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This isn’t a fact that we’re likely to post on Facebook, but once in a while we’ve all grabbed our man’s deodorant when we were out of ours — or even lathered on a little Axe body wash just ‘cuz.
Not all men’s products are only worthy of use in a pinch. Sometimes items from his side of the medicine cabinet actually work better for us than the products that were supposedly created with women in mind.
These are the items that we’ve tried and liked. Are any of these on your list?
Unisex scents are in now, and trying his can have you loving a whole new scent — even if floral smells are usually your thing.
Unisex colognes mix with men and women’s body chemistry differently. You might be surprised at how much you like the scent (not to mention the added bonus of spending your day smelling like him).
In a perfect world, men would always tell us how they feel. If they wanted to date us they would say, “I like you.” If they weren’t feeling our advances they would say, “I don’t like you.” And the world would turn as usual.
But that’s not what happens. Sure, men tend to do a good job of letting us know they want to be more than friends, but when they don’t — let the games begin! Make that the shenanigans! Here are all the shady things men do when they’re not interested instead of telling us the truth. If you see any signs of the behavior listed below, slowly back away from the man in question and set your eyes on a new beau.
Women are the ones with the reputation for holding grudges. And while it’s true that we remember everything, that doesn’t mean that men don’t hold on to things too, including grudges.
Because men typically aren’t as communicative as women, we tend to think fellas let bygones be bygones, but trust and believe there are things some men never rget, and at some point in your relationship he will let you know he remembers these things.
My little cousin just started his freshman year of college. But before that, he completed a summer program at the university. In doing so, he was assigned college coursework. One week, he had to write an essay and the prompt he was given was about selfie culture and whether men, with the rules of patriarchy and unrealistic masculinity standards, were allowed to participate in that culture.
Basically, is it cool for men to take selfies or would they be unfairly judged as a result. Men would see other men and think he’s soft. Shoot, women would see men taking selfies and think he’s soft. When I was helping my cousin write his essay, I thought how silly. Of course men can take selfies. I remember reading an article about how selfies are more than just our expressions of vanity. They reaffirm our attractiveness and help us to appreciate the skin we’re in.
What’s the problem?
It wasn’t until I was watching an episode of “Conversating While Black,” and I heard a woman discount a potential dating partner, a man for taking too many selfies, that I really asked myself if I had a problem with it. I was all ready to say no until a particular person’s profile popped into my head. I’d known this dude since we were in elementary school and then ran into him in high school. Now, I follow him on Instagram. And literally, every other picture is a selfie. He may caption them with comments about what his plans are for the day but the pictures themselves don’t speak to that point. They’re all selfies.
It’s to the point now where they don’t even garner many likes. Because it’s basically the same picture over and over again. He’s leaned into the camera, hands clasped, muscles bulging. Face straight, no smiling.
When I thought about his profile, I chuckled. Actually no, I don’t like dudes who take a whole lot of selfies. There’s something about it that’s wack. And I don’t mean wack like feminine. I mean wack like narcissistic and perhaps too eager for the approval of others.
When I asked my coworkers, they shared the same sentiment. Our senior editor said, “I haven’t encountered too many men who have too many selfies.”
Our editorial intern had a stronger reaction, “Eww don’t. It’s not cute. You can use your Instagram in other ways to gain attention for yourself. I guess it’s like context. Are you thirst trapping?”
I can understand that point, I’ve literally seen a man take a very clear selfie and try to, in the caption, rationalize it as way to promote his volunteer work. To be fair, there was a small child far, far off in the background.
Our editorial assistant also didn’t think too much of men with too many selfies. “It’s weird. Where are your friends? Who else is in your life?”
I could understand where she was coming from.
And while I initially felt a bit guilty about my preference. I realized that I didn’t disapprove of these male selfies because they were men. I’m really not here for anyone’s profile that is filled with pictures of them staring back at you, trying to give sexy face. I’m not anti selfie I’m anti doing to utmost.
At the end of the day, narcissism and doing entirely too much are not gender specific.
What’s your take on men with too many selfies?
Veronica Wells is the culture editor for MadameNoire.com. She is also the author of the recently released book “Bettah Days.”
Can we press the pause button on political correctness for a moment and talk about these size stereotypes? #EggplantFriday may officially be history on Instagram, but size will never stop being a hot gossip topic.
We’ve all heard the rumors about big feet meaning big everything else, but have you heard of some of the other size-related stereotypes? Can you tell what a guy is working with by the sound of his voice? What about the size of his hands? Or how about the size of his stomach?
We’ve gathered all of the size tea we’ve heard and now we’re turning to you. Have you found any of these to be true?
The fight for equal pay for women in the workforce is one that’s been ongoing for decades, but in recent times, there’s been more and more significant strides in making the goal a reality.
It’s already common knowledge that the pay gap is bad for white women, but Black, Hispanic, and Asian women continue to earn even less for the same work, with Black women earning as little as 62 percent on the dollar in some places across the country, as The National Partnership for Women & Families confirms.
Nevertheless, Republican Gov. Charlie Baker has passed a new law banning employers from requesting salary history of potential hires in Massachusetts, CBS Boston reports. Using previous salary information during the course of the selection process has proven time and time again to be unfair to women, allowing them to be paid less than men by default. But with this new law, the cycle of lower salaries for women can no longer continue. But we’re most excited that the law will also require women to receive pay equal to that of men in the same positions as them and vice versa.
In Massachusetts today, women are paid on average about 82 percent of what their male counterparts make for comparable work. While the new law won’t take effect until July 1, 2018, we can only hope that other states will make this issue a priority on their list.
Have you ever met a guy you were interested in building a relationship with and everything was going good until he did that one thing or said that one comment that just turned you all the way off? It makes you wish you had some more insight into the way men’s minds operate. Like, what was he thinking when he sent you that unwarranted d–k picture? Why did he think it was okay to not text you back for days? Fellas, there are just some things that you do and say that we, the womenfolk, would really appreciate if you didn’t.
When you’re really in love, sometimes you appreciate and adore some of the strangest things about your partner. From there unkempt head to their hammertoe. You don’t necessarily think it’s the best thing since sliced bread, but you can accept and appreciate the most interesting of things. One study actually said that when our feelings get really deep, women even love the way their partner smells after the gym.When you’re head over heels in love, almost everything about your partner is amazing. No matter what it is, you can’t get enough of it. The fact that he loves these things about you, even when you’re not at your best, is a sign that he’s just as sprung on you. Don’t even think about fretting over the following.
Maybe it’s just me, but catcalling has gotten pretty aggressive over the years. So much so that we as women are often ready to be on the defensive, even at the kindest of gestures aimed at us from a man we don’t know. In the back of our minds, there’s always an ulterior motive, even when there really isn’t. Experience has taught us to be on guard. We’ve been conditioned to believe that saying no or ignoring their commentary could possibly leave us berated or in a dangerous situation. So naturally, when approached by a man while minding our business walking down the street, a Black man to be more specific, our initial reaction is to quickly build an invisible wall and hope that by the end of our interaction, he isn’t calling us out of our names should we decide we’re not interested.
Sometimes these interactions lead us to feel scared and sometimes they’re just bothersome. Unfortunately, I think it’s true that some men have ruined it for the good ones when it comes to nice gestures and compliments offered on the street. We don’t know how to say “Thank you” because we think it will prompt him to ask us for our number and, in turn, follow us down the street. Besides, a majority of the time, we just want to be left alone. But does that mean we should lump every guy on the street together and stop being cordial to the ones who are just being nice?
Over drinks one night, a friend of mine talked about how he likes to greet the people in his department at his job every morning with a friendly “Good Morning.” His greeting is often well received, except from a Black woman in his department. He said that whenever he would speak to her, she would either ignore him as if he didn’t exist, or she would let out a deep sigh and roll her eyes at him. He just chalked it up to her not being a morning person, but he continued to say good morning to her and everyone else. He decided to ask her one day why she often responded to him negatively and her reply was, “See, this is why I don’t like Black men and you are a typical Black man.” Naturally, he was offended by her remark as well as her attitude and couldn’t figure out what he had ever done to her for her to be so nasty to him. He expressed his confusion to me and wanted to know what it meant to be a “typical Black man” and why his attempts to be polite threw him into that category.
I expressed to him that maybe the woman had some deep-rooted resentment towards a few Black men she had encountered and that’s made her hostile towards all Black men. We got into a conversation on the idea of the “typical Black man” and concluded that it’s just another way to say f—kboy before that term was coined, which he is not. But on a deeper level, I was left wondering where we as women draw the line between being on the defense and being able to accept kind gestures from men? I’m sure we’ve all had less than positive interactions with guys who used compliments aimed at our attire or our beauty to then take things to an uncomfortable level. Who hasn’t been ogled or told to smile so we can look more desirable to a complete stranger? It’s tough out here. However, have we started to allow those interactions to impact the way we interact with men in general?
If you have a good partner on your hands, he knows exactly what it takes to make you feel special: flowers, jewelry, and a copy of that book you said you’ve been wanting to read.
But when is the last time you did something special for the good man in your life? If the answer is “I can’t remember…” you’re not alone. Men can seem so easy to please that it’s easy to overlook ways to do something extra special every now and then.
However, when he’s gone the extra mile, it’s always nice to go the distance, too. With that being said, we’ve put together a list of little things that are sure to put a smile on the face of a man who really deserves it.
What do you do for your man when you want him to feel special? Share your strategies with us in the comment section.