All Articles Tagged "nicki minaj"
In this episode of Did Y’all See? we’re speaking on Azealia Banks allegations against Russell Crowe, Nicki Minaj’s truth telling about Black Men and we’re also asking what would you do if a teacher sent home a note asking to stop using coconut oil in your child’s hair? Get into all this tea on Did Y’all See?
Nicki Minaj: I’m Tired Of Black Women Feeling When Our Men Get Rich They’ll Leave Us For White Girls
We already shared some highlights from Nicki Minaj’s cover story with Marie Claire but there’s another interesting remark made during the interview that is now making headlines, and it’s this:
“I’m so tired of Black women feeling that when our men get rich, they’re going to leave them for a woman of a different race. “It wasn’t funny when Kanye said, ‘When he get on, he’ll leave your a– for a white girl’, and Kanye happens to be with a white girl now. It wasn’t funny when he said it; it was the f-cking truth.”
Nicki is far from the only Black woman who feels that way, but few, if any, famous Black women have been so bold as share that sentiment in a public space — particularly a mainstream publication that caters to white women. And, of course, people have distracted from the main issue Nicki was speaking to, instead claiming the rapper is slamming Kanye West rather than realizing there are many Kanyes out there who’ve left Black women for white girls and that’s the real problem.
Nicki responded to the disparaging headlines on Twitter, writing:
“Slams” a man/genius who gave me one of the biggest looks of my career? I said he wasn’t kidding, he was speaking the TRUTH about d industry
I was saying he’s the one who said it first. He doesn’t apologize for his choices. He tells the truth about stuff ppl don’t wanna hear!
"Slams" a man/genius who gave me one of the biggest looks of my career? I said he wasn't kidding, he was speaking the TRUTH about d industry https://t.co/Q0Tqt25B5H
— NICKI MINAJ (@NICKIMINAJ) October 17, 2016
I was saying he's the one who said it first. He doesn't apologize for his choices. He tells the truth about stuff ppl don't wanna hear! https://t.co/V4RU5Rcolv
— NICKI MINAJ (@NICKIMINAJ) October 17, 2016
Now if only Nicki would take it a step further and expose why some of these men do what they do.
Over the weekend, two Hip Hop heavyweights, one legendary and one contemporary, had the chance to meet. I’m talking about Lauryn Hill and Nicki Minaj. The two performed at the Tidal X benefit concert where proceeds went to the Robin Hood Foundation, an organization that seeks to eliminate poverty in New York. Backstage, Nicki had a moment when she met Lauryn, a pioneer in the rap game, particularly for women MCs.
Naturally, Hill is a bit of an idol to Minaj and when she met her, she didn’t keep that to herself. She literally got down on her knees and bowed in Ms. Hill’s presence. As she did so, she said, “I’m in love with you. I’m in love with your spirit, your mind, everything about you.”
When I first saw the video on For Harriet’s Instagram page, I scrolled through the comments to see what the reaction was. There were several people who applauded Nicki for bowing in the presence of greatness, showing respect to her foremother. But there was another woman who posed the question
Naecissist said:“Wonder what Lauryn is thinking. All I have in my head watching this is ‘showing off your ass cuz you’re thinking it’s a trend.’”
It’s a fair question. There’s no doubt that outwardly, Nicki Minaj and Lauryn Hill have different styles with drastically different content. Still, I would like to think that both women could recognize that there’s a place for the other in the world of Hip Hop. There is room for the more conscious rapper and the one who focuses on materialism, bravado, and being a boss in a male dominated industry. I’m a proponent of women being able to represent themselves fully and if we need both Lauryn Hill and Nicki to do that, then so be it.
I just found the whole interaction to be a bit of a performance. I’m sure Nicki really does revere Lauryn Hill; but something about this encounter, perhaps the way Nicki started speaking in baby voice, or the touching of her forehead to the ground, just struck me as exaggerated. And I wonder what this meeting would have looked like if she weren’t being recorded.
Not that there’s anything wrong with a staged meeting, to illustrate her true love for Ms. Hill. It just reads differently than a more natural approach would have.
What do you think about the meeting of these two ladies? Did it strike you as odd or interesting?
Nicki Minaj may say her message to women about their goals in life is for the young ladies, but we’d argue women of any age could use the reminder that a man isn’t a necessary precursor to love or financial wealth.
That’s just one of the gems Nicki dropped in her November 2016 Marie Claire cover story with Janet Mock in which she discusses female empowerment, racial bias in the media, and violence in our community with the kind of honesty we wish more celebrities would have when speaking to mainstream media. Check out the highlights:
On young women’s goals
“Nowadays, I feel like [young women] see marrying into money—I think that’s a big thing now. I don’t want that to be a woman’s goal in life. I want your goal in life to be to become an entrepreneur, a rich woman, a career-driven woman. You have to be able to know that you need no man on this planet at all, period, and he should feel that, because when a man feels that you need him, he acts differently.”
On the way Black women are treated in the media
“When Kim Kardashian’s naked picture came out, [Sharon Osbourne] praised it, and my fans attacked her for being such a hypocrite. So it wasn’t trashy and raunchy when a white woman did it, but it was when a black woman did it? It’s quite pathetic and sad, but that is my reality, and I’ve gotten accustomed to just shutting it down.”
On the effect of violence in the community has on Black women
“We tend to not remember the black women who are mourning these men and who are thinking, Oh, my God, what am I going to tell my child now about where his father is, and the struggle it is for black women to then move on after they lose their husband or their boyfriend … The strong women in these inner cities often go unnoticed … no one really ever puts a hand out to them.”
On competing with male rappers
“I don’t need to read a book about [business]. I can look at someone’s career and just pinpoint the dos and the don’ts, and the one person I’ve done that with for my entire career was Jay Z. He did such a great job being an authentic street guy and a businessman, and I was like, Why aren’t there women doing that, taking the success from rap and channeling it into their empire? I felt like anything he could do, I could do.”
On collaborating with Beyoncé
“Every time Bey and I do something together, I see how women are inspired, and it has nothing to do with how we look. It has to do with how we are owning who we are and telling other women you should be the boss of your own career and the brains behind your life or your decisions or your art. I just love that feeling.”
Nicki also shared the pics from the magazine spread on her Instagram page. Check them out below.
Late last year, we reported that Nicki Minaj’s brother Jelani Maraj, was charged with raping a child.
Today, new information was released that doesn’t seem to be working in his favor at all.
According to an exclusive on our sister-site Bossip, prosecutors revealed that Maraj’s DNA matches the semen found on the 12-year-old accuser’s clothes.
The Nassau County District Attorney’s Office said that Maraj’s DNA profile was more than a billion to one match of the semen on the victim’s pants.
“…A DNA profile, a partial profile matching the defendant or consistent with the defendant, your honor, to the point in the hundreds of billionths of chance of it being any other individual, was discovered in the…pants of the complainant in this case, and also tested positive indicating the presence of semen,” Anthony Pirri, the assistant district attorney told the judge at a hearing July 26 in Nassau County Supreme Court’s sex crimes division.”
The victim told police that Maraj raped and sodomized her from April 1 to November 30, 2015. He was arrested the day after the alleged rape.
A grand jury later indicted Maraj on felony child rape charges, including predatory sexual assault against a child and first degree sexual conduct against a child.
Prosecutors offered him a deal of 15 years-to life, the case is still set for trial in November.
Before Maraj, who has worked for his sister, was indicted, the District Attorney’s Office offered him seven years in prison in exchange for a guilty plea to the sexual conduct against a child in the first degree change. But Maraj rejected the offer.
During the hearing, Maraj did not testify. He only spoke to confirm his name and that he understood that the next hearing would be in August.
He still pleaded not guilty and is out on bail.
I don’t care how much money he or his sister has, a child molester should not be free to roam the streets. Period.
Last night, Nicki Minaj garnered quite a bit of attention on Twitter. It all started when the rapper tweeted about her new song with DJ Mustard and Jeremih.
Shortly, after Johnny, a fan, had a question for her.
I’m kind of offended that Nicki could tweet about a song but can’t acknowledge the shootings in Orlando. :////
— johnny (@jxhnnybxrrios) June 15, 2016
A few minutes later, Johnny upped the ante @ mentioning her to ask if she were going to speak up and out.
.@NICKIMINAJ you plan on tweeting about the tragedies that took place this past weekend orrrrrr?
— johnny (@jxhnnybxrrios) June 15, 2016
Nicki didn’t take too kindly to that. And while she had been following this fan before, once she saw the tweet she unfollowed.
Johnny took a screenshot and posted it on his Twitter page, drawing even more attention to the discussion.
While Nicki didn’t appreciate being called out, there were several people who supported Johnny’s question, asking why wouldn’t Nicki say anything about a tragedy directly affecting the community that so heavily supports her art and career. They even mentioned that since Nicki has been so vocal about so many other incidents, including being discriminated against by the VMAs, it’s odd that she would be so silent here.
Nicki’s involvement in the debate didn’t stop when she unfollowed Johnny. She then started liking the tweets of those who supported her, particularly someone who wrote: “I would unfollow someone too for telling me what/what not to tweet.”
Later, she responded directly to the criticism.
U bet ur bottom dollar. 😂😂😂God is sooooo good. Love u guys. Thank u😘😘😘😘😘😘 https://t.co/Wz4Owv5ajT
— NICKI MINAJ (@NICKIMINAJ) June 16, 2016
There are a few questions here. Should Nicki Minaj have addressed the Orlando shooting? Was the fan out of line for asking her to do so? And, what can we learn from this incident?
If you think about the history of Nicki Minaj’s career, you may remember that there was a time when people thought– and she herself even alluded to being gay or bisexual. Later, I read that the decision to promote her as a sometimey-lesbian was to help sell records. Kind of like her then-manager’s decision to change her last name from Maraj to Minaj. It makes one think of sex. And sex, ladies and gentlemen, sells. In an interview with Out magazine from 2010, Nicki admits that while she hated having to change her name, she went with it. And then, in an attempt to keep creepy men away from her, she started catering to her female fans, still selling sex.
She told Out,
“I started making it my business to say things that would empower women, like, ‘Where my bad bitches at?’ to let them know, ‘I’m here for you,’ ‘ she says. ‘Then, when I started going to the shows and it was nothing but girls, it was like, Did I go too far with embracing my girls? Because now they want to kiss and hug me.”
Then there were the lyrics.
“I’m not gay/but let’s be precise/‘cause if she pretty then watch it/‘cause I’mma be f*cking your wife.” – “Danny Glover”
“Excuse me little mama/But you could say I’m on duty/I’m lookin’ for a cutie/A real big o’ ghetto booty/I really like your kitty kat/And if you let me touch her/I know you’re not a bluffer/I’ll take you to go see” – “Little Freak”
“I only stop for pedestrians or a real, real bad lesbian.”– “Go Hard”
But during an interview with Black Men, Nicki Minaj wanted to set the record straight. “I don’t date women and I don’t have sex with women.”
Basically, she pretended to be gay or bisexual in order to generate buzz around her name. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I believe the term is “Gay for Pay.” I don’t think it’s an exaggeration, considering she exploited the community, gained their loyalty and support to appear controversial, edgy and sell records. It’s similar to the ways in which networks like Fox and The WB padded their primetime lineups with Black shows to gain viewers back in the ’90’s, only to drop all of them and replace them with predominately White shows.
Still, should fans, gay and straight alike, be looking to Nicki Minaj as some type of leader or spokesperson in the LGBTQI community? Probably not. Nicki Minaj is an artist. Not a politician. And while some celebrities do a great job of entertaining us as well as raising awareness or speaking truth to power, (looking at you Jesse Williams), everyone can’t take up that mantle.
But, as some of her fans mentioned, it’s not like Nicki doesn’t speak out about any pressing issue, regarding a minority or disenfranchised group. Many of us remember how she sparked a national discussion after her video for “Anaconda” wasn’t nominated for best choreography or video of the year at the Video Music Awards.
It just so happened that she was speaking out on behalf of herself and women who look like her, Black women with thickness. Point is, she’s not against using her platform. It just has to be for her personal gain…or to be messy.
We all remember the series of tweets, on several different occasions, about not only her breakup with Safaree but attacks on his character, the most recent one popping up just last month.
Still, I don’t think people should tell celebrities what they should tweet. I’m not about people trying to control or manipulate any woman’s voice. After all, that’s what happened with Nicki with the very name we call her by today. We can’t do things just because they will appease or appeal to other people. We all have free will. And if someone has to ask you to tweet about a tragedy, is it really sincere?
Many people wondered what a tweet from Nicki Minaj might have done. There were still 49 people who died as a result of that mass shooting. Her words wouldn’t change that. And that’s true. But, with her platform, you don’t know who her words might have reached, what type of encouragement and support they might have offered to one of her countless LGBTQI fans.
What this boy was doing with his tweet was the same thing Black folk do with Hip Hop and R&B artists, athletes, public figures and even the President of the United States, asking them to honor and support the people who have made their careers possible. And there’s nothing wrong with that. At the end of the day, Nicki Minaj doesn’t owe her fans anything. And they certainly don’t owe her their loyalty if they feel like she makes money from their identity and their community but won’t stand up for their issues. It’s exactly why Iggy Azalea, with her blaccent, was taken to task when she, after a string of murders of unarmed Black men and women by law enforcement, remained silent.
Things only got worse when she confirmed that the was unbothered by the attention her lack of response had garnered.
U bet ur bottom dollar. 😂😂😂God is sooooo good. Love u guys. Thank u😘😘😘😘😘😘 https://t.co/Wz4Owv5ajT
— NICKI MINAJ (@NICKIMINAJ) June 16, 2016
I can’t be the only one who thinks crying-laughing and kissy face emojis are a tad insensitive in reference to this discussion about the senseless loss of life.
If she weren’t going to issue a statement about the shooting, cosigning to being unbothered just seems unnecessary…and petty.
We really shouldn’t be surprised by any of it, honestly.
As of late, petty is a part of Nicki’s persona, particularly online. The only difference is, when it was directed at MTV, Safaree or Miley Cyrus, I’m willing to bet many of the same fans who are upset with her now, were chuckling and cosigning her behavior then. People have a tendency to celebrate foolishness until it hits them personally. Furthermore, if Nicki could publicly call a man she loved for over a decade a “poor excuse of a man,” we shouldn’t be surprised by what many are interpreting as a lack of support for the LGBTQI community. At the end of the day, Nicki Minaj is about Nicki Minaj. She was about herself when she alluded to being bisexual to get people talking about her. Though it was a valid discussion, she was about herself when she called out the VMAs. She was about herself when she used both her breakup and new relationship with Meek Mill to keep her name and face in the news. And she was certainly about herself when she rebuffed a question, unfollowed a fan, played petty, and posted emojis in a Twitter moment that could have either been completely ignored or turned into an opportunity for a real discussion.
Musicians, much like other artists, have been censored by radio stations, universities, libraries and practically any other space you can think of for decades. Before them, writers who spoke out against atrocities committed by governments the world over had their books burned and banned. Typically, musicians are targeted for censorship because their lyrical content is deemed too risqué or inappropriate. Or, their music videos are considered sexually suggestive or outright explicit and therefore unfit and unsafe for public consumption. But censorship and the flat-out banning of songs and videos always seems to work in favor of the artists – earning them more public attention and ultimately more album sales, giving credo to the saying there’s no such thing as bad publicity. Controversy, whether intended or not, sells, and these artists clearly aren’t afraid to push boundaries or to speak their minds. Here is but a small list of artists whose music was at one point or another censored, boycotted or banned.
If you’re curious why Meek is trending right now it’s because the Internet has put him on a not-to-be-taken-lightly suicide watch after Nicki Minaj went on Ellen and said she’s single and called the Philly rapper “a boy that likes me.” Now in all fairness, those comments sound a bit more harsh than they actually were delivered and there is an explanation, though maybe not a great one, for why Nicki described Meek and their relationship as such: public negativity.
When inquiring about the engagement ring that’s supposedly not an engagement ring, Ellen asked Nicki if she was ready for a proposal from her famous boyfriend and she replied:
“You know, I don’t know. We’re still figuring each other out. And in fact, I don’t even want to say that I’m in a relationship anymore, because I think when people hear that, they go to like the mean place.”
Doing what she does best, Ellen provided comic relief saying she’s coming from a happy place (so spill the tea), and the Young Money star continued:
“You know, I used to be secretive. You guys asked me about that before on my pre-interview. I used to say, ‘I’m not in a relationship,’ even though I was in a 12-year relationship. Now I feel like just going back to that and saying, ‘You know what? I’m single… Now, I don’t really care to say ‘I’m in a relationship’ or ‘I’m engaged’ or whatever. There’s a boy that likes me. That’s all.”
So, you like him too? Or nah?
For the most part, I get what Nicki’s saying. If us common folk can fall prey to Insta-drama when people see a pic with someone one day and draw a crazy conclusion and then see a pic without the person a week later and draws another, I can only imagine the level of ridiculousness when you have 52 million followers. However, calling the person you’re dating just “a boy that likes me” or saying you two are just “two souls going through the universe” when she’s stuffed Meek down our throats for months on end, just isn’t going to cut it. Not for us, because we don’t matter in the grand scheme of things, but likely for Meek.
Despite looking up to Beyonce and Jay Z as a couple, Nicki failed to learn from their example of acting like they didn’t even know the other inhabited the same planet when they first began dating. Instead, Nicki has spoken about Meek every chance she’s gotten and splattered him all over her Instagram, as recent as one week ago mind you. That is not the behavior of a woman who doesn’t really care to say — or show — she’s in a relationship.
The thing about making relationships public, especially on social media, is there are no take-backs. You can’t have “In a relationship with Jason” on your Facebook page today and then remove it tomorrow without more than a few questions, even if you are still in a relationship with Jason. And the same goes for Instagram. If your timeline is full of photos with bae and #RelationshipGoals hashtags, suddenly halting all of that oversharing will raise a few eyebrows and, if you haven’t discussed downplaying your relationship with your partner, one of those eyebrows is going to be theirs.
Nicki is right; the negativity that surrounds relationships these days is not cool. But neither is portraying the person you’re with as some lovesick puppy following you around and showering you with nice things (like multi-carat diamond rings) you can take or leave. And given the rather inglorious year Meek has had between his legal troubles and being sh-tted on by Drake, the last person he needs to be played by is his girlfriend. On national TV. You don’t have to say you’re single to get the public out of your business; all you have to do is stop putting your business on display for the public.
Because Meek is a man, his ego is on the line and the masses are taking no mercy when it comes to throwing shots at him. But really this situation isn’t much different from how we clown women like Emily Bustamente for being with men like Fabolous who still refuse to acknowledge them as their girlfriends, even though they’ve been together for umpteenth years and have reared more than one of their children. There’s a way to go about downplaying your relationship in a way that doesn’t disrespect your union or the person you could maybe one day possibly see yourself marrying. Most times that’s going to have to be done from the jump, and be a joint decision by both parties. Nicki didn’t handle this the right way and now Meek has to pay, publicly.
Despite the rumors and the two massive diamond rings he has placed on her finger, Meek Mill is not engaged to Nicki Minaj, and the rapper-turned-actress wants to make that very clear. According to Nicki, Meek promised that the third ring he gives her will be an engagement ring, but until then, she’d prefer it if he didn’t refer to her as “fiancée.”
“I’m not engaged yet,” the Trinidadian beauty told NYLON Magazine before breaking into a huge smile. “He said that my third ring would be my engagement ring. But sometimes he calls me his fiancée, and I’m always trying to stop him, like, ‘Nope! I ain’t got that third ring yet!’ We’re just taking it one step at a time.”
We can certainly understand why Nicki feels that way. It’s no different than a man who begins referring to his fiancée or girlfriend as his wife. Sure, it sounds good. Hell, it might even give you the feels, but if he hasn’t taken the steps to make that a reality, why play with it?
Don’t get it twisted, though. Nicki definitely sees herself being engaged and married to Meek in the future. She’s also ready for motherhood.
“You know, if that happens, if I get married, then I’ll have a child, and that’ll be fun, because I can’t wait to hold my baby. When he and I were just friends, he would always say, ‘You remind me of my mother, and I like that because you’re like a dude. You’re tough like a guy and you talk like a dude.’ So I always got the sense that me being tough and bossy was a turn-on for him. And it’s important for me to keep my voice. Being in a relationship shouldn’t mean that you lose your voice. Being in a relationship should mean that you’ve met a secure-enough man to allow you, in a sense, to remain a queen.”
Read Nicki’s full interview here.
By now, we’re pretty accustomed to celebrities posting sexy photos, but the common question still remains: “What type of role model is she?” and whether or not they can be a “real” role models to young girls. Everyone has something to say about Amber, but are they missing an important part of the conversation.
Amber Rose, “new” Beyonce, Rihanna, and Nicki Minaj can all be role models for my daughter.
I want my daughter to have grown complex women as role models. Women that are comfortable enough with their sexuality, body, sensuality, and have the confidence to dress and express themselves anyway they want.
When people ask if “new” Beyonce, Amber Rose, Rihanna, and Nicki Minaj can be role models what people are really asking is “can I allow my daughter to look up to successful, creative, and sexy savvy business women?” Sounds like a no-brainer question to me.
Being sexy and successful are not mutually exclusive concepts.
“I think my daughter should have the option of finding a role model in Nicki Minaj or other successful women in mainstream media because I want my daughter to know that sexy doesn’t mean stupid or powerless” says mother Mariely Moronta- Sanchez.
Not only have these women of color overcome insurmountable barriers to get to the level of success they have achieved, they have proven that they are forces to be reckoned with by maintaining and developing their careers in a very cut throat field.
The false notion that a woman being sexy lessens or reduces her worth and potential is an outdated and male-centered notion that I am not interested in entertaining in my household.
“We’re told we need to be fit and look beautiful, but not too beautiful or dare I say it, sexy. We’re also told that we can do anything or be anything we want to be. How is then, that we can’t be smart and sexy at the same time?” states Lisette, mother to a growing preteen daughter.
Some of my daughter’s role models include Frida Kahlo and Josephine Baker. Both of these women are women of color who were successful artist, social justice advocates, humanitarians, and very sexual individuals. It’s even rumored that they had sexual relations together.
Providing my daughter with complex role models also alleviates the pressure to “be a perfect good girl.” As adults we know that there is no such thing as a “perfect person” so providing this hollow example for my daughter to look up to would be doing more harm than good.
Yes, Amber Rose was a stripper and shows her comfort in her body however she pleases. Nicki Minaj loves her big butt and sings about the complexities of experiencing an unintended teenage pregnancy that she chose to abort. Rihanna shows her nipples and loves carnival, and Beyonce sings about enjoying sex with her husband while being a mother, millionaire, and continuing to build an empire. These are not bad things. These are human things. Great achievements and messages I want my daughter to hear, own and posses.
“Women like Nicki Minaj are not only sexy business women they are unapologetic for being who they are and that is exactly what I want my daughter to know- you are powerful and will be a sexy woman.” – Moronta-Sanchez.