the ones who are willing to support you during the storms that matter. During the months when my life was spinning out of control, NeNe called me every single day to see how I was doing despite her busy schedule. She sent encouraging text messages when she could not reach me. I was grateful that I had her and Porsha in my corner because they helped me through some of my most difficult days.”

Interesting…

While there’s nothing wrong with NeNe and Phaedra growing closer, I just hope that her friendship with Kandi doesn’t fall apart in the process. They’ve been down for too long for all that.

 

“I Don’t Know How I All Of A Sudden Became The Enemy”: Has Kandi Been A Bad Friend To Phaedra?

March 2nd, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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If you watched last night’s episode of “RHOA,” I’m sure you were just as frustrated with the ladies as I was. I was irritated not only by how thirsty folks were to put Phaedra on blast in front of everyone about cheating rumors, but also by the fact that all of a sudden, everyone is out here trying to make Kandi seem like a manipulative frenemy.

If you’ll recall, early in the episode, Kandi visited Phaedra after admitting that she hadn’t seen her in a while. Phaedra seemed happy about the visit, but during her confessional, she kept bringing up the fact that Kandi really hadn’t been there for her and that she learned who her real friends are during Apollo’s legal drama.

As the episode went on, we saw Phaedra almost throw her purse at Kenya’s head over allegations that Phae Phae had been cheating on Apollo. People, including Porsha, questioned why Kandi didn’t try and defend Phaedra from the inappropriate inquiries about whether or not she was cheating, and why she didn’t sit on the same side of the table as her friend (instead, she sat next to Claudia, Cynthia and Kenya). As previews for next week’s episode show, Kandi will continue to be questioned about her loyalty to Phaedra.

After last night’s episode, Kandi proved be pretty peeved with all the people coming for her, including both her cast mates and individuals on Twitter who said things like this:

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So she decided to respond. She explained her side and also let it be known that she has no issues with Phaedra and NeNe getting close. However, considering the questionable things that NeNe has said and done in the past, she’s not sold on Mrs. Leakes…

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While I’m sure that Phaedra could have used all the support she could get from Kandi and the ladies in general, Kandi has had issues with her play, her mom (as usual) and her own marriage, so she has to take care of home first…

Do you feel like Kandi is wrong for not being as supportive as Phaedra had hoped she would be? Do you think she should have stepped up in some way during the dinner confrontation? Speak on it.

NeNe And Claudia Bicker, Demetria And Phaedra Make Peace, And Porsha’s Married African Boo Is Put On Blast: RHOA Ep. 11

January 18th, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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In this week’s episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” more shade is thrown in Puerto Rico, apologies are handed out, accusations are made about folks dating married African men, and Demetria finally has her time to shine. Let’s chat about everything that went down between the ladies in RHOA Ep. 11 and finally figure out who the real puppetmaster is…

“Your Cl*t Has Left Your Body!”: Phaedra’s Shade, NeNe’s Wrath And Claudia’s Toes Are Unleashed In Puerto Rico: RHOA Ep. 10

January 12th, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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I don’t know why these ladies go on group getaways together, knowing good and well they can’t stand one another. But producers already know that sandy beaches and sunshine seem to bring out the worst in the women of Real Housewives of Atlanta. Case in point, tonight’s episode…

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Claudia Brings Out The Worst Toes We’ve Ever Seen…

A trip to Puerto Rico (courtesy of Demetria/Roger Bobb) calls for strappy sandals and heels, but unfortunately for Claudia, her toes don’t need to see the light of day. She pulls them out during a visit to the podiatrist in the hopes that a miracle can be worked on her bunion and corns, which she admits are “disgusting.” But there’s no quick fix for her problem. And Kenya, who is supposed to be there for support, does nothing but laugh at Claudia’s “snowcapped mountains” for toes.