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New Mom Expenses: How To Prepare For The Financial Costs of Pregnancy

February 20th, 2013 - By Ann Brown
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Pregnancy can be a joyous time. But it can also be costly. It is best to prepare before the baby arrives. Here are nine expenses to expect when you are expecting.

Congrats! Now Let’s Talk: 5 Things I Wish New And Soon-To-Be Moms Would Stop Doing And Sharing Online

October 31st, 2012 - By La Truly
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Facebook more than any other social network has become a grown up’s virtual show-and-tell with folks showcasing everything from birthdays to beatdowns and breakups, and nuptials to…well, nipples. We seem to show everything, all the time, with reckless abandon, letting anyone and everyone into our lives.

I don’t judge. If showing the world every detail of your private life is what makes you happy, by all means, share away. I do take issue with a few things however and it seems that the preggo social networkers happen to be the repeat offenders in this case. And now that everyone is getting their hands on an Instagram account to soon put the TM in TMI (Too Much Information), here’s a look at the top five things that new moms and/or moms-to-be need to QUIT doing and sharing with the world.

Stop posting half-naked pregnant pictures: Why does the world need to see you in a bra and panties with your protruding, freshly cocoa-buttered belly? Was the fully-clothed photo of you with your hands lovingly placed over your baby bump not enough? No? You had to go all Amber Rose? Not everything is for everybody. I think we all see enough of these type of images at black art festivals and don’t need you to enter the game. Keep these for your own personal photo album.
Stop showing us your “Birthin’ room” pics: Listen, the sacred and sometimes scary moment of delivering a child into this world is not meant for everyone on the Internet or in your friend cricle to see. No one wants to see your blue-green baby fresh out the pum pum all cloaked in a glistening robe of yuck. Let the little bundle of joy marinate in a bath and fresh air for a few days before you introduce us! I think we can all better appreciate the adorable kid you brought into the world when you don’t post a photo of them straight out the womb.
Don’t talk smack about your baby’s father(s): Um, he was good enough for you to lay up under, so think twice before posting that rant about how he ain’t s—. It only makes you look immature and if you do it more than once, you’ll start to look completely ratchet. Settle your private affairs, you know, privately.
Don’t talk smack about your kids! This sounds crazy, but trust, I see it almost daily. In my mind I always want to shake these individuals and remind them that, hey, YOU’RE the one raising little Ray Ray! If he’s “bad” then guess whose fault that is? Don’t worry, I’ll wait… Congratulations, you’ve just outed yourself as a subpar parent. Get your whole entire life, honey.
PLEASE STOP posting naked baby photos. Now THIS, I take SO seriously. No jokes here at all. As we’ve all come to know but many of us choose to ignore, what you put into cyberspace you can not get back, nor can you control who views it. Your babies are adorable. I get that. But they are adorable FULLY clothed. Shield your children from the perverts lurking on the Internet. Just because you’ve set your Facebook profile to “private” does not mean that what you post won’t easily be taken and seen. Cover your children and please be mindful of the kinds of photos you post of them. Internet predators can only use what we provide. Let’s be more mindful.

 

La Truly is a late-blooming Aries whose writing is powered by a lifetime of anecdotal proof that awkward can transform to awesome and fear can cast its crown before courage. La seeks to encourage thought, discussion and change. Her blog: www.hersoulinc.com and Twitter: @AshleyLaTruly. 

Is Withholding Formula From New Moms The Best Way To Make Them Breastfeed?

August 2nd, 2012 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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When it comes to feeding newborn babies, breastfeeding is embraced for the benefits it has towards a child’s health and is seen as the healthiest form of nourishment for babies. In fact, in an article featured on TIME‘s website, it says “The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) advises moms to breast-feed exclusively for about six months, then continue breast-feeding while offering new foods.” On the other hand, giving formula to a child straight out the womb isn’t embraced so much. Though there are sometimes reason for going the bottle route first, including the inability to breastfeed (and that includes if the mother has a certain disease too–HIV, tuberculosis, etc.), it’s tied to diarrhea and a higher risk of infection. But it’s important to note that many efforts have been made to improve the quality of formula over the years. With all the information saying breastfeeding is the best way to go, it’s surprising to hear that so many women are being somewhat pushed to use formula for their newborn by hospitals handing out promotional formula from companies as a form of marketing. As Bonnie Rochman, the author of the piece in TIME put it, hospital staff can be a bit pushy during a time when mothers are vulnerable, and rightfully stressed:

“As for my sister-in-law, Rachel, who recently gave birth in a Manhattan hospital to her first child, she knows firsthand how nurses pushing formula can impact an inexperienced mother. After her C-section, a nurse offered to give her newborn a bottle “to make it easier on you.” Exhausted and uncertain, she agreed — even though she’d intended to breast-feed. ‘I was a new mom,” she said. “I didn’t know what I was doing.’”

For reasons like this, Mayor Michael Bloomberg wants to make free formula not so easy to get to encourage new moms to breastfeed. According to the AP, 27 out of 40 hospitals in NYC have agreed to stop handing out promotional formula under the campaign, “Latch On NYC.” They’ll replace the formula with in-depth conversations on the benefits of breastfeeding, but will provide new moms with formula if that’s what they prefer. That way, new moms in a confusing position won’t immediately jump for breast milk if their child isn’t latching on immediately and it’s offered by a nurse–like an easy alternative. The mayor says that many see this as an important step in the right direction, and reports say that this initiative is taking place all around the country with more than 600 hospitals. “Most public health officials around the country think this is a great idea. The immunities that a mother has built up get passed on to the child, so the child is healthier.”
But while this whole initiative sounds like a good idea, many critics are stepping forward saying that the government shouldn’t get to interfere with the choices a mother makes for herself and her child. As one commentator put it, “What the hell does a mayor have to do with me breast feeding??????  What the hell?  Is this in his job description? Did you hire this man to tell you how to feed your kid?  Wake up people.” Mardi Mountford of the International Formula Council isn’t a fan either. She told the folks at TIME: “A way to help mothers is to be supportive of the feeding choice they make for their infants regardless if they choose breast-feeding, formula feeding or a combination of both. For infants who are not breast-fed, infant formula is the only safe, nutritious and recommended feeding option.”

Seeing as Mayor Bloomberg has been pushing to ban super-size soft drinks in the city, he’s slowly but surely being labeled as being too pushy and even gets called the “nanny” by many New Yorkers. But in his eyes, he’s pushing for people to make better decisions for their health, and as we can see now, for the health of their children. But is this new initiative for breastfeeding and somewhat hiding formula from new moms in the process a good idea to you? Or is it interfering with a mother’s choices? 

"You! Lingerie" Founder Offers New Mothers Stylish Fashions

May 2nd, 2011 - By TheEditor
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"Uyo Okebie"

By Charlotte Young

Uyo Okebie has always loved everything fashion.

But two years ago, Okebie learned that the fashion industry wasn’t so kind to new mothers. Shortly after giving birth to her daughter, Okebie found herself searching countless stores for “cute” and inexpensive nursing bras. Her options were fairly limited.

“Everything I found was either boring and matronly or it was Hot, but too expensive and ill-fitting,” she said.

Displeased with those selections, Okebie wondered if other mothers shared her sentiments. After conducting her own market research with expectant and new mothers across the country, she discovered that she was not alone in her frustration.  Okebie decided to address this problem by creating her own line of functional, Hot and affordable nursing lingerie; last year, she launched You! Lingerie.

Through her line, Okebie intends to remind women that they do not have to completely lose themselves once they become mothers. “I believe that just because you bring a life into the world, you should not stop being the person you were,” she said. “If you were stylish, a fashionista, or loved cute lingerie before becoming a mom, that should not stop just because you’re expecting or breastfeeding.”

Interestingly, the letters in “You!” also make up the letters of Okebie’s first name, “Uyo.”

A graduate of Duke University’s business school, and a former employee of Kraft’s brand management department, Okebie is determined to see her brand become a household name for expectant and breastfeeding mothers. It appears that she is well on her way to achieving that goal. So far, You! Lingerie has garnered loads of positive reviews. Okebie says the “mommy network” is to thank for helping to spread the word about her company.

“Once a mom finds a brand she loves and trusts, she tells all her friends and family,” said Okebie.

She adds that social media, blogs and mommy forums have all been a tremendous assistance in the company’s rapid growth. Since its launch, the company has sold products directly to consumers through the website and to maternity retailers across North America, Europe, Australia and Asia. The line has even been featured on NBC’s “Today Show.”

“There are so many new and expecting moms that have been looking for something like You! Lingerie,” said Okebie. “Now, they are so happy to find something that fills a void in the market.”

Confessions of a Nursing Mother

November 9th, 2010 - By L. Nicole Williams
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There is nothing more beautiful than giving birth to a child and nothing more comical than breastfeeding that child. Nursing has been one of the most rewarding experiences of motherhood. It was the healthiest thing I could do for my children and created a special bond incomparable to anything else. The year I breastfed was also full of bizarre and rather humorous thoughts and experiences. It is amazing how childbirth eliminates all modesty and you find yourself doing and saying the very things you once rejected as a childless woman.

For those who have never been pregnant or tried nursing a child, I thought I would let you in on some of the things that may run through your mind:

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Are You Ready to Be a Brand New Mommy?

August 3rd, 2010 - By Kweli Wright
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Madames, there is life after baby. When we become mothers, our bodies and schedules change, but our perspectives on life, love, and work have to change too. It’s so important to renew and redefine yourself after motherhood, but where do you start? Karen Taylor Bass is a PR expert who helped launch the careers of artists including D’Angelo and Jill Scott, but after she became a mom to her bonus son, she decided to leave her high-profile job and focus on family.

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You Know You’re A New Mom If…

July 29th, 2010 - By madamenoire
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by Uju Asika

It’s an amazing experience watching your baby grow, from those adorable early smiles and coos to the first bow-legged steps into toddlerhood.

What’s almost equally astounding is how many changes you’ll go through after the little one packs up and leaves womb for good. We’ve identified five crucial developmental stages for new mothers in the first year.

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