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Ne-Yo Preparing To Move Out Of Home Shared With Ex Monyetta Shaw: “We’re Moving On And Seeing Other People’
When VH1’s new series “Atlanta Exes” debuted, viewers were shocked to learn that although they broke up last summer, Ne-Yo and his ex-fiancée, Monyetta Shaw, are still residing under the same roof with their two children. What made the situation even more complex and bewildering is that the “So Sick” singer recently went public with his situationship with model Crystal Renay. Naturally, folks began to wonder how he would fair in his new situation considering that he’s still sharing a place with his ex. But Ne-Yo says that he’s already taken steps towards changing his awkward living situation.
“Currently, we’re in the same house, but I just recently bought a new house,” he explained on the Rickey Smiley Morning Show “We’re both getting to that stage in life where we’re moving on and seeing other people and whatnot. It just doesn’t make any sense for us to be in the same house anymore.”
He went on to explain why they remained under the same roof for so long.
“It was a matter of wanting my kids to grow up in one place, but I feel like my kids are going to be very mature and very smart. They’re going to understand: This is daddy’s house, this is mommy’s house. If we don’t make it a negative thing, then they won’t.”
Ne-Yo also attempted to silence speculation that he and Monyetta are still being intimate with one another.
“Monyetta Shaw is a beautiful woman. She has always been a beautiful woman, but as I said, this is my friend now. My partner. So nah, it ain’t that type of situation.”
Although he has yet to publicly claim her as his girlfriend, Ne-Yo and Crystal have been seeing each other since at least July.
Listen to his interview below.
Ne-Yo Speaks On Entertainers’ Obligations To Social Issues: “If We Don’t Look Out For Us, Who Else Will?”
When national tragedies such as the killing of Mike Brown occur, people often look to the rich and famous to use their celebrity to bring about justice. Sometimes these stars surprise us with their generous humanitarian efforts, and other times we end up disappointed that they’ve dropped the ball. One celeb, however, who says there’s no excuse for the latter to happen is Ne-Yo. We caught up with the singer Friday night at his 3rd Annual Compound Foundation Fostering a Legacy benefit gala and given his dedication to improving life for foster children, we asked why it’s so important for him to give back — especially in light of situations like Ferguson. He told us:
“It’s extremely important. As an entertainer, I have a bigger microphone than the average man. So with that being said, these powers that you get, you’re supposed to use them for the good of everybody else. My mama always said that you’re given blessings to be a blessing and that’s how it’s supposed to go. If we don’t look out for us, who else will?”
That answer, as we’ve unfortunately seen time and time again, is no one. So taking Ne-Yo’s comments a step further, we asked what he’d tell his son about dealing with police officers to make sure he doesn’t end up a senseless victim of police brutality like so many Black boys in recent years. Ne-Yo said:
“I’ll just make sure that my son does everything in his power to be respectable and upstanding so that police won’t have to deal with him at all. That’s what I’m going to do. I’ve never had an issues with the police. I have respect for the police who do what they’re supposed to do. The ones who don’t, the law is supposed to deal with them the way they would any criminal.”
Unfortunately, what the law is supposed to do and what happens in these instances doesn’t always match up. As more celebrities use their influence as Ne-Yo does, maybe things will change. What do you thin about his remarks?
When we first learned that Monyetta Shaw could no longer have children on Hollywood Exes, we instantly felt our hearts break. She made a life changing decision to get her tubes burned, based on the man she loved and the position she was in.
Now that man, Ne-Yo is speaking out on their decision. In an interview with Hello Beautiful, Ne-Yo states the decision was absolutely mutual.
“As a family, we decided, we didn’t want any more kids. Once we learned that our second child was a boy we were in the office high-fiving like ‘Yes. We’re done, The doctor hit us with the option.”
“If we done, we done, we decided we didn’t want anymore kids,WE (emphasize on the WE) decided we didn’t want anymore kids.”
On instagram he also stated,
”I’ve made my apologies to the people I feel I wronged. I was forgiven by those people. Anybody else passing judgment on me for my past mistakes and immaturities is more than welcome to it.”
With that being said, what do you think? Do you still feel Ne-Yo was in the wrong? Do you feel any remorse for Monyetta?
One of our favorite cast members on VH1’s hit show, “Atlanta Exes” is Monyetta Shaw. She just seems so down to earth and sweet. And while she has every reason in the world to be bitter, she doesn’t speak ill of the father of her children, singer and producer Ne-Yo.
But she didn’t have to be catty or messy to show the world that Ne-Yo is not always the gentleman he presents to the public. And the fans of the show have discovered this listening to Monyetta talk about how he did her when he decided, after proposing, that he no longer wanted to be with her.
But the final nail in Ne-Yo’s coffin came when Monyetta revealed that she decided, because she thought her family with Ne-Yo was complete with a boy and girl, that she would have her tubes burnt off.
Of course, she’s already gone through the procedure when he called off their engagement, breaking up with her over the phone.
With all of that information, there’s no way he could look like the good guy. But Monyetta, in an interview with Juicy says that she’s managed to forgive Ne-Yo and how she would want viewers to do the same.
“I will say it’s a bit different for him. I don’t think he’s ever been seen in that light before, and no one knew that would happen. I just knew I wouldn’t bash him because that’s not the relationship that we have. But then again, I knew that I was going to tell my truth to be able to help others that maybe experiencing what I experienced. Kinda show them what maybe not to do, so none of us saw this coming, and it’s a different light for him.
But what I want to convey to the world is to let them know that I’ve forgiven him. Yes, people grow, people change, people make mistakes, but I was mature enough to forgive him, so I kinda want the fans to forgive him too. But I get it – they’re probably shocked ’cause his image is a gentleman, and they really didn’t know much about our personal life because we purposely kept it on the low, but of course, I signed up for a reality show, so that’s kinda out of the window. It’s weird for him, but he’s still supportive though, I will say that. He’s still totally supportive, but it’s weird because of all the backlash. And I guess, I don’t know, the fans are kinda like, ‘Oh, that’s not a good thing. Why would he do that?’ I guess just seeing me for the first time, the fans are taking a liking to me, thank God. I’m just being me, and I’m just very grateful they like me, and that even more it kinda makes them go hard like, ‘What are you doing? Mo is this, Mo is that. How dare you.’ But people change, and I’ve forgiven him, and I’m able to have a good relationship with him. So hopefully, they’ll see that, and they’ll see we still support one another and that he’s not really a bad guy. Sometimes people make bad decisions and choices, and that’s just life.”
She also addressed her decision to have her tubes burned.
“LIfe. You live your life the way that you see is necessary. I believed in the promise that was going to be – that we were getting.There was no doubt in my mind. If there was one inkling of a doubt, I would’ve never, ever, ever done it. Ever in life. But I was secure in what we had, and I did it. We decided as a family. And let’s be clear because a lot of stories were coming out saying he made me, and he pressured me. That’s not the case, at all. I’m a woman, a grown woman, and I made my own choice. Yes, we decided together, ’cause we had a girl and a boy, that we didn’t want anymore kids. You know, we were a family, and this was it for us. So yeah, that’s what I would have to say to that. I don’t know if I would do it the exact same way if I had the opportunity to go back, but that’s life, and we can’t go back. So I’m standing by my decision, and living with the consequences.”
Then she talked about dating and how she would manage it, with Ne-Yo still living in their home.
“Just the way that I’m built, I wouldn’t bring a guy in the house because it is the house that we share together. It is our family house as long as he still resides here. I’m just not built like that – that’s not even a question. I wouldn’t do it, so he would have to be out of the house. He has nothing to worry about in that regards.”
“He seems to be supportive of me moving on. We’ve had discussions about it before, and his concern is my concern with him moving on. Just if it gets serious enough, make sure that person is amazing. And we would have to meet the other person if it gets to that point because they are going to be around our children, and our children are very impressionable and very young. So you know how some people bring people in and out of their kids’ lives – that’s not an option for us. You know, he’s voiced his opinion, and said he will be really supportive, but we have to be some good judge of characters.”
And since some people are convinced that these exes don’t have any claim to fame aside from their relationships, Monyetta told Juicy that she is working on her second children’s book Maddie Goes to School based on her three year old daughter Madilyn. She’s also launching an online boutique called Emerlyn & Ester– a boutique she opened with ex Ne-Yo. She co-created “Heels of Greatness,” and award ceremony that recognizes 25 trailblazing women. And Monyetta also continues her philanthropy in Swaziland.
Good luck with the fans coming around Monyetta. We all know what it’s like to have a friend tell us all the dirt about a man only to see her go back to him or swear he’s “not that bad.” The thing is though, while your girl gets to see the good and bad sides of him and most likely loves him, the outsiders just know all of the hurt he caused you. And that’s hard to forget.
I don’t watch Atlanta Exes. Not because I’m against reality TV, mostly because the show doesn’t interest me in the least bit. I said that to say, I’m writing about this Monyetta Shaw situation without having actually seen the scene that led to this prompt. I did happen to read Victoria Uwumarogie’s post on the matter, however, and came away wholly confused at what I’d read from her piece and what I saw in the comments section. In case you’re not aware, I’ll give you a quick breakdown. Monyetta Shaw is Ne-yo’s ex fiance who’s still living in Ne-yo’s house. During their engagement, they had two kids and a decision was made for her to burn her tubes so she can’t have anymore children. She now regrets the decision because they broke up. While I’ll stop just short of calling Monyetta Shaw an idiot, from what I’ve read about the situation, the decision she made doesn’t seem to be a smart one.
Time and time again, from now and until the last days of this planet, “love” will be the reason for many decisions people make. When a good decision is made based on love, all is right with the world. When a terrible decision is made based on love, it hurts with the force of a Mike Tyson right hook to the temple. I cannot fathom making a permanent decision based on something as temporary as love. It’s not in my DNA. Even if love were everlasting, at some point, logic is going to kick in and say “hey, idiot, you’re making a huge mistake. Snap out of it.” Take the last two sentences and apply it to this Monyetta and Ne-yo situation. In short, if I was her, there is no way in hell I’d have gotten a tubal ligation unless it was something I wanted to do.
With that said, I feel the same way about vasectomies as I do tubal ligations. Before completing this article, I did a quick Google search on male vasectomies and was surprised to see how little information there was available in terms of statistics. I did learn that women, at some point within the last 20 years, became three times more likely to get a permanent birth control procedure done than men, despite the fact the procedure is simpler and easier for men. I didn’t find any other information to know what to make of that behavior pattern, but if I had to fashion a guess, I’d say those situations probably mirrored something like Monyetta and Ne-Yo’s. Man and woman are together. Man and women have children. Someone decides the couple no longer wants to have children and the woman is off to the doctor. Love overrode logic — at least on the woman’s end.
A special note here for people who were extremely upset with Ne-yo. I know it’s fashionable to place blame on others while not taking personal responsibility, but what “happened” to Monyetta isn’t his fault. It’s 2014 and last I checked, there’s roughly ten billion ways to not have a child without doing something as extreme as a tubal ligation. Women also have rights and reproductive agency, so I’m not buying anything about this woman not having a choice in the matter. She made a decision thinking she was going to be married to Ne-yo and he didn’t marry her. Of course in hindsight it’s easy to say “well, if she married him this wouldn’t be an issue,” but that’s missing the point. Making permanent decisions about your body based on whims, feelings, “love,” or any other notion in which another party who won’t suffer any adverse consequences if the relationship fails, is a bad idea.
Monyetta Shaw And “Atlanta Exes” Causing Ne-Yo To Lose Fans; Singer Speaks Out About Criticism: “I’ve Made My Apologies”
After Monyetta Shaw revealed on this week’s episode of “Atlanta Exes” that she had her tubes burned in order to prevent herself from having any other kids at the request of former fiancee Ne-Yo, some people have been looking at the popular singer very differently. For instance, check out this very angry message a woman posted on Ne-Yo’s Instagram page earlier this week:
All these f**king cheating stars, and ungrateful men like neyo, I pray that on judgment day God sends all ur a**es to hell! That’s where all of y’all belong. Neyo I m extremely disappointed, ur a selfish bastard and the funny thing is … Ur the ugliest thing I’ve ever seen! Ur ex fiance was Gods gift to u, but of course u wanna keep running around sticking ur d**k in every hole u see. The devil is waiting for u! I hope ur ready. Fool! Ur fame needs to be wripped away from you and then maybe ull realize how greatful u r to have the kinda baby momma u have! @neyo
Ne-Yo seems to have noticed these messages from people on his social media, and he made the decision to speak on it with this pic and caption yesterday:
I’ve made my apologies to the people I feel I wronged. I was forgiven by those people. Anybody else passing judgment on me for my past mistakes and immaturities is more than welcome to it. Your opinion is your own to do with as you please. The ONLY judgment I’m truly concerned with is the ONLY one that matters. Mistakes will be made, that’s human. So again to all the perfect beings out there who feel so worthy to judge my imperfection…..ENJOY THE SHOW. #NowTHATSNonfiction #AtlExes #Vh1 #WatchIt #IfCrucifyingMeMakesYouFeelBetterAboutYouHaveAtIt #ShoutOutToAllTheImperfectPeopleOutThereJustTryingToFigureThisThingCalledLifeOutJustLikeMe
Ne-Yo has actually been pretty supportive of Shaw being on the show, promoting the show on Instagram to his 600,000+ followers, claiming he’s #teammonyetta. But the things she’s revealed since being on the show haven’t painted him in a good light at all…
What do you think of Ne-Yo’s response to detractors?
Although he’s still technically living with ex-fiancée, Monyetta Shaw, and their two children, there’s obviously a new lady in Ne-Yo’s life. For months, the singer has been sharing photos of himself with model Crystal Renay. While it’s evident that the two are romantically involved, Ne-Yo made it clear that she is not actually his girlfriend. During a recent interview with NecoleBitchie, Monyetta also addressed her ex’s newfound love interest.
“I really don’t think much of it right now,” she explained. “When it gets serious, that’s when I will dedicate the time to think about it because we have two little kids so it’s kind of not just us. So that person has to be amazing because they’re little kids and they’re so impressionable.
I can’t even think about [Crystal] right now. But when it gets to that point, we’ll cross that point. But I wish him the best.”
She also discussed still living with Ne-Yo.
“I think it kind of made it harder in the beginning. However, time heals all things. And he’s away more than he’s here. And he has a good heart and he’s a good person. Like I said, everyone has their vices, you know? But he’s a good dude overall and that’s how we’re able to be friends.
I like to say that we’re starting a movement. We’re not going to be the stereotypical ‘I hate my baby daddy. I hate my baby momma’ thing. You’re not going to see that. We’re going to start this movement that we can all get along and we can be classy about the situation and be a great example to our kids. That’s what it’s about at the end of the day.”
As for whether or not she thinks she will ever get back with Ne-Yo, Monyetta had this to say:
“I’ll always have that love for him. He’s a good guy. But at the place where he’s at and I’m at, it doesn’t make sense right now. Only God knows.
“You know, people grow apart. People change. Like I said, only time will tell. I think I will forever have a special, special place in my heart for him. I know that will never change. I’m open to the possibility of love, whatever that may look like. If God [will] send the right person to me. Now if God works with him and sends him back, that’s on God. And if not, I’m cool with that. Who knows? Right now I’m good and I wish him the best. It’s all love.”
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I’m not sure if you’ve been tuning into “Atlanta Exes,” but I would have to say that the person whose story really tugs at my heartstrings the most is Monyetta Shaw (Torrei is a little too sensitive/petty at times, Tameka is too abrasive with her opinions, Sheree is a little immature and Christina…well, I actually like her too). The former fiancée of Ne-Yo is still trying to move on from her famous flame while holding on for dear life at the same time…
You see, the former couple still live together with their two children, despite the fact that the singer has already publicly started dating someone new (Shaw claims that their living arrangement is temporary). But she says that at some point she wants to move on and date someone new–it’s just been hard to get out there to start.
When asked by cast member Christina Johnson during yesterday’s episode if she was ready to deal with a new man who might want her to have more kids, Shaw broke down in tears because she revealed that she can no longer have children. While with Ne-Yo, as a family, they made the decision after she had their son Mason (they also have eldest daughter Madilyn, born 11 months before) that because they had a boy and a girl, they weren’t going to have anymore children. With that in mind, Shaw had her tubes burnt by a doctor who until the very moment she did it, asked repeatedly, “Are you sure?” This was all while she was in her late 20s, under the impression that they were going to be together for the rest of their lives. Now that they’re not together anymore, she’s very angry.
“What if I meet the one and he doesn’t have kids? I can’t give you kids. That right there, it gets me. It makes me angry. From that, that’s why I see why some women are bitter.”
This whole scene was very sad. Shaw thought that they were going to be a solid family and that their future was going to be bright, only for Ne-Yo to realize after such a big decision was made that he didn’t want to be with her anymore. And she can’t really get away from him to heal completely because she’s made the decision to continue living in his home.
When I saw this scene play out I thought to myself, ‘why couldn’t they just use birth control?’ That’s such a major decision to make as young parents in their 20s so soon after bringing two kids into the world. I also thought, ‘Why couldn’t he get a vasectomy!?’
Another big thing I thought about after watching this scene was the reality of the crazy sacrifices we make for relationships that men often don’t.
I was just having a conversation with a friend this past weekend. After being committed to a man for four years who she was supposed to become a Mrs. to (seriously, they set a date), she left that relationship immensely hurt because he went back on his word one too many times and took her for granted. She sacrificed quite a bit for her partner (including moving to the other side of the country to be with him) and did very sweet things for her man that he wouldn’t do for her. Now she too is unsure about stepping back into the dating world, worried that she won’t find the man who will appreciate her and all she does, but instead, find more hurt and pain.
The only advice that I could give to her is to do what comes naturally to her. If it’s in her heart to go out of her way for her partner, then she’ll do it. But I told her that she shouldn’t do too much to the point where she feels like she gives and gives and gives, only to feel empty after the fact.
Shaw did just that. Not only did she have Ne-Yo’s children and burn her tubes after the fact, but she also got a tattoo on her body with the singer’s government name (Shaffer Smith) because she was that committed and in love.
We as women all do some very interesting things and make major sacrifices (including forgoing friends and family) for people who we think are as invested in the relationship as we are. The easiest answer would be to say that you should go into relationships with your eyes open, but falling in love is a mutha, right? Your heart can really have you out here confused with your nose wide open. I’ve been there too.
So I sympathize with Shaw, but I applaud her for sharing her story so that other women know and will think long and hard about what could happen before making such major decisions for love (aka, a man). In a recent chat with NecoleBitchie though, Shaw said that despite all she’d given and lost, she still doesn’t regret anything about her relationship with Ne-Yo and had this advice for others:
“Just love. Love with all your heart. Love yourself first. Because who knows what’s going to happen? Don’t have any regrets and don’t hold back. Even being hurt and going through heartbreak, you still live and you’re living life and you just gotta go into it full throttle. Love yourself first and just be open to love.”
You can check out the revealing conversation between Shaw and Johnson below:
Last summer, we told you that Ne-Yo announced his breakup from fiancée, Monyetta Shaw, via Instagram.
“Though fate had decided to split our romantic paths, know that I will ALWAYS love you. Forever your partner. Forever your friend. Forever my miracle,” the image read. “I’ll always be there. ALWAYS.@incognemo Forever my miracle,” he added.
Although many were under the impression that Ne-Yo broke up with the mother of his two children via the social networking site, Monyetta says that the actual breakup went down over the phone.
“We broke up amongst ourselves, and it happened to be on the phone,” she told Sister 2 Sister. “He did and it stung a little; however, he was at home the week after and we sat down and discussed everything. It wasn’t crazy, fussing and fighting type thing. We’re two adults, and we handle ourselves in that way. Yes, emotions were high. I didn’t see it coming, but people change.”
As for the Instagram post, Monyetta says that she advised her ex-fiancé against it.
“We broke everything off two months before the infamous Instagram post,” she continued. “We talked about it and I told him, ‘I think it’s a great idea to just get your publicist, just come out with a statement. That will be the classy way to do it.’ For whatever reason, he chose to do it his way BET weekend and the world went crazy,” she said.
Monyetta went on to say that while she’s happy Ne-Yo just came out and said that he’s not ready for a monogamous relationship, she doesn’t really understand it.
“All I know is marriage. My mom and dad, they’ve been together for 43 years. That’s all I know. I will say I was crushed by it, but hey, I do believe everything happens for a reason, and I’m moving through this thing.”
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The Money Can’t Buy R&B crooner Ne-Yo is accusing his former accountant Kevin Foster of sneaky schemes and he’s suing him for $8 million, Eurweb reports.
Foster was Ne-Yo’s “manager, confidant, trusted adviser and friend,” according to the lawsuit, which was filed in Manhattan Federal Court. Yet, Ne-Yo — real name Shaffer Smith — claims that Foster has been slipping money from his bank account since 2005.
The lawsuit alleges that Foster forged Smith’s signature on loan documents and invested the singer’s money in a water company that was on the brink of bankruptcy. In other words, Ne-Yo had no idea, according to the Daily News, that he was the president and chief financial officer of a troubled business.
It was only after Ne-Yo hired an accounting firm that he discovered Foster’s engagement in “self-dealing and inappropriate conduct,” The Daily News says.
Foster, Ne-Yo says, swindled him out of $4.5 million. The three-time Grammy award winner is also asking for an additional $3.5 million for fees he had paid for Foster’s services.
According to the lawsuit, Foster’s job was to “ensure Smith was financially situated as to maintain his accustomed lifestyle for the remainder of his life, protect Smith from financial ruin, and mitigate risk of frivolous spending.” The implication, of course, is that he did the opposite.
“Apparently, money can’t buy a good accountant,” EurWeb joked.