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“Save Some Of You For You” Monyetta Shaw On Learning From Her Relationship With Ne-Yo and Her Book Bigger Than Me
Many of us fell in love with Monyetta Shaw watching her on “Atlanta Exes.” And many of our hearts broke hearing the story about how her former fiancé, singer, songwriter Ne-Yo, called off their engagement two months before their wedding. Incidentally, this was after Shaw had her tubes burned, because this was what they both agreed upon. (Ne-Yo said it was going to get a vasectomy but that never happened.) But y’all know the story. And in case you forgot it, the New York Post, did a great job of providing a recap. Turns out, Shaw wasn’t exactly thrilled about that interview for several reasons. MadameNoire reached out to Monyetta to not only get her thoughts on the interview but to clear up any misconceptions. We asked her how she moved past the hurt and what readers can expect from her book Bigger Than Me. And of course what’s her relationship with Ne-Yo and Crystal like these days.
See what she had to say below.
You expressed that you were less than satisfied about the way the Post ultimately portrayed you in their story. Can you tell us why you were unhappy with it?
Basically, it was supposed to be a question and answer interview. And right off top, she was asking questions about the past and things I no longer feel anymore and it didn’t have anything to do with the book. It’s not in my book; therefore, I didn’t want to discuss them. So, in a nutshell she basically made up what she wanted the book to be about. She was a fan of the show and we talked about it, we laughed. And she took things from there and put it in the interview and then, to add insult to injury, acted as if I wrote it, in the form of first person. I’m like, ‘Yo, that’s insane.’ It blew my mind. She said key words that I did not want her to say, that she said she wouldn’t say…it was horrible.
So would you say that what she included was untrue or it was just something you didn’t want to discuss at the time?
Anyone who watched the show [“Atlanta Exes”] knew the facts so it wasn’t necessarily untrue; however, she’s bringing up stuff that’s not important to where I am in my life so it’s unfair. And it’s not the message that I’m trying to send out to the world now. My ex and I are in a good place, we’re co-parenting. And that’s what the book is about. It’s not about bringing up stuff that could possibly ruin what we have.
So tell us about the place that you are in right now?
I am in a really, really good place in my life right now. The kids are amazing. They’ve always been my first priority. We got into our first choice school, which was a huge thing. It was like a six-month process. Working on my businesses, the Evan Grace Group, children’s book. I’m dating. Not going to disclose names. I’m just really excited about what God has in store. Glad to be on the other side.
How did you get here?
Giiirrrl, a lot of prayer and having supportive friends and family. My dad is the key to that. When I would be going through certain situations, I would call him. He would come through and give me a good scripture and keep it 100 percent, no matter if it hurt me or not. Just give me the real. You need that. You might not want it but you need it. And basically, just writing my book and getting it out was my therapy, just like the show was my therapy at that time. I discussed things that I’ve never discussed before and I feel like this is it. I’m putting it out there in this book and that’s the close of the chapter.
Would you feel some type of way if your ex’s new partner named their first son after him, even though your child is the first-born son?
That’s what our video producer came into our office asking after seeing the first front-facing picture of Ne-Yo and Crystal Renay’s son, Shaffer Chimere Smith, Jr., which Renay shared yesterday:
What a cutie! He looks like a babydoll, right?
But back to the topic at hand.
When our producer asked the question, both editorial assistant Lauren Fox and I said no. The name was, in a way, up for grabs. So why not? But as I saw more and more pictures from Mr. and Mrs. Smith, I did get an interesting energy from it all.
Welcome to the world lil’ man. (HA! Mason’s a big brother now😂) You got a BIG family lookin’ out for you, immediate AND extended. And we all love you to death. Gonna do EVERYTHING in my power to make sure ALL my children never need for anything EVER. @iamcrystalrenay I love you lovely. Thank you for this amazing gift! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
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But I can see things from both sides.
You see, my brother’s son David* is a Jr., but he’s not the first-born son. Around the time David Jr. was born, no one on my brother’s side of the family thought anything of him taking his father’s name. The first-born son, Michael*, is a twin, so his mother called him something that sounded similar to his twin sister’s name–Michelle*. Therefore, David Jr. was available, and I guess my brother wanted his own namesake. My brother is the third David (his father and his grandfather were Davids too), so my sister-in-law decided to keep the tradition going.
Nevertheless, I do believe that that name choice was something that made the very real tension between the mother of Michael and Michelle, and my brother and his wife, that much more thick. And I do get the impression that it was something that Michael was a little hurt about as he got older. But I don’t think the intentions my brother and his wife had were negative. And for the most part, when women do decide to name the second son of a man after the child’s father, I don’t assume it’s usually meant to be something “na-na-na-boo-boo” petty.
However, everyone is different. So at the same time, if I put myself in the shoes of a mother, like Monyetta Shaw, I might feel a jolt. I might be upset about it. It’s not something to start a big quarrel over, but it would be interesting. Particularly in this situation, where people have accused Renay of flaunting her relationship with Ne-Yo in an attempt to make Shaw feel bad since she was so hurt by the end of their long-term relationship.
We know the whole story. We know about the promises. We know about the plan not to have any more kids and the burned fallopian tubes. We know about the breakup and the declaration that he wasn’t 100 percent ready to commit to being married. We know about the new relationship, the engagement, the wedding without the presence of Ne-Yo’s kids, and now, the newborn baby in the baby carriage. So for some, like our video producer, and those who actually took to Renay’s Instagram page during the name announcement to criticize her, you could have a reason to question intentions.
But then again, Ne-Yo’s children with Monyetta were given M names when they were born, which was obviously a nod to their mother:
With that being said, what do you make of all this? I’m just going to stay neutral because I don’t know how I would feel if were either woman. But I definitely hope that, behind the scenes for the Smiths and Shaw, things aren’t as shady as people think they are and seem for the sake of their children.
* indicates that names have been changed
Just three weeks after exchanging vows, artist Ne-Yo and his wife Crystal Renay have welcomed their first child, a son.
Smith announced the arrival of “Prince SJ” on her Snapchat yesterday with an image of herself holding her son’s hand.
As you might assume, SJ stands for Shaffer Jr., named after his father.
We knew the baby was coming after Crystal Renay shared a picture of the couple of her husband kissing her belly with the caption,
“I began this journey with you and here we are at the finish line stronger than ever TOGETHER! I feel so blessed and frightened at the same time but I know that God and you have my back. I can look to you for strength when I feel mine failing and know that in you I’ll find me. My family, friends and sincere supporters know how monumental tonight is for me and I thank you all for being there for me and loving me unconditionally through my process. I couldn’t have made it through without you.”
Earlier this morning, she shared the details of little Shaffer’s birth.
Prince Shaffer Chimere Smith Jr has arrived! 6lbs 8oz, 19 inches🙈 it was the scariest delivery ever and I ended up getting a emergency C-section cause of complications but with the help of my amazing doctor @drsherryr and my super calming husband @neyo I was able to get through it all and come out with best reward in the world… SJ!!!!! #BestDayOfMyLife
This is Crystal’s first child and Ne-Yo’s third.
Congratulations to this couple!
I have so many thoughts about last night’s live production of “The Wiz Live.” It was just everything. I’ll formulate my thoughts more clearly on the following pages. While I was legitimately sad when it was over, I was also so very full. It was a beautiful display that went beyond just entertainment value. What I saw last night was good for my spirit. The recent and persistent evils of this world have had me feeling down lately and this uplifter was much needed. With so much racism and sexism, it was nothing short of therapeutic for the Black community to see such a display of Black excellence, particularly from a cast that featured quite a few amazing women.
Check out the best and most standout moments from the production and watch the full show again or for the first time, on the last page.
“It’s A Part Of Who I Am, It’s A Part Of Why I Am”: “The Wiz Live” Cast Share What The Story Means To Them
Just when I thought I couldn’t be any more invested in “The Wiz Live,” we had an opportunity to speak with the cast members about their experience rehearsing for this live, televised event on Thursday, December 3. We interviewed some of the biggest names in entertainment and they had a lot to say about this project. But more than anything, the cast members kept reiterating how important The Wiz, both the play and the feature film, were to not only themselves but to the African American community as a whole.
Check out some of the thoughts, memories and passion shared by both the on-stage talent as well as the folks behind the curtain.
Stephanie Mills, Auntie Em
I knew of Shanice (who plays Dorothy) before they actually cast her because Kenny and I were having a talk and he said, ‘There’s this girl and I know she’s Dorothy, I know she’s Dorothy.’
I’ve given her love. I told her you can’t–I don’t want you to try to do what I did. She’s her Dorothy, the 2015 Dorothy. It’s her. I did my part 40 years ago.
It’s emotional because I see myself in her. I see the innocence, how young I was doing it and how afraid I was at that time. It brings back all those memories.
Executive producer, Craig Zadan: I don’t think we had any pressure. We took it on because we love it and we thought it would make a great show for us to do. What we were surprised at was the amount of people who called us. I would say this was the first time in our lives that very prominent African American artists, actors, directors, producers called us to say ‘Do you know how important this is to the community? Don’t blow it.’ And we realized at that moment that there’s a reverence for this material. We didn’t take it on for the reverence. We took it on because we loved it. But then you realize that there is that added responsibility of making sure that it’s done correctly. And we’ve done it correctly. We hope. We hope when you all see that you feel it’s done correctly too.
MN: Was there a moment when you felt like ‘ok, this is right’?
Executive producer, Neil Meron: Yeah. At the table read when it was all the talent in one room and we heard how much they collectively felt the same way about the material and what we were about to do. It felt good.
Amber Riley, Addaperle (Good Witch of the North)
I don’t know how old I was but I remember watching [The Wiz] and rewinding it over and over again. And I remember trying to do “Ease on Down The Road.” I remember the music, I specifically remember the music.
Before even hearing what names were going to be a part of [this production], I wanted to be a part of it anyway. I didn’t really care who was going to be in it. You know, this is iconic. The fact that my mom has seen it and that was her first Broadway show and then I saw it in the movie and now my niece is four is going to be able to watch it. Anything that can withstand generations has to be amazing. There’s something special about it and I really wanted to be a part of that.
Neyo has taken to social media to dispel rumors regarding his relationship with Crystal Renay. The couple is expecting their first child together and are engaged to be married, but they have not tied the knot yet.
— NE-YO!! (@NeYoCompound) August 31, 2015
2015 has been an exciting year for Neyo.
Just days after subtly announcing his marriage to girlfriend, Crystal Renay, the singer-songwriter—whose birth name is Shaffer Smith—confirmed that they’re also expecting a baby.
The 35-year-old singer, who is already father to Mason and Madilyn Smith, made the shocking revelations on Instagram, of all places. And apparently, he anticipated that the news would attract its share of backlash because his announcement included a low-key jab at critics.
“Happiness. Go get you some,” he wrote. “Shouts to @j3collection for the flick and the lovely @mscrystalrenay of course for making it look so good. (She’s the sexy in this couple I just try to keep up) #ClassicCouple #AT #HO #TheSmiths #BeHappyForMyHappyOrJustBeQuiet.”
The “So Sick” singer has been the target of much criticism since his ex-fiancée and mother of his two children, Monyetta Shaw, revealed the circumstances surrounding their 2013 breakup. As you may recall, Shaw appeared as a cast member on VH1’s “Atlanta Exes” where she expressed regret over deciding to tie and burn her tubes after a conversation with Smith, who was her fiancé at the time the decision was made, about not wanting more children. He later broke up with her over the phone.
Smith and Shaw have since put aside their differences, and it seems that she and Renay are on good terms as well. Back in April, the women met for the first time and Shaw shared that it was a pleasant experience.
“Actually, it’s funny that you asked that, I recently met her – I met her this weekend. As a mother, it’s my duty to meet the person that’s potentially going to be around my kids,” the mother of two told said last year. “It’s definitely time for me to meet her, get to know her, well start to get to know her, and that’s what I did. Actually, it was all good – pleasantly surprised.”
It’s refreshing to see that everyone has moved on and can be cordial for the sake of the children involved in this situation.
Congrats to both Neyo and Crystal!
With each passing week, I get more and more excited about NBC’s “The Wiz Live!” The cast, from Uzo Aduba to David Alan Grier to Queen Latifah, is looking like it’s going to be top notch.
And now we’re getting word on the fellas.
Common, Ne-Yo and Elijah Kelley are joining the party as well.
Common will take the role of the gate keep of Oz, Ne-Yo will play the Tin Man and Elijah will be playing the Scarerow.
Can you see it? Are you here for these choices?
On Wednesday, 200 girls in Harlem were treated like divas. The girls, ages 8-16, were received manicures, runway walk tutorials, makeovers and much more in an attempt to inspire them to feel beautiful, confident and informed.
The day-long event was the brainchild of Angela Simmons and her partner Kerri Berson Levine. The two, who had been friends for a while, had spoken about hosting an event for young girls often. Three years ago, through a partnership with the Boys and Girls Club, they launched what is now GIRLTALK #takeover.
In addition to the beauty component, there were fitness activities hosted by Pretty Girls Sweat, a yoga class. And in a classroom on the premises, health professionals spoke to the teenagers about healthy romantic relationships, reproductive health and puberty.
During this session, Simmons popped in to discuss the pressure many girls feel to engage in sex, perhaps prematurely.
She shared that she’s a virgin, waiting to marriage to have sex.
I had a chance to chat with Simmons and she explained that she felt it was important to share that story.
“I feel like in this day and age with social media, that decision is often made for them. So I want them to be able to make their own decision on what they want to do and to know that if they make the decision, they’re not an alien, they’re not by themselves.”
In addition to these lessons, the girls had a few surprises that day when 14-year-old Little leaguer and Espy Award winner Mo’Ne Davis showed up to give a slew of hugs, sign autographs and take pictures.
Later, artists Ne-Yo, Justine Skye and Simmons’ younger brother Diggy came through to meet the girls.
This won’t be the last time you hear of GIRLTALK #takeover as there are plans to take the program to other cities in the nation.
Check out some pictures from the fun and festive day below.
Last summer, Monyetta Shaw revealed that her former fiancée Ne-Yo broke up with her over the phone. According to the mother of two, the breakup caught her off guard, but she dealt with it the best way that she knew how. Ne-Yo has since entered a relationship with a model that goes by the name Crystal Renay and things appear to be serious.
In a recent interview with Mara the Hip Hop Socialite, Moyetta explained that for a long time, she didn’t believe that her split from Ne-Yo would be a permanent one.
“Girl, I’m going to be real, I’m human. Maybe I’m saying too much, but I’m going to say it. Because everybody saw me on the show, and I was completely vulnerable and open, I’m not mad at admitting this,” she shared. “Of course I knew that he would, you know, in my head, he was going to sow his oats and come back home when he was ready. And maybe that’s what everybody else thought, but life happens, and I’m okay with it. I’m human – at times it didn’t feel good, but I understand everything happens for a reason, and God has a plan, so all is well.”
Speaking of Ne-Yo’s new lady, the “Atlanta Exes” star also opened up about recently meeting her.
“Actually, it’s funny that you asked that, I recently met her – I met her this weekend. As a mother, it’s my duty to meet the person that’s potentially going to be around my kids. And, like you said, the initials [Ne-Yo and Crystal recently got each other’s initials tattooed on their ring fingers] and everything – they hot and heavy over there. Can’t be mad at that, you know.”
Although she initially hoped that her family would come back together, Monyetta says that she has nothing but well wishes for Ne-Yo and Crystal.
“I have wished him the best and everything, I still do, and I felt like it was time, you know. It’s definitely time for me to meet her, get to know her, well start to get to know her, and that’s what I did. Actually, it was all good – pleasantly surprised.”
Unfortunately, she’s still not sure about the future of her VH1 reality show “Atlanta Exes.” As previously reported, “Hollywood Exes” has officially been canceled.
Exclusive: Ne-Yo’s Ex-Girlfriend Opens Up About Paternity Scandal & Trying To Find Love On “Match Made In Heaven”
Earlier this week, we told you that Ne-Yo’s ex-girlfriend Jesseca White, who now goes by the name Phoenix, was a contestant on WEtv dating show “Match Made in Heaven.” While on the series, White briefly opened up about the high-profile paternity scandal involving herself and the singer. We were recently able to sit down with the White for her first ever interview regarding the scandal involving her famous ex. Check out what she had to say below.
MN: Why reality television?
I decided to do reality television at the very last minute. It took literally until the day before the show was shooting. A friend of mine called me and was like, “Hey, I think you’d be really great for the show to find love,” and I thought hey, let me just try it. It wasn’t a big, big thing.
MN: So there was no audition process? They just wanted you?
No. I just got a call from one of my friends.
MN: What was it that attracted you to Shawn? Were you actually looking for love or was it more about the show?
No, it wasn’t that I just wanted to do the show. I think that it was just trying something different for love. I didn’t believe that you could find love on a reality show in the beginning, but I felt like all the signs were kind of pointing for me to do it so I just kind of went with it. So that’s why I did it.
As far as Shawn, what attracted me to him was that he’s very charming, he was a good listener and I felt like he got me. So when we had our private moments and we had our conversations, it felt like a deeper chemistry for me. So I appreciated it. And he’s cute too! So that doesn’t hurt.
MN: So Shawn recently interviewed with us and he had quite a bit to say about Black women wearing their scarves and bonnets to bed. He also mentioned White women who go “right to sleep without the head wraps.” What are your thoughts on that?
Is that what he said? Look, we got to protect our edges. I think from his perspective, I think it’s also important that we continue to be sexy while in a relationship. Yeah, wrap your hair up a little bit later, but I’m trying to go to bed sexy. White women don’t have to worry about their edges.
MN: Were you concerned about your past resurfacing when you signed on to appear on the show?
Yes, which was part of the reason why I didn’t want to do the show. I’ve always been very private about my private life even when all of that stuff was happening [with Ne-Yo] in the past. I never said anything. It wasn’t about that and I felt like if I love somebody or if I was ever in love with someone, our personal problems and issues are our own. I just kept it to myself, but I figured it would probably come up. I was hoping that it wouldn’t, but it did.
MN: And how did it come up exactly?
How it came up was that one of the girls ran up to Shawn and told him something. No one else in the house heard it, but I just so happened to hear it. I was like, you know what? No one is ever going to tell a man something about me that I haven’t told him first. Then when you’re trapped in the house with a bunch of women, and if you’ve watched the show, it’s been very unpredictable with how people react in the house, to anything. There’s a lot of sabotage, a lot of fighting, a lot of underhanded stuff going on. I don’t do all that. I don’t like confrontation and I don’t operate that way. So I was like, I’m going to stand up here, take the risk in front of everybody at the same time and I’m going to tell him what I have to say because I really like him so I was willing to take that chance because what I felt for him was real.
MN: His mom looks like she can be a piece of work at times. Were you concerned about how she would react?
I talked to her the night before. I was like, “There’s going to be some stuff that I am going to tell you and your son that you’re probably not going to like, but I’m going to tell you the truth. If that gets me eliminated off of the show or not, I don’t care because I’d rather stand up for my truth and stand in that than not.” And she respected that.
MN: On the show, you described the paternity issue with Ne-Yo and the things that followed as a situation you were thrown into that wasn’t your “choice.” Can you elaborate on what you mean by that?
What I meant by that was that I never chose to be thrown into the media and it was made into this big huge scandal. No one has ever heard me say anything. I’ve never defended myself. I’ve never fought against it. I’ve never tried to clear my name. It’s something that I was thrown into based on what PR people decided to do at that time. And that’s what I meant.