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We’ve Been Way Off About How To Get Off: Study Says G-Spot Doesn’t Exist

February 23rd, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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For many women, the g-spot has been their anatomy’s very own version of “Where’s Waldo”.  They’ve spent hours, positions and sex partners chasing the ultimate orgasm through a body part that many became convinced didn’t exist.  Well a new study reveals, it probably doesn’t.

A recent HuffPost article reports, “There’s no G spot. There’s a C spot — the clitoris,” according to researcher Dr. Susan Oakley, an OBGYN at Good Samaritan Hospital in Cincinnati, Ohio. “It is the source of a lot of sexual pleasure for the female.”  Using MRI (magnetic resonance imaging) doctors scanned the pelvic areas of woman who averaged around 32 years of age. Ten of the women reported never or rarely being able to achieve orgasms despite trying and the rest reported climaxing on the regular.

When they compared the two groups, doctors discovered the direct distance between the clitoris and the vagina was 5-6 millimeters longer on the woman who had difficulties achieving orgasms. The women also had a smaller clitoris on average as well.  Turns out size does matter when it comes to getting off, but only in reference to female anatomy.

Doctors are debating whether if having a bigger clitoris leads to more orgasms or does having more orgasms result in a bigger clitoris. “”Perhaps a larger clitoris has more nerve endings, and perhaps with direct contact and stimulation the clitoris can have more sensation, resulting in orgasms,” Oakley says.

The study recently published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine takes a lot of pressure off women who felt they were to blame for their inability to get off because they couldn’t find their g-spot with a Google search.  But even with these new findings, orgasms are still very complex.  It’s not just about the size of your clitoris, many things come into play like your comfort level and how aroused you are.  If you’re worried about him noticing your stretch marks, stressed out about work obligations or just generally not attracted to your partner, it’s going to make it that much harder to turn down so you can get turned on.  Either way these findings prove that your position is probably more to blame the elusive g-spot for your pleasure problems.

Stop Faking It! Reasons You Might Not Be Having the “Big O!”

August 26th, 2012 - By Brooke Dean
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A friend of mine recently revealed to me that, at age 30, she had never had an orgasm. Poor thing! I was shocked, but more interested in how her partners (read: egos) were able to deal with “failing” to bring her to the Promise Land. “Simple,” she replied. “I fake it!”


No one woman should ever have to fake her sexual pleasure at her own expense, or the expense of a man and his ego. If you’ve never been able to climax, even on your own, then there may be some serious issues that require healthy examination as to why you can’t “get there.” If you’ve been faking it, here are some reasons you may not be able to have the “Big O.”

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7 Signs You’re Good In Bed

April 9th, 2012 - By MN Editor
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It’s something every girl has wondered: am I good in bed? Sure, like kissing, much of it may have to do with compatibility—what might be hot for one guy could be just plain freaky to the next. But no matter what your guy’s preferences are, here are the 7 signs to know that you’re rocking his socks off:

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Forgettable Night of Passion: Female Orgasm Leads to Amnesia

October 13th, 2011 - By Brande Victorian
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Female orgasm leads to amnesia? Yep
For most women, a night of great sex is unforgettable. For a 54-year-old woman being studied by researchers at Georgetown University Hospital, one night of passion literally blew her mind, causing her to experience memory loss after having sex with her husband.

The woman went to Georgetown’s emergency department complaining that she couldn’t remember anything that happened 24 hours before climaxing. Doctors diagnosed her with transient global amnesia, a rare and sudden episode of memory loss.

Carol Lippa, MD, a Professor of Neurology at Drexel University Medical School, said “Transient global amnesia is caused by a scrambling of the memory circuits in the brain, often brought on by physical or emotional triggers.

“In post-coital cases, transient global amnesia may be related to changes in blood flow in the vessels that feed the brain’s memory formation areas — sort of a remote consequence of the altered blood flow that occurs during sex.”

What’s a Yogasm?

September 29th, 2011 - By madamenoire
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Do you practice Yoga? Well you might be inclined to after you hear this. There are some women who’ve actually been known to achieve orgasm right there on the mat… Whoop! Yes you read that right.

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Why Faking The Big O Doesn’t Mean You Aren’t Satisfied

August 19th, 2011 - By IndigoBlack
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Faking an orgasm, otherwise known as “using the emergency escape button,” does not necessarily mean your man is a wack lover or you’re not getting satisfied. Sometimes a sista is just ready to be done, right?

At least that’s what Telisha Ng of Hello Beautiful says. The writer says that sometimes a woman has an off day: she’s exhausted, has her mind on other things–you pretty much don’t have your mind right. And while your body might be ready to do the “do,” if your mind isn’t ready, it’s a wrap. Add to that the pressures of a guy whose own sexual experience and ego is based on you reaching your climax and doing so quickly, and well…Ng says you have to pull out that emergency button. However, she doesn’t recommend faking it often whatsoever. Steps should be taken to let your man know what works for you in the bedroom if you’re rarely reaching your peak, and let him know what gets you to that point. If communication isn’t clear, then expect every night of lovin’ to be a long one. And not in a good way…

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Fun Facts about Orgasm, Cheating, Divorce and Virginity

July 5th, 2011 - By madamenoire
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Did you know that cheating runs in families? What about the fact that men in Denver, Colorado spend the most money on a first date? Or how about the ways Botox can put a strain on your marriage?

We bet you didn’t. But if you want to educate yourself on these and other nifty little factoids, head over to to get the info on these phenomena. You won’t be disappointed.

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