All Articles Tagged "Personal Finance"

I Love My Baby, But Not My Account Balance: Ways New Parents Can Reduce Child Costs

August 19th, 2014 - By Tanvier Peart
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There is no greater joy you will ever experience in life quite like having a child. It’s amazing — and yet pricey given the average cost of raising a child these days is over $245,000. It’s funny how much we spend in life without realizing we had that much to spend in the first place. Parents know too well that our little bundles of joy can set us back some serious dollars. Should you be new to the parenting club, here are some tips on ways you can reduce child care costs.

“She Gets It From Her Mama”: Parents & Their Impact On Our Financial Identity

August 18th, 2014 - By Kara Stevens
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From the Cradle

Over the course of a lifetime, we forge an array of relationships through a combination of choice, circumstance, and fate. The primary relationship — the bond between parents and child — is clinically considered to be one of the most important and influential in our lives. This is because we enter it without choice or preparation, and at the most vulnerable and impressionable stages of our human development: infancy and childhood.

As adults, we are cognizant of how our childhood experiences molded our sexual, racial, and spiritual identities. We may even be able to trace the foundation of our political leanings and political outlooks to certain experiences in our youth. But what about our financial selves? How much do we think about the impact of our primary relationships on the development of our financial identities?

Baby See, Baby Do

During infancy, the principal role of parents is to create a world that is safe and predictable for a baby, providing for basic caretaking needs (i.e. feeding, changing, caressing). The role of parents changes, however, as a baby grows. Once children begin to walk and talk, they not only look to parents for care, but they also look to parents for direction. They look to parents for social clues— how to be, how to think, and how to behave, transmitting values to this younger generation through actions and instructions. That includes their parents’ financial identity.

She Gets It From Her Mama

I serve as the quintessential example of this phenomenon. I make a decent living, hold a number of degrees, and live (way) below my means. Nonetheless, I have this fear of being as broke as a joke. Also, I find it difficult to lend money to family members and to accept money from strangers and loved ones. Moreover, I just do not feel right if I do not have multiple streams of income. I shop wholesale and when I can, I buy it used. Finally, I love using my creativity to make money.

My financial identity as both a disciplined, diligent saver and creative income-generator in my adulthood largely come from both the mistakes and genius that my mother exhibited in handling money as I was coming up.

Many members of our family borrowed money from my mother and never repaid her. As a consequence, she often complained about not having money for what she needed.

  • Lesson Learned #1: Money is scarce, (since everyone was asking for it and could not repay it), so hold on to it.
  • Lesson Learned #2: Giving money to family can make you sad, so try to avoid it.
  • Lesson Learned #3: People do not like to repay money, so don’t expect it back.

We spent Sunday afternoons shopping in wholesale districts and outlets.

  • Lesson Learned #1: Bargain-hunting is fun and recreational.
  • Lesson Learned#2: You can always pay less for an item.
  • Lesson Learned #3: Retail stores price gouge and should be avoided.

I was cashier in my mother’s home-based boutique and worked in my uncle’s grocery stores.

  • Lesson Learned #1: Have an entrepreneurial spirit.
  • Lesson Learned #2: Learn the consumer interests of those around you and cater to them.
  • Lesson Learned #3: Pay your bills on time and keep a great history of credit so you can expand your business easily.

Go Back to Your Financial Roots

Understanding your financial identity is the cornerstone to financial recovery and financial self-awareness. Knowing who you are and why you are the way you are is key to self-acceptance and change. The things that we learned as childhood should be reevaluated and modified if they are not working to our benefit. Through conscious planning, reflection, and the help of others, we have the power to restructure, rebuild, and redefine the influence of the past.

11 Bad Financial Habits That Will Ruin Your Relationship

August 15th, 2014 - By Tanvier Peart
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There are plenty of reasons why a relationship doesn’t work out. Someone can cheat or otherwise not be the person you thought they were. But one of the biggest reasons why folks separate is because of money. Here are some bad financial habits that can ruin your relationship. Are you guilty of any of these? Always remember: communication is key!

The First Step Is Admitting: Ways To Recover From A Financial Disaster

August 4th, 2014 - By Tanvier Peart
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At some point in our lives we experience hardships. Sometimes it comes as a soft blow that’s somewhat bearable — and other times it knocks us so hard we feel too crippled to stand. Regardless of your situation, know there are second and third chances to get things right and turn the page. We can start again. Here are some tips on how to recover from a financial disaster.

Ways To Avoid Overdraft Fees

August 1st, 2014 - By Tanvier Peart
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When you crunch the numbers, did you know that overdraft fees tend to carry an annual rate of 17,000 percent? That’s crazy! Those of us who swear by our debit cards need to be careful as it’s super easy to get hit with an overdraft fee. Sure the government has stepped in smacking the hands of banking institutions who enjoy adding them on — but that doesn’t mean we are 100 percent in the clear. Check out these tips on ways you can avoid overdraft fees.

Are You A Slave To Debt? Signs You Over Use Your Credit Card

July 29th, 2014 - By Tanvier Peart
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A new study from the Urban Institute reveals over 35 percent of Americans have debts reported to collection agencies. This means that one out of three people are relying too much on loans instead paying for things with money they have. Now there is certainly nothing wrong with a credit card, so long as you don’t go crazy. Here are some warning signs that you are overusing them.

I Love To Spend Money. So Why Do I Hate Myself When I Do?

July 13th, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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By Scott and Bethany Palmer, The Money Couple, For Your Tango

You have the money, but you still don’t feel like you deserve what you buy.

If you love to spend money, but hate yourself when you do, you are not crazy. Many of us love to shop, buy gifts or conquer a great sale. But afterwards we feel that gnawing in our stomach. That doubt. That guilt.

We often get questions from readers about this feeling. For instance, Brooke, a participant at one of our events, told us this story:

“I really love my job, finally. After reading a million articles about people who couldn’t believe they get paid to do what they love. I am finally one of them! With too many false starts to count, I found a fit in advertising. Apparently my hair-brained ideas and constant doodling are valuable when focused and refined. The pace is insane and the workload massive, but I finally make great money to do what I love.

So why do I feel horrible when I buy things? Almost everything I buy makes me feel guilty later. Whether it’s an iPad I need for work or a skirt on sale — I feel guilty. Initially, I love looking at the options, trying stuff on, deciding which one is best, making the purchase and then, like heartburn from a bad burrito, I feel it. A fiery knot of self-judgment and doubt forms in my stomach. I start thinking, “Why did I buy this? Was it really a great deal? My credit card balance is killing me. I could live without this. Can I take it back?”

I feel trapped in an exhausting cycle. And it takes all joy out of my success and ability to purchase things I like and need. How do I stop feeling like this?”

Constantly plagued with the guilt of buyer’s remorse even while living within your budget? Visit Your Tango where The Money Couple gives some helpful tips on learning your money style and having a healthy relationship with personal finances.

5 Things Your Financial Frenemies Say To Keep You Living Paycheck To Paycheck

June 27th, 2014 - By Kara Stevens
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When you decide to pull-up your big girl panties and take charge of your finances like a grown woman, you may begin to realize that everyone will not be happy with your new frugal lifestyle.

Your shopaholic friends will become your new financial frenemies and say things to keep you chained to the door of revolving credit, conspicuous consumption, and living beyond your means.

Here are five things that financial frenemies love to say to keep your financial situation in critical condition:

You only live once (YOLO): It’s true; you only live once. But here is something else to remember: each of your credit card bills, mortgage payments, and car notes has their own life cycle OAM (once a month.)

But it is on sale…” If you are desperately trying to adhere to a budget, a financial frenemy will gladly try to throw you off your course to debt-free living by saying, “but it’s on sale” to justify something that is not scheduled in your budget. What your financial frenemy fails to understand is that buying unnecessary items whether for a little or a lot is wasted money if it is not a need.

“You work hard, you deserve it.” This statement really kills me. When your financial frenemy starts whispering this yiddy-yadda, ask them to be more specific about what “it” really means. Because when it comes to spending money that you do not have on things that you already own, “it” really means the following: less money, more debt, more crap, and more clutter. I doubt that that is something that you work hard for or deserve.

“It’s an investment…” Your financial frenemy really has a warped understanding of the definition of “investment” when she views spending your tax refund or rent on clothes, hair, electronics, or a car—all items that lose value over time.

Quick reminder, as one of my financial-friends-in-my-head Michelle Singletary loves to say, “If it is on your ass, than it is not an asset.”

“But that’s what credit cards are for…” Your financial frenemy will say this when she is trying to convince you to buy something that is WAY out of your financial comfort zone. I mean, way out. Here’s the thing: credit card money IS NOT yours. If you could not afford to buy an item without the credit card, how do you expect to repay that amount of money PLUS the interest that is slapped on for borrowing someone else’s money?

Discerning between you financial frenemy and financial friend is a cornerstone to developing a healthy financial backbone. But be strong and of good courage when you come across the forked tongue of your financial frenemy. Your wallet and your financial future depend on it.

Kara is a life coach, motivational speaker, author, and founder of The Frugal Feminista. She is also the author of the ebook The 5-Day Financial Reset Plan. You can download it for free here. Connect with Kara @frugalfeminista.  

The Do’s & Don’ts To Handling That Student Loan

June 24th, 2014 - By Tanvier Peart
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Do you have a student loan? Are you struggling to pay it? With today’s economy still in recovery mode there are many college graduates rethinking their decision to earn their degree as the debt of student loans are zapping paychecks — so much so that money is being garnished from accounts. Whether you have a few more payments to make or will owe institutions for the next couple of decades, there are some do’s and don’ts you need to consider. Here are some tips on handling student loans.

Three Items That You Do Not Need To Splurge On To Impress Him

June 20th, 2014 - By Kara Stevens
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We are right on the verge of summer. And you KNOW what that means!!! Summer love, dating, seeing and being seen, and all of that good stuff that comes with these two flirty, sensual seasons.

But as your sister-in-saving, I would be remiss if I did not pull you aside and tell you that you don’t need to be maxing out your credit and missing your rent to impress these men out here.

No, put your credit cards away and bank your next paycheck. Here are three items that you especially do not need to spend money on impress a dude that you are dating.

1.      Sexy Lingerie: Since we are grown, we can be honest, right? If things are going according to plan, the lingerie should be off in hopefully less than 10 minutes once he sees you in it, right? In fact, from an informal survey that I took of men around me, most men prefer you naked. The quicker you are naked, the better. So, save your energy on all that shopping and save your dollars. Your birthday suit will suffice. And if you really need to buy some new skivvies, hit up Marshalls and TJ Maxx, and Target. Here’s the truth: men will take notice of anything that YOU feel the most confident in, not the label.

2.      Designer Jeans That Round Out Your Booty: Some of us are willing to pay hundreds of dollars for those magic jeans that round and lift instead of the time at the gym to make the booty reach those desired dimension. Keep your coins and try a 30-day squat challenge. Google “30-day squat challenge” and take your pick.  Even two weeks following one of these regimens will get it round and right without the support of spandex and modern-day technology. With a round and tight booty, you won’t have to worry so much about the cost of the jeans—your booty will look good in most things that you try on.

3.      Makeup:  If you think buying lots of make-up, ultra expensive make-up or getting your make-up professionally done for your dates is a going to make him think that you are pretty, please think again. Especially if you are using make-up to completely alter how you look.  The make-up has to come off sometime, right? So, try for quality make-up that enhances your natural beauty, not hijacks it, which can be found at your local drugstores at an affordable price. The Queen Collection from CoverGirl is the truth for quality, cost-effective alternatives to your department store brands.

In other words, try being yourself and working with what you have and let your money work for you.

Kara is a life coach, motivational speaker, author, and founder of The Frugal Feminista, an online home created to inspire and inform women of color about financial empowerment, girl power, and “juicy” living. Connect with Kara @frugalfeministaDownload  her free ebook “The 5-Day Financial Reset Plan: Eliminate Debt, Know Your Worth, and Heal Your Relationship with Money in Just 5 Days.”