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If you’re looking for a relationship or at least a handful of good dates, it’s best to be able to spot a guy who just wants to hook up for the night so you know to stay away and not waste your time. Here are the signs to look out for.
There’s nothing wrong with a career-oriented man: he’s less likely to financially depend on you and he has a passion for something, which is always attractive. But, some men never fully appreciate how a romantic relationship not only doesn’t detract from their career but can enhance it. Those men leave their partners feeling under-prioritized. Here are 7 signs your guy puts his career before you too much.
Do you ever look back at your college years and your twenties and feel like you dodged a bullet? Let’s be honest: an entire machine gun full of bullets! Here are a few things you’re probably so happy you didn’t do in love when you were young.
Conventional wisdom teaches us that the way you get him is the way you’ll lose him. Here’s a new concept: the way you get him is almost never the way you keep him. The truth is that I’ve seen people who cheated on their girlfriend with their now wife. A few weeks ago I was on a panel and one of the fellow panelists said that all is fair in love and war. His point: if you cheat just be sure that the person you cheat with is the one that you really want to be with. I’ve also seen men who wooed their current girlfriend or wife away from her now ex-boyfriend. What I’ve never seen is a relationship last very long if it doesn’t evolve.
I’ve seen men attract women, court women and then get in relationships with them. They keep doing the same things they were doing during the courting phase and the relationship wanes. The reason being that you have to evolve the relationship to make it last. The things you do when you want to get something are not the same things that you do to keep them.
Relationships require much more work than dating. When you date, you’re trying to figure out if you like the other person. When you’re in a relationship, you’re trying to figure out if this will go long term. I know that in my past relationships I never expected to have to open up and let a person in when wooing them. I thought I could be the nice, funny guy without having to communicate my real feelings. I could avoid talking about the future. I didn’t have to deal with someone else’s issues. I could accept being impartial. But if I kept doing that when we got into our relationship that would be exactly how my relationship failed.
The reason people believe they will lose a man or woman if they get them under bad circumstance is usually because the behavior doesn’t change and people think they get the love of their life but they really get a cheater or liar. And if a person is inherently deceitful then they’ll never be able to change. One way that you can predict if the person you’re dating is moving to a better situation or is living in deceit is by looking at the patterns. If they’ve never been single long enough that their relationships didn’t overlap, that’s a good sign that the person is just a liar. I would advise that you cut bait if you think that the person has the ability to change. Patterns don’t change overnight, in fact, if that pattern has turned into a habit/trait it will never change unless something drastic happens.
However, outside the cheating circumstance (and let me be clear, I have seen people cheat and then their next relationship ended up working out) most of the ways that you meet a guy can lead to a healthy relationship if you’re willing to let the past be the past. But never forget that the way you get them is not the way you keep them. You’ll have to try harder than you ever did. That’s the way relationships work. Many people think that things get easier and most times it almost never is easier, it’s much harder. While you may be worried about preventing the way you got them from happening again, you may just need to realize that it doesn’t matter anyway. If you don’t change your behavior when you’re in a relationship, if you are not willing to step up, if you are content on rocking out with only what brought you together, prepare yourself for a breakup in the near future.
Does your guy use the L-word sparingly, leaving you wondering if he really loves you? Not so fast: guys show love in subtle ways sometimes. Here are a few of them.
Having a guy over for the first time? If you really want to give him an accurate impression of who you are, leave your home exactly as it is OR…keep in mind what he thinks when he sees these things. It could be nice to at least start with a good impression.
If you’ve ever spent hours getting ready for a date, walked out the door feeling hot, and gotten a half-sincere, “You look…nice…” from your guy, you might have been wearing one of these items of clothing men will never understand.
You might be the patient type who likes to let a guy’s idiosyncrasies and quirks reveal themselves over time: or you might be the curious type who wants as much information on a guy ASAP! If you’re the latter, here are 14 interesting ways to analyze a man.
You don’t think you’re intimidating, and yet, guys don’t seem to approach you do they?. It might not be that they find you unattractive: you could be putting out the vibe that you want to be left alone. Here are a few reasons men don’t approach you.
These are the men with press n’ curls who had no business having them to begin with and who, thankfully, have retired their free flowing tresses in favor of ceaser’s and other non-pimp-like haircuts more befitting of men of a certain age.
KCi tried to pull off this look at a time when PR people actually had some control over their artists so I don’t know who gave the green light to this Mary Tyler Moore flip mess, but thankfully it was short-lived.