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Military chic clothing is on fire this summer! And the main color is army green aka olive. We’ve culled the web to find you pieces for the day gig, weekend schlepping and flirty barfly looks.
Take a gander and enjoy!
Military Chic Clothing: 15 Army Green Pieces To Rock Now!
On Veteran’s Day, we celebrate the service of all U.S. military veterans. Unfortunately, for some it can also be a day of mourning the loss of a husband, wife, family member, friend or parent. As parents we have the natural ability to soothe but we may feel powerless in explaining the situation to our kids. Here are some useful tips that can help them in their time of bereavement.
Approaching the meaning of “death.” Use the approach that is best for your child. According to National Association of School Psychologists , they say “don’t assume children in a certain age group understands death in the same way or with the same feelings: All children are different and their view of the world is unique and shaped by different experiences.” Experts say to be straightforward and avoid using euphemisms like “he’s going to sleep.” Be patient with your child and understand you may have to explain the loss to your kids several times.
Talk it out. One thing about kids is that they can ask up to 430 questions a day—if you let them. Don’t prevent them from asking or commenting. Kids will need to talk about loss more than once. According to Dr. Asha Sutton , clinical sociologist, “Allow children to explain about their grief experiences. Give children the opportunity to tell their story.” As the parent, all you can do is listen and that is suffice. Follow your child’s lead and stay open to talking as needed over time. It helps just to be ready and accessible, rather than pushing your child to talk.
Be consistent. When things happen unexpectedly, it can cause a world of chaos. When a loss of loved one occurs, people tend to not want to do things as they normally would. You may not want to get up and make breakfast because you’re in mourning, but things like that make the transition easier for your child. “It’s important that while kids recognize the loss of a parent they are still consistent with their day-to-day activities,” says Real Warriors, a program that helps military families and servicemen deal with deployment and loss. This can include anything from chores, extracurricular activities to dinner time. Try to get back to normal routines and schedules at home. Real Warriors also suggested that bedtime rituals and keeping up with school activities can help kids feel secure.
Track your kids behavior. Take note of your child’s behavior to get a sense of how they are feeling. If he or she acts out, remember that it may be because of anger. Real Warriors suggests allowing kids to be creative in how to express their anger whether it’s drawing or writing. If things become worse—don’t think that it’s something that will pass. Seek help. This can lead to depression and other mental illnesses in a long run. If your child does not feel comfortable talking to you they can see a child therapist or close family friend.
It’s OK to feel sad. Let your children know that any feelings they may have are okay–whether its sadness, anger, guilt and even happiness. The important thing is that their lives keep moving. The National Association of Psychologist suggests, “don’t rush their feelings. Understand that grieving is a process, not an event. Parents need to allow adequate time for each child to grieve in the manner that works for that child.” Pressing children to resume “normal” activities without the chance to deal with their emotional pain may prompt additional problems or negative reactions.
Parents, don’t forget about you either. Make sure that you eat and take care of your well-being in order to take care of your household. It’s OK to show your kids that you are feeling sad as well. But also be able to handle your emotions. Kids are like sponges and will follow your lead. If you need to cry—you can do that in front of them. But acting out and throwing things can cause a negative image that will not make them feel safe.
Earlier this year, the Army came under fire for their new rules regarding tattoos, grooming, uniforms and particularly hairstyles. The hair regulations banned women from wearing twists, dreadlocks and multiple braids, and cornrows that are bigger than a quarter of an inch.
Black military members spoke out about the rules saying that they were racially insensitive and they also objected to language which described natural hairstyles as “matted” and “unkempt.” Sgt. Jasmine Jacobs of the Georgia National Guard started a petition on the White House’s website writing: “These new changes are racially biased and the lack of regard for ethnic hair is apparent.”
The story caught the attention of several congress men and woman and even news sites and blogs, particularly Black women’s websites, like ours.
After all of the backlash, Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel announced Tuesday, of this week, that the military is revising the ban to include a wider range of hairstyles.
Hagel’s review comes after female members of the Congressional Black Caucus wrote to the defense secretary calling the guidelines discriminatory and targeting “soldiers who are women of color with little regard to what is needed to maintain their natural hair.”
In a later to the Congressional Black Caucus Chairwoman Marcia Fudge, Hagel wrote:
“At my direction, over the last three months, each Military Service reviewed its definitions of authorized and prohibited hairstyles, and eliminated offensive language, including the terms ‘matted and unkempt’ from both the Army and the Air Force grooming regulations. Additionally, each Service reviewed its hairstyle policies to ensure standards are fair and respectful while also meeting our military requirements.”
CBC member Barbara Lee praised Hagel’s announcement saying that while she was a daughter of a veteran and understands the need for uniformity in the military, they need to recognize that “natural hairstyles do not reflect or create a lack of professionalism or respect for the Armed Forces’ high standards.”
She said that she was pleased that words like “unkempt” and “matted” were being removed.
The hair regulations were actually keeping one military officer from being promoted. Navy Hospital Corpsman 2nd Class Jessica Sims, 32 said wearing her hair in locs, pulled in a bun, while on duty. Her superiors told her to cut her hair or wear a wig and when she refused, her commanders processed her for separation for “serious misconduct.”
Here are some of the changes being made to the regulations.
- Determined the terms “matted and unkempt” are offensive and will eliminate them
- Authorized temporary two-strand twists
- Increased size of authorized braids, cornrows and twists; removed spacing requirement
- Authorized a ponytail during physical training
- Determined the terms “matted and unkempt” are offensive and will eliminate them
- Changed the name “dreadlocks” to “locs”
- Authorized two-strand twists, French Twists and Dutch braids
- Determined no offensive language in the current policy governing hairstyles
- Removed some dated terms and descriptions on the Navy’s “Frequently Asked Questions” website, including “‘Twist’ hairstyles are not authorized because they fall within the guidelines of being faddish.”
- Authorized a two-strand twist and multiple braids may hang freely if above the collar and must encompass the whole head
- Determined no derogatory or discriminatory language in current uniform regulations
- Convening a special uniform board this summer to consider the expansion of authorized hairstyles
Military Dresses go in and out of style and back again and seriously who could blame us? They are both chic, classy and tend to work on a variety of figures. Take a quick peek to discover a range of military influences in A-line dresses, sweetheart strapless frocks, FLOTUS inspired sheath dresses and more!
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The decision to serve our country’s armed forces is a selfless act that affects so many, including the families of the one who serve. It’s often very easy to forget the sacrifices many families themselves make when their loved one is away. In honor of Veteran’s Day, here are 10 celebrities from military families.
With Veteran Day upon us, we thought it would be awesome to come up with some savvy and stylish military care package ideas for the female veteran in your life. Enjoy!
President Barack Obama’s biggest challenge in his presidency so far has been trying to get the American people and world leaders on his side when it comes to an attack on Syria. So on Monday, he will take his case to the media.
The President will tape interviews with Gwen Ifill of PBS, Wolf Blitzer of CNN and Chris Wallace of Fox News, this according to The Hollywood Reporter. These three reporters are highly respected (well, many would argue that no one from Fox News can be highly respected since many of their criticisms of the President’s choice are extremely disrespectful in terms of their language), but no word from The White House press about how they were chosen.
The President is pushing for the authorization of a military attack on Syria. There has been a civil war going on in Syria for over two years and things continue to get worse as the Syrian Presidential regime is now accused of using chemical weapons to kill its own people. There has been a complete divide as to how more advanced and powerful countries should intervene, if at all.
President Obama returned to the United States earlier this week after having very tough and fairly unproductive meetings with international leaders. Here in the United States, various poll results have shown that the American people do not agree with going to war with Syria. There is a very strong “We should mind our business and worry about our own problems” sentiment going around.
On Tuesday, one day after his taped interviews air, the President will then further make his case with an address to the nation.
The outcome of how the United States steps in will undoubtedly affect the President’s “legacy” as well as the nation as a whole.
Have you been following the Crisis in Syria? What do you think?
A Facebook page that degraded female troops in the Marine Corps was removed yesterday after California House Representative Jackie Speire complained to the Pentagon. Speire sent a letter to Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel and also addressed Marine Corps Commandant General James Amos.
Speire has recently put pressure on the pentagon to take more action with sexual harassment cases and wrote in her letter, “I am confident that if you reviewed the contents of this webpage that you would be horrified by the culture of misogyny and sexual harassment depicted on the web site.” She also wrote that the Marine Corps inspector general has been aware of the site and monitoring it for over three years.
A statement was released on behalf of the Marine Corps by Captain Eric Flanagan showing that the Marine Corps appears to be taking the Facebook issue seriously stating, “Marines are responsible for all content they publish on social networking sites, blogs, or other websites. There is no tolerance for discriminatory comments. It goes against good order and discipline.”
No one knows who created the page or has been managing it to date, and even as the existence of the page was being threatened, inflammatory comments were being posted about Representative Speire, calling her vulgar names and threatening her for causing the page to be shut down.
This week the military has been getting lots of attention due to a report released by the Pentagon estimating that 26,000 troops had been sexually abused in 2012, up by 35 percent since the last survey was conducted in 2010. The removal of this Facebook page seems to be one step in the right direction, but there is certainly more to do.
Tanzania Alexander is a former Marine recruiter who currently works as an Aviator Supply Specialist. During her time as a recruiter, Tanzania mentored high school students and kids in the foster care system. She is the mom of a 9-year-old, and will graduate in June from Ashford University with a degree in Business Management. This is her story.
Why did you join the Marine Corps?
I joined the Marine Corps because I wanted to travel and see the world. I also wanted to do something different, get an education, and have the opportunity to serve my country.
What did you enjoy most about being a recruiter?
In my time as a recruiter, I enjoyed talking to the youth about military service. Recruiters have to put the word out about what the military has to offer, often dispelling misinformation along the way. I regularly visited high schools, and spoke to parents as well about the Marine Corps.
What leadership skills have you gained?
I have to say that one of the greatest leadership skills I gained is the skill of listening. By this, I mean listening to the needs of people. People join the military for different reasons, be it financial, going to college, or career-based pursuits. Everyone has needs, and a leader has to figure out how to fulfill those needs. Being a successful recruiter involves being attentive to the concerns of each individual, not just listening to respond.
Why is it important to you to mentor men and women in foster care?
I have always wanted to be a mentor. I see the need to expose the youth to a broader existence. There are so many young men and women out there who are not in the greatest environments. I reached out to them, taking them on museum trips, among other things. People have to see that there is more to their world than their immediate surroundings. Youth in a foster care predicament often are unaware of the other choices out there that they can make to have a different path in life.
How do you balance motherhood and Marine life?
I could not do it without the support of my family and friends. The time away from home required other people to step in and help. Marine life is demanding, and it requires a great deal of commitment. I have included my child in Marine life, and have done so for years.
What is the best thing about being a Marine?
The best thing about being a Marine is knowing that I am making a difference. By supporting the larger mission of the American armed forces, I am making a difference for the country. Not everybody can say that.
What advice do you have for Black women who are considering joining the Marines?
Do a lot of research, and ask a lot of questions. Make sure that you would be a good fit for the Marine Corps, and that the Marine Corps will be a good fit for you. Plan for the end, come in with a set goal, and set yourself up for success.
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Sheila Moore is a proud Marine and mother of two girls who has done two tours in Afghanistan, and is currently an Aviation Supply Specialist. Sheila talked with MadameNoire about her experience in the Marines, the strength she drew from her service, and how she balances military life and motherhood.
Why did you join the Marine Corp?
Recruiters reached out to me in high school when I had no military experience and it was hard, but I listened and paid attention. It was a learning experience. I take with me everything I have learned and I can do anything now because I am a Marine.
What leadership skills have you developed as a result of your service?
Through the marines, I have learned how to always seek self-improvement, and the importance of learning something new everyday. I Learned to look out for others, instead of just myself. One must always set the example for others to follow.
How old are your daughters and how do you balance life as a Marine and mother?
My daughters are 10 and 11 now. I’ve received a great deal of help with family care from my unit. The support of my marine family, the family readiness officer, and me managing my time well has allowed me to both be a good mom and a good marine.
How long were you deployed in Afghanistan and how did you handle being away from your family during that time?
The first time I was gone for ten months, the second time my deployment was three months. At the time, my youngest had just turned one and it was hard. The first time was much harder because of the extended amount of time I had to spend away from my family. It was hard not seeing my kids everyday, as well as being in danger. I experienced rocket attacks during my tours but thankfully made it home safely.
How do you instill the importance of education and community service in your daughters?
I instill those qualities through leading by example. My daughters see me reading books for school, do my own homework, and watch the news. I participate in toys for tots, and take the girls with me to basketball camp on weekends so they understand the importance of giving back.
What makes you most proud of being a Marine?
Just to say that I am one. Everyone didn’t go through that twelve weeks of training. Everyone cant say that and no one can take that away from me.I am blessed to have gone. I am much more decisive in how I proceed through life because of my experiences in the service. The friends I have gained throughout the years…I have friends all over the world. I could go to any state, and know a fellow marine. We take care of one another.
Why should more Black women consider joining the service?
Black women are strong in general. If they can get through what we have [as a people], they can get through boot camp. The sisterhood that one builds in the marine corp is a powerful thing. I have learned that I can do anything.