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These tinder fails will make you think twice about looking for love on an app. If these are the fish in the sea, we’re ready to hang up our fishing poles for good.
Who would like to know if you’d be interested in being his replacement wife. If the only picture you can find is from your last wedding, it’s too soon to start working toward your next.
Confession: I’ve been on a dating website for all of maybe three weeks now and to be honest, I’m over it. I used the word confession in the opening sentence because I’m one of those people who still feels weird about using a dating site to, well, date, and I always said doing so would be my last resort when it came to ending my single streak. So I guess that means I’m now at the end of my rope in more ways than one because after my brief foray into the world of Internet dating, so far all I’ve gotten out of this is a more dismal outlook on how many desirable fish there are in the sea and a swift comeback for the next person who asks why I’m single and follows that up with a suggestion I try online dating: Bye Felicia.
I can admit that I may have gone into this thing with false expectations. Though I really had no idea what to expect after I haphazardly uploaded my last pic to my profile and struggled to come up with witty descriptions of myself and my life like I don’t write for a living, because of the slew of people who recommend I accept online dating as my love and single savior I just knew my search results were going to make me say, “so this is where all the men have been hiding!” Instead, I find myself overwhelmed by a number of notifications for messages from men I really don’t want to talk to anyway that don’t say anything more than “Hi;” an invitation to have my p-u-s-s-you know the rest eaten, and I’ve been cussed out by a 22 year old who thought at 29, I should’ve had more balls to tell him to stop effing talking to me, instead of my polite method which was just to say you’re too young. Oh, and then there’s the Bangladeshi man who assumed I didn’t respond to his message because of his ethnicity and when I told him I have a job and don’t sit around on websites (other than MadameNoire) all day answering messages, proceeded to say “put you read my message and the green icon showed you were online.” And then there’s the other fool who keeps saying “I see I can’t get no love” and the man who sent me a message admiring my curves and told me “your pretty” before letting me know he’d want to have sex with me after the first date to get it out the way so we could focus ourselves. Basically men are no different online than they are in real life. The Internet just makes them a bit easier to ignore (Read: block).
I have come across a couple of gentlemen who balance out the aforementioned characters, but overall I’d have to consider my experience to be pretty underwhelming in comparison to the positive reputation this method of dating has earned. For some reason, I thought I’d be scrolling through profiles for hours and find myself tickled at the available men within miles of myself who want the same thing I do. Instead, I’m like, “I could’ve gone to the bar for this.” At least the alcohol would help counter some of the nonsense — and disappointment. There have been some positives though. Part of my reservation for going online had to do with my assumption that Black men don’t use dating sites and studies that have found Black women to be the least desired group online. Even thought most of the profiles of Black men I’ve come across don’t express a preference for dating someone of the same race, the demographic is definitely online and I’ve been e-approached by several. I’ve also received messages from men of several other racial and ethnic groups which shat all over the previously mentioned study and opened my eyes to my desirability to men outside of a particular segment of the population I felt only found me attractive. So, yay me. Two points for the confidence boost.
Still, I can’t say that I’m running home at night to check my messages. Heck, I even deleted the app I had on my phone because I didn’t want to be bothered. Part of me feels like maybe I’m not as serious about finding a partner as I thought I was, but the truth is the work of sifting through hundreds of profiles and messages just to maybe identify one person you want to message just isn’t fun. It feels like work. And, again, at least out in the streets, there are drinks, food, or some sort of entertainment involved. Which brings me to the other point of men wanting to move things offline too quickly, like “hey, I like your smile can I take you to dinner?” So you can chop my body into pieces later? No thanks.
My biggest issue with online dating is likely that my heart isn’t completely in it because I still really want to find someone the old-fashioned, let’s-ease-into-this way, but I have to say all the hoopla around e-dating sites as the cure to singledom hardly seems warranted. If the idea of looking for a man the same way you look for a new job appeals to you then you probably will be highly successful. But so far being on a dating site just feels like one more thing I have to begrudgingly “check” — sort of like the mail when you know something’s in the box but nothing you really want so you just let it sit there. *Cues meme: I’m single, but be turning down people like I’m taken.
What’s been your online dating experience? Do you find it to be dreadful or worth the hassle?
JDI Dating, which operates multiple dating sites, charging users between $10 and $30 per month, has been fined a $616, 165 for creating fake profiles. So much for finding the one.
The Federal Trade Commission (FTC) found that many of the profiles on its sites are not real. And not because users created fake profiles but because the company itself created profiles to lure users to their sitew. JDI Dating owns websites such as CupidsWand.com, FlirtCrowd.com and FindMeLove.com.
JDI Dating would send users messages from fake profiles and once users tried to respond to their messages, JDI Dating would request users to sign up and pay for the site.
In addition to the fine, the FTC has ordered JDI Dating to change their business practices. The company must adjust how it received money from paying customers and has to disclose to users that some profiles are either phony or a continuance of user memberships that have expired.
Below is a news video about this report. Have you used JDI Dating services?
It can be rough out there in the online dating world — in more ways than one. But that doesn’t mean you have to close your laptop forever. Women in 2014 have come up with these tricks that will keep anyone safe while dating online.
Online daters of the stalker variety can use your favorite stock selfie to find information about you from every social media page that it’s listed on? All they have to do is search for that photo on the internet.
So if you want to keep your personal information (or real name) a secret until you know someone in person, take a custom photo just for the online dating site.
A Georgia man was arrested and charged with fourth-degree assault for allegedly attacking his girlfriend.
According to My Fox Atlanta, the digital lovers met in person for the first time when Cornelius Jefferson, 33, ventured to Kentucky with two suitcases prepared to move in with his ladylove. It’s unclear exactly how much time passed between their first face-to-face encounter and the October 21 incident, but according to reports, the pair began to argue during the wee hours of the morning because Jefferson felt that the woman looked nothing like her profile picture.
“When Deputy Morris arrived at the scene, he learned that there had been an argument between this subject and his girlfriend. This subject had allegedly moved from Georgia after meeting this female subject on the Internet. The argument was allegedly because the male subject didn’t think she was like she was on the Internet,” the Laurel County Sheriff Department shared in a Facebook post.
As the argument escalated, things became physical and Jefferson allegedly choked the victim using both hands, threw food in her face then took off with his two suitcases.
“Deputy Morris located the subject on Litton town road, nearby. Cornelius Jefferson was charged with assault,” the Facebook post adds.
With social media and digitized public records making a person’s life so public today, there’s no reason not to do a little Internet research on your date before first meeting him. Take most information with a grain of salt, of course, but give yourself the chance to find these red flags.
I get it: as an attractive female online dating, you get a lot of hits. You have to have some way to filter through it all! But by passing up on a guy because he has these 8 things in his profile, you could be passing up on a perfectly datable guy.
By Amanda Chatel, From YourTango
My aunt was the first person I had heard of who did online dating; you know, back in the day when it was still scary stuff and something only the “desperate” would do. She was also the first, last, and only person I ever knew who tried her hand at the dating personals in the newspaper, too. These two facts about my aunt always disturbed me, and I think, because of it, I’ve never seen online dating as anything but an absolute plague on the community, and something to forever avoid.
I have been on two dating sites in my life. Once, for a couple months for a work-related story; and another time, because my best friend begged me to join. That latter site happened to be OKCupid. His whole reason for me joining was so I could endorse him with a good review (I’m not sure if they still even do that, it’s been so long!), so I figured I had nothing to lose, because I wasn’t looking for anything to gain. I was just simply being forced into something so he could look better to all the hot gay men on OKCupid in New York City. I also thought that if we were both on there, commiserating about how awful a place it was, he’d erase his profile and move on to a place where harassment was monitored better.
I took one evening after work to put up my profile, pick out the best photos of myself that I have that actually didn’t include a beer bottle in my mouth or a scowl on my face, then wrote my endorsement for him. Afterward, I sat on the couch and waited for about 20 minutes to see if anyone looked at my profile or sent me a message. When no one did, I shrugged and went out instead.
When I got home I checked my profile. I was really excited for some reason! I was venturing into a world I had only heard of and it was strange and wonderful and … OMG, did that guy just send me a message asking me if I “swallow?” I was appalled. I had heard the horror stories, but less than two hours into my OKCupid experiment, my blowjob techniques were being questioned and I felt gross. I felt the same way I do when a commenter gets way too personal or tells me to kill myself over something controversial I’ve written. It’s like it doesn’t hurt you, per se, because that person means nothing to you, but it sort of shakes you that this is how people in the world behave. I’d question if they were raised by wolves, but a child raised by wolves would at least have manners and respect.
I noticed I had a couple more messages, but decided I’d spare myself before bed. Those messages weren’t going anywhere.
I didn’t check it again until later the next day, and saw 18 messages. A couple were from the, um, “gentleman,” who questioned whether or not I swallowed, with some lovely commentary on how I’m a prude, among other things and delightful expletives, while all strung together with misspelled words and holes where punctuation should have been. Along with him there was a message from a guy telling me I was ugly and my nose was big. Not exactly what you want to hear from a stranger, but oh well! I was more concerned with the fact that he had time out of his day to legit troll me, as opposed to find love, as I assumed was his reason for being there in the first place. There were a couple nice messages along the lines of, “You look like a cool girl. Tell me about yourself,” but I didn’t respond. It wasn’t that I was totally against the idea; I did, after all, sign up for the site, although my intentions for doing so were completely unrelated to getting a date.
Read more about this online dating experience at YourTango.com
Social media can connect you with thousands of people in an instant. Which can be a great thing, or a terrible one. Here are 15 times social media is responsible for a bad hookup!
This sounds a little creepy… Sort of like those dolls you can have made in your child’s exact image.
There is a matchmaking company that will match you up with someone who looks like your ex.
So if you can’t live without your ex and you have $5,000 hanging around, you can get what’s called “white-glove” dating service offered by Three Day Rule in conjunction with Match.com. You just have to send in photos of your ex, and Three Day Rule will try to find a more suitable mate who still physically resembles your former mate. The service is only available in San Francisco, Los Angeles, New York and Chicago. As Three Day Rule opens up in other cities the service will be offered as well.
While this sound like the worse thing to do if you are trying to get over your failed relationship, according to the Three Day Rule, it’s more about physical attraction and preferences. “If you like one facial structure, you will probably like someone with a similar facial structure,” explains Three Day Rule founder Talia Goldstein. For that money you get more than a matchup. Coaches will interview you in person and even go on pre-dates with potential matches to help weed out the undesirables, reports Time.
It will be interesting to see how many people sign up for this option that just launched on June 25th. Some 11 percent of American adults have used an online dating site or a mobile dating app, according to a 2013 Pew Research Center study. And since 2005, 38 percent of people who identify themselves as single have used such services. “Pew found that over the last eight years, the number of people who went on a date with someone they met online grew to 66 percent, a significant increase from 43 percent in 2005,” reports TechCrunch. Most (59 percent) were thought that “online dating is a good way to meet people,” compared to 44 percent in 2005.