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We’re not saying that men are grilling you on dates— because they’re not looking for “right” answers per say — but they certainly want honest ones. Sometimes, though, your honest answer just isn’t, well, “right.” Here are 7 questions your first date will ask and what they’re looking for in your answer.
Though women may not really be from Venus and men from Mars, there are some definite differences between the genders and misunderstandings that regularly occur. While the psychological gap may not be a huge one, it’s hard to admit that there isn’t one at all. From certain topics to multitasking, there are some things that men just don’t get about us ladies. Here are 14 things that men don’t understand about women and probably never will.
Women need to socialize to survive — it’s a part of our chemical wiring — and of course socializing often means sharing. But some things are not yours to share. If you’re in a relationship, and catching up with good friends, keep these points about your partner to yourself.
Maybe you’ve been married, or in a long-term relationship, or too busy doing volunteer work in a third world country to date for a few years. If you haven’t dated in a while, and jump back into it, there are a few things you should know (partially so you’re not offended by your first date!)
Dating is like going to a candy store. Each time you try a different piece to see which one you like the best. Some look enticing on the outside until you unwrap and taste it only to discover it wasn’t what you thought. Others may not look so great displayed on the shelf, but once you try it you realize that it is your favorite and you keep going back for more! “Playing the field” in dating Candyland is actually a healthy way to discover not only who is right for you, but also a great way to get to know yourself in the process. When I coach clients I always explain my theory of dating as having several phases. The first phase is the courting phase where it should be light and fun while getting to know various people. Before settling down into that serious relationship right away, here are some tips so that you can be a successful multi-guy dater and find the right man for you.
Be Honest–If you are just dating, you are NOT in relationship so don’t feel bad about meeting different people. In fact, he is most likely dating around too This is the normal part of this courting phase. Many of my women clients state they feel guilty for dating more than one man at a time. As long as you are honest about where you are at, and true to yourself, then the man will respect that. In fact, not being hyper focused on one man creates a sexy, fun challenge which at times will make the man want you more.
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You know he saw that text message. Why isn’t he hitting you back? And who is he with?! Waiting on the phone to ring can make any woman go just a little bit crazy.
Let Me Check My Signal
You know that phone is working.
Studies have found that Americans LOVE accents. Although the British accent comes in first for most accent-adoring folks, when it comes to accents here in the United States, it’s the southern drawl that’s winning fans left and right, according to a brand new study from Cupid.com.
If it’s the southern accent that’s most desirable, do southern men live up to their charm in other ways, too? Why, yes, they do. They don’t call them “southern gentlemen” for nothing.
Between crowdsourcing, research, and some insight from North Carolina-born New York City writer, Lilit Marcus, we’ve got it all figured out for you.
So, why do southern guys make the best boyfriends?
1. They Have Great Manners
This isn’t to say that Yankee boys don’t, but southerners, as a whole, are known for having some swoon-worthy manners, from using polite words to holding doors open. Just think of Rhett in Gone with the Wind.
2. Their Choice Of Words Is Pretty Damn Cute
As Marcus points out, “‘Beau’ is much sexier than ‘boyfriend,’” and who doesn’t want to be called “darlin’?” And in their sing-song tone? Yes, please.
3. They Don’t Play Games
“Like, you kiss a dude and he’s your boyfriend, no need to have a lot of ‘so, where is this going?’ conversations,” says Marcus.
4. They’re Great Cooks
This one seems to be especially true for those who have a deep appreciate of fried food. Whodoesn’t love fried green tomatoes?
5. They Tend To Be Close To Their Family
Any guy who has a great relationship with his family, especially his mom, is definitely a catch.
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Why do people cheat? Is it about sex? Being unhappy in a relationship? Truth is, there are tons of reasons why people are unfaithful to their significant others — and a new survey fromVictoriaMilan.com found that 45 percent cheaters have an affair because their partners were glued to their phones. What?!
Regardless, it’s the biggest relationship no-no in the book, but it happens more frequently than any of us would ever like. And whether you’re the cheating or the cheating on, the end result is just as heart wrenching. There’s a frustrating double-standard when it comes to infidelity and monogamy: We typically believe that men, when they’re cheating on a woman, are doing so because their woman isn’t there for them in the ways they need, giving them almost a free pass in the matter; while when a woman strays, it’s because she’s ungrateful and a Slore.
So we polled the guys in our lives to see how they feel about cheating, which sex does it more often and if it’s ever forgivable.
Forgive And Forget
“I cheated on my first girlfriend in college. It was a Shytety thing to do,” says Scott, 27, “but when I was that young I didn’t really care about anyone else’s feelings but my own. I’m not saying what I did was okay … when you’re that young you just Fawk up a lot and learn as you go. It sucked to see how badly I was hurting her, and since we were in the same friends circle the wound never really healed for either of us. She said that she’d forgiven me, but since we were always together, it was impossible to forget.”
“I’ve been cheated on twice,” Cody, 28, says. “I’m like the posterboy for cheaters! It’s a terrible feeling but at the same time, it’s really liberating: You see clearly that, ‘Okay, I do not want to be with this person who is so selfish they can’t even break up with me before they disrespect me.’ So you move on. I try to be the bigger person, most times, and forgive them. Then I cancel them from every social site I know of and swear to never see them again. I think it’s harder for guys because we’re supposed to be these big, strong men who don’t break down and don’t get upset, but, uh, when to two different girls you love do that to you, guess what? You cry. I’m not still crying over it though,” he adds with a laugh, “but the best thing for you is to make your peace with it and then move on.”
Who Does It More?
“Gonna break a lot of hearts with this one,” says Steve, 25, “but girls cheat more than guys. I have a ton of girl friends and they are always talking about seeing other dudes on the side. It’s kinda surprising for me because you’d think that guys do it more — and maybe they do and they’re just better about hiding it — but from the people I spend time with, you’d be shocked to hear how many girls are okay with cheating on their guy.”
“Girls,” says Dylan, a 21-year-old college student says, “are the worst in relationships. You’d never think that, right? Well, it’s true. I think they’ve changed the game up on guys because I’ve never had so many friends be played by their girlfriends. I think that girls are cheating more because they’re tired of being the soft ones in the relationship.”
“I’d say guys are still cheating more than girls, though I know of a lot more girls who’ve ran out on their men in recent years,” says Joey, 31. “Men are still playing their women.”
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When you’re part of the dating scene, it’s not uncommon for you to come across a guy or two who, at first, you thought were good matches, but in the end you found that these men weren’t good for you at all. This is plenty normal, but things can become frustrating when you find you’re doing nothing but attracting the wrong guys over and over again. Thankfully you can turn this around! Here are 14 tips that will help you to stop attracting the wrong men.
Discovering how to get a guy to like you can be a complex, frustrating and sometimes very counter-intuitive process. While I am known as the “sex guru”, today I want to share 3 very powerful methods, tactics, and techniques to get a guy like you and want to be with you.
1. Guys Are Cats
The first thing to say on the subject of learning how to get a guy want you is that you need to realise that men are just like cats. Sounds a little weird, but hear me out! Ever see a cat chase after a toy that is just sitting there? I certainly haven’t. However, when it’s dangled in front of them, but still remains slightly out of reach they literally go crazy for it.
They jump around, chase, sprint and pretty much will do whatever it needs to do to catch this “just out of reach” toy.
Bizarrely, guys are exactly the same. If you are easy to win over, not a challenge and just wait there for a guy to “catch” you, then you can be pretty sure that he’s not going to be that interested in you. But if you are fun, exciting, playful, flirty, just out of reach, then he is going to be a lot more likely to desire and chase after you.
By the way, if you want to learn how to talk dirty to attract and keep your man, then you may be interested in watching this presention.
2. Let’s Be Honest For A Second…
The second thing that I have to say on the topic of learning how to get a guy to like you is maybe not something you want to hear…but it’s vital. There are certain attraction triggers that will make guys like you and see you in a totally different light (read: attractive light)
Here are the 3 most important:
Are You Healthy? Going to the gym in of itself doesn’t make you healthy. Eating right isn’t the only important factor to being healthy. Being thin is a goal of many women, but again this may not necessarily make you healthier. But combining these 3 things, going to the gym, maintaining a healthy weight and eating right is going to massively contribute to being much healthier.
You see, guys aren’t really looking for a skinny woman or gym bunny or a nutritious eater. They are naturally attracted to someone who is healthy. Being lean is the result of being healthy. So ask yourself, “Am I doing everything possible to be healthy?”
Do You Dress To Impress? The next thing I want to talk about is how you dress. I am absolutely not talking about being fashionable. Being fashionable is certainly fun, but it you are keen to make a guy want you and chase you, then you should think more about dressing attractively to accentuate your good points.
I can honestly tell you this as guy: men just don’t care about fashion nearly as much as women do. As a result, we often don’t even notice the latest trends or what’s hot. So to reiterate, rather that dressing fashionably, dress attractively. The difference is often subtle, but it’s crucial to making a guy want to be with you.
Debbie Downer Or Susie Smiles? I know “Susie Smiles” sounds a little cheesy, but I hope you get my point. Are you a fun person to be around, a depressing person to be around, or a boring person to be around? The majority of guys don’t want to hang around a girl that’s boring or depressing, no matter how attractive she is. They’d prefer to run a mile to be perfectly honest.
So when I say that you should be a fun person and a positive person to be around, I don’t mean that you should be some sort of psycho-happy-all-the-time person. I’m saying that you should do your best to see the good in the world and be at least a little bit more positive.
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