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— Philip Lewis (@Phil_Lewis_) September 20, 2016
Every time another innocent, unarmed Black man is killed I do this weird dance in my head. I ask myself am I mentally, psychologically and emotionally strong enough to watch the video footage. Usually the answer is no. But I still try to get the details, while trying, often unsuccessfully, to avoid the footage of another bloodied, Black body laying on the pavement. If I have the mental capacity and the intelligence to formulate some thoughts on the recent murder, I just might write something for the site. But when I began seeing Terence Crutcher’s name all of the internet last night, I wanted all of it to go away. I kept scrolling. I paused for the pictures of him still alive, smiling, a young boy seated on his knee. But after Summer16, I didn’t have any words. I don’t know if I should attribute my choice to disassociate to rawness, numbness, fatigue or just plain avoidance.
Still, I feel this obligation to at least talk about Crutcher because before he was presumed to be a “bad guy” by members of the Tulsa police department, he had a life, a family. He was a person and for that alone, I know we should be talking about him. Still though, I don’t have the words. So I compiled a couple of thoughts shared by a few celebrities that likely mirror a lot of our own feelings right now.
See what they had to say.
Now let all the racists come forth and say that racism doesn’t exist. Those who will make a reason for why this man was shot and killed. Fuck you! Can you not see why we shout BLACK LIVES MATTER! Can you not see why Colin Kaepernick says fuck your national anthem?! A bomber, literally a terrorists, shoots it out with the cops and is safely detained yet this unarmed black man is shot down like so many others. If you don’t see the problem, you are the problem. #prayformypeople
“We’ve got to tackle systemic racism. This horrible shooting again?! How many times do we have to see this in our country? In Tulsa, an unarmed man with his hands in the air. This is just unbearable and it needs to be intolerable. So maybe I can, by speaking directly to White people, say, ‘Look, this is not who we are!’ We’ve got to do everything possible to improve policing, to go right at implicit bias. There are good, honorable, cool-headed police officers. We’ve seen them in action in New York over the last 48 hours because of the terrorist attacks. We can do better. We have got to reign in what is absolutely inexplicable. And we’ve got to have law enforcement respect communities and communities respect law enforcement because they’ve got to work together.”
Take a knee…people riot.
Take a bullet…people quiet.
— Lecrae (@lecrae) September 20, 2016
so all you you “mad at national anthem kneelers” w verification checks—-yall got another 2 cents for #TerenceCruthcher or nah?
— Questlove Gomez (@questlove) September 20, 2016
how can watch vid of UNARMED #TerenceCrutcher stopped w car trouble being gunned down by police & not see the problem?
— Franchesca Ramsey (@chescaleigh) September 20, 2016
Franchesca “Chescaleigh” Ramsey
Good morning America. In case they’re still wondering why we say #BlackLivesMatter… Damn. How I wish that the outrage from a man taking a knee during a song would match the outrage of another life being ripped from under us. How I wish that you would love this country enough to actually acknowledge what’s wrong with it and help fix it. How I wish that the truly good people would show their faces. How I wish that the men and women in uniform who actually ARE good and are here to protect and serve would stand up and acknowledge these executions. Is this what you want to represent your firm of officers? I believe deep down inside my heart that the majority of people are profoundly good. God I just wish you would all show up and prove it. #TerenceCrutcher ✊🏿🙏🏿✊🏿
Tiffany Crutcher, Terence’s twin sister
“You all want to know who that big, bad dude was? That big, bad dude was my twin brother. That big, bad dude was a father. That big, bad dude was a son. That big, bad dude was enrolled at Tulsa Community College, just wanting to make us proud. That big, bad dude loved God. That big, bad dude was at church singing, with all of his flaws, every week. That big, bad dude that’s who he was. We just celebrated our 40th birthday, August 16th, a month ago. And I have his text message and it said, ‘I’m going to show you. I’m going to make you all proud.’ And now he’ll never get that chance because of the negligence and the incompetency and the insensitivity and because he was a big, bad dude. He’ll never get that chance…I want for everyone to know that that big, bad dude, his life mattered. His life mattered. His life mattered.”
Veronica Wells is the culture editor for MadameNoire.com. She is also the author of “Bettah Days.”
Human beings are nosy. That’s why when someone tells us something — anything — we instantly want to know more. You’re engaged — when’s the wedding? You’re moving — where to? You’re beefing with somebody — what’d they do? You’re pregnant — who’s the daddy? Whoops.
That last question there is why Tika Sumpter chose not to go public with her pregnancy until two months before her due date, but in giving us some tidbits about her relationship in Fit Pregnancy did she actually do more damage?
And what about Brandy and Monica? The decades-old bad blood between the two has risen to the surface again, but no one is talking about what really happened. Is the slight shade played?
Join in with the editors of MadameNoire as we discuss these topics and what we would do if we were in Solange’s shoes and a white person told us to sit down at a venue in this episode of Did Y’all See?
Just when you though the long-standing pettiness beef between Brandy and Monica had come to an end, another installment in the saga emerged. Coming on the heels of Monica’s appearance on the season premiere of The Real where she spoke of how she felt about Brandy response to not joining the #SoGoneChallenge of her 2003 hit song, Brandy released her own response today that is heavy on the subliminals, but definitely manages to get her point across.
When Monica proclaimed that she was “unbothered” by Brandy’s remark of “chile bye” in response to a fan’s question about whether or not she would engage in the #SoGoneChallenge that showcased the timeless appeal of Monica’s 2003 hit, many assumed the issue was dead. Well Brandy, never one to let comments at her expense go by unnoticed, took to her Snapchat to let fans know how she felt about it.
In the series of Snapchat videos, Brandy can be heard saying that she responds to being attacked by being positive and that even though people are shady and say shady things, she takes the high road.
Read more about this never-ending feud at HelloBeautiful.com
Over the weekend, we wrote about Monica’s response to the shade Brandy threw at her #SoGoneChallenge. In case you missed it, in her interview with “The Real,” Monica took the highest road. She spoke about love, light and positivity. She said that God used Brandy’s shade to test her. She also shared how much she’s always admired Brandy’s talent. She explained that the only Grammy the both of them have ever won came when they collaborated for “The Boy is Mine.” And she admitted that despite all the bad blood, she would be happy to work with her again.
Her response was a publicist’s wet dream. And Monica came across looking like a saint.
Brandy took a different approach.
In an Instagram post that seemed to simply be celebrating her beat and braids, Brandy issued a response to Monica’s comments.
#Inspire is the only reason #IAm @beautyamazonmua #Gift @drkariwill #Gift #GoddessTwist #Brakari @brakarihaircollection Hey Hey Hey, #IKnowTHEREALStoryThatEverybodyDoesntKnow #NewKeyOnKeyNewMeOnMe #MissSubstance #PositivityIsTheOneThingYouShouldNotFake
It’s all in the hashtags. Notice how the words “The Real” were capitalized. She mentions a story that no one else knows. And then, if there were any confusion the last one told it all. “Positivity is the one thing you should not fake.”
Truth is, there are always two sides to every story. I’m sure something did go down between these two women. Something that may have been a bit muddy and murkier than Monica’s love and light message. Still, if Brandy is not going to explain what really and truly happened, then she should just leave it alone. Because, right now, in the public eye Monica is coming off as the mature and evolved one, while Brandy just looks a bit bitter and petty. Again, that might not be the reality of the situation. But in this fickle business of fame, televised interviews and social media, perception goes a long way.
What do you think about Brandy’s approach to the whole thing? Is it working in her favor or nah?
Veronica Wells is the culture editor of MadameNoire. She is also the author of “Bettah Days.”
Just last month, Monica’s 2003 jam “So Gone” was flipped on its head by social media as a viral trend, #SoGoneChallenge. From fans to celebrities, everyone got in on the action, trying their hand at freestyling to the Missy Elliott-produced track.
However, one singer wasn’t too keen on giving the challenge a try. When someone asked if Brandy would throw her hat in the ring, she replied, “Child bye,” which immediately prompted many to believe there was still bad blood between the two singers.
During a clip for the season three opener of The Real, the R&B singer spoke on the situation. Monica had actually come on the show to surprise a fan who participated n the challenge, but when Loni Love asked how she felt about Brandy’s dismissive reaction, Monica kept it real and classy.
“I’ll tell you, I’m not bothered at all,” she said. “Honestly, the old me and the new me are two different things, and this journey of self-progression and self-love and empowerment that I’m on, I can’t go backwards. I think that, that was just a test from God for me and I’ve always thought that she was one of the most legendary people and, has one of the most amazing voices in the runs and riffs. And I just think that it’s, some of it, has been blown out of proportion to a degree, but I can’t tell my kids to do something that I can’t do. So it was just a test for me to, uh, always just take the high road and know that in anything that happens in this life, if it’s meant for you, it’s yours. Nobody can stop it or stand in the way of it.”
Monica even said she’d like to put the drama in the past and collaborate with Brandy.
“I would work with her again. It’s never been an easy situation, but the reason that I would do it, is because we are from a special elite group. It was her, Aaliyah and myself. And it was a very special time where each of us were individuals, we did our own thing and we all made our own mark. And the truth and reality is the only Grammy either of us has is together. So that to me says something special. So yeah, I absolutely would.”
I have personally been “over” the Brandy and Monica beef since right around the time it began. So, I’m sure many of you will accuse me of stirring the pot. But I view this as more of a post to address a general confusion. From the last I heard, the two weren’t just getting along, they had teamed up with one another for the song, “It All Belongs To Me.” The two went on a promotional tour for the single. They appeared on the cover of Ebony and in several interviews they admitted that the things that separated them as young girls were no longer an issue. In our interview with Monica, she admitted that the feud that existed between them as teenagers had a lot to do with marketing and publicity. After all, the song was about the two of them fighting over a man. They’d grown and matured and were no longer in that space. They were even supposed to go on tour together. But that fell through with no explanation from either singer.
And earlier this year, in an interview with Entertainment Weekly, Brandy said flat out that she and Monica aren’t on great terms.
“It was so long ago, I’m just in a different space. I don’t talk to Monica. We are on different paths.”
But my question really stems from a recent social media post from Brandy. As you know, Monica’s “So Gone Challenge” has been all over the internet. And while there have been several celebrities who participated, Brandy was not one of them. And people wondered why.
When someone asked her if she could do the So Gone Challenge, Brandy responded with two words.
That was enough. We got the message but she took it a step further with another full Instagram post, that has since been deleted.
Meanwhile, if you look on Monica’s page, it’s all about love and light.
Still Working❤️I couldn’t be more grateful.. Life will be filled with moments that you will never forget. The key to continuously being blessed is being aware of what you put out.. Negativity, envy, hate & jealousy are the key to an early demise.. What ever you spread amongst the world is sure to come back to you.. It’s up to you❤I choose LOVE️, M.B. ❤️THANK YOU for my shoes Mommy I LIVE in them #StillHerBaby (clothes: @shunmelson)
So the question is, what really happened between this two?
From all the receipts presented, it would seem that Brandy is the only one to blame for their falling out. Truth is, we really don’t know. After all, Monica’s relationship with Ciara isn’t what it used to be either. Unless Brandy decides to spill the beans, I guess we may never know.
While many of us were navigating the social scene of high school or college in 2003, Monica released her timeless musical composition So Gone that (if we’re being honest) became a R&B anthem for millennials.
The singer had us calling out boyfriends we had (or didn’t have) on their philandering ways or just screaming the song’s iconic bridge to the top of our lungs. And if you can’t relate to singing or rapping the breakdown of that song, you’ll learn today.
A few weeks ago, Chance The Rapper decided to use the So Gone instrumental to pay recognition to his girlfriend and their relationship in a 16-bar freestyle. Since then, others have followed suit, putting their own twist to Monica’s hit song as they sing or rap about their significant others, career goals and even their love for makeup.
But before you enjoy the best of the #SoGoneChallenge, peep (since we’re stepping back into the early 2000s) how Monica joined in the fun and dropped a new verse to the song with Missy Elliott serving as her hype (wo)man, of course.
— Monica (@MonicaBrown) August 16, 2016
If you ventured anywhere near any social platform this past weekend, you might have been bombarded with #SoGoneChallenge videos. People, mostly men, though there were a few femcees in there, rapped about everything from, first loves, love lost, being down for their spouses and the joys of parenthood over the beat from Monica’s 2003 single, “So Gone.” Most of them left me with a smile on my face.
And after a slew of videos, some of which Monica reposted, she decided to join in on the fun.
Listen to Monica’s verse in the video below. There was even a slight jab and the women who’ve been coming for her man lately.
Monica told y’all she ain’t ‘fraid to fight…or shoot.
And we see you in the background Missy.
— Monica (@MonicaBrown) August 16, 2016
If anyone still somehow fails to believe that Black doesn’t crack, just direct them to singer Monica Brown. She’s been in the music industry since 1993, and yet, she doesn’t seem to have aged one bit! For proof of this, just check out a side-by-side photo she shared on her Instagram page this week, pointing out the fact that she was wearing the exact same hairstyle in 2016 that she did back in 1998. But in the midst of showing off the differences between the “smart” 18-year-old Monica and the “wise” 35-year-old Monica, people couldn’t help but notice and point out that she’s managed to age backwards:
This is hilarious to me… Back to my 1998 hair style … Left picture I was headed to the Lady of Soul Awards …. Funny how things come back around… Truth is same thing happens in life … There’s a difference between being wise & being smart… The 18 yr old on the left was smart, but the 35 yr old on the right is wise…❤️❤️
Blame it on that ’90s makeup (the heavier, the better back in the day, amirite?).
But if you’re wondering how Mo’ has managed to stay flawless after all these years, she did clue SHAPE in a few years back. She said that the key to living and looking right was watching the salts, learning how to alternate from fried foods to baked ones, carrying around fruits and veggies for snacks, and with the help of her hubby, Shannon Brown, drinking a lot of water:
“I have to press myself to drink a lot of water. My husband has taught me a lot about how important it is … For me it’s hard to get down a gallon a day but I try. I watch him get down two so I always push myself to try to get down one gallon.”
Whatever you’re doing, keep doing it, Monica!
Monica has been our homegirl in our heads since the ’90s and we love watching her growth not only as an artist but a mother and a wife. When the singer stopped by the office to talk about her new album, Code Red, she also spoke past R&B feuds — real and fake — being married to an NBA player while raising three kids, and endorsing Hillary Clinton for President.