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It’s about 11am ET on Monday and the office whiner is already at it. Am I right?
Many offices have that person who is simply never happy. There’s always something to complain about. Unfortunately, that whining can have a negative effect on you and your other happier co-workers. The Wall Street Journal cites studies showing that productivity drops and absenteeism rises when complaining in the office runs rampant. The story also includes anecdotes from people who say their efforts to combat the complaining backfired, making them the subject of even more colleague complaints.
Of course, “the workplace whiner” isn’t the only person you have to deal with in an office, a virtual petri dish of personality types. The Atlantic provides a helpful list, like “The Mopey Coworker” who’s always worried; “The Person Who’s Never Had a Bad Day In His Life”; “The Fortress” who never speaks; and “The Sneak” who you sense is looking over your shoulder to dig up dirt. It’s actually an LOL kind of list with lots of truth in it . There’s also a “Coffee Buddy,” “The Cubicle Decorator” and “The Cubicle Lothario” who’s dating everyone and, by extension, adding a little naughty drama to the day. We’d like to add:
‘The Weeper” — This person can be found every now and again crying in the ladies room. (I can only speak for the ladies on this one since I don’t spend any time in the men’s room.) You can hear her quiet sobs in the stall, unless she decides to let it all hang out and just cry over the sink. You asked if everything was all right the first time it happened. A break up or a sick pet may have prompted that initial breakdown. But now, it’s just awkward. You will go to the bathroom on another floor if you hear her before you open the door.
“The Stinky Lunch Eater” — You always know when it’s lunchtime because this person has got a dish full of onions, a steaming plate of fish or a Tupperware full of something that has an unrecognizable look and smell. And it always needs to spend a minute or two in the microwave to reach maximum odoriferous effect.
“The Person Who Thinks This is Their Momma’s House and Leaves Crumbs All Over the Kitchen For Someone Else To Clean Up” — Put up as many signs as you want begging people to wipe down the counter. This person isn’t cleaning jack.
To deal with the aforementioned whiner, the WSJ suggests asking the person what they want to do about that thing they’re whining about. Some people might take offense; after all, you’re basically telling them that you don’t want to hear they’re annoying complaints anymore. But in other cases, you can come up with solutions that benefit the worker and the company. Some people complain because they’re bad communicators. Extracting the real issue — the work-related thing that you can actually do something about — is the ideal situation. When people see that their needs are being met, their attitude changes and everyone benefits. Even if you’re not the boss, working with colleagues to come up with something that you can present to a manager is a positive way to resolve the situation. And you develop a reputation around the office for being able to work with, and even lead, staffers.
In other instances, you just try your best to manage the different personalities and befriend the people who offer a good laugh and a little camaraderie.
Do you have any other suggestions for dealing with a difficult coworker? Any other personality types you’d like to add to these exhaustive lists?
Have you ever known a person who turned the light switch off and on on their personality so much that you didn’t know which personality was their true self? No? Okay, well me either then. But there are some celebrities who in some shape, form or fashion fit the bill. We’re not saying they’re totally unstable; we just notice that they seem to have “off” moments where one minute they’re cool as a cucumber, and the next, acting a piping hot fool. These 8 people don’t know what to do with themselves sometimes.
Our man 50 is always all over the place with his…entire being. In interviews he can generally be charismatic and make you laugh instantly. In his social media world, specifically Twitter, he can be a bit more…abrasive. He goes after his record label on a fairly regular basis, subliminally likes to “talk that talk” about other artists and just be a bit of a pain. Remember when he called Ciara a b***h and jumped in that crazy beef between Fabolous and Soulja Boy? Who is he? Mr. Nice Guy or Mr. Nice Once In A Blue Moon Guy?
Chris Rock once said: ”When you’re meeting a person, you’re not meeting them, you’re meeting their representative.” As true as that is, when you spend a lot of time with someone, after a while that façade begins to fade and you can see the person for who they truly are. Within times of joy, turmoil, despair and anger, true emotions begin to fill in those holes of their personality and you begin to see past the shell of the person and into who they really are. When those times happen, I believe in Maya Angelou’s saying: ”When someone shows you who they are, believe them.”
When I was in college, in one of my psychology classes I learned that by the age of four, the personality that you have then is pretty much the one you’re going to keep. Not saying that you’ll keep the perspective of a four year old, but if you were selfish when you were four, you’re pretty much going to be a selfish so-n-so when you’re 44, if you’re not already. There have been recent studies that challenge that theory, but honestly, I still believe it. I do think that people can change, but I do believe that the fundamental aspects of a personality will be set by four. Will you be an extrovert, or introvert; a giver or taker; a sociopath or a person who watches sociopaths on Maury?
If there seems to be a problem in relationships (whether romantic, familial, or work-related) the problem can be traced back to one person expecting a certain type of behavior or behavioral change and the other person failing to meet their expectations. To the person who’s upset, the expectations seem easy enough to understand and to follow; however, this person just seems to fall under the bar constantly. Who’s really at fault in all of this?
Honestly, if you’re expecting someone to change, then maybe you should change your expectations? Resentment grows when people consistently make poor decisions. Each time that person fails to meet your desires, until you come to terms with it, you’ll remember the multiple times they’ve failed you. And like pipes under pressure, you’re going to eventually explode on that person. Marriages end because of this type of dilemma.
Sometimes you have to consider that maybe your expectations are out of whack for that person. There are always signs of a person’s true nature. When those signs occurred did you notice them, ignore them for the sake of the relationship, or hope for a change? When engaging in a relationship (of any kind) with a person, one of the best things to do is to embrace that person for who they are, faults and all. Of course they’re going to fail sometimes, because they’re imperfect and human. The same way that you’re going to fail under someone else’s expectations. By having that mindset or embracing their faults, it might allow you to have grace for the other person. Not saying that you need to stay in a frustrating relationship that is going nowhere (because the person in question continuously does the same crap over and over that they promised to stop doing… not that I’m bitter or anything), but unless you terminate that relationship, all you can do is accept it. Until then, when that cat shows you their true nature, accept it when it meows, and stop expecting it to bark. If barking is important to you and you do move on to another relationship, try to find a dog next time.
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