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Is Phaedra Parks making this the most petty time of the year or ushering in a new era as a fabulous single mother? Opinions are mixed when looking at the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star’s 2014 Holiday card.
Phaedra and her family have always put out Christmas cards this time of year, which included patriarch Apollo Nida, but this year Phaedra seems to be making the point that one monkey don’t stop no show, releasing this adorable pink and white preciousness featuring only her and her sons Dylan and Ayden. Apollo, of course,wouldn’t have been available for a photo shoot as he’s just begun serving his eight-month prison sentence for fraud. But do you think Phaedra is sending a clear message about her relationship status with this card or simply carrying on with life as normal? Either way, she looks great.
“This Isn’t Right”: Apollo Blasts Phaedra For Keeping Him From His Sons In Prison; Says If She Divorces Him, He’s Coming For Her Money
As my colleague said (hey Jazmine!), I’ve never seen someone do as many interviews from prison as Apollo Nida has since he turned himself in back in September. But hey, you have to find a way to make those eight years go by fast, right?
In an interview with InTouch Weekly, Nida said that he’s very hurt that Phaedra Parks has kept him from seeing his sons, Ayden and Dylan, while he’s been in prison. Despite the fact that she told him she wouldn’t bring their sons inside of a prison before he turned himself in, I guess he never really thought she was serious. But after almost three months inside, he’s emotional about the fact that he can’t see his boys:
“I can’t see why she would continue to hurt me by not allowing me to see my boys. This isn’t right. If I don’t see my children for eight years, that would be some bullsh*t and I would fight for that right!
Who in their right mind would allow children to be away from their father for eight years, regardless of where their father is in the world?”
He also says that he is hopeful that she will hold off from divorcing him while he’s in prison, but if she does try to end things, we should all expect things to get very ugly between them:
“I’ve asked Phaedra not to leave me while I’m in here. If she leaves, it would hurt like hell, but as Apollo Nida has done before, I’ll just have to pick myself back up and move forward and figure it out.
I will not walk away empty-handed.”
Oh, Apollo…I really need him not to talk about people not allowing him to see his 4-year-old and 18-month-old sons in prison, especially when it was his own poor decisions that took him away from his children in the first place. But hey, that’s just what I think.
What about you?
Phaedra Parks Says Kenya Moore Still Can’t Be Trusted: “Her Consistent Actions Speak Louder Than Apollo’s Words”
Although Apollo Nida confessed that he was being dishonest when he accused Kenya Moore of offering him sexual favors, Phaedra Parks says that this does not prove Kenya to be a trustworthy person. In fact, she says that Apollo’s scathing allegation was just one of many factors that pitted her against her co-star.
“I moved past this years ago,” the soon-to-be divorced reality star told Bravo. “Unfortunately, Kenya has continued to harp on this matter in order to remain relevant. Some of us have jobs and families to keep our minds and lives fully occupied.”
“Kenya’s consistent behavior from inappropriately interacting with married men to screaming at people, who are in close proximity, through a bullhorn is unacceptable and independent of anything Apollo may or may not have done or said. In short, as it relates to whom and how Kenya is, her consistent actions speak louder than Apollo’s words.”
When asked if she’ll ever be able to “wipe the slate clean” with Kenya and start over, Phaedra had this to say:
“It depends how you define the term ‘wipe the slate clean.’ If that means I’ve let all the craziness go and moved on with my life, then yes. If that means we’re going to be friends and I believe Kenya was somehow wronged, then no.
After Apollo said he had been lying, Kenya has been doing the vindication dance and expecting the rest of us to have an epiphany that she is a wonderful human being. The fact remains that Kenya often acts in an inappropriate, disrespectful, and unbecoming manner towards a lot of people. And has done so for quite some time. As such, it is irrelevant whether Apollo was lying back then, or is lying about lying now.”
Well, that’s that.
“I’m Dumb Because I Thought You Were A Real F**king Friend”: NeNe And Cynthia Finally Come Face-To-Face; RHOA Recap Ep. 5
On this week’s episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” all the ladies finally come face-to-face for the first time this season (minus newbie Claudia Jordan) to hash out their issues, and let’s just say that there wasn’t a kumbaya moment for anybody…
Let’s chat about what went down!
Claudia Gets A Visit From Kenya And Talk Apollo
Claudia Jordan, who I can say that I like so far, starts this week’s show with a visit from Kenya Moore. Jordan’s new ATL apartment is pretty awesome, and includes some amazing views of the city–the only thing missing is some furniture. So when Kenya comes buy, dressed up in a maxi and some Louboutins, Jordan gets her to help put together some pieces while she waits for the rest of her furniture to arrive. During their building (or lack thereof), Moore tells her that despite Apollo Nida’s apology, many of the women in the cast think that Nida lied about lying on her. Jordan defends her friend, saying, “You’re not a liar. You’re not a whore. A little cray cray? Yes. A little ashy? Yes.”
After it was revealed on episode two that Apollo Nida lied on Kenya Moore about meeting him in Los Angeles and offering him a blow job, Kenya Moore was hopeful that her reputation would be redeemed. She was also hopeful that everyone who called her a “whore” would finally see her in another light.
But not so fast.
NeNe Leakes shared on Sunday night’s episode that she thinks Apollo actually lied about lying on Kenya, and that they did in fact engage in something inappropriate. In her mind, she thinks that in an attempt to hurt Phaedra, Apollo bent the truth in order to make Kenya look good, and Phaedra look bad (and in the end, make himself look worse). Later on in the episode, when Kenya found out about this theory, she broke down crying in anger over the fact that the ladies were “still trying to throw dirt on me.”
In her Bravo blog, Phaedra shared her thoughts on NeNe’s theory, and said it’s not so farfetched…
Given the circumstances, I believe that NeNe was being a very supportive friend to me. Hurt people, hurt people. And NeNe observed that Apollo was coming from a place of anger and self-inflicted pain. All in all, I think NeNe made a fair observation. She has also witnessed Kenya’s unladylike, disrespectful behavior with men so it was easy for her, and anyone else, to conclude that Kenya is not innocent. There has been so much lying and manipulation going on and it is not a constructive use of my time to keep score. In the end, it really doesn’t matter to me whether Apollo was telling the truth about what happened with Kenya. What matters to me is that I have two fine young boys who are growing up without a father, and the person I thought was going to be my life partner decided to take another path.
She also said that she wasn’t moved by Kenya’s emotional breakdown at the end of the episode. In her mind, Kenya was trying to play victim as usual:
Kenya is being Kenya; twirling on an emotional rollercoaster in an effort to gain sympathy. Playing victim is a tool of distraction people use to get others to forget the role they played in a situation. Kenya wants everyone to forget that she is the person who brought up the texts in the first place (and beat the subject to death), flaunted inappropriate, flirty behavior with numerous men, and repeatedly lied about her male suitors or lack thereof. You cannot make it so easy for people to believe salacious stories about you and then expect pity when one story may not be true.
And when asked what she thought about Apollo putting their past on blast (including his claims that Phaedra was visiting him in the projects and sleeping on a blowup mattress with him when he got out of jail the first time), she kept her comments concise:
All you needed was one more person and it could have been a Three Stooges movie.
Well, one person who actually believes that Apollo lied is blogger Funky Dineva. He gets along with a few ladies from the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” cast, specifically Phaedra and Apollo. So when Apollo started saying that Kenya came on to him, Funky Dineva, like many people, believed him. Because of his friendliness with Phaedra, the blogger often talked quite ugly about Kenya in his stories, and she at one point, threatened to sue him. But now that Apollo has said that he lied, Dineva decided that it was only right to apologize to Kenya, and do so publicly on his blog:
Dear Kenya Moore,
Let me start off by saying when I found out that you would be joining the cast of The Real Housewives of Atlanta I was overjoyed. I kept thinking OMG that history making beauty queen lady is really going to add some class and legitimacy to RHOA. Boy was I wrong. Much to my dismay, Kenya you are crazy as hell. All things constant, you fit right on with the ladies perfectly. Adding further insult to disappointment, when Apollo said what he said about you, I went from side-eyeing you, to closing my eyes on you altogether. I’m cool with Phaedra and Apollo, and just like the other ladies, I took what Apollo said as the gospel and treated you as such. For that I am sorry. Unlike Apollo was able to do, let me be specific. I am sorry my role in perpetuating the notion that you were a whore and tried to sleep with Apollo. I’m sorry for the mass dissemination of information that may have painted you in a whore light, albeit I did not know the information was false, and was just reporting what I saw on the television. Lastly, I apologize for really not giving you a fair chance because I thought you were trying to suck my friend’s husband dick. I’m sorry.
Now don’t get it twisted, I still borderline don’t see it for you. To be honest, every time you tootsie roll your ass across my screen I roll my eyes so hard that I’m now blind in my left eye, and developing cataracts in the right. Quiet a its kept, I might need to sue your ass (the way you threatened to sue me READ : Kenya Moore Threatens To Sue Blogger Funky Dineva For Exposing Her – Ohhh You Mad Huh?) because My Obama care package did not include vision insurance, and I need my vision to continue to throw shade at you in the future and make coins off it. Hopefully this whole Apollo revelation will open the door to me one day seeing it for you. Only time will tell, but I did want to offer up an apology. Again, I’m sorry…
Funky Dineva Ross
P.S., You are slaying these hoes with your confessional looks!!
What are your thoughts on all these new statements?
“Cynthia Should Be Setting An Example”: Phaedra Parks And Kandi Burruss Criticize Cynthia’s Behavior With Porsha; Cynthia Responds
As we told you on Monday, Cynthia Bailey received some criticism from people for the way she handled things when she sat down with Porsha Williams to deal with their issues on this most recent episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta.” If you’ll recall, after Williams came an hour late for their lunch, Bailey laid into her. Already pissed about her wasted time, Bailey wasn’t holding back and defended herself from being called a flip-flopper by throwing some jabs Williams’ way about her face being long and her intelligence. It looks like Bailey is done dealing with people’s disrespect, but others say she’s doing the most to keep her job by drumming up the drama.
Well, it turns out that a few of her castmates aren’t too pleased with her behavior. Phaedra Parks wrote in her Bravo blog that Bailey’s tone was disrespectful throughout the entire conversation.
“The exchange between Porsha and Cynthia during this week’s episode was disappointing. I have always thought of Cynthia as a nice person, but her behavior last night was unbecoming. Porsha was late and I understand Cynthia’s frustration. However, as Porsha’s elder, Cynthia should be setting an example. None of us are perfect, but we can all strive to be better. Also, timing and tone are often more important than the content of a message. It is unfortunate that the content and intention of the communication were lost due to a distracting tone and premature timing.”
Kandi Burruss agreed that Cynthia did a bit too much, but felt that she’s kind of damned if she does and damned if she doesn’t. When she doesn’t defend herself, she’s criticized for being a doormat, but when she does, she’s criticized for being rude.
“Cynthia is a sweet person, but I think people have called her a follower and have taken her kindness for weakness for so long that she just wants to let everybody know that she’s not weak. Therefore every time she feels the slightest bit of disrespect, she goes overboard trying to put that person in check. Now she comes off as this mean girl. It’s like she can’t win for losing — if she’s too nice, she’s weak, and if she’s too aggressive, she’s a bi**h.”
But what does Cynthia Bailey think of how things played out on camera? She finally spoke up and defended herself on her Bravo blog, saying that the only thing she would change is the fact that she didn’t leave after Williams was 15 minutes late instead of an hour.
“I have known Porsha for a couple of years now, and we have never had any real issues until this last reunion. To my knowledge our only issue is I did not support her actions at the reunion. I have always made it clear that the reunion is a provocative environment for everyone involved. I adamantly did not support her choice to resort to physical violence, and I never will. Shortly after, she did WWHL, and claimed that I supported her actions and then I didn’t support her actions. I do not support physical violence. Period! I thought this was clear out the gate during the reunion, when I did not jump off the couch to run to her side.
I feel an ongoing issue in this group of ladies is the blatant disrespect for people’s time. It is just rude and inappropriate. It also says a lot about a person to have no regard for another person’s time (no call or text) and feel no need to apologize. I find this behavior extremely irritating and actually offensive. Looking back, I never should have allowed my frustration to take me out of character. What could have been a respectful and cordial conversation between two grown women ended up being a pointless waste of time. My mistake was not leaving after the customary 15 minute grace period.”
What do you think about what all of the ladies had to say about Bailey’s behavior?
On Sunday’s episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” viewers saw Apollo Nida go out of his way at Cynthia Bailey’s Ebony magazine spread party to apologize to Kenya Moore. In an attempt to wipe his slate clean before going to jail, he admitted that he lied about the nature of their relationship to Phaedra Parks and to the public. Moore never offered him a blow job, and she never encountered him in Los Angeles as he had claimed for two years.
We told you that Moore felt vindicated by his admission, but still was hoping that Parks would apologize sometime in the future for calling her a ‘whore’ based on a lie:
“Phaedra has called me a whore 99 different ways. As I stated, I may be a lot of things, but I have never been anyone’s whore. Even if she chose to believe her husband, she never checked his story out before publicly slandering and defaming me. As a lawyer herself, I was appalled she would behave in such a way. Apollo clearly has the propensity to lie. With that said, Phaedra chose not to even speak to me about it at all, prohibiting me to even have a response, prove my innocence, or defend myself. Yet, she was more than willing to go to the media to spread this fictitious story.”
But after finding out the truth, what did Parks think of that whole scene and situation? In her Bravo blog, she kept her thoughts on that messiness concise and clean:
“I was unmoved. Right now, I am completely focused on my children and keeping them, and myself for that matter, in a stable, healthy, and happy place. I am not paying attention to any of the chaos that is going on, because it’s not productive.”
Guess that means Moore isn’t getting that apology she wanted from Phae Phae. But who really thought she would…?
Kenya Moore Speaks On Apollo’s Lies, Why She Was Dead Wrong For Texting A Married Man, But Why Phaedra Still Owes Her An Apology
If you watched Sunday’s episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” you know that Apollo Nida surprised a lot of people by apologizing to Kenya Moore. Turns out, he lied for about two years now when he said that Kenya Moore had come onto him when they supposedly saw each other in L.A., and she even tried to offer him fellatio. All lies. He admitted that he was pissed off with her after she put him on blast for texting him behind Phaedra’s back during the season five reunion show, so he didn’t think twice about making her out to be a homewrecker.
On Sunday’s episode, Moore said she felt vindicated but would feel even more vindicated if she could get an apology from Phaedra for calling her a wh*re and more for so long. In this week’s RHOA blog, she spoke on Apollo’s apology, regretting her poor choice to text him without Phaedra’s knowledge, and why she thinks Phaedra should say sorry for helping to spread Apollo’s lies.
If you are tired of the “Apollo and Kenya” drama, imagine how I feel. This feud goes all the way back to a business deal gone bad. From that point on, Phaedra started to malign my character and drag my good name through the mud. According to her, I then became an alcoholic, bipolar, and broke. She added home wrecking whore to her list after I outed Apollo for texting me without her knowledge.
I was wrong for responding to Apollo’s text knowing Phaedra and I were not friends at the time or if people believed it was more. The texts were innocent and I have proven that, and I have apologized to Phaedra publicly many times. We all make mistakes and I can admit when I am wrong, apologize, and hopefully, never repeat the same behavior.
I have proclaimed many times that I never saw Apollo in Los Angeles or any other place outside of RHOA. Ever. Therefore, the lie he told about seeing me at a party and according to Phaedra, later showing up at his LA hotel and subsequently offering him fellatio, never happened. I have never wanted Apollo, never offered him sexual favors.
Phaedra has called me a whore 99 different ways. As I stated, I may be a lot of things, but I have never been anyone’s whore. Even if she chose to believe her husband, she never checked his story out before publicly slandering and defaming me. As a lawyer herself, I was appalled she would behave in such a way. Apollo clearly has the propensity to lie. With that said, Phaedra chose not to even speak to me about it at all, prohibiting me to even have a response, prove my innocence, or defend myself. Yet, she was more than willing to go to the media to spread this fictitious story. Imagine how I felt having my family or 5-year-old nieces ask my [sic] why I would do something like that?
The same people who do the most talking and the most damage fall silent when they are proven wrong. The negative headlines become global when it’s something negative. Yet, when the truth is revealed, no one has anything to say. Porsha stated on WWHL she believed “something happened,” NeNe stated I lied to Phaedra on the recent WWHL episode, and Kandi stated that she “looked at me differently” but would never say why. Do I deserve an apology? Yes, without question. Will I get one? …Have I ever?
After the truth came out, some people still felt that something did indeed happen between Apollo and Kenya. I’m not so sure about all that. I do think she inappropriately flirted with him on the show, but did so just to get under people’s skin. I don’t think she really has any interest in him…No matter what though, everyone involved in this messy triangle was wrong.
But that’s just my thought. What do you make of her statements? Do you think Phaedra should apologize too?
At this point, we were all pretty convinced that thing were over between Phaedra Parks and Apollo Nida, but according to the troubled reality TV husband, there’s a possibility that their marriage will be saved. In his first interview from behind bars, Apollo told InTouch Weekly that he and Phae Phae are now on speaking terms.
“Yes, we’ve had problems — especially over the last year — but we’ve gotten on terms now where I can call her and it’s cordial,” the father of two explained.
Not only is he allowed to call his estranged wife, but he also claims that they speak frequently. Apparently, this are going so well that he’s under the impression that their marriage has a chance of surviving his lengthy prison stint.
“I’m hopeful that we can stick things out.”
Apollo says that the pair has been discussing Phaedra bringing their two sons, Dylan and Ayden, up to the prison to see him.
“There’s a plan to get them up here.”
Unfortunately, it appears that Apollo’s wish for reconciliation may be nothing more than that—a wish. According to Phaedra’s publicist, the divorce is still on. He did, however, admit that the attorney is considering taking the boys to see their father.
“The divorce is proceeding as planned,” her rep explained. “While Phaedra and the boys [Ayden, 4, and Dylan, 18 months] do speak with Apollo regularly, there have been absolutely no discussions about reconciling.”
While I would hope that Phae Phae’s publicist is simply misinformed and Phaedra and Apollo have been trying to work things out, the chances of her rep releasing a statement on this sensitive matter without her approval is unlikely. As previously reported, when asked if she would proceed with the divorce while Apollo is still behind bars, Phaedra replied with a simple “I don’t know.”
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Like my last article addressing Apollo and Phaedra, I must start this off by saying that I have no idea what their marriage was like. All I can do is speculate, because, like in most marriages, the only people who know what really happened are the two people involved. With the use of reality television you get somewhat of an insight, but even that’s flawed, because you only see what the people involved, the cameras, and the editors show.
Now that I got all of that out of the way, can I just say that I think that some people are being a little too hard on Ms. Parks.
When Apollo was first arrested, and with the release of Ms. Stanton’s book, a lot of people said that Phaedra had to have known. There was also the phrase of: “Where did she think the money was coming from?” and “What type of wife was she not to know?!”
As someone who was married, now separated, soon to be divorced, I have to say that I can see how she could have been in the dark about a lot of things. Let’s dissect the situations that people claim should have pinpointed Apollo’s wrong doings and have pointed to Phaedra’s willing participation.
Some people think that his past should have been a good indication, but Phaedra was blind to it because of how he looked.
However, I honestly think that she thought that his past was behind him. If someone is telling you about the wrong that they have done, and they’re being so open with it, you begin to think that they are recognizing their faults. You begin to think that they are so open with discussing it because they’re not interested in behaving in that way ever again, so their past follies are now only anecdotes to a forgotten path that they have discarded.
On top of that, you look at the person and you begin to feel bad for judging them because you have a past too. You think: well, I wasn’t always on the up and up, and I’ve messed up too. Just because they got caught, or theirs was on a larger scale doesn’t mean that I should hold it against them, I mean, he/she seems like they’ve changed.
So, you begin to believe them.
His lack of a Job:
To my understanding, Phaedra always talked as if Apollo was employed. On one reunion special when some of the other wives suggested that Apollo was living off of Phaedra, she proudly admitted that he worked, made his own money and was employed as in the Asset Recovery field. Even Kandi jumped in to explain it a little better. There was even a scene two seasons ago where he came in with a bookbag on and said that he just came from work. Granted, we now know that he was in field of stealing assets, but I don’t think she really knew that.
How many times do adult people tell you that they do something and you actually check on them? How often do you go to your spouse’s or boyfriends jobs? Even if you do, how often do you see them in action?
There are many people who lie about their jobs, and they do so because they are embarrassed. People lie about credentials, background, and for having a higher position than they actually do. Heck, I knew a guy in college who always talked about going to class and working on papers, when we all knew that he was kicked out of the University. It didn’t stop him from strapping on a bookbag, sitting in different lectures, and carrying a yearbook around to give the impression that he was still in school.
Most of the time if someone you love and trust is telling you that they are doing something mundane, and they’re leaving for a set number of hours each day, are you going to follow them? You’re gonna take their word, because why would anyone lie about that?!
On top of that, Apollo was a reality star, and most reality stars supplement their wages by doing appearances. When he talked about throwing thousands of dollars in the strip club, maybe he told Phaedra that he got that money from work or from a series of appearances? It’s plausible!
Penultimate, his attitude.
Now, I don’t ever want to come off like I’m anti-Apollo. I don’t even know the guy. But what I saw on the show was a guy who didn’t like to be questioned. He was portrayed as a guy that he was highly offended if Phaedra questioned him and didn’t take his word.
I’m not saying that Apollo was threatening, and Phaedra was scared. But what I’m saying is, when you’re married and have kids, you try to minimize as much drama as possible. For some people, it looks like trying to bypass anything that makes their spouse angry, so you try not to overly question or make them feel like they’re being interrogated and take them for their word, because (as some of them say) “you act like you don’t trust me.”
Marriage is all about trying to find a good way to live a life with a person who has a life outside of you that includes other stressors. So, many people toe that line with their spouses.
Finally, her behavior.
I remember about three to four months before I left my husband and decided to go at things alone, I buried myself in work. At the time I was book editing full time, and I was ed-it-ing. I would do a book in the morning, a book in the afternoon, and a book a night.
For me, there was such a tangible sense of powerlessness that was going on. My marriage was disintegrating, my husband didn’t seem to want to talk about it, our newborn was being a newborn, and we went from a two income family to one.
When things in people’s lives get out of control, they might try to find solace in something that they can control. That’s the basis of some people’s eating disorders, addictions, abusive behaviors, and other habits. For me, it was working, it gave me the ability to feel like I had something to control when every other area of my life was out of control.
So when Phaedra started getting all of these extra degrees, putting on animal funerals, and redecorating, I didn’t see it as she was trying to cover for the unknown source of Apollo’s income. I saw it as her finding a sense of control.
Like I said, none of this is based off of knowing these people, because I don’t. But because I know how difficult a marriage can be, and how people will look over signs that are obvious to others, it causes me to be a little bit more sympathetic.
Love truly does cover a multitude of sins, and when you’re tied to a person you might be more likely to believe that hogwash that they’re feeding you. You’re more willing to look for rain clouds when they’re obviously peeing on your leg, because you want to believe that the person they showed themselves to be when you were first dating is still there.
However, when you realize that you’re actually eating chum, instead of sushi is when you finally decide to move on, which is what Phaedra is doing now. She might have had blinders on all this time, but she’s obviously seeing clearly now.
Kendra Koger is now craving sushi (thanks article), and tweeting @kkoger.