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People suffer from depression for all sorts of reasons. From a horrible break up to just a rough patch in life, depression can hit at any time, and for some it’s a never-ending condition they have to cope with every day. If you are dealing with depression, don’t think that dating is out of the question — or that you should hide it from your partner. Here are 14 tips for dating with depression.
Ever find yourself going HAM in inappropriate places and regretting it later? Try to take the high road with one of these calming techniques.
First things first, take a deep breath.
During his recent appearance on “The Arsenio Hall Show,” rapper Kid CuDi revealed that his true passion is assisting the youth in combatting loneliness and overcoming suicidal thoughts.
“Really, my mission statement since day one, all I wanted to do was help kids not feel alone and stop kids from committing suicide,” the 30-year-old rapper expressed.
It turns out that preventing suicide is a mission close to CuDi’s heart because he has actually battled against suicidal thoughts in his own life.
“I dealt with suicide for the past five years. There wasn’t a week or day that didn’t go by where I was just like, ‘You know? I wanna check out.’ And I know what that feels like.”
He adds that in many cases, those thoughts stem from feelings of loneliness and lack of self-worth.
“I know it comes from loneliness. I know it comes from not having self-worth, not loving yourself. These are things that kids don’t have music that can coach them and give them that guidance. I didn’t have that. I had to listen to Jay Z and take certain things from it and the other sh-t I just didn’t know what he was talking about.”
Thankfully, he has decided to use his negative experiences as inspiration to stand in the gap for other young people who may be going through similar experiences.
“But what about the kids…you never had an artist where you connected with them all across the board, you know? And I think that’s my job. I’m just really just trying to guide people and help people because loneliness is a terrible, terrible thing, man and if you don’t know how to conquer it, it can eat you alive.”
As for how he’s doing currently with these detrimental thoughts, CuDi says he has a better grasp on things now.
“I’m good. I’m alright,” he revealed.
His decision to come forward and discuss such a personal issue is certainly admirable. Hopefully his story can help someone else.
Watch his interview on the next page.
32-year-old Ebony Wilkerson has been charged with attempted murder and child abuse after she drove a minivan containing her three children into the ocean surf off Florida last week, News One reports. Eyewitnesses say that the children, who are ages 3, 9 and 10, were screaming to bystanders that Wilkerson was trying to kill them.
“She told them to close their eyes and go to sleep. She was trying to take them to a better place,” said Volusia County Sheriff, Ben Johnson.
Wilkerson, who is currently pregnant, denied trying to harm her children, but witnesses say that she attempted to keep bystanders from rescuing them by locking the minivan’s doors and windows. One witness even said that the children tried to wrestle the wheel from her. As water began to seep into the minivan, Wilkerson reportedly exited the vehicle, leaving her screaming children inside.
Following the incident, Wilkerson was hospitalized to undergo a mental evaluation and was later taken into police custody. Her children have been placed with the Department of Children and Families. The expectant mother has since been charged with three counts of attempted first-degree murder.
“You’re supposed to protect your children at all costs,” Sheriff Johnson said at a press conference. “You’re not supposed to try to kill your children.”
Prior to the incident, Wilkerson’s sister frantically called the police stating that her sister had spoken about demons. After receiving the call, officers stopped Wilkerson, who was en route in her Black Odyssey with her children in the back seat. While speaking to the officer, she discussed fears that her husband would be coming to Florida to hurt her and her children.
“It was clear during my conversation that Wilkerson was suffering from some form of mental illness, but she was lucid and did not provide any signs that she met Baker Act requirements,” the officer wrote in a police report.
Family members say that Wilkerson was in fact, involved in an abusive relationship and that she fled to Florida to escape her husband. We’re glad the kids are okay. Hopefully Wilkerson will get the help she needs.
‘He May Be A Paranoid Schizophrenic:’ Carmen Bryan Wants Nas To Undergo Court-Mandated Mental Evalutation
“I do not want to see my child’s father go to jail,” she recently explained to Mara The Hip Hop Socialite.She did, however, suggest that the Queens rapper seek mental help.
“However, I do want to see him get the mental help that I believe he desperately needs. So this situation is a curse and a blessing with regard to the fact that there are some deep-rooted mental issues that I believe exist and need to be addressed.”As for why she feels justified in speaking on her ex’s mental state:
“Well first off, let me just say my experiences with Nas, my dealings with Nas, and my research all lead me to believe that he does suffer from bipolarism and he may be a paranoid schizophrenic,” Carmen explained. “That’s my personal opinion based on my experiences and interaction with him.”
“An incident occurred with Nas years ago when we were together. I came in the house, Destiny and I, and he was on the couch wrapped up in a blanket; his mom was on one side of him, his brother on the other side, there were a few more people in the house. My first reaction was, ‘Is everything okay? What happened?’ And that’s when Nas told me ghosts were haunting him again, and entities were whispering to him and touching him and bothering him. This is something that he mentioned when we first got together, but I had never experienced him ever experiencing it until that moment. So, I’ve witnessed this long battle with insanity.”The “It’s No Secret” author adds that Nas’ mental health struggles are quite obvious to those who really know him.
“Anyone that knows Nas, knows him, they know that he’s off. I believe that he is terrified, and he’s afraid of public backlash and humiliation. I also believe that he’s afraid the medication will numb him, or turn him into some kind of zombie so he won’t be able to write and create, which will ultimately ruin his career. These are my personal beliefs based on my past experiences and conversations with Nas. Like I said, I just want to see him get the help I believe he desperately needs, at the end of the day he is Destiny’s father. I’m concerned.”Carmen also discussed their daughter, Destiny, having to stop school because Nas abruptly stopped paying her tuition.
“This thing started, unbeknownst to me, in June of 2013,” Carmen continued. “Nas just stopped paying Destiny’s tuition. I have a court order that says he has to pay 100% of her secondary education, which is college. Nas dropped out of school I believe 7th, 8th grade, so he’s ignorant and uneducated. He’s a junior high school dropout; he doesn’t believe in education. My thing is she wants an education. After all she’s been through, she desires it, and she deserves it. What she doesn’t deserve is to get half way through an accelerated program, and have to stop because her father refuses to pay the tuition. But this time, I want things to be different. I don’t want him to go to jail – I want him to get help.”Lastly, she explained why she believes her recently filed child support lawsuit will push Nas to finally seek help.
“My legal team is going to file a motion and ask the judge for an order to have him mentally evaluated before we proceed because like I said, I don’t want to see him go to jail, but I do want to see him get the help that possibly, based on my experiences with him, he needs.”Do you think her accusations are true?
A lot of times in life, it’s very easy to see where everyone else falls short. It’s easy to see when others are toxic and need to be out of our lives, but what happens when we are the ones that are toxic? What happens when you’re your own worst enemy?
I feel as though in life we can hear everyone else’s cries for help, while ignoring our own. As the year is just starting, and people are focusing on creating a “new me,” don’t forget to include improving your mental wellbeing. Here are a few things that might be indicative of doing better/needing improvement.
Marvin Sapp Talks Suicidal Pastors And Seeking Professional Help: ‘Honestly, That’s Probably The Only Reason I Didn’t Take My Life’
“I can be honest and say I absolutely understand what these men of God have gone through,” the widowed father of three told The Christian Post. “The pressures of pastoring and being in the public eye, losing someone you love and all of that. I find after reading through their stories that all of them are similar to mine in one way, shape, form, or fashion. If it’s the pressure of ministry, if it’s the pressure of losing a loved one, whatever it may be.”
“I look at their situations and I say to myself, ‘What was it that caused me to stand, even when I could have folded just as they did?’ People always say the pressure will cause a pipe to burst.”It turns out that even though he questions how he made it through, he already knows the answer. Surprisingly, it’s his late wife’s advocacy for psychological well-being.
“One of the greatest blessings of being married to MaLinda Sapp is that my wife was a licensed psychologist who was also a college professor in psychology and who was a major advocate for mental health on the board of a mental health hospital here in our city.”Because of MaLinda’s work in the field of psychology, Marvin and his three children naturally went to counseling after her death.
“Being a pastor is pressure because we have to counsel people,” he said. “Honestly,” he added, “that’s probably the only reason why I didn’t take my life, was because from day one, and even now when it’s necessary, I make sure I go and sit and have a conversation with my doctor.”It’s great that he’s speaking out about such an avoided subject. Follow Jazmine on Twitter @JazmineDenise
Though she’s known for her bright smile, big personality and for always playing somebody’s mama, there’s another side to Jenifer Lewis that most people don’t know about: her mental illness. The 57-year-old actress was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 1990 and after 17 years of therapy and 10 years of being medicated for the illness, she’s ready to open up about it, while offering advices to other who may be suffering from the same disorder.
“I was overwhelmed with my grief, unable to handle my feelings,” Jenifer told News One after admitting that a key trigger for the disorder was the death of her father. “I cried and cried, and I started to scream. I wanted to be let out of the darkness.”
Though her father’s passing may have served as a trigger, Jenifer says that it wouldn’t be until three years later that she actually sought professional help. It all began when a girlfriend saw her screaming on the floor.
“I don’t think this has anything to do with your father dying,” Jenifer recalls her friend saying to her.
Not long after, she discovered she was bipolar.
“It’s hard to accept that you have a problem,” Jenifer said. “That’s another piece of the disease – the denial. You think everyone cries themselves to sleep. You should ask yourself why am I so depressed, why am I so angry with my children, angry with my partner…why am I depressed, or over the top?”
She continued to describe some of the effects of the illness.
“You always find yourself at the center of some drama.”
In addition to seeking professional help and resisting the urge to self-medicate like she did in college, Jenifer says self-love is needed to combat the illness.
“You have to look in the mirror … and say—before you can go or grow into anything—you have to say you love yourself.”
In a culture where discussing mental illness is sometimes considered a taboo subject, we think it’s pretty brave of Jenifer to speak openly about her personal battle.