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You Pay Rent, So Why Do You Hate Going Home? Knowing When It’s Time To Move Out

August 26th, 2013 - By Nicole Akoukou Thompson
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Every hair in the shower drain, every crumb on the kitchen counter, and every spec of descended fur from your roommate’s pair of moody cats echoes that it’s time for you to get the hell out of your living situation and find a new spot. Sometimes, the breaking point is long approaching, and sometimes you’re just one fake conversation away from putting everything you own in a comforter, and dropping it out of your window. Most of us know how to grin and bear it, how to keep the polite attitude long enough to not lash out. But having to suffer through the daily agony of withstanding an uncomfortable living situation truly does suck.

While the promise of having a perfect roommate (even when boarding with a friend) is a promise guaranteed to be left unfulfilled, there are some challenges that you shouldn’t have to face when living with another person. When you feel like you’re being managed or that you can’t be yourself in your own home; when you feel like your things aren’t safe or will be consumed and/or used in your absence; or, if the roomie just irritates the s**t out of you for an undisclosed number of reasons, then it’s time to start browsing Craigslist for a ‘spacey 1br with closet’. That is, if you’re trying to duck and dodge most broker’s fees. Also, if you’re made to feel uncomfortable or you’re forced to make plans just to keep busy, stay absent or otherwise distracted from your roommate, and you’re forced to slink from the front door to your bedroom like a trollop in order not to rouse the roommate’s attention, that’s another sign written in red. It’s unfair, particularly because you’re forking over a sizable chunk of your pay every month for rent and utilities. Beyond paying for a place to sleep, eat, and brush your teeth, you’re also paying for comfort.

For me, some decisions come on like a cold, a sudden moment of knowing; the sound of a person hacking up mucus, clipping finger nails, or moaning loudly can make the decision for me. The chatty, omnipresent, unemployed boyfriend of a roommate who meets me at every turn can be the deciding factor as well, especially after witnessing him spit into the kitchen sink. But retentiveness aside, if small things happen to be the determining factors, then it’s possible that there are larger dormant issues that have yet to be addressed, which you may or may not want to admit or recognize. Once, in a shared dorm, I had a roommate who would hit her ‘snooze’ button from the hours of 9 a.m. to 1 p.m., and another who had a slumbering boyfriend who was doing a permanent crash. While my issues with the two seem apparent, I later realized that fundamentally, these women were dissimilar to me in every way, and that exaggerated each fault of theirs in my mind. Both were privileged white women, with no awareness of personal politics or of their white privilege, and were both afforded the luxury of being overtly relaxed when it came to class attendance, finances, and responsibilities. It’s important to have a complete understanding of why you’re leaving a place, even it is simply about your roommate inviting herself into your room too often. But you should make sure you understand what the move is about so you know what to avoid when seeking future roommates.

Bad or unsuitable roommates aren’t the only reason we’re provoked to move. Let’s see, there are awful neighbors, lousy landlords, dodgy neighborhoods, noisy construction going on, and tiny living spaces are frequent reasons as well. Perhaps you have a landlord who won’t come and fix the random holes in the walls in your apartment, despite repeated requests. Or perhaps you live next door to a bar that blasts music from a.m. to p.m. Or maybe, just maybe, your upstairs neighbors do the ‘Insanity’ workout every morning, dead set on driving you insane. No matter the case, there’s a limit to how much you should have to rightly tolerate.

So, if you are planning on moving out, remember to give him/her notice (out of courtesy), and try to leave under good terms. While they might be a terrible roommate, there’s no reason to burn bridges. But when it’s time to go, do yourself a favor (and your sanity), and take the steps necessary to be able to hit the road…jack.

Breaking Up When You Live Together — How To Move Out Right

July 5th, 2013 - By Julia Austin
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Breaking up is hard enough without being put out of house and home. And if you did live with your man, odds are you thought you’d marry one day or at least be together for a long time: so this is no mild heartbreak. Every step of the move out during the breakup is delicate, and a misstep will make things much harder. So follow these guidelines.

The 9 Most Frequently Overlooked Tax Deductions

February 14th, 2013 - By Blair Bedford
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The 2013 tax season is here, and with many close friends, family members and acquaintances offering their personal services and advice, they might overlook a few of the tax deductions you could possibly qualify for.

Filing your taxes may seem simple enough, but make sure you are getting all you deserve from the year and take note of these commonly overlooked tax deductions before filing and completing your taxes for the season.

Make That Money, Honey: Melyssa Ford Is Taking On Real Estate!

February 9th, 2013 - By Drenna Armstrong
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These are the times we need to applaud the video vixens.

Former video vixen Melyssa Ford, who has long since turned in her video attire, recently joined a major real estate company.  According to, Ford has joined Blu Realty Group, a full-service luxury real estate company in Nww York. She’s joining the team as a real estate broker so you know she’s going to use her contacts in the entertainment world to bring big dollars to the company.

Blu Realty is a very serious player in the real estate industry. Owned by Chadad and Moshe Balalo, Blu Realty closed over $100 million in property sales last year.  That’s huge for a somewhat small company.

Ford, who has a degree in Forensic Psychology, took an intense three month class at Blu Realty which included training from a real estate teacher and mentoring from the owners.

Chadad Balalo is very eager to get started:

“We are extremely excited to have Melyssa on board with Blu Realty.  Ms. Ford will add a high net worth clientele base to our already diverse client list in New York.”

Ford has actually already help them close a $15 million deal in New York. It looks like she is ready to take this new career by storm!

Do you have any side hustles? Have you switched careers completely to possibly fulfill a new passion?

Calculating the Cost of Relocating

September 26th, 2011 - By TheEditor
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(Wall Street Journal) — Relocating for a job can be a great career move for someone starting out. And with the still-high unemployment rate, more young job seekers are willing to expand the geographic parameters of their searches. According to a survey by consulting firm Challenger, Gray & Christmas, 9.4% of job seekers relocated for new jobs in the first half of 2011, up from 7.6% a year earlier.  But a move to a different city, state or country can be complicated, with many factors to consider — such as what, if anything, a company will pay to help you move, the cost of living when you get there and if you can adapt to the new culture.

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Change Residence But Keep Identity Safe

July 28th, 2011 - By TheEditor
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(Black Enterprise) — According to the U.S. Census Bureau, more than 37 million Americans—roughly 13% of us—move to a different home every year. That’s a lot of transition. Unfortunately, moving season also represents a lot of opportunity for crooks and con artists who want to fleece you financially. “Half of all moves take place between Memorial Day and Labor Day,” says Steve Schwartz, Executive Vice President of Consumer Services for Intersections Inc., an identity theft protection company. “A lot goes into a big relocation, and often times identity protection is not top of mind with everything else that’s going on.” To guard against potential identity theft, Schwartz recommends that consumers take the following steps–before, during, and after a move.

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How to Avoid Moving Company Scams

June 1st, 2011 - By TheEditor
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(Black Enterprise) — Summer is just around the corner, and moving season will soon be in full swing. Unfortunately, scams are also in full swing, too. Last year, the Better Business Bureau received more than 8,900 complaints against dishonest movers. Most complaints are about items that have been destroyed or damaged, and final prices that are significantly higher than the original quote.  But you can protect yourself and prevent an already stressful time from become worse. The Better Business Bureau and the American Moving & Storage Association offer these tips on avoiding a moving scam:

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