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In the first episode of her show, “Living Lozada,” Evelyn Lozada announced, much to our surprise, that she was expecting another child.
Sadly, the exuberant feelings didn’t last too long, in the promo clip for the next episode, her doctor told her that her hormone levels were so low, they seemed to suggest that the pregnancy wouldn’t come to term.
Later, in an interview with People, Lozada confirmed that she did indeed have a miscarriage.
“When I went to my first appointment, everything looked great. My progesterone levels were good.
My hormone levels were dropping. My doctor said, ‘Let’s just see what happens and if anything changes.’ ”
“At my next appointment, my ultrasound went from looking really perfect and beautiful to looking pear-shaped,” says Lozada. “You could just tell, it didn’t look normal.”
Sadly, the process wasn’t a smooth one.
“for me the most heartbreaking thing was knowing that it could take up to a day to maybe a week for it to happen,” says Lozada. “I became so obsessed with it. I kept taking pregnancy tests and one would come out positive, then one would come out negative. It was so hard not knowing when I’d lose the baby.”
The miscarriage finally happened during a photo shoot her family had scheduled to help her feel better.
“I had to stop the photo shoot and just lay down. It was hard.”
Though Evelyn had the love and support of her family, she said it was mostly an experience she endured alone.
“You have a million and one questions in your mind as to what happened. You just feel responsible. It’s your body. It’s a loss that only you can relate to.”
Evelyn questioned everything, from the things she ate during her pregnancy to her age.
“It’s nothing that you ate, or did; it’s not your age. One out of all four to five pregnancies end in miscarriage,” she explains. “I have three girlfriends and it’s literally happened to each and every one of them.”
I responded to the news that Evelyn was pregnant with joy. Yet, others thought she was too old to be having more children. As someone who comes from a family where women have babies into their forties, I didn’t see an issue with it. Particularly, at a time in her life when Evelyn is not only in a seemingly more stable relationship but she’s in a better emotional and psychological space. A better adjusted mother is an asset to a child.
Plus, I thorough enjoy women over thirty giving birth to children, defying the notion that we all need to rush to have children before we’re all “dried”and”shriveled.” We all have a different story. And they don’t have to include a husband and baby before 30. There is life after 35. You can even produce it.
And like the news that she was pregnant, people are equally disappointed with Evelyn’s decision to share her miscarriage story, claiming that she was using the tragic event to further promote her show.
That’s a given. All reality stars are profiting off the stories of the lives, good, bad and ugly. While many are tripped up over the method, I think the message is a pretty necessary one.
Like Evelyn said, many women have suffered from miscarriage and many of them needlessly blame themselves for the loss. There’s a certain level of shame many women feel about having lost a child, so they keep the traumatic nature of their experiences to themselves.
My mother who had at least two, possibly three miscarriages, before I, her first child was born, describes that own period in her life as rather dark. She spoke about hearing a ripping sound and realizing she’d lost a child, trying to collect and save one of the embryos and feeling like everyone around her had a baby.
I don’t say that to be morbid, though it is. I say that because it’s such a common occurrence and women need to know that there is hope after this.
And that’s the message Evelyn was trying to spread in sharing her story.
She concluded her story with People saying, “This was just another tragic incident in my life that I had to deal with. But I say God doesn’t make mistakes. Women just need to hold out hope.”
Evelyn is taking her own advice and is still optimistic about the prospect of having a child. “I’m not checking for when I’m ovulating or anything. I’m like look, I’m pushing 40. I’m going to be 50 with a 10-year-old! If it happens again, that will probably be my last.”
Will Evelyn gain further exposure from this story. Of course. You’re reading about her right now. But I’m also sure her words will help someone who believes their suffering through this alone.
“It Happened Because Of Me”: Kobe Bryant Reveals Guilt Over Miscarriage Vanessa Had As He Fought Rape Allegations
Kobe Bryant has had a pretty illustrious career in the NBA. He’s won championships (with the help of Shaq and also while leading the Lakers on his own), won MVP titles (both league and All-Star Game awards), broken scoring records and found a way to drop 81 points in a game before. Seriously, 81 friggin’ points!
But in between all the highs, there was a very low point that Bryant hit from 2003-2004. If you’ll recall, Bryant was accused of raping a hotel employee at a lodge he was staying at before undergoing knee surgery. Bryant would deny her allegations, but the very married baller would admit to having sex with the 19-year-old woman. The allegations and case would be thrown out after the accuser refused to testify during the trial, though Bryant and the woman settled after she filed a civil lawsuit against him. Bryant would get to keep his freedom, and even experienced a massive improvement in his game and stats (he says he took his frustration out on the court), but his reputation took quite the hit at that time, as did his marriage to Vanessa Bryant.
During his very good Showtime documentary, Muse, which aired this past weekend, Bryant spoke about how hard the allegations, and his infidelity, were on his wife. He even shared that Vanessa lost a child around that tumultuous time. He blames this loss on his mistakes and says that he’s grateful Vanessa decided to stick with him when it would have been easier to leave.
“It’s a man’s job to protect your family. It’s a man’s job to look out for your family. It’s a man’s job to always be the anchor of stability for the family. In that aspect, I failed miserably. Things would have been really easy for her to leave, actually. Especially during that time. It would have been much easier to leave. You leave, you take half the money, you have your daughter. Life’s good. She’s good. But she didn’t do that.
We were expecting and uh…um…expecting our second child during that time. There was just so much stress. She actually uh…she actually miscarried. It’s something that I…I have a real hard time dealing with that. I felt like it was my fault, you know what I mean? We should be building our family, but because of my mistake, because of this tough year, we lost a baby. We try to justify the fact that we don’t realize how common miscarriages are and these things happen. It’s part of the process. But the reality is, it happened because of me. That’s the reality of it. That’s something I have to deal with, and I have to carry forever.”
We know that Vanessa did file for divorce from Kobe in 2011, citing irreconcilable differences, and she almost walked away with $75 million and three homes. But she stuck it out, and the couple reconciled in 2013. They have two children together: Natalia and Gianna.
Just last month, we were reporting the joyous news that “Married To Medicine” Mariah Huq’s was pregnant with twins. The family even posted this adorable announcement on Instagram.
Long before the Huqs announced this pregnancy, they told Bravo that they had intentions to expand their family beyond the son and daughter they currently have.
Sadly, Mariah’s husband, Dr. Aydin Huq took to his Facebook page to alert the couple’s supporters and followers of the show that they miscarried.
Here’s what he wrote:
“Thank you for your well wishes on our pregnancy. It is with heavy hearts that we must announce that we miscarried. This is by far one of the hardest things that either of us have had to go through, and we are truly saddened by this double loss. We ask that you keep our entire family lifted in prayer, and Mariah a speedy recovery.”
Any woman who has miscarried can attest to the physical and emotional pain that comes with losing a child. We’re praying for the Huq family during this very devastating time.
Last night during the airing of “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta,” fans watched as Bambi revealed that she suffered a miscarriage. Some fans questioned if the pregnancy, the miscarriage or both were faked for ratings and relevance on the show, but Bambi says this couldn’t be further from the truth.
“This incident was life changing and it is hard for me to watch this tragedy replay over again!” she exclaimed in a statement released to our sister site, Bossip. “I was in love with the idea of being pregnant and an abortion was the last thing on my mind. I had a miscarriage and now I have to relive it with the world to watch! I would appreciate it if everyone would allow me and Scrappy to deal with the loss of our baby and not make speculations as to what happened. I am healing from this and Scrappy has been by my side during this process.”
The former “Basketball Wives LA” star also shared medical paperwork to prove that she did, in fact, suffer a miscarriage.
To further prove that she was hospitalized, Bambi also released photos of herself in a hospital bed.
Do you think she should have gone so far to prove that her miscarriage was real?
Last month, we reported on the Lindsay Lohan docu-series “Lindsay” which appeared on Oprah Winfrey’s OWN network. Throughout the season, we observed Lohan struggle with sobriety, family issues and cancelling photo-shoots. Although Lohan’s behavior was met with much criticism, last night she garnered much sympathy when she revealed she suffered a miscarriage during the season. When Lindsay was asked to reflect on the what she learned during filming, she said:
“No one knows this — I had a miscarriage for those weeks I took off. I couldn’t move, I was sick. Mentally, that messes with you.”
Lohan also noted the reason why she declined to film on certain days was because of how she felt after the miscarriage. Speaking in third person, the recovering actress claimed:
“Watching this series, I just know how I felt at that moment and I can relate to that girl, which sounds kind of crazy. But I’m like, ‘Oh my god, this is really sad. Who’s helping her?’”
After the season finale, Lohan’s mother Dina apparently tweeted Oprah Winfrey: “Oprah call me.” Her tweet was shortly deleted and most likely in reference to the cancellation of her daughter’s docu-series. The Daily News relayed, Winfrey onsidered canceling the show because of the poor ratings it received. Initially, the season premiere received less than 700,000 viewers.
Lindsay never identified who would have fathered her child but did state she is filming a new film that will be in theaters in June.
Below, is a clip of Lindsay’s revelations.
What did you think of Lindsay’s season finale?
The self-proclaimed Queen of all Media, Wendy Williams, appeared on BET’s Lift Every Voice last year with popular Christian media personality, Cory “Coco Brother” Condrey. During the interview, Wendy showed a much softer side than the one we’re used to seeing on her daytime television program, the Wendy Show. The 49-year-old Jersey girl opened up about being a family woman, suffering multiple miscarriages and her relationship with God. Peep some of the highlights below.
On suffering multiple miscarriages:
“Well, he actually answers it three times before our son. I’ve had two five month miscarriages, which is one of the most painful things to go through in life. Turns out I had a weak cervix, so I (had) two five month miscarriages–devastating. At five months, every mother has already named the child. With Kevin I got a cerclage. A cerclage was a big stitch to hold my uterus closed and I stayed on bed rest. So I did my radio show from home, to take my mind off of it. I had the contraption monitor in our bedroom. My husband would leave me a cooler full of food. I gained a 103 pounds, I was a nervous wreck but I brought this boy into this world. Pushed him right out, after an epidural. And I didn’t want (to) let go of him. I held so tight that I had cramps in my arms. 11 years later here we are. I wish that I could’ve had another one and did the twins thing. I never had a problem getting pregnant, I had a problem keeping the child. I have one son here and two daughters in the cross roads.”
On keeping part of her family life private:
“I talk it, but you don’t see it and you will probably never get a chance to see that. That’s secret, that’s my time. I give so much of myself on the talk show, and I given so much of myself in the past with my radio show, I’ve been honest about so many things, that other people would wilt and die rather than share.”
“The only thing you know about me as a family woman is what I tell you, but what I tell you is sweet enough.That’s very personal. I’ve shared everything. I’ve shared miscarriages, I’ve shared drug addiction but I do it all methodically and I methodically pick and choose not what to share. That family thing is everything.”
On her husband:
“My husband came into my life 17 years ago, we’ve been married for 14 years. He came into my life as the wind beneath my wings. He is the real deal, he is my manager, my partner, but he does not care about the shine. When this show first started, it was like pulling teeth to get him to participate in a get to know Wendy feature in People Magazine. And it was like pulling my teeth for me to want my son to be involved in that piece.”
On being a mom:
“My son was born into this and he (didn’t) ask for it. He is just as a kid with a mom who happens to have a TV show and that’s how we like to play that. I like to protect him and what he does and I have to watch I say and I what I share on hot topics in regard to my family.”
On her relationship with God:
“I was raised going to Second Baptist Church in Asbury Park. No, I don’t go to church now with my own family but I worked that out with the Lord. He understands that I don’t have to appear in church to be close to him, we have our own relationship. I am Mrs. Hunter. I am Kevin’s mother and I am Kevin’s wife and I will fight to the death for my family. I like being married and I also like having a career and a family. I wouldn’t be happy without my family but guess what I wouldn’t be happy without my career. I couldn’t be a housewife, with all due respect. I’m not that girl tough as nails who can go home at the end of the day and I don’t care how fabulous my job is or how much money I make and I don’t care how fabulous my home would be, I would not be happy without a husband and children. Girlfriends just don’t do it for me that way.”
“I never didn’t believe in god or jesus, so I never had to say I need both in order to make it. I never thought of leaving to not have both. I’m not an atheist.”
Turn the page to watch Wendy’s emotional interview.
Ohio Kidnapper Ariel Castro Accepts Plea Deal Of Life In Prison Plus 1,000 Years For Rape & Abduction
After facing more than 970 charges for kidnapping three women in Cleveland and holding them captive and sexually assaulting them for about 11 years, Ariel Castro is finally facing justice. While he was able to dodge the death penalty, according to USA Today, Castro accepted a plea deal today that will give him life in prison without the chance of parole, and a whopping 1,000 years. By accepting the plea deal, which was Castro pleading guilty to 937 criminal counts that included rape, kidnapping and aggravated murder (of an unborn child after it was claimed he starved and beat one of the women until she miscarried), allowed for the three victims, Amanda Berry, Gina DeJesus, and Michelle Knight, to be able to keep from testifying in court and having to face him again.
When the judge told Castro that there would be no trial, Castro said that he understood and tried to share an excuse as to why he committed such heinous acts:
“My addiction to p**nography and sexual addiction in general has taken a toll on my mind. I would like to state I was a victim as a child and it just kept going.”
Despite the deal he accepted, on August 1, the judge presiding over the case, Judge Russo, will hand down a final sentence. No matter what though, it’s clear that Castro will not see the outside world again. As for the victims, they spoke out at the beginning of the month to thank their supporters for all the encouragement, including Berry, who has a 6-year-old daughter born while she was kidnapped. Castro, of course, is the father:
“I want to thank everyone who has helped me and my family through this entire ordeal, everyone who has been there to support us. It has been a blessing to have such an outpouring of love and kindness.
I’m getting stronger each day and having my privacy has helped immensely. I ask that everyone continue to respect our privacy and give us time to have a normal life.”
A well-known exotic dancer, video vixen and urban model, who goes by the name of Jhonni Blaze, reportedly suffered a horrific tragedy last week. And unfortunately, it happened in front of a live audience. According to News One, the young woman was in the middle of one of her infamous twerk routines when she began bleeding profusely. Eyewitnesses claim that when she exited the stage, she began convulsing.
Sources say that when paramedics arrived on the scene, they immediately rushed her to the hospital where she learned that she’d suffered a miscarriage and was given a blood transfusion. Other, more graphic and outrageous reports, claimed that Jhonni actually gave birth on stage, but she has since taken to her Instagram page to deny these claims.
“They post anything even lies JUST MAKE SURE YOU CATCH MY GOOD SIDE SMH,” she wrote.
Jhonni has yet to confirm or deny whether or not the incident took place, but judging by her recent tweets, she does appear to have experienced something rather traumatic that has her feeling under the weather.
One of the most beautiful and rewarding things about being a woman is the ability to have a baby – to feel life grow from within and bring a baby into this world to care for and love. So when you struggle to conceive, imagine the heartache and frustration one must feel. According to Redbook magazine, one in eight women in the U.S. will suffer from infertility, and black women are 1.5 times more likely to experience infertility. This is a heart-wrenching experience that hits home for me and many other woman, including celebrities. They ride the same emotional rollercoaster of fertility treatments – from metformin and Glucophage to IVF in an attempt to conceive. Let’s look at 15 starlettes who’ve dealt with this issue firsthand, fearlessly opening up to the public.
Singer Mariah Carey miscarried and quickly sought treatment for infertility. Carey went on progesterone every month, even through the first 10 weeks of her pregnancy. This treatment helped reduce the risk of miscarriage by half, and eventually she welcomed twins Roc and Roe in 2011 .
Even the most well-known and liked celebrities in Hollywood have faced challenges like the rest of us. For some celebs it’s drug or alcohol addictions, for others it’s medical problems like fertility issues. However, troubles conceiving weren’t enough to stop these now celebrity parents from expanding their families. Here are 14 celebrities who used a surrogate to carry their baby for them.
Angela Bassett & Courtney B. Vance
For years Angela Bassett and her husband struggled to get pregnant and even after undergoing infertility treatment for seven years, the couple was still unable to conceive. But this didn’t stop them from starting a family of their own. In 2006, the proud parents welcomed fraternal twins named Slater and Bronwyn.