So you’ve been dating your man for a few weeks and he’s finally deemed you worthy to meet his friends. He’s probably been ditching them on Guy’s Night Out so that he can stay home and cuddle with you, so they want to meet this magical woman who has their boy whipped. And since things must be going well between you to the point where he wants you to meet his friends, he may want their opinion of you to see if it goes any further. While I’m sure you’ve decided that you’ll be your charming self, he may misconstrue you being “overly friendly” as flirting, so you have to be careful when making first impressions. If you’re a little nervous or unsure of the fine line that you should not cross when meeting his friends for the first time, here are a few things to keep in mind when hanging with his people.

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Are you wondering if a guy is serious about you? There are some things guys make a conscious effort to not do for women they’re not serious about. So, if you catch your guy doing these, you can be sure he knew exactly what he was doing. And he is hoping to be in it for the long haul.

Ever look at another woman in a relationship and think “how does she do it? She seems so cool, so collected, so in control of her feelings?” Like everyone, that woman has her off days. All women have insecurities about their relationships. At some point, all women think they are doing something wrong. If you sat down and talked to them about it, you’d probably find that all of your friends think they are doing the same things wrong, and wish they could do better at things like this:

I have a situation that I can’t seem to figure out.

I dated this guy for two years, three years ago – we connected on all levels. We didn’t have a bad break up, just got too busy and lost all contact (me with school and him with working).

Well we recently got back in touch with one another and started hanging out again, going on four months now. We have a very good vibe but it’s not a relationship vibe, it’s definitely a “hanging with my homie” vibe. I spoke upon this about five weeks ago to him and he said it’s my fault because that is the vibe that I’m giving to him while he is definitely trying to get back with me.

I figured it was just me and then I started doing more romantic type stuff with and to him such as candlelit dinners, bubble baths, sensual massages, and erotic picnics. But, even with all of that, I still get the same vibe of I’m hanging out with my homie. Our kisses don’t spark (are always on the forehead), our hugs don’t show love (quick and cute) and to be honest, since being back around him, I’ve only seen him aroused twice (he’s spent the night with me several times). I throw him hints and he just acts like it’s nothing and gives me no reaction. I even asked him was he just not attracted to me and his answer was, “No, Baby – I’m crazy for you.” I mean, some of his actions do show me that he is into me like when he writes me love letters, goes shopping with me, attends family outings, and cleans my house but his other actions show me  otherwise.

Anyways, about two weeks ago, we slept together for the first time (since reuniting) and when I tell you that I was in complete shock. Baby, stepped way out the box on that night and it felt amazing. His conversation was on point, he did all the things he had never done before, and he was very spontaneous. I had to tell him nothing, it was like as if he knew everything about me that night. I felt like we were getting back to our old vibe where we had connected on all levels.

But as soon as morning came that vibe went out the window and the homie vibe came back into play. And I haven’t talked to him since because I don’t know what else to do to help get us on a better vibe. I should not be feeling like I’m dating one of my homies when I’m dating my man. . .  Please help me figure out what’s going on.

Signed,

Sparkless

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