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Why Phaedra Shouldn’t Ride For Apollo Anymore

July 21st, 2014 - By Kendra Koger
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Apollo Nida Speaks Out After Guilty Plea

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I’m very hesitant to speak on other people’s marital problems.  Marriage is very easy to discuss when you’re not married.  Everyone seems to have the answers and easy solutions to what married people need to do, but when you’re in a marriage, the lines are muddied by the waters of love, expectation, family and the such.  But with all of that said… really Apollo?!

Last week we posted an article addressing how his life has been since his sentencing.  As most people hypothesized, he addressed that his marriage to Phaedra might indeed be on the outs.

“I doubt [that my marriage will survive this],” the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” said during a recent interview with B100 Radio. “My wife didn’t even f—ing show up for my sentencing. I’m still kind of salty about that.”

Okay, now I was already feeling a level of disgust when he did that pathetic photo with the caption:  “Who will ride with me?”  But this is just too much for my sense of reality.  Are you kidding me, dude?!

Now let’s be real, there’s always a level of deception in relationships, especially when you’re first dating.  Chris Rock expressed this in his Bigger and Blacker stand-up comedy special.  He explained that when you’re first meeting someone, you’re meeting their representatives.  That’s true.  Everyone’s on their best behavior, and it extends when the relationship begins to become serious.  Men will adamantly tell you how they will always love you, protect you, be romantic, and offer you a never wavering shoulder of support.  Women will do the same thing.  They’ll cook for you, clean up after you, and will sing (or if you’re like me and don’t have great singing abilities, but have mastered the art of “talk-singing”) Kelly Rowland’s verse on “Cater 2 U,” expressing their desire of always being appealing to you, domestically, physically, and emotionally.

It’s not until you begin to get really comfortable, that you begin to let the façade fall and your true colors show.  Especially if you introduce children into the mix (“You want me to cater to you?  Change this child’s diaper, do that and then we’ll talk.”)  Within a relationship you learn to either be a better version of yourself, due to wanting to keep the person in your life, or you just embrace your faults and hope the other person will accept them as well.

However, there’s something to say about men who want full acceptance of their flaws and expect their partner to mindlessly go along with the foolishness.  Now, I’m not talking about all men, just the constant victim, the I want  a ride or die chick, but will quickly drop a woman if she does the same thing that I do type of dudes.

I’ve seen men who have abused their wives and girlfriends only to get mad at her when she finally leaves, but blast her on Facebook to get back at her.  Get back at her for what?!  You were the one doing the dirt!

Which leads me back to the Apollo, who’s-gonna-ride-for-my-crap situation.  Now, I’m not going to ever pretend like I knew what their marriage was like.   But I do know that it probably wasn’t easy on Phaedra to have to constantly defend the character of her husband when he was released from prison the first time.  When other people took any opportunity to bash him (and we have the entire third season or “Real Housewives of Atlanta” as proof of that), she defended him because she loved him.  She was riding with you then.  After “text-gate” with those inappropriate texts with Kenya Moore, she still rode for you.  When you played her oh-so bogusly on episodes of last season’s RHOA and she stood there quietly, knowing that her silence would be broadcast to millions, she rode for you.  Granted, we didn’t see her fall out, which I’m pretty sure happened when the cameras were gone, but she took a slide so you could look like a man.  She rode with you.

But let me ask you something, when were you riding for her?  Were you riding for her when you and your “right hand b—h” were defrauding innocent people?  Were you riding for her when you so callously put your foot down in an attempt to prove that you’re a man, while also stomping her reputation?

It just bothers me when I see these men who demand women to be by their side, constantly, even in the face of not just their wrong doing, but sometimes in the face of infidelity. (And if I hear another man say:  “But that’s just what men do, women can’t do what men do,” I’m going to vomit… all over your faces.)  But the crazy thing about it is, if the shoe was on the other foot, would men stay?  If a woman cheated on her husband or boyfriend, how many men would unabashedly leave, citing crap about their pride?  But you expect women to just be empty shells of thoughtless obedience?

Men, respect needs to come from both ends.  You can’t behave dirty and not expect to deal with some uncomfortable consequences.  It’s like blaming a mirror for not liking your reflection.  The mirror didn’t make you look this way, it’s only showing you how you look.  Don’t question the mirror’s loyalty to you for not reflecting what you wanted to see.

You want people to ride for you, then ride for them as well.  If not, catch a bus or something.

Apollo Nida Says Marriage Is Probably Over: ‘My Wife Didn’t F—ing Show Up For My Sentencing’

July 18th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Apollo Nida Caught Cheating

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Well, it turns out the rumors are true. Apollo Nida recently confirmed that his marriage is definitely in trouble and probably won’t survive his 8-year prison stint.

“I doubt [that my marriage will survive this],” the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star said during a recent interview with B100 Radio. “My wife didn’t even f—ing show up for my sentencing. I’m still kind of salty about that.”

As for how the sentencing has impacted his family life, Apollo says:

“It’s hell—hell on wheels. I’ve asked God to forgive me and I’ve forgiven myself. I had to move on [...] I just really had to bite down. I was going through so much. It doesn’t make you less of a man to cry and shed tears. I’ve just really been upset at just how I was raised and that I could possibly be taking my son through the same thing. But by the grace of God, he’s still young and we have many years ahead of us. For me, I just can’t make the same mistakes.”

He went on to sort of imply that there were other people involved in his fraud scheme who simply haven’t been caught.

“It’s all on me. A lot of people could be held accountable. But at the end of the day, it’s all on me. It’s over now. I’m gonna pay back the $1.9 million and keep it going.  By the grace of God I was able to get that down. I think it was like 14 before.”

Interestingly, he also expressed remorse for the crimes he committed and having to leave his children.

“I’m still human. At the end of the day, I am remorseful. Coming from a non-father, non-mother background, I feel most sad and disappointed that I let my little man down. But at the end of the day, it is what it is. You must go and pay and contribute to the piper and do what you gotta do and come on back and be graceful about it.”

It sucks that their marriage has fallen apart, especially since there are children involved. But maybe this is all for the best.

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Source Says Phaedra Parks “Wants To Leave” Apollo Soon And Stuck Around For So Long For Their Sons

July 17th, 2014 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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In this week’s new print issue of In Touch Weekly, a source close to Phaedra Parks says that the Real Housewives of Atlanta star doesn’t plan to stick around to watch Apollo Nida go through another stint in jail. Nida did five years for racketeering from 2004 to 2009, and soon after he was released, he wed Parks in November 2009. From there, they had little Ayden, 3, and baby Dylan, 1, and all seemed good. But then their communication issues started popping up on the show (remember when he left her sitting outside of their hotel room in Mexico after she caught him and Kenya being Chatty Cathys?), he was having inappropriate interactions with Kenya Moore, and of course, he got involved in more illegal schemes that would come back to haunt him.

Now a source says that Parks “wants to leave him” and has wanted to for a while.

“If they never started a family, she would have filed for divorce long ago. But this is going to push Phaedra to act quickly.”

The source says that she wanted to make her family work for her sons, but she can’t deal with Nida’s never-ending legal issues.

If Phaedra does head for the exit, this wouldn’t be a major shocker. For one, she wasn’t present at Nida’s sentencing, and we really haven’t seen the couple together (as in the same room) since Nida was telling Kenya Moore to get ready to put money on his “books” if he was sentenced to do more jail time at the RHOA reunion months ago.

After the sentencing, Kandi Burruss said that her friend was distracting herself with work:

“Phaedra’s doing great. She’s basically working. That’s how I deal with things too; when I have a lot going on, I just put more into work.

I know that she’s promoting her book and doing the book tour and stuff like that and she’s not really trying to focus as much on what’s happening.”

Nida posted a cryptic message days after his sentencing, asking “Who will ride with me??” And even though Parks said she would stand by him until his trial had concluded, it’s unclear what her next move will be. But someone who thinks she should stay is Gayla St. Julien, Nida’s alleged co-conspirator who is serving time for her role in all that bank fraud. In an interview with us from behind bars, she said that if Parks knowingly benefited in any way from the money Nida made illegally, she shouldn’t abandon him now:

“There were benefits that had been reaped and so if you go into a marriage and you know what a person is involved in, and you say ‘Okay, I can deal with it,’ and you take the diamonds, you take the trips, you take the bikes, you take the whatevers–then you take the time too.”

But we’ll have to wait and see what happens…

 

So Kenya Moore Plans To Reach Out To Phaedra…

July 11th, 2014 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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When it was first announced that Apollo Nida had been sentenced to eight years in prison, most folks knew that if no other RHoA cast member would offer comment on this matter, Kenya Moore would certainly have something to say. And like clockwork, Kenya offered a reaction to the sentencing via her Twitter page.

“You can’t kick someone while they are down even if they fell trying to trip you. Offer them a hand instead.”

“You don’t have to lie, cheat or steal to be relevant at the expense of others. The real losers are innocent children. May God bless them.”

While her reaction was pretty mild in comparison to previous comments that she has made in regard to Apollo’s inevitable prison stay, it still contained undeniable hints of “I told you so.” Now, she’s taking things a step further. On Twitter, the former pageant queen  recently revealed to fans that she has plans to reach out to her archenemy and co-star, Phaedra Parks.

Kenya also brushed off questions about whether or not she would use Apollo’s sentencing to taunt Phaedra next season.

Considering that she reached out to Porsha after learning of her shocking divorce—despite their beef—it’s certainly not far fetched that she would reach out to Phaedra. But we’re not convinced that she won’t be using this situation to hit Phae Phae below the belt next season. Y’all remember how she did Porsha last season?

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Everything You Need to Know About How It Went Down With Apollo Nida

July 10th, 2014 - By Meg Butler
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“Real Housewives of Atlanta” co-star Apollo Nida will be going to jail any day now and we’ve got the inside scoop on what happened, how much Phaedra knew, and the bad blood that got Apollo arrested in the first place. Check it out.

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Apollo Blames His “Poor Upbringing”

Apollo, his mother, and his brother asked the judge for less time due to his difficult past and rough upbringing. The judge denied him lenience on those grounds.

Exclusive: Apollo Nida’s Imprisoned Accomplice, Gayla St. Julien, Speaks On His Sentence And Claims Phaedra Knew Of His Crimes

July 9th, 2014 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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As Apollo Nida tries to wrap his head around all the time he will have to begin serving in the next few weeks, someone speaking out about his sentencing and crimes his his former alleged right-hand woman, Gayla St. Julien. As his alleged accomplice, St. Julien, 44, was reportedly depositing fraudulent checks, stolen retirement checks, and had opened a number (reportedly 40) of bank accounts under stolen identities to help Nida commit bank fraud. St. Julien was arrested last September and has been in jail in Florida after being sentenced to five years and one month for all the millions that were stolen. With time already served and her current involvement with different programs, St. Julien, a married mother of two, hopes to be released by the end of 2015. From behind bars, we spoke to St. Julien about Nida’s sentencing, serving her own time, the impact it has had on her family and her marriage, and why she thinks Phaedra Parks should stand by her man. Very informative interview. Here are the details:

*Note: These are all the statements and opinion of St. Julien, and are not the opinions or beliefs of MadameNoire. 

Her Feelings About Apollo Being Sentenced To Eight Years:

“My thoughts and prayers do go out to Apollo and his family. Going through something like this, it’s very devastating for our families, and it’s also devastating for the victims that we have. As far as I’m concerned, the judicial system is severely flawed. He did get a 5K1 just like I did (providing assistance to help prosecute others in order to get a lesser sentence). When this situation first arose last September, he basically gave me his a** to kiss. When he gave me his a** to kiss, I took matters in my own hands. I’m not going to do time for a person who’s not going to support me. He completely turned his back on me. The difference between me and him is that his 5K1 is based on a lot of dry snitching. He told on a lot of people who didn’t have anything to do with our situation. I told on him. There was no way I’m going to pay for $2.5 million by myself. The time you get is equated to the amount of money you stole.”

On Reports That He “Snitched” To Get 8 Years:

“He did not help the government. He said that he was helping the government and repaid some of the money by doing awareness speeches and all of that–that was bulls**t. He turned evidence on people who were higher up than him. That’s the only way he got eight years out of 30. Period. End of story. Everything I said was made public after I was sentenced. And everything he has said will be made public, and everyone will know that you snitched.”

Why She Got Involved With Nida:

“I was arrested September 11, 2013. It’s been very difficult. I have a daughter who got a liver transplant some years back and that’s initially how I got involved in this with Apollo. My daughter’s medicine was $3,000 a month. Medicaid was no longer willing to pay for the medicine, and while they kept rejecting us and rejecting us and rejecting us, she was deteriorating without the medicine. So I got back into this for my daughter. If I had to do it all over again, I don’t know what I would do. I’m a mother. I’m a mother first.”

How She’s Coping With Her Sentence:

“My husband, two weeks after I got here, of course, he wanted a divorce. That’s another issue. So it’s a struggle. It’s very hard. The issues with my husband, that’s going to play out, and it’ll probably play out publicly as well. But I’m just trying to take it one day at a time. I have a beautiful son and he’s autistic, so that’s a financial strain on my parents, so it’s hard. I think the thing that irks me is that, of course they’re public figures, but everyone has been so concerned about Ayden and Mr. President–and of course I love Ayden, I’ve never met the little baby, but as far as Ayden is concerned, I spent some time with him and I’m fond of him. I care about children. But nobody really gave a damn about my circumstances or my children. I feel like I have not been given fair treatment. It’s been bias. At the end of the day, he’s just as guilty as I am. And I’ve paid from day one. I’ve lost everything.”

Why She Believes Phaedra Should Stay With Nida:

“Well, let me tell you like this. Spouses? When one party is legitimate to a degree, and the other isn’t, there’s NO secret about it. If you reap the benefit, or get things and money and all the things that come with a lifestyle such as what we had, then I think you should ride with him. But it’s not a secret. Everybody knows that she knew, just like my husband knew. There were benefits that had been reaped and so if you go into a marriage and you know what a person is involved in, and you say ‘Okay, I can deal with it,’ and you take the diamonds, you take the trips, you take the bikes, you take the whatevers–then you take the time too. That should be the way it is. She knew what she was getting into just like my husband knew what he was getting into. If you’re getting into a situation where you don’t know what a person is about, then okay if you feel like you need to walk away, then you walk away. It’s understandable. But if your cards were laid out on the table and you knew the risks involved, and yet you decided you wanted to roll with those risks, then you roll with those risks. Period. She knew. Period. End of story. We’ll just leave it at that.

St. Julien says that she’s currently working on a book that she hopes will shed more light on her story, and hopes that when she’s out of prison, to never return. “I feel like I’m going through this for a reason,” she says. “I made my peace with it and I take it in stride. Hopefully when this is all over, something positive will come out of all of it.”

 

Word? Kandi Burruss Claims Phaedra Parks Is Doing “Great” Despite Apollo’s 8-Year Prison Sentence

July 9th, 2014 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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Yesterday, Apollo Nida was hit with a sentence of eight years for bank fraud and ID theft, and I’m sure it’s a harrowing time for him and his family. But many are wondering how Phaedra Parks is doing. She was not present to support Nida during his sentencing yesterday, and considering that their marital issues seemed to get worse and worse during season six of the show, many are wondering if Parks will even stick around for Nida’s second prison stint. But one person who has the inside scoop on how Parks is faring in all of this is good friend Kandi Burruss. When asked how Parks is doing, Burruss told Hollywood Life that she’s distracting herself with work, including promoting her bookSecrets of the Southern Belle: How To Be Nice, Work Hard, Look Pretty, Have Fun, and Never Have an Off Moment.

“Phaedra’s doing great. She’s basically working. That’s how I deal with things too; when I have a lot going on, I just put more into work.

I know that she’s promoting her book and doing the book tour and stuff like that and she’s not really trying to focus as much on what’s happening.”

I know it can’t be easy. During yesterday’s sentencing, Apollo apologized to Parks and his family for all that he put them through this second time around, saying he was sorry “for letting them down.”

But what do you think the next move will be for Parks? Do you think she’ll stay and support Nida?

Did She Take It Too Far? Kenya Moore Responds To Apollo’s 8-Year Sentence

July 8th, 2014 - By Veronica Wells
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RHOA star Kenya Moore explains confronting Apollo during Sunday night's episode.

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Being that Kenya and Apollo had such a tense relationship, marred by inappropriate flirting and then vicious shade throwing at the reunion, it’s no surprise that today, when news of Apollo’s 8 year prison sentence broke, that Kenya would have something to say about her former “Real Housewives of Atlanta” cast mate. She took to Twitter to express her feelings and sympathies, with just an ounce of “I told you so.”

I’m never one to ride for Kenya and her antics, but I have to give this round to her. At the reunion when Apollo claimed that he made her and suggested that she put money on his books during his inevitable imprisonment, everyone turned their noses up in disgust. Where did this dude get off?! Sure the mess between the two of them was a big part of her storyline but trust and believe, Kenya has no problem finding numerous ways to create drama for herself, with or without Apollo. We’re sure she’ll be fine and continue to thrive in the messiness that is reality tv. And while people called it the shade of the century, I even felt a way when Phaedra came after her saying her future child could be fathered by a crazy murderer man who donated just so he could afford a pizza. Low blow. But seeing as how both Apollo and Kenya’s future criminal baby daddy might just run into each other in prison, Phaedra doesn’t have a whole lot of room to talk. 

What do you think about Kenya’s response? Should have taken this opportunity to take an additional dig or was it well deserved after all Apollo and Phaedra had to say about her?

Apollo Nida Sentenced To 8 Years In Prison For Bank Fraud, Phaedra Parks Doesn’t Attend Sentencing

July 8th, 2014 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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First thing I thought about when I found out that Apollo Nida was sentenced was not him, or even Phaedra, but little Ayden and Dylan.

According to TMZ, Nida will spend the next eight years away from them as he serves time for cashing stolen checks, ID theft and laundering millions through phony bank accounts. This fraud game he was playing went on for four years while he tried to keep up with the Joneses. Considering that Nida could have faced a maximum of 30 years in prison, eight years is something of a “lucky break.” But a lot can happen in eight years that Nida will miss out on, including watching his boys grow up.

Part of the reason Nida was able to get a more lenient sentence was because he reportedly cooperated with the feds in order to share details on the criminal activities of others. But according to the Atlanta Journal Constitution, Nida wasn’t too happy about his sentence. The AJC says that he appeared annoyed when speaking on his way out of the courtroom, saying “The government did what they had to do.” Nida’s legal team tried to petition the court this week to have his sentence minimized, saying that his poor upbringing had a lot to do with his equally poor choices and never-ending legal troubles, and that his small-time criminal history doesn’t fit with him being categorized as being of Criminal History Category V. 

Before the sentencing, Nida apologized to everyone, saying “I want to apologize to the victims” and that he also wanted to “apologize to my family for letting them down.” But his family, as far as his wife and kids, were not present for the sentencing. There has been speculation for some time that Parks would part ways with her husband if he ended back up in jail, but she tried to refute such claims by saying she would stand by him until everything was resolved.

“…we are where we are and we’ll support him. We are a family. He’s the father of my two beautiful kids and at the end of the day, I am a Southern belle and I believe in family and I will support him until this is resolved.”

But I guess she got a little sick and tired of being sick and tired. 

Nida is free for now on his bond, but the AJC says that he will probably have to head to prison to start serving his time within the next three to six weeks. 

Apollo And Peter At Odds Before Nida’s Sentencing

July 7th, 2014 - By Veronica Wells
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Apollo And Peter At Odds

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Earlier this summer we reported that RHOA husband Apollo Nida pled guilty to fraud charges and is looking at up to 30 years in prison. Now, with his sentencing taking place tomorrow, July 8, Nida, who has already served five years in prison for similar offenses, is speaking to RadarOnline about his mind state, relationships and trying to get less time behind bars.

Though Apollo says he’s cool and taking everything in stride, he was shocked that his co-star and “on-tv friend” Peter Thomas was seen in MadameNoire’s exclusive interview, seemingly making light of his pending incarceration. For those of you who missed it, when we asked Peter how Apollo was doing, he said “about as well as someone who is getting ready to go to jail could do.” He chuckled a bit while he said it and apparently, Apollo took it as shade.

“I saw that. At this time, I don’t have time to waste to get into what he was saying. I didn’t really think he would count me out like that. I haven’t been sentenced yet. I talk to him, I just didn’t think he would have anything to say. I guess it doesn’t surprise me.”

Nida also says he’s just waiting on an update from his attorney about the amount of time he’ll spend in jail.

But in the meantime, he says that he appreciates those who’ve reached out. “Support is definitely needed. I appreciate everyone.”

Nida is not going to go quietly though. RadarOnline also confirmed that Nida has petitioned the court to lower his maximum prison time. In order to do so they would have to change the status of his criminal history category from Criminal History V to Criminal History IV.

Apollo’s lawyers issued a statement saying:

“A criminal history category of V substantially overstates the seriousness of Mr. Nida’s criminal past, thus warranting a departure from the Guidelines range,” his attorneys stated in July 3 documents, citing the 35-year-old personal trainer’s history of three probation revocations, driving under the influence, and giving a false name to law enforcement, all before he turned 24 years old.

“Mr. Nida’s lengthy but early small-time criminal history is simply not in the same league as the “violent offenders, drug kingpins and perpetrators of far more serious offenses” that Criminal History Category V was designed to address.”

And in reference to his strained marriage to Phaedra, Nida, who has been spending his last free days alone while Phaedra vacations with friends, says “We’re working to make it better.”